My beloved Uncle T rang me on Sunday. His daughter (my cousin M) gave birth to her first baby 2 weeks ago. We are all so very happy for her. She and the baby are doing well. Now guess WHY my Uncle T rang me? To give me a lecture for being single! *rolling eyes*. Here's that 16th-century conversation (don't get me wrong, I love my dear uncle..this is just how I really felt through the convo anyways):
Uncle T: Hi Keshi how are you love?
Keshi: I'm good and you guys?
Uncle T: We are doing great. Now that M has a baby, when are you having your own babies?
*says that with a sense of seriousness in his voice*
Keshi: *pause*....*pause*...*pause*
(what I wanted to say: Uncle T, since I haven't got a man yet, maybe I should ring up a Sperm Bank?)
Uncle T: When are you gonna settle down with a nice guy and give us good news?
Keshi: *my blood pressure reaches the peak of Kilimanjaro!*...
Uncle T: Hi Keshi how are you love?
Keshi: I'm good and you guys?
Uncle T: We are doing great. Now that M has a baby, when are you having your own babies?
*says that with a sense of seriousness in his voice*
Keshi: *pause*....*pause*...*pause*
(what I wanted to say: Uncle T, since I haven't got a man yet, maybe I should ring up a Sperm Bank?)
Uncle T: When are you gonna settle down with a nice guy and give us good news?Keshi: *my blood pressure reaches the peak of Kilimanjaro!*...
Uncle T I haven't found him yet. I'm settled down the way I am. I'm enjoying life you see!
(what I really wanted to say: Cos I'm quite busy 'settling' few Baboon jaws right now!)
Uncle T: hmmm...we are waiting for the big day Keshi...
Keshi: *pause*...*spit*...*puke*...*pause*
(what I wanted to say: You'll be waiting a very long time Uncle T...better quit waiting now and perhaps go on a trip to meet the Zulu Tribe in Africa?)
Uncle T: Why can't you find just any nice bloke and tie the knot?
Keshi: *pause*...ehhh I don't know Uncle T...I can't just get married for the sake of it, can I?
(what I really wanted to say: ANY nice guy? Ok Uncle T, tomorrow I'll ask the Milkman if he's single alright?)
Uncle T: You are not sad about it now cos you're young right now...but some day when you're old and grey, and you're all by yourself, you're gonna regret not getting married...
*at this point I wanted to dig a whole in my own living room, jump in it and bury myself to death...cos of the 16th-century-woman-needs-a-man-to-breathe convo that I have being forced to have on a Sunday!*
Keshi: I don't wanna think about my old age and how I'd feel then. What matters is how I feel right now, and right now I'm happy Uncle T...
(what I really wanted to say: When I'm older, I'd prefer being single than cuddling with dentures and wigs on ewww!)
Uncle T: Keshi my dear, you can't live without a partner in life...
*at this point I wanted to scream so loud that Uncle T would hear me across the seas and open his door thinking I'm there!*
Keshi: *pause*...do you want to speak to sis?
(what I really wanted to say: If I continue this convo any more than this, I might break this phone and pull the socket and wires off the wall electrocuting myself to death! So my dear Uncle T, please save me from looking like a charcoaled (and yes, single!) chicken stuck on the back of a faulty fridge!)
*hands over the phone to sis and I can sense that Uncle T is asking a question from my sis*
Sis replies: I haven't found him yet Uncle T... *sis makes a spooky face at me that looked like she wanted to kill me instantly!*
LOL the same convo seem to repeat with sis! *rolling eyes infinitely*
How can you convince some people that staying single or not having a partner (perhaps through your entire life even) is not a such a shame/crime? My pet peeves are when relatives and friends ask me when I'm getting married (and I haven't even found a guy!), when I'll have my babies (and I haven't even gotten married!) and why I can't find a guy (as if it's a question that can be answered in a way people can understand!). And worse, recently a married friend of mine told me this...'Keshi if you don't get married and have babies some day, it's like you were born invain into this world..cos your purpose as a woman on Earth, which is to be a wife and mother, would not be fulfilled and that's sad'. FYI her husband beats her up and she's still with him cos she doesn't wanna end the marriage! I didn't say that cos I wanted to laugh at her, but what is she going on about advising me why I should be married etc, when she's not having such a splendid marriage herself? Just cos I'm single right now, am I a waste to this world? Enlighten me please.
Why are people always trying to live by the SOCIETY and not by their own values? I puke at that! No, I'm not pretending...I'm truly 'single and happy'. Why can't people get that? A woman's life isn't ONLY about getting hitched, making babies and becoming mothers. If that's the case, why is it that there are so many orphaned children, cruel mothers, millions of happy single people and millions of unhappy married people? So please don't nauseate me with your 'You should be married in order to be happy and to be useful to the world' kinda fossil-menatlity of you'rs. I'm not married to the Society, neither am I gonna live by what it demands...nor am I hell bent on finding someone and seeking that perfect life! I give a damn about it. Leave me alone! *pukes on Society's face*
Off topic: I just want you to give me one reason why I should continue to blog. I know I blog for myself, but sometimes I just want to leave all this and disappear for good...all I can say is I'm not perfect. Just tell me why you think I should be here, without glorifying me ofcourse. Thanks!
Current Music: Perfect by Vanessa Amorosi
Uncle T: hmmm...we are waiting for the big day Keshi...
Keshi: *pause*...*spit*...*puke*...*pause*
(what I wanted to say: You'll be waiting a very long time Uncle T...better quit waiting now and perhaps go on a trip to meet the Zulu Tribe in Africa?)
Uncle T: Why can't you find just any nice bloke and tie the knot?
Keshi: *pause*...ehhh I don't know Uncle T...I can't just get married for the sake of it, can I?
(what I really wanted to say: ANY nice guy? Ok Uncle T, tomorrow I'll ask the Milkman if he's single alright?)Uncle T: You are not sad about it now cos you're young right now...but some day when you're old and grey, and you're all by yourself, you're gonna regret not getting married...
*at this point I wanted to dig a whole in my own living room, jump in it and bury myself to death...cos of the 16th-century-woman-needs-a-man-to-breathe convo that I have being forced to have on a Sunday!*
Keshi: I don't wanna think about my old age and how I'd feel then. What matters is how I feel right now, and right now I'm happy Uncle T...(what I really wanted to say: When I'm older, I'd prefer being single than cuddling with dentures and wigs on ewww!)
Uncle T: Keshi my dear, you can't live without a partner in life...
*at this point I wanted to scream so loud that Uncle T would hear me across the seas and open his door thinking I'm there!*
Keshi: *pause*...do you want to speak to sis?
(what I really wanted to say: If I continue this convo any more than this, I might break this phone and pull the socket and wires off the wall electrocuting myself to death! So my dear Uncle T, please save me from looking like a charcoaled (and yes, single!) chicken stuck on the back of a faulty fridge!)*hands over the phone to sis and I can sense that Uncle T is asking a question from my sis*
Sis replies: I haven't found him yet Uncle T... *sis makes a spooky face at me that looked like she wanted to kill me instantly!*
LOL the same convo seem to repeat with sis! *rolling eyes infinitely*
How can you convince some people that staying single or not having a partner (perhaps through your entire life even) is not a such a shame/crime? My pet peeves are when relatives and friends ask me when I'm getting married (and I haven't even found a guy!), when I'll have my babies (and I haven't even gotten married!) and why I can't find a guy (as if it's a question that can be answered in a way people can understand!). And worse, recently a married friend of mine told me this...'Keshi if you don't get married and have babies some day, it's like you were born invain into this world..cos your purpose as a woman on Earth, which is to be a wife and mother, would not be fulfilled and that's sad'. FYI her husband beats her up and she's still with him cos she doesn't wanna end the marriage! I didn't say that cos I wanted to laugh at her, but what is she going on about advising me why I should be married etc, when she's not having such a splendid marriage herself? Just cos I'm single right now, am I a waste to this world? Enlighten me please.Why are people always trying to live by the SOCIETY and not by their own values? I puke at that! No, I'm not pretending...I'm truly 'single and happy'. Why can't people get that? A woman's life isn't ONLY about getting hitched, making babies and becoming mothers. If that's the case, why is it that there are so many orphaned children, cruel mothers, millions of happy single people and millions of unhappy married people? So please don't nauseate me with your 'You should be married in order to be happy and to be useful to the world' kinda fossil-menatlity of you'rs. I'm not married to the Society, neither am I gonna live by what it demands...nor am I hell bent on finding someone and seeking that perfect life! I give a damn about it. Leave me alone! *pukes on Society's face*
Off topic: I just want you to give me one reason why I should continue to blog. I know I blog for myself, but sometimes I just want to leave all this and disappear for good...all I can say is I'm not perfect. Just tell me why you think I should be here, without glorifying me ofcourse. Thanks!Current Music: Perfect by Vanessa Amorosi
Hey.. there is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to be single... And I am a married woman speaking..
