Yeah I'm smiling in this pic but right now I'm smiling in sheer frustration and disappointment. Yes, cos I had expectations. Somehow expectations lead to disappointments. So people keep telling us not to expect, but it's not easy to do it. Especially when you give your 100% to your mates but they give you back only 20%. And I mean mutual understanding of needs between friends. Some friends just Give...some just Take...and some know just how to Give and Take. I think I Give more than I Take. And alot of mates here do Give too...all the time, more than they Take. And I appreciate that. People coming here to my blog, spending their time, making an effort to make me happy as much as I make them happy. But very few friends here just Take only. And I'm really getting bored and tired with their attitude of just WANTING always but not GIVING. And no I don't mean some friends not coming to my blog anymore...I've long gotten over that issue. I don't care anymore if some friends don't wanna be here...it's their choice. What I mean here is friends who expect me to fully take part in their blog activities, but don't take part in mine. It makes me sad when that happens. I give 100% in their blogs and all I get back is 'I don't wanna take part in this post'...'I don't know'....'This is not my cup of tea'...'Not my area'...'It's wild and dirty'...'Don't know what to say'...'Not interested'..etc etc. Well guess what...everything that you post in your blogs is not my area either! Neither do I know about everything people talk in their blogs..but I TRY my best to take part. That's the difference. I just don't go there and say I have nothing to say. It's like saying 'your post sucks...I have better things to talk about than you do'. When people say things like I don't know...I don't understand your posts etc etc, it really makes me wonder if they are really trying or just don't wanna be bothered at all or are trying to tell me that I'm shallow and they are smart. All I'm saying is that some people here don't know what GIVE means...they only TAKE.So, I made up mind. I've had enough. If you want me dancing to your music in your blog, then come and dance to mine too. It's not a crime to Give more than you can take. If you can't think outside your 4 walls or get out of your comfort zone like I do in your blogs, then I aint gonna be bothered about your interests either. I'm not gonna waste my time and energy to 
give my 100% next time. Not like I have all the time in the world either. I don't wanna swing way over what you deserve. Ok now that I'm done with spewing venom out of sheer disappointment, I'll visit all your blogs when I get some time. Thanks and Welcome all new-comers (from last post) to my blog! HUGS all!
Yeah, I tell it like it is. If the hat fits, wear it. btw sorry to 'disappoint' ya. It all fell apart. Giving only and never receiving takes it's toll in the end.
Current Music: In The End by Linkin Park
give my 100% next time. Not like I have all the time in the world either. I don't wanna swing way over what you deserve. Ok now that I'm done with spewing venom out of sheer disappointment, I'll visit all your blogs when I get some time. Thanks and Welcome all new-comers (from last post) to my blog! HUGS all! Yeah, I tell it like it is. If the hat fits, wear it. btw sorry to 'disappoint' ya. It all fell apart. Giving only and never receiving takes it's toll in the end.
Current Music: In The End by Linkin Park
202 Cranium Signets:
sharp and straight!
I like I like :) :)
way to go!
//Giving only and never receiving takes it's toll in the end.
true to the last word, but not many get it !!
*&#$# !
so you poured your heart out, ehh??
let's hope the message is well received by those intended in the post...
:)
I have this bug for writing, in fact i had this bug for years. I wrote things in diaries, papers etc. just for myself, then few got what i wrote and one told me to start blogging and here i m blogging. i write what it comes, never to please other, never to cater others taste but just write what it comes. comments are strangers to me. Among my 72 post there are hardly 10 comments altogether but i did not start blogging to attract others. Of course I like it when ppl come to my blog and leave comment. I don't want ppl to write good things abt my posts, sometimes i feel bored of them myself and when one says it was good, i feel mocked. i do not cater others, its my personal choice something that i can call my. i visit ur blog coz i like reading ppl's opinions and yours is so straightforward, everything at face. Whatever topic u pick that is ur personal choice but i like reading them. i post comment when i feel like. i don't think u should feel bad abt these things but from ur blog u appear to be much mature than me, so ...
Keshi,
Nice to catch up with your blog after a long time..It was long since i read something you wrote..
Got a huge numbers of posts to read, i guess..Well i hop u overcome the frustrations...
And as it is, Never expect too much..!! :)
Hehe :)
you poured your heart out babeh,its always so refreshing!
I know it feels bad for all that,but hello?..atleast you're concerned abt blogger..I over here..i just open my blog once a day,and even then i HARDLY get time to reply to the people who comment on my blog,or even comment on theirs..
be happy sweetheart..we're always thre :)
and OFCOURSE we'll take part in your blog activities..honestly!!
wow..
i hope its not directed at me...
sorry was totally caught up with work for 2 days..didnt logon at all :(
btw u look so gorgeous when u r angry :)
Hi!!! you still have many frnds and I believe that ur posts are good enough that even strangers like me come here and appreciate them.
Keep the good work going!!!!!!!!!!
Hi!!you have many frnds and ur posts are good enough that strangers like me come here and appreciate.
Keep the good work going!!!!!karm kiya jaa:)
Hi!!you have many frnds and ur posts are so good that strangers like me come here and appreciate!!!
Keep the good work going!!!!karm kiya jaa:)
Thank God i was always very selective right from the beginning, still i did get some funny comments which i metioned in ur last post...so i narrowed down the selection even further...lol and now i m very happy...:)
Giving up things emotions or whatver is independence, courage, anything positive.
Takeing is opposite of that.
Its better to not write a comment and read the post rather than read other comment and twist it to your name.
Nobody wants to get out of their comfort zone.I wonder if ur post challenges various dogmas or thinking process.At times I too find your posts intimidating.
But all I have to say is play on Blogville Jockey.
Life is a phase.
Expectations fail sometimes,in fact most of the time.
Ces't la vie.Sigh!
Take care girl.
Hi,Keshi-you know,that's one of the reasons I love coming to your blog..you call a spade a spade,you're frank enough to say it if something irritates/hurts/irks you.Way to go!!
I wonder whether the people this post was intended for,got the message?
