Monday, August 21

Virgin Updates

I went to a wedding on Sunday. Yes it was superb and extra 'bling-bling' an event cos it was a Sri Lankan Hindu wedding. So you could imagine all the colors, glamor and glitter of sarees and jewellery! Yes I wore a saree too (a mix of turquoise blue and champagne green) and guess what...while I had many kinds of fancy jewellery to go with it, I still wore my mum's ancient necklace and (jimki) ear-rings that matched it (this was the 3rd time I wore them). She wore them when she was in her 20s. I always had a love for old stuff cos there's something so precious and beautiful about them - maybe the sentimental value of such jewellery knowing that my granma made them for my mum. Anyways the wedding was absoloutely breathtaking. The mandap (altar where the bride and the groom sat) was simple yet so romantic - decortated with white, yellow and orange flowers and so full of grace, purity and magic. We were seated in the 3rd row so I got to witness the whole ceremony quite clearly and to detail. My favorite part was when the Hindu priest got the couple to exchange garlands 3 times and I thought they looked so cute doing that - like sweet little kids playing a game :). Anyways I had lots of fun in my saree, walking around feeling beautiful and graceful ;-) and most of all getting glances from some hunks, woohoo! Ok there was this one very good-looking dude that I had a glance or 2 at and guess what...later on when I went to serve myself some food, someone accidentally bumped on me from behind and we both turned to say 'Sorry'...and it was him (jaw-drop in my head) and I felt like that that bumping was indeed necessary and nothing to be sorry about lolz! Anyways we said Sorry and yes I moved on with my food and not with him, chill guys!


(Ok I know you're bored with my modelling pics but here
's one of me just before going to the wedding showing off my mum's pretty jewellery). One other thing I noticed about the Hindu wedding ceremony - the priest anounces that this virgin has been given in hand to this man now etc etc. I don't like that bit and I don't know why people still say such things in modern times. It belittles the bride somehow and I feel it's synonymous with considering the bride as a sex object - atleast that's what I think. I mean think about this...we are in the 21st century where both girls and boys have moved on from cave-men days, we are independent women/men and women's rights have come a long way. And Respect should come from both sides. So why include that bit still, as if this is about donating a virgin to a sex hungry man? What about him being donated to a woman, cos for all I know most men need a care-take lol! Anyways virgin or not, I despise that kind of vow which humiliates women and are still read out when that's not what love is all about! if I ever have a Hindu wedding, I'll make sure that bit is removed - hell yeah I will review every word (remember my recent wedding-vows post lol!). If my man or the priest objects, I'll dump them both. What I mean is love and marriage is not about virgins and human donations. It's about giving yourselves to each other just as you are. And when you do get married, make sure the vows are in synch with your thoughts and views. What other wedding vows (from your (/other) culture(s)) have you come across that make you wanna puke or sack the priest?


~~'Cause I am your lady (not your virgin)
And you are my man (not my master)
Whenever you reach for me (not when you smother me)
Ill do all that I can...
(we'll do whatever we both wanna do ok?)

:):)


Current Music: The Power Of Love by Celine Dion

103 Cranium Signets:

neihal said...

LOL....you had fun at the wedding and me reading it :)
and that is a lovely pic. :)

southpaw said...

First things first did u wear the saree in indian style or the srilankan way????


Now as far as those lines r concerned thanks for updating me coz i hv been to several marriages but never paid attention to those lines and as far as my marriage is concerned i misused my position and had the registrar in my drawing room with the marriage register holding others in the court for a good hour or so...
The rituals were pretty simple, we both signed on the register and an application form...lol, touched our parent's feet, hugged our friends, as far as the commitment between 2 of us, we already sealed that agreement with a kiss before starting for mumbai...lol, so u see it was so simple and without any controversy...lol

Jewel Rays said...

*smiles* Beauitufl post and love that pic with you on it keshi...GREAT PIC..*smilies* and no i am not sick of ya pics...

And OoohHH cutie...wedding one of da place to always cross their paths and let them cross ours.. and that whole oopsy i banged ya thing...who knows it might not just be concidence..heez!!!:P

uttara said...

u look sooooooooo queet in that snap..

n wow u had a gr8 time i guess

**(we'll do whatever we both wanna do ok?):):)

ahem ahem
sounds interesting..lol

keshi that bhadji ( priest is not of our generation so he will say that... now who cares if the women is virgin or not .. am sure the guys aint ;)

so just chuck it ...

HUGGGGGGZ

uttara said...

raj...
u know whateva set n done... u both r sooo much of life n love ...

i like it... n the way u portray is just beautiful

hugzzz

samuru999 said...

Hi sweet Keshi
I love weddings, and loved reading
your account of it!
Get sick of your pictures.... never!
My weekend was not as great as yours, but I took a wonderful hike this evening.... and am looking forward to a wonderful new day!
HUGGGGGGZ!
-Margie:)

Anand said...

This reminds me of our wedding vows..they are sooo outdated!!!...They have stuff like "the girl will never leave the house without informing /taking permission from the husband"...CRAP!...was soo meaningless and irrelevant in today times!
We both were literally laughing during the vows and the priest was amused!

Homo Escapeons said...

Would you buy a car without a test drive? No.
Aside from mastering the simple mechanics of lovemaking there has to be a little something extra. Otherwise it is just sex. That being said there are times when married people just have sex but that isn't what is going to keep them together. It is those knock your socks off swinging from the chandelier events that make your head spin that keep you from wandering off.
Today we all know that making love is not exactly how it looks in the movies and Rapper videos.

Portraying women as virtual orgasmotrons that only require a few seconds of kissing while ripping off their clothes is drilled into the minds of young men on a daily basis. Unfortunately some guys cannot seem to get past the 3 minute hero stage because of all of this disinformation. They need to be trained and it is a good idea to find out if they have the capacity to take instruction before you say I do.

and speaking of virgins..Comedian Bill Maher was talking about how pathetic it was to seduce suicide bombers with the notion that 72 virgins are waiting for them on the other side. Maher said that he would trade all 72 virgins for 1 pro. He then listed all of the time and energy that would be saved trying to coax any of the virgins to try to perform certain things that the pro already knew.

Where the hell am I going with this anyway. Oh yeah I think that the notion that the woman should be a virgin is hypocritical and as Bill Maher has pointed out, not really a great idea anyway. Men who need to OWN penis receptacles are more interested in their own pride and should just buy inflatable wives.

