You know what I hate...when I'm misunderstood. Why can't someone just accept me without adding all the unnecessary equations into my life? I need a man, but why? I don't need this in my life. Quite frankly I have made up my mind to remain single for the rest of my life, so hands off me. 'Cos I have been on that slippery cliff called Love before and I don't think I was made for that. So yeah, I'd be an old granny one day, sitting alone inside some old granny flat, knitting the life out of me! And I don't even know how to knit but I'll figure that out when the time comes, so don't bother. Why would that bother you anyways? Why should you be worried that I'm gonna be all alone one day? If I ain't afraid of it, why are you so bothered about it? TO HELL WITH THE SOCIETY! It's claustrophobic when someone crosses my space, it drains my blood when someone asks for something I can't deliver, it's downright manipulative when someone expects me to please them just 'cos God made us with an inbuilt function called desire. Trust me, I find desire boring. I'm not game for that. If you have something different than that plain attraction, show me. If not, just buzz off. It's puke sappy to fall in love just 'cos someone is attractive, I don't believe in that anymore. And it's plain boring to find someone just so that I won't die alone one day. Cos I did the same dumb mistake a couple of times before and it sucked my blood and left me sapped. It left me emotionally handicapped...yes my love right now uses a wheel chair - I cant stand up the way I did before. My love is disabled now 'cos I found it all too artificial and my love isn't something that this calculative world accepted. So let me just die alone some day. I came alone, I lived alone, I fought alone and I'd die alone. I don't need anyone crying any tears for me, I don't need a fancy funeral, I don't need a eulogy with loved-ones' names in it - I don't belong to anyone and I don't want to start owning anyone. Just let me leave with who I was, not with who you wanted me to be. Monday, April 3
Don't bother...
You know what I hate...when I'm misunderstood. Why can't someone just accept me without adding all the unnecessary equations into my life? I need a man, but why? I don't need this in my life. Quite frankly I have made up my mind to remain single for the rest of my life, so hands off me. 'Cos I have been on that slippery cliff called Love before and I don't think I was made for that. So yeah, I'd be an old granny one day, sitting alone inside some old granny flat, knitting the life out of me! And I don't even know how to knit but I'll figure that out when the time comes, so don't bother. Why would that bother you anyways? Why should you be worried that I'm gonna be all alone one day? If I ain't afraid of it, why are you so bothered about it? TO HELL WITH THE SOCIETY! It's claustrophobic when someone crosses my space, it drains my blood when someone asks for something I can't deliver, it's downright manipulative when someone expects me to please them just 'cos God made us with an inbuilt function called desire. Trust me, I find desire boring. I'm not game for that. If you have something different than that plain attraction, show me. If not, just buzz off. It's puke sappy to fall in love just 'cos someone is attractive, I don't believe in that anymore. And it's plain boring to find someone just so that I won't die alone one day. Cos I did the same dumb mistake a couple of times before and it sucked my blood and left me sapped. It left me emotionally handicapped...yes my love right now uses a wheel chair - I cant stand up the way I did before. My love is disabled now 'cos I found it all too artificial and my love isn't something that this calculative world accepted. So let me just die alone some day. I came alone, I lived alone, I fought alone and I'd die alone. I don't need anyone crying any tears for me, I don't need a fancy funeral, I don't need a eulogy with loved-ones' names in it - I don't belong to anyone and I don't want to start owning anyone. Just let me leave with who I was, not with who you wanted me to be.
Just when u firmly decide to stay away from it, u r gonna be flooded with it.
ReplyDelete'Cos I have been on that slippery cliff called Love before and I don't think I was made for that***Tell me who's made for it...
I don't belong to anyone***u do, u r my good friend even though we havent seen each other.
and I don't want to start owning anyone***we dont actually start that, it just happens...
ur post made me forget that stupid thing which has been happening with me off late...lol
Cheer up my friend and have a great day...:)
we live in a world where sex is death and rain is poison, if sex is death and we can't enjoy a nice cool rain any summer day then there is not much left but T.V. and relentless masterbation. - hunter s. thompson.
ReplyDeletegasp!!! tht was some post...seems to be one of those crazy days whn things juss start gettin on one's nerves...sigh!
ReplyDeletewell notin a position to comment rite now cos i mite be actually sharin the same space as u...lol
yeah...who needs love alrite?? esp not one wch is meant to be juss aothr of those "ive got it ...whts the big deal??" things...:)
and dont worry gal,thrs someone up there who is lookin to it..u wot be pushed, u wont be compelled...its only whn u r ready to move on, will u be moved ..:)
*hugzzz*
GOSHHH
ReplyDeleteTrust me, I find desire boring.
ReplyDeleteInteresting post Keshi. Much to think about. Single is a good life. We do enter this world alone and we will leave it alone. Not sure why so many feel they need to live it otherwise--in a "legal way" that is. I'm glad to see you resisting all the bullshit expectations others try to lay at our feet.
