tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8476566.post111700335685043926..comments2024-03-06T19:41:23.682+11:00Comments on Viva forever...: Convenience MarriageKeshihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17147250771662427208noreply@blogger.comBlogger26125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8476566.post-1117117401042065512005-05-27T00:53:00.000+10:302005-05-27T00:53:00.000+10:30Rohittttttt,ur being taken for a rideRohittttttt,<BR/>ur being taken for a rideJimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09793792829148051260noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8476566.post-1117100274793457352005-05-26T20:07:00.000+10:302005-05-26T20:07:00.000+10:30I shall not comment more on this subject except th...I shall not comment more on this subject except than qouting this humorous poem of a famous German poet, Heinrich Heine.<BR/><BR/>After our wedding day<BR/>all will envy you,<BR/>for you can loaf and you can play,<BR/>with nothing else to do.<BR/><BR/>And when you scold and when you curse<BR/>I shall keep still, of course;<BR/>but if you do not praise my verse,<BR/>I shall get a divorce.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8476566.post-1117098991135355292005-05-26T19:46:00.000+10:302005-05-26T19:46:00.000+10:30tanku saby :)yep hes O-n-l-y mine:)kesh-i dun thin...tanku saby :)yep hes O-n-l-y mine:)<BR/><BR/>kesh-i dun think ppl always start relationships thinkin that they r gonna get married... most of d relationships.. once u knw that person n everythin.. its only then u feel d need to marry...so in dat case..they dint fall in love to get married...soo this line<BR/>"wonder if two people would fully trust each other and love unconditionally if there was no such thing as marriage".....in marriages(unless arranged) they fall in love first n den get married...so yes ppl can fall in love,and love each other..without actully bein married..i guess lol--pearl--https://www.blogger.com/profile/07783896595198118243noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8476566.post-1117091798000540182005-05-26T17:46:00.000+10:302005-05-26T17:46:00.000+10:30Marriage is legalised prostitution.Marriage is legalised prostitution.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8476566.post-1117091399811425432005-05-26T17:39:00.000+10:302005-05-26T17:39:00.000+10:30there are only 2 kingdoms for living beingsanimal ...there are only 2 kingdoms for living beings<BR/>animal kingdom and<BR/>vegetable kingdom<BR/><BR/>fruits and vegetables dont need a sexual partner to procreate<BR/><BR/>Man (and wooman) is a virile animal<BR/>and sex is a basic need<BR/><BR/>the catlik padres have to take oath of celibacy and see wat happened in USA !<BR/><BR/>it happens in India too but it dont get publicizedJimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09793792829148051260noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8476566.post-1117090300126517232005-05-26T17:21:00.000+10:302005-05-26T17:21:00.000+10:30the satisfaction of* animal appetiten few other sp...the satisfaction of* animal appetite<BR/><BR/>n few other spell errors..Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8476566.post-1117090177875683112005-05-26T17:19:00.000+10:302005-05-26T17:19:00.000+10:30well... me is too young for a placing my views her...well... me is too young for a placing my views here...bt plagiarizm is my potency!...n one more thing i wud like to add is...one should not use most-confusing-unstrctured-very general-word-called-luv...in any type of debate...in order to minimize the confusion.<BR/>.--- so ..here i go...<BR/>Aim at seven things in marriage;<BR/>All the rest you may isparage;<BR/>Get money,good looks,<BR/>And knowledge of books,<BR/>good family,youth,<BR/>Position and truth.<BR/><BR/>- Panchtantra.<BR/><BR/>you must unlearn the leson if you have learnt it before ,that marriage is for the satisfaction og animal appetite (Read convenience here) .MK GANDHI * i guess.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8476566.post-1117088495586941742005-05-26T16:51:00.000+10:302005-05-26T16:51:00.000+10:30most marriages in india are child marriagesthe woo...most marriages in india are child marriages<BR/><BR/>the wooman is just barely out of school<BR/><BR/>and she is engaged and married off<BR/>and soon starts littering <BR/><BR/>it happened dis way wid my parents tooJimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09793792829148051260noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8476566.post-1117087816992792352005-05-26T16:40:00.000+10:302005-05-26T16:40:00.000+10:30And hey all,I have enabled Anonymous comments as f...And hey all,<BR/><BR/>I have enabled Anonymous comments as few of my friends who would like to comment without their IDs requested me to do so. So please no abuses.<BR/><BR/>Thanks!<BR/>Keshi.Keshihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17147250771662427208noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8476566.post-1117087717990454612005-05-26T16:38:00.001+10:302005-05-26T16:38:00.001+10:30hehe Jan hugggz! Yep I agree with ya...no r'ship i...hehe Jan hugggz! Yep I agree with ya...no r'ship is 100% perfectbut the marriage papers add to that imperfection. n abt nv...hmm he's too sensitive these days...Id let him be kesh-free for a while :) prolly he had enuff of Keshi humor.