Do we ever become complete at some point in our lives based on what we have achieved and who we have met? Or are we complete as we are right now, with all the imperfections included. I think Im complete as I am right now - along with all my flaws, mistakes, unfulfilled dreams, and yes even with my single status. What makes me write this post? Well a friend of my mum recently told me this - Keshi you won't be complete without a man. I was terribly shocked by what she said and was thinking if I could really be hearing such a thing and standing there not digging a hole and disappearing. Not because I agreed with what she said but because I thought it was a really stupid statement and that even an ounce of my cranium should not be wasted at attempting to explain my views to her. But she's my mum's friend and she has a very conservative Indian background. I can't expect much more than that from such a person so all I said was 'Aunty dear (I felt like making it 'Dear Agon-ising Aunt'), I don't really think I need a man to validate my Complete status, neither do I need a man to add value to my self-worth. I don't need to live upto society's expectations 
and I like to do things my way, even though the the entire world may try to stop me (that's me standing at a No-Dogs area going well against the so-called rules). I'm complete as I am right now and I'm very happy with myself okkk'. She wasn't happy with that but do I care...cos I feel complete.
and I like to do things my way, even though the the entire world may try to stop me (that's me standing at a No-Dogs area going well against the so-called rules). I'm complete as I am right now and I'm very happy with myself okkk'. She wasn't happy with that but do I care...cos I feel complete. In my life so far I have achieved many a dreams, done well in studies and work, been a good daughter to my parents, haven't killed anyone (not yet), have lost sleep over few men, kissed a coupla hunks (who later became toads), gave my 100% to some people who crossed paths with me, made a huge bunch of friends from my blog (yeah you sweeties), laughed too much, cried more, partied hard, been stupid many a times, hassled people with my annoying habits, lost many loved-ones, even walked down a highway last Sat looking really lost, had great many disappointments, told some people off, learnt to accept defeat, got very close to death and have known life is never complete without being incomplete...that's just my way and that's complete to me. Well this may not be the picture-perfect life that some girls' lives turn out to be, but I think this is what my Perfect is and what I have been given. I know I haven't been given much in this life - I lost my dad too early, never found a man who could honeslty love me back, haven't got a shoulder to cry on when I really need to, get walked all over all the time, have hidden heartaches that no doctor can cure, there's 'something' that might kill me some day etc etc. But who has everything in life? So yeah, I can wallow in self-pity and cry for what I don't have but then I'd be wasting the time I have right now. I wanna make this moment go unwasted and live it to the fullest. That makes my life complete.
Everyone has their own definition of what Complete is. Mine goes like this...I'm complete cos I know who I am and I know what I want in life...even though I can't have everything I want in life, even though I have a thousand flaws, even though all my dreams may never come true, I am complete because I was, am and will be me always. As long as I haven't lost my original soul to material needs and societal pressures, I have all of me in me, and for that reason I'm complete. No one and nothing but only I shall define me.
How would a small path look like if it didn't have any wildflowers on the side? If not for the wildflowers that grow without any special care or need to be appreciated and looked at, we would never have known how beautiful a walk down that path would be. I'm happy for the wildflower that I am and maybe from my very 'imperfect' life, others can get some pleasure and grasp some lessons, and that'll do folks. I'm not a well looked-after commercial Tulip, I will never be sold in exchange of someone else's needs, therefore I'm complete in the eyes of nature. So what's your definition of Complete?I'd like to finish this post with a song that Belinda Emmett (see previous post) wrote and sang while she was fighting Cancer. This song was released today on the eve of her funeral. Have a read of the lyrics. It's called LESS THAN PERFECT.
Looked into the cards
My fate amongst the spread
Following my stars
And analysing what's been said
Been writing down my dreams
Which later I'd dissect
Just trying to find some meaning in this life
Less than perfect
This life less than perfect
Looking for a signal
A sign amongst the throng
A glance into my past
To see where I went wrong
Been writing down my feelings
Which I fiercely protect
Just trying to find some meaning in this life
Less than perfect
This life less than perfect
Have you ever wondered
What it would be like
To be somebody else
With their perfect, perfect life?
But it's mine to carry
Mine to own
And it's not so scary
To carry it alone
And the wonder of it all
Sometimes it's hard to see
Sometimes I wanna crawl away
And go to sleep
In this life less than perfect
Have you ever wondered
What it would be like
To be somebody else
With their perfect, perfect life?
But it's mine to carry
Mine to own
And it's not so scary
To carry it alone
So here I am with my
Less than perfect life
Here I stand with my
Less than perfect life
Less than perfect life
Less than perfect life.
Have a good one guys and don't let anyone cramp your style. hooroo!
Current Music: My Way by Robbie Williams
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I think you sound very strong and independant and would be a wonderful soul partner in life, if and when you choose to select a parnter.
Best Regards, and thanks for shairng your interesting blog!
www.bionicbuddha.com
Keshi
Just can't think of anything to say
right now...about my definition of complete...just too achy to think!
When I'm feeling better..I'll come back!
But, I will say this about you...
You are a real and complete person..
full of lots of love!
Don't let anyone tell you anything different!!!
You do not need a man to complete
who you are!
Have a wonderful weekend!
luv you!
Margie
Keshi, to be honest, I agree to an extent with your mom's friend.
I guess if you consider finding a partner one of your goals in life, then I would say one cannot claim to be complete without one.
If you take a couple that is together, and you seperate them, I bet both people would say that they do not feel complete.
This isn't true for everyone. Some people are content without a mate, and that's cool.
I don't think I will truly feel complete until I find one though, so in that sense, I have to agree.
Hi Keshi!
I love your style of writing. It is amazing story. Really your wonderful life! I'll be back read again!
Bloody Hell
somebody here called me bloody disgusting
Margieeeeeeee
come back soon
feel better soon
i sure wudnt want to visit your poetry page now
it must be painful
Thats ur life and ur opinion abt being complete and obviously u r entitled to it. As far as what that respectable lady said, she's absolutely right and u found it otherwise only coz either u r not yet ready for it or u hv mentally suppressed that requirement for good due to variety of personal reasons. One can still be in his or her most independent form even with a partner of opposite sex under the same roof, secondly marriage necessarily doesn't means sleeping together every night, having sex, raising children, appear together in social gatherings, etc for all this there r so many other options available. Also u hv only come across hunks not MAN so far so u will not realise the real fruits of being in a relationship which alone makes everything else worthless and gives u the feeling of being complete and satisfied mentally and physically, ofcourse the same thing goes with the men as well.
dun agree Southy...but I will be back with all the comment-replies soon.
Keshi.
LOL.
I am hearing all these for last 2 years and this has increased in last 4-5 months. The usual line is, "find some good girl and get married". so as you say, are we complete in ourself?
Yes, I am. Even when I am single and intent to live single.
On the other hand, I am ready to get married but only when my life partner adds some thing to me and makes me double not in status but in everything. I don't need a maid servant. I don't need a cook. I don't need a sex slave. All these can be purchased and I don't think there is a need to get married. Its foolish to buy a cow when you just want a glass of milk.
Then one more thing, the following quote is by a very great man. Always quote it when encountered by such kind of aunts.
"Stats are applicable on a population not one me."~Kumar Chetan
What may be good for the whole universe, may not be good for me.
PS: Ch33r up. I have grown mustaches. I will soon post my picture and you can download it to adore me :P. Shameless Self Promotion
Like i said what all u think is ur own opinion and u r entitled for it, as far as agreeing on what i had to say doesnt really makes any difference i said what i felt after reading what u had to say.
Good day!
Or are we complete as we are right now, with all the imperfections included. I think Im complete as I am right now -
u r rong and your mom is rong
u dont need a man for keeps
just long enuff to give u a baby
those boobs were made by God to feed a baby
u will regret it one day if u dont have a baby soon
pregnancy becomes more difficult as u age Keshi
a woman is never complete until she is a mother
dats your purpose in life
software and coding is a past time till u find the right man to father your child
age dont matter (of the father)
he must have good genes dats all
shut the fuck up Southy
I agree totally with what you said Keshi - nothing in life is perfect and neither is anyone. To be content with what we have in this time and place is a lot to ask as it is and to know that you are content is a sign of completeness in a way. LOL - Jess Simpson's song - "I belong to me" describes exactly what you're saying - you don't NEED a man to complete you - yet if looking for one is part of your goals it migt be something to also say that Yes, I am now complete. I don't think it is something that stands still in time - over the years we may find ourselves without partners, situations and friends, yet if u retain ur own sense on contentedness (is that a word??) then definitely you can say you're complete. Lol - I think I confused myself now heheh.
and Keshi ..
u may hate me for dis
JUST A TIP
wearing a blouse like dat widout a pallav is a NO NO for bharatiya naris
u can take over oldman, i m off for the day...
: )
what is ur favourite guns n' roses album & song?
~
WC to my blog BionicBuddha!
It's not that I dun want a partner but I aint looking either. U know, if it happens, it will. That's how I see it.
ty sweetie!
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ty Margie that means alot to me HUGGGGGGGZ!
Alot of ppl think not having a partner in life (as in marriage) is living an incomplete life. That's wrong. If u have loved someone truly and even if u have lost, then u've already had a complete life. Thats my belief but yeah, to each his own.
u be better soon now...TC n have a good, relaxing weekend Margz!