Dont make blanket statements
ReplyDeletethere are always 'ifs' and 'buts' and a lotta uncertainties the future holds for u
trust in God and yr destiny
, there is nutting in like u can be sure of .... except rain comes from the clouds
the sun lights up the sky
and humming birds do fly,
-George Benson
as firm as keshi can be :)
ReplyDeletei'll email u from my yahoo acc, my hotmail is not accesible from office :(
=am000nie=
This is one time that im totally speechless and might not have any comments to type my dear...ya know why?? it's because i know that this isnt a mere post and i know exactly what triggered u to write it..
ReplyDeletemaybe all i have to say is..it is your life afterall and no one but you has the right to determine how it is lived honey..
it seems obvious that your previous experiences has inflicted some damage on you..but thru my experience i've seen that there might be a second chance after all...sometimes, when you do not expect it..
i had a cousin who like many other indian professionals had her dream marraige to a US-based indian..one year down the road, she had a horrible marraige and divorced him and came bk to her home in india..depressed thinking that her life was over..she was past 30 then( i think)..she was also mocked by the society...with god's grace, they managed to get her remarried and now she's really happy..and her hubby...he's one gem of a person....:-)
hope i didnt offend u in any way my dear..its ur choice, and maybe you could just forget the whole episode and live life as u alwiz did..with a smile on ur face and ur kick-ass attitude...
:-)
ReplyDeletekeshi firstly huggss to u!
As i see it girl its just a phase!...for most of my life I was"Why the hell do i need a guy" and "I am soo much happier alone"...
But I guess its when these things happen when ur not looking for them..kinda like serendipity!...The best way to handle this is not think about it...coz I believe U can never "get" a guy for urself..they just happen to come to u...at the right time..
hats off to you girl...
ReplyDeleteme bowing down my head to you
completely agree with what ekta has said.
ReplyDelete*Hugs*
ReplyDeleteit's not easy [why not? read the last line at last] but try the following steps:-
ReplyDelete1. get some clothes on, it's too cold outside to be in all those rags :p
2. get out of the house
3. take a walk [it would be warming]
4. spot a pharmacy
5. ask the chemist for a chill-pill in hushed voice
6. put is inside your pocket and get out
7. spot a coke vendor
8. buy a coke
9. pop the pill along with chilled coke
10. mast ho ja
:D:D:D ;)
it is not easy, becuz chemists don't sell chill-pills to extra-kewl ppl ;)
:D
and hey, take care yaar
i agree
ReplyDeletewid the talking tree
Dear Keshi,
ReplyDeleteYou are the right person to decide for yourself. No one has the right to cross your space.
I respect you heaps. Be well.
*** I don't need anyone crying any tears for me,
ReplyDeletehow the hell u can be so selfish ...
am angry with u ...
i will be bk am BZ now .... u tc have a nice day.....
~~South
ReplyDelete**Tell me who's made for it...
A few sappy love birds and I aint one...I really really aint one. I wanna live my life alone...South trust me, it's the best medicine for me...
~~White_Devil
hmmmm :(
~~Pri
yeah who needs love when all t can do is bring unnecessary load into ur life...
Is anyone watching over me? Guess He's laughing at me at all times then...
~~Saby
**there is nutting in like u can be sure of .... except rain comes from the clouds
I know..and thats all I know.
~~Amutha
yep Im so sure of what I said..I wanna be alone...
~~Tre
**Not sure why so many feel they need to live it otherwise--in a "legal way" that is
Apparently it's an obligation!
~~Praveen
**it seems obvious that your previous experiences has inflicted some damage on you
true...and na I cant be bothered going thru it all again...besides I know that it's not what I want.
thanks for ur Cuzn's story...Im so glad for her. But ur cuzn wanted someone in her life...unlike me. U know what I mean...na u didnt hurt my feelings dear, u never do...
~~Ekta
**But I guess its when these things happen when ur not looking for them..kinda like serendipity
true but it looks like my destiny is being alone...Im so sure of it.
~~Sophia
I honestly dun think that I need a man to validate my existence...
~~Jewel_Rays
hugggggggz n ty!
~~Elisa
I wish ur daughter the best! Looks like she needs to find out for herslef...let her be and one day she will find out.
**we should have that time alone, so we can enjoy what we want out of life, and try to find ourselves.
true...and I think Im finding out early that this is what I want...to be alone. I dun need a guy to complete my life.
~~Burf
**get some clothes on, it's too cold outside to be in all those rags
:):) u made me laugh! Well I aint in any rags cos it's nearly Winter here and damn cold lol!
coke n chill pills? hmm seems like a lethal combination - thanks mate :)
Thanks all...sorry to spoil any of ur moods..
Keshi.
~~Pradeep.K
ReplyDeletehey Pradeep thanks so much! Ur a gem of a person with a beautiful heart...
~~Uttara
Uttsy u think Im selfish but why? Arent the ppl who want me to find someone soon to settle down the real selfish ones?
Keshi.
I think there has been a off late pressure?.. Well... its your life to decide out.. and none can cross that!!.. When you find the man with whom you can live.. other than physical attraction.. wherein you can share things out!.. spend time other and have fun!!.. Take care and have a great day!!!
ReplyDeleteGuys go ahead...be honest with ur comments..if u think Im being very selfish etc, plz say so...I so wanna know if Im right or worng...