But,yes,Keshi-remember what I always keep saying(repeating?LOL)-you and only you can be responsible for your happiness.The more our expectations from others,the more our hurt when these expectations and these people fall flat on their faces.:)
All said and done,cheer up,keep up the good work.I can't speak for others,but,I'm definitely gonna be around your blog for a long time.(Even though you've not commented on my latest post yet..hehe)!!Cheers and have a funtastic weekend!!
wow... that is one good rant and I can feel where you are coming from.
Things like this happen with our friends in life too, dont they? we may be comfortable doing something while the other person can be ignorant of it cos its not easy for them to do.
Talking to them about it helps and I think your post does the same thing here. If people dont get the message from this, then they are people to whom you should stop giving your time and effort.
please let this not affect you so much Keshi. let it pass and get your smile back on.
Cheers mate...
Hey Kesh,
Honey, don bother about others.. I really feel from ur blog, ur tryin to keep everyone happy.. its practically impossible.. Remember to 1st be happy..You are ur FIRST priority, if u don like stuff n ur frnds get angry, then its their problem.. And if they are ur frnds, they would definitely understand..
Keep the faith!!
Love,
Dee
oh.. one more thing... there is a surprise at my place, to be unveiled, on Sunday morning.
wow girl..
that came sooo straight from the heart.. and i could sayy how did u read my mind..
sometimes i really just cant be bothered.. because thts how i am .. i can give and give and wont expect anything in return but then u also feel.. how i wish some one just gives me some gesture to let me know tht i care..
hnnm tht doesnt happen.. well doesnt happen most of the time..
and ppl just dont understand it .. or they pretend not to understand it so that they dont have to do anything about it..
out of sight is out of mind kind of thing..
u go girl..
Good shot babeh...
I guess some people like ME can be considered here ;)
Seems like you are really pissed off by few of fellow commentators.
Seems you have convey message to them via this post of yours.
Well Keshi....... Jeena isi ka naam hai....
ouch!!!!!!
hope the msg reaches those who needs them most!! somehow blogsville is no different from the real world out there!!
take care
oops...angry young woman at it again?? :D
but fair enough...if you dont feel comfortable commenting on their posts, u shouldent...
IMHO, its all about personal choice...it shouldent be a 'i comment on your blog and u comment on mine' system...if u feel like it go ahead and comment...if u dont, then again, its your choice...
we cant really enthrust our opinion/views on others :)
no offence intended but i think u shouldent take such things too personally dear...think it a matter of choice and let it lie...
take care!
never bad to vent it out.. haina?
was a good read, as bhai with chai said, sharp and straight.. no beating the bush.. good one..
110%
right or wrong ?
;)
You expressed, I didn’t… that all maters keshi. You are 100% right on this, I feel similarly and move though I can’t expect and leaves it up to their interest. These days my blog doesn’t get much attention by myself as more time spent on others page for what u tell the 100% reading post.
Hmmm...Kesh... not exactly sure where that was aimed, but from my experience-
You have to be patient with people. Especially in the non 9-5 working world, time and energy become huge factors.
Sometimes I visit a blog, would like to comment/take part in the quiz/meme/whatever, but I'm in a rush to get somewhere or just too tired to come up with an answer that does the subect justice.
You can lead a horse to water and all that, but sometimes you just gotta take it as it comes. ;-)
//If you can't think outside your 4 walls or get out of your comfort zone
Very aptly put girl..
PS: Extremely sorry if by chance I fell in THE category
And now please transfer the smile from the pic onto the face.. :)
Hmm well said gurl!i hope tht was not for me. :P coz i hav not been visiting ppl's blogs these days....sorry for tht sweetie. :) anyways i agree with wht u hav said.
oh keshi,keshi :) lol i too got pissed off yesterday,for none of my frnds were free for a party,but well we have to adjust so to say...but guess you are like me,we can't adjust :)
I know such ppl. And I try to stay away from them...some ppl are so full of them selves !
and hey hav a gr8 weekend sweetie! :) I m gonna watch a movie with my guy as usual. :D
I agree with ya. You have always participated in my blog no matter what. You have always made an effort. I see you doing that on many other blog as well.You are definitely there when you said you will be there.
I agree with ya take on this post and the situation. it gets tiring i guess always being the one listening and never being able to be heard.
*HUGZ Keshi!*
Great Keshi, that you can say what is on your mind and really mean it!
I understand what you have written here! Been through it myself. You know I am soooooooo here, well unless I am away!
Luv Ya chick!!!
There is nothing wrong if u expect something from others as we all expect the same. So ‘ll try to dance on ur blog and well expect the same form u ..lol
Cheers
Sandy
There is nothing wrong if u expect something from others as we all expect the same. So ‘ll try to dance on ur blog and well expect the same form u ..lol
Cheers
Sandy
It helps to rant sometimes ... hope you feeling a lot better and lighter now .. :)
OH!!!, I never thought there are bloggers like that :)
Well, There will always be such people whether in real life or on online.. :)
People who always take 'N never gives, that's what I wanted to express at sol's psychobabble.
p.s. Linkin Park rocks in that song... One of my all time favs... Good one...
hey keshi...remember me na?
things at skool hv not been so good lately. very bad, actually. i'm disappointed about somethings too!
read your post and found it so, so relevant. especially the first few lines about having no expectations...
u know keshi, you look very, very pretty when you smile...so always keep smiling!!
lotsa luv,
jan.
I used to get a lot comments from people kind of whining that they didn't like whatever it was I had posted about or actually say something like "quit posting about sports (or politics or whatever)" as if they got to decide what I put on my blog. It would bug me cause I've never left comments like that on anyone else's blog, but I finally figured that they could like it or lump it.
hey you rock !! in spewing venom or spreading love.
