Tuesday, September 13

The Indian Man

Alright it's time I wrote something about the typical Indian man. If by reading this anyone feels that I am prejudiced, well you are wrong. Because I don't mean to generalise all Indian men here. I'm only talking about the typical Indian man so hold your horses ok :) Besides having lived in Sri Lanka, now living in Australia and knowing many men of Indian and other backgrounds, I have quite a good comparison weapon called experience - so whether you like it or not, be prepared for some of your egoes to be stroked and that is ONLY if this applies to you. You're most welcome to criticise my point of view as well.

~~Keshi puts her helmet on...

**I believe most Indian men are selfish. They want everything in life - personal, careerwise etc, but they consider girls shouldn't have dreams...because they believe that girls are meant to be wives and mothers some day, that's about all. Talk about human in-equality!
**Many Indian men don't like smart women. Such women make these men feel inferior...kind of insecure feeling that will make them dislike those women. They don't like a woman who stands up for herself 'cause they don't believe that a woman can do that. Excuse me, God gave women brains too, just accept it and move on.
**I just know that some Indian men want their women to be servants all their life. Just take a look at the Indian families you know...majority of the women are housewives, washing dishes and clothes, taking care of kids, trudging behind their husbands eternally holding the lamp of dedication. How about 'sharing' the marriage and some responsibilites, and some personal space and freedom?
**I have seen most Indian men talking with their a##. In other words, it's total bull-sh#t and hypocrisy in total disguise. There are some Indian men who say 'She's immoral wearing clothes like that'. But really how many of those men fantasise such women behind those 'Im so holy' looks? How about shedding the fake?
**I've known too many Indian men who are momma's boys, making themselves look like puppets running behind mummy's saree. Many Indian men marry through proposed marriages even if that means dumping his life-long girlfriend. Doesnt bother him 'cause culture and family comes first and you know he's totally culture-drunk. What about common sense and a bit of manliness?
**Most Indian men are afraid of being told what to do 'cause they are downright stubborn. They don't want to be open to others' views...they are arrogant and they think they just landed from the planet of Mr.Know-It-All. How about some openness?
**I have known Indian men who are still frozen in different stages of evolution. They beat their wives and think it's the most manly thing to do. How about teaching yourself to be human before even thinking of being a man?
**I have witnessed most Indian men treat women like sex toys. Pinching Ladies' bottoms in buses and staring at the chest forever is their favorite past time. How about some respect for women?
**When it comes to marriage, many Indian men want a profesionally qualified and very fair virgin ofcourse. She has to be able to cook, dance, sing, perform, clean, breed and die if he asks her to. But most of these men may well be fat, dark, short, bald, have slept around and don't know the ABC's of cooking/cleaning, dancing or making love for that matter! How about some reality check?
**I know that most Indian men lack manners. They don't open doors for ladies, never say thank you (especially if it's a woman who did the favor) or sorry (the hardest word for them to say) and don't know the words 'excuse me' or 'beg your pardon' 'cause it makes them feel as if they are begging! How about some common courtesy?
**And last but not the least, most Indian men are penny-pinchers. Even if he takes a girl out on a date, he will pay only for his expenses. He would cancel the dessert if that saves him $5 and will fight for the 50c sauce to be free of charge. And if there are freebies he will take many of them home, not just one. Being economical is one thing but being cheap is ugly.

Having said all that I know there are some great Indian men too and please know that this is NOT for them. It's mainly for the men who don't seem to go anywhere in life other than within their own little backyard. So yeah those men please listen, get a grip, you are in the 21st Century or is that you haven't mentally entered it yet...btw the World Wide Web is here too but you are caught up in your own Web of Self and still live in fossils of too much culture that has blinded you so strongly. Loosen up, enjoy the ride and most of all be a MAN. Because if not, who really lives underneath your attractive shirt and pants is the guy below :)




158 Cranium Signets:

Ar Ar Ar Arrrrr said...

1st again...hopefully

tulipspeaks said...

awww..me second? after sooooo long...let me read the post

Unknown said...

wah lau weh! that was downright.....i don't know. but if thats the way u feel.
U are indian? u will know more than I.
cheers and nice to read u again..
david

wwww said...

Hehehehe.. I agree with ya but it is actually differ from countries.

Many Indians in Malaysia have changed. My secretary is an Indian lady age 26. Shes married and just got a kid.

She has a degree and her hubby doesnt seems to have problem with her choice to work.

But I also encountered some Indian men who like their wives to stay home. Mostly are the low level workers (non-educated).

Keshi said...

:)z000nie I can see u fuming lol!


Amuuuu muaaaah!


Thanks 2cents and WC to my blog!


Jay I agree...many Indians have changed but at the same time they havent...even in Aus they r all Western in their outlook but deep down they r stuck in stone age...it's so funny! Most Indian men who work here go back to India to get a wife...that's ok but they know so many Indian girls who live here but they dont consider girls who live here traditional and wife-material???

Keshi.

tulipspeaks said...

i had been in a r/ship which taught me what you had just posted here...

the guy i was dating, he felt that i should be staying home after marrying him, being 'good' mother and wife..i argued.."what am i going to do with my degree in the hand? i studied hard for it..as much as you did for yours" his mere reply "its good that you are educated..you can teach our children better that way!!" the r/ship ended then and there, nothing to be proud of it..

**When it comes to marriage, many Indian men want a profesionally qualified and very fair virgin ofcourse.
talking about having the best of both world..there is a saying in tamil, which sounds more or less like this "a good wife should be a friend, a mother, a minister, a servant & a prostitute for her husband"...heard that before k000kie?? They want a virgin bride who behaves like a prostitute..funny world!

but good thing that you acknowledge the fact that not all men are like this..there are great men out there as well..

=am000nie=

Anonymous said...

Magnificent post keshi, is there any award for the best blogs like we have oscars and golden globes for movies???? I completely agree with the facts u mentioned about indian men, but pardon me from that, coz i have grown up with the phrase, always respect the fairer sex(women)...and for me women is the human manifestation of God!!!!
**I have witnessed most Indian men treat women like sex toys** in my dept we deal with such men in a very scientific way so that next time they see a women infront of them they would simply vanish like the horns of a donkey....

Keshi said...

Amu..

** had been in a r/ship which taught me what you had just posted here

LOL so cuttte...


**you can teach our children better that way

omg I wud have said that teh kids will be half brain-dead anyways becos of the father...lol! good that u dumped his sorry attitude along with him :)


**a good wife should be a friend, a mother, a minister, a servant & a prostitute for her husband

havent heard that exact quote but I have heard a smiliar one...that's so yukk isnt it...some Indian me r so frustrated with their sorry selves that they try to fulfil their unmet demands through their poor women...goshhh funny world indeed!


**but good thing that you acknowledge the fact that not all men are like this

ofcourse there are! I know a heap of balanced Indian men...balanced in thinking and attitude and respect for culture. But u wouldnt believe it that there are heaps of Aus curry men who havent changed a bit in their sorry attitude even tho they live here...the only thing that changed abt them is the way they dress, the electronic devise they use and their hair color duhhh!

Keshi.

Keshi said...

lol South Im glad u liked it...and you for sure is a great Indian man...u fall in that small percentage of Indian men who know what they are talking about and who have a good balance in life. I can say that just by knowing you for the past few months or so.

You wouldnt believe it that Indian men who live in Aus are way too pathetic...some r ok but most live in a make-believe world...they r so fascinated by the Western way of living but so damn stuck in their stone age culture still...they go night-clubbing and dating white women and when it's time to get married, they go to India to get a fresh virgin lol!

Keshi.

PuNeEt said...

Hoping to be in top 10
Hey babez... a post a day...
that's fast...
:-)>
will read n comment in some time
cheers
good day

wwww said...

I am sure Saby will “jump” to his very top reading your post. Let’s wait what he has to say about this.

I know lot of Indian men in Malaysia and no doubt what you wrote is correct. If any of them say that you are wrong (in which I believe they would say), it is merely of their self’s denial.

Being raised in the multi ethnics’ country, I have seen a lot of injustice to women/wives especially in Indian community. And what I find it funny is the “fixed” marriage which is still be practiced by Indians worldwide.

Why forcing people to get married? Where is the fun of it?

Being a non-Indian, I like to apologize to all Indians if you find it offensive. But I just want to know, whats with the fixed or arranged marriages? Do you guys like it? Why can’t you just say NO?

Keshi said...

Heyy Puneet Im trying not to 'conveniently' avoid ur comments anymore lol!

Hows ya?

btw a post a day keeps the doctor away...but if the doc is cute I will throw the post away :)

Keshi.

messys musings said...

hey k00kie so true in many ways... a very huge generalisation here... but true to the hilt...

n its not just indian men of middle n lower class... its even the high class people who do this... duh!!!

for example... salman khan... everyone knows he beat up ash... aww n how!!!!... is this someone we should look upto??? naah i dont think so...

then theres saif... awww ok hes cute n watever.... u think his affair broke his house???... i dont think so... this was gonna happen long time bak... but the moment saif got a hit of his own.. i mean 'hum tum'... he dumped amrita... awful... all his other hits were with super stars b it aamir in 'dil chahata hain' or srk in 'main hoon na'... i m sure he was just waiting for s hit of his own... he would have dumped amrita long long bak if he had achieved this earlier...

aww there r many more examples but i think these two will convey wat i want to say... guys grow up...

Keshi said...

Jay yes I'm waiting to see what Saby has to say too :):)


* If any of them say that you are wrong (in which I believe they would say), it is merely of their self’s denial.

well yes cos ppl r afrid to say it out loud...and if some person said it then ur branded culture-enemy. Well Im not againsy any culture, it's just that there r some really hilarious and beliefs and practices within ALL cultures that we must loosen...and yeah most ppl will be self-denial after reading this - that is if they r doing something wrong w.o. even realising it!


**And what I find it funny is the “fixed” marriage

yes Jay arranged marriages still happen...it's ok for some ppl cos they dun seem to find their own partner...but forcing to marry through arranged marriages and believing too much in it is totally weird..sorry, those who love arranged marriages :) cos u could be marrying some total maniac or someone who don't even know how to keep his space clean...


Keshi.

Anonymous said...

Ahem...thanks for the compliment keshi... u r damn right and not not only in australia, they do it wherever they are....

Keshi said...

m000nie heyy muahhhhhh!

I'm so glad u agree with my views...I thought most of u would hate me for this :( but I still had to voice my opinion...thanks babez for standing by me :)


yes the Salman Khan hitting Aish incident was a fantastic example of Indian men's attitude not changing even after achieving so much status in society. Inside Salman's pants lives this old man who's in that pic, who lived in the ancient wife-beating times with ancient rusty attitudes...


Saif is also an opportunistic man...he betrayed his wife for his fame...what about her dreams? And if she did that to him, she would be called an uncultured bad wife! Duh! Yes grow up Indian men!