ReplyDeleteKeshi.
Wow.. Keshi... are u serious?? U wanna be single forever? Well..
ReplyDeleteIf thats the case, then I should introduce u to one of my girl friends. She doesn't believe in love even though she never loved before. She loves money.. thats wat I can say. She is very hardworking... always work to earn money. She prefer to be single as she thinks there is no guy in this world who will be able to tolerate all her attitudes and characteristics. She believe in fate and her fate is to be single which she is very happy with it.
~~Sujit
ReplyDeletethanks mate...just that I dun want any love anymore...
Keshi.
Previous post comments: Well.. I can't imagine myself to the hottest guy over because I love nature so so much and try to creative something out of it!!.. I just love nature.. and when i see something.. which can be just a new grass sapling.. i feel happy.. thats all..
ReplyDelete***I don't belong to anyone
ReplyDeleteNEITHER ME ?????????
:(:(:(
u knw na wateva happens am here for u .. how can u say all these ... so i said am angry :(
i don wanna comment anything here...
will mail u soon
uttsyyy
SOUTHY
***ur post made me forget that stupid thing which has been happening with me off late...lol
goood .....
nothing else worked but this did :) am happy
uttara
~~Blu3
ReplyDelete**She loves money..
no I dun love that either...I just love being me and it's so hard to even be that with so many manipulative ppl ard..
Keshi.
~~Sujit
ReplyDeletethanks!
Keshi.
you must be what 'you' wanna be, and while doing so you'll surely find some people who think the same way as you do, who'll respect what you are and wouldn't want you to change for them (though you might wanna change a bit for them) ... some of them will be your friends, some of them will be your guide, some of them will be your co-travellers and you'l automatically find one of them who'l be worth falling in love with. and you dont really have to do anything about it.. love will find you when the time comes :o)
ReplyDeleteco cheer up dear Keshi.
loads of love :)
~~Uttara
ReplyDeletehey I dint mean that I dun need any friends..I just dun need any love to make me happy...thats what I meant Uttsy...:*(
Keshi.
~~Amiken
ReplyDeletethanks that is so sweet...but what if I wanna remain alone forever...?
Is that something so bad?
Keshi.
u gotta mail !!!
ReplyDeleteWhy izzit hard?? U knoe she never care wat people think about her. She just be her own.. Sometimes she is cruel in doing something and people kept saying her. She just don't care coz that is she who she is. Being urself is great. Theres no need to worry about it.. do not care what people thinks of u. If u kept thinking like this~~ then... you just won't be urself.
ReplyDeleteFor me, I don't think u are selfish or watever. We all have our different opinion. If u think u don't need love to be happy... then so be it.
Love between a guy and a woman... for me... let it come by itself. If there is this love for me then I'll be happy. If no.. so be it. However, I knoe I cannot not have love from my family and friends without them... I'll be alone which I am scared of.
Are u sure u are going to be alone forever??? What about those who are ur friends and family? Izzit without the love between a guy and a woman is lonely???
Don't worry.... life is a wonderful thing which is full of happiness and hardship. Everything will pay of soon. Maybe one day... ur wish will come true... just Hope.. do not loose faith in this world.
~~Blu3
ReplyDeletethanks..that comment had me crying...ur beautiful!
Keshi.
and na I didnt mean family n friends...I so need them. The kind of love Im talkin abt here is the one between a man and a woman...
ReplyDeleteKeshi.
this is the whole hell of problem i am underwent, going through in my circle. Reason is not slippery of love but i just dont want an instituion that ties my hands and restrict my space around me by the name of sacrife, compromise , give and take.
ReplyDeleteThe fight with my dad in peak now with one of the reason on what you spoke in your post.
Just let me leave with who I am or want me to be , not with who others wanted me to be seen.
Good post - syncornising with my thoughts.
Let us not debate and argue if we are right or wrong. There is no point in that as there is nothing called wrong and nothing called right. It is just a respective term.
BE ALONE TO BE HAPPY
BE HAPPY TO BE ALONE.
If one want to live alone he or she can and will live alone not in heart but to others.
You may still say you live alone but inside you always there will be one some one who will be living with you giving a company.
dont you agree me ?
no staying alone is not bad... if you are sure u'll be happy being alone - not just now, but all your life - you can probably do that.
ReplyDeletebut having said that, having a companion is better than being alone. and ofcourse i dont mean that you must have a companion for the heck of it. a companion in true sense would be a person with whom u'll fall in love without even trying for it :)
and yes Keshi, one important thing - Smile :o)
~~Known_Stranger
ReplyDeleteIm glad u u'stand me...it's like if I choose to be alone, it's such a bad thing?? Our culture, our families, friends think that being alone is such a selfish thing to do..why? I aint dependent on anyone and I dun wish to be...not even for happiness...love is great but when we make it an obligation, we r doing it to just to make us happy...thats more selfish I guess.
like most of u said, let it just come..and if it doesnt, well being alone isnt bad either. It's what makes u happy that matters. And I hate it when ppl look at u so strange just cos u think different.