Woah! someone really pissed you off!! :)
I think if someone stops reading, its their loss anyway.. so take it easy..there are many more Im sure, who are their to give and take..
oh dang...my weekends are exciting from home itself.
i dunno wat to say, im a guilty party of not participating as well. and i hear the court doesnt accept mood swings as a valid defense. but im sure the court of keshi will forgive me...:D
hemm i know u live and breath the blog world, we've been here long enough to see the world evolve silently. but if i may advice, i can only say, dont hope anything. And i mean absolutely anything. no one owes us anything in this world and if we think we can provide more than that, then its our discretion solely. we cant say people should and must react the way we wish they would, if that ever happens, in a perfect world, we wont have any complaints and all our friends will know our next word or breath. that is life, and it will always be like that.
tell me, why must we think we need to be addressed. I agree we need to be respected becuase we respect others, but we dont deserve attention everywhere we go. because simply, we dont know if its sincere or not. and when its not sincere, and we find out late enough to realize its all false, its much more painful.
dont set rules, it traps us. everything comes back to us. and the same goes for everyone else. no one is immortal to emotions. and please do also remember that people might be in various situations that they dont like, and they move and walk on painfully threading the glass littered streets to please everyone. and i can say, most of us has done that and are still doing that.
in the end it comes down to what you really want. im happy to get 10 comments in my posts, and Im happy because the comments are true to their heart. i dont want 1000 hit and run comments like what you have mentioned. we cant expect everyone to play the game as we do. i tried, i read every post and every word and every blog i can find. bt people rarely show the same interest. im so caught up with them and their lives and its course that when they leave and they dont reply, i get hurt badly. but again, they dont owe me anything.
----> and finally, this is for all the newbies, new kids, fresh behind the ear sadist mofos whose walking around peoples blog making lives miserable. karma is real. you may be thousands of miles away, you may be sitting next to me, but believe me, things can happen when you least expect it. and when it does, you will be running like a coward, crying. and its because you dont belong in this territory without frontiers. unless you learn to use your brain and handle your new found freedom, stop judging peoples blogs, appearances, writing and whatever. this is coz i dont see you making a big fuss and rioting over bigoted, perved, sadist, extremist, porn ridden, hate ridden sites. but then you make every effort to put dont decent bloggers. take this as a warning.
//Keshi, be cool, be who you are, not what you think you are. :)
All compromise is based on give and take,
buttttttt there can be no give and take on fundamentals.
Any compromise on mere fundamentals is a surrender. For it is all give and no take.....
and fundamental duty of any good normal nice person is to make people around him feel happy or better....
soo my dear keshi... see i am not even calling u maa'm now.. its our duty cause u and me are the most wonderful people...
sooo dear..dnt change the way u are... tkare care...
ps m wearing a cape
Speak your mind more often! It does a lot of good!! :)
People love to take others for granted, for some; it is a way of life! Hope this post wakes them up from their dreamland! :)
Cheers. ^^
Hey dear...I will say just chuck it out! Don't give so much thought to it dear! I know you are a person who always try to understand others and I have seen it...but that doesnt mean you take all the shit!
Sorry but I think you are giving too much importance to people who may not deserve that much!!!
God bless you dear for your patience and love!
Hugz n Cheers
It's not a fair world Keshi.
Some people give more and take less in the real world and less on blogger.
Some people give more and take less on blogger and less in the real world.
Some people give more and take less, period.
Some people do not have the capacity to give on blogger or the real world or wherever, for reasons not known to us, or reasons that we cannot understand.
Some people may not want to give for reasons unclear.
Do we have a right to get mad at them? Yes, maybe. Because our feelings are our own and they cannot control them. But you can still control what you do and they will continue to do what they want to do.
hey babes, may be ur anger is all justified, but wat if things arent going all right in smebdy'd own life...not all d time can we expect ppl to b in d best of spirits inne??
think about it!
till thn, big hugs >:D<
Hugs sweetie! Unfortunately such ppl are far too many :(
I went to see The Dark Knight..it was awesome. LOVED the Joker
ummm u got chumms? where did the hot flashes come from?
I mus say the right track for the post...In the end...it doesnt even matttter................................
i feel the same way too. i'm going to say it again 98% of the people sucks :P
tnxx all! will reply to each one of u later on.
After reading some of the comments I realised that most ppl DONT read the post, they just suddenly jump into commenting.
I didnt write this post for ppl who dun hv time to blog or to comment. plz get that clear. I do u'stand that not everyone is dedicated to blogging like I am, and MAKE time for it. There r times that even I cant go ard all the blogs commenting..cos Im short of Time. And I u'stand that totally.
So plz dun say "SORRY I wasnt in ur blog in the last few days". Cos thats NOT what I meant here!
It pisses me off when ppl comment w.o. reading the post.
This post was for ppl who r regular bloggers and EXPECT me to open up more than I should in their blogs, but don't do the same in my blog. Double standards? I guess so.
Now do I hv to write another post to explain who this post is addressed to? I hope not.
And for people who said "it's their choice, let them be"....then I hope those ppl dun mind if I hardly take part in their topics? cos u know, everyone's choice of topics it's NOT my choice either!
And this is no way related to "u comment in my blog, and I comment in ur's" dilemma.
Plz u'stand that Im not that shallow. I hv enough comments here I dun think I need to beg for it.
And yes, I hv the right to be mad and u cant always hide behind the "some ppl dun wanna reveal too much in blogville" label, cos those very people reveal enough in their own blogs and expect me to do the same over there, but back off when it's their turn to do so.
Really, I'm sick of being USED like Im some clown that should stick up to certain ppl when they need me to.
So, like some of u very wise ppl here advised me to do, Im not gonna be AVAILABLE to play 'clown' in future. Just like most ppl in Blogville....Im gonna play it SAFE.
Will catch ya all later!
Keshi.
k bak.
Bhai WC n ty!
yes not many ppl GET that. They can only advise but cant implement it.
Keshi.
ty Devil!
Seems like some ppl still didnt get it. Nevertheless, I gave my heart a voice.
Keshi.
ty Thinker!
I like ur blog just the way it is, and I mean it. U dun write to attract readers...or to feel superior...or to brag. U write u feel, whether u get comments or not. Way to go!
**i don't think u should feel bad abt these things but from ur blog u appear to be much mature than me
I do feel BAD and Im not gonna hide it. Its not a matter of maturity either.
When some ppl want me to open up in their blogs, at the cost of being laffed at and mocked by some readers there, why dont they do the same in my blog? Playing it Safe I guess.
Keshi.
hey Vinu long time mate! WB :) so nice to see ya bak.
Its hard NOT to expect, atleast the basics from a friendship. I dun like PLASTIC r'ships.
Keshi.