ReplyDeleteMy elder sis, 2 years older than me is single and is in no hurry whatsoever to get married... She goes through the same stoopid routine with our relatives as well.. where they say, "Oh you poor thing, ur younger sis is married and ur not.." makes me wanna plunge a knife into them...
My sister had breast cancer and to remove the malignant tumor had to have a mastectomy.. She reasons that to marry someone, she needs that someone to be mentally strong to accept her the way she is, and to be prepared for a cancer scenario later on in life...
And if she does not find that one person also, its good.. She feels she should not be a burden on anyone else.. she makes good money, has great friends and a wonderful life.. she does nt want a marriage...
She is my hero.. And Kesh, u don need anyone else to complete u either.. Ur fantastic as it is!!
P.S. Sorry for hogging ur comment space..
Just tell ya uncle that I haven't asked ya yet.....better still send him to my blog and maybe he will stay quiet...........sssshhhhh be very very quiet it's marriage season.
ReplyDeleteFirst of the topic.
ReplyDeleteI want u to blog so that I can come to know.
1.When u get engaged.
2.When u get married.
3.When u come mother/grand mother /great grand mother .........
Well as for married vs single, well me too is getting flaked.
My perception is married guy and gals (if gals are working) are perceived to be responsible and mature when they get married.
Single people are (perceieved to be) irresponsible, immature, high nosed, lame idito, duck brained, fool, insane, naieve, idiot, uncaring, unwanted....
*still thinking of adding few more "highlights"*
i know soooo many people who have had the same conversation with their relatives. all i've got to say is, its their choice, and nobody gets to push anyone around. if i ever find someone who i love and who's willing to spend the rest of their life with me, i wouldn't bother looking at religion or what anyone else thought. its my life, i get to do what i want with it. if it gets screwed up, i'd much rather screw it up than have someone else do it for me. n hey, whatever makes you happy, you go n do it!!! its pointless getting your dander up when talking to relatives whose brains still reside in the dark ages
ReplyDeletewhy should you continue blogging? i don't know...that, again is up to you. i think blogging is such a release, especially since you can be yourself without any issues. its pretty difficult to be open to people who you have to see and talk to every day, and i guess blogging is the only thing that keeps some of us going. if you ever decide to quit though, please do stay in touch, mail or im
I could so realte to this post :)
ReplyDeleteand as usual it was so hilarious!
and continue to blog, 'coz I love reading what u write :)
ha ha ha ha...tht was such a cute conversation...the look on ur face during the conversation must ve been priceless.....
ReplyDeletewell i gues thats a standard indian subcontinent family conversation....n im sure not ur first one too :)...so just let it go :)
**'Keshi if you don't get married and have babies some day, it's like you were born invain into this world..cos your purpose as a woman on Earth, which is to be a wife and mother, would not be fulfilled and that's sad'
ReplyDeletei cant believe someone can say that...n that too a woman...which era is she livin in???
n believe me this is not only limited to girls...have jus turned only 25 n relatives have started askin...its d most irritating thing...gives me homicidal tendencies
**I just want you to give me one reason why I should continue to blog.
1)there r somethings u cnt always talk wid ppl u kno...this is d perfect place
2) not all emotions can b spoken...sm need to b penned down
3) coz words live on forever
4)for ppl to kno u better (read me :D)
:) good hain.. love the portrayal
ReplyDeleteI have been hearing this for quite a while now. they make me feel as if the entire family is living with one goal - to find me a good woman & get me married. But I cant just marry a girl cos its 'time' to get married.
ReplyDeleteI dont wish to be single all my life (hell not even for long) but I just need time to find a woman with whom I can live a good life.
As you rightly say Keshi, they are doing it out of love and their intentions are good. So dont hold any ill feelings towards them (its ok to be pissed off though). :)
Things will come around and eventually it will fade away or you may find some guy and get married. Either way, all will end well for you girl.
as for your other question... what would a lotus (facing south east) do in a vast pond all alone?
bcoz u cant give anybody the reason that you stopped blogging bcoz of uncle T...
ReplyDeletehahahah
and you were telling me to continue blogging???
p.s.
the question about unrequited love...
Keshi love u yaar ..wat a post i had good time reading it out ..lol...i am single want to get mingle hahaha lol..just kiddin ...ur uncle is true in some cases ...ur point of view is absolutely correct ...but see the other side also findin a perfect man may take more years also..so i m ready for u hahaah lol..kiddin buddy..but from ur post i came to know wat a single women thinks for the absulute person she want ...thnks buddy...
ReplyDeleteurs..hemu..
I got married at the age of 23, while my cousin sister (who is 10 years older)is not yet married. She (as well as her parents) prefer to skip family functions and weddings since they don't want a repeat of this conversation. All I will say (like I tell all my single friends)- Don't bother about what people will say (yes I know you will say that's easy for you to say - your married). When you meet the right guy you ill yourself want to get married. Till then just hang on and tell Uncle dearest to fulfil his duties by hunting for someone for you.
ReplyDeleteAnd why should you continue to blog -
1) Its a release of emotion which you can't always tell people who are very close to you.
2) Its way cheaper than paying for a shrink.
3) And yes you do make a difference - I really thought about the answers (when you had put up all those 25 -30 questions about oneself) and so did all the others before answering. Made us think about our goals and our means and our aims and ourselves.
4) You have made friends in the blogworld.
5) This blog is a part of you.
PS: You seem to be pretty upset and low about something judging from the current post. If its about the conversation with your uncle, throw it back at him. Tell him to find you someone or next time tell him that you prefer Miss Right (and not Mister). Should definitely shut him up.
U blog fr urself:))
ReplyDeletevery true...
but then u need that u (read it as I) be also known to others...not only good qualities..anmd bad... but everything:)))
about being single...its all indivisual choice I think...if its nt in ur mind...dnt go fr it:))
LoL Keshi :))
ReplyDeleteU should check this post of mine a couple of years ago.. I too went through a similarly tough time.
http://o3.indiatimes.com/vrij/archive/2006/01/04/400773.aspx
Sometimes, all we can do is laugh at such people..
Hahaha, cool pictures! I love this 'the voices tell me to kill you' :DDD
ReplyDeleteCommon Keshi, it's really time to marry someone! You must try harder :D lol
Loved the pictures you attached together with the post! Funny.:D loved the kilimanjaro part as well!;)lol
ReplyDelete***'Keshi if you don't get married and have babies some day, it's like you were born invain into this world..cos your purpose as a woman on Earth, which is to be a wife and mother, would not be fulfilled and that's sad'.
I think thats bullshit.
Cheerios Gurl!:)
Hi,Keshi-you know what?Rather than trying to push you to matrimony,your Uncle was trying to convey his happiness at the birth of your cousin's baby.And,in that happiness-sharing mode,he wanted to tell you how much delight a baby's birth gives.
ReplyDeleteBut,take it with a pinch of salt,and,go with your own instincts.Wait for the right guy,get married when your instincts say 'Yea,he's the one'(Albeit,it's always a gamble..hehe),and,inform Uncleji accordingly.
Till then,happy bachelorettehood!(Incidentally,I'm also a happy (forced)bachelor again in Dubai,u know-and,the freedom feels great at times,it gets irritating at time.Aaah..life and it's vagaries *goes off into musings mode*.TC!Cheerio!
I so know this girl. Its very irriating really....
ReplyDeleteJust get done with the convo n forget it. Thats all.
***maybe I should ring up a Sperm Bank?
ReplyDelete***perhaps go on a trip to meet the Zulu Tribe in Africa?)
You are such a good girl not to really say those thngs...i sometimes do say it you know....lol
Infact i have a post regarding this whole mariiage business too
I agree with u that there is so much more to life thn just marriage and this holds true for both men and women. But at the same time, companionship is what both genders need in thr life. And so it becomes a trick question... since companionship is vry important in life you obviously cant share it with just about anyone...and sighhhh!!! good guys are rare!!! lol
And why should u continue bloggin....simple, cuz i love readin it...!!! Hi hi hi
And i forgott to mention...i love the cattty catty pics ;)
ReplyDeletehey budds.
ReplyDeletehad a gud time reading ur post luvd cat pics too.
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well just imagine this...i have ppl telling me i shld attend more weddings as i need to know the relatives to invite to mine! I mean i am only going to turn 17! anyway i already decided i will get someone i LOVE!lol :)
ReplyDeletehmm...why u shld still blog?
1) you are the most truthful blogger :D
2) you have the best wealth here-friends...and you are also a part of wealth...and i don't want to lose you( ya sounds too materialistic doesn't it )
3) you are a fellow alien i know...are species is threatened and we need to keep in touch as much as we can :)
I can understand how irritating it gets when somebody gets on to this topic especially someone close, u cant even reply bluntly or even share what you exactly feel abt living single...
ReplyDeleteUmm...