Thanks m000nie hugggz!
Keshi.

Sonia said...

this is SO TRUE!!! it really is! But a lot of it is applicable to other men too. like the beating tendency, and the wanting women dumb cos they feel threatened. way too many to mention.

saurav said...

Well Keshi...almost all of them are true....

'Most indian men are selfish'...I dont think so...
But you are telling about 'some' indian men...u will find this 'some' men anywhere in the world....

Keshi said...

Hey Sonzzz :)

** like the beating tendency, and the wanting women dumb cos they feel threatened.

I agree..it's in other cultures too. But dun u think the Indian men r MORE prone to do this than the rest...cos most of other countries have help for women and Indian countries dun even have that...so those men have the liberty and r fearless and shameless to do this often.




Avik :) heyyy long time...

**'Most indian men are selfish'...I dont think so...

Avik I mean most not some...:) cos they are selfish - why they r so is because of the attitude they have been fed since childhood..that men r the higher sex and that they whould be the bread-winner of the family etc...that's why they r selfish than many Western men...


**But you are telling about 'some' indian men...u will find this 'some' men anywhere in the world


Agreed...but I DO mean most of Indian men compared to the whites...


:):) bring it on...hehehe...
Keshi.

saurav said...

arz000n, saby, Puneet where are you ?

Keshi said...

lol Avik they have dumped me after this post...

Keshi.

Ar Ar Ar Arrrrr said...

Indian men are selfish.
Partially its true...
They want to be selfish coz they want to show there dominance over the opp sex. But this is slwoly changing in this era, though that selfish factor still remains, but it may not speak loud the way it used to till few decades back. May till my last generation.

Many Indian men don't like smart women.
Oh yeah...
in every marriage, typical indian men will never take her wife to be extra smart than him...maybe this might be an inferiority complex when he hangs out with his office guys or with his close buddies na :)

God gave women brains too, just accept it and move on.
Hmmmm....
Some news to me :)
Alright alright..keep that K-shoee down.
Me was just kdding....

women to be servants all their life.
Ohhh...come on
This was decades back...
not in this century...
if u meet any Indian guy who is treating his wife like this..lemme know, I have to start using my AK-47 anyway...its getting rusted for quite sometime now :)

I have seen most Indian men talking with their a##.
Which soap you talking about...
I never heard such a thing

I've known too many Indian men who are momma's boys,
Thanks to our joint family system. Yes...there are guys who run behind mom's pallu's when they are required to take the stand of their own.

How about some openness?
Thanks to our Indian culture.

They beat their wives and think it's the most manly thing to do.
Indian men treat women like sex toys

Only Indian men??
Ahhhmm.....
Comeon you are harsh here.
Give those poor Indian fellas a breather.

Indian men lack manners.
Dont agree here.
total bull crap..
Are you talking from online point of view. or this is some offline survey you did here lady??

girl out on a date, he will pay only for his expenses.
I blew 5000 bucks during my first meet. I just wonder now why the hell did I spent this much??

To be frank...didnt enjoyed reading the post much coz it was a good spanking on the butt for typical Indian men out there. If whtever said in this post is true, then I think I need to start cleaning up ma pistol for some action

Wanna join K000kie piez to kill Indian buggers??

Take care
and have an awesome Aussie-day ahead :)
Hugz

Keshi said...

btw Avik I think by having a blog and blogmates is like the real world...no doubt, cos at some stage the reality of each and everyone will be shown through some post...thats why it's good to be the same and the real you at all times...it's not wrong to be you...what's wrong is being someone else just to be loved.

I always say that I would rather be hated for what I am than be loved for what Im not... :)

U prolly think why am I saying this lol...it's cos Saby doesnt think Im his friend anymore...he didnt like me advising him abt not hurting ppl even w.o. knowing where they come from...hence his silence I believe...but I guess I have plenty of dignity to accept what he wants to do :)

Keshi.

Ar Ar Ar Arrrrr said...

Oh really??
Do ya think z000nie boi is gonna dump you for this post ??


:(

*sob*....*sob*

Keshi said...

z000nie huggggggggggz mah classy Indian man :) u know ur long silence made me think that u dropped my blog forever after reading this lol! Im sooo glad to see u bak :):)



**though that selfish factor still remains...

Im glad u agreed here. I know u r not selfish at all z000nie...ur porblem is u r too selfless. U got to save it for the right gal :)



**smart woman...

yes...I have an smart Indian guy friend who told me this! He said he dont want a smart ass like me being his wife so he crossed me out from his potential partner list lol! how dare!



**women to be servants all their life. Ohhh...come on This was decades back...

nope it's not only ages ago...u wud be very much surprised that it still happens...though ppl have changed in outer appearance, they havent changed inside. One of the Indian guys I know got married recently...she imnmediately stopped eating non-veg becos of he told her to do so, and she quit work and she's reading recipe books now...she's happy but - she says so...hmmm. Take a look at our own mums and aunties - tho they r not treated like servants, they r in some form of it...too dedicated that they had to sacrifice their own wants and needs...




**Which soap you talking about...

what?? didnt get this.



**Wife beating..

Gosh z000nie take a look at a typical Indian man...and like m000nie said what abt Salman???



**Indian men lack manners.
Dont agree here.total bull crap..

z000nie u dun agree cos u r thinking of urself now lol! U R ONE MAN WHO HAS MANNERS FOR SURE :) Im talking about typical Indian/Sri Lankan men...



**I blew 5000 bucks during my first meet. I just wonder now why the hell did I spent this much??

LOL aww u poor thing. Told ya na ur in the 'great Indian' category...



**To be frank...didnt enjoyed reading the post much coz it was a good spanking on the butt for typical Indian men out there.

u didnt enjoy? why?


u have a nice day too z000nie hugggggggggggz!
Keshi.

Anonymous said...

Infact keshi this february i did posted something on men....
The problems with GUYS:

If u TREAT him nicely, he says u are IN LOVE with him;
If u Don't, he says u are PROUD.
If u DRESS Nicely, he says u are trying to LURE him;
If u Don't, he says u are from LAZY.
If u ARGUE with him, he says u are STUBBORN;
If u keep QUIET, he says u have no BRAINS.
If u are SMARTER than him, he'll lose FACE;
If he's Smarter than u, he is GREAT.
If u don't Love him, he tries to POSSESS u;
If u Love him, he will try to LEAVE u.
If u tell him your PROBLEM, he says u are TROBLESOME;
If u don't, he says that u don't TRUST him.
If u SCOLD him, u are like a NANNY to him;
If he SCOLDS u, it is because he CARES for u.
If u BREAK your PROMISE, u Cannot be TRUSTED;
If he BREAKS his, he is FORCED to do so.
If u SMOKE, u are a BAD girl;
If he SMOKES, he is a GENTLEMAN.
If u do WELL in your exams, he says it's LUCK;
If he does WELL, it's BRAINS.
If u HURT him, u are CRUEL;
If he HURTS u, u are too SENSITIVE!!
& sooo hard to please!!!!!
If u send this to guys, they will swear that it's not true.......
but if u don't, they say u are selfish.....

Keshi said...

lol very well-appropriate South...can u make the title Indian men plzz :)


Thanks!
Keshi.

Ar Ar Ar Arrrrr said...
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Ar Ar Ar Arrrrr said...

Naaah.
I was almost done with my comment here when my boss called up for meeting :(
So had to rush off there :)

Ar Ar Ar Arrrrr said...

I have an smart Indian guy friend
hope you are not talking about me here....

Wait a sec, was he smart Indian guy. Damn....thats not me anyway :(

she imnmediately stopped eating non-veg becos of he told her to do so,
Oh really??
Hehehe...
Know wht?
When I came to know that my ex was a brahmin and dont eat non-veg, during ma later part of the relationship...just few days before we broke, I gave up eating non-veg too. Sounds stupid?
Yeah... :)

Which soap you talking about...
I meant...were u talking about some Ekta Kapoor's soaps about typical Indian family or wht.

u didnt enjoy? why?
Coz me still an Indian na...I dont wanna take bashing from ma fellas for talking crap about them. After all one day Im going to be the part of the same society and die with all the blames and rants :)

Pallavi said...

1. I know many selfish indian men! so selfish that its disgusting...makes you want to just SLAP them. I think the reason they are selfish is beacuase they only love themselves, are self centered and least bothered about anyone around them. If they want something then they'll get cute with the girls otherwise...total jerks. But then i know some who are not selfish AT ALL.

2. Some indian men are really possesive about smart women..the same person who is indian and is selfish..that same individual does not like smart women and is simply JEALOUS... makes them insecure cowards. BUT then i know men who love smart women and cant imagine being with a bimbo.

3. I havnt come across a man who wants his wife to be a servant...but does not sound very pleasant.

4. Yes i have seen MANY MANY indian men talking with and out of their ass. it STINKS! then again, there are those humble ones - absolutely nice.

5. MAMMA's BOYZ! Oh my gosh! YESSSSSSSS i say all of them to some extent.

6. Stubborn: i think this is everyone. all men and even women- ofcourse with exceptions

7. I HATE men who beat their wives! HATE is the only word i have for them.

8. Indian men and wanting the perfect wife even if they are not so perfect are being unfaithful to themselves..thats where they deceive themselves more than anyone else...they choose to live the rest of their life with 'insecurity'

i think men in general have above habits. Sad but true. life.

I am fortunate to have a good man in my life.

sandeip said...

ok
i admit i was fuming by the time i had finished reading this post.

but not entirely because of this.i was already pretty mad when i got to read this one.

ashamedly though;most of what you say is right.personally,i would like to kill any bastard who raises his hands on women;wife or otherwise.

but i still think generalisarions are pretty bad.

i agree with what zoonie has ro say on the topic;and could not sum it up better even if i tried to;)

nice post though.very bold and brave like you.

you know i admore the guts it takes to call a spade a spade,though sometimes i feel what you have written is calling a spade a shovel :)

love

deip

Anonymous said...

Lols...keshi, since i am an indian and posted it on my space, u take it for indian men. My word!!!this post is gonna create some controversy...:)but who cares?one has to accept the truth and at some point of time improve!!!!

Keshi said...

lolz z000nie...

