Wednesday, August 5

Mortally Yours

Remember that innocent kid I was talking about from about 3 posts down..the one who committed suicide? Well here's the English article on her in the SL Sunday Times. Those who are interested in knowing about Anuththara's story, you can now read it here. It just made me realise how 2 different views of the same story can create so many misconceptions and judgements. The Sinhalese article talked ill of her. This English article was from her parents' point of view and it spoke so many good things about her, and many truths that we didn't know about this story and how the school failed to handle it. There you go. The world is made of 2 categories of people. One that would concentrate on positivity no matter what, and another that would do anything to spread negativity. We should never just take sides and blabber away without hearing both sides of a story. And when you write an article about a story, make sure you know all the facts of the story and that you're not just taking a side that goes with your beliefs. Are you a side-taker?


On other news, I read that MJ's mother is fearing that there will be no safe place for her son's body to rest, cos there have been threats from fans who plan to steal his body. What the ? With great respect to MJ, why is his family still keeping his body? Hasn't MJ being dead for nearly 2 months now? I think this is the height of attachment and it makes me sick. MJ is dead, his body is now an empty vessel. Wouldn't it be good if the family can come to terms with Death, respect MJ and bury(/cremate) his body so that he can finally rest in PEACE? They have to learn to face reality and learn to let go. I have never come across such greed and attachment before over a dead body. As a Buddhist, I strongly believe that nothing is permanent and that death is inevitable...so when someone dies, although it can be truly heartbreaking, the body must be laid to rest or cremated (my preference), without holding on to it so tightly. This body is a deteriorating organism...and when it's dead, it needs to be disposed of, whether you like it or not. I guess they have to stop fighting over where the body should be buried cos it's quite ridiculous and is awfully shallow. I wonder if they ever treated him so lovingly when he was alive?


Speaking of 2 deaths in 1 post, I wanna ask you this question. You may answer if you wish to. If you had a chance to write a letter *to whoever you like addressing it to* describing how you want your body handled *once you're dead ofcourse u doofus*, what would you write in it? Say it in few words. Please note this is not to ridicule any dead person. This is simply my way of seeing Death. Now here's my letter:



Dearest Mum,

WOW so I'm dead? It somehow happened ha phew! Don't cry. See I'm still laughing LOL! You know, with all the John-Abrahams I passed at the departure lounge at the Death terminal, I think Death rocks man! oops I mean mum. I knew there must be some reason why Life was so boring. btw this letter is strictly to let you know what to do with my now fatally crashed body *all the other sentimental things I wanted to say to you is in another 10-page letter btw. good luck reading it mum ;-) dun burn too many candles now*. For more read my blog.

Now that I'm finally dead-bored, and I cannot wear those Manolo Blahniks anymore, just cremate me please *just make sure the smoke alarm has working batteries incase I panic and want to get out!*. I'd like my sexy ashes to be scattered over the ocean where I can be at peace mingling with the cute Nemo-like fishes *OMG I hope there won't be any sharks!*. That's it folks I'm finally free woohoo! o btw, make my coffin a simple wooden one that doesn't cost a fortune. After all it's going to be set fire to right? I knew you'd get it mum, gee tnxx!

MWAHZ *I just realised I cant send u kisses anymore...my lips are falling apart urrrrg!*
Yours loving and very late daughter,
Keshi.


Death is just another part of Life. At the end of everyone's road, Death awaits your acceptance. Death sees no color, religion, status, caste or creed. Death does not choose. And you cannot ask Death to give you preference...you cannot buy time...you cannot negotiate with it. In death you can't parade your pride and ego, cos there's no one to watch you. In Death you can't hurt another cos no one feels then, not even you. In Death you can't apologise, cos no one will hear you. In Death you can't be superior, cos in Death you can't even move your hands or lips...


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Tarun said...

* At the end of everyone's road, Death awaits your acceptance. Death sees no color, religion, status, caste or creed*

when the game of chess ends the king and the pawn go back in the same box.

:)

I think the investigators more obessesed with MJ's body.

For any departed soul, we can just pray for the soul who decided to move on,in the truest sense.

White Magpie said...

Mine would be somewhat like this.

To the closest,

I hope you and everyone are in peace. I certainly am. So don't cry and spoil the gaeity of the moment. You cried when I was alive. At least laugh & clink glasses of wine now that I am gone ;) Play Megadeth's 'Rust In Peace' or Alan Parson's 'Eye In The Sky' as the farewell song in my funeral. And please don't forget to put yards and yards of firecrackers in my pockets or wherever. I want to go with a blast when you light me up.

The Visitor,
White Magpie

Arv said...

that was a very touching article...

as for taking sides... its not something easy always... though one follows the heart... its easy to be be taken advantage of too...

we start to support someone believing in their words only to be made a fool of ourselves... :(

as for my final letter... it would be a long one... addressing many individuals... but a short version to all would be like ---

I will still be around, with lots of love - Arv :)

Fiducia said...

Nice post but a tough one to comment on...
Death can't be foreseen or defined in a set of few verses..
What you wrote, as introspected, was beautiful but for us to wish the same might be just too hard..!
I would simply ask my dad to cremate my dormant torso in the best way possible, then!
Donate my parts to some less fortunate so I can still feel the world from a new heart...:)
That's it Keshi... nice post and I loved your letter to your mom..
Your mom would surely shed a few tears on reading this one...
chk my blog for a poem on 'Death'..hope it makes you think!!!!
It is called 'Haunting Thoughts' from the 2007 - September archive!!

Die Muräne said...

crazy world.

people of today completely lost touch to the nature of dead

comfortably numb said...

Death is the indisputable truth of life...nothing is more certain than death itself!!!

About the sides taking bit, I mostly try to give an objective view...I fail too but I try as must every1 else.

About the letter bit...nuthing much, just give me a simple and solemn burial...that would be more than enough!!!

Ria said...