You wash my back I'll wash yours....whoops.....scratch it should have read.
Too many people take advantage of givers and then ya stop giving and stand up for ya self and say the disgusting word "NO" that is when ya a louse......
Either give or dont give simply!
If ya stop giving just move on to someone who appreciates it dont waste ya time.
ty n WC Sagarika!
I know, not everyone has alot of time to devote to Blogging. But it wasnt abt that. I dun want some ppl to EXPECT me to open up in their blogs, if they aint gonna do that in mine.
Keshi.
Mav lol stop it! It wasnt abt that. Read the post properly.
Keshi.
WC n ty Kunjal!
**you still have many frnds
I do. But r they all REAL friends? I guess not. Some just want me as an ACCESSORY in their blogs.
Keshi.
I know Southy. ur lucky cos u can be happy with having ur blog Private. But me being such an open and expressive person, I cant make my blog private. That wud kill me. LOL!
Keshi.
ty Tarun!
**Its better to not write a comment and read the post rather than read other comment and twist it to your name.
Alot of ppl do that. But that doesnt bother me much tho. :)
**Nobody wants to get out of their comfort zone.I wonder if ur post challenges various dogmas or thinking process.At times I too find your posts intimidating.
really? :)
Keshi.
ty Sameera!
I know...hopes, expectations, wants, dun always become real. Most of the time, they r an illusion.
Keshi.
aw ty AmitL :)
I know..I can never be PLASTIC. I say it as it is. I dun care if I lose some readers. Im not here for publicity. Im here to be myself.
Keshi.
ty Arv!
I know...some ppl just want n want..but dun think for a minute how it's affecting the other person.
**If people dont get the message from this, then they are people to whom you should stop giving your time and effort.
yes. Its something v hard for me to do. Cos by nature, Im a v giving person. Now I wanna be a plastic BIYATCH and its not that easy. :(
Keshi.
ty Dee!
**ur tryin to keep everyone happy.. its practically impossible
u really made me think there. ty n HUGS!
I realise..my happiness is also imp.
*HUGZ*
Keshi.
I read that Arv...BEAUTIFUL n ty so v much!
*HUGZ*
Keshi.
ty Ani!
**and ppl just dont understand it .. or they pretend not to understand it so that they dont have to do anything about it..
ur soooo right there! Either they dun like to admit it or they give me another point to think abt, confusing the whole issue.
For some ppl, net friendships become alive only when they turn on the PC. And when they switch if off, who cares ha! Thats called plastic friendships.
Keshi.
noooo Sach its not u. HUGS!
Keshi.
ty Tejas!
yes when Im angry, Im not afraid to show it. We cant always be happy and sweet and understanding...thats being FAKE.
**Jeena isi ka naam hai
wut does that mean? :)
Keshi.
Mayz did I just shoot ya? lol!
Keshi.
ty Deepz!
lol na they hvnt got it yet..in denial I guess.
**somehow blogsville is no different from the real world out there
I so agree. Its all abt ME...not abt YOU.
Keshi.
ty Pri!
**IMHO, its all about personal choice...it shouldent be a 'i comment on your blog and u comment on mine' system
Pri d u honestly think I dun u'stand that? d u think I need to beg for comments, cos I really do hv enough here.
if u read my post properly u wud know it wasnt abt getting more COMMENTS. Why cant ppl u'stand wut Im talking abt. Mebbe Im a bad writer that my msg dun go across as I want it to.
:(
Keshi.
ty Sanchit!
Keshi.
Hobo I guess its 200% :):)
Keshi.
ty Jeevan!
**I can’t expect and leaves it up to their interest
yes I do that too. Im not saying ppl MUST comment in my EVERY post. Im talkin abt ppl who refuse to open up in my blog but want me to open up in their blogs.
Keshi.
Whitenoise nooooooooo u didnt u'stand my post. Nevermind.
It isnt abt ppl who dun hv time to comment. Read the post again..Im tired of explaining it to many others b4 u. :)
Keshi.
hehe Urv no way..its not u.
*HUGZ*
*smilez* :)
Keshi.
ty Ria!
nooo it isnt abt ppl who dun hv time to come here :(
Keshi.
ty Vish!
**but guess you are like me,we can't adjust
I agree. If I was there for u, u better be there for me too. I dun like half-arsed jobs.
Keshi.
ty Cindy HUGS!
**some ppl are so full of them selves !
omg ur so right! So up themselves that they think the whole world revolves ard em.
Keshi.
Ria enjoy the movie! :)
Im goin to a musical show tonite..alot of Dancing woohoo!
Keshi.
Good on ya girl!
*HUGS*
and special kisses from Spencer as well
"woof woof lick lick"
ty Amy HUGGGGGGGGGZ!
I knew u'd u'stand me. Cos u can SEE more than what the average person can.
**it gets tiring i guess always being the one listening and never being able to be heard.
So true. Exactly wut I meant by this post!
Its not abt ppl not commenting here. Its abt those who wants me to open up in their blog but refrain from doing it in my blog. Its so unfair.
ty so much for u'standing me and not telling me something like "its their choice"..
*MWAH*
Keshi.
I know dahlin Ne. HUGGGGGGGGGGGGZ!
and TY :)
Keshi.
hey Roo!
**There is nothing wrong if u expect something from others as we all expect the same
ty!
Keshi.
ty Deepti HUGS! :)
Keshi.
ty Aneesh!
**never thought there are bloggers like that
hehehe...mebbe u dun just see it much.
Keshi.
yes Arv this is one of my fav songs too.
Keshi.
hey Jan MWAH!
Im glad u cud relate to this post..it helps :)
Good luck ith school hun!
Im smiling most of the time..dun worry sweetz hehehe.
Keshi.
**WITH school
haha Jay ur spot on! Take it as it is or leave now!
Keshi.
ty Ken!
I intend to be real...thats why Im good at both ;-)
Keshi.
ty Anu!
nah its not abt ppl not coming to my blog. Its abt ppl ho refuse to take part in my blog but want me to do so in their blogs.
:)
Keshi.
Hi Keshi:
I hope you don't think of me as one of those people. I haven't been around much because I've been busy working on my edits.