**I have an smart Indian guy friend
hope you are not talking about me here....

u r definitely one of the smartest Indians I know :)



**just few days before we broke, I gave up eating non-veg too. Sounds stupid.

LOL yess sorry to say but I find this really stupid...changing ur eating habits and preferences becos of ur partner??? I dun get it, atleast it's not me and that's nothing to do with love...it's rather being dumb :)



**I meant...were u talking about some Ekta Kapoor's soaps about typical Indian family or wht.

LOL c'mom u know what Im talkin abt...read Pallavi's ans to that :)


**u didnt enjoy? why?Coz me still an Indian na...

aww z000nie that's where ur wrong...cos I didnt write a post againt INDIANS duhhh! It's a post abt the negative face of Indian men...get it babes?? :)



**I dont wanna take bashing from ma fellas for talking crap about them. After all one day Im going to be the part of the same society and die with all the blames and rants :)

ok in other words, u just wanna save ur ass? lolz! C'mon z000nie u agreed to half of what I stated and WE ALL KNOW U DONT FALL IN THIS CATEGORY!! NO ur not going to die with blame...why d u even say that? If u have the opportunity to fix any problem u have, why dun u do that now w.o. thinking of dying with blame?? UR MUCH MORE SMARTER THAN THIS Z000NIE :)

I luv ya heaps man...so stay U ;-)
Keshi.

Nupur said...

A huge debate going on here again!

Its a good post Keshi - but girl I'll have to say that most of the point here are applicable to ALL MEN in general!
And if you think that Indian guys are more prone to it - look around - you probably notice it more just because you are in the vicinity of Indian people more. ==> Meaning for example Asian people yell out in their native language on trains/trams etc. but I hate it more if an Indian does the same thing! Why?! Just because I can understand all that they're saying and that means its disturbing me and annoying me a whole lot more!!

Same with your post here - that you have written abt these qualities related to Indians - but gurl, they ALL do it!!!

AND then..... there are exceptions - Indians and others.

So may be rename the post - The Man!

Keshi said...

Palllavi babes heyyy glad to have ya back!


**disgusting...makes you want to just SLAP them. If they want something then they'll get cute with the girls otherwise...total jerks.

So true...they will come to get something done..after that u r nuttin! yes there r some nice guys too...



**makes them insecure cowards. BUT then i know men who love smart women and cant imagine being with a bimbo.

yes thats true...it;s cowardice that does that to them. Yes ofcourse there r many refined Indian men who adore smart women.


**I havnt come across a man who wants his wife to be servant...but does not sound very pleasant.

I have...a friend of mine did that recently and he's a good friend too. But I aint talkin abt him alone. I read lot of the news, watch movies and I know most Indian wives who drop everything after marriage...maybe not much in the high society...but middle-class yes. And I dun literally mean 'servant' ...u know wut I mean :)


**Yes i have seen MANY MANY indian men talking with and out of their ass. it STINKS!

LOL Pallavi it does :) They jus act...it's pathetic.



**MAMMA's BOYZ! Oh my gosh! YESSSSSSSS i say all of them to some extent.

yes most of my male cousins still are LOL!



**Stubborn: i think this is everyone. all men and even women- ofcourse with exceptions

yes even women but mostly men with their frozen attitudes that men r superior...



**I HATE men who beat their wives! HATE is the only word i have for them.

It's the lowest act ever.



**Indian men and wanting the perfect wife even if they are not so perfect are being unfaithful to themselves..

thats so true! They r insecure all their lives...real fools!



**I am fortunate to have a good man in my life.

Im happy for ya Pallavi - u desreve the best :)


Keshi.

Keshi said...

lol South I think I just created a Monster...

Keshi.

Sindhuja Parthasarathy said...

i wud say too judgmental.........but not very far from truth ;)

PuNeEt said...

Hi dear…
Oohhh baby hugzzz to u… not for the post
But for your replies ;-)
I’m doing fine… and my b’day was fine too… no real parties with my close friends and family… that’s how I prefer also….

Coming to your post…

You're most welcome to criticise my point of view as well
Even if u don’t welcome… I’m gonna put my point ;-)
hahahhaha

I believe most Indian men are selfish
would like to share more of my life with you to realise that there are men who are different…

Many Indian men don't like smart women
this reminds me of the movie – Abhimaan starring Amitabh Bachaan were his wife gets more popularity…
I think the trend is changing in Metros atleast

some Indian men want their women to be servants all their life
you are talking about rural India now…

most Indian men talking with their a##
very true… most of them do…
double standards…
My wife would have complete freedom to wear whatever she is comfortable in…
Infact I’ve given her a verdict that no Sarees unless it’s a festival or some typical relatives/family gathering… I don’t want my GF to change from a hot babez to an aunty overnight ;-)

too many Indian men who are momma's boys…..puppets running behind mummy's saree
I’m a mumma’s boy… but I’m not the way u have mentioned…
I’m (We are) fighting with my and her family for my (our) luv…and it’s been more than 1.5yrs now…
You really got to know me more now
Believe me the girl should be worth fighting with the family and leaving them :-)>
Girls ditch guys more than guys do...

Most Indian men are afraid of being told what to do … stubborn
ye… their ‘men ego’ gets hurt…


Indian men who are still frozen in different stages of evolution
most Indian men treat women like sex toys

You are talking about exceptions dear…
'most' is not an appropriate word over here

many Indian men want a profesionally qualified and very fair virgin ofcourse
I’ll marry for my love and not for virginity… but I agree with ur statement… most Indian men are like that…
Professionally qualified… give me a break yaar… is that a search for a life partner or business partner… infact dear a lot of men don’t prefer working women…
And you are contradicting with your point 1, 2 and 3 above…
U can't have ur share and eat it too...

know that most Indian men lack manners
my flirting skills has taught me a lot of them ;-)
don't agree with you over here...

And last but not the least, most Indian men are penny-pinchers
I guess you dated the wrong Indian man…
some1 who is ready to spend is still waiting for u ;-)

Keshu....
I think women are largely responsible for this… its only because they gave them the authority and freedom to make rules…
Power corrupts and absolute power corrupts absolutely
Change can’t happen just by thinking about it… some1 has to take the initiative… and fortunately the trends are changing…

Your title says…”Indian Man”…
I’m sure they have some good qualities too…
Your Title doesn’t justice to it….

Good research babez…
Cheers

Keshi said...

Deippppppppsss, ur a 'great Indian' in my eyes so chill :)



**i admit i was fuming by the time i had finished reading this post.

LOL puts out the fire with buckets of water...



**ashamedly though;most of what you say is right.personally,i would like to kill any bastard who raises his hands on women;wife or otherwise.

hehe...but it happens...



**but i still think generalisarions are pretty bad.

gawwwwwwwwwd Deips u didnt read my first few lines..i DID Mention I wasnt generalising..didnt I? LOL!


**nice post though.very bold and brave like you.

hmmm and so much debate already and some r prolly plotting to kill me now lol!



**you know i admore the guts it takes to call a spade a spade,though sometimes i feel what you have written is calling a spade a shovel :)


ok I wud luv the challenge...plz tell me where I called a spade a shovel? :) bring it on baby...


Keshi ;-)

Keshi said...

Hey Nupur :)

I totally agree with ya that ALL men have SOME of these qualities...:):) I guess I stirred up an Indian monsoon by this post lol! But what I really mean is that MOSTLY Indian men r the ones who r STUCK in tradition tho changed in outlook. I have loads of friends from all cultures. And hey ur right abt the train example...that was a good one!


**So may be rename the post - The Man!

hmm tempted to but I think I wud stick to what I began with :) thanks gurrrl u rock!

Keshi.

Keshi said...

Samudra thanks gurl!

Well would be nice if u can elaborate on the 'judgmental' thing...I just want to know if I really am...:)

Keshi.

firacub said...

Hi keshu,

Good post.. Let me give in moi 2 cents... ;)

**I believe most Indian men are selfish- yeah they are. But again its that class of men who compare women with their footwear
and consider it their birthright to tread on them their whole life. Men should be cooperative and help their partners in achieving their goals the same way their wives boost their moral in their times of need.

**Many Indian men don't like smart women- I pity such men who freak out when they come across a lady with a better IQ. Personally I hate girls who just know how to dress hip but have brains full of shit. I respect and like women who are smart and give me a run for my wit.

**I just know that some Indian men want their women to be servants all their life.- What a twat!! In this world where we boast of equality for both the sexes I consider such men braindead. I mean how about helping and being there for each other and not just consider your girl to be ur servant till eternity. But then there are some women who still believe in the "Pati-parmeshwar" theory.

**I have seen most Indian men talking with their a##.- thats why I posted that Hot pic on my blog. I believe if a woman is hot and you find her sexy then why not accept that rather than drooling on her flesh and considering yourself a pundit. and its not what you wear but how you carry yourself that decides about your morality. Btw I consider that babe hot enough to be a part of muh fantasy.. ohh la la la... :))))

**I've known too many Indian men who are momma's boys, making themselves look like puppets running behind mummy's saree.- I find that utter crap. Why go out with a girl if you know it has no future in the first place. Its better that u pick up a whore to satisfy your lust rather than screwing with a girl's life and dumping her afterwards on the pretext that your family and so called friggin society wont agree to the relationship.

Most Indian men are afraid of being told what to do 'cause they are downright stubborn.- I say that no one is born perfect and we keep learning till the very last day of our existence. There are lot of things that we can learn even from kids but then our ego about being so old and well versed with life makes us so shortsighted that we dont realise how wrong we are.

**I have known Indian men who are still frozen in different stages of evolution.- Beating up your wife by no means proclaims that you are a man.. duh!!!! I Have come across guys who think that to be able to ruthlessly screw girls is a big milestone in their lives. A fact that they take pride in sharing with their counterparts of the same mentality. Acting like a mature individual and being able to take care of your responsibilities in your relationship so that your partner respects you for that is what proves that you are a man. Taking out your frustations on your wife still shows your prehistoric mentality.

**I have witnessed most Indian men treat women like sex toys. - Correction here Keshu.. Its not always correct. If there is a girl wearing pants so tight that her whole ass just pouts out IS an invitaion for trouble. If girls wear skimpy clothes with their breats almost hanging out of their tops and expecting that no will look at then is the most dumbest thing to assume. There are women who travel in buses because they know that its a safe means of commuting. A girl who respects herself IS respected by others. As they say its curiousity that killed the cat. So if you can curb the curiousity in the first place then there wont be an issue to take care of at all and you are smart enough to know what I mean by that.

**When it comes to marriage, many Indian men want a profesionally qualified and very fair virgin ofcourse.- I think guys who have been in relationships.. correction.. i mean have slept around with girlfriends should not expect a virgin wife. If the guys can screw around then why cant the girls. But on the otherhand, if you have stayed clean then you can expect the same thing from your partner as well. For me its ok if my girl's first relationship could not work out. But its not an excuse for jumping into every relationship just to find out whether it works out for you or not. That makes me think about the fact that why does the gen-x consider being virgin a taboo. Or if they think its ok have sex then why to make such a big issue over a small tissue ;)

**I know that most Indian men lack manners.- Wrong again. It should be- illiterate men lack manners. That sounds much better and is self explanatory. :))) N an important fact is that, Indians are known to be well mannered than their western counterparts. That makes me PROUD to be an INDIAN. :)))

**And last but not the least, most Indian men are penny-pinchers.- I think that if a man takes out his lady for a date then he should have enough moolah in his pocket to take care of the expenses. But these days I have come across couples who belive that going dutch on a date is a much better proposition since both the sexes are considered equal so the same should apply everywhere. But the above rule does not apply to girls who normally hangout at local restaurants but expect a 5-star treatment on their dates. Duh!!!!