That was a scary post....who wants to talk about death. But anyways, of i have to write a letter to my loved ones it will go somewhat like this:

Dear loved ones,

My journey has finally come to an end! i had a very satisfying life and in case i have hurt u in any way please forgive me. Don't cry over my death coz its inevitable. Be happy about the fact that i didn't suffer and i didn't face death prematurely. Even though i am dead now, my soul will always be somewhere around. *dont worry i won't harm anybody* coz i never did that when i was alive too! Dont spend too much on my funeral, make it a simple one. And since i am a hindu my body will be burnt and i wud like my ashes to be dropped in the vast Indian Ocean. I m not specifically attached to the Indian Ocean as such, its just that its the closest ocean to India! :P Love u all and always remember me with a smile. Will Ya!

Yours Ria.

Rakesh said...

In the last post, party over - in this one, you're deaD? I thought you'll come back to your sexy self with that comment of mine... :P

I dunno what i'd say. I think i'll donate it to medical research.

Hobo ........ ........ ........ said...

Sorry, I can't read your letter.
But yes, I agree your words about MJ body.
: |

Swetha Padakandla said...

hmmm! i felt really sad reading that article!! she was just a kid.. a little kid who was a loving child of her parents! :'(

and about the death matter you spoke here. i like the idea of yours! to be frank, i have written something like this already in my private blog.. (ssshhh)
not exactly the same.. i have written few lines to all those i know about what all i wanted to tell them before i die! so that once i die, they can read the feelings of me through my blog.

and for the funeral part! hmmm it goes like this..

dear pappa and mamma,
"oh my gawwdd! i'm dead already! never expected death will be like this.. now i wont be living with you all anymore.. (that makes me go so sentimental!) but, please do not cry for me! i might be born again somewhere here on this earth! just burn my body for now (i will shut my eyes when you do that) and put off my ashes somewhere near to my house so that i still feel like i'm near my home! i love my home and u all! i will miss u people! take care without me.. sayonara!!!

i feel bit relaxed after writing this! :)
unexpected things happen without even a small hint! so its always better to be ready for the next..
:)
nice post, keshi! i love the way of expressing things like this..

cheers

♪♪HARINI♪♪ said...

**are you a side taker?**

No. i never take sides.. sometimes under some circumstances i agree to certain things but i can never ever decide. in the girls case too, the girl could have been me, anybody, anybody at all... ive taken a mobile phone to school a couple of times, ive been tortured by my favorite teacher last year for no fault of mine at all, ive been such a misfit all through school... ive even been in a school where the teachers have encouraged the students to call me a nerd. all kids would say, "oh harini what are you studying now?" and by the end of the year i got 49% and just managed to pass.
but at all those times, im not denying it and i feel its nothing to be scared of or concerned about but ive thought how it would be if my life ended here. i would think of writing a note and blaming practically every person ive known for my death and then maybe i could have the last laugh..
i know its wrong to do so and please dont tell me to get such thoughts out of my mind, but its only natural to feel so. it might be asking for sympathy but its just like asking for something else. people around you always say you ask for sympathy but when deep deep down youre so hurt and let down by the rest of the world that it isnt wrong to expect a little from someone you hope who cares.

everyone always thinks of how the people in the person's (who commits suicide) life suffer after his death. but i dont see it. if they couldn't stand by him in the time he needed it most and shunned him then, made him decide that it was better to end life the painful way, why must they by bothered, if not sad when he is dead.

i loved your post. it was so beautifully done :)

preeti said...

In Death you can't hurt another cos no one feels then, not even you. In Death you can't apologise, cos no one will hear you

so very true.. whats wrong with MJ s family?? cha.. the very thought disgusts me.. in case you didn know in Goa there is a church in the name of St Francis Xavier, whose body is still presewrved without any chemicals (he was so pure that no need for chemzies).. every yr, the body will be displayed to public and this practice stopped when a lady from spain came and bit a fingernail of the saint..(how yuckiee).. I jus hope ppl wake up to reality soon.. and regarding death and what to do with me, I ll rather post it in my blog.. HUGS dearie for a new post idea:):)

Enigma© said...

Death comes as a mystery and if you knew it is coming it wudn't be that funny. anyway, once i am dead i dont think i'd care wat they do to my body. But i just want them to ensure that I am really dead before they do anything to my body.

Cazzie!!! said...

Mwah back atcha gorgeous laydee :)

Margie said...

Oh Keshi, your letter to your mum made me cry, I have to go compose myself but I'll bbl ~
It was a very funny & touching!
I cry whenever I'm touhed deeply!

Going to the dentist now & then a ton of things to do today!

*HUGZ*

Margie
P.S Love the song!

rayshma said...

taking sides... i'm on the fence there! :D
seriously speaking, if it's a friend of mine, someone i genuinely care for - i will side with them publicly on ANYthing. in private, i may disagree and tell them/argue it out with them.. but i will be by their side in public. i don't know if it's taking sides... but yeah, i do side with ppl i love.

my letter for when i die? i don't know... haven't thought that much about it. but i definitely want an electric cremation. and if possible, i don't want any of those 10th-13th day rituals to be held for me. i'd rather that those close to me hold a beach party and celebrate for me.

Devika said...

My idea of taking sides.....NEVER TAKE SIDES, LET PEOPLE BE....None really needs any support...At the worst hour it becomes apparent!

On an other note...its when you have to please both sides, or you want to hurt none, you find the difficulty....

Better leave things as they are...i've felt

and death...I don't think i have any problem with anyone dealing with it in any way they chose....so no death notes :)

wishes,
devika

iriz said...

this is a such a nice post, you always makes sense. there are some parts that i dunno whether to cry or laugh, it's just a mixture, you wrote it well.

for my last words, i dunno what to say, i don't want to think about it haha. maybe i'll get back for that. lol.

nice one!

Jack said...

Keshi,

Read 2 posts now. For previous one - So nice of you to spare that guy feeling of rejection. You will never know when and who sweeps you off your feet. Yes, we need to look within to be what we want to be. For this post - Read her parents views. It is really sad. At that age there is a lot of curiousity to know the forbidden. We, elders, have to understand that keeping in mind our own time and handle it with more care. I am surprise MJ's body is still being held onto. I have already told my children that donate all usable organs - eyes, liver, kidneys, heart etc and cremate the left over in electric cremetorium.

Take care

AmitL said...