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AB tnxx for being honest. I want honest comments not just ones that agree with me :)
**I guess if you consider finding a partner one of your goals in life, then I would say one cannot claim to be complete without one.
yeah but Im not planning to find one or not to find one. Where does that put me then? :)
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Krystyna ty darl!
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Saby yeah ur current post was YUKKKKKKKKKK! Ur starting a porn site or something?
btw I will wear whateva I want okkk Saby baby?? :)
**a woman is never complete until she is a mother
who said that? thats such a sexist comment Saby. What abt women who adopt kids and become better mums than some women who r not good mums at all to their own kids!!
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Southy heyy!
** she's absolutely right and u found it otherwise only coz either u r not yet ready for it or u hv mentally suppressed that requirement for good due to variety of personal reasons.
OMg I cant believe u said she's absolutekly right!! :):) Anyways na I havent suppressed any requirement. I'll be really honest here. It would be great to have a partner...I've had few b4 and life was good. But it's still good even now when Im single. So how can u say that she's right abt what she said??
Southy r u saying having a partner completes u? HOW then?
**Also u hv only come across hunks not MAN so far so u will not realise the real fruits of being in a relationship which alone makes everything else worthless
mebbe ur right I dunno. But just cos we ended our r'ships it doesnt mean they were not MEN. :)
**and gives u the feeling of being complete and satisfied mentally and physically, ofcourse the same thing goes with the men as well.
why d u feel complete now and not then?
**Like i said what all u think is ur own opinion and u r entitled for it, as far as agreeing on what i had to say doesnt really makes any difference i said what i felt after reading what u had to say.
duhh I know that Southy. we r having a discussion here so yeah it has to be agreed/disagreed until it's closed :). Thats why I said that.
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Kumar heyy tnxxx! I know ur one independent guy :):)
**On the other hand, I am ready to get married but only when my life partner adds some thing to me and makes me double not in status but in everything
thats so right. I mean alot of ppl get married cos they think it's one more thing to achieve in life. Thats not what it is. It must add meaning to ur life, if not u better be single.
**Stats are applicable on a population not one me."~Kumar Chetan
LOL good one! way to go mate ;-)
ROFL @moustache! for real?
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Silvara hey tnxx!
** I don't think it is something that stands still in time - over the years we may find ourselves without partners, situations and friends, yet if u retain ur own sense on contentedness (is that a word??) then definitely you can say you're complete
Spot on babez! U got that right and thats exactly what Im trying to say. COMPELETE means different things to different ppl. So how can one really say he/she is complete w.o. someone else saying he/she isnt. :)
ty!
Keshi.
ok Southy byeee!
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r2k :):):)
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Fergal I started off with Use Your Illusion 1 and 2 and then the Greatest Hits ofcourse :)
Keshi.
dont let anyone crample your style... yooohoo..that is so true.. we might feel complete at that point when we suddenly find a new person doting on us all the time but ultimately we realize it is only YOU and only YOU who can complete yourself.. no one else.. neither the man nor the kids.. so true..
Sush thats so rightly stated.
**when we suddenly find a new person doting on us all the time but ultimately we realize it is only YOU and only YOU who can complete yourself
Spot on! Everything u get in life is temporary but ur self is something that's always with you, atleast until u die. So only YOU can make urself complete - not anyone/anything else.
Keshi.
This is too complicated topic. All I can say is that if you are really happy with yourself, I think then you are complete.
Sorry for bringing up complicated posts MG :(
keshi.
Keshi baby
i am old enuff to be your dad
so u damn well better lissen and lissen good
u r loosing your roots
u keep saying mate
when u shud be saying yaar
u show too much cleavage
its not done widout a pallav in india
indian women are valued for their modesty and shyness and the fact dat they still can blush
very few western women can blush
Margie is an exception
i love Margie
i am sure TT will agree
he is from the old school
where the fuck is TT these days?
please note Indian men are allowed to use the F- Word
and the indian women must blush when they hear it
btw I will post whateva I want okkk baby ?? :)
Go Keshi! GO!
Sometimes someone touches a trigger and all the rebellious spirit in us just wants to roar back at them fiercely...
Keep the fire going...keep the fuel... but burn no one... Neither should you let any one define: "you".
Have a nice day!
sometimes its hard to comment on somethings! just my two cents here!!
everyone is complete in a unique way! the term unique is for you to find becoz you know yourself better than anyone else. and the path in front of you will show you where you want to be with yourself!!
take care!!
I'm not a well looked-after commercial Tulip, I will never be sold in exchange of someone else's needs, therefore I'm complete in the eyes of nature.
:(( commercial tulip ah? *sob sob
=ammu=
Saby heyyy u bloody disgustin person! ;-)
**Keshi baby
i am old enuff to be your dad
o yeah? and u go n post that kinda shit on ur blog? EWWWWWW!
**u r loosing your roots
u keep saying mate
when u shud be saying yaar
And u havent lost ur's? LOL!
**u show too much cleavage
its not done widout a pallav in india
Im not in India ok??? And even when I was in SL I wore what I liked. Im a very liberal girl and I guess ppl should not be judged by what they wear. TY!
And hell yeah I will post wuteva I want and as long as it's not as disgustin as ur post, everything is OK :)
Now go read the bible LOL!
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heyya Soj hope ur better now matey.
**Neither should you let any one define: "you".
Spot on n tnxxxxx!
Keshi.
ty Deepz thats exactly wut I meant too :) Im glad u didnt tell me that Im incomplete cos I aint settled with someone hehehe.
TC!
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Ammu cmon ur not a commercial Tulip! Ur a wild Tulip...always...HUGGGGGGGGGGGGZ!
Keshi.
on a more serious note..
being complete is rather a subjective issue. what is complete for u, may not be complete for me and vice versa. may be im still being traditional, but for me being complete is far beyond my reach for now.
but im happy for u darling. if u feel u r complete. u lived (and living) ur life to the fullest. thats what matters in the end.
hugsss
happy weekend.
ammu.
and if u ask me, even you need not define yourself either... don't stick to words like 'AusBCD', 'traditional' etc...
you are just 'Keshi'. And that means you are free to change your mind about anything anytime too!
just my two cents.
when u marry an indian guy
u dont just marry the guy
his mom has to approve
if i were to bring u home
my mom wudnt approve
u gotta dress modest
after u marry
no more partying
but i will continue to party
while u cook, mend and sew
and u wont eat till i get home
and u wont wear T shirts and jeans
just a modest sari
** Keshi you won't be complete without a man.
:)) ... ur point is valid keshi, but therz another side to the coin ... women need love ... thats what makes men n women flock to one another ... basic biological instinct ... "IF" a woman finds a many who loves her genuinly the feeling is unsurpassed. dun u think so? wudn't that add a lot to feeling complete ... it works this way nutty ... the couple express bout each other making the other feel complete ... n in general ppl become what they think they r ... so even the weakest of minds wud feel so that way
but to say she wudn't be complete otherwise is another thing #-o and if one has a strong mind like u, then their own asserting is enuf ... no need for societies approval :) ... nevertheless be open-minded ... who knows the man know makes u feel complete might be just around the corner ;)
as for the 1st question ... no one but saints r complete IMHO ... we normal mortals tick coz we r incomplete ... thats what keeps us goin ... living in truth to ourself is different nah ... u never let urself down :) ... living to our fullest, which is gud ... but if ur really complete dun u think u'd proly be a ascetic by now :p
my point is not to say u ain't complete. rather if u were complete u'd proly live an austere life giving up on material pursuit n gratification of senses ... maybe u already r on that path :-/
** wrote and sang while she was fighting Cancer
my uncle wrote one too :) ... the only part of which I remember is that "wait my near & dear ones till I swim across the river of cancer" :)
ur blog has b'com a billboard for nutty :D ... waiting to be plucked :p
Alright a last one for the day....
How many bfs u had? 2, 3, 5, 7, 10....thats it. It took me 66 different females to find out my soulmate, someone who's mere thought calms my nerves, someone who's voice gives me peace, someone who completed my incomplete circle, someone who gives me strength whenever i m weak, someone who loves me the way i m, someone who gave me everything. Since she has come in my life, the preferences hv changed, the outlook has changed,responsibilities hv changed and been distributed, the purpose of life has changed and by God i m loving everybit of it. So u need to keep the doors open and not take advices regarding marriage or relationships as incurable diseases.
And when i saY they were not MEN, coz frankly speaking u r the easiest person to handle if in a relationship with u though u try ur best to complicate things terribly ard u and ultimately label urself, "Hazardous! HANDLE WITH CARE!" so if they can't handle u or preserve a relationship with u, they r simply boys or hunks not MAN in my books.
Its only you who is in a position to say if you are really complete or not!
besides..... this is how it works for me.....
"Not every thing in our life is filled with what I want! Emptiness completes everything that's missing! It fills my life right to the brim...."
And am happy as long as I feel I am complete.... And as long as I don't have to lie to myself about it!
You are complete in you own sense! So as long as you "truly" feel you are complete, as long as you don't lie to you self about it!
I mean its great to feel complete!
The most important thing is not to lie to your self about it! The moment you do that, you never are complete!
am i a boy, a hunk, a man?
or just a dirty old dirty old man
wats love got to do with it?
just marry the guy and have his child
and we can party when he is doing the rounds in Bangcock
Ammu now ur being too hard on urself...