All in all I say that the above mentioned breed also exists in women as well. Imagine if the world was just run by women or just by men... It would have been a total mess. God created men and women with their individual set of responsibilities and capabilities that they are best at. If he gave woman the power to create life, he bestowed man with the endurance to sustain life. Men and women are equal and unique in their own way. There is something a man can do that a woman cannot and vice versa. We should try to understand and respect that so as to attain harmony and equilibrium in the cycle of life. Its together that we will make a better world or hell if we walk our individual paths.


Peace,
Firacub.

Keshi said...

Puneeeet hugggggz!'

**no real parties with my close friends and family… that’s how I prefer also….

oh good on ya! :)



**Even if u don’t welcome… I’m gonna put my point ;-)

like do I get a choice? lol!



**would like to share more of my life with you to realise that there are men who are different…

ur exceptional :) I didnt say ALL men r selfish, did I? And I dun even have to hear more, I just KNOW ur selfless....:)



**this reminds me of the movie – Abhimaan starring Amitabh Bachaan were his wife gets more popularity…

yes...I like that movie and the songs. yes the trend is changing and thank God for that.



**some Indian men want their women to be servants all their life
you are talking about rural India now…

lol everyone got the wors 'servant' wrong...I didnt means servant as in girl who gets paid to do housework...I meant as a girl who does service to her family all her life, even if that means forgetting abt her dreams...



**very true… most of them do…
double standards…

yes..I have Sri Lankan friends who dun let their women wear sleeveless tops...and when they see other women with such clothes, they drool...
lol aunty over-night!



**I’m a mumma’s boy… but I’m not the way u have mentioned…

I sure know that :) Cos u stand up for what u believe - I cud tell from all ur posts and u respect ur GF.



**I’m (We are) fighting with my and her family for my (our) luv…and it’s been more than 1.5yrs now…

awww thats soooo sweeet! Power to u both and I know u will be together some day soon :)





**Girls ditch guys more than guys do...

hmm thats altogether another post ;-)



**sex toys - You are talking about exceptions dear…'most' is not an appropriate word over here

no MOST is appropriate lol! U know why...cos I am a woman and I know where Indian men's eyes go...



**I’ll marry for my love and not for virginity… but I agree with ur statement… most Indian men are like that…

glad u agreed.



**infact dear a lot of men don’t prefer working women…And you are contradicting with your point 1, 2 and 3 above…U can't have ur share and eat it too...

no Im not contradicting my points. I meant they want it all. They want a professionally-qualified girl to marry but after marriage and babies, she better stop working. I know so many Indians/Sri Lankans like this! And read am000nie's ans on this.



**my flirting skills has taught me a lot of them ;-)don't agree with you over here...

U got to live overseas to see the difference Puneet :)



**I guess you dated the wrong Indian man…some1 who is ready to spend is still waiting for u ;-)

Puneet did I say this was my ex? lol! No ways...he was a brilliant Indian dude...spent so much for me :) It's not the money alone Im talkin about...it's the attitude that separates the 2...when u love someone it has to be 1.



**I think women are largely responsible for this… its only because they gave them the authority and freedom to make rules…

haaaaaaaa! LOL now where did this come from?


**Your title says…”Indian Man”…
I’m sure they have some good qualities too…Your Title doesn’t justice to it….

awww they sure have Puneet...but this post ONLY talked abt the negatives :)


Thanks and bye bye..I gtg now :) See u back with a vengeance lol!
Keshi.

strawy said...
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sandeip said...

**I believe most Indian men are selfish. They want everything in life - personal, careerwise etc, but they consider girls shouldn't have dreams...because they believe that girls are meant to be wives and mothers some day, that's about all. Talk about human in-equality! >>>>>knowing my family and friends and even quite a few non-friends;i would be aligned to the opposite view.very few of the educated indian men tend to be like that.


**Many Indian men don't like smart women. Such women make these men feel inferior...kind of insecure feeling that will make them dislike those women. They don't like a woman who stands up for herself 'cause they don't believe that a woman can do that. Excuse me, God gave women brains too, just accept it and move on.
>>>>>if one is willing to accept the thruth;that is true in most parts of the world.in fact studies generally reported in our newspapers and other sources show that the horizons of the indian man are gradually growing broader while to the contrary the white caucasians are gradually getting to be more and more conservative.


**I have seen most Indian men talking with their a##. In other words, it's total bull-sh#t and hypocrisy in total disguise. There are some Indian men who say 'She's immoral wearing clothes like that'. But really how many of those men fantasise such women behind those 'Im so holy' looks? How about shedding the fake?>>>>>bullshitters are everwhere.how else do you explain george w. bush being the prez of the great u.s. of a?

**I have witnessed most Indian men treat women like sex toys. Pinching Ladies' bottoms in buses and staring at the chest forever is their favorite past time. How about some respect for women?>>>>>i dont think that is an all-indian thing.do you?its not even exclusive of ant other people.

**And last but not the least, most Indian men are penny-pinchers. Even if he takes a girl out on a date, he will pay only for his expenses. He would cancel the dessert if that saves him $5 and will fight for the 50c sauce to be free of charge. And if there are freebies he will take many of them home, not just one. Being economical is one thing but being cheap is ugly.>>>>>how come i spent three quarters of my pocket allowance just to get my not-to-be-gf a gift that i thought worthy of her on her b'day?"(the thingy was wasted becuz she did not even have the grace to accept that gift :( but that is besides the point)

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Prakash said...

Hi
Keshi......
I cant comment on these as i dont have many indian friends or families i know of...
but i can tell u that in sri lanka...i dont think it is this bad..but there are men who treat wife as a slave....and jealous of her if she is clever.........
i am glad i am a sri lankan...LOL....
Please dont tell me that ur BF did not pay for ur meals on ur date...just kidding...
hey good one....
Prakash

strawy said...

ok i think i have posted a bad comments , will remove it , some of my friends didnt liked it , sorry guyz

strawy said...

sorry keshu i hope u wont mind if i dont comment on ur this post ,,, hugsss babez , u always write nice ,n this post is damnn good ...love ya, m sorry again keshu

st000nie

Jim said...

, STRAWYYY !!! ,

wat the fuck !
tell her wat u tink about the crap she rote


watch for my counter poat on my blogg

Jim said...

and WORDY shud be relieved of his deek


he is a traitor to the nation

Jim said...

, http://imnutsincaps.blogspot.com/2005/06/woomans-place-is-in-home.html,

sandeip said...

an open letter to saby

saby;
for once;why dont you mind your own business insead of poking fun at others;bad mouthing other people and in general tryong to make enemies?

and as for me being a traitor to the nation;how about letting the nation decide for itself?

definitely not yours'

word_smith

Jim said...

WORDY !
i speak for the nation
coz i am the nation
an indian to the core

i dont sell bharat mata short to find favour wid an austraylayan desi


even though she is hott

De.vile said...

Indian men? Shouldnt this be titled 'Men' in general. They have better gadgets and better words but come to think, all of them are that.

Vivhyd said...

Seems like u were ditched by a typical Indian man huh??? :P .. lol.. Well a lot of it is sadly true.. about the typical Indian men.. A lot of embedded from past and still in there.. that it looks absurd now.. Hopefully things will change.. but truly good points U have brough out.. Dont find anything 2 argue.. cos I wud be doing so against reality.. well said Keshi.. though for some of these the whole society shd take the blam.. men and women included..

Unknown said...

hahahahahahaha
wow keshi knowing indian men through your post is quite fun

i do get lots of information abt indian men without knowing them in real. :lol:

no wonder i'm unware abt the inside character of Nepali men hehehe

take care

Dewdrop said...

Keshi
Interesting post. I know you are not generalizing, but like some said this list is basically applicable to all men and their male chauvinism

Salman hitting Aish, is no different from John Lennon being known for wife beating.

And oh, there's one more thing about Indian men generally in India that annoys me. They dont help women in their household chores, baby sitting or changing diapers. They think its all solely a woman's job.

Kroopa Shah (Kr00pz) said...

Awesome one there Keshi!!!! I agree with all of those points you made. Again this doesn't apply to all Indian men, but quite a sad percentage of them are just like that even in this day and age. Makes you wonder!!!

PuNeEt said...

Hi Keshuuuuu
This coversation is getting hotter... ;-)

like do I get a choice?
No… as we don’t have either ;-)

who dun let their women wear sleeveless tops
WTF… sleeveless tops are so damn smart…
I’ll call a dress good and will admire it if I can see my girl wearing it ;-)

I know u will be together some day soon :)
“Aameen”…God bless and thanks so much

Coming back to ur post… I don’t agree wit ur view point of “mumma’s child”…
although there are hypocrite men but they are exceptions again…

I meant they want it all. They want a professionally-qualified girl to marry but after marriage and babies, she better stop working.
This is bull shit
there might me some guys with that mentality but most of them are not…
if a guy wants a housewife that’s his personal choice… then mostly he wont lookout for a professionally-qualified girl … there are so many girls who are happy being a housewife and that too out of their own choice…I don’t find a problem with that

A guy in my builidng recently got married, he was well settled and wanted a girl who is not too career oriented… his job was of such kind that he had to move from one place to another… so his point was if he’ll marry a professinally qualified girl then it would be difficult for her to adjust accordingly…I admire his thinking…
Plz distinguish professionally qualified from educated…

In a city like Mumbai most of the guys want professionally-qualified or a working women… coz firstly the life is tough… it’ not alwayz possible to run a house with only one earning member… and men have realised that working of a women is not bad… most of their colleagues and friends are women…

did I say this was my ex?
ooh babe… u took it too personally…don’t take it ur personal life sweeti
I think my jokes are getting sad now :-(

It's not the money alone Im talkin about...it's the attitude that separates the 2...when u love someone it has to be 1.
can u please realate this with ur last point…

now where did this come from?
don’t you think its obvious… you give some1 absolute power and authority and expect him to be just… its not gonna happen…

Why the culture of Mumbai itself separates it from the rest of India…
Every damn human being has to earn his/her respect…
Y can’t women stand for their respect…
The ones who are standing are getting it… the ones who are fighting are winning it…
World is not perfect…. And the ones who wait will only get what is left out… and it works both ways :-)

but this post ONLY talked abt the negatives
sweeti… that’s exactly what my my point is… ur post is not doing justice to ur title…
got that ;-)

I don’t deny your points…
But they are too raw and too generalized…

Shoot now…
I’m waiting to hear the firing guns from your side ;-)

Cheers n Huggzzzzzzz

Justin Thyme said...

