Thursday, August 17

Miss.Mess

Can't say I have ever been 90% sane (I believe all of us are 10% insane by default and yes it can be more). My mind meter ticks at a speed of about 100km per second. Am I even making sense? Never mind, cos I'm not programmed to. I'm just me. Some people 'work' hard on being perfect...you know, by 25 to be married and settled, by 35 to be successful in career, by 45 to own a fancy house and 2/3 kids, by 55 to be a proud parent with kids doing well in uni/work, by 65 to be super secure health-wise, by 75 to play with grand-kids and by 85 to die wih a peaceful smile on his/her face. That's ok. Cos in life one has to have plans/goals or else it will be aimless. But how many of us get it all? And how many of us get disappointed when we don't get some of them? Alot of us do. But should we be disappointed? Initially yes, but if you just go with the flow and not worry too much about what you don't have and concentrate on what you already have, I'd say you'd be much less disappointed in the first place. I see people around me always planning...they say 'I want to be married in 2yrs time', 'I want to own a house by next year or Im a loser', 'I want to be successful like my colleague cos I don't think I'm doing good in my career', 'I want to have kids cos what's life without having my own kids', 'I need a gf/bf or people will think I'm a failure', 'I want to be rich by 35 so I have peace of mind', 'I don't think I fit in cos all the others in my age group are very fashion-conscious and look way better than me' ....etc etc. And some people tell me 'Keshi you're incomplete without a man', 'Keshi you need to be more responsible and buy a house on your own', 'Keshi you need to change jobs cos you should get a higher pay', 'Keshi you need to stop wasting money on clothes/accessories cos you've got to save now', 'Keshi you act like a child', 'Keshi don't waste time caring about people who don't care about you', 'Keshi do you even have an aim in life?' etc etc. These are actual things that people tell me daily.

Why do people always want to be someone else? Or want you to be someone else? I don't get it. While I understand that you need to have dreams, goals and plans to a certain extent, I don't think our lives should revolve around those plans. Karen doesn't have kids but she doesn't have to feel incomplete cos there are other kids right? You may be unmarried at 45 so what, you're still alive and kicking arent you? James wants to buy a house just cos others of his age group are doing it, but why? Susan is worried that her kids are not doing well like other kids, so what she still has kids doesn't she? Jason is terribly ill at 30 cos he didn't eat well or exercise, so what he's still coping isnt he? Mike died in a car accident and thats not the way he wanted to die, but do we have a choice? Claire looks old-fashioned so what she's still nice isnt she? I'm a child at heart and I'm loving it ok? I'm happy with where I work cos the people are lovely, I don't much care about a fat pay, you've got a problem with that? I don't want to buy a house right now cos I don't have the desire for it, neither am I unhappy about not owning a house like my peers do, so how does it trouble you? I'm a mess in your eyes, but I'm loving that Miss.Mess - cos that's just me, a true portrait of who I am, done by me, without anyone else touching up on the paint.

What matters in the end is if you really need the needs that you feel you need, whether you're ready for them and that if you're happy doing what you're doing. Don't do anything for the sake of it or cos everyone else is doing it or cos someone else wants you to do it or cos you feel you're not in touch with the trend. Instead, you be your own trend-setter and skate around joyously in life. Just be yourself, have some goals, if you reach them its great, if not it's still OK. It's OK to be YOU.

Today's music is one of my old favs...I just chose it cos I remembered this song as I wrote this post...cos when I lost my dad long long time ago, I thought I'd never be able to live without him. While I miss him terribly, I'm still alive right? We can get through anything in life if we have the love and I know I still have my dad's love here with me - look at the friends I have made here wow...blowing Kisses to all of you from here MWAHHH! And Dad I miss you so much, hope you're having alot of fun up there - save me a seat ok! Have a good weekend guys!

Current Music: I Don't Wanna Live Without Your Love by Chicago

109 Cranium Signets:

southpaw said...

Alrighty then...no more gyan from this very moment!!!

Keshi said...

aww Southy u know I didnt mean it in that way :)

Hows u today?

Keshi.

southpaw said...

I m doing okay, not bad...how abt u?

Keshi said...

I think memories of my dad is making me a bit teary today...but Im ok otherwise. thanks to u guys!


Keshi.

ishita said...

oh thank GOD! no comments posted yet...! or else this page wld take forever to load...i tried to leave a comment several times yesterday but i cldn't! that's coz my net connexions been simply awful and i was here using my fone line which is just as bad....*sigh*

now since i have this open! m gonna comment on alllllll the posts together! is that ok? :) !!

Firstly this post (Miss.Mess!)...i once had a poster sayin "this is my mess and i luv it:)!!"...the post reminded me of it so much! See, Kesh the whole world's about telling u how to lead a better life and blah, blah, blah...some mean well and some just want to prove that nuthin u do is worth anything...and like i've told u (a whole lot of times now!) in the past, so long as u feel u're right and u're not unhappy with urself...it doesn't matter what ppl say...u can choose to see it positively or negatively...and that's what wld make a difference...the way u choose to view opinions!

And m glad to see that in this post, u seem to have just accepted that and what's more u're doing a good job of telling it like it is:)...now hopefully others will learn from u:)...be happy with what u have...that's the essence...make the most of it!:) Another fav quote i read as a child "i felt bad coz i had no shoes till i met a man who had no feet!"...

now the past posts (yes i have ur blog open on another screen!!)..."killers paradise" had me feeling sick and hurt...how do ppl grow up with such sick minds...i simply cannot fathom that! But I do believe that when ppl take a strong stand, it helps...maybe not right away...maybe not in a very huge way...but lil efforts count as in the "priyadarshini/jessica/nitish" cases....so will the voices of ppl in guatemela city make a difference...in time...atleast, thats my sincere hope...

Now about Keshi aunty's day out with her nephew and niece:)...lovely pics kesh...and the kids are very sweet indeed...they have the most innocent and lovable smiles:)...one luk had me grinning here:)...and of course u do look super smashing in the pink tee:)...suits u like hell! *bet ur mail box wz flooded wid mails!*

my fav time of the day kesh is now...when m alone at home and doing things for myself:) and not having to put others first (i don mind that haan but u know what i mean right?)....plus being here blogging...or listening to music i like...reading....making calls...or just being alone:)...it's my time na:)...i love it!!

phew:)...superrrr longgg comment..! But i didn't even realize it :)...i missedddd being here...so much!

U tk care kesh...and bet this wkend will be gr8 fun and u willl enjoyyyy!...keep smiling....hugsss:)...!!

starry nights said...

Keshi you are so right. You dont have to do something just because someone says you should. I think it is nice to have goals but you cannot live like that because life would be too stressful. Because then if you are not married at 25 you are going to stress out. so what if you get married later. I think you should do what you think is good for you and not to please others. I think you are a child at heart but at the same time very mature and knows what she wants. Kudos to you. I am always erminded of parents who want their children to be able to read at 3yrs old. what is going to happen if she reads at four. the whole world is not going to come crashing down. I always think of my parents also and hope they are having a fun time up there.take care, I think you are an awesome person.

White Magpie said...

The lipstick marks stuck :p People want to be someone else because of the ego..round and round and round it goes, where it stops nobody knows..But u know, being someone else is easy. Its tough being yourself and accepting it too..

southpaw said...

Now if i say something it will add up one more sentence in the section of Why do people always want to be someone else? Or want you to be someone else?

samuru999 said...

Beautiful song Keshi!
Missing your dad... me too!
Mine died a long time ago though!

I am quite happy just being me..
cannot imagine wanting to be anyone
else!
My life is a blast!
Yours is too sweets!
You have it all together!

Enjoy the weekend... and dance one more dance for me again! Ok!
Hugggggz!
-Margie

ektaran said...

life's like that....
we want...this n that...more n more...
not even realising n enjoying the goodies that we already have....
nice post Keshi :)

Within Without said...

Keshi, it's late, I don't have a lot of jam left tonight...but you know, of course, that people always want what they don't have.

It's human nature.

They want to be what they aren't, get what or who they don't have, think they could be happier than they are.

People most want what they've never had so they can feel what it's like to have it.

A child, a father, a sister, a brother, a Ferrari, a 3,000-square foot house, a loving boyfriend or girlfriend, a steak when they've got hamburger.

While it's sad in some ways not to be content with what we've got, we're not a complacent species.

We always think we can do better or have more than what we've got, and that blinds us from understanding what we already have.

uttara said...

keshi..

u take care...
hugggzzzz.. dont be upset ... u being so wont change things .. will it?? dont cry sweety.. ur dad will love u alwasyss... n bless ya too..
think of those who never had 1...
dont be upset got it???

and chuck what ppl say.. be what u r .. ur tooo spl to me ... n i love u the way u r babes
hugggggggggggz

uttara

Jewel Rays said...

hey keshi..