**may be im still being traditional, but for me being complete is far beyond my reach for now.
I know wut u mean...u want a man in ur life to be complete. But thats ok cos thats what's complete means to u. I wish u all the best sweetie MWAHHHHHH!
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heyya Soj!
**you are just 'Keshi'. And that means you are free to change your mind about anything anytime too!
I really like wut u said there. ty so much!
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Keshi shows her middle finger up at Saby :):)
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Samy I really like what u wrote. A very good analysis from both sides. TY!
I know that there's a biological/psychological need in both n women to be one another. And that does make one feel like he/she is complete when they find the right one. That r'ship itself may not last long but that doesnt mean they suddenly become incomplete.
**u'd proly live an austere life giving up on material pursuit n gratification of senses ... maybe u already r on that path
true, I agree. And hell na I aint anywhere close to that path yet LOL!
ty Samy u r very wise!
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Southy ok I agree. But when u say ur partner completes u in all those ways, then (remembering something u told me in an earlier post - I think Casual-ties post) why d u think s#x outside ur marriage is something u both wont have probs with (if it ever came to that)? That wud somehow tell me that something's not complete on an emotional level. Isnt that so?
**So u need to keep the doors open and not take advices regarding marriage or relationships as incurable diseases.
I didnt say marriage/r'ships is an incurable disease Southy :)
Anyways tnxxx n have a good weekend Southy!
Keshi.
we r having a discussion here so yeah it has to be agreed/disagreed until it's closed :). Thats why I said that.***How many discussions ended with a completely new outlook and conclusion here over the years? Send me the links if u find some.
Kautilya I agree with ya...Complete is a very subjective thing.
**You are complete in you own sense! So as long as you "truly" feel you are complete, as long as you don't lie to you self about it!
thats so true. Never lie to urself abt it cos that wud be kiddin ur own self. No point.
tnxxxxxx!
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Saby wuts ur point here?
Keshi.
@Saby
u r a witty oldman who's the best to handle her but unfortunately she doesn't has hot for oldman....lolz
"My Way"...
we have diff. views of life and how to live it..
i think the thinkiing that women cant live without men is already a history.
and maybe your aunt is another history?LOL!
experiences are the ingredients of life as in.its only you who know yourself best,you are loving and get love in return even in the blogsphere,so,no worries about her words *wink*
"I'm complete cos I know who I am and I know what I want in life...even though I can't have everything I want in life, even though I have a thousand flaws, even though all my dreams may never come true, I am complete because I was, am and will be me always. As long as I haven't lost my original soul to material needs and societal pressures, I have all of me in me, and for that reason I'm complete. No one and nothing but only I shall define me."
Thats It!!!
By the way,you look lovely in the pic :D
good day to you,Keshi!!! Muahhhhh!
heyy Southy!
**How many discussions ended with a completely new outlook and conclusion here over the years? Send me the links if u find some.
HUH? so wut d u want me to do Southy? Sometimes we agree and we change for the better and sometimes we just dun. I feel stupid now..SORRY!
Keshi.
That wud somehow tell me that something's not complete on an emotional level. Isnt that so?***Correction! sex is a physical requirement and it has nothing to do with emotional levels after certain extent.
I dont want u to do anything, put on the links where there had been some serious discussion and the conclusion had a completely diff outlook and everyone agreed to it.
Ghee heyyy HUGGGGGGZ!
**and maybe your aunt is another history?LOL!
LOL hahaha!
Ghee tnxx a ton. I think men like Saby still wanna believe that women r in the 13th century LOL!
HUGGGGGGGGGGGGGGZ girl!
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Southy!
**Correction! sex is a physical requirement and it has nothing to do with emotional levels after certain extent.
OMG Im so sorry u ever said that! Sex has nothing to do on an emotional level???? Southy that explains it then. No comments :)
Keshi.
**put on the links where there had been some serious discussion and the conclusion had a completely diff outlook and everyone agreed to it
I dun get it. What d u mean? Who agreed with what?
Keshi.
Correction again! AFTER CERTAIN EXTENT, don't change my statement pls.
Put on the links where u started a discussion out here and the conclusion had a completely diff outlook and everyone agreed to it.
The reason i m asking for the links coz u said its a discussion unlike what i do and that is stamp my own opinion and not entertain any debate on it. So i repeat, incase u find any such links i wud love to read them in peace.
Southy :)
**Correction again! AFTER CERTAIN EXTENT, don't change my statement pls.
I dun get it. I didnt try to change anything u said. all I did was comment on it.
**Put on the links where u started a discussion out here and the conclusion had a completely diff outlook and everyone agreed to it.
did I say that EVERYONE always agrees with my posts? NEVER. thats what a discussion is abt. agreeing/disagreeing. And thats what I meant from my first reply to u. Nothing else. Is it clear now?
Keshi.
did I say that EVERYONE always agrees with my posts? NEVER. thats what a discussion is abt. agreeing/disagreeing. And thats what I meant from my first reply to u. Nothing else. Is it clear now?***I very specifically without any hidden agenda asked u to put that coz i seriously wanted to see some changes in opinions and a fruitfull outcome, phew!
:) Hi Keshi..
Well two is definitely better than one. But i will not agree with the statement that only being married or having a partner fulfills one's life. That's not even a rule laid down. After all, if you look around, Not many last..
Just be who you are and do what you feel and think is right and best for ya. And i am glad you are doing just that with your life. It can be pretty frustrating when people try to cramp their style on us. It just steals part of us at times. Depends on what. But whatever it is i think feeling complete would be the now and not when. Its all in da mind. and i am glad to hear you are living ya life.
It just sucks to hear how people demands their style, tradition or beliefs on us. I can understand how it cramped ya style. Darn!
*hugs!
Live as if you were to die tomorrow. Learn as if you were to live forever.
Mohandas Gandhi
Keshi u r pig headed
lissen to the wisdom of the ages
if i were in China now
pretty women wud lie at my feet eagerly waiting for the pearls of wisdom dat age has tot me
the chinese ppl respect age
they respect wisdom
they dont call old men
dirty old man
The only person that knows whether you are complete is you. If you think that you are, then you are! I admire you for standing up for yourself. Hang in there and don't listen to others. :)
South if u want to make it wid Keshi
agree agree agreee
Southy :):)
**I very specifically without any hidden agenda asked u to put that coz i seriously wanted to see some changes in opinions and a fruitfull outcome, phew
how can u see that change in just a comment section? ppl change over time, not in a comment section Southy????!!! They may not agree with u/me right now, but who knows what they r thinking or what they'll do in future. And even if they did/not how does it matter to u/me? We cant always change ppl can we? And neither do we change easily cos of others. So whats ur point here? I dun get it.
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Amy amen! Not all all marriages last that long and that's certainly not a measure of completeness...atleast not to me.
**But whatever it is i think feeling complete would be the now and not when.
Spot on! How can ppl point out that my life is not complete just cos thats what they think!!
Im glad ur with me Amy. HUGGGGGGGGGGZ!
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Saby boohooo! :)
**Keshi u r pig headed
lissen to the wisdom of the ages
Wisdom? How do I listen to someone who puts up porn pics in his site? I'd have to be pretty dumb to do that!
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G'day Andrew!
**The only person that knows whether you are complete is you.
Spot on! And alot of ppl think it's their partners that complete them. Mebbe to a certain extent...but not for everyone.
ty and have a good day!
Keshi.
yeah but Im not planning to find one or not to find one. Where does that put me then? :)
Then I'd simply say that you don't need a mate to feel complete. But maybe that will change as the months or years go by.
AB heyy!
**But maybe that will change as the months or years go by.
u really wanna see me married ha :):) so sweet ty!
Keshi.
I am prepared to open the doors and windows of my house to the winds of change, but I refuse to be swept off my feet by
the forces of change.
- MK Gandhi
u have been swept of your feet by the coco cola culture, u ass Keshi
wuteva dumbass Saby :)
Keshi.
We're all look'n for our soul mate . It rarely happens .
If we all wait for "Mr.Perfect" or "Miss World" we'll all be pretty lonely .
What I'm say'n here Keshi is your smoke'n hawt , will you be Mrs. Crawler ?
Ya have'ta wait a bit for my divorce to come through . I don't mind if you make more money than me either .
'India needs Gandhigiri today'
-Sanjay Dutt, MUNNALAL. MD
me too Wally
lets duel for her hand
Wally matey sayin YES comes after the divorce so hurry up ;-)
Keshi.
Saby u too? I thought Indian men love their wives so much that they dun divorce etc :)
Keshi.
Keshi, you have always been completely you in my eyes. What else could you be?
u cud be me
i love me
tnxxx alot Tre! Im glad u thought abt me that way and that u didnt think I lacked anything.
Keshi.
i am not indian
i am a GO(A)NE case
...and that u didnt think I lacked anything.
HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA
I CUD MAKE U A LIST OF WAT U LACK
commonsense is not so common in SL and austrayaylay
Southy from something u said above:
** i seriously wanted to see some changes in opinions and a fruitfull outcome, phew
So u reckon none of my posts brought a 'fruitful' outcome and therefore its just a waste of time debating on issues here? Im sorry u feel that way. I dun intend ppl to debate here wanting them to change. ppl can debate on a topic and still not change their opinions, and eventually there may not be a fruitful outcome as u say. but debates r always abt individual opinions arent they. And I dun intend to win/lose. As long as we have had a good discussion and we havent forced our opinions on others, then all is ok. :)
Keshi.