Love is giving not taking.
and so ends todays sermon....

visithra said...

ooohhh u look pretty

SamY said...

hey kitten u r sparkling in traditional dress ;) ... not just hunks, anyone wud wanna bounce on ya :p ... wish that was me :D ... u really luk awesome like a princess :) ... lucky prince *sigh*

Women in silk saree n jwellery ... the scene luks like godesses r walking down on earth :)

** that bumping was indeed necessary

u mean intended n not accidental ;) ... Y did ya say sorry when u hit that guy ... that was disastrous ... u should have just walked away with a smile :p

now this proves KESHI = IRRESISTIBLY blah blah blah ... he he ;)

** virgin has been given in hand to this man now

proly a misinterpretation :-? ... if I remember right its called 'kanya dhaanam' (kanya usually associated with being virgin) ... coz the father who takes care of his daughter now gives that responsibility to the groom to love n care for her forever henceforth ... doesn't this sound like women are r gift from god to be treasured ... so the msg is lost in time

but if its a perfect arranged marriage (@least these days) then I feel like its legal brothal ... no offence, but it usually happens when a guy n gal can't wait anymore to get laid ;))

I don't think vows were ever meant to be demeaning ... to whatever ends I'v heard of it ... its an open proclamation and a promise with fire and the junta as evidence

in fact in earlier days there was a short ritual where they ask the bride and the groom to bear that wooden stuff used on bullock-carts ... the burdensome wooden thingy that goes onto the shoulder of the bullock's ... signifying that the bride and groom shall help each other with the burden of life together

I think the hindu's marriage n celebration festivities are crazy, fun n profound in meaning ... be it the chanting, the funny games played, old mami's throwing the colour laddos all over ;)) ... of course the chance to see the lovely gals in distant relations / friends

I don't think any aspect of the vows mean the way you interpreted negatively ... just not conveyed in the right manner I'd presume :)

SamY said...

** Ok I know you're bored with my modelling pics

now thats some way to fish for complements ... ur sure gud at it ;) ... putting a lovely pic of thyself n saying everyone wud be bored to have em all say NO NO ... u luk gorgeous n all ... jk da

ha ha ... u truly r squirt ... so dun bother the effort n keep posting keshi the hawtie :p

btw ur amma's kecklace seem to be gripping ur neck ... either ur big or she was tiny :-? ... wonderin which one ... n nice twinkling bindhi

curlzspeaks said...

I love the ending of your post Keshi.. the whole post is bloody good.. but the ending is awesome!
:)

ektaran said...

hey lovely pics there Keshi :)
ahaan...ancestral jewellery there

And 100% agree with ur view on the Wedding Vows...it sure is not about donating a virgin to a hungry man....but guess these traditions will carry ON n ON n ON.

I am a Sikh and we have no such wedding vows....& our marriage takes about 30 mins in the Gurudwara.....but dont ask about the pre & post wedding Dhamaal which continues for days...

Eclipsed Thoughts said...

***If my man or the priest objects, I'll dump them both.
Bravo!!! Eclipsed bows her head for keshi.
I would want to see both of them running for their lives... Keshi behind, chasing them.... lol....
kiddin'

Okay, about marriage, I am a nepali hindu and i think the most disgusting part is when the bride's dad (or any family member, from the bride) has to wash BG's feet and even his dad's!!!
Though its a sick old tradition, it is still seen everywhere.... yucks!!
If ever my husband is gonna make my dad or anyone do that, i will beat the shit out of him....
If that happens, i will send you the video of my "not-to-be" husband running for life and me chansing him with a one big long sword!!!
wooohooo....

Parag said...

How true.. We live in the 20th century but still face the hypocrisy..
Its kinda strange that we expect the women to be virgins.. while no such questions are asked to the men !!
Though I do not care either ways.. As you said.. we should accept each other as we are..
I would however advocate a HIV test before marriage !!.. I know of a scary story .. maybe will tell you some other time..
Your Current Music should have been – Like a Virgin – by Madonna

the sunflower said...

Hey Keshi, plzzzz put up a photo that shows off the sari too... i have never seen a Sri Lankan Sari...

and ur comments on the song, are awesome... if only all men understood that....

Parag said...

by the way.. Not because I am Indian.. But I think Indian/ Asian dresses and Jewellery make women look so pretty..
You are looking nice in the snap !!

Parag said...

by the way.. Not because I am Indian.. But I think Indian/ Asian dresses and Jewellery make women look so pretty..
You are looking nice in the snap !!

desperado said...

hmmm would be nice to see u in a saree :)

n these vows....well never paid attention to dem....though i have sat through many weddings of my sisters..including my real one.

bored wid ur pics...kidding right???

kickassso said...

One of these days .... this is gonna happen :D

Jeevan said...

Attanding marrage is fun for me some times back, running here and there with cousin, spraying rose water on the relatives and friend how visit the marrage. we site near the pride and watch them what they are doing! Hope y enjoy the wedding:)

u look like a girl from Tamil Nadu! nice pic of u:)

Neha said...

hey lovely pics :-)

u sure had fun at the wedding ;-)

there r certain notions n traditions tht just refuse to disappear..

dumbdodi said...

Your mom's jewellery though not very clear does look nice and minimal and you look nice in them.

About hindu weddings, I had a south indian hindu wedding and to be honest I really didn't notice what the priest was saying, I was too immersed in my husband's eyes and in my dreams ;-)
There was one ceremony though that irritated both me and my brother. Basically the groom and bride's brother are made to enact a scene wherein the groom is determined to take sanyas or permanent bachelorhood. The bride's brother has to then change the groom's mind and tell him how nice his sister is, how well she can cook, how obedient she is.....and what not.....and then the groom changes his mind and arrives to the mandap.

Ok then bye for now, have a good day

--Sunrise-- said...

but you have to remember, virginity is considered a virtue in such cultures... it is not necessarily mean to 'downgrade' the woman... :)

and lovely pic! i thought you were white, ooops!

>|' ; '| said...

lol!!!!!

that was seriously funny.
however wat ye are saying is right. the vows are prehistoric indeed!!!

KL said...

Okay all my comments one by one (take a deep breath, relax and sit back) :-P:

1. You look absolutely stunning in this picture.

2. How can be so dumbo :-D? You find a hunk, bump into him and still walk away from him........ggggggggggggrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr.......what were you thinking?

3. If you plan to get a Hindu wedding, then make sure that you don't do it in India - because you wouldn't find a priest who wouldn't say such things. Moreover those and other rubbishes like your husband is your guardian and etc will be uttered in Sanskrit with a heavy accent - too difficult to follow.

4. I don't like this part of western marriage when the priest (or whoever) says to the man, "do you take her as your wife?" and to the woman, "do you take him as your man?" Why she becomes his wife but he becomes her man and not her husband?????????????????????????? Though these utterings are changing, but in many many cases, those traditional words are uttered.

5. This song of Celine Dion is one of my favorite :-D.

Mr. Evil said...

Down with you on the post! And also must say awesomg photography!

Rose said...

I hate attending weddings.. The only thing interesting abt it is wearing saris and of crs the FOOOOOD!!!

So it was 'I am ur lady' re-loaded, huh? I luved this version much more than the original..

;)))

..Me

karmic_jay said...

Hey at your wedding do as you please. :)
Nice pic.

:P fuzzbox said...

This will probably go away along the same path as the old bridal vow of obedience in christian marriages.

wallycrawler said...

Ya gotta remember Keshi marriage started as a ownership deed . So if it still has that overtone it was intentional . I think today it has changed toward the female more than the male . The hole event is just hype ahyhoo .

Man , you looked hawt !

Bet you had a few dances !

samuru999 said...

You are beautiful Keshi!
Thanks for all your wonderful comments!
You helped so much...with ...
your golden heart!
love and Hugggggggz!
-Margie:)

smiley said...

looks like u had a great time... other than that gal's stuff:) sarees, jimki's neclace... LOL

indianangel said...