Good post!! something that has been on my mind just recently.

I'm a mess in your eyes, but I'm loving that Miss.Mess - cos that's just me, a true portrait of who I am, done by me, without anyone else touching up on the paint.

This is the right attitude girl!! u go girl! i mean thats what we need get our own mold and try to throw those who are trying to fit us into their mold or perspective of life. its scary how some of their words can sometimes influence us greatly only to find their words did not pay off ..that would suck. but i think if u are happy with ms mess. keep her. ;) and throw the cleaners out! lol..*hugs* that was a good one sweets. And also work if u are happy with the enviroment who cares abt the pay u just neva know the company themselves may increase u further..:)

people always wanna be someonbody else because of insecurity i feel..

Love this post girl and love ya decision at the end of the post. Superb!


:D *HUGS

anup.777 said...

man proposes ... God disposes ... we make our plans and work towards it ... towards destiny ...

okay okay I'm typing whatever popped in my head ... :)

I'll catch ya later, when i make some sense of what's happening wid me ... Bye 4 now ... :)

The Light-House. said...

I think it is the way the world works.
I know it sucks but there is little that anyone can do.

Mr. J said...

Ok, you were talking to me. Ugghhh, I guess i'm just too caught up with making a life that I don't have a life at all. 8-|

TLW said...

Welcome to da club buddy...

Ah oh...i didnt realise u were all along there ;-)

Die Muräne said...

Good questions Keshi

For a long time in my life I felt kind of guilty when people and friends talked about their targets and how hard they try to reach them... and I had none. I mean no long term targets. I always worked very hard for education, job and sports. But when I finished it succesfully... it lost its worth and I need something new. Strange.
Today I can accept that I'm a drifter. Nothing wrong with that.
I don't live my life, my life lives me. And this feels very good ;)

TLW said...

http://www.metrolyrics.com/lyrics/228303755/Rihanna/Unfaithful

This was the one that was up on my blog....

Parag said...

Unless you have a goal.. Life is not enjoyable.. The goal can be very basic like I want to earn US 1 mn or I want to marry Keshi !!
But one needs a goal..
Life is colourful because its diverse.. If we all has a straight life ..like ..
"by 25 to be married and settled, by 35 to be successful in career, by 45 to own a fancy house and 2/3 kids, by 55 to be a proud parent with kids doing well in uni/work, by 65 to be super secure health-wise, by 75 to play with grand-kids and by 85 to die wih a peaceful smile on his/her face. "

..then it would be so boring

All I would say is live life.. do not let life happen to you ..

twistedtruth said...

The first part of this post is probably your only sensible post so far. But 213 kids by 55, is still expecting too much from Saby. He would need a crutch.













Ya, ya, I know. Its 2 / 3. Dumbo.

Oops. Just read that you were re-collecting your Dad. Hope my kidding does not get mixed up with your real feelings :) I was remembering my Mom a few days back, and unfortunately did jot down my thoughts. Have posted them, taking encouragement from your comment.

deepsat said...

i agree with your thoughts keshi!! and i believe in living life not by others rules!! it spoils the fun yaar!!!

so on that thought and words of wisdom.. u too have a great weekend!!!

take care

;-))

indianangel said...

Good Post! But all those stories of an xyz being this or some MrX or MsY being this is only just becoz we look to people and be inspired by their successes. If someone were to tell me all the great things and achievements of Indian president APJ Kalam, I'm motiavated too - for after all human life is very short and u should always be happy and optimisitic - shouldn we? I may have to disagree with your post on a few areas - there is nothing called individuality or intelligence - thats the way people are shaped constantly and consistenly by things and people around them! If you decided you wanted to have a bf or wanted to pursue an MS thats not intelligence, cos that knowledge was inherited by you looking at the society around. There are very few people who are intelligent - those who think on their own like a Newton who propagated that apple is falling down to earth coz of something called gravity! Trying hard to be on your own, and proving yourself as a distinct individual is not going to take you anywhere - just enjoy this life and relaaaaaaaax! :) Anyway those were your thoughts and u put them in a nice way and these are mine! No offense meant:)

Alapana said...

Be what you are,because you are answerable to yourself and no one else.Infact just yesterday i was saying that "God is your own heart,you need to be true to your heart and no one else.
Yes,you are not programmed,we are all not the way a machine works,People do keep giving advices,previously i used to react,Now i keep quite,at the most give them a smile and get on with what i wanted.Why should i worry what ppl have to say abt my way of life,afterall its mine,i own it,if i mess it up then its my job to clean it up too,isnt it Keshi:)
I remember my dad too,somehow memories never leave us,but thats how life is.takecare girl,god bless.

Orikinla Osinachi. said...

My Sweet Keshi is Miss. Mess?
No more, no less.
No stress.
I still love her nonetheless.
God bless.

Keshi,
I would have been already able to marry at even 21 if I wanted to, because I was already a well paid professional script-writer for the Nigerian Television Authority (NTA) the largest TV Network in Africa from age 18 and also a commissioned public health illustrator for the Johns Hopkins University's Population Communication Services (JHU/PCS) at 21, a chauffeur-driven editor at 24 and a Unicef consultant at 25 with an American girlfriend who was always cheesy and I did not like that. And I planned to retire at 45 and I can still do so. But, the plight of the poor majority changed my mind and my life and I left all the good life to become a missionary for over 12 years and just returned back to normal life again only recently. And all my peers who have the normal good life as you detailed in your post are okay. But I am not impressed, because they have only used their good positions and fat bank accounts for their own selfish comfort while millions of our people are still suffering and dying in abject poverty at the mercy of the greedy and wicked kleptocrats in power who are now assassinating themselves and I am now an activist.

An smart alec or cheating dummy can work in a classy office, earn a fat salary, live in a mansion and have a wife and some kids and die happily in old age. But what has he contributed to the rest of his community and society?

I am terribly depressed and an unhappy person when I go out of the comfort zone of our estate and see the wretched of the earth, I wish to just die or start a revolution for their liberation.

Our self gratification ends in the grave.

What matters most is the legacy of grace we leave for the benefit of our community and the rest of humanity.

God bless.

karmic_jay said...

Go with the flow.. is the way to go as you said.

Heh I don't fit in to a lot of the stereotypes you may have about people.
I am rather happy that I can't be slotted in to some category.
But if you want to see some flaws.. try this link you may like it. Everyone needs their space..

Yashita said...

thumbs up!!! I really like this about u Keshi and I really appreciate you for it...I know how tough it is to be what we are irrespective of what others want us to be...I am really proud of u...mwaahh and hugs:) have a great weekend Keshi:)

mathew said...

hi Keshi..should say the best post u have written in recent times..
Loved the honesty in the post..Its so uncomfortable thinking such thoughts and usually we skip any such thoughts that come our way..
SO u are still a kid eh..Thats something u are supposed to be proud of!!

Meg said...

Gosh Keshi Girl, you are priceless. Your wisdom at such a young age is awe-inspiring. What you have said is so basically true - its a very simple theory and yet one that is sometimes hard to live by. I wholeheartedly agree with you...be grateful for what you have, live your life according to your plan (not others), enjoy and appreciate the simple abundances in your life, and be in the moment - the here and now and not always looking towards the day when this or that will happen.

Have no doubt daddy is saving a place for you...but he's saying "go little one...live your life that you so richly desire and deserve - I'll be here waiting".

have a super weekend girl!!

Strictly for my friends said...

Hey...if that's the case, I have always been an under achiever!!! :(

But then who the hell cares!! ;)

KL said...

Hehehe!!! I know what you mean and quite agree with you - I don't believe in those stupid concepts of you need to have this and that to make your life fulfill and don't understand also why people are so obsessed with it.

I lead my own life in my own way.

Nelly said...

I agree with the fact that wanting to be someone else is not a good thing, but at the same time looking at what others have and wanting that yourself I dont think is a bad thing. Personally, I think it may make you work that much harder to get it. I beleive you have to have some dreams and goals to try an achieve the better things in life. Unless you win the lotto or have well off parents things will not fall in your lap for the most part.
In someone like my case, I grew up in a family that had not much money. I got to see all the kids around me have nice things and go on vacations etc. I always vowed that one way or another I would make myself have a decent life for myself and my kids. I have done that for the most, I now own a couple different houses, good job, a few toys etc. So I believe dreams and seeing what others have around you is a good thing. If anyhting it should motivate you.
Have a good weekend....