Well Kesh, it was... interesting... lol. I cannot really speak to the generalizations myself, because the only experience with which I have to form any kind of opinion or generalizations about Indian men is from, well, you know, and I don't think it would be fair to judge an entire nation of human beings based on that.

by the way, you've been tagged... :-)

Łóòň Ġãĺ said...

lol...Keshi...da Pic...caught ma eye...was dat da typical Indian man or da great one?? lollll

I dunno....never dealt that closely with Indian men or for that matter men....but one thing i wudnt disagree with is...that they indeed are selfish!! and da servants thingy!!

I hate 'em....i'd rather die being a spinster instead of marrying such self-centered and mean guys!!

Great post...i hope da guys arent offended! coz of they are....ummm....well....they know tiz da truth n tiz alwez bitter!

cheerzzz!

Keshi said...

Firaaaaaaaaa huggggggggz!
ok let me see ;-)
~~Keshi puts her stronger helmet on...
lol!

by reading ur comment I realised that u r one of the very few classy men around...not just among the Indians but among all the men of the world...well-said Fira!



**Men should be cooperative and help their partners in achieving their goals...

yes thats it. But I know many Indian/Sri Lankan men who ask their wives to stay home after having babies...the poor girls like to work but dont want to upset their men either.



**Personally I hate girls who just know how to dress hip but have brains full of shit. I respect and like women who are smart and give me a run for my wit.

LOL yes...no point having a good-looking fashion queen in ur arms if she cant think :)



**But then there are some women who still believe in the "Pati-parmeshwar" theory.

LOL thats so true...alot of my aunts are Pattini Ammas if u know wut I mean...they breathe for their husbands...I dun get it. They have to respect them I u'stand but they cant dwell on husband husband and husband LOL! Ur right here...sometimes it's the women who spoil the men.



**its not what you wear but how you carry yourself that decides about your morality.

True. I like u for admiring that babe :) Being comfortable with what ur wearing is all that matters...not the culture duhhh! But these men drool ova such girls but dun allow their women to even wear a sleeveless top! I know many such men trust me...



**Its better that u pick up a whore to satisfy your lust rather than screwing with a girl's life and dumping her afterwards on the pretext that your family and so called friggin society wont agree to the relationship.

WELL-SAID Fira! Spot on! And why does the family object to every damn r'ship? Becuase it comes back to being SELFISH! Mum or dad is damn selfish that they want their child to marry someone they like!! This doesnt happen so often in White families btw...they marry whoever they want.



**we can learn even from kids but then our ego about being so old and well versed with life makes us so shortsighted that we dont realise how wrong we are.

so true.



**A fact that they take pride in sharing with their counterparts of the same mentality.

yessss! Thats so sick and they dun even realise that!!



**A girl who respects herself IS respected by others. As they say its curiousity that killed the cat.

I totally disagree. Women have clothes different to men...a lil bit of cleavage or tight pants is normal for a girl to wear. Just because we r girls we dun have to limit ourselves in clothes just so that men can sit up straight in buses lol! It's the man's problem if he's weak. Trust me Aussie buses r alot more free and trouble-free than Indian/Sri Lankan buses...I have been on them and I know the difference!!




**That makes me think about the fact that why does the gen-x consider being virgin a taboo. Or if they think its ok have sex then why to make such a big issue over a small tissue ;)

LOL hehehe. U know thats altogether a different post :)



**It should be- illiterate men lack manners. That sounds much better and is self explanatory. :)))

Fira lol...I dun mean Indian guys like u lack manners. I mean most Indian guys :) What I mean by that is not that they r illiterate or dunno anything at all. I think it's the culture that prevents them from being courteous to women etc...I dunno I have witnessed a HUGGGE difference between Indian n other men. Ofocurse there r exceptional Indian men better than any other man...I dun mean them.



**But these days I have come across couples who belive that going dutch on a date is a much better proposition since both the sexes are considered equal so the same should apply everywhere.

yes I agree...but most even Indian husbands dun give financial freedom to their wives...they r frugal - too frugal I should say cos it leads to where they just exist (pay bills etc) but dun enjoy life...



**Its together that we will make a better world or hell if we walk our individual paths.

SO TRUE! Thanks Fira :)


Keshi.

Keshi said...

Deipsss WB :)

**knowing my family and friends and even quite a few non-friends;i would be aligned to the opposite view.very few of the educated indian men tend to be like that.

Yes I agree. But if u take the educated Indian men and the eductated White men, which group would have more of the wife-controlling men? No doubt it's the Indian men...:)



**the indian man are gradually growing broader while to the contrary the white caucasians are gradually getting to be more and more conservative.

Sure is...the Indian man is changing...but being conservative doesnt always mean not appreciating smart women - it's a bit towards what they have been fed to believe as children...they grow with it and it's hard to break it. but yeah they r changing which is really a good sign :)



**bullshitters are everwhere.how else do you explain george w. bush being the prez of the great u.s. of a?

LOL ok ok :) well deips wut I meant was that Indian men hide alot of their desires and put on a very conservative face...while deep down they r drooling ova Angelina Jolile LOL! What I request them to be is REAL and not FAKE :)



**i dont think that is an all-indian thing.do you?its not even exclusive of ant other people.

LOL Deips...come to Aus...no one pinches women's bottoms here cos most men r not sexually fustrated here...they go and do what they want...but in India and Sri Lanka men r sooooo tied up with culture they dun get much sex...so they prey on innocent women on buses and trains...I have been a victim of such sexualu harassment many times on Public transport! why am I so safe and happy here then?



**how come i spent three quarters of my pocket allowance just to get my not-to-be-gf a gift that i thought worthy of her on her b'day?"(the thingy was wasted becuz she did not even have the grace to accept that gift :( but that is besides the point)

Deips U R DIFFERENT...U r none of what I said just here...ok?? U r a brilliant and classy Indian guy...just as much as all my other Indian mates here. This was for the typical Indian guy - and u gusy r not typical...u r a special lot :) That girl dun deserve anything and mainly u dun deserve such crap. She didnt have the grace...neither did she have the senses..cos how can she miss out on someone so beautiful as u r? Dun waste ur time, money or ur life on such ppl...

Thanks n Huggggz!
Keshi.

Keshi said...

Prakash hiii :)

Well Sri Lankan men r a bit more liberal but they r the same Prakash...not all of them but most of them...my cuzn got many marriage proposals and all these men always wanted her to be traditional or prefer staying at home or wanted beauty etc etc...bull crap! sorry lol!

no no I wasnt talkin abt my BFs lol...I just know that most Indian/Sri Lankan men r calculative..I just hate that.

But ofcourse there are very nice and open-minded Indian/Sri Lankan men too...like u guys and many many guys I know :)

Keshi.

Keshi said...

st000nie muahhhh! Which comment u talking abt? I didnt see it..luckily or not lol! But hey u r free to say wateva u want in here...dun hesitate to speak ur mind cos that's exactly what I expect from all of u...whether u like my post or not, it really doesnt bother me...and seriously I dun want ppl to say 'keahi thats a great post' just to make me happy...if u feel like shooting me down, well do so lol :) I CAN stand criticism quite alright...so say it babezzz...

Huggggz!
Keshi.

Keshi said...

Saby WC. Ok one thing...like Deips told ya, could you be polite when u speak of others...u r showing ur great Indian colors or the bad ones? Well but the ones ur showing dun look too good..if u wanna prove ur a good man, then speak/act so...but it's easier to fall apart so beware. And we r not talkin abt Patriotism here...we r talking abt certain cultural beliefs that affect the Indian man's attitude...being patriotic doesnt mean u have to be stupid :)



Pithaly hii :)
**and that's why you get those wierd serial killers, and all that crap there

LOL I aint talking abt serial killers here..stick to the point plz. I think u lost it when u read this...why...u shouldnt have if it didnt apply to the good Indian in u :) Besides serial killers are the ones who r everywhere...rape, murder, abuse that's common to all countries. I wasnt talkin abt that btw and what does Katrina have to do with this?? I aint celebrating the White man either - BOYY They have their issues too but that's another post altogether :)



Chikka yes some of these may fall common to most men...but not all...some r very Indian like the virgin bride search...isnt it?



Vivhyd thanks :) Im glad u agree with me. I did not write this to bash the Indian culture and glorify the White culture. The fact that u understood that relieves me and put u on higher grounds once again - u rock :)
btw na I didnt get ditched by a 'typical' Indian man...lolllz! I ditched him lol!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

Thanks Niti lol...u better get to know the Napelese guys soon and write a post on it for me :)


Misty hellooo :)
Na I aint generalising Indian men...goshhh I pointed that out at the beginning of my post :) ok let me explain...take 10 typical Indians and 10 typical Whites...from these 2 groups, who would be more in search of a virgin bride, house-wife kinda girl? Just ans that...:)



Hey dewdy :) true...wife beating may exist in all cultures but its alil bit more common among Indians/Sri Lankans...mainly becos it goes undetected and these women dun even have help...in Western countries, there's legal aid against such domestic violence and the man could get prosecuted. John Lennon may have beaten his wife in the vicinity of his home, but Salman beating Aish in public shows how much male authority he's taken into his hands and abusing it...it isnt? shows how fearless and how shameless he is.
Anyways yeah even I agree that Indian men should help in household chores...they r bad at that and that's why I said that they expect their wives to be 'servants'...by default :)

Keshi.

Keshi said...

Thanks Kroopz lol! U know what I mean dun ya...since u live in the US, have u noticed that even after living in countries like that, most Indian men dun change their attitude...they always think that women from their home country r fresh and good for marriage...lol then why r they even here??


Cheesy lolz that pic is the typical Indian man inside the Indain man that fit this post's description :)
Yes u r right..better be single than put up with bull shit lol!

Keshi.

Keshi said...

hey Justin!

Nope I did NOT generalise an entire nation :) If u read carefully I'm talkin abt the typical Indian man...not all of them r like this. Just take a handful of Indian men and a handful of White men...if they ans honestly, most of the Indian men would fall into the category I just described...so that makes it MOST of the Indian men r like this...sorry but this is the bitter truth :)

I know most of the Indian guys wud hate me for this but if they hate me then that's self-denial...cos if this doesnt fit them then they r in the great Indian men group na and they should have no reason to hate me :)

Keshi.

Keshi said...

Puneeeeeet WB :)

**This coversation is getting hotter... ;-)

yep my blog is simmering now lol!



**like do I get a choice?
No… as we don’t have either ;-)

LOL awww....



**WTF… sleeveless tops are so damn smart…

hehe I luuuurve sleelveless tops...most of mine r sleeveless lol!