Saby ur the one who's lacking alot including ur manners and politeness.
I may lack common sense but u lack all sense. With my lack of common sense, Im still complete. And thats what I meant. Im sorry u think u know everything when u don't. Thats worse.
Keshi.
And Saby the problem with most Indian men is that they dun wanna see an independent woman. They feel humiliated. And it shows alot in u!
keshi.
As long as we have had a good discussion and we havent forced our opinions on others, then all is ok. :)
all is not Ok Keshi
the guy has a licensed revolver aside from the gun he carries
i dunno which is more deadly
he is six and a half foot
@Saby
I m a big slimey chauvenistic pig, how do u expect me to agree agree agree and agree on everything said and wrote.....
ahh sounds a lot like what i heard a few days ago.
hmm I would like a man in my life but quite honestly, its not the end of my world if i dont find one.
Its better not to have one then be miserable with the wrong one isnt it?
dats true
i am dating a dumb blonde
i dont want to marry a woman who has more brains than me
dat wud make me impotent
i speak for all men in India
i dont no about WALLY though
Saby wuteva...I give a damn abt wut u say cos ur sexist and quite rude. I should not be wasting my breath on u.
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Southy I did NOT ask u to agree with me did I? U forced ur opinion on me. U said I maybe hiding some requirement and pretending to be OK. I cant believe u imagined something like that abt me. I thought u knew me better. Thats all.
Keshi.
Aditi heyy!
**Its better not to have one then be miserable with the wrong one isnt it?
agreed 100%!
ty!
Keshi.
Southy from something u said above:
** i seriously wanted to see some changes in opinions and a fruitfull outcome, phew
So u reckon none of my posts brought a 'fruitful' outcome and therefore its just a waste of time debating on issues here? Im sorry u feel that way. I dun intend ppl to debate here wanting them to change. ppl can debate on a topic and still not change their opinions, and eventually there may not be a fruitful outcome as u say. but debates r always abt individual opinions arent they. And I dun intend to win/lose. As long as we have had a good discussion and we havent forced our opinions on others, then all is ok. :)***If its a discussion, i need to pick up the final conclusion if its worth it.
And Saby the problem with most Indian men is that they dun wanna see an independent woman. They feel humiliated. And it shows alot in u!***I OBJECT !
Southy...
**If its a discussion, i need to pick up the final conclusion if its worth it.
Well sorry Southy I cant help it..u know this is just a blog and Im not conducting some professional debate with conclusions etc. Ur free to draw ur own conclusions.
**I OBJECT !
No probs with me. And I did say MOST Indian men, not all.
Keshi.
I ain't drawing any conclusion i m looking for it.
And like I said, I leave it upto u.
Keshi.
and ofcourse u have every right NOT to take part in my fruitless posts that dun have any conclusion Southy.
keshi.
Fair enough!
cos I aint here on a competition. These r just my thoughts and I'd like to hear ur thoughts too. And if for some reason u dun like my posts or the way I present it and conclude it, then I cant help it either.
My apologies tho.
Keshi.
Well for how long can a person be all by himself/herself if one is living as a part of material world?
What does one seek?
Material gains or austerity?
Whats ur path?
Well things do happen at unexpected times and may be one day things will happen just like that .*snaps his fingers*
Well my definition of complete is pretty much that of yours. Thats a very nice song by Belinda.
As long as we are happy with the life that we have, i feel its complete. There is always gonna be some failure, incompetency in one way or another. So at any point life is complete as of that point. Great pic, but next time have a smile :)
I sure am with ya on this lady!!
;D
Some People...*roll eyes*
Tarun heyy!
**Material gains or austerity?
Whats ur path?
Does it HAVE to be one of these paths? Is there no other life path than these 2? Just a simple Qn for u :)
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KK heyy :) smiling..hehehe...
**There is always gonna be some failure, incompetency in one way or another. So at any point life is complete as of that point
ty and thats exactly what I meant!
Keshi.
Amy huggggggggz!
**Some People...*roll eyes*
LOL u mean some ppl like Saby hahaha!
Keshi.
yes i'm complete..too bad the guys don't get to know me. i'm great! ahhahahaha
keep shining girl! we don't need a man to be happy. this is the new millenium
Keshi, I dont really think you need to have someone to "complete" you. I think completeness is a feeling which you automatically get when you are happy. I dont agree with your aunt on this one.
wonderful lyrics at d end..n grt song by robbie williams..
as for the post...hmmm..real no experience to comment..i dont know if we can be complete..ever..but yeah i think we ca be satisfied and enjoy who we are..and satisfied in a positive sense..being content that is
as for d need of a partner..depends all on you....but there is one thing i think i have seen from the relations i have observed...u do need a partner when u cross that retirement age as such...thats when d real need n longing of partner kicks in...for both males n females...thats when u need on person...who holds ur fingers in theirs...n kisses ur forehead to calm ur nerves
hehe...actually observed tht wid my parenst ...when my dad retired...n how much more mom now means to him :)
and i love tht feeling
take care dear :)
Hay did you receive my comment? Or you rejected it for some reason??? :(
Keshi you won't be complete without a man
Hmmm... That is the law of the nature.... You may violate it... but obeying that law is the best option! :P
Hey I really dont attach the complete tag with a man myself.
Tis true perhaps life gets a fuller meaning,so to say more of a clarity but then maybe I'm saying this coz I'm deeply in love with someone who loves me all the more.
I believe every person is composed of fragments of different emotions and persoanlity traits and when another person steps its just the inclusion of yet another fragment in our self...that it.
As simple as that.
Why would one human be totally responsible for it,specially cz no two human beings can be the same on earth and a difference brings clashes along with the gooides,isnt it???
Its just love for all that completes a human being...love,compassion and selflessness.
Thats what makes a person complete,and if he has it all then what the heck is having someone by your side all about ?
You take care girl,neednt worry about whatever people say.
Let your unaffected self be what it is.
Hi Keshi
"My Way" is a very good song. (Written by Canadian Paul Anka for his Rat Pack pal Frank)
I was in a London, England train station late one night when I heard a drunk singing "My way." It was irony at its best. The guy had a very nice voice and sang the song without missing a lyric. I would have paid money to see this song sung in this scene on stage. The whole effect was amazing. It was truly the best performance of “My Way” I have ever seen or will ever see again.
I agree with you. To be complete, a person must feel complete in their own mind, body and soul. No one can judge you and say you need a man in your life. You and you alone is the only one who can say what you do and do not need to make your life complete.
There are many people with partners, who feel their lives are not complete.
Do not judge yourself with what you think society expects, for there is no complete or perfect society.
Each person has cards to play. Each hand is different.
Each hand can win.
Hugs Bev
KEshi...U R NOT COMPLETE WITHOUT a book, a movie deal and a tv series. U have so much in life being just the way u are, writing jsut they way u write. My god..aunties can be reall donkeys sumtimes...but they do cook well when u r away from home and in need of real food...do you get me?
Another person in life, be it male or female will try in any way possible, invisible sometimes to impose their lives on us. Even if they are genuinely good, motivate to be with you, still the vagaries of life holds things that will stifle us.
Go where your path takes you dear, one day the decisions will be made and you will be happier.
hey keshi once again with intresting topic.First let me tell u that ur blog queen!!!!!!!
well regarding be complete or incomplete??? who damn is going to describe me incom or com.
According to me ur complete when ur parents are happy with ur behaviour ,when ur love by ur family and friends,when u dont have any regret in ur heart of doing anything wrong and at the end of the day when u sleep ur hearts should give u the certificate of honesty.And u knew heart never lies.
And regarding men and women! No one is either complete or incomplete with eachother or without eachother.But yes both of them need other in their life to show their love to eachother and to walk togetherto make life more beautiful.U know like "EK SE BHALE DO" When u have partner in ur journey you life will be more beautiful in both happy and sorrow moments of life.
Here is song
"O SAATHI RE TERE BINA BHI KYA JEENA ,
PHOOLO MEIN KALIYO MEIN,SAPNO KI GALIYO MEIN TERE BINA KUCH SAHI NA,
TERE BINA BHI KYA JEENA.
Nice post and (sorry) to heck with your aunt.As for completeness..it's what you feel that makes it so. I also think one is never complete i.e it is not a point that is static, the process evolves over time.
Did I confuse ya? :)
Damn Good One, Keshi!!! Damn Good One!! :) Yayyyy!! May the tribe increase! :)
Hi! It's my first time to visit here. I'm glad to have stumbled upon your very entertaining and delightfully written blog. Keep at it! Happy weekend! =)
and i say AMEN
u guys dont have to loose your cool about Keshis post
Kesh is Keshi
and will always be Keshi
her jet black hair is misleading though
she shuda have been a blonde
As long as you are 100% happy, you are complete in your life. If she said, a man not in your life.... Well what happens if the man is gone forever and still you remain incomplete.
A women can never be complete even if the man is beside her.
For eg., take a widow and what does the society say?? Is she complete?? Not at all just a segregation and make her incomplete to participate in the society.
Keshi..sorry for not droppin by of late..
thnk this is one of the best post you have written ever..like your all no-nonsense posts there was lot of frankness in it and i appreciate that!!