ReplyDeleteI can only guess how giddy you girls might feel when ppl try to make you believe that you ppl cannot do without a man.
m single and my mumma keeps nagging me for getting married. She has given me an ultimatum saying if i don't get married then.....
As far a reason for you to blog is probably bring some smile to morons like myself whose life is otherwise dull.
The only thing I didn't understand keshi is why your friends all are getting husbands who either beat them or misbehave or ask dowry or whatever?????????????
ReplyDeleteI have lots of girl friends, I mean FRIENDS, and most of them are married, some are getting married right now, and I still keep contacts with lots of them, I never heard this type of experience from them, trust me and we were close enought so, they simply won't pretend they are happy.
BTW, living single is not a sin and it's completely a personal choice how to live. But my personal opinion is to live each and every stage of life, as a kid, as a teenager, as a youth, as a father/mother ........
'coz there is only one life and to enjoy it we'll get only once chance and by the time we regret it'll be too late.
The best reason to blog is to write a post like this and "accidentally" give the blog url to uncle T. Loved the 'What I wanted to say part' and the pics :D
ReplyDeleteYou are not alone in this! There is waay too much pressure from people who refuse to/ don't understand! Singledom rocks in my opinion but then again, it is just my opinion! =P
ReplyDeleteI am new to your blog, but I would say, since you blog for yourself, that is the only reason you need to be here! :)
Cheers. ^_^
Anindita.
Hi Keshi di,
ReplyDeleteummm.....maybe u shld find a good guy...if u d9ont mind me saying LOL!
Off matter:
Okies....I say this frm th heart....u shld continue coz ter r many otrs like me who mst have become kinda attached 2 u an ur blog! I actually dont have a elder real sis....so I take u and otrs as my real sis and seeing that I'm a teeneager an in that phase...I'm quite attached and used to u di and ur blog.....so please dont quit.....if not fr anythng else....for the sake of me...ur sissy!!!
It's unfortunate that some people always have to impose their values on others. Good on ya for being yourself.
ReplyDeleteermm... try telling 'em that you've converted to a religion that doesn't allow marriage :D
ReplyDeleteOccasionally, I think it helps to show people the real picture of things, bursting their bubbles. They see marriages and babies as hppy events they want to be a part of. But how involved will they actually be if your marriage isn't working out, or those nights when the baby is keeping you up and you're basically unhappy with this decision you made? Sometimes it's best to be blunt and point things out rather than suffer in silence.
And hey, you've got a ton of fans here, why would you want to quit blogging? Sure you're blogging for yourself, but maybe what you need is a break, not a permanent out. What think you?
u know wat ... i can so very totally relate to this conversation ... i too get subjected to a lot of such advices/sarcassms/warnings etc etc :)
ReplyDeletereason to continue blog? Why wud u need a reason to continue doing something that u like ?? anyways if u want one - u shud continue blogging as now there are many others for whom "keshigirl.blogspot.com" has become an integral part of their lives :)
hv a gd day !!!
Keshi keshi.. We live according to what society says.. what societies rules are. This is an unwritten rule! Sad but very very true!
ReplyDeleteAnyways, just let ppl around u go to hell. The most important thing is u live ur life in ur own way. And you will be happy. Not with or without any guy!
So don’t get pissed of.. More u will get irritated abt the things, mopre ppl will like to take out the topic. So chill and have happy happy life :)
Btw, i dont like cats much.. But loved all the pics :)
Keshi, relatives are all the same... I was asked the same question when I was single. Now that I'm married the question has changed to: When are you going to have kids? :)
ReplyDeleteNora
And as to why you should continue blogging, coz girl, you love it, thats all...!!!!
ReplyDeleteAll else can go to hell !
They ALL do that Keshi! They even ask about my 17yr old girl whether we have anybody "in mind" for her! They tried to match make for me when I was 16yrs old!
ReplyDeleteJust IGNORE! Do what you want to do in life. We, who grew up in India, succumb to that pressure. I regret marrying at 22 sometimes, although life is now isn't bad.
Anyway, be yourself, that's the most imp thing!Happiness comes from within you, nobody brings it to you or you don't have to "settle down" for that!:)
Hugs to you. I am on blog break from tomorrow until Sept. Got LOT of work to do I have ignored so far. See you once in a while here, hugs. Enjoy blogging!:))
You have such a good sense of humor. Hold out until your find the right man that will make you happy and you will love with your whole heart. It's only the way.
ReplyDeleteur uncle is righ dammit! and ur friend! what is the point in having a vagina if u dont have children, esp male children? modern scmordern! whats w/ ppl?
ReplyDeleteu need to stay coz we love u!
When are you getting babies?
ReplyDeleteWhoa.did he mean without marriage? lol..dirrty mind.eh :D
life will lead you to marriage..sooner or later.hehe :)
and don't ask me for any advices on sex/love/marriage
I'm hopeless :D
Wow cute keshi out there :)
ReplyDeletewomen haves comes out of demand years back from the force of ignorance by there parents and society. Anyone can’t live with a partner? Sometimes we need to live the life to be born in the world as an individual for the purpose.
I have that thought many times alike u, but still life moves on. If I was thinking more about perfect, am not to do anything.
People can never keep their mouth shut and like to know everything isn't it. Curiosity is too much and giving advice is damn thing. I hate that.
ReplyDeleteLive your live. Either single or married everybody gets older oneday and look for secondhand teeth. Keep blogging as long as you enjoy writing Keshi.
You should keep this blog because there are those of us out here still reading it (even if we seldom comment lately) and feeling exactly what you are feeling. (And man, can I ever relate to the conversation you had with your uncle! Add that plus my desire lately to find the one and you turn out feeling pretty crappy and wondering what the hell is wrong with youself!) I think you should keep the blog up for yourself, too, as it is a good way to vent AND you have all us out here who can relate so you know you're not alone in your feelings! :)
ReplyDeleteI hardly ever blog anymore. It's about once a month or twice, at best. I have thought about quitting all together, but I continue because I don't want to lose touch with all the wonderful people I met through this outlet of blogging. (you included!)
what?! no no no don't go away man!
ReplyDeleteyou are one of the few who actually seem to talk sense be it anything.
it will be very disappointing if at all you do go away.
I know the 'dissapearing for good' feeling; Its your choice in the end.
although I can assure you the many times I've had it, all it does it temporarily blinds me into making things go the way they normally wouldn't and often ending regretting it.
so don't go! you're not perfect? who is, anyway! we all love you.
and don't even get me started on the whole society and its martial woes; google would have to buy extra data storage centres just to store my comments on it.
i love myself so much. that i don't think anyone could love me more...
ReplyDeletehahaha...enjoy the life to the fullest. besides, being married is overly rated. in US, the divorce rate is so high. and you don't want to go through with your ex husband shit
"at this point I wanted to scream so loud that Uncle T would hear me across the seas and open his door thinking I'm there!"
ReplyDeleteLOL LOL!!...Good One :D....u go gal...being single too rox!!
Oh leave aside all tht crap tht the relatives force thru! I hav got such innumerable no. of questions from all around...i m glad my parents r cool abt it...else i wud hav gone mad!! And abt u being here.....i knw u want to b here gurl coz of the immense amt of love and admiration tht u get from all of us...and u so deserve it! So y leave something tht u so deserve. :) ;)
ReplyDeleteWell if it would make Uncle T feel any better I'll marry you. ;-)
ReplyDeleteBut, you're pretty much the only one I'd marry. I might get married someday, but I kind of doubt it. I don't see why it's such a big deal. Maybe when I'm like 70 I'll marry some 22 year old babe and scandalize the whole town? hahaha! ;-)
Of course running off to Australia to marry a hot chick from the internet would be pretty scandalous too.
Why keep blogging? Cause you have so many people who love you who come here each day! And people who you love too! It's like a big blog family!
Keep on blogging if it's familiar, fun, and grounding. Stop when it's a chore, you get no enjoyment out of it, or you're putting up w/ abuse, but as with anything you have to work through the downs and enjoy the ups. It's a commitment to maintain bloggy-relationships
ReplyDeleteMarriage is like that, too, tell Uncle T, "Uncle T!! I blog, do you really think I have time to get married?"
we gotta do something for such Uncles... Girl !
ReplyDeleteI have one too...
Aaarrggh !
**...all I can say is I'm not perfect.**
ReplyDeleteWho is?
**one reason why I should continue to blog**
Because you are passionate about it. And you cannot run away from people who love your mesmerizing scripts.
**Staying single**
Why are you still...Why are you not able to... You are so well settled then why... Think of your younger sister... What will neighbours say... Look at all your friends... etc is all bullshit and deserves to be ignored.
Being married is not bliss in most cases. It is just a social obligation and the bullshit cited above is used just to cajole unwilling youngsters into marriage.
Your uncle may have faced similar advise perhaps at the age of 18 years. He is just continuing tradition. He cannot be blamed. But those who hurriedly agree should be.
because you blog for the moment, you blog what you want to blog and you make sense. i never have thought that you blogged to make others happy. you are just you. and this blog is keshi more, the rest of us less, like you said. so there is no reason to stop right?