Oh, and how about a little Shinedown, or Seether for the music of the day???? ;)

La vida Loca said...

Doing something coz everyboy is doing it??It is the biggest insult to being free/free will EVER!!
Incomplete without a man?Do you get that?? ^shakin my head and bearing my fangs^

La vida Loca said...

Forgot to add...this is not Miss.Mess..it actually called being your own person/following your heart

Has to be me said...

Hi Kesh!

Its ur life & u ought to live it the way u want it & dont just be bothered abt others or try pleasing them. cos u cantplesee the whole world anywayz! U r a happy go lucky gal & just let it be that way & live urlife enjoying it every minute! sad 2 note abt ur dad but im sure he wld be happy to see u the way u r!

Enjoy n live it up! :)

Nikita said...

Keshi,

People – they come in different sizes, shapes, colors, temperaments, attitudes, in myriad colors of character and eccentricity, and personal histories. They touch our lives in many different ways when they cross paths with us. Each come to interplay with various experiences which lead to a colorful display of emotions, wit, brilliance, expression, opinion, insight, belief, perception -- and on the opposite end bias, prejudice preconception, presumption, and more, These make up the whole person with whom we interconnect with day by day.

Be what you are - A true, honest, and well-meaning person, who makes no attempt at pretenses or hypocrisy or pseudo attempts at intellectual feats - something which the mind is prone to do at times. Do not worry abt the people who try to fit you into their scheme of things - they are not worth the effort, anyways.

Keep smiling. 'Cause tht's the way we like you.

Sudeep said...

I m 100% sane... why do u want me to be 10% insane by default? See u r now making me be like u.. insane :P
lollzz..

no matter how hard we try to be ourself the whole world will try to change u frm its own perspective.. n we neither can make everyone happy.. so a compromise is wht we need
n plans shld be made.. but sticking to it shld be left to destiny

have a nice weekend.. :)

s0ulasylum said...

OMG.. girl!! i know exactly wht u mean!!!! im branded too.. always tht too ! urrgghh.. well yeah im super super dooper impulsive.. n indecisive.. n clumsy n brash n a non conformist.. and i make terrible mistakes.. but im learning right? gimme that space will ya?
all the wannabe moms n dads to peeps like us out there.. loosen up pls?
u have a fab weekend too.. me doing tonssss of fun things.. will update on monday! ;-)

desperado said...

i dont know...sometimes i have this urge to be someone esle...to relive my life or say go back on my decisions..but then you have to move on...though i know its hard..

listening to this song by Opeth....called Death Whispered A Lullaby.....nice lyrics as always...i am enjoying it ..u too try it out...

Out on the road there are fireflies circling
Deep in the woods, where the lost souls hide
Over the hill there are men returning
Trying to find some peace of mind

Sleep my child

Under the fog there are shadows moving
Don't be afraid, hold my hand
Into the dark there are eyelids closing
Buried alive in the shifting sands

Sleep my child

Speak to me now and the world will crumble
Open a door and the moon will fall
All of your life, all your memories
Go to your dreams, forget it all

Sleep my child

Perplexio said...

GREAT music video! If you look carefully at lead vocalist, Bill Champlin's mullet, I think you'll find a small family of squirrels. It's absolutely hilarious... Although Chicago's BEST music video was Stay the Night. Check that one out and watch it from start to finish.

Eclipsed Thoughts said...

Ahem... hello Ms Mess.
Well, a great relief for me to know that there are a few "miss mess" in this world, otherwise i would have felt very alone.
Keshi, i know what is it to hear that nonsense blabber from ppl ard you, things you dont want to do yet others expect you to do it... hmm... like for example, since the time i finished college, everyone is looking at me with those glares "when are you going to umreeca (America)"... *sigh* i dont want to go, but now i only smile... all those crap things....

hmmm... your post reminded me of my very first post in "eclipsed thoughts". http://eclipsedthoughts.blogspot.com/2006/05/my-life-has-been-collection-of-vague.html

But your life is always yours... you choose it and you take care of it... You know why god gave you two ears? Take the message from one, filter that message by your brain and then throw away the "noise". (i might sound a bit techie... hehe)
Enjoy ... and yeah your dad must be having a good time, proudly looking at his daughter who lives her live in her own trend".
Take care!

SCRIBBLEZ TO WAKEUP said...

Hey...U sure do see the glass half full and not half empty...U wont have much dissapointments if you dont have such desires and that leaves you more at peace. but I wont blame the people who plan out wht they want either as I fell its like they have gone to visit a place. lets say London...They want to plan and see all the tourist locations in London so tht they have seen and experienced wht others have. Either one of these types cribbing tht the one other type is a fool not to plan or to plan is wht gets to me. Go thru life at your pace and wht desire you have and no one should try and nag the other reards the same.

jac said...

I think that you need some soothing music.
Select one by the HISHAM when you are alone and 10 mts time.

Dads are always deary for daughters. I undersatand.

ANKIT said...

**....if you really need the needs that you feel you need,...***

hey keshi,,,you again have forced me to think...!

i guess most of the timess,,,,we end living our life as others want us to live,,,even though unknowingly...!

have to catch up with other post of yours....!

saw your pic....you are equally beautiful from outside as you are internally....!

keep that smile on....

ANKIT.

Shuba said...

Live your life as u wish!keep rocking!

Astral said...

Hi Keshi babe! Ur post made me cry.....esp the song. Not just dad but i miss sm1 else too... well said, never be sm1 else as we lose ourself smwhr thr.

~*~ Don't do anything for the sake of it or cos everyone else is doing it or cos someone else wants you to do it or cos you feel you're not in touch with the trend. Instead, you be your own trend-setter and skate around joyously in life~*~

Relate a lot to this esp the last line! You too have a gr8 wkend. Cheers.

Mr. Maverick said...

I am sure your dad is reading your blog from wherever he is, so dont ya write a depressing post about yourself and make him upset.

Life is beautiful.

Song for you "Smile" by Lilly Allen.

You will smile when you hear the lyrics :)

Arun

Mr. Maverick said...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D_jjuCfdksQ&search=lily%20allen

Mumbai Guy said...

When I was 21, I really thought I would get married by 25. Maybe 27 I thought. But once work and career comes in, all equations change. Dunno if it is good or bad thing.

But I strongly believe we all should have timeline. That is the motivation in life.

AnonymousBlogger said...

I think it's natural to "want more" or want the life of someone else.

Is it a bad thing? I guess if we get down on ourselves it is. But maybe it can be used as a good thing if one uses it as motivation to strive for more.

Being content with what you have is fine, but maybe it's also a burden. Maybe it is an excuse to stop trying and not try for more.

Does that makes sense?

shpprgrl said...

I always liked that one too. Just stopping by to say hi because I'm behind on my blogs too. It's a shame when work gets in the way!

sittingnut said...

!hey mate
hope you are having a great weekend !

good post

be yourself! not only is that ok, imo that is the only way to live.

if one wants to plan, plan , if one doesn't want to , don't
( in my case i have very vague long terms plans, and very slightly more clear short terms plans)

as for being successful in any plan all we can do is try . i get the most satisfaction in doing something than in reaching the end.

btw if you are a mess you are the greatest mess ever :-)

your dad will be very proud of you !

huugggggggz!
take care !

Ekta said...

Well said,
guess we all keep running after things we dont have...in an attempt to change ourselves or become something wer not!and in all this we forget to thank god for making us what we are and for appreciating the way we are....question is humna beings are built that way..can we really change who or what we are?

lil _kath said...

LIFE CHOICES....

Each day begins with simple choice,
Get up or stay in bed;
Shower, coffee, breakfast, smoke --
All choices from the head.

We make a choice to go to work,
To earn our daily bread;
We choose to do our very best,
Or just slide by instead.

Our sense of self comes into play
When we choose to wed;
We make a choice to follow our hearts,
Or follow what others have said.

And when we find our lives are wrong,
Each day is faced with dread;
We choose to stay or choose to go
Where angels fear to tread.

Our lives might end up nothing more
Than trying to get ahead;
Till sometime hence we realize
How fast the years have sped.



... ** not worry too much about what you don't have and concentrate on what you already have. **

... yeah, just take things one at a time Kesh and wait coz i know God has plan for u... just believe in Him!