Very true! thats a bad tradition that people hold on to these days! I'm not sure if I've heard like anything(abt viriginity) that in Hindu weddings. But as far as I know, they tie the know before the fire - where the groom takes a vow " That as long as this fire remain I shall like, the fire be pure in my heart and live passionately with my girl" Hey, BTW Power of love is one of my fav. songs from Celine - oh boy what an amazing voice she has got! Good that u played this! :) Im an ardent listener to Celine's songs! :)

priya said...

Keshi: You look very pretty no wonder eyes looked at you. The priest does what eh has to do. Know what, I and my husband never bothered what the priest said, coz we were having fun with jokes.

Has to be me said...

Hey my hubby & I had a quickie!! ;) I mean the wedding & nothing else...so v just werent bothered abt what the priest said or meant! And ur post reminds me of the similar good times I've had @ weddings!

Sudeep said...

mez feeling sad coz now i cant see pics frm pkblogs too.. *sobz*

u didnt recite them ur wedding vows post there? he he..

niki yokota said...

wat a gorgeous portrait of keshi-chan!!
we will never get bored.
actually i really enjoy looking at ur photos these days(^o^)/
thank u sooooo much!!
wish other frens will show their faces like u! hehe
wat is that, 'this virgin has been given in hand to this man now'!???
i simply cant believe it!
well said, keshi-chan!!!!

starry nights said...

Hey Keshi..you look awesome in that sareee and all that beautiful jewellery. Not tired of seeing your pics. you are beautiful. Maybe that hunk will call u up sometime. Anyway coming back to weddings do they really proclaim the woman to be a virgin. I just thought they assumed that, even if she was not.I really dont like the obey part in the vows. Its like being a slave. I will honor and trust but dont know about obey, thats why I get into a lot of trouble in my marriage.somehow cant do that.

lil _kath said...

... awww u wore saree sweetie? ^_^ a mix of turquoise blue and champagne green color is cooool!! send me ur pic. Kesh plssss! wanna see u in saree ^_^ ur pic. here is cute but i need one in saree na ^_^ i always admired Indian wedding that i saw on tv and movies and its my dream to wear saree one day ^_^

... ** I despise that kind of vow which humiliates women and are still read out when that's not what love is all about. **

... yeah, and its my first time to hear about that sweetie, what about if the girl is not a virgin anymore? u mean she cant marry anyone? that sucks!!or it will be announced on wedding? goshh!! ;(;(

... ** love and marriage is not about virgins and human donations. It's about giving yourselves to each other just as you are. **

... thats very true dear and i only knows catholic and christian wedding, and no such things do in ceremony na... so again its all about religion! well, we cant do anything about beliefs etc... coz its there na for ages!

... anyway, seems u had a good time esp. when u bumped w/ that guy hehe... then what happened next? did u talked? or just said bye after saying sorry both?? aww
hope u bumped w/ Mr.Right sooooon muahhhh!!

... have a great week ahead!

hugss,
-kathy-

Jo said...

You look cool in the pic Kesh. :-) Couldn't see much of the jewellery though. :-)

Orikinla Osinachi. said...

Ill do all that I can... (we'll do whatever we both wanna do ok?)
..........
Kama Sutra and monkey style and doggie style and...
May God help us all.

I suspect that the guy deliberately bumped into you from behind? But had no heart to go all the way and befriend you. Might be your tall frame was intimidating and those your enchanted eyes made him nervous?

You always look beautiful. And I am going to post this your sweet looking portrait in my post on you on Nairaland.

God bless.

s0ulasylum said...

aah love tht jewellery.. think its called kundan jewellery or somethg not sure tho.. my mom owns a few antique pieces that are to die for.. am not a gold person at all.. but i have totally talked her into giving me those! :)
and abt the handing away a 'virgin' .. story.. i dont even want to BEGIN my 9 page rant here! hehehe... all i'll say is tht.. u've said it girl! and i totally second it! :)

KK said...

You look great with those jewellery.

Marriage is the best time to search for people...I always go wandering around looking out for gals :)

I have absolutely no idea what vows they have during marriage...not even sure if the vows are in tamil or sanskrit... :)

Masd said...

Another very interesting post from your side Keshi. I have never been to a hindu wedding and now I am thinking to attend one. One of my students is Hindu and she is getting married soon I will ask her to invite me. :) Jimki is earrings. In urdu do you know we call it jhumka. You look stunning in the pic. Let the priest sing the song at your wedding, She is his lady and he is her man..:)

Within Without said...

Yeah, Keshi, we're all SO tired of seeing your pictures. Can you stop that please?

The idiocy of what the priest said about the virgin...is pure lunacy and makes a joke out of the whole ceremony.

Unless, of course, the woman was actually a virgin and she did actually want those words read.

I suspect it was the priest or parents who wanted that said, whether it's true or not.

You'll pardon, I hope, my cynicism about marriage as an institution and the vows that accompany it.

In North America, anyway, the divorce rates are at about 50 per cent. So marriage vows are no promise of anything, although I still believe in marriage and deep love between a man and a woman.

If I get married again, I and my wife-to-be will dictate what is said and what isn't. And it won't be a religious ceremony.

Now, on to the final topic: that was it with the hunk in the dinner lineup? A "bump" in the night?

Nothing happened after that? More discussion? An exchange of phone numbers? Nada? Girl, go for it!

I'm sure you looked ravishing in your sari. I brought one back for each of my three sisters from India many years ago.

AnonymousBlogger said...

Oh Keshi, you should have moved in on that guy. I'm sure he bumped you on purpose just to get your attention!

I agree with your views on those stone-age views some people still have. It's a shame, but I think they are slowly fading away with the new generations.

sittingnut said...

heyy mate!
you look great as usual :-)

agree with you about the wording. it is degrading to women.
catholic wedding service has got rid of ' to obey ' part in the vows? i actually don't know but don't remember hearing it in weddings i attended. don't understand what is being said in poruwa weddings here.

personally i would prefer my wedding( if i get that silly ) to be just the registration at the registrar of marriages. but i suppose the prospectives wife would have something to say on that .
imo the best wedding i attended was such a registration after an elopement. i was a witness. wedding reception, so to speak, for 6 ppl including the couple was held in my room at the time. it was so romantic :-)
actually they had a big party a month later. and everybody, parents and all, has since reconciled and the couple is doing extremely well.

hope you are having a great day.

Shuba said...

hey lovely pics..seems u had a great time!

La vida Loca said...

sounds lovely.And you look great!
Dont want to get started on virginity..and hipocracy...will explode lol

Mumbai Guy said...

I disagree on how it belittles a bride. It is not about what century we are in, it is about custom.

If you dont like the custom, just dont follow it. Changing it to way you like is like creating a new custom. You cannot have best of both the worlds. Either be in it or get into western culture.

Old as it may sound, but after staying in midst of all western culture, I really feel the old culture is not as bad as I thought. Just as the western culture is not glamour all the way as I thought from other side.

Respect, I do agree, should come from both sides. But that does not seem to be happening. Most of the time in name of equality, I see women taking advantages. I have seen many of my friends being joroo ka gulam. Where is the equality there?

I know no one asked, but my wedding vows will be as they are. Editing strictly not allowed.

Vivhyd said...

that was funny - the vows thing.. but leave the vows thing - as long the couple has a gr8 marriage life overriding the differences and helping each other - everything is taken care of.. its one thing to have vows like we will be together till death do us apart and then divorcing in 1 yr.. like it happens in the west..

Keshi said...