And a little tip..we dont have to prove the world how complete or incomplete we are..We are our own judges.So it aint a big deal what the world thinks about us..
P.S--seems lot of fun in Kiwi land!! :-P
Keshi, thats such a beautiful and straight-from-the-heart write-up. I think U & I have a lot in common...especially our 'imperfect'lives with the world's heart-breaks, tough-times and people tramping all over. But I think at the end of the day, what matters most is how beautifully and happily we choose to live our not so rosy lives. We have to be actually beautiful and complete from inside with or without a man. I think U are a beautiful person and this shows in all your posts. Take care, girl.
awww kesh, i dont want to sound like myself AGAIN and say i know exactly what you mean! but i do babe, trust me..
you are REAL and thats my sense of complete, irrespective of what anyone else has to say or not.
I guess its just tiring the way we have to explain our existence to other random braindead people..
in fact i say, i would rather wait a while than grab the next available dude and walk that long mile...
and who says that in order to live life well and feel wholesome you need a guy????? pls... ask men to make babies first and then we'll talk of who'se dependent on who for the whole 'complete' feeling.. !! :D
i read ur email and replied to it.. will email you my pics soon.. till then lets snap out of this mood and go party.. weekend looks wickedddddd.. ;-) time to get it oawwnnnnn.. :D im going to a champagne cocktail party tonite.. oooooo.. ALONE.. lol.. AGAIN.. hahaha..
*hugs*
Pretty interesting post. From what you describe, you do not need a partner. In fact, it is not necessary to have a partner at all.
The thing is, if you have a good partner whom you can trust, it is like living life 175%
Keshi... an interesting post. I think one is complete when they can sincerely put their hand on their heart and say they are happy. But that completeness and that happiness is transient... everyday is different.
In my religion they say that a man is not complete without a woman... not the other way round. A woman has been blessed with greater understanding and a man needs a woman to guide him through life.
On a personal note I don't feel complete without a man, but I was married for... a very long time.
have a lovely weekend Keshi
lotsa luv ann xxxxx
Keshi girl you are by far one of the most complete people I've ever come into contact with...even from a distance. And trust me on this, no man ever completes a woman....he compliments her :)
Hello beautiful Keshi:))
You are complete in yourself.We all will be very very sad if our happiness depends on others or how they treat us.It should come from within yourself ,not from any one person including our relatives.
You do need somebody to share your ups and downs in life though. Otherwise how can any person who loves you one day will know how wonderful you are!!You don't NEED him but you would WANT him around:)
Is that good deal? I think so.
Enjoy yourself,be happy and keep an open mind for love:)
Guess who is having a big wedding Anniversary on Dec. 7th.How many yrs and what kind of photos are all coming on Dec 6th!!:))
Hi!
I come again to listen to this great music !
I totally agree. Complete is just you fulfilling your life. Of course, if you meet the right man at the right time, you will not only be complete, you will have an accessory!
hahaha!!
No seriously, being married is a big step in life and it isn't a step anyone should take lightly, nor is it a step everyone must take.
You do what makes YOU happy, Keshi!
Umm, Keshi, I get how you need and want to feel that you're complete despite what your mom's friend said.
And in a way, you are. You won't die if you don't have a guy.
But this is a recurring theme with you, as it is with many people, and it's human nature.
And it's all about hopes and expectations.
You were offended by the woman's comments. I understand that. But I wonder if the main reason you were offended the most is because you feel the same...that's the thing you want most, to be with a guy in a solid relationship that, maybe, would lead to marriage.
You're super hot and you know it. But right now, for whatever reasons, it just isn't happening.
You lament about it, often. And I and others talk to you about it, but isn't it really what you want?
You don't need your mom's friend or anyone else to tell you what you want, you can completely ignore them.
It's what you want and what you need. Isn't it? So then it's just making it happen, beyond the realm of what anyone else thinks or says.
Yes, you can be "complete" and a real person, and you can just leave it at that if you want.
But what do you WANT to make yourself happier, which would make you more complete?
They're two different things and something we all go through at one time or another.
Be confident in who you are now, but if you're not entirely happy, acknowledge that and seek it out.
one can become complete with very little achievements .. and only one person might fill his/her whole heart !! Being complete hold a vast area of debate .. many think that they are complete .. but are not .. for some it's the money .. for some it's climbing mount everest .. but whatever the task or achievement .. you know when u are complete.
,no man ever completes a woman....he compliments her ,
- well said Meg
and a man who needs a woman to be happy is no man, he is a wussie. a mamas boy
and he probably dont have hands either
as for marriage
marry in haste and
repent at leisure
there is no time limit for getting married
i am getting married at 56
wish me well
Keshi, I said complicated coz am kinda like in your shoes. Similar situation. Understand what you mean but do not understand whys and whats of society.
Cheers.
MG.
ahoy! those pictures are beautiful!
keshi, although it took me a few years to really appreicate it, in my opinion u can't beat the g'n'r debut album 'appetite for destruction' ;-D
~
Absolutely right...and don care about all these auntys and uncles...they seem to be more interested in our life, our marriage, our boyfriends than we ourselves...just live life the way u want to...
Material Austerity ... lol
I am not someone who thinks long and hard ...me is a very bad planner.I prefer things on the move and emotions and feeling should be communicated in right words and spirit.
This is something very difficult to wash away.
I think I dont know what path tp choose but mental satisfaction is one thing I want no matter what my path is.
nameste keshi,
'khoobh ladi mardaani woh toh jhansi waali rani thi...'lol.
cheers
jhaji.
ps-completeness is within...
you seem like a very much complete person to me... but your aunt has a point, in my opinion... maybe not in the way SHE meant it, but her words...
when you have someone to truly love and cherish (i.e. a man), you feel like you've found the other half of your life... you feel "complete" (to use your aunt's words lol) with them... they are that perfect missing piece in the jigsaw puzzle... am i making sense here? lolz
sure, people are very much complete without a significant other in their lives, i agree with you no doubt on that. but stilll, that magic of being in love can only really be felt (i'm going to stop trying to explain with my useless words lol)... and i think that is when you are really and truly 'complete'.
you can be 100% happy without being in love, of course you can... but can you be 100% 'complete' without having someone else (anyone) to share the path of your life with? can you be smiling genuinely from your heart when you see other people madly, crazily in love and you see yourself as though you were cut in half? don't you have a longing to need to love someone, with all your heart? to pamper them, care for them, be pissed off with them, tease them, tickle them, watch them sleeping, see their eyes twinkle as they ramble on endlessly, to hug them and stay in their arms forever, to feel their silent breath on your body as they sleep next to you, to smell their hair, to stroke it, to see their smile, to see the love for you in their eyes?
how can you (generalising here, not just talking about you...) ever feel complete without having experienced these things?
all this is not to say that i am desperately looking for someone... if it happens, it will... if it won't, then it won't... well, i mean, i do admit, i feel so damn lonely at times, but these are the feelings i am slowly learning to suppress, because it hurts me. a lot. but despite saying all this, i don't feel complete. not at all. maybe i never will. maybe it's in my destiny never to meet my Rajkumar, but if that's the way it's gonna be, that's the way it's gonna be...
so, am i complete? no. am i happy? yes, very very much so. because happiness is a state of mind. if you can say you're happy from the bottom of your heart, then you are. of course you are.
some food for thought there...
:)
Beautiful & thoughtful post from a gal who is beautiful inside-out ....I would say a woman who believes in herself & is confident as a person , doesn't need a man to survive or to be complete.
On a positive note, keshi , It's the partnership that wouldn't be complete without each other &....you can not imagine "Life" without any of the two......:)Happy weekend!
gosh..didnt i post this comment here, if i didnt here it is again:
heyyyy keshi.
you go girl!!! more power to ya!
you are what i wd call a power puff girl :))
u r right and u know what, two completes doesnt another complete make or two incompletes...happiness is learning ot find the completion in the incompletion and enjoying it...boy..i just impressed myself..:)))
so..whether the other incompletion comes along or not, just enjoy your
own sweetness..as you say..viva forever. :))
Keshi! Keshi!! Keshi!!!
How many times did I call you?
The things that an elder sees while seated, the child even if she climbs a mountain will not see it.
You have to realise that people get better by the day. Your perception of a perfect life right now doesn't mean it's perfect. The path of the righteous is as a bright light that shines brigther and brighter unto the perfect day.
i think u said it all with this statement...
"life is never complete without being incomplete."
so very true
but easy to forget
I am still a work in progress.
Bowled me over.
Its better to be truthful to oneself and being happy than living for others and being sad.
Three cheers for you and your attitude.
this is one of your strongest posts I've read so far
Good going, don't let the aunt, agonizing or not" bug u
Touching, revealing and so very honest...thank you my friend for allowing us all to see the beauty of your soul...it's not what people think...it's always, what you believe...warm greetings
Posted a post forya :)
You said it Keshi!
:)
Complete it is!
Hey Lady! WOnderful perspective. We r not complete or perfect based o social norms or definitions. The definition keeps changing too, first it may be the presence of a partner, then children, then grandchildren and wht not. :)
**As long as I haven't lost my original soul to material needs and societal pressures, I have all of me in me, and for that reason I'm complete. No one and nothing but only I shall define me.***
very sensitively written post...!!
loved it...!
what matters ultimately is what we think of ourselves....!!
glad to know that the negative vibes does not affect you much.......!!
strong person that you are...!!
cheers,,,
ankit.