... u take care always muaahh!
have a great weekend!

luv ya,
-kathy-

sophie said...

hugss baby....
have a nice weekend

SamY said...

there r two sides to this kitten ... what they say ain't wrong ... the point is that what u call perfect is what I call an ordinary smooth n secure life ... which is what most people advice on ... the fact is it ain't a bad thing if you buy it :)

as for all the pressure ... it was much simpler in earlier days kitten ... when marriage was a agreement (for convenience), a job meant security to life, a house means your asset when in trouble ... they are gud things

but to quantize it all with a certain age doesn't work for everyone ... esp these days ... as I mentioned b4 these r what society considers as a successful person ;)

its comfortable to take the beaten path n be one with the crowd ... but do realize that those suggestions aint all bad n can work in bits

brunch time :)

neihal said...

The title is good "Miss.Mess" LOL.
I agree with your post....I beieve we are really happy when we are at peace with ourselves....I get very uncomfortable with ppl who are constantly nagging and complaining abt life. You can complain as much as you want but that doesnt mean you'll get another chance at life.

Sudeep said...

n how come the kisses were colourful? lollzz..

KK said...

I agree completely to what you have posted...anything I say on this will be aecho of what you have said. I to believe firmly that I should live as per my wish and not be influenced by others...Great Post!!!

Jeevan said...

some disappontment's change our aim and goals. Like every human being i too have big big dream about my future, but the changes in my plysical condition divert it into another why, that what i am living now.

My heartfull wishes for your future aim's, Enjoy dear, you dad's is watching u and belssing her sweet child:)

saby said...

Some people 'work' hard on being perfect...you know, by 25 to be married and settled, by 35 to be successful in career, by 45 to own a fancy house and 2/3 kids, by 55 to be a proud parent with kids doing well in uni/work, by 65 to be super secure health-wise, by 75 to play with grand-kids and by 85 to die wih a peaceful smile on his/her face.
Some people 'work' hard on being perfect...you know, by 25 to be married and settled, by 35 to be successful in career, by 45 to own a fancy house and 2/3 kids, by 55 to be a proud parent with kids doing well in uni/work, by 65 to be super secure health-wise, by 75 to play with grand-kids and by 85 to die wih a peaceful smile on his/her face.
Some people 'work' hard on being perfect...you know, by 25 to be married and settled, by 35 to be successful in career, by 45 to own a fancy house and 2/3 kids, by 55 to be a proud parent with kids doing well in uni/work, by 65 to be super secure health-wise, by 75 to play with grand-kids and by 85 to die wih a peaceful smile on his/her face.

W T F !
Keshi has programmed my lifeSome people 'work' hard on being perfect...you know, by 25 to be married and settled, by 35 to be successful in career, by 45 to own a fancy house and 2/3 kids, by 55 to be a proud parent with kids doing well in uni/work, by 65 to be super secure health-wise, by 75 to play with grand-kids and by 85 to die wih a peaceful smile on his/her face.





W T F !
Keshi has programmed my life

saby said...

by 25 to be married and settled,
i failed here
i married at 30

by 35 to be successful in career,
at 35 i gott sacked from 2 jobs


by 45 to own a fancy house
nothing fancy just 1 BHK

and 2/3 kids,
just 2 kids

by 55 to be a proud parent with kids doing well in uni/work,
i scored here

by 65 to be super secure health-wise,
i dont have medical insurance

by 75 to play with grand-kids
dat depends on Tony and Tina

but i definitely wont change nappies again



and by 85 to die wih a peaceful smile on his/her face.

FUCK U Keshi
i am not going to die at 85
i will die when i cant stand

u no wat i mean?

saby said...

Marry in haste
(or for the rong reasons)
and repent at leisure

i wish my dad had told me dis
he married rongly

so did i

Dh@v@! said...

Well said Miss.Mess
But I find nothing wrong in that… may be because I m also a Mr.Mess
Even I don’t believe in such things, many a times ppl around you force you to think on that line…

White Forest said...

But how many of us get it all?

Hmm not all...that doestn mean one has to cry over to get everything!

"Don't do anything for the sake of it or cos everyone else is doing it or cos someone else wants you to do it or cos you feel you're not in touch with the trend"

beautiful line...thats how one shud be :)

niki yokota said...

keshi-chan, this is bon season.
ur dad is not up there. hes at home with u! ^^
i often feel sad for not having house like other frens...
thank u veery much for ur kind words!!!!

Cocaine Jesus said...

only 10%? i think i must be at least 50 - 50!!

Kumar Chetan said...

my one and only plan is to feature in forbes 500 list
thats all
that will get me
a) good gals sounds strange but its true
b) good house
c) all the bikes I like
d) a long vaccation
e) my own labs
and much much more
but even if i am not in forbes i am happy.
ch33r5

Within Without said...

Hi Kesh.

The main questions you're posing are all about identity, being yourself and what others say:

"Why do people always want to be someone else? Or want you to be someone else?"

Other people want you to be someone else either because they love you and feel they're close enough to you to point out changes they think you should make, even if they're wrong.

And if they ARE wrong, and you tell them so, if they really love you they should respect your right to tell them they're wrong.

Now, why do WE want to be someone else? People have hopes, dreams, aspirations, unhappiness.

If we didn't have those things, then we'd never change, we'd just be lumps of dirt.

We have to aspire to be more than what we are because otherwise, we don't grow.

I agree with you though that we at least have to have some level of contentedness and happiness with who we are, otherwise we get out of control trying to be what we're not.

It's all of course much more complicated than this, but I'm blathering on as it is...

dumbdodi said...

Darling Keshi, each word of you hit me. How true, I can't stand preachy people too but somehow these days I find myself in these races of reaching certain milestones set by 'people'
How well have you written about your dad. I am too moved to say much, lot of love to you.

brute said...

I too miss my DAD....i lost him 8 yrs ago :(

prithz said...

Hellloooo Keshi!!! How are u.. long time since i stopped by here... super post!!! Loved it... quite an eye opener for me at this point of time.. thnx keshi... take care.. tata... :)

Aditi said...

Ok, first of all dont ever change because you are pretty awesome the way u are.. even if others consider it a mess..
I think people spend their entire life looking for that illusive contentment. That feeling where they are satisfied with their lives instead of constantly being disgruntled. If you have found it at this young age, not to mention the balance between dreams and goals and not letting them rule you..
I say u're set
=)

Rex Venom said...

Perfection and the world’s interpretations of if rarely match up with our own feelings of what is needed and right. And that is as it should be. If we all just fit together, there would be nothing special about each of our journeys. And speaking of perfection, Ishita! Hubba Hubba!
Rock on!

Kautilya said...

feels like my alter ego....
b what u wanna b....
if gud things happen 2 u in the mean time.. y stop em....

u rock....

>|' ; '| said...

mess is good!

>|' ; '| said...

people want to be like others...

two days ago i was rifling thru a rack of t shirts at a shop when i saw one saying - discontent is the beginning of all progress.

but then..what exactly is progress... :D

Darius said...

I think that's true - that even if you don't reach your goals, if you've done your best and know it, there's a peace, an integrity, that comes from this. It must be disturbing to lack this, especially at the end of your life.

Ghost Particle said...

Hye,,,what the heck is GYAN!???

//Why do people always want to be someone else? Or want you to be someone else?//---> its has to do with self improvement...we need a reference...it dawned upon me that if you take a person and put em in a white empty room and ask them to 'go forth and multiply' or sumthing...they jst cant do it and will wither away. Coz we are humans who are incapable of 'creating' something rather than improving something. Simple as that. Creation vs evolution. And I do agree that expecting something/ psychologically forcing someone to be in a certain way and to fit a certain mould is DEAD wrong. That kills the natural substance and dreams.

Keshi said...

~~Ishita

mwahhhhhhh Sexy babez wow look at u! Guys r gonna drool here just on ur pic..;-)

**u can choose to see it positively or negatively.

U raised a very imp point there Ish...there's nothing negative and positive in this world - it's only an individual perception. What's negative to u may not be so for me and vice versa. Thanks for bringing this up and I hope ppl will read ur comment.


**i felt bad coz i had no shoes till i met a man who had no feet!"...

thats a very imp quote in my life too. I always try hard to look on the brighter side no matter what. We r always better off than so many others in this world!


**maybe not right away...maybe not in a very huge way...but lil efforts count

yes Ish...every little bit we do counts and by writing abt this in blogs helps ppl know abt it and spreads awareness. Atleast it'll help ppl be more cautious and more aware of what's happening ard em...u neva know how a simple blog post could affect someone's life - it could make a huge difference.


**bet ur mail box wz flooded wid mails!*

:):) Not really Ish..I think alot of guys r scared of me hahaha! Now how many emails did ya get after those super-sexy pics girl? R must be J lol!

**when m alone at home and doing things for myself

thats nice and I know exactly what u mean Ish. It doesnt mean others r a hassle for u but u relish the little private time u get...I feel the same when Im alone at home...it doesnt mean I hate it when mum n sis r ard. But when Im all alone doing my most fav things by myself (be it listening to music, blogging, lying on the couch and thinking etc), Im at peace and it's pure bliss.

