Your Best Is Your Friend

We once were. Now all I have are pieces of the broken us. All my life I have had friends of all kinds, all walks of life, from all around the world. Yet I still have not found a friend that I can call my 'best friend' or 'true friend'. Don't get me wrong, I value all my friends equally and do believe that they are real and contribute to my being in their own unique ways. But I also know that not a single humanbeing can be at their BEST all the time, or be consistently TRUE to someone else. People can't be with you forever. You can't be with them forever either. So why do we try to make them our's, try to call them 'my', 'mine' etc? People make mistakes, just as much as they can make each other happy. And we all have our own cross to bear let alone bear other people's crosses for them. We all want the best for our loved-ones but we do fail them sometimes. And that's not a crime. Cutting to the chase, that means there can't be a friend on Earth who will always be TRUE to you and will always be there for you til the end of time. Let's face it people.


As I lay myself to sleep, I wonder about you...I think of the times we've had together...I remember how it all fell apart...I feel the void right now. I'm not a perfect person. I'm as fragile as you are. But I still value you as a friend. Friends come and go. No one stays forever, even if they do, nothing is forever. People often think I must have alot of friends. In real, I have only a very few close friends, and ALOT who are no longer in my life. Even with those few friends, I do have a distance...we don't hang out together all the time. I'm a very friendly person but I'm a very difficult person to be a friend to. That may well be because I appear aloof though deep down I really care...I live in my own world and I know you live in your's. I give ample time and space to my friends, just as much as I require the same from them. Some friends don't talk to me anymore cos I didn't meet up with them or cos I couldn't keep up with their demands or cos their priorities changed completely. Hey that's ok...Im not crying for you anymore, neither am I upset about it anymore, though I was at the start. Cos now I believe that's just the way it's ought to be. I don't 'try' to keep anything going cos I believe that if there's something real, I don't have to 'try' to keep it going. It will stay alive on it's own. To me, that's what genuine friendship is. And even if it dies someday, I know it was once there. Let's move on.


Just as much as you have not been there for me, I know that I haven't been there for you either. In a perfect world, we'd be comforting each other til the end of time. But unfortunately, that's not what nature is. I do understand that no one can be 100% there for someone else and til death do them part. That's rubbish. From time to time we fail, and it's ok. As long as we realise that as humans we are prone to change, then I think we will be able to come to terms with the fact that there's no such thing as a BEST/TRUE friend per person who will be there for you at all times. Every friend we make adds to our life just as much as we do to their's. Being the best and being true is all momentary. It may change any time. Cos people change, times change and priorities change. But that doesn't mean they were never your friends. Everything in this world goes through an exciting beginning, a blood-rushing peak and then a Nirvana-like saturation period. If even after that saturation period, you still care about each other without having to say or do anything, then cherish that. And sometimes things end abruptly and will be never be the same again. It's ok. It's nature. We can never go against nature. Start to accept the fact that the more expectations you have out of your friends, the more miserable you will be. Let's give ourselves and others alot of time and space.

Thanks for being in my life once upon a time. You're not around anymore but you're still a friend that made a difference in my life. Nothing has to last forever for it to be real. If you don't have a so-called forever friend, don't panic. I'm in the same boat, and I have no qualms about it either. Cos I know, nothing and noone is forever. So I choose my best as my friend, and make the most of the time I have with the people I meet. Surf's up, come on let's have fun while it lasts, cos we may not get this moment again. And this moment is real. Let's grab it.

PS: My dear friends SMM and Veni recently wrote posts on Friendship. This post was inspired by their wonderful posts, and this is my take on it. Thanks guys!


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