People perceptions are different and are a result of our baggages from our past and conditioning !
By your own admission and definition, well you are complete ! Say cheers, enjoy the moment and meet life head on !
Anything less will be 'incomplete' ! :)
Love !
Dear...I stand by your thoughts and beliefs! All I want to add is ...dont think you are incomplete just coz some stupid myths that at certain age girls should be married... or at certain age a married woman should have kids...! Its my life thats all one should care and worry for!
I dont think any woman has to be complete on if she has a man or vice versa! This can be said about men too! So its irrilevant and you know what..dont get agitated with what others say as they think from the point with which they are raised...we should be proud that at least we know how to take care of ourselves..our parents taught us right things so we are not a bad citizen to the country or human kind and also are not depending on others to survive!
You should not feel like the picture that you mentioned...everyone has there day ...to some its soon and to some its later...
Seems like you have more opportunity to explore being yourself and by the time you get the right kind of guy ...yes Keshi dear...its the right kind of guy...not any tom n harry...coz am sure to get any guy for you is easy but its the right kind of guy you are waiting and I dont think thats wrong...its everyone's right to decide for oneself and I think you havent met someone who would excite you to make that kind of decision...and you know what am proud that you are not ruining your life due to society pressure or so and please ignore what others say...do what your heart says...there is no one who is perfect and so you have nothing lacking...just walk straight with your pride keeping that head on your shoulder... my best wishes and love will always there for you!
You go gal!!!!
BTW amazing song...I had heard this on TV and good to read the lyrics too :D
HUGGGGGGGGGGGGGGS to my dear sis
Keshi- just marry whenever you want and with whom you want.
The heart is usually the one that knows best.
Krystyna- nice post.
And it's not so much your way as the way it was put in your path, I get that. What I don't get is why you need to hurt me? I also did things my way and the way they were meant to. I am who I am, and you are who you are, what makes you so different from me? You keep on hurting me and hurting me, I'll end up being so hurt that I'll never want for you to be the one, really. I'm one tiny step away from that. All your critics come from your own insecurites, not mine.
Instead of blessing life to put us in front of this chance we are messing everything up, specially you.
When will you come? I'll not wait for you forever, you can be certain of that.
Why have you put a moderation for comments? What are you safeguarding so much? Money? That's what it's about, right? I'll never do anything to be indiscrete, one, it's not my nature, two, your choices are yours and I respect them, but have some respect for me too.
I need to trust in you, I'm forcing myself to do that, but how about you? Be a titan not a whimp.
Make me fall in love, in every sense, and I'll be with you forever.
(I know this comment will never see the light, I understand)
Dalicia heyy!
**yes i'm complete..too bad the guys don't get to know me. i'm great!
yeyyyyyy U R GREAT! I know that most guys r too blind to get the greatest gals..mmmm their mighty loss! ;-)
**we don't need a man to be happy. this is the new millenium
indeed. but it has to come from the heart. I really feel happy the way I am right now but it's sad to realise that alot of ppl think I may be lying. well who cares..as long as I know its the truth. tnxx sweetie!
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Akshay hi!
**I think completeness is a feeling which you automatically get when you are happy.
ty for being a guy and understanding what I really meant :) cheers!
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Desperado hugggggggz!
**wonderful lyrics at d end..n grt song by robbie williams..
ty! now dun tell me u like MY WAY too?? :):)
**and satisfied in a positive sense..being content that is
aha...
**who holds ur fingers in theirs...n kisses ur forehead to calm ur nerves
ok Im melting here LOL!
**hehe...actually observed tht wid my parenst ...when my dad retired...n how much more mom now means to him :)
awwwwwwwww....so sweet! yeah I know wut u mean. Man need a woman and vice versa. It's a need more than a requirement for feeling complete. Atleast thats how I see it :)
tnxxxx mate!
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PrAcHi heyyy!
**Hay did you receive my comment? Or you rejected it for some reason??? :(
awww I never reject comments unless they r spam/abuse. Mebbe it got lost Prachi. It happens to some comments - I dunno why. Im sorry! Plz post that comment again, ty sweetie!
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Sreejith hello!
**That is the law of the nature.... You may violate it... but obeying that law is the best option! :P
lol! Well it's a human need but certainly not a requirement for being complete :)
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Cinderella hiyyyya sweetie!
**Tis true perhaps life gets a fuller meaning,so to say more of a clarity but then maybe I'm saying this coz I'm deeply in love with someone who loves me all the more.
thats nice girly :)
**I believe every person is composed of fragments of different emotions and persoanlity traits and when another person steps its just the inclusion of yet another fragment in our self...that it.
Spot on! ty for saying this. Cos thats what it REALLY IS!
**Why would one human be totally responsible for it,specially cz no two human beings can be the same on earth and a difference brings clashes along with the gooides,isnt it???
So true!
**Its just love for all that completes a human being...love,compassion and selflessness.
OMG this is so well-said! LOVE is all thats needed to be complete and that dun necessarily mean having a partner. It means having LOVE within u and I have that. Cos u can have a partner by ur side and still not have that love in u. So its really no point.
TY sooo much for this comment. I hope everyone reads this.
Hugggggggggggggz!
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G'day Bev!
**"My Way" is a very good song. (Written by Canadian Paul Anka for his Rat Pack pal Frank)
yep. And Frank Sinatra sang it the best.
**It was truly the best performance of “My Way” I have ever seen or will ever see again.
WOW thats really nice! I wish I was there too. Sounds like a very original guy.
**I agree with you. To be complete, a person must feel complete in their own mind, body and soul.
true. One can have the world but yet not feel complete.
**You and you alone is the only one who can say what you do and do not need to make your life complete.
yes!
**There are many people with partners, who feel their lives are not complete.
Spot on!
**Do not judge yourself with what you think society expects, for there is no complete or perfect society.
yeah. And who is the proto-type for perfection then? :)
**Each person has cards to play. Each hand is different.
Each hand can win.
so true!
ty babez HUGGGGGGGGGGZ! And U hope ur well.
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Ghosty hello!
**KEshi...U R NOT COMPLETE WITHOUT a book, a movie deal and a tv series.
And a dinner-date? lol!
**U have so much in life being just the way u are, writing jsut they way u write.
aww tnxxx!
**My god..aunties can be reall donkeys sumtimes...but they do cook well when u r away from home and in need of real food...do you get me?
LOL yes!
**Go where your path takes you dear, one day the decisions will be made and you will be happier.
awww this is soo sweet and so genuine. ty so much Ghosty and I shall go where my road leads me to no matter how different it is from any other woman's. HUGGGGGGGGGZ!
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Cherie heyyy ty!
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Vikas hows u?
**First let me tell u that ur blog queen!!!!!!!
really? awwww :):)
**According to me ur complete when ur parents are happy with ur behaviour ,when ur love by ur family and friends,when u dont have any regret in ur heart of doing anything wrong and at the end of the day when u sleep ur hearts should give u the certificate of honesty.And u knew heart never lies.
this is so very beautiful and true. TY!
**But yes both of them need other in their life to show their love to eachother and to walk togetherto make life more beautiful.
I agree. Ir's certainly a need but a need dun complete/incomplete u. Im glad u know what I mean.
**U know like "EK SE BHALE DO" When u have partner in ur journey you life will be more beautiful in both happy and sorrow moments of life.
true.
**Here is song
"O SAATHI RE TERE BINA BHI KYA JEENA ,
PHOOLO MEIN KALIYO MEIN,SAPNO KI GALIYO MEIN TERE BINA KUCH SAHI NA,
TERE BINA BHI KYA JEENA.
awww I wish I could u'stand this. Plzzz translate this into Enlgish if u can. TY Vikas!
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Sanjay hi! :)
**it's what you feel that makes it so. I also think one is never complete i.e it is not a point that is static, the process evolves over time.
Did I confuse ya? :)
Na u didnt confuse me. I know wut u mean and it's spot on! It's something that's consistent yet grows in time...it's a journey, not a destination. TY Jay!
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Neers hows u sweetie?
**May the tribe increase! :)
haha that was cute!
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Irene hello and WC to my world :)
I will visit u soon. TC and have a good day!
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Saby hello Mr.Rude :)
**her jet black hair is misleading though she shuda have been a blonde
LOL I knew this was coming. I make u mad ha? :) gooooody!
Keshi.
, Psstttt Margie,
wanna see some dirty pics?
lets Fuck??
who said dat here ?
Priya hello!
**A women can never be complete even if the man is beside her.
Amen! this is what I mean. Complete status is not something u can gain from acquiring a partner or any other material thing in ur life. Its something u need to feel within.
**Not at all just a segregation and make her incomplete to participate in the society.
so damn true and TY!
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Matty heyyy!
**Keshi..sorry for not droppin by of late..
mate never apologise ok?? I know everyone is busy and sometimes I dun get to visit ur blog too. So its OK :)
**like your all no-nonsense posts there was lot of frankness in it and i appreciate that!!
ty!
**And a little tip..we dont have to prove the world how complete or incomplete we are..We are our own judges.So it aint a big deal what the world thinks about us..
thats it!
**P.S--seems lot of fun in Kiwi land!! :-P
yeah TONZ OF FUN :) ty Mat!