Thanks so much for ur super-long comment - u know I love long comments, especially when it's full of wise thoughts from which I can learn. U always (and I mean it) enlighten me Ish. Im so glad I found ya...hugggggggggggz!


Keshi.

The Phosgene Kid said...

Yo gotta do what you gotta do. Hope you had a great weekend!!

Keshi said...

~~Starry_Nights

Starry heyy thanks so much for all the kind words. I really appreciate it.


**I am always erminded of parents who want their children to be able to read at 3yrs old. what is going to happen if she reads at four.

thats so true. I have a cousin who's 2yr old son didnt talk much..they were so afraid that he wont ever talk much. But now he's 3 and he started talking all of a sudden...now no one can even stop the lil chatter box hehehe.

I hope both ur parents r up there having a good time and who knows, they wud have met my dad too...awwwww HUGGGGGGGZ Starry Im here for ya ok!







~~White_Magpie

**The lipstick marks stuck :p

whoaaa did I 'mwah' u or something :)


**People want to be someone else because of the ego..

yes ur right...the EGO wears a big fat mask.


**But u know, being someone else is easy. Its tough being yourself and accepting it too..

thats a very interesting point. I think ur spot on!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

~~Southpaw

**Now if i say something it will add up one more sentence in the section of

aww I didnt say that...u never asked me to be someone else, did u? :)








~~Samuru999

Margie my one n only happy-go-lucky babez, hugggggggz!

**You have it all together!

yes...and it doesnt mean I have everything thats 'expected' from the society. I just have it all together for who I was supposed to be. And u too babez!

mwahhhhh to ur dad who must be chatting with my dad up there! :)








~~Ektaran

**not even realising n enjoying the goodies that we already have

thats what I want some ppl to realise...we have so much than alot of ppl out there. Enjoy those b4 life's over!

tnxxxx Ektaran!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

~~Within, Without

heyyy mate hope u had a good wknd.

**People most want what they've never had so they can feel what it's like to have it.

thats true. But when that's over with, there pops out another WANT. :)

yes it blinds us...but it's ok to feel that way cos like u said it's human nature'. But what we must realise it that we should not let it 'blind' us permanently.

tnxxxx!








~~Uttara

Uttsyyyyyyy mwahhhhhhh! I love u too...just the way u r - so dun ever change!

**think of those who never had 1

Im so sorry for em...I know wut u mean Uttsy HUGGGGGGGGZ! But to have a loving dad and to lose him half-way thru is unbearable pain - atleast for me. But im getting by with lovely friends like u.

Did u have a good weekend sweety?


Keshi.

Keshi said...

~~Jewel_Rays

Amy heyy hows it going?

**its scary how some of their words can sometimes influence us greatly only to find their words did not pay off ..

thats true..I have made mistakes like that b4...listened to others blindly and screwed up totally.


**and throw the cleaners out!

lolz true, HUGGGGGGGGGGZ Amy! :):)


**u just neva know the company themselves may increase u further..

they did recently :)


**people always wanna be someonbody else because of insecurity i feel..

Ur right..thats soooo true. They r not happy/secure within themselves so they wanna pretend to be someone else. I guess they have to learn to be bold and accept themselves as they r.

tnxx sweety!








~~Anup.777

Anup heyy hows u? Long time mate.

**man proposes ... God disposes

I SOOOO believe in that Anup. it's not only u, I know that it's the only truth. Thankss for that hugggggggggz and TC!







~~Tarun

heyy Tarun!

**I know it sucks but there is little that anyone can do.

yes but there's something we can do individually...be ourselves, accept ourselves and show ppl that we love ourselves the way we r :)



Keshi.

Keshi said...

~~ME

**I guess i'm just too caught up with making a life that I don't have a life at all

really? Why d u say that? U do have a life mate, cos u have a great job and u travel alot etc. Also Im sure ur close with ur family n friends. Just that u dun get much time to have fun cos of work/studies. Well u'll get some time to do that...everything has a time, cheer up n huggggggggggz!







~~TLW

:) I was...now Im not. Cos I dun listen to ppl anymore...I just do my thing.







~~Die_Murane

heyyya hows u?

**For a long time in my life I felt kind of guilty when people and friends talked about their targets and how hard they try to reach them... and I had none.

Same feelings mate!


**I always worked very hard for education, job and sports.

omg u sound so like me. I was always very good in school, uni, jobs, personal-development etc.


**But when I finished it succesfully... it lost its worth and I need something new. Strange.

This is SOOO true! I felt the same! I mean when I finished my Uni studies, suddenly I felt I need something new to make me contented. It's human nature...when one need is accomplished, there's another need popping out. It's a vicious cycle of needs.


**Today I can accept that I'm a drifter. Nothing wrong with that.
I don't live my life, my life lives me. And this feels very good ;)

WOW Murane u know what real contentment is and u know exactly what life is...Im so glad I have such a wise friend here. Im learning so much from u.

Hugggggggggggggz!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

~~Parag

heyy Parag hows u?

**Unless you have a goal.. Life is not enjoyable..

true, I agree. but that goal should not be the soul purpose of life and the only that makes life enjoyable.


**The goal can be very basic like I want to earn US 1 mn or I want to marry Keshi !!

HUH lol! So sweet :):)


**..then it would be so boring

yes.


**All I would say is live life.. do not let life happen to you ..

nice one...tnxxxxxxxxxx!








~~Twisted_Truth

heyy TT wuts with ur blog?

**He would need a crutch.

huh lol!


**Oops. Just read that you were re-collecting your Dad. Hope my kidding does not get mixed up with your real feelings :)

It did...wut u gonna do now? ;-)


**I was remembering my Mom a few days back, and unfortunately did jot down my thoughts. Have posted them, taking encouragement from your comment.

awwwwwwww....let me drop in ok? tnxxx n hugggggggz TT!








~~Deepsat

Deep heyyy!

**and i believe in living life not by others rules!! it spoils the fun yaar!!!

so true. What's the fun if u cant be urself.







~~IndianAngel

heyyy hows u? :)


**only just becoz we look to people and be inspired by their successes.

Thats true. But thats altogether a different thing..Im not really talking abt being inspired :). Im talking abt how some ppl wanna do/be what others r just cos they wanna blend in. U know wut I mean?
Being inspired is great...cos that takes u places in life.


**for after all human life is very short and u should always be happy and optimisitic - shouldn we?

I didnt say u shouldnt...:):) Being happy and optimisitic doesnt always have to be in someone else's footsteps, does it?


**there is nothing called individuality or intelligence -

I disagree on this..there's ALWAYS something called individuality or intelligence :) Just that alot of ppl dun tap in and find it...they'd rather follow someone else's individuality or intelligence cos its so much easier to copy.


**thats the way people are shaped constantly and consistenly by things and people around them!

true. But that doesnt make em lose their individuality or intelligence. It's still in tact and waiting to be found.


**If you decided you wanted to have a bf or wanted to pursue an MS thats not intelligence, cos that knowledge was inherited by you looking at the society around.

That depends on the individual. It's a very subjective decision.


**There are very few people who are intelligent - those who think on their own like a Newton

Not that there r very few such ppl...its that only few ppl recognise their individuality. U could even say only very few ppl have the 'skill' to recognise that.


**Trying hard to be on your own, and proving yourself as a distinct individual is not going to take you anywhere -

If u r urself, u never have to try hard to be urself :)


**just enjoy this life and relaaaaaaaax!

and does that mean copying someone else? :):) To me relaxing means being myself.


**Anyway those were your thoughts and u put them in a nice way and these are mine! No offense meant:)

no probs n tnxx! So lets just agree to disagree :)


Keshi.

Keshi said...

~~Alapana

heyy girl hows u?

**Be what you are,because you are answerable to yourself and no one else.

Spot on!


**"God is your own heart,you need to be true to your heart and no one else.

thats a real beautiful thing to say...


**People do keep giving advices,previously i used to react,Now i keep quite,at the most give them a smile and get on with what i wanted.

Alapana Im the same now. Earlier I used to listen to so many ppl...I was younger n naive...and now I know while I need to listen to my elders, I also have my inner voice telling me what may be the right thing to do...and I have to give that voice a chance too.


**Why should i worry what ppl have to say abt my way of life,afterall its mine,i own it,if i mess it up then its my job to clean it up too,isnt it Keshi:)

SPOT ON! And that way u wont have regrets either.


**I remember my dad too,somehow memories never leave us,but thats how life is.

awww HUGGGGGGGGGGGGGZ!