**You may still say you live alone but inside you always there will be one some one who will be living with you giving a company.
thats so true...company is a state of mind.
ty KS!
Keshi.
~~Amitken
ReplyDeletehey Amit u make so much sense...thanks!
**a companion in true sense would be a person with whom u'll fall in love without even trying for it
thats what I mean too...we cant force ourselves to find a partner then n there...it should just happen and if it doesnt then thats fine too.
Keshi.
Just why do most ppl think that being alone is such a negative thing??
ReplyDeleteKeshi.
Be what you want to be.
ReplyDeleteDon't let anyone to make a choice fro you. :)
~~Aizwaikcha
ReplyDeletehey Thanks Aish!
Keshi.
Marriages are made in heaven
ReplyDeletebut meanwhile lissen to the speaking tree
This shows how much you'r hurt...hugs...
ReplyDeleteYou can be single all the life,but thats not a solution for the problems you encountered....
It's your life, think and decide yourself....don't give space for others to think for you
Cheer up....
Cheers!
:)
~~Saby
ReplyDeleteI didnt get that :(
~~Vishnu
Thanks mate...
**It's your life, think and decide yourself....don't give space for others to think for you
but how can I not cosider loved-ones' thoughts too...that makes me a selfish person then...thats the highest hurdle!
Keshi.
did this one u write for me ......tht's excatly how i feel..n tht's wht i want to shout out too....ley ppl say wht they have to just do ur ownthing...hugzzzzz tcc
ReplyDelete~~Jackal
ReplyDelete**did this one u write for me
I guess most of us Indians face this situation at home...it's like if one decides to be single, they r doomed or something...it's sad they think like that.
Keshi.
Hi Keshi!
ReplyDeleteHope you are feeling better. It's good to let off sometimes. At least you will think better after that.
For myself, I trust my instincts. The first reaction/response is the most primitive one but it is also the one closest to what your heart is saying to you. Your heart knows best.
Whatever decision that needs heaps to justify itself is definitely not the one you are after.
Take your time, if you want to be sure on a decision.
Take care! *Hugs*
Hmmm..seems like it comes right from inside of you.
ReplyDelete***Just let me leave with who I was, not with who you wanted me to be.
They say and I believe in " Hate me for what I am than loving me for what I am not". But It is indeed true that many are alone and wanted be so for the time being.I think its all perspectives about one's life. Live the way you wanna live it mate...:)
Btw thank you very much for your concern. I am alright now...I appreciate a lot...:)
so we always think that we have the power to do anything, the control over our lives, then we realize evrything is just preplanned...but then if there comes a person who can work with us, and another and another, maybe we can overcome that force...
ReplyDeletethat's really sad to know, buddy ...
ReplyDeleteits okay to feel that u can live alone ... be independent ... its ur choice ...
but i personally believe that there is someone out there for everyone ... and love will find a way ... too cliche'? guess so, but i feel its true ...
anyways, love ya buddy! ... hope u have wonderful times ahead .. :)
yell baby yell
ReplyDeleteshout baby shout
get everything out
or it might kill you
and whn its done
U will feel light
and thn eat a tonne
its quite an exuberence :D .
dont spare them
they deserve a yell
hit them hard
so they dont dare ring ur bell ( again )
and smile baby smile
evryone just ran away
you behave like a guerilla
and only m here to stay
dance baby dance
now the floor is all yours
move baby move
now u got enough space
smile baby smile
cause the moments are few
keep smiling . :)
Firstly that is one of my fav songs...i simply luvv it! it's close to my heart for other obvious reasons also...
ReplyDeleteAnd....abt the post...
Hmmmm! U can never ever predict what kind of turn life will take? Can you? NO matter how firm a decision u make there’s no surety that u will end up following it…
So today u may think this is what’s best for u and if that’s what u want right now…so be it!
Fact is, it may sound like just words to you seeing me where I am now…married and wid a family etc etc!...But Keshi if I had to take it so bad every time I went through a heart break….I’d be single for several lifetimes!!!! Trust me I don’t want to sound like I’m just mouthing clichés but this is a phase…and hell u have every right to speak your mind and state ur case…but life has it’s own course…and God has his/her own plans for each one of us…No relationship is widout trials and tribulations…and u just have to have to (!!) live through them keshi…!
And like u said so urself in ur past post…relationships need not be defined within set norms of society…u don’t have to follow a set path do u?... sooooo…keep an open mind and an open heart…coz u never know what lies ahead!!
and that thing abt a guy completing ur life...they don't...but life isn't that bad wen u find sumone to share it with...
and cheer up...u have a lot of ppl who like to c u happy and smilin..and even in that pic of urs (blurred n all)...i can c smiling suits u:)
take a deep breath - n now relax and do whatever u wish - be sarcastic if someone tells u - u should do otherwise ;) *hugz*
ReplyDeletekesh!
ReplyDeletewhy dont u take a break--go partying hard with some dude u dont like at all..and then while dancing make sure u stamp his foot n number of times...drink loads(sloshed totally)...and abuse him loads!