Keshi,that's so true-there are two sides to every story,like there are two sides to every coin.The question'are you a side taker'?No-rather,I go a step further and try to put myself in the opposite person's shoes,before reacting angrily or otherwise to whatever they've spoken-believe me,half the anger vanishes when I do that..of course,sometimes,spontaneous anger cannot be helped.
----
Re. MJs body-yes,it's weird-or,maybe just a publicity stunt..though,I wonder whether MJ fans are angry rather than anxious?
----
The Final Letter- a biz bizarre-let me ponder over it before writing it..maybe over the weekend.TC.
(PS-I wrote a comment once,and the page just vanished..so,this is the second attempt)

Adisha said...

The article makes for interesting read ...

Regarding MJ, I really wonder what the expression R.I.P means to those close to him ...coz I'm sure if He has any idea what's happening now that's he's no more, he must be tch tching from up in heaven ...

Your letter was kinda morbid yaar :( but I guess the essence was truly you, so alls good !

Me , I'd probably write to my brother and husband and all those who've meant anything to me. Little notes you know ?! My letter, Gosh ! Not here ...

U take care ...

Maddy said...

I enjoyed reading this post about death.

I have been reading Neale Donald Walsch's "Home with God..In the life that never ends"...Few lines from that book here I quote.

"Death is intriguing.Its is exciting and intriguing and totallay wonderful"

"the moment you surrender to love and allow it to lead you to exactly where your soul wants to go, you will have no difficulty"

Three stages of death are simply three steps of reidendification. These are
1. Releasing idendification with the body
2. Releasing idendification with the mind
3. Releasing idendification with the soul

"There is no suffering of any kind in the afterlife"
.........
So, why should we bother about death?? its freedom from all clutches of this world

My letter will be

Dear All,

Death is inevitable. death is never a tragedy.It is always a gift.So accept it.

Jay said...

I have a living will and in it I specify how I want my remains dealt with. I want to be cremated and have the ashes spread someplace beautiful like up in the mountains. Or on the stage down at the local strip club for the dancer to dance around on me. LOL ;-)

When Abraham Lincoln was assassinated they had to move his grave several times and for a while they held it in a cage built into a hill. Finally he was encased in concrete in a tomb. All to protect him from grave robbers.

Shachi said...

I never thought about writing a letter like this - and yours is sooper....but you made me think of doing one...so let's see :)

Keep the posts coming - I do read them during my extremely little free time these days.....

I have so many new things to write about - hopefully this weekend I will find time to blog :)

Jimmy said...

Keshi

remember the time we first met (as Julia)

u have changed
so have I

Jimmy said...

I have stopped cross dressing now

Keshi said...

Some people they tease one another
Take PRIDE in themselves
Keeping the other one DOWN
Well Im not like that at all

Some people they HURT one another
They love to see
Hurt in the other ones eyes
Well Im not like that at all

Some people are born for each other
They love to walk
Holding the other ones HAND
They always UNDERSTAND
Some people CRY
Some people know WHY

Some people they USE one another
So aimlessly
Not like lovers do
Well Im not like that at all

...

With a word UNSPOKEN
With a voice UNHEARD
When a thought is BROKEN
By a tender word
When a heart is MOVED
When a heart is THROWN
The SILENCE tells you
Youre not alone...

vishesh said...

Every coin has two sides..and which one do we choose ? Even though we know the probability is equal?

Hmm...what to do with my body when I am dead?

guess it is the same thing as what you have mentioned...hope there is a sexy female from some new kind there :P

Devika said...

I loved that verse of your Keshi :)

"Some people they tease one another
Take PRIDE in themselves
Keeping the other one DOWN
Well Im not like that at all"

But, teasing is my way of loving.....its not pride, some one can tease me the same way and I laugh so heartily at myself...no problem...and if I feel my tease has hurt some one I always stop to say sorry,

just thought of sharing, because I wouldn't wish misunderstanding....especially when you take it as pride/hurt.....

You should have shared our batch in college....to see how people tease in love...and then my husband a master of it...i don't take it as pride or hurt!

wishes,
devika

Priya Joyce said...

ahh hw true...n how wonderfully said..
well death is also not the end in the eyes of the people who love us..

i'd write to my parents dunno wat i'd write..but i'd want my body to be burried..in an eco friendly way.
well abt MJ i'd juss say those ppl who wanna do tat they actually ren't attached to him they r selfish..n love n attachment isn't selfish..
:)
tc

Jimmy said...

DEATH is the end


the END to silly games
chasing shallow material pleasures

chasing blondes
and Keshi


she is not blonde
but DUMBER

Kulpreet said...

Hi Keshi!
What a letter. Brought tears in the eyes... Very well said. Simple thoughts, simple beliefs...
Okay, I wud like to say - don't just remember me and waste your time. Please move on. For mom, light a candle, incense stick, whatever makes you remember me; for father, have another drink each time my thought brims in the mind. Kids, follow your heart. And wifey, I will always love you. But get yourself togather, the kids need you more.

Kulpreet

SMM said...

Death is a the grand finale of life I guess.It is absolutely final and maybe MJ's family is unable to come to terms with that or maybe they'r just morbid and obsessive.

As for my letter after death, it would be pretttyyyy long cuz I'd write a seperate one to every person who is important to me, though I ahve told my mother and Arjun that I want whatever oragsn can be donated from my body.

Ria said...

@Keshi: I had to comment on the post that u hav written today....even though u hav disabled comments for this one, i jus cudnt stop myself from expressing myself....i had tears in my eyes..i had to literally stop myself from bursting out in tears (since i am at work).

I wonder how could somebody think so alike, i know i am saying this for the umpteenth no. of time..but when i was reading ur letter, it just felt as if i hav written this letter to my mum. I know the letter that i hav written here is just a small part of what i wud actually want to write.I had to stop myself from writing anything more coz i know i wud hav wept while doing so.

I dunno why, but i get this feeling that u must hav cried or at least shed a few tears after writing this heart wrenching post. I m sure everybody who's ever known u will always remember u gurl! u r someone who cannot be forgotten.

Love,
Ria

Jimmy said...