**“Aameen”…God bless and thanks so much

hey I was thinking, see now it seems ur parents dun agree to ur r'ship. That's being selfish too...cos most Indian parents r this way...if their kids find their own love, they always reject it...doesnt that show selfishness again? It's typical Indian attitude...sorry I dun mean any offense, just pointing out something imp to note :)



**although there are hypocrite men but they are exceptions again…

Puneet oh Puneet...didnt i say already that there r exceptions :)



**there are so many girls who are happy being a housewife and that too out of their own choice…I don’t find a problem with that

ok ur right :)



**so his point was if he’ll marry a professinally qualified girl then it would be difficult for her to adjust accordingly…I admire his thinking…

ok he's right. But did HE ever think abt adjusting to HER work location?



**can u please realate this with ur last point…

lol I wasnt talkin abt dating only...I was saying that most Indian men r stingy...even when they r husbands...they just want to make more money, save, save n save but not really live...



**you give some1 absolute power and authority and expect him to be just… its not gonna happen…

yes it in the hands of the woman too..like Fira stated some women's ambition is to be a professional wife ;-) and that doesnt help the man to be any better either...I agree.



**but this post ONLY talked abt the negatives sweeti… that’s exactly what my my point is… ur post is not doing justice to ur title…got that ;-)

yes I agree...but it's the negatives we have to work on...and yeah the title says The Indian Man...well 75% of the Indian man is made of this attitude...lol so why not :)



**I don’t deny your points…
But they are too raw and too generalized…

lol ok tell me where I generalised it?


~~dishoooooooooooooooooom!!!

lol!
Keshi.

Ar Ar Ar Arrrrr said...

Good morning Keshi-piez!!!
How you doing??

Keshi said...

Hey Classy Indian man :) Im well n u????

Keshi.

Jim said...

Amutha,
, Man smart
Wooman smarter
,


baby born
eyes of blue


i gott black eyes
so does she

Keshi said...

Saby can u talk in a language I can u'stand so that I can comment back on ur comments...:)

Keshi.

Jim said...

Kesh,
, wat does tagged mean?,
is it sumting physical ?


hope not,or
dat guy gonna get more medicine from me

Keshi said...

Tagged means ur labelled...which guy?

Keshi.

Jim said...

did i win wid dat guy ?
the anti-ndian guy


u need google serach installed here
cannot find my comments and yr reply

PuNeEt said...

HI Keshuuuuuuuuuuu
How are u doing babezzzzzz

dishoooooooooooooooooom!!!
that was bang on my face…
it took some time for Puneet to regain his posture…
he is still holding ice in one hand and soothing the blue turned wound on left eye…
;-)


That's being selfish too...cos most Indian parents r this way..
true in a way… don’t deny that… but not always kids agree to their view points… not always kids are right… parents have seen more of life than us so they definitely have a right to advice and disagree but to a certain extent…
they should be able to judge how serious are their kids about a relationship… and even after that if they are stubborn and egoistic then yes they are being very selfish…

(Don’t tell me ur next post is on Indian Parents… Keshu is on a mission – Anti-India)
;-) hahahahahhaha


there r exceptions
for that point… there r exceptions is not correct… they are exceptions


But did HE ever think abt adjusting to HER work location?
look he was always clear in his thought so he never went for a girl who is career oriented… ur point was guys look out for professionally qualified girls and make them sit at home… that is not true na
adjusting to HER work location is all together a different point…


they just want to make more money, save, save n save but not really live
not true babezzz… what will anyone do by saving so much… take along with him after his death… saving for future contingencies is justifiable …
see again u r generalizing over here ;-)

well 75% of the Indian man is made of this attitude...lol so why not :)
sweeti are we passing a special resolution that we need 75% vote in favor of something…
u never now… 90% of men reading ur blog might be under that 25% category…

Smillzzzz n Cheers

Keshi said...

ok Puneet u win :) happy?

Keshi.

PuNeEt said...

No...
I'm not happy...
I was not commenting to win...
was there a competition???

I was just putting accross my viewpoints...
If u felt offensive then I'm sorry

Cheers

Keshi said...

Puneet :) heyyy...

why I asked the Q 'But did HE ever think abt adjusting to HER work location?' was becos that's a very IMP thing in a r'ship...why dus the man always have to get the wife to follow wherever he goes in his career...how abt the man sacrificing that for the woman and going wherever she goes? U didnt answer me properly there :)

That's where the problem is...the Indian man is always superior, so he thinks and he gets the wife to follow his dreams. Exactly my point!


**ur point was guys look out for professionally qualified girls and make them sit at home… that is not true na. adjusting to HER work location is all together a different point…

It's not all together a different point!! It is exactly wut I am talkin abt. He gets her to follow wherever he goes even if that means she's qualified for work...that will end her up at home anyways hai na?? :)

Keshi.

Keshi said...

* was just putting accross my viewpoints...If u felt offensive then I'm sorry

LOL Puneet i was joking with ya...nuttin was offensive...heheh...while I put that small msg there and I typed the 2nd msg...and while I was typing u were too quick to get upset lol - calm down matey - hugggggggggz!

btw I always like ur long view points...dun cut short on em plz...
Keshi

sandeip said...

i may be bad;
perhaps i am crazy,
a sorry tale,
a mad desire,
frustated by life;
and scared of death,

here i lie;
under your gaze,
wilting under scorn,
and melting in disdain,
i am incomplete;
and i have scars-

but beaten and bruised,
insane and crazy,
sesuous or frustated;
you are all i have;
i am all yours.......



>>>>thats also a bit of it;isnt it?

sandeip said...

correction:third line from end of poem:

*sensuous and frustated*

Keshi said...

Hey Deips hugggz!

Nice poem...

**thats also a bit of it;isnt it?

A bit of what btw?

Keshi.

sandeip said...

bit of the story;the indian version?

bad or worse;they are all we have,

and they are changing?

Jim said...

he sure is mad
he sure is crazy

Jim said...

i found a substitute for the other guy

Jim said...

dis is almost like chatting

Keshi said...

Deips :) ok got ya....

**bad or worse;they are all we have,

yep yep...and thats fine...sometimes bad is good than having a fake good :)

Hugggs!
Keshi.

Keshi said...

wut u talkin abt Saby??

PuNeEt said...

calm down matey - hugggggggggz!
Yeeee me calm now ;-)
But still soothing the wound on left eye
Hahahahahhaa

I always like ur long view points...dun cut short on em
Ooh so sweeet… huggzzzzz

Ok now let me clarify…
There are two different points…

He gets her to follow wherever he goes even if that means she's qualified for work...that will end her up at home anyways hai na?? :)
qualified for work and intending to work are two very different things…
I’ve come across a lot of ladies who are qualified but don’t intend to work…
Or they are of the view that they will work before marriage for TP and after that they will just take care of the home…
Now if I’m looking for a housewife…I will exactly look for some1 with that viewpoint…and am I wrong in doing that….

why dus the man always have to get the wife to follow wherever he goes in his career...
Now this is a different point where the girl intends to work but has to sacrifice her dreams for the guy… this happens a lot in India… I’ve seen this in my family… with my friends…
These are things, which I feel should be clarified before marriage… and after that who is making a shift should be left for them to decide…

how abt the man sacrificing that for the woman and going wherever she goes
I don’t see any harm in that… but you know…
if tomorrow I plan to make a shift or change my job coz my wife is moving to a different city… I doubt the prospective employer will take it positively…
(I’m sure a MCP would be sitting there)
whereas for a women changing her job after marriage… is very normal thing..
(I don’t say it is correct… but it has become a part of custom over here… and I agree with you that it’s not fair on women)
and you know what when my sisters n friends went for an interview… a normal question they faced was… will they continue with the job after marriage… it used to be so disgusting…

the Indian man is always superior, so he thinks and he gets the wife to follow his dreams
no yaar… you are being too harsh…
a lot of the time women herself sacrifices her dreams… she is so pressurized by the family for marriage… its for her to stand up for her dreams…
you cant entirely blame it on men… change takes time… and I’m happy its happening ;-)

What say…

Cheers

Keshi said...

lol Puneet whoaaa good ans! U rock ;-) ok ok I get it...hehehe...andI agree :) well-said!


left eye is blue...awww let me make it better now..

~~Keshi gets ready to attend Puneet's wedding...

LOL!
Keshi.

Sonia said...

in response to Puneet's comment (which is very interesting, and i agree with it too), i was never asked if i wud stop working after marriage. EVER. and i've attended interviews in both India and UAE. the most they've asked me is if i would be prepared to go abroad if necessary. nothing about family commitments or anything? is it just me, or is the trend changing?

Rupa (BNB) said...

Centuary Comment lolzz

I believe most Indian men are selfish. Yes u are very true.

They are selfish.Very selfish, opportunist
They are possessive
They are unfair

They oogle at other female who has dressed smartly. If u happen to be thier GF or wife, they expect u to cover from head to toe in bad looking dress,
They lack guts.
There is no exception, they are chamelion, adjust color to the situation. From stages of friend to boy friend to husband they exibit different behaviour.

Keshi said...

Icy hey :)

Sonia yes no one asks u to stop wprking b4 marriage...but wait n see after u get married n have kids...Im not saying ALL Indian men r like this...and the trend is changing too now with more ppl being open...but alot of the Indian men r manufactured with the idea that women belong at home...trust me, they are...so if u dun get deprived of working well u will get deprived of some other thing...like choice of clothes, freedom to go where u like, talking and mixing with ur male friends...

anyways I agree that the times r changing...hopefuly they will too and I mean honestly not just becos the it's trendy.

Keshi.

Keshi said...

B&B WC where u been? I missed ya...

**Centuary Comment lolzz

woohoo go B&B! ;-)


**I believe most Indian men are selfish. Yes u are very true.

Thank u for being so bold to agree with me :)


**They are selfish.Very selfish, opportunist

well-said! Sorry guys but most of them are opportunists...talking with experience here...


**They are possessive
They are unfair

very true! possesive to fulfil their wishes and that itself is unfair.


**They oogle at other female who has dressed smartly. If u happen to be thier GF or wife, they expect u to cover from head to toe in bad looking dress,

soooo true B&B!! Well-said...I have so many female Indian friends facing this prob. recently one guy went and got married in India and came bak with his bride. Even being Aus she's not wearing sleeveless cos he doesnt like it?? goshhh and u know he loves Aish! LOL!


**They lack guts.

they do and thats why they r cowardly...thats why they cant see their woman dressed smart cos they r scared she'll run away with someone else...insecurity and fear!


**There is no exception, they are chamelion, adjust color to the situation. From stages of friend to boy friend to husband they exibit different behaviour.

goshhh u said it all girl! wow I didnt know u wud be so good at explaining what I really wanted to convey. it all comes down to selfishness...it's so wrong but when will they realise? for goddsake its the 21st century :)

Anybody wanna challenge what B&B said :)


Keshi.

Jim said...

**I believe most Indian men are selfish.

, tanks Kesh,,
i have no beef wid u for u excluded me from dis general category


by the way
wats yr beef wid ,Diffy?,
he just dropped by

Jim said...

but i gotta confess
i been oggling bold and beautiful









she got nice tits

Keshi said...

ok Saby I didnt get it but thats fine...beef??