I hope you know that I care.
Ghosty u obviously thought this was for YOU? Well it isnt.
Did u even read the post properly? Cos if u did, u wudnt hv said ur guilty. Cos u dun force me to take part in ur blog d u? This post was for ppl who does that but dun take part in my blog.
Was it that hard to u'stand it in this post? I didnt think so.
**no one owes us anything in this world
gee thats NEW to me? :) I know that already Ghosty.
**and if we think we can provide more than that, then its our discretion solely.
I agree. But in blogville, we r having alot of fun and we somehow EXPECT from our mates. If we dun expect, then it's a PLASTIC r'ship.
**we cant say people should and must react the way we wish they would, if that ever happens, in a perfect world, we wont have any complaints and all our friends will know our next word or breath.
wow u make me sound like Im some selfish, demanding biyatch. I got that thanks!
**tell me, why must we think we need to be addressed.
cos the same mates EXPECT me to address them??
**I agree we need to be respected becuase we respect others, but we dont deserve attention everywhere we go.
I do expect ATTENTION when my friends are in MY BLOG. I didnt say I need it EVERYWHERE I go!
**because simply, we dont know if its sincere or not. and when its not sincere, and we find out late enough to realize its all false, its much more painful.
yeah thats exactly wut I FOUND OUT. Thats why the title of this post is IT ALL FELL APART.
**dont set rules, it traps us.
WOW now Im setting rules? U forgot to mention its those ppl who ask me to take part in their blogs that set the rules...not me!
** and please do also remember that people might be in various situations that they dont like, and they move and walk on painfully threading the glass littered streets to please everyone. and i can say, most of us has done that and are still doing that.
I u'stand that. And Im not even talking abt those ppl Ghosty! Like I said before..read the post again.
**in the end it comes down to what you really want. im happy to get 10 comments in my posts, and Im happy because the comments are true to their heart. i dont want 1000 hit and run comments like what you have mentioned.
So Ghosty u think this is abt me Begging for Comments? Gosh I cant believe u said that. Is that how u see me? As a person here to blog for COMMENTS? Do u think I need to beg for comments Ghosty? DO U? if it was just abt COMMENTS, I wudnt have even poured my heart out here abt this issue. Did u even realise that??? I cud hv just ignored this whole thing and go abt as usual cos I hv ALOT OF COMMENTS?
**we cant expect everyone to play the game as we do.
yeah I heard that a 100 times by u in this same comment Ghosty! I GOT THAT TY!
**when they leave and they dont reply, i get hurt badly. but again, they dont owe me anything.
Once again, it isnt abt such ppl!!!
I give up.
Keshi.
And Ghosty, u being one of my oldest mates here, u failed to understand me.
THAT BROKE MY HEART BIG TIME.
Keshi.
ty Samby for u'standing me. HUGS!
Keshi.
ty Anindita!
**People love to take others for granted, for some; it is a way of life!
Spot on! U being new to my blog, u still u'stood wut I was saying. And that means alot to me.
*HUGZ*
Keshi.
ty Dawny I love ya!
**Sorry but I think you are giving too much importance to people who may not deserve that much
Ur sooo right. It just 'dawned' on me :) MWAH ty for making me see!
Keshi.
ty Sol!
A very diplomatic ans :)
**Some people may not want to give for reasons unclear
In that case, those ppl should not EXPECT me to open up in their blogs. I hope they u'stand that in future.
Wut I cant stand is when ppl expect me to bare it all in THEIR blogs but back off when its their turn to do so in MY blog. Why do ppl do that?
Keshi.
ty Gunj!
**not all d time can we expect ppl to b in d best of spirits inne??
nah I didnt mean that. I suggest u read my post again.
:)
Keshi.
yes Lavida too many FAKEs in Blogville..its all a Publicity stunt.
I wanna see Heath too :(
Keshi.
Mystique it came from fake ppl's demands :)
*HUGS*
Keshi.
SBM yes..in the end it didnt even matter to the ppl it really should matter...they all brushed it off as MY fault.
Keshi.
so true Dal ppl suck..alot of em.
They r all here for some publicity..thats abt it all. There's no dedication or genuine friendship...just time killing and greed.
Keshi.
ty Steve!
**If ya stop giving just move on to someone who appreciates it dont waste ya time.
Thats what Im planning to do. No more wasting my TIME n EMOTIONS.
*HUGS*
Keshi.
CG MWAHHHHHHHHH n ty!
Awww give a hug from me to Spencer ok!
*woof woof* lol!
Keshi.
Nadine noooooooo its not abt ppl who dun hv time. It happens to all of us.
I know u really care. HUGS!
Keshi.
ppl plz read the post before commenting.
Im tired of explaining wut this post is abt!
Keshi.
hello keshi...
that was a GREAT vent!
hope you are now feeling better...
and i hope that people understand what you said-
i enjoy reading your posts...
and i value YOU as a person, and as a friend.
i also feel that you put in OVER 100% into your blogs by responding to everyone's comment! i find this COMMENDABLE!! it's something that i would like to try and do...but it does take time.
thank you for being YOU : )
thank you for being a friend : )
hugs & blessings
ps
my ME mosaic is up : )
morning...angry one :)
nah the first few lines that im guilty was for this only: And no I don't mean some friends not coming to my blog anymore...I've long gotten over that issue. I don't care anymore if some friends don't wanna be here...it's their choice. ----> and it wasnt all that serious coz i knew this was for somepeople else.
the rest of the comments are not for you, i did not put YOU but i put WE there coz i jst related to wat happened to me. And the 100s comments is because im asking you too see who among the 100s are true to you.
come on, dont tell me i dont get the post, duh, i do. and you know I do. its jst that you didnt get my comments. i hate to sway to any side, and you know that very well.
and the final line, i said be yourself and dont be someone you think you are. think deeply about that.
and remember, the dozens of comments here supporting or agreeing to this post, theyre all fake keshi, coz they dont know you. didnt you realize that? even the ones you think are so right or honest to you...theyre not. and you know why I know it such.
tc/
nah the first few lines that im guilty was for this only: And no I don't mean some friends not coming to my blog anymore...I've long gotten over that issue. I don't care anymore if some friends don't wanna be here...it's their choice. ----> and it wasnt all that serious coz i knew this was for somepeople else.
the rest of the comments are not for you, i did not put YOU but i put WE there coz i jst related to wat happened to me. And the 100s comments is because im asking you too see who among the 100s are true to you.
come on, dont tell me i dont get the post, duh, i do. and you know I do. its jst that you didnt get my comments. i hate to sway to any side, and you know that very well.
and the final line, i said be yourself and dont be someone you think you are. think deeply about that.
and remember, the dozens of comments here supporting or agreeing to this post, theyre all fake keshi, coz they dont know you. didnt you realize that? even the ones you think are so right or honest to you...theyre not. and you know why I know it such.
tc/
Hehe :)
you poured your heart out babeh,its always so refreshing!