SHUCKS
women cry easy

!Teq-uila Del Zapata said...

I wish they could play "hallowed be thy name" on my funeral

Suma said...

that story about the girl who committed suicide made me sad. Kids that age are so sensitive and need to be handled in the right way... a life lost needlessly :(

Devika said...

You are little more crank than me....a lovable one...and how does one forget you Keshi....i think I will find you immediatly in that **rolling eyes** and you will find me the same way,

But I'm not sure God will send me to Heaven....I get so wild with Him sometimes...because He is the only one who accomodates :)

look where am drifting...

anyway, enjoyable post for today...again I find a similarity in our relationship with our mothers -- the license to say anything...my poor mother suffers me so much....but she seldom shows :)

wishes,
devika

Jimmy said...

Hallowed be your name?

future generations will remember us as the Gen that fucked the WORLD

GLOBAL TEMP will soon rise by 5C
Mumbai and Mauritus and SL and all island nations will disappear as the TIDES rise


those who survive will probably succumb to H1N1 swine FLU

its the END kids

Tarun said...

Well ... this comment is for the next post.

If u cant get into ur own house from front or the back door, u have to jump from teh neighbours window ...

Ur Geekiness oozes from your eyes.
U have nerdy eyes ... LOL

I have to be dead t write that letter.
I am not sure about gifting u roses, but surely will look for lotuses if I were to meet u today.

;)

Tarun said...

The plot of the "Geeky Eyes" was the fact that, you wanna look into peoples eyes when u atlk, and wanna verify what they are saying or what kind of things eyes wanna project.

We all are composites of many traits,so for that particular snap, there was a sense of geekiness which I felt.

:P

Other wise you are like a dream merchant.I often get tired commenting on ur blogs, but i guess u have blogs chalked out for next 3 weeks.

lol.

Jimmy said...

LIFE and DEATH are both GODs design
the WORLD can only support so many people


in the good OLD days we had plaque every 50 years to cut the population down to reasonable limits

in spite of advances in Medical science, we still cant figure out new strains in the FLU Virus

u cant scuttle GODs plan
the OLD must die and be recycled to make room for the NEW


face it Kids
dont be a SENTIMENTAL fool

your dad mom and old men like me have to GO

dont CRY when I die
LAFF

ZB said...

To be frank, when i read your blog i do monologue with myself, " Mr. Zillion, what are doin reading a girly blog, man, where are your testosterones gone? "

but jokes apart, your musings are genuinely universal, though laced in pink candy floss...Just kidding, your blog does intellectually stimulate my grey cells, You love for your Mom makes me miss my mom so much more. She is one of the prettiest woman i have seen.ODE TO YOUR MOM. Cherish her presence, you dont know what you have and how rich are you with her in your life. Ask someone who doesnt have one. TC, Nice post :))

Dont mind my PJ's, i can get ridiculously cocky at times.TC:))

Tarun said...

At most times,commenting on ur blog, is like sipping wine,although one knows they had enough, there is always a temptation to have one more sip

:D

- Sugar Cube - said...

I cldn't make myself read this post.A lot of ppl plan their funeral & I do not fancy that idea.

But after reading your current post , I have a diff opinion.

Death is everywhere around..it may come sooner or later..you never know.

The letter is very well drafted.Its so straight and non sappy.
I too wldn't want to leave without saying words & without expressing gratitude.

ZB said...

your mom is stunningly pretty.I guess thats where you got your looks from. Dont blush..its OK. Your blog inspires me. TC:)

Keshi said...

ty Tarun!


**when the game of chess ends the king and the pawn go back in the same box.

very wellsaid there!

In Death, Kings and Paupers r equal. Rather, Death equals all men.


Keshi.

Keshi said...

aww Magpie it made me all teary girl. *HUGZ*


**You cried when I was alive. At least laugh & clink glasses of wine now that I am gone

thats so true. I want ppl to celebrate my life.

HAHA @firecrackers! good one there :)


ty for doing this! I know it must hv been awkward but Im glad u took it all in good stride and gave it a stab. HUGZ!

Keshi.

Keshi said...

Arv I know u will ALWAYS be ard. That was very wellsaid! *HUGZ*


**we start to support someone believing in their words only to be made a fool of ourselves

I agree. I hv made that mistake many times. In Blogville too. Now I know the truth :)


Keshi.

Keshi said...

tnxx Fid I will check that poem out soon.


**I would simply ask my dad to cremate my dormant torso in the best way possible, then!
Donate my parts to some less fortunate so I can still feel the world from a new heart

thats pretty compassionate on ur behalf. Im really proud of ya!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

true Murane. Thats cos they r so scared of it.

Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty CN!

**just give me a simple and solemn burial

Simplicity even at death is admirable.


Keshi.

Keshi said...

aww Ria somehow ur letter made me cry! Not cos it was sad but cos it was YOU. I dun ever wanna read a letter like that from u. I hope I go b4 u.

*HUGZ* ty for doing it tho it was hard for ya!


**I m not specifically attached to the Indian Ocean as such, its just that its the closest ocean to India!

lol so cute hahaha!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

Rakesh hey!

**In the last post, party over - in this one, you're deaD? I thought you'll come back to your sexy self with that comment of mine

LOL isnt Death sexy? ;-)


hey btw r u an organ donor? Thats great!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Hobo!

why cant ya read my letter? :(

while its hard to accept, Hobo Im a mere mortal just like anyone else is...some day I will die... :)

Keshi.

Keshi said...

aww Swetha ty so much for being so brave and doing this! *HUGZ*


**(i will shut my eyes when you do that)

LOL cute!



**and put off my ashes somewhere near to my house so that i still feel like i'm near my home!

this goes to show how attached we r to our HOMES and FAMILIES...thats where our HEARTS r. So sweet.

yes ur right...u never know when it can happen. so we better be realistic abt it. Im sure alot of ppl hv suddenly died w.o. hvn said the necessary.


Keshi.

Keshi said...

Harini HUGZ!

Im not going to lecture ya cos I know how u feel. I hv been there too :) Not at school but at a time when I felt the lowest. I will admit it, I hv felt this life is such a bitch I wanted to end it. but I didnt. cos I knew there was something more in it, there has to be. And I needed to live to find it.