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Priyanka heyy hows u? btw did I tell u that I really like the name Priyanka? :)
**especially our 'imperfect'lives with the world's heart-breaks, tough-times and people tramping all over.
:) yeah.
**But I think at the end of the day, what matters most is how beautifully and happily we choose to live our not so rosy lives.
Spot on!
**We have to be actually beautiful and complete from inside with or without a man.
thats it. And thats exactly wut I mean. No man/woman/thing can complete u except ur own selves.
TC sweetie n many huggggggggz from me!
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s0ul hellooooo sexy lass ;-) ty so much for that email. U look CUTE in every way!
**you are REAL and thats my sense of complete, irrespective of what anyone else has to say or not.
wow what a statement! TY and thats so true. REAL is THE word.
**I guess its just tiring the way we have to explain our existence to other random braindead people..
it is and now I have made up mind NOT to explain to my aunts/uncles abt all of this...let em get it on their own..if not, I give a damn LOL!
**in fact i say, i would rather wait a while than grab the next available dude and walk that long mile...
yes...I mean if I really want a guy so badly, I can just pick anyone I want. I really can! But do I want that? NO. Its very different from that.
**ask men to make babies first and then we'll talk of who'se dependent on who for the whole 'complete' feeling.. !! :D
hahaha so true. All this romance lives only for a while. And when the babies come, the men will know what COMPLETE has to be like LOL!
**weekend looks wickedddddd.. ;-) time to get it oawwnnnnn..
sure is babez ;-) I went out on Fri night. Will tell u all abt it soon :):) Wut abt u?
**:D im going to a champagne cocktail party tonite.. oooooo.. ALONE.. lol.. AGAIN.. hahaha..
*hugs*
WOW but its still better than NOT going out. I hope u had a good time and I hope u came home safe :)
Huggggggggz Purnima!
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Ashish heyyy!
**The thing is, if you have a good partner whom you can trust, it is like living life 175%
yes I agree. And being complete is not a destination to be reached. Its a journey and u have to feel it from within.
ty!
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Ann hello!
**But that completeness and that happiness is transient... everyday is different.
yeah and thats why I say that it's all a journey. Not a destination.
**In my religion they say that a man is not complete without a woman... not the other way round.
thats a better change :)
**A woman has been blessed with greater understanding and a man needs a woman to guide him through life.
I totally agree ;-)
**On a personal note I don't feel complete without a man, but I was married for... a very long time.
awww thats understandable.
ty Ann!
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Megzzy heyyy!
**And trust me on this, no man ever completes a woman....he compliments her :)
Good one girl! TY! thats sooo darn true. HUGGGGGGGGGGZ!
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Foodie heyy hows u?
**We all will be very very sad if our happiness depends on others or how they treat us.It should come from within yourself ,not from any one person including our relatives.
thats so true Foodie! It should not depend on anyone/anything.
**You do need somebody to share your ups and downs in life though. Otherwise how can any person who loves you one day will know how wonderful you are!!
thats so true too :)
**You don't NEED him but you would WANT him around:)
true. Thats right.
**Enjoy yourself,be happy and keep an open mind for love:)
ty and Im always like that.
**Guess who is having a big wedding Anniversary on Dec. 7th.How many yrs and what kind of photos are all coming on Dec 6th!!:))
WOW great news! Im looking forward for the lovely pics of the lovely U! HUGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGZ dear!
Counting days now ;-)
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Krystyna hey thats good that u like the song :)
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Ashley hi!
**Of course, if you meet the right man at the right time, you will not only be complete, you will have an accessory!
LOL so true! A bed and brekky accesory ROFL!
**No seriously, being married is a big step in life and it isn't a step anyone should take lightly, nor is it a step everyone must take.
true.
**You do what makes YOU happy, Keshi!
ty Ashley HUGGGGGGGGGZ!
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WW heyyy!
**You won't die if you don't have a guy.
I hope so LOL!
**But I wonder if the main reason you were offended the most is because you feel the same...that's the thing you want most, to be with a guy in a solid relationship that, maybe, would lead to marriage.
:) NO WAYZ I wasnt offended at all - I was shocked! Cos it wasnt certainly how I saw things :)
**You're super hot and you know it. But right now, for whatever reasons, it just isn't happening.
mebbe its just me. Im not making an effort to meet anyone cos Im just happy the way I am. But if I do meet someone, I'd still be happy :)
**You lament about it, often. And I and others talk to you about it, but isn't it really what you want?
awwwwww :( Im sorry to sound like a whiney old granma LOL!
**But what do you WANT to make yourself happier, which would make you more complete?
hmmmm a trip to Spain :)
**Be confident in who you are now, but if you're not entirely happy, acknowledge that and seek it out.
no searching for the one...but I will be aware ;-)
tnxxxxxxxx mate!
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Nabeel WC n ty!
**but whatever the task or achievement .. you know when u are complete.
very very true and this is what I meant! ty so much Nabeel :)
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Saby!
**and a man who needs a woman to be happy is no man, he is a wussie. a mamas boy
and a woman who needs a man to be happy is the same I think. Cos happiness doesnt depend on a person or a thing.
**i am getting married at 56
wish me well
And who's this blondest woman on Earth? LOL!
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Mumbai_Guy heyyy!
**Keshi, I said complicated coz am kinda like in your shoes. Similar situation. Understand what you mean but do not understand whys and whats of society.
ooo is that all? I thought I confused u with my writing :):) tnxxx and dun be confused. Just think it through. Think what u really need to be happy. Then it'll all be clear.
:)
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La_Surrealiste OMG! Could this be happening? Is that FM? AWWWWWWWWW.....hugggggggggggggz! Where have u been my lady???
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Fergal heyyyy!
**in my opinion u can't beat the g'n'r debut album 'appetite for destruction' ;-D
aha I know...that was GREAT!
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Neha heyyyy!
**they seem to be more interested in our life, our marriage, our boyfriends than we ourselves...just live life the way u want to...
yeah :) tnxxx sweetie!
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Light-House Tarun heyyyy!
**Material Austerity ... lol
LOL mebbe :)
**I think I dont know what path tp choose but mental satisfaction is one thing I want no matter what my path is.
true and thats what I meant. And everyone has a different path to that feeling. :)
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Niki heyy huggggggz!
**women get more stupid as they get old.
LOL hope not :):)
**some aunties here say we can never complete without giving birth to children. i think they juz want to justify wat they have been doing.
omg thats so true! Just cos they want us to be in their shoes.
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Sanjay_jha namaste! :)
**'khoobh ladi mardaani woh toh jhansi waali rani thi...'lol.
cheers
awww could someone plzz translate this to me...ty!
**ps-completeness is within...
ty and I know that u wud know that :) Spot on!
Keshi.
Vineela WC n ty!
**when you have someone to truly love and cherish (i.e. a man), you feel like you've found the other half of your life... you feel "complete" (to use your aunt's words lol) with them...
I know wut u mean. We r beings of LOVE and we want love to survive. But if we were ALL meant to find the 'other half' as u call it, then we why r so many ppl unhappy in their r'ships? And why r so many other single ppl happy as they r? My point is, having a partner may be a need but not necessarily a requirement to be complete.
**but stilll, that magic of being in love can only really be felt (i'm going to stop trying to explain with my useless words lol)... and i think that is when you are really and truly 'complete'.
I u'stand :) U feel happy when u meet someone u love. But that too is only a passing moment. Nothing is forever. So being complete is independant of who/what u meet in life. It's something u should feel within and it's something that should be timeless. Its a journey, not a destination. Dun u think so?
**can you be smiling genuinely from your heart when you see other people madly, crazily in love and you see yourself as though you were cut in half?
I do feel sad sometimes. But that too is only a passing moment. Just like how love is. Nothing is forever.
**don't you have a longing to need to love someone, with all your heart?
o hell I do LOL! But they r all accesories to make u feel happy. Not something that'll make me complete :)
**how can you (generalising here, not just talking about you...) ever feel complete without having experienced these things?
I have experienced them. But not having a partner right now or for life, doesnt mean Im incomplete. d u know what I mean? :)
**maybe it's in my destiny never to meet my Rajkumar, but if that's the way it's gonna be, that's the way it's gonna be...
u sound so sad. Dun be. I mean feeling complete should not depend on meeting ur soul-mate. Dun u love urself? The person that u have become? The woman that u r? Dun u feel 'whole' the way u r? The way God made u? Put it this way...u might meet a man...someone to love...but mebbe down the track u might have probs with him...what then? Would u feel that completeness still or wud u feel better off single? Im not trying to say that men r trouble, but what Im trying to say is whether u have found a partner or not, u yourself is something to love and feel complete with. It must be a feeling that comes from within irrespective of who/what u meet in life.
**if you can say you're happy from the bottom of your heart, then you are.
Im glad u feel this way :)
ty!
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Lera heyy!
**I would say a woman who believes in herself & is confident as a person , doesn't need a man to survive or to be complete.
ty!
**It's the partnership that wouldn't be complete without each other &....you can not imagine "Life" without any of the two......:)
yep it's the r'ship, not the person. Well-said!
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Mystic_Rose hello!
**gosh..didnt i post this comment here, if i didnt here it is again:
uh oh..seems like comments have been disappearing... :(
**you are what i wd call a power puff girl :))
lol ty!
