Of Givers and Takers

I always thought that there are 3 kinds of people...those who give and take, those who only give and those who only take.

If you are someone who gives and takes (I don't mean giving a punch to your friend and taking his iPod :), then you're a winner. 'Cos you got to give in order to receive, simple as that. By that I don't mean that you threaten or force people to be there for you in return for your favors (like this cute kitten is doing lol!). It simply means maintaning a healthy balance in offering and receiving true friendship. I don't mean to portary myself as a saint but I do give alot and I take too...but not alot. Simply because I don't expect too much from friends...except for one thing...a good heart. And I have received that from few precious people in this life. So yeah, in that sense I'm a smiling winner cos...I give...and I take...I mean receive :)

If you are in the second category, beware people will walk all over you till your heart is super flat and abused like the rug I threw away yesterday. It's a very beautiful feeling to give...especially to those in need, be it emotionally or not...but hey not in a way that it ridicules yourself...your sense of worth and pride. Think about it this way...if you are always there for your friend in both good and bad times, and if suddenly a rough times hits you, and you find that your friend is nowhere close to your suburb, what would you feel? So very let down, hurt and stupid. And you realise that all the while, you have been a giver and not really received anything in return. Actually the worst part isn't not receiving anything, but not having that friend around to atleast listen to your troubles. So don't let that happen to you. Have some pride left in you so that people don't treat you like a door-mat. Best way to know your limit is by giving everyone a first or even a second chance if they are worth it...then you can decide.

What if you are in the third category...oh my God, you are just a taker! Remember that friend who left town when you were in trouble? Well you are no different than him/her now :) I have never played strictly-taker, but I have come across pure takers. And now I'm so sure that I don't have anything to give them unless they have something to give me (no Im not expecting, just being fair to myself). So if someone stood by you in both good and bad times, you better not be calling the removalists when that friend is in trouble. Stick around for your friend...if you cant do that, well then cancel your membership from the strictly-hogs club.

Guys you got to give a little...take a little...happy weekend all!