ReplyDelete:)
I feel as if I am in Ani's blog again! :).. Some pointers from a gal who was there 2 years back - just quietly says :its all in God;s hands and who are we to make desicions for him "..beleive me that shuts up 50% of the folks. Then the next 25% continue - say as per my astrologer its only when i am 40 (beleive me you'll love the drop dead silence) and to the final 25% say I dont know if all guys like bisexuals :D...hopefully that will clear up most questions
ReplyDeletePlease continue blogging, I thought your last two posts were mind blowing and its really nice for people from across the globe to get a glimpse into thoughts that mirror their own
let me give u an analogy...
ReplyDeletelife=blog
marriage=widget/add-on
the widget serves its purpose only when it blends in well with ur blog seamlessly and works efficiently...similarly marriage has the potential to be a nice add-on only n only if it works well in ur life
just as v don't add a widget for d sake of it, v shud'nt marry for d sake of it.
y shud u continue blogging???
coz u have so many ardent readers n think about it..if u dont blog,then where would u write those things which u cant say to anyoe???
eg...ur inner thots in "pink' in dis post:)
btw...chck comments section of ur last post
ReplyDeletewrote a reply 2 u
Hi..don't get upset. I can understand what u would have gone thru while conversing with ur Uncle..it has just reminded me my sister's situation..
ReplyDeletesee u can't shut anyone's mouth..People will def say what they want to say... Either u really change them or let them the way they r..
I can understand that this disturbs, irritates the person...but u cannot escape from that situation..listen it and try to forget it...let them say what they want to say and let urself do what you want to do...
Why I want you to blog..coz I really love reading it...and afterall, this is the blog through which we know each other...right..
tkcre...
Harry
also have a peek @ g-man's blog where i have replied to u as well
ReplyDeleteall for a healthy debate...*peace*
Girl I hope your Uncle does not get to read this! :P
ReplyDeleteGlad am not in India,or else would be hearing this question from somebody or the other all the time.Once a girl is on the higher side of 25 and still unmarried,it seems such a crime!
Well,some people will never change.Best thing is to just "mute" them when they talk such crap.Lol
Btw,cute pic of yours there :)
Why continue to blog?
ReplyDeleteTo continue the friendship from afar!
Do what ever is best for you...
blog because you want to-
not because of what others say!
Do you feel you need a "break" from blogging? OR maybe change your blogging "style"- shorter posts AND don't feel that you have to respond to everyone's comment either!
Just be yourself!! : )
I come here, to your site, to see how Keshi is doing...
to see what my friend in Australia is up to these days : )
Hugs & Blessings
ps
tell your uncle that it's much easier to buy a house, or a car, than it is to find a "good" man who will love, treasure, and respect you!!
I have to agree with most of the people here! DON'T get married until Keshi Girl aka my sis is ready!
ReplyDeleteI am happy single and with someone! I decide my happiness! Let the phone conversations go in one ear and out the other! I still do with my ancient Jewish family members!! haha!
They want me married like Yesterday! haha!!
You cannot stop blogging, I run to get to your page to see what is popping off for the day!! I love the realness and the fun I have over here! I unwind very well here after work.
Love ya sis!
Ne
Well I will marry you just to shut them up ! And ...obviously just on paper ahem...
ReplyDeleteYou must keep blogging until you meet a man, get married and have many, many, many children !!!
ReplyDeleteBlogging will occupy your mind, protecting you from impure thoughts...and typing will occupy those idle fingers, which may otherwise stray into forbidden areas...
I have just realized that there is NO way you can satisfy people. Have been saying this to too many people lately, and here goes again.
ReplyDeleteThe minute you are born, they want you to recognize them. then they want you to smile, then they want you to walk and talk and go to school. then they want you to get a job, then get married, then have kids, then ask you when your kid is going to walk and talk and go to school...arrghhhhhhhhh!!!!
I have been married for 6 months now, and have been getting the "when-are-you-giving-us-good-news" for the last 4 months or so. EVERY time they ask me that, I tell them point blank (the same ppl, over and over) that we don't want kids, so please do not expect it from us, and don't ask us again. But I guess they have short term memory.
Last week my sister was going on and on about how she is worried about her son, he doesn't listen, he's not doing well in school, blah-blah-blah, and in the very next breath, so do you have any good news for me. I asked her, didn't I give you my answer the last time you asked me? and what is "good" about it, you tell me? you want me to rant about kids too? you feeling too lonely doing it alone?
sorry keshi, am totally blasting off here, this just hit a raw nerve. because someone asked me half an hour ago, at work, when are you having kids!
and you gotta keep blogging, girl! how else are we going to get our daily dose of "sense-mixed-with-humor"!
ReplyDeletesometimes their concern becomes a selfish obsession. just hug them and pacify them. tell them not to worry!!! i have been thru this and even now when my uncles & aunts ask me, i tell them "oh i got married long back. didn't you know? didn't you get the invitation"!! They get pretty disgusted, but then shuts them for sure!!
ReplyDeletewhy u shud be here? well, this is ur space u share with others without prejudice. ur words r honest! and that makes all the difference!
cheer up!!
;-))
awww...girl, this is always gonna happen...people assume that they have a right to your life...even tho they think they are being concerned for you...so do what feels right and bear with them, 'cos they do care for you too, however misguided it feels
ReplyDeleteas for blogging... its a good outlet and fun too, it is where you have met so many of your pals...in the end it does depend on you...
ok, and now that I have cooled off a little bit...totally loved your post :)
ReplyDeleteI can't believe someone actually said it to your face that your life's in vain if you're not a wife and mother! yikes!
lets see...when Uncle T asks you the next time...just tell him, the milkman refused your proposal!
A friend just posted a note realting to EXACTLY this on Facebook - I'm gonna share coz I think you can use this. Just make sure you say them with a stright face :P
ReplyDeleteSome Great Answers to That Stupid Question:
* I was hoping to do something meaningful with my life.
* What? And spoil my great sex life?
* Because I just love hearing this question.
* Just lucky, I guess.
* My fiance is awaiting his/her parole.
* I'm waiting until I get to be your age.
* It didn't seem worth a blood test.
* I already have enough laundry to do, thank you.
* Because I think it would take all the spontaneity out of dating.
* I'd have to forfeit my billion dollar trust fund.
* They just opened a great singles bar on my block.
* What? And lose all the money I've invested in running personal ads?
* We really want to, but my lover's spouse just won't go for it.
* I don't want to have to support another person on my paycheck.
* Why aren't you thin?
* I'm married to my career, although recently we have been considering a trial separation.
* (For Single Mothers) Because having a husband and a child would be redundant.
Hahahhaha
And why u should keep blogging?? Because it's a part of you... :)
Last thing first, i feel you should blog cos you are honest, you dont have any inhibitions, you call a spade a spade. you give a damn to thhe messers around you and above all you give a lotta strength to many ppl out here.....
ReplyDeleteand abt the convo, ignore it. marry when you want to, not for sake of relatives. (No offence meant)
ok Dee I cried reading abt ur sis. Not cos I felt sorry for her, but cos she's my hero too! HUGZ to ur sis. plz say that I ADMIRE her courage and great outlook to life, besides what she had to go through.
ReplyDeleteAnd she's right. She does not need a Marriage to make her happy. Cos she's seen more LIFE than many ppl wud ever see in their entire lives! Ur sis knows what true HAPPINESS is.
tnxx for sharing that with me!
Keshi.
hahahahaha Steve!
ReplyDelete*HUGZ*
Keshi.
ty Tarun!
ReplyDelete**1.When u get engaged.
**2.When u get married.
**3.When u come mother/grand mother /great grand mother .........
o no, not u too Tarun!!!!!!! plz! LOL!
**My perception is married guy and gals (if gals are working) are perceived to be responsible and mature when they get married.
does ur perception mean it's the truth abt every married person?
**Single people are (perceieved to be) irresponsible, immature, high nosed, lame idito, duck brained, fool, insane, naieve, idiot, uncaring, unwanted..
Tarun r ya for real????? Is this ur perception or someone else's?
Keshi.
ty Mayz!
ReplyDelete**i cant believe someone can say that...n that too a woman...which era is she livin in???
lol! I cudnt believe my ears as she uttered those words. I dun mean to be discriminative, but she's an Indian girl. :)
**have jus turned only 25 n relatives have started askin...its d most irritating thing...gives me homicidal tendencies
hahahahahaha! yes, sometimes I feel I can become a killer too. LOL!
**1)there r somethings u cnt always talk wid ppl u kno...this is d perfect place
thats so true Mayz!
**2) not all emotions can b spoken...sm need to b penned down
wow nice one again!
**3) coz words live on forever
awww...too true.
**4)for ppl to kno u better (read me :D)
hehehe yes I agree :)
ty so much. U made GREAT sense there.