~~Neihal

tnxxx girl :)







~~Southpaw

Sri Lankan hindu style saree is Indian style too. :) Sinhalese saree style is different. I've worn that too when I was the bride's maid of one of my friends.


** we already sealed that agreement with a kiss before starting for mumbai

lol sweet!







~~Jewel_Rays

Amy heyy tnxxxx n hugggggggz!

**and that whole oopsy i banged ya thing

lol yes...but I didnt do it on purpose...hopefully he did..ROFL!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

~~Uttara

Uttsy the pool-hottie! :)

**priest is not of our generation so he will say that...

But we r of this generation arent we? lol!

I know that it's tradition etc but sometimes we still utter crap not realising the times and attitudes of ppl have come a long way!








~~Samuru999

Margie I hope all is well with ya...I know that long walks alone can do wonders so Im glad u did that. Hugggggggggggz!







~~Anand

**They have stuff like "the girl will never leave the house without informing /taking permission from the husband"

LOL haha Anand I could imagine u and Ekta cracking up like sweet lil kids :):) tnxxx for sharing that with us.



Keshi.

suniieee said...

i love the pic

Keshi said...

~~Homo_Escapeons

heyy HE I sooo enjoyed ur long and very interesting comment. Makes alot of sense and I hope many ppl here will read it.

**It is those knock your socks off swinging from the chandelier events that make your head spin that keep you from wandering off.

hehe thats right. And I guess not many ppl know that. They hang on to some tradition to define them.

**Love is giving not taking.
and so ends todays sermon....

thats so true!

lol I was laughing at some parts of the comment - tnxx a ton for the smiles and wisdom u always bring :)







~~Visithra

and hey wut d u say abt the 2nd part of the post? I wanna know wut u have to say cos ur a hindu girl :) so bring it on babez.







~~Samy

awww Samy tnxx so much for the sweet compliments that had me smiling all morning :):) U r too kind.

**u mean intended n not accidental ;)

lol na...we both 'accidenttally' bumped on each other. Serious!

Samy I u'stand that vows were never meant to demean ppl but we r talking abt vows that were prepared yonks ago.Back then women didnt have much rights and they were treated as some religious donation to men. D u honestly like that term 'Kanni' being used in today's weddings? I think it's pretty dumb and it sure demeans women of today - may not have been so in those days. And thats what I meant. Maybe they should use the word 'girl/woman' instead of 'Kanni'?


**I don't think any aspect of the vows mean the way you interpreted negatively

nope I didnt interprit in negatively! IT IS NEGATIVE. :)


Keshi.

Keshi said...

~~Lil_Curlz

hey sweety tnxxx :)






~~Ektaran

Im glad u agreed with me Ektaran. It's always good to hear what other Hindu women have to say abt this...most Hindu men might not agree with me, but seeing it from a woman's point of view is more realistic, so tnxxx!


**but dont ask about the pre & post wedding Dhamaal which continues for days...

lol I know. Same with us :)








~~Eclipsed_Thoughts

heyy sweety :)

**I would want to see both of them running for their lives... Keshi behind, chasing them

lol yes and I'll make sure they dun come bakk.

**the most disgusting part is when the bride's dad (or any family member, from the bride) has to wash BG's feet and even his dad's!!!

OMG! How humiliating is that? If it were to happen in my life, I'd tell everyone off b4 the wedding. What a shameful act that is! U know this bride even had to worship the groom down on her knees...whats with that???? I think it's appalling!


**If that happens, i will send you the video of my "not-to-be" husband running for life and me chansing him with a one big long sword!!!

HAHAHAHA! I'd join u too. Would luv to see that video! LOL u make me laugh so much dear. tnxxxxx for that :):)

btw I think most Hindu men wouldnt agree with me here cos they really cant see it from a woman's point of view isnt it....so yeah Im not so bothered by that. Im glad most women here agree with me :)








~~Parag

hey Parag Im glad atleast one Indian man here could clearly see what Im trying to say and tnxxx for that.

**Its kinda strange that we expect the women to be virgins.. while no such questions are asked to the men !!

yep. and doesnt that show that ancient practices are quite biased??


**I would however advocate a HIV test before marriage !!..

OMAHGOSH yes...I know wut u mean. cos alot of men/women these days r so easy on sex so yeah..and HIV test is a MUST especially if it's an arranged marriage.


**I know of a scary story .. maybe will tell you some other time..

tell me now.


**Your Current Music should have been – Like a Virgin – by Madonna

Initially I wanted to put that up but something was wrong with the video.

tnxxx for all the compliments. I think that the saree is the BEST outfit ever!







~~The_Sunflower

tnxxx sweety!

**have never seen a Sri Lankan Sari...

I wore Indian :) but yeah I will put up a pic of Sri Lankan Sinhalese saree style too - later on.

Most men dun u'stand where women r coming from Sunflower. and thats sad.







~~Desperado

ur right...even I didnt pay much attention b4...but this time I did :)

how many sisters have u got?








~~Kickasso

lol that was soooo funny! tnxxx!








~~Jeevan

tnxx so much Jeevan!
:)


Keshi.

southpaw said...

Yes sinhalese saree style, thats what i was asking.

Keshi said...

~~Neha

heyy Neha!

**there r certain notions n traditions tht just refuse to disappear..

very true. when u do something special such as a wedding, u gotta do it right...not just follow the tradition blindly.

tnxxx!








~~Dumbdodi

hey girl tnxxx :)

**and then the groom changes his mind and arrives to the mandap.

OMG is this for real? lol! In which part of India does this happen?








~~Sunrise

WC Sunrise and tnxx!

**but you have to remember, virginity is considered a virtue in such cultures... it is not necessarily mean to 'downgrade' the woman... :)

ofcourse I know that. But the way the vows r read, it sure sounds like a virgin is being donated. I dunno how u see it, but thats how I saw it. And dun u think a man's virginity should also be imp then ;-)?








~~Poison

**the vows are prehistoric indeed!!!

tnxx mate!








~~KL

heyy KL tnxxx for the compliments :)


**2. How can be so dumbo :-D?

LOL yes Im a big-time dumbo na...awwww :):)


**You find a hunk, bump into him and still walk away from him....what were you thinking?

lolz cmon I cant look so desperate na....so I just smiled n turned ard. Just like that :)


**3...Moreover those and other rubbishes like your husband is your guardian and etc will be uttered in Sanskrit with a heavy accent - too difficult to follow.

LOL!


**..."do you take her as your wife?" and to the woman, "do you take him as your man?" Why she becomes his wife but he becomes her man and not her husband????

very true! good point.


**5. This song of Celine Dion is one of my favorite :-

yes mine too. huggggggggz n tnxxxx KL!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

~~Mr.Evil

WC Mr.Evil n tnxxx!

**And also must say awesomg photography!

ty :)








~~Rose

**I hate attending weddings.. The only thing interesting abt it is wearing saris and of crs the FOOOOOD!!!

lol aww..I LOVE WEDDINGS for the same 2 reasons :)


**So it was 'I am ur lady' re-loaded, huh? I luved this version much more than the original..

lol ty Rose bubz!








~~Karmic_jay

heyy Jay tnxx!









~~:P fuzzbox


**This will probably go away along the same path as the old bridal vow of obedience in christian marriages.

Hope so :)








~~Wallycrawler

**Ya gotta remember Keshi marriage started as a ownership deed .

aha..