I know it feels bad for all that,but hello?..atleast you're concerned abt blogger..I over here..i just open my blog once a day,and even then i HARDLY get time to reply to the people who comment on my blog,or even comment on theirs..
be happy sweetheart..we're always thre :)
and OFCOURSE we'll take part in your blog activities..honestly!!
Shit..m so sorry!
I posted that comment when I was working from my sister's gmail acct..
so sorry!
love yu anyway babe! :)
*muah!*
Yeah, I am being honest.
i dont know how to dance ... will it be fine if i just come and hop around in your blog :-p
btw I too fell this at times ... there are people who dont visit my blogs while I read and comment on each and every posts on all of their blogs ... but then its okay ... I don't visit their blogs with the intention that they visit mine ...
anyways, hope to c u continue dancing around in my blogs :)
As they say there is no give and take. They are all counting on how much u give and no one is bothered how much u get...
hey keshi gal..chill!!!..i understand your point of view totally....i mean why do people expect to take evrything and not give anythinhg...thats not done
Feeling relieved :) Don't like to be the reason for other's disappointments so..
keshi girl...
i'd start with the sweetest possible apologies here. i did not intend any thing remotely rude. maybe just a bad choice of words.
now the point i'd like to re-phrase is that your self-obsession is something no one in the blogsphere dares to carry. i presume this to be the best quality anyone could have. there is nothing under the sun that you can appreciate before you appreciate yourself.
people refrain from praising themselves from the fear of being ridiculed. you have that aura about yourself.
i'd like to apologize again if my words had been harsh or taken otherwise. i respect perceptions and this could possibly have something being percieved wrong.
i still think that you are self-obsessed and thats what would always get be back to your blog day-on-day.
you simply rock!!!
:)
hey keshi regarding ya comment.
it has nothing to do with anyone on blogsville.
Cheeries.
keshi..
its not like plastic friendship.. its more like thats how much end of the day u get valued for.. like a plastic..
its such a shame when it comes from ur close friends.. especially when everyone is making a move and going off to different places.. and all it takes is a touch of a pc and mob's to keep one connected.. but then ppl just dont make tht effort.. may be they think its soo not worth the trouble..
out of sight is out of mind..
so expectations yes they sometimes fail and sometimes they get fulfilled.
U sound straight 4ward and true. I liked ur attitude buddy.
niway I guess dedicating 1 post to ur readers is gr8.
keep writing
aww thank you for saving me :))
i like the honesty in your posts and the way you express your5 feelings.
there were days i commented on all osts but nowadays only on those which i find interesting and can relate to. Of course if i have time which i dont :(
anyways i think if people say they dont know what to comment on your post it is not like they say your post sucks but more like that their own experience doesnt let them to express their thoughts and feelings as direct as you do :)
dont take it as offence, i believe it is not like that :)
shoot me??? m lyin dead on d floor with a bullet thru my heart!!!
gud one Keshi may be am to like them or becomin like them.....
srry
urs..hemu..
Yah, very true!!!
I am not as popular as you are :(
keshi,
yeah definitly...but my point is expectations shud nt over rule us..
We cant force people to give wt we expect.
well dun...mo mincing words!!!
but just an advice...."don't xpect anything"....u blog coz u love it n whether sum1 comments or not ...*big deal, huh*..chill dear!!!
hey keshi..u hav got a new reader. & no..i don expect you to take part n my blog. like wot u said, its better nt 2 hv high expectations :D& it cums naturally to me.nyweys gal , i don thnk you need to hav more ppl takin part n your blog, luks lik u already are too popular. if any1 ignores ur post, well...they lose a chance to communicate with you.
i admire that you havnt resticted urself to ur comfort zone .
\& yead..did read some of ur posts, must say de one on tits ws witty & more tan anythng its a qst that need 2 b asked.
Hey Keshi,
I can only begin imagine how you manage to not only write relentlessly with such passion put into every post, but also actively try and participate in all your readers' blogs.
I love comments. And as someone who recently started blogging, I was more than delighted to get your comments on my blog.
I do enjoy all your posts, the only thing that might set me back commenting on one if any, would be my lack of ability to come up with anything remotely amusing or even something nearly useful to contribute to the community on that particular subject.
Please don't take that as an offense to your work, which I genuinely respect.
And I'll try my best to pop in whenever and wherever I could!
;'( If you cry me gonna cry with you Sweetie Keshi.
If you are angry you have the right to and I am sorry if I did not participate as much as I like to.
I know you have always been a true friend and I can see your comments in most of my blog buddies' posts and that's so nice of you to visit.
If you decide not to visit me anymore I truly understand, you'll always be special :D
how are u nw maa'm?
200% ?
Ok will do...
Dont complain then, Ok ?
...and...when do people or who forces you to participate? is this the root of all this?
I have left my clothes on the small stool by the door and am ready for anything you may desire.. ahem.. so to speak.
ty Coco!
I know u really u'stand wut Im saying here and ur not just giving me a lecture like some ppl do. tnxx for that MWAH!
:)
*HUGS*
Keshi.
Mystique yes Im angry abt some ppl who has an SENSIBLE ANSWER for everything. Im tired of it. But when they HURT, I hv to u'stand how they feel? strange world!
Keshi.
ty Ghosty!
** i said be yourself and dont be someone you think you are. think deeply about that.
d u think Im being someone else here? This is me Ghosty. If u dun like wut u see, get over it...cos this ME!