Keshi.
ty Sanchit!
ReplyDeleteKeshi.
ty Arv!
ReplyDeletebut nah I dun fear ending up single all my life even. Whats so bad abt that, if it happens? I mean, we were born alone and we die alone anyways, right?
**or you may find some guy and get married.
some guy? lol ok.
**as for your other question... what would a lotus (facing south east) do in a vast pond all alone?
awww beautiful ans! ty so much Arv HUGZ!
Keshi.
ty Devil!
ReplyDelete**bcoz u cant give anybody the reason that you stopped blogging bcoz of uncle T...
lol noooooooooo! I wasnt asking that last qn cos of my uncle! :):) I just felt really detached for a moment...it was like, why am I here...whats the meaning of this life etc etc. :)
**the question about unrequited love...
where did u ask such a qn? I must hv missed it..sorry.
ok, so wut abt it?
Keshi.
ty Hemu!
ReplyDelete**i am single want to get mingle
yes we r single and ready to mingle, and my uncle is acting like a pringle! rather, kris kringle!
lol!
Keshi.
hey SMM tnxx!
ReplyDeleteat 23? wow thats so young! And d u think u made a good decision? I dun mean to question ur marriage. Im just asking. R ya happy in Marriage, than u wud hv been when u were Single?
** She (as well as her parents) prefer to skip family functions and weddings since they don't want a repeat of this conversation.
r ya serious?? omg thats soooo lacking self-confidence! I pity them. But it must be harder in India. The Society is a total Bitch there, like in Sri Lanka.
**1) Its a release of emotion which you can't always tell people who are very close to you.
so true girl!
**2) Its way cheaper than paying for a shrink.
haha cute one! I agree too. And I did a post on that too..a while back.
**3) And yes you do make a difference...
aww what u said means alot to me SMM. tnxx n HUGZ! I feel there's a purpose here too. We all make a difference in each others' lives by sharing our lives thru posts.
**4) You have made friends in the blogworld.
yes definitely! Friends that I can count on 24hrs, anytime, anywhere! unlike offline friends hehe.
**5) This blog is a part of you.
true. Its the voice of my heart. I really cant mute it can I, unless Im dead.
tnxx hun MWAH!
Keshi.
ty Chakoli!
ReplyDelete**...if its nt in ur mind...dnt go fr it
its not that IT's not in my mind...IT just dun haunt me as much as it does some ppl :)
*HUGZ*
Keshi.
ty Vrij!
ReplyDeleteI will check ur post soon.
I cant even go to a family funeral, there r relatives asking 'hey when r u getting married?' over the coffin.
WTF!
Keshi.
ty Murane :)
ReplyDelete**Common Keshi, it's really time to marry someone! You must try harder
**slaps Murane!**
lol!
Keshi.
hey Amy!!
ReplyDeletelol yes...such qns make me lose my temper big time!
*HUGZ*
Keshi.
hey AmitL tnxx!
ReplyDelete**Rather than trying to push you to matrimony,your Uncle was trying to convey his happiness at the birth of your cousin's baby.
I know that...I cud sense it that he was overjoyed by the birth of his new grandchild. But that doesnt give him the right to make me feel like a product on the shelf that should be bought soon by male product, right? LOL Amit!
**enjoying it
woohoo someone's admitting being single is FREEer than being married? ;-) just kidding!
Keshi.
haha Cindy @just get done with the convo!
ReplyDeleteI did just that by hooking my sis on the phone LOL!
Keshi.
thankee Divkiran :)
ReplyDeleteI cant really say those Sperm lines to my uncle cos he mite go into a coma. LOL!
** But at the same time, companionship is what both genders need in thr life.
But is Companionship found only in Marriage?
Keshi.
hmm hmm hmm...jst imagine what if one day u pick up the phone and tell him...uncle i've decided am having babies (while u're still single)...now that is something that will be rocker to the old chap.... :P
ReplyDeleteThe old chap does have certain points...and he speaks from his age old wisdom...dudette ure right now young, energetic living wid folks...blah blah blah...one day ure frnz will get married and get busy wid their own families...and u'll find ure folks are no longer there...and that being a topper at ure job isn't such great fun...and at tht point of time...u will not be able to turn back the wheel...
i agree with the lady also...being a mother is a single most important thing a woman can do...coz no matter how much he tries...a man has not been given the power to do it....
Now talking some contemporary stuff....i have a whole bunch of frnz who are in their early thirties and have just started to get in the realm of wanting to settle down...its the dynamism of the changing world...from girls getting married as kids...to just after school, to jst after college...to now well into their professional careers...its something ure uncle may not fathom...but thats how things work..
and then there are plenty of ppl who are not getting married at all...earlier their used to be a lot of dependencies...work wasn't so much...so after work u needed time to spend wid someone...women couldnt work..so they needed 'a provider' to take care of them..but now with work pressures heightening...and women as financially independent as men...the 'need' to be in a relationship has taken a slight battering (given that it is estimated last night 25000 marriages happened in delhi..i wont say too much of a battering...jst slight )
lastly as a personal view...i'm not sure i want to bring kids into this world...i really don't see what hope do i offer them...pollution...corruption...wars...blah blah blah...i'd rather go to an orphanage and give some hope to those unfortunate enuf to have entered this world...
and my personal stance on marriage is well known...i'm thinking of persuading bush to quit the manhunt for laden...and start a woman hunt for me...
aww yes Divkiran the kitties here r soooo cute! wut d u think abt Keshi kitty? LOL!
ReplyDeleteKeshi.
hey Shobhna nice kitty pic there lol!
ReplyDeletek will do. :) tnxx!
Keshi.
ty Vish!
ReplyDelete**...i have ppl telling me i shld attend more weddings as i need to know the relatives to invite to mine!
omg r ya serious? Thats insane! LOL! Some ppl seem to be in love with Marriage!
**1) you are the most truthful blogger :D
o cmon not ONLY me. U TOO VISH!
**2) you have the best wealth here-friends...and you are also a part of wealth...and i don't want to lose you( ya sounds too materialistic doesn't it )
lol d u feel sad for sounding like a HUMAN (materialistic). dun worry, its a need...a precious need...FRIENDSHIP I mean. HUGZ!
**3) you are a fellow alien i know...are species is threatened and we need to keep in touch as much as we can :)
lol cute one! I know ur a super RARE Alien for sure! I think there's only 1 of that species and thats you. So ur super precious!
:)
tnxx alot Vish!
Keshi.
ty Southy!
ReplyDelete**u cant even reply bluntly or even share what you exactly feel abt living single
yes..well-said!
I cant be rude to my uncle. So at the cost of losing my temper badly and kicking the sofa, I continue smiling with him!
Keshi.
ty Thinker n hey WC!
ReplyDelete**She has given me an ultimatum saying if i don't get married then.....
omg thats too harsh!
**As far a reason for you to blog is probably bring some smile to morons like myself whose life is otherwise dull.
aww, that made me feel happy...to hear that I make ppl smile. TY!
Keshi.
SO when you getting married Keshi?? Just kidding!!!!!!!
ReplyDeletety Aneesh!
ReplyDelete**The only thing I didn't understand keshi is why your friends all are getting husbands who either beat them or misbehave or ask dowry or whatever?????????????
not ALL Aneesh. SOME of em are. And they totally confide in me. And some of your friends may not be telling u the TRUTH. Alot of ppl in India/Sri Lanka dun confide that easily abt their personal lives. But ppl here do :) They dun care abt judgements.
**I never heard this type of experience from them, trust me and we were close enought so, they simply won't pretend they are happy.
ok...maybe ur married friends r much BETTER off than mine?
And yes I do hv some very happy married friends too. but there's nothing to blog abt them, is there? :)
**But my personal opinion is to live each and every stage of life, as a kid, as a teenager, as a youth, as a father/mother ........
so ur follwing a pattern? boring. :)
**'coz there is only one life and to enjoy it we'll get only once chance and by the time we regret it'll be too late
Not everyone regrets Aneesh. Cos everyone thinks differently. If we go to follow what someone else is doing, then it becomes a chore...not a passion.
tnxx!
Keshi.
Without glorifying you of course,
ReplyDeletefor sure:
I love You!
We all love You!
We need You!
ty Urv!
ReplyDelete**The best reason to blog is to write a post like this and "accidentally" give the blog url to uncle T.
lol dun be so cheeky Urv!
Keshi.
WC Anindita and tnxx!
ReplyDeleteI agree..Singledom rocks! Then again, thats just MY opinion ;-)
Yes I blog for myself...and ur spot on!
Keshi.
ty Meghna!
ReplyDeleteAnd u had to ask me to find a good guy? LOL u cheeky girl!
**I'm quite attached and used to u di and ur blog.....so please dont quit.....if not fr anythng else....for the sake of me...ur sissy
awwwwwwwww...so darn sweet! I dun hv a younger sis, so yeah u can be my younger sis HUGGGGGGGGGGZ n ty! :)
Keshi.
ty Whitenoise!