Trust me next day u'll feel better and we'll see a brighter Keshi!-what say!? :-))
Falling in love and marrying (one person only) is an irrational decision
ReplyDeletemeaning, u must be crazy to do so
Whoever provoked you with their words, ask them to go to hell, heaven, wherever they belong. :-) You are the best the way you are. Nothing else really matters.
ReplyDeleteNo doubt, it`s your life. You can live it anyway you want.
ReplyDeleteI think you are going to miss out on some of the best things life has to offer. Love, companionship, raising children ( a little Keshi-how cool), grandchildren ( watching your grandkids run and laugh).
''It is better to have loved and lost , than to never have loved at all''.
I hope you change your mind.
"It's puke sappy to fall in love just 'cos someone is attractive, I don't believe in that anymore. And it's plain boring to find someone just so that I won't die alone one day."
ReplyDeleteI so totally agree with these words Keshi.
I find it soo awkward to c ppl around me deliberately falling in luv...just coz they're afraid 2 b alone. I mean thts gotto b the dumbest thing possible. They're not in luv with the person...but in luv with luv.
Though u can tell the Society to go to hell...but i hope u do realise tht there r still a lot of genuine friends like us here who do care about wht u say and do.
So don't say tht ur alone....i think there r 30 odd people with u at the moment! :)
Cheer up gal!
You are living in Australia, still you have such experiences!? Usually this idea is common in India that women need men.
ReplyDeleteCheer up, girl. You are an intelligent, articulative, brave, young woman and you can conquer this world and don't need anyone's help to accomplish it.
To hell with people who says that we need love and partners and marriage and children and.....
If you belive that we don't need them and don't look for them, you will suddenly see that you are meeting the right person. The moment you say you need them, you won't find him/her.
Keshi, I don't know what brought that out. All I have to say is take your time and do what makes you happy, whether it is on your own or with someone. It's ultimately what gives you peace that matters. *hugz*
ReplyDeleteOh ya don't worry about the world :)
"You know what I hate...when I'm misunderstood. Why can't someone just accept me without adding all the unnecessary equation..."
ReplyDelete"Just let me leave with who I was, not with who you wanted me to be."
OK,I will just say this one thing, 'you have opened my heart and poured my emotions into these beautiful words'...this is one post, I will, atleast, never forget, thanks for writing it...I hope ppl understand it for what it's meant to be...
and by words, I dint mean only those which I put in quotes, but every single word of the post...
ReplyDeleteTO HELL WITH THE SOCIETY!
ReplyDeleteyup
and take it easy..chill
ReplyDeletehmm.. 'He' is going to come! [Un]fortunately very soon!!!
ReplyDeleteArun
Keshi, um...but you're not bitter, right???
ReplyDeletethe self proclaimed KING OF ALL BLOGGERS
ReplyDeletehttp://ddottheking.blogspot.com/
Keshi
u cud proclaim your self QUEEN
Keshi,
ReplyDeleteI hope this is not the "Once Beaten-Twice Shy" Complex.
You did not come alone, you came by a mother and you should be happy to become a mother one fine day.
There is a man for every woman.
Just ask God to give you the right man.
One fine day, you will find true love and you will find true peace.
You are cool.
God bless.
Do what you want to do, live your life your way, no explanations, no apologies - good on ya, Kesh.
ReplyDeletePS When you do move into the granny flat, check in on your neighbours, I'll likely be one of them :-)
just when i thought i was weaving my charm over you ;)..lol
ReplyDeletehey buddy..open d window ..look at d rising sun and smile...for life is still gud even after those slippery falls...and just do whtever makes you happy
keep smilin n grunging..hehe whtever tht means..if it infact means nythin
to hell with the world, to hell with society and to hell with everyone! do what your heart says girl :)
ReplyDeleteCheer up Keshi.. Just when u wud think love wudnt cross ur way.. it will.. Nothing wrong in choosing to be single but u never knw wht fate has in store for u.. Its all down to realisation of that feeling called love.. Untill that u can have ur way
ReplyDeleteDear Keshi...huggggz to u my dear...lots n lots...
ReplyDeleteall I want to tell you with this tight hugggzz is that....its a phase...comes and goes...in life we meet so many people...good bad...but then its life...we do have the opportunity to look at the bright side...rather being negative...its good to let it out...but dont close the doors...!
You will realize how good it is to take care of someone and someone takes care of you....! Think about your Dad...how beautiful world he left behind for your mom...and so many such examples..u will see in your life itself...!
We often get to learn from our own life...our own people...just dont be selfish...there is a reason for your being...n so dont be selfish...just let things happen rather than you deciding upon my dear!!!
My best wishes and prayers for you to get peace n peace...chill n enjoy life's every moment...as gone will never come back...n the one which will be coming will be new to you...so look forward for those beautiful moments...there is always a dawn :)
with love n hugggz to u my dear
cheers
ha ha ... pressure cooker is releasing
ReplyDeletethe longer u fight along, greater the chances for u to succumb later, adrenaline will make you speak today and conceed tomorrow when it fades, playing hard-ball doesn't work for long
just buy time n make it luk like a win-win situation, n keep buy'n time
cheers
what you said is true.