**and remember, the dozens of comments here supporting or agreeing to this post, theyre all fake keshi, coz they dont know you.
How d u know they are all FAKE? I love my readers here. They r full of wisdom and love and yes, they are REAL. Only very few r FAKE. And in this post I was referring to those few ppl.
U may think that my 100s of commentors r FAKE. But I dun think like that. They take time off their daily schedule to come here, read my thoughts, be there for me when I need their support (even tho it's just thru WORDS)...and to me THAT IS REAL. Cos I FEEL their comfort and love. It's enough to keep me happy. Not that I hv found many REAL ppl offline anyways.
Keshi.
ty Aayushi!
Its not abt ppl not taking part in my blog activities. Its abt ppl who want me to take part in their's but DONT take part in mine.
*HUGZ*
Keshi.
ty Tarun..I like honesty. I dun like plastic r'ships.
Keshi.
ty Hiren :)
I can teach u to dance hehe.
** I don't visit their blogs with the intention that they visit mine ...
that NOT what I meant :(
Keshi.
ty Maks n hey WC!
**They are all counting on how much u give and no one is bothered how much u get...
SO TRUE! Cos they r so engrossed in GETTING, they dun see that the other person is not GETTING anything in return.
Keshi.
ty Sushmita HUGS!
Some ppl may tell me it's the Net...just dun get too personal here. But I dun believe in that. To me friendship is friendship no matter what the medium is.
tnxx hun for u'standing me!
Keshi.
Urv ur alrite mate. HUGS!
Keshi.
Drozzy tnxx!
But when u said that I was self-obsessed and that u didnt know I cud write abt others too, it really pissed me off. Cos my posts r not abt ME all the time. So I wondered if u ever read any of my posts or just saw my pics and branded me straight away as SELF-OBSESSED.
:) Anyways I appreciate u took out time to explain wut u really meant. ty!
*HUGS*
Keshi.
ty Amy!
I was wondering...cos some of ur commentors there said 'ppl should live n let live' etc etc...so I was thinking if some readers took ur post as a means to tell me off...cos of this angry post. Timing was too freaky I guess hehe.
:) no worries n ty!
*HUGS*
Keshi.
yes Ani ur right...some ppl get carried away with THEMSELVES that they forget OTHERS exist.
Keshi.
ty Joyce! :)
*HUGS*
Keshi.
Sach HUGS! :)
Keshi.
ty Lena!
**but more like that their own experience doesnt let them to express their thoughts and feelings as direct as you do
I do u'stand that. Not everyone CAN n or HAVE TO particiapte in all my topics. But some of them EXPECT me to participate in all the topics they come up with and I do. I never go and say
'I dont know wut to say..I don't like this n that to I cant take part'...etc etc.
In that case, they shouldnt expect me to open up in their blogs too, at the cost of being made fun at by some of their readers.
Keshi.
haha Mayz cmon its not abt u at all. HUGS!
Keshi.
Hemu nooooooo..its so not u!
WB I missed ya. :)
Keshi.
Aneesh being popular comes with alot of pain too. So ur in a good place.
Keshi.
I agree Vinu. I learnt that after a long time and alot of GIVING. ty!
Keshi.
CN ty and I agree.
But its not abt NOT commenting in my blog. Its abt how cold they r towards my posts but expect me to give some heat into their posts.
Keshi.
hey Enchanted WC n ty! :)
**i admire that you havnt resticted urself to ur comfort zone .
I know. But not everyone can do that. And I hv to u'stand that too.
tnxx for ur encouragement!
Keshi.
Monk noooooooo its not abt u or anyone who dun hv much time to come here :)
Its abt ppl who want me to open up in their blogs to various topics (some not even in my comfort zone) but dun do so in my blog.
So, ur alrite mate. This post was not intended towards u. HUGS n ty!
Keshi.
Shionge OMG how cud u even think it was abt u? LOL HUGS! no ways darling!
**If you decide not to visit me anymore I truly understand, you'll always be special :D
d u ever think I'd stop visiting u? I love u too much to do that! Even if u ask me to stop coming to ur blog, I wont. LOL MWAHHHHHHHHHH!
NO ITS NOT ABT U!
Keshi.
Samby Im good ty and u? :)
Keshi.
hehehe ok then! @Hobo :)
Keshi.
Ghosty hey!
**when do people or who forces you to participate?
Do u expect to spell the names out? I hope not.
Lets just say u dun u'stand how I feel and end this convo.
Keshi.
haha Mutley awww...ty n HUGS! Ur adorable! :)
*woof woof*
Keshi.
Well the kind of biased comments i used to get initially, getting pvt was the best option, now that everyone's gone, i m open again.
Swinging keshi,I mean mood swinging Keshi..
I am one of those taking a lot giving less.agreed & sorry.but honestly cant keep pace with your lovely posts.No No No excuse.
Tit(s) for tat(s) ( no I am not refering to your last post )
No ,again. Keshi is Keshi,this is just one of your mood swings.
You will come,I mean to all our posts .
Visting and taking from your posts & not giving..very very bad of us.Promise to change
TC
CU
Hugzzzz, it's okay Poppy doll-pearl, I hope at the end of the day, you enjoy ur writing as much as I've enjoyed yours :)
Ola! Did i just wrote "it's okay" in my comment above? Just attended a workshop on listening, and the trainer was saying that the worst empathy a person can show another, is to say "i understand" or "it's okay", becoz to the other person who is feeling upset/frustrated/down/disappointed, it is "not okay".
I dunnot what is better to say, but I just want to convey to you that first and foremost, you must be happy with what you write (haha, you know there are times when I write gibberish or non-English, but I write what I want)
Ganbatte yo!
:D
Hi Keshi,
this week we didn't meet
so....
I think that it is not me. /????/just kidding/
Expectations lead to disappointments.
It always happen to me too. I try to have a distance to my expectations, because I don't like to be disappointed too. I understand you and you're absolutely right, some people just Give...some just Take. In real life and in blog-life.
What I mean here is friends who expect me to fully take part in their blog activities, but don't take part in mine.
Now, I know that it is not about me, Keshi.