ReplyDeleteyes...I mean, cant they u'stand that not all ppl r made to FOLLOW.
Keshi.
ty Dewdropdream!
ReplyDelete**try telling 'em that you've converted to a religion that doesn't allow marriage :D
hahahaha good one!! Im really gonna use it next time. I really am!
**They see marriages and babies as hppy events they want to be a part of. But how involved will they actually be if your marriage isn't working out, or those nights when the baby is keeping you up and you're basically unhappy with this decision you made?
so true! And I dun mean I dun want babies cos of that. But ppl ask u to get married etc but the same ppl LAUGH at u when things go wrong. And even if they dun laugh, they cant really help u when things go wrong. Only u can help yourself.
**Sometimes it's best to be blunt and point things out rather than suffer in silence.
I agree. Next time Im gonna ask em how happy they r in thei r Marriages. Cos I know some arent.
**And hey, you've got a ton of fans here, why would you want to quit blogging? Sure you're blogging for yourself, but maybe what you need is a break, not a permanent out. What think you?
hehe yes I agree. Mebbe a Break..but my Break is my Blog. LOL!
*HUGZ* ty!
Keshi.
ty Hiren!
ReplyDelete**same qns
Pains of being born into desi families right? lol!
**Why wud u need a reason to continue doing something that u like ??
I agree...there need not be any reason at all.
**anyways if u want one - u shud continue blogging as now there are many others for whom "keshigirl.blogspot.com" has become an integral part of their lives
awww thats a very sweet thing to say. ty Hiren n HUGZ! :)
Keshi.
ty Prachi!
ReplyDelete**The most important thing is u live ur life in ur own way.
so true!
Just that some ppl r not letting me life MY life!
*HUGZ*
Keshi.
ty Nora!
ReplyDelete**Now that I'm married the question has changed to: When are you going to have kids?
lol hahaha typical PEOPLE!
Keshi.
Cindy tnxx hun, u know me well ha. ;-)
ReplyDelete*HUGZ*
Keshi.
aww ty Asha!
ReplyDelete**Happiness comes from within you, nobody brings it to you or you don't have to "settle down" for that
I so agree. Some ppl look for partners, some for houses, some for cars, some for careers, but what they fail to seek is inner peace. Once u hv that, u dun need external things to keep u going.
Til Sept? wutttttttttttttttt! :*(
Keshi.
hehe ty Nadine MWAH!
ReplyDeleteI think most guys I meet r scared of me...dunno why.
Keshi.
ty LaVida!
ReplyDelete**ur uncle is righ dammit! and ur friend! what is the point in having a vagina if u dont have children, esp male children? modern scmordern! whats w/ ppl?
LOL hahahahahahahaha! I loved it!
Typical HUMANS ha!
Vagina = Penis seeker
idiots!
ty LaVida and I luv ya too MWAHHHHHHHHHH!
Keshi.
ty Aayushi!
ReplyDelete**did he mean without marriage? lol..dirrty mind.eh :D
lol nah he didnt mean I should hv babies w.o. getting married.
**life will lead you to marriage..sooner or later
I dun DESIRE it Aayushi! Im happy the way I am :) If it happens GREAT...if it doesnt happen, still GREAT.
*HUGZ*
Keshi.
ty Jeevan!
ReplyDelete**? Sometimes we need to live the life to be born in the world as an individual for the purpose
I so agree!
Keshi.
ty Priya!
ReplyDelete**Curiosity is too much and giving advice is damn thing. I hate that.
So true! U know one of my close friends (used to be my BF) rang me in Jan after a long time. We r just friends and we r not in touch all the time. I told my cuz that he rang after a long time just to say HI, and she told everyone that WE R IN LOVE!!! LOL talk abt GOSSIP.
**Either single or married everybody gets older oneday and look for secondhand teeth
haha so true!
Keshi.
awww ty Outdoorsy! So nice to see ya too :)
ReplyDelete**think you should keep the blog up for yourself, too, as it is a good way to vent AND you have all us out here who can relate so you know you're not alone in your feelings
I agree. If I cant express, I think I'd die. :)
*HUGZ*
Keshi.
Monk WC n ty!
ReplyDeletedo I know u from a different ID?
**and don't even get me started on the whole society and its martial woes; google would have to buy extra data storage centres just to store my comments on it.
hahahaha! I so cracked up on that, big time! :):)
ty for the encouragement...I'll hang ard. Dun worry.
Keshi.
I dunno if they'll ever understand!
ReplyDeleteGuess their deal is, we went ahead mindlessly and did something, we want everyone to follow suit!
:/
But I hate it more when people who're not in the 'old' category but the 'engaged' or 'just married' categories utter this stupid nonsense and think as if they are showering some priceless gyaan!
:/ :S
ty Dalicia!
ReplyDeleteI love myself too. But its not even that. I just feel getting into a Marriage w.o. really understanding what it is and w.o. falling in love, there's really no point going thru all that shit. LOL!
And ur right..who wants to throw a Divorce party!
Keshi.
hahaha Prakhar!
ReplyDeleteImagine my uncle opening the door and being shocked at not finding me there!
Keshi.
ty Ria HUGS!
ReplyDelete**y leave something tht u so deserve
tnxx sweetz but I dunno if I deserve it tho...cos Im not a v nice girl sometimes. I can be crude and hurtful.
Keshi.
awwwwwww Jay u got my eyes all teary! HUGGGGGGGGGGGGGZ!
ReplyDelete**But, you're pretty much the only one I'd marry
lol r ya serious? cmon, lets go to the Chapel! ;-) U r adorable n ty!
And hey I love ya too!
Keshi.
haha Helen yeah I must tell him that. I dun think he knows what a BLOG is. LOL!
ReplyDelete**Stop when it's a chore, you get no enjoyment out of it, or you're putting up w/ abuse, but as with anything you have to work through the downs and enjoy the ups.
Well-said girl!
**It's a commitment to maintain bloggy-relationships
Ur right there...I hope it doesnt become a Marriage tho. ;-)
*HUGZ*
Keshi.
hehehe Neeku tnxx sweetz!
ReplyDeleteKeshi.
ty Stony!
ReplyDelete**Because you are passionate about it...
u made great sense there, tnxx mate!
**Being married is not bliss in most cases. It is just a social obligation and the bullshit cited above is used just to cajole unwilling youngsters into marriage.
very true. Its like we're fed with certain MUST-DOs in life and if we dun FOLLOW em, it's looked down upon.
**Your uncle may have faced similar advise perhaps at the age of 18 years. He is just continuing tradition. He cannot be blamed. But those who hurriedly agree should be.
I agree. Im not blaming him. He just gets on my nerves sometimes. LOL!
tnxx Stony! btw I cant see ur blog cos its private :(
Keshi.
ty Ghosty!
ReplyDelete** never have thought that you blogged to make others happy. you are just you.
I agree...but sometimes I wanna run away from myself too.
Keshi.
aww ty Anu HUGGGGGGGGZ!
ReplyDeletelol @bisexual! Good one girl!
*at 40...
hahahaha! mebbe I should tell my uncle to go see 'The 40yr old Virgin'? LOL!
**its all in God;s hands and who are we to make desicions for him "..
I so agree! My mum always tells that. If not in God's hands, I believe it's in Destiny's hands. No one can hurry or force anything against Destiny.
ty sweetz!
Keshi.
ty CN!
ReplyDeleteI love ur Widget example! WOW mind blowing stuff. TY!
**if u dont blog,then where would u write those things which u cant say to anyoe???
so true :)
Keshi.
ty Harry!
ReplyDeleteyes, its everywhere. Annoying to the core. LOL!
**and afterall, this is the blog through which we know each other.
well-said Harry! ty so much.
Keshi.
I did CN and I replied :) tnxx!
ReplyDeleteKeshi.
ty Sameera!
ReplyDelete**Girl I hope your Uncle does not get to read this
if he did, I'd tell him it's another uncle that he doesnt know. LOL!
HUGZ n tnxx for the sweet compliment! :)
Keshi.
AWWW dont stop blogging :( cause i will miss you!
ReplyDeletety so much Coco!
ReplyDeleteI agree...its so much more easier to get a great car than a great man! LOL good one!
**AND don't feel that you have to respond to everyone's comment either!
hmm...I dunno, if I dun respond to each commentor here, I feel awful. :) Mebbe cos thats who I am...I really love reading ppl's thoughts and letting them know I read em too.
But I agree..mebbe I should write shorter posts LOL Coco!
*HUGZ* n ty!
Keshi.
aww Ne ty sweetie! I feel the same way when I come to ur blog. MWAH!
ReplyDelete**I still do with my ancient Jewish family members
hahahahaha!
My big fat Sri Lankan family needs to get off my back!
Keshi.
only on paper Mutley? awwww....
ReplyDeleteKeshi.
ty Fingers!