~~Orikinla Osinachi.

aww nice poem as usual :)

Interesting story u've got Ori. U do alot of charity and service to the less-fortunates. Thats a very noble act. Shows u r selfless in many ways and thats a rare.


**while millions of our people are still suffering and dying in abject poverty...

yes...thats sad. But alot of the big shots dun care abt em.


**But what has he contributed to the rest of his community and society?

So true!


**I am terribly depressed and an unhappy person when I go out of the comfort zone of our estate and see the wretched of the earth, I wish to just die or start a revolution for their liberation.

thats cos u have a good heart and u feel for the fellow men.


**Our self gratification ends in the grave.

SO TRUE.


**What matters most is the legacy of grace we leave for the benefit of our community and the rest of humanity.

Excellent thoughts! tnxxx so much Ori. I hope ppl read ur comment.

Keshi.

Keshi said...

~~Karmic_Jay

heyy Jay!

**Heh I don't fit in to a lot of the stereotypes you may have about people.

I so know that Jay hehehe. Ur a good man with a free spirit.


**But if you want to see some flaws.. try this link you may like it. Everyone needs their space..

Will check it out soon, tnxx mate!







~~Yashita

**it is to be what we are irrespective of what others want us to be...I am really proud of u...

true and I know ur a free spirit just like me...mwahhhhhhh Yash! :)







~~Mathew

Matty hows u? :)

tnxxx for ur kind words.

**SO u are still a kid eh..Thats something u are supposed to be proud of!!

hehe. Well Im a kid w.o. trying to be one. So yeah it's what im supposed to be. But na Im not childish...just child-like :) there's a difference.

tnxx n hugggggggz!






~~Meg

Meggzzy!

**its a very simple theory and yet one that is sometimes hard to live by.

True Megzz. ppl find it hard to live by cos so many r unhappy with who they r. Its sad.


**be grateful for what you have, live your life according to your plan (not others), enjoy and appreciate the simple abundances in your life,

Such wise words!


**and be in the moment - the here and now and not always looking towards the day when this or that will happen.

Thats right..I always believed in being in the MOMENT. Cos this moment never comes back.


**but he's saying "go little one...live your life that you so richly desire and deserve - I'll be here waiting".

I had a tear in my eye as I read that Megzz..HUGGGGGGZ!







~~Strictly_For_My_Friends

**if that's the case, I have always been an under achiever

na..that means u've been a great achiever...just by being urself :) Hugggggggz sweety!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

~~KL

**I don't believe in those stupid concepts of you need to have this and that to make your life fulfill and don't understand also why people are so obsessed with it.

lol yes...even I dun u'stand why some ppl r 'obsessed' with em.


**I lead my own life in my own way.

thats great, High Five KL ;-)








~~Nelly

**I agree with the fact that wanting to be someone else is not a good thing, but at the same time looking at what others have and wanting that yourself I dont think is a bad thing.

Not a bad thing as long as it doesnt make u go nuts :)


**Personally, I think it may make you work that much harder to get it.

true but I'd do something for myself...not cos someone else has it.


**I beleive you have to have some dreams and goals to try an achieve the better things in life.

Indeed! And I think I mentioned that :)


**Unless you win the lotto or have well off parents things will not fall in your lap for the most part.

thats right...so yeah we have to work hard for what WE wants. Not for what others have.


**I always vowed that one way or another I would make myself have a decent life for myself and my kids.

And thats fair ofcourse.


**I have done that for the most, I now own a couple different houses, good job, a few toys etc.

whoaaaaa good stuff! But Im sure u did these for urself and for ur family. Not cos others had it??


**So I believe dreams and seeing what others have around you is a good thing. If anyhting it should motivate you.

yes thats right. Inspiration and motivation is a must in life to succeed. But ultimately it should be cos u wanted it for urself and was happy doing it, not cos others wanted it for u or cos u wanted to be someone else. I hope u know what I mean :)


**Oh, and how about a little Shinedown, or Seether for the music of the day???? ;)

how d u mean Nelly? I didnt get ya :(








~~La vida Loca

**Doing something coz everyboy is doing it??It is the biggest insult to being free/free will EVER!!

hehe yes.


**Incomplete without a man?Do you get that?? ^shakin my head and bearing my fangs^

lolz! Some ppl say that to me. One of my mum's friends said that to me the other day and i was FURIOUS. Na I didnt keep quiet...I told her off...in a nice way :) I said to her

"hey Aunty S, my life is quite valuable as it is...I have a great job, loving family n friends, good knowledge and intelligence, few things that I could call mine, but most of all Im happy as I am...and I dun need a man to feel valued'...

she shut up after that.


**Forgot to add...this is not Miss.Mess..it actually called being your own person/following your heart

indeed. I call it Miss.Mess cos Im loving the imperfectly perfect me...:)








~~Has to be me


**Its ur life & u ought to live it the way u want it & dont just be bothered abt others or try pleasing them.

true girl...but sometimes we do find it hard to do...but we must always rem to secure our individuality.


**cos u cantplesee the whole world anywayz!

thats right...I cant and I wont try to please the whole world. Neither am I pleased by everyone and I dun expect that either :)


**sad 2 note abt ur dad but im sure he wld be happy to see u the way u r!

tnxx girl mwahhhhhhh!








~~Nikita


Niki hows u?


**These make up the whole person with whom we interconnect with day by day.

very true.


**Be what you are - A true, honest, and well-meaning person, who makes no attempt at pretenses or hypocrisy or pseudo attempts at intellectual feats -

thats right.


**Do not worry abt the people who try to fit you into their scheme of things - they are not worth the effort, anyways.

Spot on!


awww tnxx Niki :) hugggggggz!









~~Sudeep

**I m 100% sane... why do u want me to be 10% insane by default? See u r now making me be like u.. insane :P

lolz na u r 10% insane...trust me when I say that. And I'll tell u why when the right time comes along :):)


**no matter how hard we try to be ourself the whole world will try to change u frm its own perspective.. n we neither can make everyone happy..

yupperz.


**so a compromise is wht we need
n plans shld be made.. but sticking to it shld be left to destiny

nice one wow!








~~s0ulasylum

**im branded too..

join the mighty club girl :)


**but im learning right? gimme that space will ya?

yes and thats what I mean. Everyone has to go thru their own experiences to arrive at a certain point in life. No one can jump the queue and be fault-free.


**all the wannabe moms n dads to peeps like us out there.. loosen up pls?

haha yes!


**u have a fab weekend too.. me doing tonssss of fun things.. will update on monday! ;-)

tnxxx sweety and I hope to read that post soon. huggggggz!




Keshi.

Keshi said...

~~Desperado

helloooo I hope ur 100% fit now...hugggggz!


**sometimes i have this urge to be someone esle...to relive my life or say go back on my decisions..

thats not wanting to be someone else...thats just wanting to go bakk in time, doing things differently...just another copy of 'urself'...isnt it?


**but then you have to move on...though i know its hard..

yes...moving on can be very hard.


**listening to this song by Opeth....called Death Whispered A Lullaby.....

wow sounds quite deep n really nice to listen to...tnxxx will do soon!


**Deep in the woods, where the lost souls hide

so nice!


**All of your life, all your memories
Go to your dreams, forget it all

wow beautiful lyrics! Gotta listen to this soon!








~~Perplexio

I knew it that u wud love this video :)


**If you look carefully at lead vocalist, Bill Champlin's mullet, I think you'll find a small family of squirrels. It's absolutely hilarious...

ROFL let me chekc it out :):)


**Although Chicago's BEST music video was Stay the Night.

really? wow thanks...let me check that out soon.








~~Eclipsed Thoughts

hello girly!


**Well, a great relief for me to know that there are a few "miss mess" in this world, otherwise i would have felt very alone.

hehe no ur never alone as long as Keshi is alive :)


**since the time i finished college, everyone is looking at me with those glares "when are you going to umreeca (America)"...

huh is it cos most ppl r leaving the country to study overseas? duhh ask em bakk when they r going :)


**http://eclipsedthoughts.blogspot.com/2006/05/my-life-has-been-collection-of-vague.html

I gotta check that out. Cos I really like ur posts. Full of wisdom.


**You know why god gave you two ears? Take the message from one, filter that message by your brain and then throw away the "noise".

WOW very interesting thinking. I loved that :)


**and yeah your dad must be having a good time, proudly looking at his daughter who lives her live in her own trend".

Im sure he is...thanks so much HUGGGGGGGGZ!







~~SCRIBBLEZ TO WAKEUP

**U wont have much dissapointments if you dont have such desires and that leaves you more at peace.

yes.