**happiness is learning ot find the completion in the incompletion and enjoying it...boy..i just impressed myself..:)))
wow thats so true :) ty!
**as you say..viva forever. :))
Spot on ;-)
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Anthony hello!
**Keshi! Keshi!! Keshi!!!
How many times did I call you?
3? :):)
**Your perception of a perfect life right now doesn't mean it's perfect. The path of the righteous is as a bright light that shines brigther and brighter unto the perfect day.
I agree. But this is my perfection. It may not be ur's :)
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Cari hiii!
** "life is never complete without being incomplete."
so very true
but easy to forget
true :) ty Cari!
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fuzzbox heyyy!
**I am still a work in progress.
and I think ur complete :)
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Harish heyyy!
**Its better to be truthful to oneself and being happy than living for others and being sad.
Three cheers for you and your attitude.
ty Harish!
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Broody heyy long time!
**Good going, don't let the aunt, agonizing or not" bug u
lol ty sweetie!
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Kuan_Gung ty!
**it's not what people think...it's always, what you believe...warm greetings
thats so true. TY!
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KK heyyy!
**Posted a post forya :)
really? I gotta see it!
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Alex ty!
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SCRIBBLEZ heyyyyyyy missed ya!
**The definition keeps changing too, first it may be the presence of a partner, then children, then grandchildren and wht not. :)
hell yeah! Its a journey for sure :) TY babez!
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ANKIT heyyyy!
**what matters ultimately is what we think of ourselves....!!
true!
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Kavi hello!
**People perceptions are different and are a result of our baggages from our past and conditioning !
thats so true.
**By your own admission and definition, well you are complete ! Say cheers, enjoy the moment and meet life head on !
ty! :)
**Anything less will be 'incomplete' ! :)
well-said! Huggggggggz Kavi!
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Dawny HUGGGGGGGGGGZ!
**Its my life thats all one should care and worry for!
Spot on!
**dont get agitated with what others say as they think from the point with which they are raised...
thats so very true. Alot of ppl like to impose their experiences on u just cos they had to go thru all that.
**our parents taught us right things so we are not a bad citizen to the country or human kind and also are not depending on others to survive!
Spot on!
**coz am sure to get any guy for you is easy but its the right kind of guy you are waiting and I dont think thats wrong...
ur soo right. I mean if I so badly need a guy, I can easily pick anyone. trust me there r heaps ard LOL! But na thats not what I want.
**its everyone's right to decide for oneself and I think you havent met someone who would excite you to make that kind of decision...
ur absolutely right. And who'd know me better than my sis awww...
**just walk straight with your pride keeping that head on your shoulder... my best wishes and love will always there for you!
OMG I have tears in my eyes now. Ur words r so touching Dawn. I really felt ur love and care for me. ty so much HUGGGGGGGGZ!
Keshi.
Letsf#ck heyy!
**just marry whenever you want and with whom you want.
The heart is usually the one that knows best.
yes thanks!
**Krystyna- nice post.
??
**What I don't get is why you need to hurt me? I also did things my way and the way they were meant to. I am who I am, and you are who you are, what makes you so different from me? You keep on hurting me and hurting me, I'll end up being so hurt that I'll never want for you to be the one, really. I'm one tiny step away from that. All your critics come from your own insecurites, not mine.
WTH is this? Who r u talking to?
**Instead of blessing life to put us in front of this chance we are messing everything up, specially you. When will you come? I'll not wait for you forever, you can be certain of that.
I think u wrote this comment for someone else??
**Why have you put a moderation for comments? What are you safeguarding so much? Money? That's what it's about, right?
Why does what I do with my blog bother u? Money? U ok mate?? WTF is this abt?
**I'll never do anything to be indiscrete, one, it's not my nature, two, your choices are yours and I respect them, but have some respect for me too.
I need to trust in you, I'm forcing myself to do that, but how about you? Be a titan not a whimp.
Who's been a whimp now? U or me? G
**Make me fall in love, in every sense, and I'll be with you forever.
LOL like I would.
**(I know this comment will never see the light, I understand)
yeah right. It's here for the world to see.
What in the world was that abt? Ur great enlightenment theory?
Keshi.
You don't need some aunties to tell you what to do and be who you are in order to be 'complete'.
I've lots of frens who are single too and they dun jump into a relationship just to be complete. The time will come eventually for them to make that decision.
Meanwhile, stay happy always.
ty so much Shionge HUGGGGGGGGGGGGGGZ!
Keshi.
It is rewarding to share your life with another person but in the end we all still live alone in our heads.
Don't get me wrong our physical containers were obviously designed to enjoy others HELLO!but...
nobody else can make you truly happy inside...you can love them, crave them, admire and devote yourself to them..but you have to be able to share the responsibility of making a commitment...unfortunately that ever after myth is less than accurate.
Everafter is a state of mind that two people decide to work at everyday. Sometimes you luck out and find someone who makes life fun and loving them easy...like anything else when you are completely engaged and involved in doing something that you love you can't call it work.
WAIT until you are ready..and don't forget that the following 18 month release of hornymones was designed by evolution to ensure the survival of the species and not what you read about 'destiny' in those Romance Novels. Gee that doesn't sound very romantic does it?
Well you can make it as romantic as you like but listen to your head when the lightning strikes..even though I read that people who do get hit by lighting go deaf for a while..what the hell has that got to do with love? It was a metaphor about how we stop using our common sense when we get all gaga about someone. Oh.
As usual ur spot on HE!
**and don't forget that the following 18 month release of hornymones was designed by evolution to ensure the survival of the species and not what you read about 'destiny' in those Romance Novels
LOL hahaha @hornymones! Where d u find such words from?
** was a metaphor about how we stop using our common sense when we get all gaga about someone.
what a great example :):)
ty for this..I really enjoyed reading it.
Keshi.
Hey Kesh...I left a comment here last week..& its no where to be seen :( :(
Straight from heart Post! Good one! I envy for coming up and writing such a post! You indeed are complete ...:)
here is the translation.i hope you get the meaning.
"O SAATHI RE TERE BINA BHI KYA JEENA ,
PHOOLO MEIN KALIYO MEIN,SAPNO KI GALIYO MEIN TERE BINA KUCH SAHI NA,
TERE BINA BHI KYA JEENA.
oh my partner what is life without you.
In flower,in flower budd,in street of dreams nothing without you
Oh my partner what is life without you.
Take Care
Vikas{V}
hey Ektaran apparently some other comments have been missing too :( I dunno why. Must be a blogger issue. tnxxx anyways!
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ty Contented, it's not only me...we r all complete in our own skin :)
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awww Vikas thats really beautiful. ty so much for the translation!
Keshi.
Bravo hunny. Live your life just the way you want it. That's what is going to give you true happiness. Someone else’s anecdote for life doesn’t guarantee a success of same magnitude to all of us. Some women feel much naked in the public without a man, some women are confident enough to walk into a French restaurant alone; because she knows she has what it takes. One man's meat can be another man's poison.
Enjoy living your life.. :)
Niv hey WC!
**One man's meat can be another man's poison.
Spot on!
and tnxx :)
Keshi.
voow i guess your aunt really shook u up mentally by saying that statement and made u to write such a post in ur blog. its good that spoke up.
but i think any spinster/bachelor speaks the same and r of same mindset, living a happy life,
they live there life on there own terms & conditions, accepting some amount of responsibility towards the parents. i guess its nothing new.
someday u will find somebody intereseting or fall in love, if not u will finally get married, its part of life n n can't escape.
this completeness n all, in my opinion r non-sense, nobody in this world is complete or perfect. i believe contentment in ones life is very important to be happy.
the good thing is right now ur content with ur life, i had seen ur previous posts & pictures, u look like a happy soul.. don't bother or take about such statements... take life as it comes and live to the fullest..
and u wrote about ur dad, may be all those heartaches, self-pitting made u strong..
there is this bible verse "Each heart knows its own bitterness,and no one else can share its joy." Proverbs 14:10
i hope pray that i will get a partner who is really understanding & comforting shoulder to cry on..who loves u honestly!
and put some simle while taking snaps... u look good when u simle
" A cheerful look brings joy to the heart, and good news gives health to the bones." Proverbs 15:30
ty Arun ur so sweet!
**its part of life n n can't escape.
I hope Im not trying to escape it LOL!
tnxxx alot for ur very kind words. I really appreciate that. And also for the apt Bible verses.
have a good day Arun!
Keshi.
i completekly agree with wat u hav to say keshi. and yeah its right that u shudnt even try to explain ur thots to such ppl. its a waste of time and their question and opinion doesnt need to be dignified!
i am more shocked to know that someone living in a country like australia can hav such absurdly orthodox and rigid thots. its a thing u hear most in india...
anyway, i think theres some problem with my net or maybe my access to ur blog i chek ur blog almost everyday and after the belinda emmett post i cudnt view any posts. and today wen i come and see the dates on all these post iam surprised at not having seen them....i missed 4-5 posts! :(
sob sob...
Shitrint heyyy!
** am more shocked to know that someone living in a country like australia can hav such absurdly orthodox and rigid thots
ppl may hop all over the world, but their innermost thoughts and attitudes don't often change :)
u have probs viewing my blog? really? Some others told me this too..I wonder what it is...:(
tnxx for dropping by!
Keshi.
:) Fair enough...
alls well dat ends well
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