**The hole event is just hype ahyhoo .

hehe yes.


**Man , you looked hawt !

ty! ;-)


**Bet you had a few dances !

nope no dancing in this wedding...it was a very traditional Hindu one...vegetarian food too :) yeah I know...not the Keshi kinda event lol!








~~Samuru999

Margieee hiyaaa again!

**You helped so much...with ...
your golden heart!

I guess one golden heart recognises another? hugggggggggggz! Im glad u sound ok. TC.








~~Smiley

**other than that gal's stuff:) sarees, jimki's neclace... LOL

indeed girly stuff :):)








~~Indianangel

hello angel!


**thats a bad tradition that people hold on to these days!

Im glad u agree.


**" That as long as this fire remain I shall like, the fire be pure in my heart and live passionately with my girl"

thats very beautiful.


**Celine - oh boy what an amazing voice she has got! Good that u played this!

hell yeah...she's a hoot!








~~Priya

tnxx girl!


**The priest does what eh has to do.

yes I know...but I aint blaming the priest...just the tradition.


**Know what, I and my husband never bothered what the priest said, coz we were having fun with jokes.

lol sweet!








~~Has to be me

heyy girl!


**Hey my hubby & I had a quickie!! ;) I mean the wedding & nothing else...

lolzz okkk!

yeah...wedding r always great :)









~~Sudeep

**mez feeling sad coz now i cant see pics frm pkblogs too.. *sobz*

dun cry Sudeep...I'll send u some pics thru email :)


**u didnt recite them ur wedding vows post there? he he..

hell na...they will ban me from the wedding then lol!


Keshi.

saby said...

Have mercy Keshi
my eyes are detting all screwed up trying to read dis fine print






.

Mr. Maverick said...

Your comment about 'virgin bride' made me laugh!

Trust me, if you have a hindu wedding, you will be sooooo tired and boooored of all these petty details, that you will simply say 'For goddamn sake say whatever you wanna say quickly as i want to get married and spend time with my man' LOL

btw, some people still live in cave man era ;-), and apparently they are too busy to come out of physics, programming and gaming. LOL

Arun

Keshi said...

~~Niki_Yokota

tnxxx Niki mwahh!

**wish other frens will show their faces like u! hehe

I so wish that too...but not many like to do that :(


**wat is that, 'this virgin has been given in hand to this man now'!???

lol!


**i simply cant believe it!

me neither.









~~Starry_Nights

**Maybe that hunk will call u up sometime.

aww Starry tnxx for hoping for me...but I guess it was just a passing-by hunk :)


**Anyway coming back to weddings do they really proclaim the woman to be a virgin. I just thought they assumed that, even if she was not.

no they use the term 'Kanya/Kanni' as the girl's parents hand over their daughter to the groom. That assumes she's a virgin yeah.


**I really dont like the obey part in the vows. Its like being a slave.

lol yes I know.


**I will honor and trust but dont know about obey, thats why I get into a lot of trouble in my marriage.somehow cant do that.

haha ur cute Starry. Ur right...obeying is like being a bloody slave. It's really more of trusting and respecting than obeying.







~~Lil _kath

Kathhh mwahhhhhhh!


**send me ur pic. Kesh plssss!

I will..thru email.


**yeah, and its my first time to hear about that sweetie, what about if the girl is not a virgin anymore? u mean she cant marry anyone?

hehe good point. My mum says that girls who r not virgins are usually not supposed to get on the sacred altar. It's a Hindu tradition. But how do we even know if the girl is a virgin? If she's not, then all those vows r empty words!


**so again its all about religion! well, we cant do anything about beliefs etc...

yes but times surely have changed. So should the vows.


**when u bumped w/ that guy hehe... then what happened next? did u talked? or just said bye after saying sorry both??

lol I just said Sorry...he too. And then we went our separate ways. He smiled tho. But who knows, he could be having a GF. tnxxx for wishing me well Kath mwahhhhhh!








~~Jo

**Couldn't see much of the jewellery though. :-)

aww why not?








~~Orikinla Osinachi.

**Kama Sutra and monkey style and doggie style and...
May God help us all.

Goshh Ori lol I didnt mean it that gross! :)


**I suspect that the guy deliberately bumped into you from behind? But had no heart to go all the way and befriend you. Might be your tall frame was intimidating and those your enchanted eyes made him nervous?

hmm who knows :) he himself was quite good-looking and maybe he has a GF?


**And I am going to post this your sweet looking portrait in my post on you on Nairaland.

hehe Ori :)

God bless u too!








~~s0ulasylum

**aah love tht jewellery.. think its called kundan jewellery or somethg not sure tho..

is it, wow!


**my mom owns a few antique pieces that are to die for.. am not a gold person at all.. but i have totally talked her into giving me those! :)

lol sweet...I always loved this piece from mum so I know she'll give em to me. But even if I dun get em, I have had so much joy wearing em a couple of times and thats enough to be happy I think :)


**i dont even want to BEGIN my 9 page rant here! hehehe...

ROFL! Im glad u agree with me sweety. Cos alot of men here didnt. But it's always great to hear a girl's point of view. TY!








~~KK

**Marriage is the best time to search for people...I always go wandering around looking out for gals :)

:):) So how many have u scored so far?


**I have absolutely no idea what vows they have during marriage...not even sure if the vows are in tamil or sanskrit... :)

lolz thats cos ur busy soptting girls na :):)








~~Masd

**I have never been to a hindu wedding

never? I thought u were from India.


**Jimki is earrings. In urdu do you know we call it jhumka.

oh ok. Those r my fav type of earrings!


**Let the priest sing the song at your wedding, She is his lady and he is her man..:)

lol yes tnxxxx mate!








~~Within Without

heyy WW hows it going?


**Yeah, Keshi, we're all SO tired of seeing your pictures. Can you stop that please?

lol ok ok.


**The idiocy of what the priest said about the virgin...is pure lunacy and makes a joke out of the whole ceremony.

yes especially in this century.


**Unless, of course, the woman was actually a virgin and she did actually want those words read.

na it's traditional vows that hardly get changed by anyone.


**So marriage vows are no promise of anything, although I still believe in marriage and deep love between a man and a woman.

true.


**If I get married again, I and my wife-to-be will dictate what is said and what isn't. And it won't be a religious ceremony.

good on ya!


**Now, on to the final topic: that was it with the hunk in the dinner lineup? A "bump" in the night?

lol yes and a cool bump too ;-)


**Nothing happened after that? More discussion? An exchange of phone numbers? Nada? Girl, go for it!

nope :( mebbe he's got a GF already...well anyways Im the shy kind when it comes to these matters. I always wait for the guy to make the first move. U know, waiting for the sun to shine on me than making the sun shine on me hehehe...I know Im dumb :(


**I'm sure you looked ravishing in your sari. I brought one back for each of my three sisters from India many years ago.

wow nice!








~~AnonymousBlogger

heyy AB!

**Oh Keshi, you should have moved in on that guy. I'm sure he bumped you on purpose just to get your attention!

lol so thats what u do too sweet AB? :)


**I agree with your views on those stone-age views some people still have. It's a shame, but I think they are slowly fading away with the new generations.

tnxx for agreeing with me! I hope they change the vows to something more decent too.