<BR/><BR/>no comments chaozz?? aww I thought u r the most matrimonial guy on IT lol!<BR/><BR/>hey anonymous 2:44pm I agree with ya...marriage has a 'social' acceptance but why do we care so much about the 'society'...that's the crux of tangible expectations....thats what we worry so much about. Most Indian couples like to show happy faces to the world while they come homw and trash each other - happy face is because of the 'expectation' of the society for u to be happy in ur marriage. but u know Im totally pro-marriage :) I dun seriously encourage living together...atleast its not something my family would appreciate. But I dun see anything wrong in that either...its just like marriage without the legal implications, isnt it?<BR/><BR/>Keshi.Keshihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17147250771662427208noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8476566.post-1117086555993878892005-05-26T16:19:00.000+10:302005-05-26T16:19:00.000+10:30quote 'i believe so'unquoteannony mouse why u hide...quote 'i believe so'unquote<BR/><BR/>annony mouse why u hide?<BR/>who ru ?<BR/><BR/>its OK not to be cool!Jimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09793792829148051260noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8476566.post-1117080890169823412005-05-26T14:44:00.000+10:302005-05-26T14:44:00.000+10:30Saby seems to believe more in living together stu...Saby seems to believe more in living together stuff. Marriage has a greater social acceptance in comparison to live together relationships. Many marriages are forced on the couples, or with little consent on the persons, in traditional indian societies. That does not mean people become mute spectators to the drama unfolding in the marital relationship, they are not victims, nor they are the culprits, incompatibility happens in every relationship. Since when we are alike? <BR/><BR/>Marriage does not limit your freedom to fall in love, if you call changing your partner like opening up a new bottle of whiskey, love, then you may disagree with me. Marriage is essentially a meeting up of two minds, when they disagree, that does not result in a divorce or a split, cause of the societal restrictions put on you, may be kids, financial security.<BR/><BR/>You are always free to make a range of choices in any cirm-cumstance, I believe so. Marriage is no different. Marriage is a convenient place to make few choices, regardless of the love element, how haphazard those choices might be, how fragile they might be.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8476566.post-1117080569604223102005-05-26T14:39:00.000+10:302005-05-26T14:39:00.000+10:30heyyyy Jan,watch it!u mite get a hard knock on the...heyyyy Jan,<BR/>watch it!<BR/>u mite get a hard knock on the head from Pearl<BR/><BR/>its not fair, u gott Chris<BR/>now u trying for xtramarital wid RohitJimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09793792829148051260noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8476566.post-1117078364142757362005-05-26T14:02:00.000+10:302005-05-26T14:02:00.000+10:30no commentsno commentsAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8476566.post-1117078005064935432005-05-26T13:56:00.000+10:302005-05-26T13:56:00.000+10:30my parents didbt it was tuff for demand meas a chi...my parents did<BR/><BR/>bt it was tuff for dem<BR/>and me<BR/><BR/>as a child, u end up taking sides<BR/>i hated my mom, i tot my dad was the victim<BR/><BR/>much, much laterrr<BR/>i understood<BR/>mom was not to blame<BR/><BR/>it was just incompatibility<BR/>they shudnt have gotten married in the first placeJimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09793792829148051260noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8476566.post-1117072109807979112005-05-26T12:18:00.000+10:302005-05-26T12:18:00.000+10:30anonymous 7:16pm I agree with you. however my poin...anonymous 7:16pm I agree with you. however my point was that if not for the 'legal' documents the two sign on their wedding day, would not their love for each other exist? Are you saying that they try hard to stick together because of 'legal' implications? If so, marriage is just like any other business bond.<BR/><BR/>Saby I totally agree with you. ~~Law cannot enforce fidelity, love or trust~~ 100% correct!<BR/><BR/>Stud where the hell are you going saying good-bye n all? come bak :)<BR/><BR/>Miranda that's what I mean. Whether married or not people separate...but when married people feel more obliged and more strained about their 'responsibilities'. And I believe that love and trust isnt about that at all. Hope ur happy now Mirrz whoever u r with right now :)<BR/><BR/>Tanvi sweety i did not mean I dont believe in love :) What I meant was that people 'expect' too much when they get married...expect to be taken care of, expect to be loved back, expect to acquire belongings if in dispute etc etc only because of the 'treaty' thats signed. Now dont get me wrong, I know there are people who are NOT like this at all...they are happily married without taking each other for granted...but there are alot of others who dont have a 'natural' sense for what love and marriage is. You are right, some people will truly love each other forever, even if marriage does not exist. <BR/><BR/>Pithaly I agree...u seem to know it all :) <BR/>~~And if there is no security, then "time" does not enter the picture. If time does not enter the picture, then love is dynamic~~<BR/>Love that bit!