ReplyDelete**Blogging will occupy your mind, protecting you from impure thoughts...and typing will occupy those idle fingers, which may otherwise stray into forbidden areas
lol u crazy dude!
How abt Blogging will keep me away from snoring n farting men? :):)
Keshi.
Well-said Aneri! U nailed it.
ReplyDelete**I have just realized that there is NO way you can satisfy people.
so so so true! Its like we need to fulfil their obligations. arrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrgggggggg!
And yes..from the moment we r born, the qns never end, until we die! when this, when that etc etc etc! Pisses me off big time. why cant ppl just BE and allow others to BE?
**what is "good" about it, you tell me? you want me to rant about kids too? you feeling too lonely doing it alone?
haha good one!
Same kinda thing happened with a friend. The one I mentioned in this blog. Her marriage has hit rock bottom. But she's advising me to get married? I dun get it.
**because someone asked me half an hour ago, at work, when are you having kids!
LOL slap em Aneri! And then say 'ooops Im sorry, I was thinking I slapped myself'.
**"sense-mixed-with-humor"
aww tnxx sweetie HUGZ! Ur blog is a whole lotta SENSE to me!
*HUGZ*
Keshi.
aww ty Deepz!
ReplyDelete**oh i got married long back. didn't you know?
lol hahahaha good one!
Keshi.
ty Suma n hey WB :)
ReplyDelete**'cos they do care for you too, however misguided it feels
I agree. They do CARE.
yeah..I need to vent out more often or I'll die. LOL! tnxx hun!
Keshi.
I love your blog :P
ReplyDeletehey Aneri :)
ReplyDelete**I can't believe someone actually said it to your face that your life's in vain if you're not a wife and mother
I know! its so v sad when a woman says that to another woman.
**milkman
lol! I mite tell him Im ringing the nearest Sperm Bank.
Keshi.
hahahaha Silvara I loved that list! TY for making me laff LOL!
ReplyDelete*** I was hoping to do something meaningful with my life.
Thats my fav btw. LOVED IT. Im gonna use that on my relatives for real! LOL!
Blogging is a part of me...oyes! U said that beautifully girl.
*HUGZ*
Keshi.
ty Ashu!
ReplyDelete** i feel you should blog cos you are honest, you dont have any inhibitions, you call a spade a spade. you give a damn to thhe messers around you and above all you give a lotta strength to many ppl out here.....
aww HUGZ!
I'd marry if/when I want to yes...and u sweetie?
Keshi.
hey Mystique!
ReplyDelete**...uncle i've decided am having babies (while u're still single)...now that is something that will be rocker to the old chap
hahaha! That wud make him pass out. LOL!
But Mystique wud I feel lonley some day? Im lonely even now. I feel that 'loneliness' all the time, irrelevant of my age, family, friends etc etc. Im aware that Im 'alone' anyways.
**being a mother is a single most important thing a woman can do...coz no matter how much he tries...a man has not been given the power to do it....
just cos a man cant give birth, u think its the SINGLE most IMP thing a woman can DO? I so dun agree. :) Women can give birth yes, but not all women can be real MOTHERS. Some Women who didnt give birth, r brilliant MOTHERS to some children.
**i'm not sure i want to bring kids into this world...i really don't see what hope do i offer
Ur point above stated that the single most IMP thing a woman can do is give birth, and now u say u dun want kids? So it's not so IMP after all is it?
**i'm thinking of persuading bush to quit the manhunt for laden...and start a woman hunt for me...
lol good one! And good luck! :)
Keshi.
aha.. uncles and aunts are copypastedly same everywhere ;)
ReplyDeleteas to why you should continue.. thats a nice way to fish for compliments :p
Ahem... This is the question Im also not able to answer.... Cheers... Really these ppl torture you in the name of relatives...
ReplyDelete52 replies later she finds time to reply to me...and then she wants me to dart off arrows halfway across the world to her...grr grr
ReplyDelete***now ain't u glad ure single rather than deal wid all the emotional tugs love comes wid :P
i think i shud have written less ambiguously...the first part is where i comment on why the ppl spoke wat they spoke...
though this mother thing i do agree wid...but let me rephrase...i'm not saying it is absolutely essential to do it...but it is the single most powerful thing they can do...give life...come's quite close to being god don't u think...
the last two are my perosnal point of views...
not sure if the ambiguity has cleared up or increased :P
haaha :P :P
ReplyDeletehahahah
seriously girl... i cant stop laughing!!!
Ppl ask me, tell me, advise me to get married and i say.. will do it, when i will get a girl!!! :P
hahaha...the same stuff!!!
Society has a right to think, i dont disagree but then we have a life of our own.. isnt!!! :)
and ur sis shld have killed u!!! :P :P
hhaha
seriously, dont get me wrong, but this happens a lot with me!!! :D
shhhhhhhhhhhh Phoso LOL!
ReplyDeleteKeshi.
Krys I love and I need ya too! *HUGZ*
ReplyDelete:)
Keshi.
WC Bhai!
ReplyDelete**Guess their deal is, we went ahead mindlessly and did something, we want everyone to follow suit!
I agree :)
**just-married
lol I so know those kinda ppl. I guess thats cos they r
JUST MARRED.
Keshi.
Kaylz I luv ya too hun!
ReplyDeleteHows u these days?
Keshi.
hey Jitterbug :) u in Nigeria now?
ReplyDelete**uncles and aunts are copypastedly same everywhere
hahahaha yes!
**as to why you should continue.. thats a nice way to fish for compliments
o cmon! I did say w.o. glorifying me :)
Compliments I hv many...but my heart is restless...finding emptyness everywhere it goes...
Keshi.
lol Chap u too?
ReplyDeleteKeshi.
Mystique I hv an Arrow-tracker..it reads that ur arrow is somewhere in Perth. LOL Im in Sydney man!
ReplyDelete**but it is the single most
powerful thing they can do...
I agree. But that doesnt make a woman w.o. a child, useless. Does it?
Keshi.
hahaha Ankur Im glad ur laffing! :)
ReplyDelete**Society has a right to think, i dont disagree but then we have a life of our own..
I agree. But what the SOCIETY thinks isnt my concern at all. :) Cos the Society aint feeding me or paying my bills. I do.
My sis was so angry she looked at me like she wanted to tear my hair out LOL!
Keshi.
good just loss someone so i am not in the best of moods.
ReplyDeleteKaylz Im v sorry to hear that!
ReplyDelete*HUGZ*
:*(
Keshi.
LOL your uncle is haliarious!
ReplyDeleteAnd as for why you should blog... Girl what kind of a dumbass question is that?
Thanks it was a suicide unfortanately :(
ReplyDeleteHey...Firstly...catty Keshi is the Cattiets!!! lol
ReplyDeleteAnd secondly, marriage is more like a name or rather a social approval given to you to be with the one u chose as ur life partner... if u don wanna get married as in the ceremony and all the jazz but still find someone to spend ur life with, thn go ahead...
As long as u n ur prtner are ok with it n r not havin kids...its all good...complexity arises the moment a child comes in to the pic... and well, thts a whole new topic - bringin up children so lets not go thr :)
hahaha Crasiezt yeah I can be a big dumbass sometimes. HUGZ!
ReplyDeleteKeshi.
awww Kaylz thats so v sad! :(
ReplyDeleteKeshi.
lol Divkiran how abt staying single after all? :)
ReplyDeleteKeshi.
hey Keshi
ReplyDelete1st off,keep blogging, cos you write about all the stuff that we enjoy reading and most of the times are able to relate to~~ :) i wish i could make time to write abt all the stuff going thru my head...
2nd, i completely understand how you feel[abt the whole world talking about marriage like its the do all, end all.] am sick n tired of the que's as well.. and nowadays people know the answer they get, so they dont broach that subject with me.. i jus give it back to them saying "dont u have anything else to talk to me about?" Aaargghhhh.
we shd all form a group and go live life our way and tell "buzzz off" to the rest of the society~~~ [Gawd, i hate that word- society= keep having tifs at home about how we are the ones who created the damned society and how today we are scared n living life to please the F@#**&^ society..."..]
Yep it is :( Wrote a post on it!
ReplyDeletehey Aarti HUGS!
ReplyDelete**"dont u have anything else to talk to me about?"
thats actually a good line to use. tnxx for that! :)
yes the Society is fucked up big time. LOL!
**"buzzz off"
haha I like it! Mebbe we should call our Group the 'BUZZ OFF' group so the Society gets the msg when they ask us who we r and we say 'BUZZ OFF'. :)
Keshi.
Kaylz I'll come ard soon.
ReplyDeleteKeshi.
dunnno
ReplyDeleteI don think I can
I thouht like tht too and thn both my best frinds got married...i feel damn lonely at times cuz thy r busy with thr life n i have no one to share it with...
It doesnt stop me from doin nethin tht i want to - job, hobbies, chillin out just like tht...nthn at all...but i wud love to share it all with sum1 u know!!!