~~Sittingnut

tnxxx mate! :)


**it is degrading to women.

ty so much for agreeing!


**catholic wedding service has got rid of ' to obey ' part in the vows?

yes...and I dun like that term too. Sounds like some child being told to obey his teacher.


**don't understand what is being said in poruwa weddings here.

as far as I rem, Sinhalese poruwa ceremonies dun have such vows...or do they? It's been ages since I went to a Sinhalese wedding.


**personally i would prefer my wedding( if i get that silly )

LOL awww...u consider marriage silly? wait till u find that girl!


**to be just the registration at the registrar of marriages.

thats nice and I think it's reallly sufficient. What matters is the love not a fancy occasion.


**for 6 ppl including the couple was held in my room at the time. it was so romantic :-)

thats soo romantic indeed! Thats real love.








~~Shuba

tnxxx Shuba!








~~La vida Loca

tnxxx :)

**Dont want to get started on virginity..and hipocracy...will explode lol

LOL! Im glad ur with me on this :)


Keshi.

Keshi said...

~~Mumbai_Guy

hello :)


**It is not about what century we are in, it is about custom.

I disagree with u on that :) Cos while I know it's also abt the custom and not ONLY abt the century, it is also abt making sense. We cant blindly follows age-old customs just cos it was carried out for years. Can we?


**If you dont like the custom, just dont follow it.

and thats what im saying :) I wont follow it.


**Changing it to way you like is like creating a new custom. You cannot have best of both the worlds. Either be in it or get into western culture.

Why not create a new custom? If we can change the ways we dress, think etc to suit the times, why not change few customs too? Especially customs that humilate ppl. And I believe we can get the best of both cultures. That's what good-living is all abt. Pick the best ones from both sides. Arent most of us doing that already?


**Old as it may sound, but after staying in midst of all western culture, I really feel the old culture is not as bad as I thought.

ur rigght to a certain extent...but we cant bury ourselves in old customes that mock individuals and ones that dun make sense anymore.


**Just as the western culture is not glamour all the way as I thought from other side.

its not...so is our culture. There r good and bad in both cultures. Thats why we should pick the best ones from both sides.


**Most of the time in name of equality, I see women taking advantages.

And how does that apply in this case?


**I have seen many of my friends being joroo ka gulam. Where is the equality there?

wuts that? Sorry I didnt u'stand that Hindi term...plz explain further.


**I know no one asked, but my wedding vows will be as they are. Editing strictly not allowed.

Thats ur wish :)

tnxxxxx!







~~Vivhyd

Heyyy Viv!

**as long the couple has a gr8 marriage life overriding the differences and helping each other - everything is taken care of..

Spot on! But I guess when something as special as a wedding takes place, the true love should be depicted in it, instead of making a mockery.


**its one thing to have vows like we will be together till death do us apart and then divorcing in 1 yr.. like it happens in the west..

lol yes.

tnxxxx Viv!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

~~Suniieee

tnxxx :)








~~Souhtpaw

I will put up a pic in one of the new posts ok :)

hows u?








~~Saby

wut print?








~~Mr.Maverick

lol heyy hows u?

Im glad u agree with me.

** 'For goddamn sake say whatever you wanna say quickly as i want to get married and spend time with my man'

LOL yes...I might even sing at the altar just cos Im bored :):)


**btw, some people still live in cave man era ;-), and apparently they are too busy to come out of physics, programming and gaming.

ROFL good one! tnxxx Arun :)




Keshi.

Zombie said...

oh wow keshi, you look wonderful! I missed out on few of your latest posts simply coz of work pressure plus I cant keep these pages open for too long...my desk is at a place where anybody can see what I'm doing ;-)

soooooooooooo, even though I'm giving the 'post' a miss yet again...just wanted to tell you that 'you look wonderful tonight'
:-)

SamY said...

** lol na...we both 'accidenttally' bumped on each other. Serious!

maybe u did, but maybe he didn't :D

** Back then women didnt have much rights and they were treated as some religious donation to men.

did u know that women were equal to men long ago in every aspect, n they even learnt vedas alongside men n participated in all activities equally? it was sometime in b/w (modern times) that the manudharmam sprang up n made a mess of things :(. wonder where u got that idea that of women considered low #-o

** D u honestly like that term 'Kanni' being used in today's weddings?

its not a question of liking/disliking it nut, its about understanding what was said bout the institution long long ago

to me every custom has a positive and profound purported meaning which was lost in time, distorted by narrow minded individuals ... so I see things with a positive spirit ... n dump the rest

btw kanni is kinda like the word chiquitita ;)

** I think it's pretty dumb and it sure demeans women of today - may not have been so in those days. And thats what I meant.

scriptures don't change just coz u dun like the choice of words :) ... scriptures n those who wrote em can't help if people who preach them misinterpret it

maybe the priest enunciated it with that tone ... its the very feeling of being heving been treated in a demeaming fasion thats 1/2 reason for y its so ... its like u r what u think u r :)

** nope I didnt interprit in negatively! IT IS NEGATIVE. :)

if ur minds closed, there ain't any point trying to explain it :p

Keshi said...

~~Z0mbie

mwahhhhhhhhhhhh Misty I SO MISSED U! So the girl is busy ha? anyways tnxx so much for dropping by amidst all that and tnxxx so much for the compliments too...huggggggggggggggz!







~~Samy

lets just agree to disagree ok?? :)



Keshi.

ishita said...

phew..! lolz...i just sat and waited for the page to load agaiinn!! :)...

lovely pic kesh:)...veryy pretty!! u luv to flirt wid d camera na ;-)..he he...so do i!!

wedding sounded like a lot of fun! I like weddings too...esp. close frenz or family, coz then we can be a part of all the festivities:)...and the first pic reminded me of my wedding pics! ummm...lemme c if i get d time, i'll send u some (where i luk alright of course!)...pity we didn't have digicams back then so i'd prob have to scan the pics or hey just take pics of them in my digicam...lolz...*i feel so smart*

and never paid much attention to the marriage vows...tho the priest was translating everything in english for us..hmmm...but then i wz already thinkin of a life beyond the vows na ;-)...but yes now that u know and others do too, we shud insist on editing/modifying such vows...

the only sad thing was we cldn't have church wedding (we had a hindu ceremony and a registered one) coz of the conversion issue but R & mamma were sweet enough not to insist on it...i wld've luvdd it tho...

so kesh...now that i've seen u all so pretty and lovely in traditional clothes and jewellery, I so wish that I get to see you all decked up as a bride...!:)...

leaving wid a smile at that thot:)...and hopin u r smilinggg tooo! tk care kesh...be happy always!:)....***hugggs***

southpaw said...

That wud be a treat, i love the way they make that crease near the belly button.

I m fine, how abt u?

uttara said...

hey sexyyyyyyy
wassup???
have a nice day

Keshi said...

~~Samy

why I said that was cos sometimes some of us dun like to admit that our own cultures do have flaws too. It's just a denial thing. Cos no one wants to put down their culture in front of others. But Im not afraid to point out when something isnt right. Every culture has something(s) that r either too out-dated or dun go in synch with the current world.

Anyways we r enititled to our own views. U dun see any issue in these vows, but I do. And as a half-Hindu woman, it applies alot to me than to a Hindu man. :) Anyways lets just agree to disagree and tnxxx Samy!