**its like they have gone to visit a place. lets say London...They want to plan and see all the tourist locations in London so tht they have seen and experienced wht others have.

Nice example.


**Go thru life at your pace and wht desire you have and no one should try and nag the other reards the same.

Spot on n tnxxxxx girl!








~~Jac

**Select one by the HISHAM when you are alone and 10 mts time.

aww tnxx :)


**Dads are always deary for daughters. I undersatand.

yes...n to have lost him was not an easy thing to start living with.









~~ANKIT

heyy Ankit hows u?

**i guess most of the timess,,,,we end living our life as others want us to live,,,even though unknowingly...!

yes..look ard us and most of us r living life the way someone else wants them to.


**saw your pic....you are equally beautiful from outside as you are internally....!

gee tnxx :)







~~Shuba

tnxxx Shuba!








~~Astral

**Ur post made me cry.....esp the song.

HUGGGGGGGGGGZ Suchi! Im here for u ok?? whenever the whole world seems distant, know that one girl is close to ur from the heart...speaking the same language...thats me.


**Not just dad but i miss sm1 else too... well said, never be sm1 else as we lose ourself smwhr thr.

awww...hope ur ok today. Yes always be urself.

tnxx n hugggggggz Suchi!



Keshi.

Keshi said...

~~Mr.Maverick

**I am sure your dad is reading your blog from wherever he is, so dont ya write a depressing post about yourself and make him upset.

yes but even if I dun write I guess he just knows :)


**Life is beautiful.

it is...but not when u lose someone u love so much.


**Song for you "Smile" by Lilly Allen.

aww tnxxx!


**You will smile when you hear the lyrics :)

I'll check it out Arun TY!








~~Mumbai Guy

**When I was 21, I really thought I would get married by 25.

When I was 15 I thought I'd marry at 21 and settle with kids and a ever-loving husband lol! yeah right.


**once work and career comes in, all equations change. Dunno if it is good or bad thing.

ur right....everything changes in every phase of one's life.


**But I strongly believe we all should have timeline. That is the motivation in life.

yes...a motivation may be but certainly not a clock to watch by :)

tnxxx mate!







~~AnonymousBlogger

heyyy AB!


**I think it's natural to "want more" or want the life of someone else.

ofcourse its natural. Thats why its so much harder to accept one's self.


**Is it a bad thing? I guess if we get down on ourselves it is. But maybe it can be used as a good thing if one uses it as motivation to strive for more.

spot on and thats what I mean.


**Being content with what you have is fine, but maybe it's also a burden. Maybe it is an excuse to stop trying and not try for more.

sometimes it can be.


**Does that makes sense?

ofcourse. U always make goo sense :) tnxxxx AB!








~~shpprgrl

**It's a shame when work gets in the way!

hehe I know wut u mean girl but tnxxx for stopping by n saying HI...huggggggz!








~~Sittingnut

heyyy hows u? :)


**be yourself! not only is that ok, imo that is the only way to live.

and I know ur always being urself no matter what ppl say. and thats great!


**if one wants to plan, plan , if one doesn't want to , don't
( in my case i have very vague long terms plans, and very slightly more clear short terms plans)

yes short term will do...


**as for being successful in any plan all we can do is try . i get the most satisfaction in doing something than in reaching the end.

yes...like how happiness is a journey, and not a destination.


**btw if you are a mess you are the greatest mess ever :-)

lol tnxx!


**your dad will be very proud of you !

he was proud of me while he lived too...he used to come to every prize-giving and clap not just for me, but for all the students who got prizes. Such a good man he was!

huugggggggz to ya!








~~Ekta

**guess we all keep running after things we dont have...in an attempt to change ourselves or become something wer not!

thats so right Ekta. We all wanna wear masks cos we dun like the faces we have. thats sad.


**and in all this we forget to thank god for making us what we are and for appreciating the way we are....

Spot on!


**question is humna beings are built that way..can we really change who or what we are?

if ur being urself, there's no need to change :)

tnxx Ekta!







~~lil _kath

Kathhh huggggggggggz!


**All choices from the head.

so true!


**Our lives might end up nothing more
Than trying to get ahead;
Till sometime hence we realize
How fast the years have sped.

such wisdom!


**... yeah, just take things one at a time Kesh and wait coz i know God has plan for u... just believe in Him!

awww tnxxx Kath u always have faith in me...hugggggggz!

luv ya tonz!









~~Sophie

aww HUGGGGGGGZ Sophie! How was ur Goan trip ;-)?








~~SamY

**the point is that what u call perfect is what I call an ordinary smooth n secure life ...

aha...but what I call PERFECT is not that...:) To me a perfect life is pretty imperfect and may not be smooth at all...just like my life. :)


**esp these days ... as I mentioned b4 these r what society considers as a successful person ;)

yes the society :)


**its comfortable to take the beaten path n be one with the crowd ... but do realize that those suggestions aint all bad n can work in bits

yes...Im not saying that one dun need a house, career etc lol! wut Im saying is do it at ur own pace with ur heart's content..not cos someone told u to or cos someone has it all. :)

Hope u had a good wknd Samy.








~~Neihal

**The title is good "Miss.Mess" LOL.

LOL that I am!


**I beieve we are really happy when we are at peace with ourselves....

yes...check it out when ur alone doing ur own thing...how happy n peaceful u r.


**I get very uncomfortable with ppl who are constantly nagging and complaining abt life.

goshhh girl tell me abt it...whingers make me wanna bang their heads together!


**You can complain as much as you want but that doesnt mean you'll get another chance at life.

lol yes. Might as well do something abt it than whinge.

tnxxx sweety!







~~Sudeep

Hi again Sudeep :)

**n how come the kisses were colourful? lollzz..

Cos my heart's colorful and all of u r very colorful personalities. Or perhaps I had colorful lollies just b4 I kissed u? :)







~~KK

**I to believe firmly that I should live as per my wish and not be influenced by others...

Im glad u agree with me KK!








~~Jeevan

**some disappontment's change our aim and goals.

true...but never get beaten by it.


**Like every human being i too have big big dream about my future, but the changes in my plysical condition divert it into another why, that what i am living now.

awwwwww hugggggz Jeevan! I think ur coping really well...like a man.


**My heartfull wishes for your future aim's, Enjoy dear, you dad's is watching u and belssing her sweet child:)

ty so much and same to u HUGGGGGGGGZ!


Keshi.

southpaw said...

Good day Keshi!
How are we doing today?

Keshi said...

~~Saby

I think u did pretty good so far :) U dun wanna die at 85? lol why not?

**Marry in haste
(or for the rong reasons)
and repent at leisure

I agree...alot of my married friends/cousins envy me lolz!







~~Dh@v@

tnxxx :)

**But I find nothing wrong in that… may be because I m also a Mr.Mess

haha great!

dun let anyone force u on anything...take the advice and think it over for 'urself'.







~~White Forest

**Hmm not all...that doestn mean one has to cry over to get everything!

true.


**beautiful line...thats how one shud be :)

yes and that line didnt come just like that...it came after so many heavy prices I've paid b4 just by listening to others :)

tnxxx!







~~Niki_Yokota

Niki heyy hows u sweet gal?

**keshi-chan, this is bon season.
ur dad is not up there. hes at home with u! ^^

Niki u may well be right...cos my mum said that she dreamt of my dad on Sat night! And that my mum was asking him where he had been all this time, leaving us all here. Apparently he was smiling. Does that say something?


**i often feel sad for not having house like other frens...

Niki why d u feel sad? I u'stand that u may envy them cos they have their own houses, but dun u live under a roof now and also paying rent for that from ur own salary? And some ppl cant even do that...cos they r either dependent on someone else to pay for their accommodation or they dun even have a house to live in! Think abt it Niki...ur much better off. And some day u will own a house, if u work slowly towards it. But dun rush to it just cos others have it. Do it if and when u can girl..huggggggz!







~~Cocaine Jesus

**only 10%? i think i must be at least 50 - 50!!

lol I did say it could be MORE than 10% :):)







~~Kumar Chetan

**my one and only plan is to feature in forbes 500 list
thats all

okkkkkk! :)


**a) good gals sounds strange but its true
b) good house
c) all the bikes I like
d) a long vaccation
e) my own labs
and much much more

It's perfectly ok to have plans :)


**but even if i am not in forbes i am happy.

thats the way Kumar, HUGGGGGGGZ!



Keshi.

Ashley said...

I focus on superficial things when establishing temporal goals:

Botox around my eyes by 37, mini-facelift by 47, Other kinds of lifts by 57.