<BR/><BR/>Tanvi what Pithaly means is that people uncosciously DO 'expect' security when they love someone and that security is intensified in expectation when getting married...if u know what I mean :) And thats now what 'love' is...<BR/><BR/>loll nv let me tell pearly...wait :)<BR/><BR/>Living in Aus and coming from a conservative family background, I can see why most of Indian marriages are not open and happy ones...basically these people 'put up' with each other for the sake of marriage and society. Now dont come crashing down on me lollz...there are happy ones too. But alot of people are just 'surviving' the marriage.<BR/><BR/>Keshi.Keshihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17147250771662427208noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8476566.post-1117070310037109102005-05-26T11:48:00.000+10:302005-05-26T11:48:00.000+10:30why get married at all??? lolwhy get married at all??? lolDay Dreamerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10841176752009863172noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8476566.post-1117059920064949682005-05-26T08:55:00.000+10:302005-05-26T08:55:00.000+10:30Tanvi u r a kid , a 16 yr oldie to talk about marr...Tanvi u r a kid , a 16 yr oldie to talk about marriage ..go n study!!!!!!!!!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8476566.post-1117058569221960542005-05-26T08:32:00.000+10:302005-05-26T08:32:00.000+10:30pithaly..we dun love to seek security..u dun start...pithaly..we dun love to seek security..u dun start loving a person knowing that they're gonna love u back...security is just something that u get by love..but not everyone intentionally wantz security wen they actually want love..Tanvihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03788891273387639713noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8476566.post-1117048870231759042005-05-26T05:51:00.000+10:302005-05-26T05:51:00.000+10:30i kinda do believe in love n i dun think ppl marry...i kinda do believe in love n i dun think ppl marry cuz of the convenience...maybe some but not all..we kinda do it indirectly because if we love the person then we noe that they will be around to take care of us...n maybe realizin that makes us love them even more..n i think people would still love each other that much if there was no such thing as marriage...<BR/>but then again..thatz juz meTanvihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03788891273387639713noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8476566.post-1117038483799973772005-05-26T02:58:00.000+10:302005-05-26T02:58:00.000+10:30It is sad. I got married young, I was with him for...It is sad. I got married young, I was with him for half my life. Its been 3 years now and we cant even be in the same room together. funny how we shared so much, and it only took a few ill words to tear it apart.Miahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04627424780088354460noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8476566.post-1117031588425030402005-05-26T01:03:00.000+10:302005-05-26T01:03:00.000+10:30Goodbye Keshi babesterness and all blogmates :)Goodbye Keshi babesterness and all blogmates :)Studhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05037553646577166326noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8476566.post-1117017052085249082005-05-25T21:00:00.000+10:302005-05-25T21:00:00.000+10:30Pssssst! Dlak,the racial discrimination is on the ...Pssssst! Dlak,<BR/>the racial discrimination is on the previous blogg u assJimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09793792829148051260noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8476566.post-1117013884995639592005-05-25T20:08:00.000+10:302005-05-25T20:08:00.000+10:30I believe I will have another whisky/diet coke.I believe I will have another whisky/diet coke.DLAKhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05164488006316517005noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8476566.post-1117013351439480142005-05-25T19:59:00.000+10:302005-05-25T19:59:00.000+10:30i dont tink mice shud be permitted to take part in...i dont tink mice shud be permitted to take part in dis debate<BR/><BR/>Legal marriage is an out moded institution<BR/><BR/>law cannot enforce fidelity, love or trust<BR/><BR/>legal marriage is required only for pre-empting property disputes of heirs and succession rights<BR/><BR/>and to prevent manipulation of woomen<BR/><BR/>now wih empowerment of woomen<BR/>woomen dont want legal marriage either<BR/><BR/>and by nature men and woomen want more than one sexual partner<BR/><BR/>nature wants it dat way<BR/>we are programmed to procreate and propagate the species<BR/><BR/>Pithaly has done a doctorate on dis subject<BR/>i learned from himJimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09793792829148051260noreply@blogger.com