**everyone always thinks of how the people in the person's (who commits suicide) life suffer after his death. but i dont see it. if they couldn't stand by him in the time he needed it most and shunned him then, made him decide that it was better to end life the painful way, why must they by bothered, if not sad when he is dead.

I agree totally! Very wellsaid there. ppl often think only AFTER something bad happens.

u TC now..and always know Im here for u to talk. I understand, ALWAYS :)


Keshi.

Keshi said...

HUGZ Preetz! Ur current post made me cry! LOVELY.


** this practice stopped when a lady from spain came and bit a fingernail of the saint

LOL r ya serious??? eeeeeeeeks! The lady must hv been dreaming of Maccas!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Enigma!

**Death comes as a mystery and if you knew it is coming it wudn't be that funny

I hv been there Enigma, and I always thought of Death in a humrous way :) I was never scared of it and I never took it so serious. Tho its sad to lose a lovedone, think abt it...Life n Death r both a JOKE.


Keshi.

Keshi said...

MWAH MWAH MWAH Caz!

Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Margie! *HUGZ*

dun cry now...I put the jokes in to make ya laff lol!

How was the dentist? scarier than death right? HAHA!

TC
Keshi.

Keshi said...

aww ty Raysh!

A beach party sounds so cool! Nice idea there :) I know wut u mean abt those alms-givings. Its a waste of time n money...already rich n wellfed ppl meet and eat..wuts the point? I'd rather give all that money to the needy.



** if it's a friend of mine, someone i genuinely care for - i will side with them publicly on ANYthing. in private, i may disagree and tell them/argue it out with them

I'd be by my friend's side too, in public. but I hv had friends who did shameless things...Im not sure if I can take their side even in public then. what say?


Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Devika!

I dun please anyone..I just say the truth. And if I cant say it politely, I keep quiet :)

Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Iriz!

u cant take all the time u need. :)

Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Jack!

** I have already told my children that donate all usable organs - eyes, liver, kidneys, heart etc and cremate the left over in electric cremetorium.


how very compassionate of ya Jack!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Amit!

so ur gonna hand-write it? ;-)

Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Adisha!

oh its ok :) I know there r alot of privacy involved in the REAL letters hehe.

Keshi.

Keshi said...

ur letter was short sweet n wise Maddy TY!


**1. Releasing idendification with the body
2. Releasing idendification with the mind
3. Releasing idendification with the soul


Thats interesting. Im sure one can achieve those stages if concentration is practised in our daily lives?


Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Jay!

** I want to be cremated and have the ashes spread someplace beautiful like up in the mountains.

I get that liberating feeling just reading this.



**Or on the stage down at the local strip club for the dancer to dance around on me

LOL hahaha thats so very JAY! ;-)



**Lincoln body

I still dun get it. why preserve a dead body?

Keshi.

Keshi said...

hey Shachi ty sweetie :)

take ur time.

Keshi.

Keshi said...

Jimmy ur crazy.

Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Vish!

**guess it is the same thing as what you have mentioned...hope there is a sexy female from some new kind there

HAHAHA cute!

Keshi.

Keshi said...

Devika that TEASE is not the kind of harmless TEASING ur talking abt :) Its more like mocking another to make them feel small.


Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Joyce!

**i'd write to my parents dunno wat i'd write..but i'd want my body to be burried..in an eco friendly way.

u r very wise and responsible.



**selfish

that too!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

Jimmy Im a brunette n WISER. :)

Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Kulz!

**don't just remember me and waste your time. Please move on. For mom, light a candle, incense stick, whatever makes you remember me; for father, have another drink each time my thought brims in the mind. Kids, follow your heart. And wifey, I will always love you. But get yourself togather, the kids need you more


omg that made me cry :( *HUGZ* so touching and so real!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty SMM!

ur right...they r obsessed!


**though I ahve told my mother and Arjun that I want whatever oragsn can be donated from my body.

awww...noble deed there.

*HUGZ*

Keshi.

Keshi said...

awwww Ria ty sweet girl. HUGGGGGGGGGGZ!

Im sorry to hv made u cry :( I guess we 2 drama divas r very good at being sooks right? :):)

I know..ur letter wud hv been the same! I just knew it. And yes I cried while writing it and listening to that beautiful song.

TC
Keshi.

Keshi said...

Jimmy that means u should cry too..ur JULIA rem?

Keshi.

Keshi said...

Anuz a lil Iron Maiden for ya on ur way to the next phase? not bad at all :)

Keshi.

Keshi said...

I agree Suma.

Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Devika!

**i think I will find you immediatly in that **rolling eyes** and you will find me the same way,

LOL good one! I'll be standing there rolling my eyes and u will know straight away its me!


Mothers r wonderful creatures arent they. If not for my mother I wonder who wud put up with my crap lol!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

Jimmy not yet...the fireball needs to come.

Keshi.

Keshi said...

Tarun u dont hv to be dead to write it!


**Ur Geekiness oozes from your eyes. U have nerdy eyes

LOL is that a compliment or an insult?



Keshi.

иidhi S said...

"Life is not About the Destination, But the Journey...!!!"

Your post made me cry, and it was quite sometime I have been thinking about doing the same. Inspired by a book I recently read - "Things I want my Daughters to know' - By Stephenie Meyer.
Its hurtful, but always content to be able to have left with written and said things about and for the people you love the most and matter the most. Things you otherwise, wont have had a chance to talk.
If you are interested you can have a look at the review I did on my other blog:
http://www.nidhiveens-loveforbooks.blogspot.com/2009/08/things-i-want-my-daughters-to-know-by.html

Ciao.. Tc

Keshi said...

Tarun I cant help being born with such curious eyes lol!


**Other wise you are like a dream merchant.I often get tired commenting on ur blogs, but i guess u have blogs chalked out for next 3 weeks.

HAHA! Im a blogpost library!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

Jimmy thats so true..

But few tears will be shed too...Death is sad, as much as it is liberating.


Keshi.