ReplyDeleteIts your life n when you know what you want to do.. then why do we need someone else?
But if you need to pour out your feelings, I say talk to a tree/plant.. that's what I do
nice post.
ReplyDeletehugggz!
you are right society is way too interfering in single peoples lives. it may be more severe in a traditional society like sri lanka than in australia. for some reason some old married ppl have nothing more productive to do than marry all the singles off (in addition to fighting with their spouses and getting embarrassed by their brats). this is one of the reasons i hate family gatherings.
net contribution to the economy from single ppl is alway greater than average since they receive far less services than families. so married ppl should shut up.
i personally don't find desire boring but i do agree 'it's plain boring to find someone just so that I won't die alone one day'.
be yourself and be honest that the only way to live. then if you fall in love you will fall in love , if you want to marry, you will marry, if you want to die alone, you will do so.
you are an angel and deserve great happiness but only on your terms not others. :-)
btw when and if you have learned knitting do give me a call, i intend to prove men can knit better than women in my single old age. :-)
So much love and care from so many people here...I really was in tears when I saw all ur comments this morning. THANK U so much for being there for me, it really means alot!
ReplyDeleteKeshi.
Just be careful that you don't end up one of those crazy old ladies with 1500 cats in their living room. So brighten up, buttercup. Tomorrow is a new day.
ReplyDelete*cheers for her darling* hell yeah!!! *smiles* but i am NOT going anywhere! so, you'll just have to tolerate me my beautiful and bodacious matie.. ;)
ReplyDelete~~Queen_Bee
ReplyDelete**The first reaction/response is the most primitive one but it is also the one closest to what your heart is saying to you.
this line struck a cord. wonderful advice, thanks a ton Queen!
~~Contented
** " Hate me for what I am than loving me for what I am not".
Exactly whaI live by too...ty!
~~Ghost_Particle
** then we realize evrything is just preplanned
I so believe in that...even tho I think I can do what I want, I know that my life is not mine alone either...
~~Anup.777
**and love will find a way ... too cliche'?
yep it's very cliche :):) but it's not that I'm sad that my love life sux...it's cos ppl wont leave me alone...
~~Anuj
hey that was truly sweeet...I was laughing while I read it, thanks alot!
**hit them hard
so they dont dare ring ur bell
lol loved that line hehehe...
~~Ishita
I really luv u girl...u have a way of making me feel so good after each of ur comments...and ur realistic and honest, whether I like it or not :) That's what I like abt ya..ty!
U like this song..well it's one of my favvs too...one day I sat in my car just listening to this again n again on CD...I think when I went home it was abt 1hr later :)
~~Visithra
** be sarcastic if someone tells u - u should do otherwise
aww ur so sweet, thanks for the cute tip girl ;-)
~~Anand
**and then while dancing make sure u stamp his foot n number of times...drink loads(sloshed totally)...and abuse him loads
lol! I need a punching bag right now...and yeah, that guy could be just that :)
~~Saby
I know ur into polygamy...lol!
btw who self-proclaimed who as the hottest blogger? ?? ?? I dun consider myself the HOTTEST at all...I may have a lot of visitors but that doesnt prove a thing abt being HOT...:)
~~Jo
hey thanks Jo, ur very kind.
~~Phred
**Love, companionship, raising children ( a little Keshi-how cool), grandchildren ( watching your grandkids run and laugh).
a junior me would be too much for me to handle..lol!
**''It is better to have loved and lost , than to never have loved at all''.
true...but I have loved and I have lost too...
~~Rebel_on_loose
**They're not in luv with the person...but in luv with luv.
lol thats so true...it's like a fashion/requirement/necessity...I hate it when it's artificial like that.
I know that ppl here care for me alot..I truly know that all of u guys love n care abt me...thats why I tell u all things that I dun even discuss in real life with some of my closest friends even :) ty so much for the encouraging words Rebz, ur so sweet, huggggggz!
~~KL
**You are living in Australia, still you have such experiences!?
hehe KL I live in Aus but I aint a born-Aussie :) U must come here to see how Indians/Sri Lankans live...they still carry the culture even tho I should be glad that my family is a bit more liberal than many.
thanks alot for ur encouragement...hugggggggz ur a sweety!
~~Karmic_Jay
hey Jay thanks so much!
~~Yashita
aww Yash HUGGGGGGGGGGZ! Im so glad at least one of u girls knew exactly how I felt...mebbe u n I r facing a similar situation at the same time...muahhh u tc ok! And Im here for u anytime, just like u were here for me all the time...
~~Niki_Bakshi
**there are a lota ppl who are coming here for ur emotional rescue.
true...so damn true..I think alot of us here need that rescue that we dun get in real...and we receive so much of support here..and thats wonderful!
~~Poison
Poison following Niki...aww :):) Thanks mate!
~~Mr.Maverick
**'He' is going to come! [Un]fortunately very soon!!!
haha how?
~~The_Phoenix
**Keshi, um...but you're not bitter, right???
na not bitter at all :) ty mate!
~~Orikinla_Osinachi
**I hope this is not the "Once Beaten-Twice Shy" Complex.
nope..in that case I have been bitten abt 10 times lol!