~~Ishita

Ishhhh hugggggggz! Im so sorry that the page loads r killing ur precious time. Just curious...what's the o/s and what's the Memory like?

lolz yes these days I flirt big time with Mr.Nokia. But even b4 him, I used to love the camera...ask my mum, I'm known as Photo Queen among many who knows me :):)


**and the first pic reminded me of my wedding pics!

wow I wanna see em! plz plz plzzz send em to me somehow??


**i feel so smart*

lol u r babez!


**but then i wz already thinkin of a life beyond the vows na ;-)...

awwwww so sweet Ish!


**but yes now that u know and others do too, we shud insist on editing/modifying such vows...

u agree with me too? wow Im so happy! Cos some boys didnt like what I said abt modifying vows. Guess u've got to be a woman to know that.


**coz of the conversion issue but R & mamma were sweet enough not to insist on it...i wld've luvdd it tho...

he's a Christian? A church wedding wud have been lovely and u wud have looked GORGEOUS in a wedding dress! I always told my mum that I just wanna get into a bridal dress just to take photos lol!


**I so wish that I get to see you all decked up as a bride...!:)...

well I'll promise u that even if I might not be able to post such real pics here, I'll do just one for u :):)


**leaving wid a smile at that thot:)...and hopin u r smilinggg tooo! tk care kesh...be happy always!:)....***hugggs***

aww I always smile reading ur comments full of love and appreciation...hugggggggggggggz Ish I hope ur feeling much better today!







~~Southpaw

** love the way they make that crease near the belly button.

Indians do that too na.


Keshi.

southpaw said...

Yes butthe way the sinhalese make that semi-circle frill is a treat to watch

desperado said...

just one real sister...but many cousin sis...one huge family we are :)

Kautilya said...

Hey gorgeous....

why take the literal meaning of what the priest says... After all its just symbolic isnt' it? I just love these huge huge... celebrations that comes with such an aspicious event.

we are in the 21st century alrite... but these rituals are just symbolic.. and its absolutely wondrful to see our culture preserved. Dont' take the literal meaning of it dear. Just enjoy and have fun. What say....

Keshi said...

~~Southpaw

yes Southy thats called 'osari' in Sinhalese and it's the Kandyan style. I wore that once when I was a bride's maid in one of my Sinhalese friends' wedding. It's very oriental and charming.







~~Desperado

Great to have a large family :)







~~Kautilya

hello Kautilya!

Yeah I still enjoy wedding no matter what :) But felt like making a comment on this cos it didnt sound right hehe. Tnxxxx mate!

Keshi.

SamY said...

I am faaaaar from a stickler to my customs not ... n I am the 1st to point out at what I believe r flaws ... but when I makes sense of it I appreciate n respect it :) ... afterall those who wrote em were wise ppl

its goes like this ... guys @ M$ are very thoughtful ... nevertheless ppl say @ work that "how can M$ do such a stupid thing without a thought" but only with time they realize how much of thought had gone into it ... they dun do stuff without gud reason

not always are they right ... but I'd say 95% they r as to y they did the way they did ... of course misuse always paves way to believe the original idea was crappy

every individual things (s)he is right ... but to not acknowledge another facet to it ain't prudent is it?

just that its become trendy to disown one's customs without giving a thought as to why it was in the 1st place ... its fashion to be a rebel u know ;) ... n since our folks r blind believers n can explain things, we think they r stupid :D

I do agree with u keshi :) ... ppl do say it with a negative connotation ... but I see it fast diminishing ;) ... the more to acknowledge them the longer it will prevail ... morons n blind faith will always be there

but to say I dun like it without gud rational is as bad as the temperament of those blind believers ... ain't it?

** Every culture has something(s) that r either too out-dated or dun go in synch with the current world.

change is inevitable nutty ... cultures will perish n new ones born ... but @ the least we can uphold to the gud part of em ... n I dun c us disagree'n anywhere

sophie said...

u look gr8
muaaah babes

Keshi said...

~~Samy

if only u stated all that b4 lol!

Anyways tnxx Samy :)







~~Sophie

and wut abt ur Goa pics? I wanna see em!


Keshi.

Eclipsed Thoughts said...

***U know this bride even had to worship the groom down on her knees...whats with that????

One word for that, "F### off" to the groom or whoever thinks its "good culture"

***btw I think most Hindu men wouldnt agree with me here cos they really cant see it from a woman's point of view isnt it

Yes, few men's parietal/frontal brains are still now working.... i think 440V ac current would work for them... at least keep the rods on their head for 5 mins.... hmmmm.... good idea....

Manish said...

Lolz... that was a pretty good one...
wedding, saari, jewellery and not to forget that hunk ;)
well the last part was gud... somethings need to b changed :)
BTW nice pic :)

tc
Manish

Has to be me said...

BTW, y dont u come up with ur own wedding custom for ur wedding?! ;) That wud make u happy & for sure u might start off a new way of the weddings!!!

ari4u said...

I had a muslim wedding and inspite of the specific instructions that i want no flower or garland on me, i was forced and cornered into having the minimum. Wassup wit the flowers anyway?

I hate it when people take the mic at weddings and start yapping endlessly as to how the this marriage will result in new relationships formed and blah blah. Doh!! we didnt have to be told the obvious.

I hate it when certain weddings take days to complete all the rituals. It should not exceed an hour.

I hate the "Virgin" declaration part. So much for enforcing the male chauvnism. How come the priest doesnt say the same about the guy, or no one cares?

i have more, but i will stop here. have to head to bed, 145AM here in my neck of the woods :)

take care
-ari

P.S: Nice picture :-) In still can;t believe you have stopped with the man-hunt keeping in mind the serious advertising... lol

jac said...

LMAOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO ! with the concluding lines.

viva, keshi!

GuNs said...

Complete with the Bindi and everything huh? Wow...thats really nice.

BTW, do you know how to wear a saree yourself without any help? If you do, thats great. BTW, do you know there are many different ways in which you can drape a saree and that depends on which part of India you live in. e.g. Bengalis and Gujjus wear the saree in a distinctively different way. Oh, and some of the customs specify you wear the palloo over your right shoulder and others specify you wear it over the left.

Try out as many styles as you can and you'll have some REAL fun with a saree. You can also try the sexy look by tying the loer end lower than your low-waist jeans. He he...look at the guys ogle then [;-)]

-PeAcE
--WiTh
---GuNs

SCRIBBLEZ TO WAKEUP said...

Hey...YOu look very pretty. Can surely imagine how many guys would have flocked around. About the virgin part. I had a Hindu wedding but in my wedding there are no preists or anything...No one spoke about a virgin...I have heard Kanya in North Indian weddings but never Virgin and this is a shock to me! :)

Ghost Particle said...

keshi, u look superbeautiful in saree...albeit the very little we get to c u in...

And i did not read the post yet, have to leave home now, its 10pm and im still in office...promise will come back 2moro.

Love,
Siva

Known Stranger said...

you mean the khannika dhanam! hmm there is anothe word they use - not able to recall .

fine i accept your view.

apart from that - even after your beautiful photo - havent you found any guy ready to help you shed of your feeling not to be single.

you look pretty and beautiful. thes gals often distrub my penance. heihieh e

Just amazing you look both from the heart and ideas as well the literal meaning it carries -

KK said...