Keshi said...

aww ty Zillion!

haha u think my blog is girly? I think not! :)


Abt my mum..she's my truest friend!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

hey Tarun :)

**At most times,commenting on ur blog, is like sipping wine,although one knows they had enough, there is always a temptation to have one more sip

r ya lying to me? LOL!


Keshi.

иidhi S said...

I feel really sad about the girls family, how devastated, they might be. Losing their only child to the stupid system.
The whole MJ episode kind of irritates me now, dunno what people want, he's dead guys, give him some rest now at least.

Keshi said...

ty Sugar!

Im not going to deny something that is a huge part of life. And thats death. And I dun want to wait for it to happen to think abt what I should hv said :)


Keshi.

Keshi said...

Zillion u think that photo is my mum's? LOL! Its me. But thanks for the compliments, Im chuffed :)

Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Nidhi!

**Its hurtful, but always content to be able to have left with written and said things about and for the people you love the most and matter the most. Things you otherwise, wont have had a chance to talk.


u r so right there! Alot of ppl r afraid to think of Death n think it's a bad thing. But like u said, we only hv NOW to say what we hv to say n we better face it.


I will read that review soon, tnxx hun!

Keshi.

Keshi said...

Abt MJ...the family is crazy. I feel MJ didnt get any peace in life and now he doesnt get any peace in death either!

Keshi.

Thousif Raza M.B said...

my god thats is the most touching and most inspiring post i ever read

keshi you made me cry today, those 2 letters were so much of heart, so much of care , so much of LOVE

i loved it as usual, but my god these 2 posts were god send, and i think i too will write a letter like this some time later

i loved it, you really make this boring a world a better place to live in by your posts, a suprise is on your way, but you gotta wait for it some time, until then


take care and keep writing.......

ZB said...

OMG, thats you? but you look like how your mom should be. I mean, yu know, moms are generally pretty, when they have babies their prettiness gets diluted and the babies generally endup being less prettier than they are supposed to be. i dont know how i got this theory but thats what i generally believed in. i really can't say whether these are youthful theories or whether they shall stand the test of time but you have shattered my whole philosophical outlook.

Now i have to postulate a new theory, and how it sucks.Humm.Sorry, i have gone MAD.I was just trying to coverup my embarrassment.hehehe :)))

ZB said...

and, yesterday i was watching the movie *Wolf creek*, an Australian horror movie. man, i thought i would have my balls popup through my mouth. Shit scary. Australia can be a dangerous place, take care of yourslef.

You Buddhist? Buddhism fascinates me. Philosophies like Four Noble Truths, Noble Eightfold Path,
Three marks of existence,Dependent origination etc have inspired me. You Srilankan? I have a Srilankan Friend Lakmal, based on whom i have written a fictional story. **my fugitive frind**, in reality he is anything but fugitive, he is one of my closest frinds. Nice man.TC :))

Swetha Padakandla said...

awww!! keshi, another letter which you posted now.. seriously was so touchy!!

i started missing my mom so much now!!
i just feel like book the tickets, go home and meet my parents! i guess its time to do!
u have written that letter so well!

perfect idea, keshi! we all should write a letter like this. Atleast if parents don't read it, friends will pass the letter to them!

i'm all the way emotional now!
huuggzzzzz to u and wishes to ur mom!

♪♪HARINI♪♪ said...

awwwwww thank you so much keshi!!!!!!!!

youre so sweeeeeeeeet!!!!!!!

mwwwwah!

thank you! :)

preeti said...

keshi dear, love you and your writings ever.. you made my nose pink now :(:( superb post..

Rhapsody B. said...

Blessings.....

Just read your letter, its powerful. I understand why you did it and its a courageous thing to do as many of us don't want to think of or consider the possibilities even though we know better.

Thanks for sharing and enjoy the rest of your week.

Lena said...

you know i would not write such a letter, those who know me and love me and care about me know anyways what i would tell them, i am doing my best to live my life by making them all feel how important and special they are in my life. A final letter wont be enough to express my love and gratitude, but love and care while i am still alive, will be :)

Margie said...

Keshi, my dear, loving beautiful friend ~
I got up early this morning (about 5:00 am and after letting Jake out went to your blog to leave another comment on this post and then I see you new post up..."Smiles in Heaven"
Well, I was sobbing so much, I just could not finish reading it and went back to bed and my hubby asked why I was crying and I told him bacause I'm so happy to know one of the most beautiful souls in the world!
He then said, "You should be smiling, if that is the case."
So, I just lay there & smiled!

Oh, my dear, your letter to your mum was so truly beautiful & touched my heart in a way I just cannot express!
Every part of your letter!
And when you wrote, "The bracelet that Margie sent me all the way from America, please keep it safe with you forever. Cos in it lives a love of friendship I've never known before. You will always see us in it mum." My heart was so full of love & joy when I read that.
We have been blessed to have formed such an amazing & beautiful frienship & every day I thank God for knowing you!

Oh, I'm crying again, so I just cannot finish this.
BBL.

Love ya, my dear friend!

Margie

Keshi said...

hey ty Thousif! :)

Im glad it made u FEEL.

Keshi.

Keshi said...

HAHA Zillion no excuses will do now!

Keshi.

Keshi said...

Swetha ring ur mum now :)

*HUGZ* n tnxx!

Keshi.

Keshi said...

Yes Zillion my dad is Sinhalese, so Im a Buddhist...grew up with Buddhism..and I like the principles of Buddhism.

since mum is a Hindu, I do go to the Hindu temple too :)


Keshi.

Keshi said...

Abt Aus...yes its a dangerous place when it comes to Wildlife!

Keshi.

Keshi said...

*HUGZ* Harini :)

Keshi.

Keshi said...

*HUGZ* Preetz awww..

u know alot of my regular readers avoided commenting in this post. I guess they see Death as something so unnatural and fearful. :) But Im glad u took it on board and u'stood where I was coming from...and did a post on it too. That just goes to show how mature u r abt life.

TY!

Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Rhapsody!


**its a courageous thing to do as many of us don't want to think of or consider the possibilities even though we know better.


spot on! I could see that easily from the less number of ppl who commented in this post. Most of my regular readers vanished all of a sudden :) some refused to say anything abt it and so cleverly avoided my Letter in their comments. Its ok..to each his own and i respect that. but I cant u'stand why ppl treat DEATH as something that will never happen to them!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

agree totally Lena but sometimes WORDS convey what ACTIONS cant.