Thanks mate...will see what happens with me :)
~~Autumn_Storm
**PS When you do move into the granny flat, check in on your neighbours, I'll likely be one of them
aww Autumn that was one of the sweetest things I ever heard on blog land! MUAHHHHHHH lol I cant imagine u as a granny...I can only imagine u to be the hot scarlett johansson look-alike ;-)
~~Desperado
**just when i thought i was weaving my charm over yo
lol aww na I didnt say I dun like any charm..hehehehe...
**keep grungin
lol I will never stop grungin even after I die :):)
Thanks mate!
~~Neha
ty Neha!!
~~Vivhyd
**Nothing wrong in choosing to be single but u never knw wht fate has in store for u..
true...I will keep that in mind, thanks Viv!
~~Dawn
hey Dawn hugggggggggz back! :)
**Think about your Dad...how beautiful world he left behind for your mom
aww that got me all teary...
**just dont be selfish...there is a reason for your being...n so dont be selfish...just let things happen rather than you deciding upon my dear
thats so true...I cant really have firm decisions like that cos I dun even know what's in store for me...
ty so much, u made perfect sense Dawny..and yep there's ALWAYS a DAWN for me :) muahhhhhhhh!
~~Samy
hey WC and thanks!
u caught me at the pressure-cooker time haha!
**just buy time n make it luk like a win-win situation, n keep buy'n time
ty for ur sound advice!
~~Archie
**But if you need to pour out your feelings, I say talk to a tree/plant.. that's what I do
thats true...I do that sometimes and my mum laughs at me..hehe...but I so believe in talking to the trees and the walls...atleast they dun shout back at me...
ty so much!
~~Sittingnut
heyyy hows u?
**in addition to fighting with their spouses and getting embarrassed by their brats
lolllllll! thats so true...why do my aunts and unles want me married...cos I see em constantly bickering at each other and they want me in the same boat?
**so married ppl should shut up.
hahahaha lollllz that got me laughing so much!!
**btw when and if you have learned knitting do give me a call, i intend to prove men can knit better than women in my single old age
lol hahaha ur so funny mate! TY so much!
Keshi.
hey sorry but i used the same song as you on my blog cause i got that thing to put vedios on your blog and well thats like one of the best songs ever so i hope you do not mind that i also used it
ReplyDelete~~Fuzzbox
ReplyDelete**you don't end up one of those crazy old ladies with 1500 cats in their living room
lol I might just end up being that..but with a puppy or two as well :):)
Ty Fuzzy ur so sweet!
~~Kerry
omggg muahhhhhhhh! Thanks God for KERRY! And dun u go anwyhere okkk!!
~~Suniieee
hey no probs at all :)
hows it going 2day?
Keshi.
Ok, I will not bother.....but now-a-days why such posts...
ReplyDelete~~Tarun
ReplyDelete:) I just wanted to vent out my frustration...and I think I feel good today..ofcourse cos of all of ya, thanks!
Keshi.
My love is disabled now 'cos I found it all too artificial and my love isn't something that this calculative world accepted
ReplyDeleteKeshi, your post is so purely from the heart. It makes me sad to hear you describe yourself as having your love disabled. I hope it is just a lashing out in anger, hurt and/or frustration. I do agree though that no single person alive has the right or authority to judge another. Your life choices are yours to make. It just doesn't matter if this world "accepts" you or not: you are a part of this world just like all of us and as such, just as viable in your right to be whoever you are.
~~Terry
ReplyDeletethanks dear...u always put a smile on my face muahhh!
Dun worry, Im happy :)
Keshi.
Good day keshi...:)
ReplyDeleteReplied that email.
Ty South I replied too :)
ReplyDeleteKeshi.
...sometimes things happened to us,it may be seem horrible,painful and unfair but in reflection we realized that without overcoming those obstacle,we would never realize our potential,strength,will power or heart..
ReplyDelete..don't say you don't need anyone kesh,(i felt hugging you now)*sob* *sob* that's the saddest word i don't wanna hear from you.
..God prepares someone for us esp. for you..the one who will never make you cry anymore..just ask,
He will never deny you..trust Him.
hugss you keshhhhi!
lovelots,
-kathy-
no. i just turn 15 march 7th. but my ex-boyfriend is 16
ReplyDelete~~Lil_Kath
ReplyDeletehey Kath huggggggggz! U hug me anyways :) I know that u guys r here for me always...
**without overcoming those obstacle,we would never realize our potential,strength,will power or heart..
thats such a beautiful thing to say...thanks for ur wisdom, they really opened my eyes...
But u know even if I remain single for the rest of my life, it's not like God denied me...thats prolly what He wanted for me...muahhh!
Keshi.
H i dear ....
ReplyDeleteCouldnt reply till now coz of project deadlines ....
abt the hottest male / female blogger ... well , am unable to fix on a name instantly ...
~~Suniieee
ReplyDeletehey ur only 15? goshh lol!
~~Deepa
hey its ok...:)
hugggggz!