Div I agree. Sometimes I feel like that too..that I need someone to cuddle with, kiss and take walks with...
ReplyDeletebut only SOMETIMES...
Keshi.
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ReplyDeleteStygian tnxx!
ReplyDeleteBut why is ur comment in caps? r ya screaming at me? LOL!
No I dun agree with what u said. AGE has nothing to do with it. A Mistake is nothing more/less than a mistake. So if someone older than u did something wrong to u, saying Sorry wud be GRACEFUL.
Its not a matter of not being VERY NICE as u put it. It's a matter of really feeling sorry for what happened, irrelevant of AGE.
Keshi.
And u deleted ur comment Stygian? WHY?
ReplyDeleteDun u believe in what u say?
wut r u hiding from! Im actually sick of it. :)
Keshi.
The caps were accidental.
ReplyDeletewas typing something for my blog
:D I know! *hugs* Muah!
ReplyDeleteMUAAAAAAAAHHHHHH Crasiezt! U TC NOW!
ReplyDeleteKeshi.
no worries Stygian :)
ReplyDeleteKeshi.
heylo...howdy??busy day??missed out on my comment?
ReplyDeleteG-man sorry I missed replying to u and 2 others here! :(
ReplyDeleteAbt Marriage..yes, do it if/when u feel like u want to!
** especially since you can be yourself without any issues
I so agree, tnxx! :)
Keshi.
aww Anjuli tnxx hun MWAH!
ReplyDeleteKeshi.
ty Mav!
ReplyDeletesorry I missed replying to u and 2 others in the crowd. :(
**well i gues thats a standard indian subcontinent family conversation
I so agree. But its making me one angry kitten. LOL!
Keshi.
@keshi...u knw the angry kitten -> keshi does look very hot :D
ReplyDeletelol Mav!
ReplyDelete*meeeeeooooooooooooooowwwww*
*scratch scratch*
Keshi.
of course u shud keep blogging keshi. its ur way of expressing yourself, your creativity and maybe even a vent out for your emotions and a way of expression.
ReplyDeletepleaseeee there'll always be people who'll question your choices and beliefs. if you know that u r sure of what u want then u could turn a deaf ear.
to be honest i don't fancy myself single at the age of 45 but i do know people who'd happily do that cos they are happier. its better living your life alone than living with a mistake for the rest of it.i also know women who are unhappy and dissatisfied cos they never got married for whatever reasons and loneliness is killing and the "i am so happy being single" facade really doesn't seem to work cos people see through it.
i think its just the choices we make. if u r happy just don't bother. there'll always be wagging tongues.
cheers! :D
@keshi....hmm...u really want to scratch around on ur blog :D
ReplyDeletehehehe!!!
ReplyDeleteIf I were u I would tell him 'Unk there is this girl in my office and i really like her, will u be sweet and talk to her parents. I would love to live with her.' Beleive me he will never ever speak about marriage again.
Haha..Keshi,of course I enjoy being freer,but,than,that's not all of the time.:)
ReplyDeleteRe. the answer to your question,why I think you should be there at ur blog,well,the answer's simple- where you're concerned,it's a nice outlet,a nice way to express yourself,and a nice place to know that there're people round the world who care.From my side,well,it's great knowing someone who writes well,someone who's warmhearted and frank in expression!:) Does that answer your question?Hope to see u around for the next few decades.:)
hummm.. what to do.. ppl around us like to pock in our lives! Esp. a girl's life.. *sigh
ReplyDeleteI think you should be here because you want to be here!
ReplyDeleteHi kesi..I can usnderstand your situation..You are nt the only one who face such type of Qs but the people who wish to be live single alone, face such type of qs..
ReplyDeleteCngtats kesi..I can understand your situtaion...Ya..it happnes..relatives try to find a suitable match but they forget the others persons priorities...
Anyway...peple will still ask you abt your baBy if you dnt have baby after the marrige...
Hope you will soon find ur perfect match ...
TC..
SANDY
Hi kesi..I can usnderstand your situation..You are nt the only one who face such type of Qs but the people who wish to be live single alone, face such type of qs..
ReplyDeleteCngtats kesi..I can understand your situtaion...Ya..it happnes..relatives try to find a suitable match but they forget the others persons priorities...
Anyway...peple will still ask you abt your baBy if you dnt have baby after the marrige...
Hope you will soon find ur perfect match ...
TC..
SANDY
Without marriage?
ReplyDeleteDon't you think you'll have probs on adjusting or actually the other way rnd..the society of India/Sri Lanka won't accept it?
I can absolutely relate to this .. each time I see my relative's number on my phone, I dread this damn routine . If after non -stop questioning I snap at some "poor soul", it is attributed to my growing arrogance due to " financial independence". Its stll 13th century mind set :(
ReplyDeletesissyy
ReplyDeleteabt ..married or single :O
hmmmmm
hmmmmmm
hmmmmmmmm
still finking...:-s
and to the ques y shud u b here???
ans: coz I love u loads ....simple :)
*hugz*
I forgot to add why you should continue to blog.It's because :
ReplyDelete*You cannot run away from who you are
and
*It's injustice to oneself to stop doing what they love
damn thats mad!!!go on...enjoy your singledom...you would definitely enjoy a lot of attention from envious souls who are married, OR better still want to marry you!!:)
ReplyDeleteScribblers Inc.
keshi,
ReplyDeleteYah, I agree. But, I'm not following the majoriy. it's what I like. I don't let anyone else decide my life but me. I've lived the way I wanted till now..Yah everyone's have their own likes, dislikes, right.
"ok...maybe ur married friends r much BETTER off than mine?"
Haha, I would like to think that my friends got better husbands than yours :)
"Alot of ppl in India/Sri Lanka dun confide that easily abt their personal lives."
Yah, may be, but not my friends, I know them :)
"so ur follwing a pattern? boring. :)"
Haha, very funny, I don't think following a pattern is boring, as long as we know how to keep it interesting :)
Yah, when we were a kid, we use to go to school everyday-- that's a pattern, now was it boring to go to school?
Then we went to college, got a lot of friends-- that's a pattern, was that boring?
Now, we all are having cell phone, we all are blogging-- that's a pattern, is that boring?
"Not everyone regrets Aneesh."
Frankly I don't know, or think anyone will know, any person who never regretted in their life. And we all are too young to regret :), we are yet to see life, isn't it?
PS: Just my views, keshi, Be cool :)
a. honestly? u shouldn't get married till u find the person that's right for you. someone that you don't want to live without - though u very well can! and heyy, i was single and VERY happy.. so i don't think that being married is the only way to be happy. marriage makes you happy only when u marry the right person.
ReplyDeleteb. been reading ur blog only recently. but it lends a different perspective. it makes me think. and i think u shud continue blogging coz i like to read what u write. yeah, yeah.. very self-centered answer that. but heyy, it's true!
Hehe.. Don't Worry..
ReplyDeleteIt Happens With Boys Too...
TakeCare Sweety...
:)
Hahah!
ReplyDeleteEvery household has the same story.....
When you are single at so called marriageable age, people consider you as if you are an alien.(Not my own experience though:D TG, I still have plenty of time to take my kids to school..LOL)
Why Dear Keshi should keep blogging?
Well, there are plenty of reasns for the same...
1) Blogsville will truly miss the charm of above-board posts if you quit.
2) I'm (Infact many bloggers are) so much used to see you commenting on my (their) blog(s) on the same day that our blogs wouldn't sustain without you.
3) Bloggers wouldn't have any role model to look at if you leave. (My unresolved query from past few decades is how do you manage to get over 200 comments on every post?:D LOL)
4) On personal front, I would miss my first blogsville friend and a true well-wisher :)
So be there and keep bringing smiles on our faces!
ok tell me is it important to marry to have KIDS...
ReplyDeletehehehehe,....
and if ts ok with u if ur boy flirts with ur frinds and never buys u diamonds...I M SINGLE..
lol
There the old folks go again *eyes rolling*
ReplyDeleteSorry for not visiting, one computer down ;(
Pretty soon ...all my friends will be married...oh shit...and none of my relationships have lasted more than a month....I am not ready... when it has to happen... it will.... where is my love story.... damn
ReplyDeletesigh!! I have been warding of these questions like for eternity!!
ReplyDeleteI wonder why is it so ALL important to get married??
I dunno y did u say tht u can b crude and hurtful!!i cant agree with it coz mebbe i havnt seen tht side of u. But if u r a true cancerian....which i m sure u r then i knw tht we cancerians get hurt more often then hurting others sentiments!
ReplyDeleteu shud stay coz nw smehw all of us are connected to each other....it will feel bad if any of us leaves!
ReplyDeletewhere r my follow up comments to ur last post...can't find dem.
ReplyDeletechck g-man's blog for our ongoing debate
chck my blog for follow up comments...u misunderstood my post big time!!!
so that we can keep on seeing those funny cat pics ;p
ReplyDeletemmmuuah! missed ya!