And ppl do need to HEAR what u FEEL every now n then, especially ur loved ones. Imagine a life with NO WORDS? I speak to my mum alot and I do show her my love thru my actions too. But u cant just hv actions alone w.o. words...can u?

I blv there's always something to SAY before I go. we say GOODBYE b4 we go somewhere dun we...imagine we dun say anything n just leave?


if words didnt mean anything then I wonder why we BLOG :)


Sometimes actions arent just enough...thats why God gave us the ability to SPEAK.


Keshi.

Keshi said...

Margie I knew it that u wud love this one and that it will make u cry, cos u r someone who lives one day at a time...and u realise the importance in telling ppl u love that u love them. *HUGZ*

Sorry to hv made u cry tho :(


**He then said, "You should be smiling, if that is the case."
So, I just lay there & smiled!

HAHA so cute!

btw that sweet call this morning made my day! ty so much. I was washing my face with soap all over, when my sis gave me the phone...I looked like a ghost when I said HI to ya LOL!

Im blessed to hv friends like u who call me up just to say how much they love n appreciate me being in their lives. On my way to work I was thinking of that and had a big wide smile on my face. yes Im blessed!

*HUGZ*

Keshi.

Margie said...

Keshi
Yes, I knew that you knew I wud love this post!
It made me cry but they were good tears so u don't have to say u r sorry.
My hubby was just a little confused tho...LOL!

It was so wonderful to talk to you today...I was afraid I might be calling too early.
But, I wanted to get u before u went to work.
Gosh, and it was such a lovely talk we had...I loved it!
I know you don't really like to talk on the phone that much but we talked for almost 1/2 hour...
Me, I can talk for hrs on the phone...once I talked to my sister for over 3 hrs...LOl!
Made my day!
I caught you when you had a soapy face...Lol!


I'm so blessed to have such a dear, caring friend like you!
It's like we hve known one another for many lifetimes!
U R so AWESOME!

*HUGZ*

Margie:)

AmitL said...

Hi,Keshi-just read the letter..very frank,very clear,as always..'famous last words' as they say-tributes,gratitude,love-all visible in the letter!Good going!!Ah yes,of course,there's surely 6-7 decades to go before the letter'd become reality,I'm sure!hehe!:)

Tarun said...

LOL

why should I lie about either you or the wine?

Jimmy said...

Some guys live to live
and some guys live to die for a cause


today the SYED couple were given the death sentence

what interested me in this post was

a Muslim from Mumbai was brainwashed in Pakistan to avenge for the Gujarati Muslims who were killed in large numbers, orchestrated by Mody


the Muslims go by EYE for an EYE as do the JEWS


but Jesus and MK Gandhi rightly said eye for an eye will make the whole World go blind


and its happening

Keshi said...

aww Margie tnxx again :)

**I know you don't really like to talk on the phone that much but we talked for almost 1/2 hour...

LOL noooo wit ya I can talk for hours! I meant the ones who r annoying...I cant talk to em for too long hahahaha!

btw I hid that letter now that ppl who really care hv read n commented abt it :) tnxx guys! I dun think it matters for the rest.



Keshi.

Keshi said...

Amit 6-7 decades? u think Im just 15? HAHA!

hey tnxx btw :)

Keshi.

Keshi said...

Tarun I dunno..some ppl seem to lie alot here :) but I know ur not like that hehe..

tnxx!

Keshi.

Margie said...

Oh, ok...then next time we can just
blabber on & on!

Going to bed now!

Have a super weekend & tell ur sweet mum I said "hi"

*HUGZ*

Margie

!Teq-uila Del Zapata said...

that post is removed and i couldn't even read it?

Vrij said...

Hey.. its been a very long time since I commented on ur blog, been visiting on n off, but dint get the time to comment... and now wat do I read? U plan to take a break... hmm.. ok, but a few days only. Get back soon.

I'm not sure if MJ's folks are hanging onto his body outa love or something like that... i think they'r just waiting for the investigations to complete and then for his bucks to be distributed!

And reg what to do with my body.. well, if its in one piece (i see so much of air crash investgations that maybe I'll in one), then I'd have it donated it to an institution.. I know how we as students had to struggle becoz of a dearth of cadavers to dissect!

Akshat said...

Hey K!!

Why the hell are you taking a break!! :( :( :(

Fine have your alone time.....and deal with your demons (YOU have any???)

But come back soon......waiting.....still waiting.........still waiting......still waiting...now come back naa!!!!

Take Care
Miss you already!!

Quest said...

I have been on a long break.... :)

Will see who comes back first ;)

krystyna said...

I still don't understand why this world is created in this way that we born, than we must to die.

Very shortly about my letter.
My wish would be: Do not build me a tomb, (in my country, people build a beautiful, large tombs, and spend a lot of money to take care about the deceased), leave my body alone, and take good, lovely care about people who are living.

As always very thoughtful post.

krystyna said...

Enjoy your break, Keshi
and come back soon.

Love & hugsss

Chriz said...

some people was soothening.. and u off again?

may all rest in peace

preeti said...

take your time sweets.. but do come back soon.. coz I know keshi breathes music and blogging :):)
hugs and take care..

Margie said...

Don't stay away too long, hun!
Just read your email and I understand completely why you need the break!

I'll be waiting for you!

Love ya!

Margie:)

Has to be me said...

Keshi,
Just come back....I just started today. I admire ur strength to be a strong blogger all long....so c ya soon! hugz

ZB said...

me too is on a break though indefinite. Blogging was taking away so much of my time. I was getting obsessed with comments, blogs, and other bloggers.

I guess i too need some time to be with me. To reflect, muse, and to be on a date with myself.

TC, hope to see you soon. :))

anits said...

better do good while v are alive...

Margie said...

Hope You are having a great Sat afternoon, Keshi.
My Fri nite is quiet & relaxing...just doing some reading...lots of reading to catch up on as I have 20 library books I took out today...LOL...I am a real book lover!