But u for one Saby say what u want to say...thats being honest and not hiding behind a mask like many Indian dudes do..I like that quality in u.

Keshi.

Keshi said...

Hey beautiful Caraf :)

Keshi.

Keshi said...

Saby thats it - u continue to entertain low-grade typical dogs like that ITCC in ur blog, I aint visiting ur blog anymore...becos I no longer can walk past ur blog w.o. treading that dog shit and I dun want it even in my shoe...

Keshi.

Keshi said...

The truth is Saby u seem to ENJOY his shit...and that makes me puke.

Keshi.

Keshi said...

And that ITCC is a typical Indian guy that Im talkin abt...one who cant stand someone smarter than him....he's rotting in his own hell going ard whinging abt girls who slapped him on the face...lol...selfish lil mummy's pallu boy who's dumb to the core.

But I'll tell u one thing Saby...u seem to LIKE him for some reason cos u retain his rather obscene comments. Now I dont even know who is behind all this...call me silly but Im not God...dont ever expect me to be in ur blog again - dun want dog shit...

Keshi.

Jim said...

Dear Kesh,
the men who comment on your blogg makes me puke
they aint men
they are faithful dogs


me, i prefer mouses
annony though they may be

Jim said...

i dont undestand u Kesh,
if they bug u
just ignore



u hit back
they hit back

its like tennis
the ball is in your court

if u dont want to play
just walk off the court

its dat simple Kesh

dis world is not all roses and candy
deleting comments dont work
i tried it earlier

Jim said...

Kesh,
u act like the high priestess

u pronounce 'Indian men are bad'
and all your spineless indian admirers agree

, u dont have the right to judge ppl, and
u just judged a whole nation

Rupa (BNB) said...

Chillax Saby,
You are the living example of Selfish Male

I have been observing ur comments from many many days, U are so jealous of all the other guys commenting on Keshi's Blog.

You talk non sense to them showing ur displeasure, which in turn shows How selfish u are.

Its not only in keshi's blog, u make dirty comments aginst Keshi & Puneet in Puneet's blog too..

I know u may talk non sense to me too Now. But I dare. Take care.

Keshi said...

Saby

**Dear Kesh,the men who comment on your blogg makes me puke they aint men they are faithful dogs

U mean Puneet, z000nie, NV, Justin etc...they r the men who comment in my blog...so u call em faithful dogs...let them answer that.
what about you? why didnt u even comment on this post b4 this? is it becos u just want to stay faithful an had u commented u wud have insulted me so u kept quiet? so who's faithful and scared now?




**me, i prefer mouses
annony though they may be

they r the faceless dogs...no one else! so dont call my friends dogs plz.

Keshi.

Keshi said...

Saby I am walkin off the court where the shit is and thats ur blog. U just entertain all their rubbish and rather obscene comments at me - have u no respect for ur friends? no dignity?

Anyways I aint asking u to delete them...u can keep and treasure them no wonder no one's coming to ur blog...cos if they did they wud have to tread the shit.

*dis world is not all roses and candy deleting comments dont work

I know that more than anyone else...


Keshi.

Keshi said...

Saby...
***Kesh,u act like the high priestess

do u feel like this? why? I think u judge others more than anyone else...and just how many have u hurt in blogs itself Saby?


**u pronounce 'Indian men are bad'
and all your spineless indian admirers agree

When did I say they r BAD? All men r bad in fact just like All women r...I was talkin abt strong traits that distinguish Indian men with other men...u being matured couldnt even get that! I think its becos of ur strong tradition thats blocking ur view...u proved it!


**u dont have the right to judge ppl, and u just judged a whole nation

LOL there u go! U proved my post...u r soooo irritated by criticism just cos it's ur country...being patriotic isnt abt being stupid Saby!


Thanks and Amen!
Keshi.

Keshi said...

I think B&B summed it for me thanks girl.

Keshi.

Jim said...

i tink i am the winner here
u and bold and beautiful


are beautuiful loosers
your argument has no substance

woomen shud stay home

Jim said...

and my dear friend Justine is a reasonable man

see his comment



I LOVE U JUSTINE
Huggggggzzz, mmmuuaaahhhh
who needs woomen !

Subhrajyoti Mukhopadhyay said...

indain guys are not so bad !

But self evaluation is also biased :D

Jim said...

SHIT !
take heart Kesh
dis too will pass

dont let dis get u down hunny
its trash

dont have a haevy heart girl
we are wid u, and remember


there is always a rainbow at the end of stormy weather

http://imnutsincapsbob.blogspot.com/2005/07/death-is-not-end.html

OptionSeller said...

Cant disagree with you. But the basic tendecies can be and are found in both genders and universally.

Hoping for next post , from your experience and observation, but with different approach to let the world know about the other side of the Indian Man :)

Keshi said...

TIGER FUCKING ITCC - U R THE TYPICAL INDIAN ASS IM TALKING ABOUT - THE KIND OF TIGHT SHIT WHO CANT VALUE OTHER CULTURES OR ANY OTHER VIEW - COS U R DROWNED IN UR LIL DUMB WORLD AND THE WAY U PORTRAYED URSELF WITH RACIST FILTH JUST BECOS IM A WOMAN SHOWED WHAT EXACTLY THE INDIAN MAN IS - THANK U! LOL IDIOT.

Saby u can shut up.

Keshi.

Keshi said...

Saby u and ITCC (anonymous loser) u can go try to fuck women ard just becos they r women...but not me! u guys r the MOST SELFISH MALE CHAUVINIST PIGS I've ever seen and u dont even realise it - THAT IS SAD! THATS exactly what I was talkin in this post and u 2 just proved it. MANY INDIAN WOMEN HERE BTW AGREED TO WHAT I SAID AND U CANT STAND THAT - LOL!

No substance my ass Saby! Get a life.

At least my other Indian male friends here knew how to handle this and stood up for what they believed without being so fucking idiotic and offended like u n tiger! Get a life Saby, u need to get out of ur bed before it sinks ya to death - u call urself a man? Im surprised.

Keshi.

Keshi said...

Euphoric thanks for seeing the humor of it and not losing control like men here :)

Thanks JV...:) I agree. I didnt say they r the ONLY men who r selfish...all men and women r selfish in some way or the other...but this post focused only on the Indian man's selfishness. And some men couldnt tolerate it here lol. In self-denial I guess. Well I think I hit at the right sopt. Thanks and i'll think abt the other post and WC :)

Keshi

Keshi said...

SABY NOW U LOOK BACK AND SEE HOW MANY INDIAN ASSES I KICKED ON INDIATIMES INCLUDING THIS CRY BABY MUMMY'S BOY ITCC - DID U SEE HOW THOSE MEN TREATED GIRLS ON THAT CHAT SITE? NO OTHER SITE HAS THESE KIND OF SELFISH EGOISTIC MEN WHO SEE WOMEN AS PIECE OF MEAT- SPEAKS VOLUMES DOESNT IT?

AND CUD U JUST FUCK OFF WITH UR DUMB 'WE R WITH U' SHIT. I DUN WANT ANYONE, I CAN QUITE HAPPILY SURIVIVE WITH WHAT I AM - IT'S U AND ITCC WHO HIDES BEHIND MUM'S PALLU WHO NEEDS SOMEONE to SURVIVE - NOT ME!


Keshi.

:) said...

hey gorgeous good morning...
hows u...
huggzzzzzzz

:)

Keshi said...

Hey Pari muahhh! Hows ya?

Keshi.

Keshi said...

TO ALL THE INDIAN MEN WHO GOT OFFENDED BY THIS POST (ESPECIALLY SABY AND ITCC) :

TOO BAD - IT MUST BE SELF-DENIAL. YOU ARE WHAT YOU TRY TO DENY. SO GO GET A REALITY CHECK BEFORE U EXPLODE FROM UR BIG FAT MALE EGO. BLURTING OUT OBSCENE COMMENTS AT WOMEN PROVED WHAT YOU REALLY ARE AND THANKS FOR BEING SOILD PROOF TO MY POST.




TO ALL THE INDIAN MEN WHO WERE SPORTS(PUNEET, Z000NIE, FIRA, SOUTH, AVIK, DEIPS, VIVHYD ETC) :

THANKS FOR BEING TRUE GENTLEMEN EVEN IF YOU DIDNT AGREE WITH ME. YOU WERE COURAGEOUS ENOUGH TO PUT ACROSS WHAT YOU FELT AND STAND BY FOR WHAT YOU BELIEVED - YOU DID THAT IN A GRACEFUL MANNER TOO. I SAID CRITICISM WAS INVITED AND YOU DID IT IN GREAT STYLE. THANK YOU. YOUR PARENTS RAISED YOU WELL. YOU GUYS ARE THE GREAT INDIAN MEN I WAS REFERRING TO :)



TO ALL THE INDIAN WOMEN WHO TOOK PART:

THANKS FOR STANDING UP FOR WHAT YOU BELIEVED. YOU GIRLS ARE A STRONG LOT AND YOU HAVE YOUR EYES OPEN AND THATS WHY SOME INDIAN MEN HERE DIDNT LIKE WHAT YOU SAID. DONT LET ANYONE TELL YOU YOU'RE UNPATRIOTIC COS YOU ARE NOT THAT - JUST THAT THEY DON'T SEE THE DIFFERENCE. YOU ARE EDUCATED, INFORMED AND WELL AWARE OF WHAT'S HAPPENING AROUND YOU - AND THE KIND OF INDIAN MEN I WAS TALKING ABOUT, JUST CANT STAND SUCH WOMEN. THANKS FOR TAKING PART BRAVELY AND YOU GO GIRLS! :)

Keshi.

Unknown said...

goooood morningggggg kaysheeee :)

Unknown said...

lol I agree with ur point btw. I just wanted to say that not only Indian men bash their wives up. Have you seen the latest ads on TV?? on men talking bout harassing and abusing their wives/gfs??

I guess it happens everywhere, however, most of the points I agree with esp the being stingy bit :)

Keshi said...

lol nv hey ur bakk great!

yes I agree that NOT ONLY the Indian men do this...but if u take 10 average White men and 10 average Indian men, the tendency of the Indian men to abuse their women (both physically and emotionally) is much higher than the Whites men's. Whether u like it or not NV it's a fact...I have read stats.

Anyways thanks for the input and the stingy bit lol yess...so true!!

Keshi.

Enchanted Mind said...

Well, I'm not arguing against the post....but use of the pic doesnt feel right to me bcos I dont understand what u wanted to convey... It is not wise of you to post a pic of an old man like that.....Wont be much longer when you will be old. Seems like you got to learn that....Well, u may have conveyed something else by that pic, but I do not understand, but I feel that was not a right thing to do !!!

Unknown said...