That's only because I will have to save up for those types of things.

uttara said...

hey keshiiii
wasup.. how was ur weekend .. mine was kinda ok ... :)

hey check my blogspot it has been kinda updated..lol

now i shall be regular ok ??? huggggggggz

missed ya during the weekend .. wut did u do ??? how many guys ??? ummm i mean fell for ya?? heheh


utssyyy

Keshi said...

~~Within Without

helllooo WB!


**Other people want you to be someone else either because they love you and feel they're close enough to you to point out changes they think you should make, even if they're wrong.

thats right and that ok WW. But there's a limit to that too. I mean wud u like an aunt of urs telling u that its high time u get married cos ur life is empty w.o. a man? I think not :)


**And if they ARE wrong, and you tell them so, if they really love you they should respect your right to tell them they're wrong.

thats right!


**Now, why do WE want to be someone else? People have hopes, dreams, aspirations, unhappiness.

agreed.


**If we didn't have those things, then we'd never change, we'd just be lumps of dirt.

ofcourse u have to have those. I think I said that in the post :)


**We have to aspire to be more than what we are because otherwise, we don't grow.

true. But that shouldnt make u prosioners in others' shadows.


**I agree with you though that we at least have to have some level of contentedness and happiness with who we are, otherwise we get out of control trying to be what we're not.

thats right.


**It's all of course much more complicated than this, but I'm blathering on as it is...

hehehe na...u made perfect sense. Tnxxx mate and have a good week ahead!








~~dumbdodi

hi there sweety!


**I can't stand preachy people too but somehow these days I find myself in these races of reaching certain milestones set by 'people'

well do it for urself...not for em.


**How well have you written about your dad. I am too moved to say much, lot of love to you.

awwwww its ok babez...Im coping. But even after so many years, there r days when the pain is so raw that it feels like he died just yday.







~~Brute

hi Brute!


**I too miss my DAD....i lost him 8 yrs ago :(

OMG really? So sorry that I may have sparked thoughts of him again. Care to tell us what happened? HUGGGGGGGGGZ Brute!








~~Prithz

hi Prithz darl. Im well ty n urself?


**quite an eye opener for me at this point of time..

Im glad u liked it Prithz, mwahhh!








~~Aditi

**Ok, first of all dont ever change because you are pretty awesome the way u are.. even if others consider it a mess..

aww :) Im flattered. Same goes to ya btw.


**I think people spend their entire life looking for that illusive contentment.

so true. And by the time they realise that that contentment was right there in their hearts, it's usually too late.


**If you have found it at this young age, not to mention the balance between dreams and goals and not letting them rule you..
I say u're set

I say ur set too babez. I knew it that u r a wise girl. Huggggggggggz!








~~Rex Venom

Rex long time!

**Perfection and the world’s interpretations of if rarely match up with our own feelings of what is needed and right.

thats right.


**If we all just fit together, there would be nothing special about each of our journeys.

so true! ty!


**And speaking of perfection, Ishita! Hubba Hubba!
Rock on!

lol yes isnt she just PERFECTLY GORGEOUS! see wut I mean Ish!








~~Kautilya

**b what u wanna b....
if gud things happen 2 u in the mean time.. y stop em....

yes...thats so true. thanks mate :)









~~Posion

whoaaaaa WB mate!

**people want to be like others...

yes...always na.


**discontent is the beginning of all progress.

wow nice one!


**but then..what exactly is progress... :D

discontent :)







~~Darius

hey mate!

**that even if you don't reach your goals, if you've done your best and know it, there's a peace, an integrity, that comes from this.

thats exactly right! Its in the 'trying'.


**It must be disturbing to lack this, especially at the end of your life.

OMG yes. it must sadden alot of ppl to die realising that towards the end. Life is so short so dun miss it guys!








~~Ghost Particle

heyy Ghosty! :)

**Hye,,,what the heck is GYAN!???

huh lol!


**its has to do with self improvement...we need a reference...

do we ALWAYS need a reference? if so cant that reference be urself?


**Coz we are humans who are incapable of 'creating' something rather than improving something.

not really. A whole lot of humans have 'created' too. And another whole lot of humans just like copying :)


**And I do agree that expecting something/ psychologically forcing someone to be in a certain way and to fit a certain mould is DEAD wrong. That kills the natural substance and dreams.

yes...thats what I meant.

thanks Ghosty!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

~~The_Phosgene_Kid

**Yo gotta do what you gotta

Indeed Kiddo! tnxx yes I had a SUPERB wknd...and u?








~~Southpaw

Im goooooood n u? :)








~~Ashley

**Botox around my eyes by 37, mini-facelift by 47, Other kinds of lifts by 57.

lol ur kidding me right!








~~Uttara

HUGGGGGGGGGGGZ babez! aww I missed u too. Glad u updated ur blog...let me go check it straight away :)

How many guys? lol abt 71..will tell u soon all abt it ok :) MWAHHHHHHH going to check ur blog now..cant wait!



Keshi.

priya said...

Keshi: Life is different to many ppl' and what we choose is the best. Some are pressured to make choices int heir lives. But you have the freedom to be who you are and wat you wanna be.
People have a role model to be like someone just to make feel themselves better.
In India, if a women is unmarried or do not have children are not treated well. They still be conservative as long as it doesn't happen in their home.
People can be mean/ or just recommend by saying you can be this and that. But what we can do is just being "I" is the decision maker.
PPl' will never change and so do the society. Ppl' always want to know others problems. If you don't have a problem, they feel "J".
Don't bother and just the way you
are.

southpaw said...

I m doing good...:)

suniieee said...

i know what you mean i have always marched to the beat of my own drumber. life should not be written out before you live, it should be lived and later written.

Aditi said...

Thanks.. hugs right back at u

visithra said...

aye aye on that


hugs gal

Known Stranger said...

how true about your thinking and mine. On saturday i was thinking about it. And my net was bad i didnt post my thoughts but kept it in word. just posted in my xanga page and when i come here, i find another person speaking hte same thought more elaborate and in line with mine.

People are more interested to travel a path that being travelled by man as they could have a ready made guide or hints or clue left by thier ancestors, partens for that matter someone . only the form of new obstacles will be different.

is life all about hwat you mention. i am pizzed of oflate when every one ask me when you settle - i am just so cool - to say back - that would make them why the hell they asked me such a question.

xanga.com/vaishnav

Known Stranger said...

i am feeling happy that i am not the only crazy mental as per others here in earth - there is some one like me.. and it also makes feel bad.. ehiehei i wish why should she be like me ha aha ha

Keshi said...

~~Priya

Ur so right Priya..ppl always wanna know if u have a problem and tho they pretend to advise ya, it's mostly cos they r happy u have probs.

**But what we can do is just being "I" is the decision maker.

true! ty Priya.








~~Southpaw

thats great :)







~~Suniieee

**life should not be written out before you live, it should be lived and later written.

thats a great line, tnxxx!







~~Aditi

:) tnxxx sweety!







~~Visithra

Hugggggggggz sweety!








~~Known_Stranger

**am pizzed of oflate when every one ask me when you settle

lolz yes I know the feeling. Now I make em shut up for life.


**there is some one like me

haha yes and dun be sad...there r alot of crazy dudes and dudettes ard and its FUN! The more the merrier :)


Keshi.

Sujit said...

hey, me backie.. either you think and get pissed of what others are doing or your loved will make a mess for you!.. have faced enough of it! and continue to face!.. with the kind to line I am in!.. but the face remains that I am happy with the way I am living and I have chosen it!...

But, there are other views.. also!.. like when we have discussions.. certain fruitfull views come out which we haven;t thgough!.. its not that we need to someone like others... but lets think one step ahead of what we would be after sometime with an assumtion that you are going to live!.. in which case you would like to own a house isn;t so?.. your own where every little thing you select according to your choice!..

Its not you need to buy! because others are buying a house!.. its that fact that one needs for future living... so if you need what you need to do! is important!.. this is how life goes isn;t it so?... we have a aim and goal and move towards them!.. few things are for passion and certain things are required for living!..

Dalicia said...

you can buy a house..then they'll say "bigger, more expensive house"

you can have a husband
"your husband is not good enough, not rich enough"

so, you got promoted "who and who is making more money than you"

you can never win!! you are living your life. not living according to them! :P

i get all this pressure but i don't care. whatever!

Keshi said...

~~Sujit

I know that Sujit. Thats why I say 'do it for urselves, not for others' :)


**few things are for passion and certain things are required for living!..

Indeed! And thats very different to copying someone. :)

tnxxxx!








~~Elaine

**you can never win!! you are living your life. not living according to them! :P

Spot on Elaine! U nailed em all :) tnxxxx!



Keshi.