When I visit my friends I try to understand what they expect from me. Really. But I know that sometimes I made mistakes/ included misunderstand or misspell - egs. I want to write "warm" but I write "worm".Big different.
Keshi you are great, fantastic, warm friend.
Please, don't take this kind of "taker" to your heart too much.
Maybe they have something different in their mind, as I with "worm" and "warm". Maybe they were not conscious.
Take many thing easy. But it is good that you write what you think, what made you sad, what made you happy.
We learn from each other every day.
I learned from you much!
Love & hugsss!
hey keshi...
didnt read the post earlier coz i was kinda off from d world for 2 days, outta mind u can call me!!!
but wats this???
I really dont understand y do u give ppl so much who dont give u a damn?
We shldnt be even talkin abt them keshi... if they dont come back then let it be, u standing on the top and shouting will not make them do things, and if they do it forcefully then does it means the same???
Its a totally unfair world keshi, where give and take cant be the same, ever, otherwise there will be no problems!!!
Choice is urs how u wanna do it!!!
but if they come, visit, take part, choice is theirs!!!
Take CAre,
Ankur
Oh I totally know the kinds!
I got invited to comment on their post, I wrote a pretty long one for them, and all I got in response to that is a one-liner...thank you or something! You're saying they are not participating in your blog? Here I am commenting upon their request and then nothing! And another one came to my pic blog to tell me i do not appreciate this picture. I was like, huh, ok, not sure if i put it up for you anyway!
so yeah, ignore them, you don't need them anyway, don't waste your energy on the self-obsessed ones.
Yes Southy...
tnxx!
Keshi.
CU I did not mean that :( u got me wrong. Its not abt ppl NOT visiting me. I hv alot of friends who I visit but dun read my every post. Thats not what I meant here CU.
Anyways this does not include u at all. So u can be happy :)
*HUGS* n ty!
Keshi.
ALl i can say Keshi, is that you need the so called "Friends" to help u identify and appreciate your real friends and well wishers... i appreciate, admire, respect and love my true frinds more than ever, every time i meet one of the fakes
Luv n Hugz
Div
ty Saffy MWAH!
**and the trainer was saying that the worst empathy a person can show another, is to say "i understand" or "it's okay", becoz to the other person who is feeling upset/frustrated/down/disappointed, it is "not okay".
so so true!
Wut I hate the most is when friends start lecturing when all I want is my feelings be understood. Even Silence is better than saying 'thats life...move on'...
Another one I cant stand is when friends dun wanna get INVOLVED. Its so sad. They just wanna be SAFE.
Keshi.
naam de de chorre ka...hum sab bhi uski ragging karenge...(tell us the name of the dude...let us also take part in the emotional tug of war)..why shud only u have all the fun :P
and why shud we talk of serious stuff when we could be talking of....umm the bat mobile for instance...
Krys its not u luv HUGGGGGGGGGGGZ! :)
I know...I expect from ppl and I end up being disappointed. Im trying my best not to expect from anyone in blogville in future. I think I being hopeful when there's no hope at all.
MWAH ur one of the truest mates I have here Krys. U know that :)
TY!
Keshi.
Ankur I do know abt CHOICE. But its not even that. Nevermind. I dun wanna drag this anymore than it should be discussed. :)
**u standing on the top and shouting will not make them do things, and if they do it forcefully then does it means the same???
I know it wont change anything. But, in my blog, I do write my heart out. this is where my heart gets a voice and if I stop that, I think I will die.
ty n hugs!
Keshi.
hey ty Aneri HUGS!
lol Im so glad u know what I mean.
**I got invited to comment on their post, I wrote a pretty long one for them, and all I got in response to that is a one-liner.
hahaha! Exactly wut Im talking abt. Thank God someone finally knows what I mean!
When ppl do that, its like they r saying
'who wants to spend time n energy on ur thoughts...cos I only want ppl to comment on my thoughts'..
well guess what..Im so over such ppl :) and good for me!
*HUGS*
Keshi.
ty Divkiran!
**you need the so called "Friends" to help u identify and appreciate your real friends and well wishers
so very true! its just like u need a lil darkness to realise the power of light.
*HUGS*
Keshi.
Mystique no I dun wanna mention any names. That wont be right. Its upto them to identify themselves.
And maybe after this post, I'd feel much better cos I poured my heart out and said wut I had to say.
ty!
Keshi.
and then maybe we cud talk abt fav flavors of ice cream...
too much serious talk gives me acidity...
like i say...life shud be full of serious actions and fun conversations
hmmm i wud put in additional efforts to learn dancing if I get a teacher like you ;)
and I didnt mean to hurt you by that stmt of mine ... it was more like ... forget it (dont care much) if someone doesnt visit ur blog ...
Hehehehe...gotcha!!! I know we'll be friends for life :) I always knew you have a 'deeper' meaning in all your posts so yep...I know I know....it's not me and to you I'm special too kekekekeke....
You will always be an ANGEL :D
..it does takes toll ... and someday you got to break free...expectations i learnd are rarely fullfilld...so go ahead and tell the ones u r disappoited wid...
that's a niiiice smile! :))))
hehe Mystique true :)
Keshi.
hehe Hiren ;-)
And I got wut u meant. Dun worry. HUGS!
Keshi.
Shionge there's no way I can be mad at someone so GIVING as u r. Ur TRUELY special!
*HUGS*
Keshi.
Prakhar ur right...I hit a peak of disappointment and now I cant go bak to those days when I was being a doormat 24/7.
I stood up for myself.
tnxx!
Keshi.
ty Dip :) u've got a nice one too girl!
Keshi.
** in my blog, I do write my heart out. this is where my heart gets a voice and if I stop that, I think I will die.
Sweetie... i m not asking you to do any of this, but u get hurt coz of ppl who dont care abt u, and it hurts me!! :)
i hope u understand!! :)
Cheers!!!
I understand what you're saying Keshi. x
Nora
OMg, its ike i've missed out on so much reading babes.....
am really really hoping alls well with u now, i am sure its just a phase n hey weekends around teh corner so i hope that cheers u up...
babes take care pls...
love n hugs
Amen to that babe! AMEN to that!!
Amen to that babe! AMEN to that!!
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