TC, hun and enjoy the weekend!

*HUGZ*

Margie:)

Margie said...

A friend is
one who knocks
before he enters
not after he leaves ~

Just wanted to share that with you, Keshi as I knew you would be able to appreciate it!
(Oh, so well!!!)

Bed time here!
Nite, nite!

Love
Margie

La vida Loca said...

havent had the time to comment :(
buut as usual lovely posts!
take care of yourself

hugz n u rock too

Cabin-boy Dave said...

Umm, lessee... my letter:

Dear person-who-finds-the-body,

I want my death avenged. Spare no effort to find those responsible. I'll give you a clue - they're probably wearing suits and watching you from behind at this very moment. Good luck, amigo.

On the other hand, if I died of natural causes, then GET YOUR HANDS OFF MY UNSPEAKABLES, YOU FILTHY GRAVE-DIGGER!

Yours unto eternity
Dave

Will "take no prisoners" Hart said...

I'm a firm believer in cremation. But if they do bury Mr. Jackson's body, I think that they should bury it at the Neverland Ranch (like Elvis was at Graceland). It's the only place that I can think of that it would be safe. The one "positive" thing for Michael Jackson, now that he's dead, he wont have to deal with all of those hangers-on and miscreants anymore. That's the problem with being rich and famous. You never know who your real friends are.

TinTin said...

poor blog will miss ya!

TinTin said...

poor blog will mis ya!

tintin1.wordpress.com

comfortably numb said...

take care Keshi...will miss ya n ur writes and u knw tht.
be safe n cum back soon...will wait for ya!!!

Thousif Raza M.B said...

i am missing you already yaar, hope to see ya soon, fight back your demons if you cant say it with me we will both fight back it, after all what are frenz for rgt?, get well soon ok


take care and keep writing.......

Margie said...

Written for my dear friend, Keshi

We appreciate a friend
when we give her
more than
the usual routine treatment ...

If she is special
we show it
by the manner in which
we treat her ...

Even in the intimacies
that develop
in a friendshiip
we will always
be sensitive to her feelings
we will avoid anything
that can be construed
as a lack of
respect and appreciation ...

When disagreements arise
as they will
friends can disagree
without resorting
to hurt and harm
without sacrificing
mutual esteem and
appreciation ...

If diaagreements
get out of hand
a real friend
will make the first move
toward reconciliation ...

When the occasion arises
a friend will be there
to extend compliments and
congratulations
to share our joy!
She will take sincere delight
in acknowledging
our accomplishments ...

The great and
wonderful things
we expect to gain
from a friendship
point up
the great and
wonderful things
we must bring to a friendship ...

Somehow friends always
continue to live with us
in us and
through us.

Love from your friend...

Margie

BSK said...

Your letter of death was funny.

Death is one thing in life that is inevitable. We have to deal with it.

♥ÐÅyÐяєÅмє®♥ said...

why everytime I come to ur blog u need a break :O

come back soon x-(

Jimmy said...

Keshieeeeeeeeeeeeeeee
u will never guess who I found



do drop in and give him a sweet smile
he still pines for u


go here http://kissesnroses.com/

Jeevan said...

I would say, pleas keep away the worthless rituals from me and don’t keep my body for long time and I just don’t wish my memories with you to be occupied with the moments along with my dead body. My body should be respect and the way I wised it should be donated to a medical examine of Muscular dystrophy or any study related to the disease.

Have fun and take care keshi! Be back soon and don’t take much time :)

hugs

Margie said...

You are so missed, Keshi!
But I'm so glad we are keeping in touch and you know we always will!

"Life is the first gift, love is the second and understanding the third. "
-Marge Piercy.

Always here to support & understand you, my dear friend!

Luv ya!

Margie:)

ani_aset said...

keshi its so not a good day to read about death :(
God bless you

Jimmy said...

Do what?
Ask Keshi to marry me?

TELL HER I LOVE HER if only she truly believes in Love.
And love is made perfect in forgiveness.

Cheers and God bless.

Jimmy said...

u r going nowhere Keshi girl
u and I are doomed to be on the net till kingdom come


or Ori comes for u
and Lyn for me



Lyn is my latest find

La vida Loca said...

Bye Keshi.... your lastest post is on reader not on the blog.....

Again take care of yourself and that beautiful heart of yours. Muwahs and hugz

Orikinla Osinachi. said...

I have come with open arms and an open heart in the spirit of truth to wish you well so that your karma will shine brighter so that anyone who sees you can tell that you are an awesome soul.

Life does not worth much without love.

Cheers and God bless you always Keshi.

10:17 AM

Satanic Angel said...

came in the morning read ur post, dint know how to react, so came back now to comment n the post's gone :-S
I've been comin off n on to ur blog, as u know not only do i like wat u write, i think u r a wonderful person, someone wit a heart of gold :) if leaving this space makes ya happy go for it :) my besties wit ya :) hope tat yu miss blogville enuff to come back and start writing again :)

Margie said...

Friday there! Yay!
Have a great day & super weekend!
Are the bosses still away & are u still rockin'?

*HUGZ*

Margie:)

KK said...

A very insightful post...

Everything that involves 2 people will have 2 versions of stories always be what may... be it sad one or happy one...

Well I don't believe in writing a letter before dying... the memories of me with people will be my message to them... If they cherish their time with me, that's good for me. To me no of smiles I put on face is worth more than the money I leave behind.

I am sad that you are not going to be around in blogsville... but hoping you will spring back in action soon...

Annapoorani said...

Keshi,

Awwww superb writing..I am bit late to your space...Never mind will follow your blog henceforth...keep them comin girlie...

Rookie said...

If you have read the book "Tuesdays with Morrie- Mitch Albon" or seen the movie by the same name, then u might get a novel idea of a live funeral. You atleast get to know many things you would never know once you are dead.
I wish for the same.
Nd for the body- either medical research or Cremated nd ashes spread in space. :)

Jimmy said...

I tot u had married
and he told u to stop blogging


and Margie cried
and the father of your jungle kids
and


me too

Pri said...

its been suchaaaa long time..why arn't u coming back? :(