Yeh but your forgetting that THOSE Indian men lack proper education and still live in the ancient era.

I think if those Indian men got the same education and upbeing as the white man, then it'll be a whole different story.

For girls who think that ALL men are like the ones kayshe mentioned, all I wana ask is...

DAYUM WHAT COUNTRY ARE YA LIVING IN??

Dun you girls think your generalising a bit too much there??

Unknown said...

check your mail.

Keshi said...

NV I agree...most of em r uneducated and uncivilised...

** THOSE Indian men lack proper education and still live in the ancient era.

but not all of THOSE men are uneducated either...cos I know a whole lot of educated Indian men who cant break the ego...trust me!!

Yeah ALL men are not like this...there are some fantastic men out there who deserves the best...and NV is one such diginified man :)

Keshi.

Keshi said...

Phantom WC and thanks.

I have nothing againt old people. In fact I love them more than the immature youngsters :) You will never know the way I respect and luv my granma...ur only seeing a post of mine here and u jump to conclusions.

First of all did u read the post from top to bottom? Maybe u should. Just dont judge a book by it's cover. The last line explains what your asking...it's an asnwer to ur Q. So read that and then comment ur opinion.

Just incase u dun have time to read it, here's what the pic portrayed:

I was trying to tell today's Indian man to shed the 'old' opinions that's ruling them and their women...hence I put that pic there NOT to laugh at old people, but to say that whoever who's old in their thinking has a man like that in them...that's all that I meant, nothing else.

Keshi.

Jim said...

TO ALL THE INDIAN MEN WHO GOT OFFENDED BY THIS POST (ESPECIALLY SABY AND ITCC) :


i read the apology
it wasnt enuff Kesh

u must kiss ASS
mine and ITCC's
and the whole damn Indian Nation

Sorry is a bull shit Western word
u gott KARMA

Jim said...

nutting.
he looks at ROHIT in a vew light NOW

Keshi said...

Saby ur the one who's kissing ur culture's ass too much...better stop it before it kicks ur ass.

Keshi.

Keshi said...

U know wut I aint gonna say sorry becos u dun deserve it. Ur really selfish like B&B said and u r totally headstrong and egoistic...u dont think anyone else is reasonable u always ramble on abt U U n U...how much u hurt Justin when he wasnt even saying anything to u? How much u laughed at yanks and other cultures?? U think ur culture has taught u anythung then??

GIMME A BREAK!
Keshi.

Keshi said...

anything**

Rahul said...

I dont know if this is gonna get noticed in all this deluge of comments, but it is premature to attribute all those negatives to the Indian y-chromosome without a control experiment. The Indian man has historically had a controlling influence over the woman of the household. When that has rightfully eroded away in recent times, some, rather many of them cannot take it or live with the new regime. But, the same has happened at different stages in other cultures too. In India, women's emancipation is quite recent, and there is still a large constituency of the female population still chained to the whims of the male leader of the household, which means men in India still can get away with such an attitude. But, the clinching point before making the generalisation to the "typical" Indian man would be an examples of Indian men who live in more gender sensitive societies and who have been attuned to the delicate balancing act of chivalry and gender equality that popular culture today expects. Although i dont have proof either, iam willing to bet that given the same level of gender parity existing in sociey, Indian men are no worse than their foreign counterparts in carrying a grudge against successful women.
Before women became economically free anywhere, the same atrocities were committed in all cultures. In the progressive societies that you compare India with, men have not given up the upper hand that they had in the household with will, rather the progressive woman has earned it with her economic and social independence. She made it impossible for such neanderthals to survive with their anachronistic attitudes. This is not to put the onus for change on the woman, iam sure all the fault lies only with the perpetrators; but generalisation without sufficient data into the genetic stock of a community is foolhardy.
On a lighter vein, my experience suggests that Indian women consider men who dont do any of what you suggest as effeminate, whatsay??

Keshi said...

Hi Rahul WC and thanks for ur comment and the cordial approach to this post being an Indian urself :)

**but it is premature to attribute all those negatives to the Indian y-chromosome without a control experiment


I didnt really say that ALL those qualities soully belong to Indian men. Thats the point Im trying to get everyone to understand. Im sure ALL men of ALL cultures have some or ALL of these qualities too, but these are MORE familiar in an Indian male's psyche (if u keep a random Indian and White man together who would approve of more freedom to women?)


**but generalisation without sufficient data into the genetic stock of a community is foolhardy

we really dont need pinned up stats to point out that the typical Indian man has an upper hand in the household and his wife, do we? :):) U urself agreed to that even tho the trend maybe changing.


**Indian women consider men who dont do any of what you suggest as effeminate, whatsay??

Did u read most of the Indian women's replies up here? They hated every bit of the trait and they DO believe most Indian men have it. Well Im not saying so the Indian Man is doomed for good but we need to bring it to light, face to face, not be afraid of talkin abt such things...and the most imp thing is not to be offended by it :)

Thanks for ur comment...it was a pleasure reading it Rahul.

Keshi.

Enchanted Mind said...

Ah, shd have seen the metaphor.....
Sorry. But as I said, I didnt feel that pic was right because I didnt understand it...Perceptions and everyone has their own I guess !!

Enchanted Mind said...

Ah, this just caught my eye

"Did u read most of the Indian women's replies up here? They hated every bit of the trait and they DO believe most Indian men have it. "

Well, I assume all these ladies out here will pick a guy who are NOT the COMMON INDIAN MAN u r speaking about. And I seriously wish them Happy life ahead. But that means there is quite a number of guys who dont fit in that category. Or if they indeed end up with such a COMMON INDIAN MAN, its a compromise they made in their life. So, what should we say then?

I wanted to stay away from this post not because I'm self denying myself of facts or anything......I dont believe in generalising like this....and that doesnt mean I dont appreciate people putting it across the table to discuss.....

Enchanted Mind said...

BTW forgot to mention that I DID read the post top to bottom including all the comments.

Keshi said...

ok Phantom thanks :)

**I dont believe in generalising like this....and that doesnt mean I dont appreciate people putting it across the table to discuss.....

Generalising isnt a wrong thing to do...it's sometimes quite logical to do so just by experience and study - and in this case, by being born into such a culture and living in a Western country, it gets more obvious. But I respect ur wish not to comment on the topic alone.

Thanks for dropping by.
Keshi.

Tarun said...

Quite interesting, Nobody is perfect, Everyone has some positive and negative aspects or points, it doesn't matter what their sex is. Still I don't know if there is any one who has all these or these kind of attitude. If you feel most of the Indian men like this then it's because of kind of society they live, from their childhood what they see in and around themselves it depicts when they grow old. If some moves to other society or country then there is very few chances they will adopt this kind of behaviour. Same is true for other sex too. But main problem is not what you mentioned, Main problem is even after knowing this or that thing is wrong they don't change with the time. That's the thing which most irritated me and that's true for both sex. That's how I feel and experienced in my life. BTW, Thanks to you, you didn't say it's the definition of Indian men otherwise I would be in trouble because not even a single point fit into me ;)

Enchanted Mind said...

Generalising from observations and generalising from a study are different.
I think you are doing the former not the latter !!!(its my personal opinion though)
BTW, the former has a lot of personal convictions attached to it, the latter does not....its objective.

Keshi said...

Tarun heyy :)

**Main problem is even after knowing this or that thing is wrong they don't change with the time.

True! very very true and thats what I mean too..even in this new era, most Indian men dun change...u should see even in Aus some Indians tho they wear Billabong shorts and surf ard, they r stone-age in their thinking!

But ofocurse there are MILLIONS of GREAT Indian men too..I did not say they are ALL bad...and like u say bothe women and men have these traits...but when u look at some of these specific traits, they r so familiar to Indian men...thats what I wanted to point out...

Ceratinly u r one of the distinguished Indian men Tarun, no doubt abt it ;-)

Keshi.

Keshi said...

Phantom ok mebbe my generalisation was based on my experience and observation :) But in this case how accurate would the 'experience' be compared to a 'study' on Indian men? What kid of study will really accurately go inside an Indian home and observe and Indian man from day to day?? It's simply not possible and even if they did that, it will be pinned up fake results...;-)

Keshi.

Keshi said...

**kind

Keshi said...

lol Niki hehe...glad u enjoyed this :) Do come back when u have time...tata!

Keshi.

Vinz said...

Keshi,

**I believe most Indian men are selfish

May I modify it..All human beings are selfish

**I have witnessed most Indian men treat women like sex toys

very true..The very concept of SEX is distirted by men race. I pity myself being a man for that reason...Its sheer due to their dominant nature..Man was creatd wit more power and they did utilize that feature and exploited woman's emotions and gentleness..

But lwet me tell you..Somewhere some girls do lack morality and there is the havoc..Some girls who turns whores or pro's turn the total image of a woman..

But i dont think those men who understand the sacredness of womanhood,the one who beared the pain of bringing them to this world, will view them as mere sex toys..Am happy most of my friends and many others view point are changing..


**When it comes to marriage, many Indian men want a profesionally qualified and very fair virgin ofcourse.

Hmm...I cant help agreeing wit u keshi....I have seen many men doing this..But,its changing..The attitude is changing dramatically,i wud say..

And for that none other than women have to be strong..Then i assure you,there will be men who will support you...

I do agree men whom women adore is in modicum,but i assure you those who are, makes the whole womanhood feel their value.They do care for that...

Cheers

eismcsquare said...

in other words, simply MCP. right?

Keshi said...

Vinu heyy hows ya? Long time...

**May I modify it..All human beings are selfish

I know we all have selfishness inside of us...but in this post I wanted to say that Indian men r more selfish than the rest...I truly believe in that cos I have known many Indian men and I have known many other men too...it could be just the experience I have known and I know I cant generalise based on that...but just by looking at how they treat women, u could saythey fall into the higher selfish category more than the rest...but this in anyway does not mean that ALL Indian men r selfish...only the majority...u fall in the great minority Vinu :)


**Man was creatd wit more power and they did utilize that feature and exploited woman's emotions and gentleness

with physical power maybe :) but women r emotionally stronger than me...



Yes it's great that the trend is changing and the Indian man is becoming more liberal...I have alot of Indian guy friends who r proving this and I really adore them for being real MEN :)

Thanks Vinu!
Keshi.

Keshi said...

Hey Squared whats MCP?

Keshi.

Neel Arurkar said...

Keshi, an Indian man just liked your post :-)
By the way, MCP = Male Chauvinist Pig

Keshi said...

Neel WC and thanks!

**Keshi, an Indian man just liked your post :-)

wow Im stoked ;-) Not many Indian men liked me after this post lol! But I know there r distinguished Indian men who knows what Im talkin abt...thanks Neel. U r one of those few great Indian men out there...the classy ones ;-)

Keshi.

Keshi said...

btw thanks Neel for the clarification (MCP) lol!

Keshi.