//So how many have u scored so far?//
None :(

The sad part is, I only see them from far and wish I knew them and sigh...do they sell guts anywhere??? Should buy lots if they do so... :)

//lolz thats cos ur busy soptting girls na //

Most the gals of my interest generally stand behind the bride, so I stay at the place where vows are done...but you see, I can't concentrate under such situations... :)

Aditi said...

You looked real pretty =)
Seriously virgin.. i thought they said kanya.. wait what is the hindi word for virgin.. pure kanya? binbihayi kanya..
is there a hindi/sanskrit word for virgin?

Keshi said...

~~Eclipsed_Thoughts

hey girl!

**One word for that, "F### off" to the groom or whoever thinks its "good culture"

ROFL hahahaha! High Five!


**Yes, few men's parietal/frontal brains are still now working.... i think 440V ac current would work for them... at least keep the rods on their head for 5 mins....

lollllz hahaha u make me laugh so much Eclipsed! Thanks so much for the laughs lol and I think ur spot on! Ur a tough babez and I like that :):) TY!








~~Manish

**somethings need to b changed

indeed n tnnxx :)








~~Has_To_Be_Me

**That wud make u happy & for sure u might start off a new way of the weddings

yeah..why not change for the better ha :) tnxxx!








~~Ari4u

heyyy Ari!

**i was forced and cornered into having the minimum. Wassup wit the flowers anyway?

lol!


**we didnt have to be told the obvious.

thats so true!



**How come the priest doesnt say the same about the guy, or no one cares?

Im glad u agree with me Ari. SO glad!



**In still can;t believe you have stopped with the man-hunt keeping in mind the serious advertising.

grrrrrrr Ari lolz I aint advertising-stop teasing me now :( SOBBBBBBBZ!







~~Jac

:):) tnxxx Jac!








~~Guns

tnxxx for the compliments Gunzz :)

**BTW, do you know how to wear a saree yourself without any help?

lol na...Mum still dresses me up but I do know it now..I can do it by myself if I had to.

I know that many parts of India wear the sari different. I like each and every way. Saree is such a special outfit...I think the BEST ever. I wore South Indian style :)

U like to see the belly button of ladies in sarees ha? lol okkkkk!








~~Scribblez_To_WakeUp

heyy girl tnxxx :)


**...I have heard Kanya in North Indian weddings but never Virgin and this is a shock to me

Kanni pen means virgin in Tamil. And they say that at Hindu weddings. Kanya is young virgin woman in Sanskrity isnt it? Just curious. In Sinhalese 'Kanya' means Virgin woman.








~~Ghost_Particle

aww tnxxx Ghosty :)

**albeit the very little we get to c u in

very little? lol I thought by now all my blogger friends must be sooo tired of my constant pics! hehehehehe...







~~Known_Stranger

tnxxx KS! :)


**even after your beautiful photo - havent you found any guy ready to help you shed of your feeling not to be single.

hehe na...I think most guys r shy too lol!








~~KK

**...do they sell guts anywhere???

lol awwww...I want to buy some too!








~~Aditi

hey girl!

** thought they said kanya.. wait what is the hindi word for virgin.. pure kanya?

Kanya in Sinhalese (partly Sanskrit) means virgin woman. What's the Hindi word for virgin?



Keshi.

Known Stranger said...

oh guys shy to come forward to a beautiful angel like you! my good ness.. is soemthing going wrong with the dna of guys ? i thought by this time you would be overloaded with proposals, flowers, cards, rings fed up of candle lit dinners - romantic outing for a sunset in evaning...

Oh guys are shy- it unfortunate.. or is that you dont allow guys in your inner circle to be feeling courage enough to come forward to let you know they are going crazy in your kindness of love of heart.

I would have long back shed my singleton if i had a opportunity to get myself to you..

ehiehei - i am not getting married. I was inspired to write this hfter having a chat with one my friend. She recently got married - and i was listening her honey moon stories and first night experience with her man. I was telling she is young for a baby right now and take preventive measure.

she gave a single comment that inspired me to write. She comment " edavathu nadanthana child"

so wrote it- i would seriously think of marrige - if you are ready - :D ;) ;)

Ghost Particle said...

wow cool...okay I hate going to weddings, its stuffy and the bride/ groom will always look like fainting. can u imagine a few hundred people starring at you a saying stuff like beautiful sari, or wrong color, etc. And then a hundred more people crying silently coz that girl is getting married and they handt the courage to propose to her./..hahaha...maybe im watching too many movies. :P

Put up ur sari picture!

Kumar Chetan said...

wats happening Ms Keshi. Too many pics. Did u find some Prince Charming??
;-)
U know wat Indian Wedding for women means changing the dress in every hour or so with matching jewellery.

Keshi said...

~~Known_Stranger

**. I was telling she is young for a baby right now and take preventive measure.

lol ok so now ur family-planning advisor?

U will be ready when Im ready? lolzz ur sooo funny KS, tnxxx!








~~Ghost_Particle

yeah all eyes on u...it's scary na. But when u get married I'll be there to help u stay calm ok?? Dun worry Ghosty :):) Now will u invite me?? lol!








~~Kumar_Chetan

heyyy Kumar where have ya been? WB!

yeah I know..changing sarees n jewellery so many times...its actually a headache!



Keshi.

Twisted DNA said...

You probably haven't read the translation of Manu Dharma Sastra, the official Dharma all Hindus are supposed to live by. It tells people to treat women worse than dogs. Even though Vedas at places said women are like Gods etc. but in general the Hindu mythology does not give equal rights to women. (I mean God Rama asks Sita to burn herslef to prove that she is pure. It is unthinkable that a woman could ask the same thing of a guy). There are so many examples like that.

Also the entier marriage ceremony dates to the time when women were bought and paid for by in terms of cattle and grain. The ceremony has several remnants of that.

Oh by the way, I was raised a Hindu but now I chose not to have a religion.

Aditi said...

I dont know the hindi word for virgin but i know kanya in hindi means girl ladki types.. i dont think it specifically denotes virgin as such..
hmm...

Keshi said...

~~Twsited_DNA

hey tnxxx for that imp info. I hope Samy and Mumbai_Guy who didnt quite agree with me read what u stated. Especially u being a Hindu as well.

** tells people to treat women worse than dogs. Even though Vedas at places said women are like Gods etc. but in general the Hindu mythology does not give equal rights to women..

Samy plz explain this now :)









~~Aditi

oh ok :) Anyways tnxxx sweety!




Keshi.

Known Stranger said...

ha ha ah - i do multiple roles ha ha ha ha h aa ....

yeah .. will be ready when you are ready.. what is the point in sailing a boat when the sea is not ready to get sailed.

Funny.. hieheih thank you thnak you .. i wsh i be more funnier.

atleast can make some around me laugh

Keshi said...

:):) KS.

tnxxx for bringing the smiles.


Keshi.

The Light-House. said...

No matter where a womn hails from a sari has to suit her.
Wedding vow...??
Not much on that.
More than being faithful I seek understanding and being able to get along worst possible times.
A smile every time I think of her is the key. :)

Keshi said...

~~The_Lighthouse

Tarun u got ur facts right...good on ya!



Keshi.

luxurioso said...

puta la hue´a