Keshi.
but u know what , once u r on the path called Love ..u get so addicted to it .. that u automatically start searching for it even after u have decided to stop ...
ReplyDeletei dont see nething wrong in living alone , with a dog or two
and i too wanna marry for love , and not for security alone !
tc dear ...
and dont thing abt it too much .. coz the more u think , the worse it gets ...
P.S : the guy was ur friend , kya ?
i know 2 IIM ppls who amrried and got divorced .. they had everything going for them ... parents' support .. everything ... but ...
ReplyDeleteoh my my.... ur pissed with someone... n rightly so!!!
ReplyDeletei hate it when people tell me to do things... hang on... my life... id live the way i want...
n ur right... dont live to fall in love... if love is in ur destiny it'll find u... we cant revolve our life around the hope of falling in love someday n living happily ever after... thats silly... n beleive me.. all of us r silly at one point of time...
i think ur just venting up ur anger coz someone asked u to marry or fall in love... n i hope this post has helped u get it out of ur system...
hugzzz
laterzzz
Check out my lj
ReplyDeleteif only every women in this world were more like you. i know a lot of women out there are searching for love. and they feel the need to get married to fulfil their happiness and other ppl's happiness. if it's a good guy, sure...if not, you'll end up miserable.
ReplyDeletei rather be alone than end up with a hopeless guy.
everyone is different, i think there are those women who are needy and always need romance or loving. i've have once though of having this romantic goings with my boyfriend. but, it's surely not about LOVE anymore when it comes to relationship.
my friends suggested me to go to dates last year. i tried, but it didn't workout. oh well...now i have other things in life to worry about besides a GUY!
yeah, no more games. we're adults now..HELLO! MEN!!! great gal like KESHI...i knew it they're blind :P
suniie: no worries about boyfriend... :) study hard and make a future for yourself! :)
ReplyDeleteif any of u guys are planning on visiting M00nie ...
ReplyDeleteDONT !
mumbai has an acute water problem
she dont smell too good
~~Deepa
ReplyDeletethanks sweety huggggggz!
What happened to that couple?
~~Musings
yep m000nie...some ppl telling me that I should find someone and get married in order to be happy..lol!
hows u? I missed ya...
~~Elaine
ty girl I was so happy to read ur comment..someone agrees with me that having a man to love isnt the only route to happiness.
**and they feel the need to get married to fulfil their happiness and other ppl's happiness
lol I know these kind...
I can do with a nice man..but only if he comes ard...I dun want to be forced into any man just cos someone else assumes that's happiness...
Thanks muahhhhhhhh!
~~South
I did :)
~~Saby
Na! mah m000nie always smells gorgeous...wut abt u Saby, when did u last have a bath? lol!
Keshi.
Mwaahhha back:)
ReplyDeletei know how it feels when u're misunderstood .... !!
ReplyDeleteoye hottie kya hua?
ReplyDelete:))
if u sprain ur ankle while walking do u stop walking?
then why to stop falling in luv..
n rise n falls r a parcel of life.. u have to live with them
cheer up... n say sorry to all guys who had a major heartbreak here... he he :))
Yes dear I knew when I wrote the word 'dad' it will bring tears but I wanted to give that example to let u realize that think of good things happened due to ur dad..:) and am sure he will be happy watching u cherrishing those things..:)
ReplyDeleteam glad to hear that you have not decided anything...in the heat of the moment we say ...and it just gets evaporated...and I like that you did so thru this post :)
keep smiling its good for health :)
cheers
It takes a lot of courage to be yourself. In that aspect, I really admire you.
ReplyDeleteOn the other hand, I would say, "Never say never." Life is full of surprises, some heart-breaking, some pleasant. You will never know until you get there.
My best wishes.
it takes much courage to be yourself. i admire you from that aspect.
ReplyDeleteon the other hand, never say never. life is full of surprises, some heart-breaking, others pleasant. you won't know until you get there...
best wishes.
"Never say never." An old lady said this to me recently when I was going through a very tough period. Just thought I'd share this simple but wise saying with you. With my best wishes.
ReplyDelete~~Yashita
ReplyDeletemwahhh again :):)
~~Zombie
hey thanks!
~~Sudeep
**if u sprain ur ankle while walking do u stop walking?
then why to stop falling in luv..
aww such a wise thing to say...ty, now Im thinking clearly :)
**Say sorry to...
lol all the guys including u?
aww huggggz Sudeep and SORRY :):)
and ty!
~~Dawn
hey ur my daily dawn...the beutiful sunrise...
**in the heat of the moment we say ...and it just gets evaporated...and I like that you did so thru this post
thats so true...ty!
~~Dai
hey WC and thanks so much for ur words of wisdom...truly appreciate it!
**"Never say never."
many ppl tells me that too..I hope there's some hope in that line...:)
Thanks!
Keshi.
aawww... tht made me smile .. he he
ReplyDeleteYou captured my thoughts pretty perfectly in this post ...i seem to be in a very similar frame of mind these days.Quite a good post.
ReplyDelete~~Sudeep
ReplyDelete:):)
~~Nishita
ty and Im glad ur with me on this...hopefully u'll get it ur way...
Keshi.