Thursday, August 7

Together & Apart

I overheard this interesting convo between 2 chicks in the elevator today:


Chick A: I love him and he loves me, but we can't seem to start living together

Chick B: If you 2 love each other why is it so hard to live together?

Chick A: You know, you can love someone so very much but living together is a whole different ballgame...it can wreck things between us...we don't wanna risk it...


Is this true? I mean can you love someone alot but not live with them under the same roof, just cos it may wreck the relationship? If that's true, what is love all about? Can living together kill the love you have for one another? What about our families then? Is this why they say that 'absence makes the heart grow fonder'? Then what about 'out of sight, out of mind'? Also, is this why some really close people who live under the same roof take each other for granted? Is that why they fight alot than they do with outsiders? So, do you think living apart will save the love between 2 people than it would when living together? Does physical proximity bore humans? Tell me, share your experiences and thoughts on this please...can you be together, yet apart...can you be apart, yet together? Or can that love fade away when living together, just like the sketch on the sand (see first pic) can be washed away by the waves, cos it lives too close to the waves....


one more question...do you think you need a break from Keshi? Would our love and friendship be safe and secure if we didn't live together anymore in Blogville? It seems some people find my constant presence here boring and too overpowering, and some seem to have taken it for granted. It's kinda similar to what Chick A said...living together and being around all the time can wreck things between us...true? Can Friends get tired of each other cos of the proximity? Not seeking for attention here, I just want an honest opinion...Thanks guys!


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Hemanth Potluri said...

first thing first lovely pic of urs u look gorgeous

urs..hemu.

Silvara said...

Ahhh Kesh - seems like you're asking the questions that have come right out of my last post...

Read it and tell me what you think...

Love can fade, and so then it depends on the people in the relationship to keep it going. At times you might realise that you can't.

But by not giving love in the first place and taking that risk, you're not loving at all...

Hemanth Potluri said...

as per ur questions .....

s people's heart can be together even we they r far apart....living together does not always make people happy...the far the loved one goes the love increases that much...

living together for long time can cause real troubles as people fight over very small issues and get divorced and never see each other again....

even if ur together or apart the only thing with keeps us combined is love and caring...

if the caring does not exist then there is no use of being together or apart and it does not make a diff....


as per ur second question


i dont feel bored ...i feel some times comin out of stress reading u...dont ever think u will be goin away...there is always some one who never gets bored of frnds ...so dont leave...

urs..hemu..

Arjun said...

no pain no gain
what's the point in being in LOVE... and then worrying / ruminating about the next step....

Every step in life is a RISK....so do we stop walking... no we don't!!

I believe in going with the flow... esp if I'm in love!

the stygian sailor said...

again? why are you so insecure?
*do you think you need a break from Keshi?*
have you looked at your comment box? there are so many ppl coming to your place. if they needed a break they wouldn't come :)

Keshi said...

aww ty Hemanth! :)

Keshi.

Keshi said...

Silvara HUGS!


**But by not giving love in the first place and taking that risk, you're not loving at all...


so true! Well-said there. Taking the risk is also a huge part of that LOVE.


Keshi.

Keshi said...

Hemanth thats a really sweet thing to say, that u dun get bored with mates. HUGS n ty!



**even if ur together or apart the only thing with keeps us combined is love and caring...


so true...very well-said!

So it's not the physical distance...it's the emotional distance that really matters.


Keshi.

Chakoli said...

Hmmmm...

Living together... can wreck relations...

its more of a fear we develop is what I think :))

On living togetehr, the personal space is lost... which is sually not considered by the partners and there is the problem...

but i think it is more of a fear....

even distance cud harm people relations... :((

and ur presence dear....

who thinks so let them... but u cud be with us... as we love you :)))

isnt?

Keshi said...

rather emotional PROXIMITY :)


Keshi.

Keshi said...

hey Arjun!


**Every step in life is a RISK....so do we stop walking... no we don't!!


well-said!


I cudnt really agree with what that chick was saying...she was being SAFE...and when in love, u cant/wont do that.


Keshi.

Keshi said...

Stygian why d u think that qn relates to me being insecure? It has nothing to do with that!

That was a qn related to this post's topic.


And the number of ppl in my blog doesnt define the number of real mates. Does it?



Keshi.

Prashant evolving.. said...

is it necesaary to live seperate whn u r in love or together..think both does not make sense if u love somebody where u live and how u live...does it make a difference..think this question in the first place should not arise.. its quite possible you crave for someone who is away and if someone gets too close we will take him for granted..yeah its like day and night only night tells the importance of day and vice versa..
(first time on your blog so cant answer 2nd question):)

Keshi said...

ty Chakoli!


Yes it's a fear of losing what we've got right now...but w.o. taking risks, we'll never know how far we can go and how much more we can BE.


**On living togetehr, the personal space is lost...

I agree...:(


HUGZ n ty for answering the 2nd qn too!


Keshi.

southpaw said...

You mixed up two diff things out here...breaking free from keshi in the blogville and the conversation between those two chicks is completely different. What those chicks were talking is a very common perception a lot of ppl hv but dont dare to accept it...i m glad that the chick in relationship is fine with what she has rather than risking the whole thing especially when both of them r not so very sure abt the idea of being together under the same roof.

Keshi said...

WC Prashant n ty! :)

I like ur take on this. If ur really in love, there shouldnt even be a qn abt it, right. wow so true!


**yeah its like day and night only night tells the importance of day and vice versa..


beautifully stated!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Southy!

Atleast she's being honest abt it right? ur right there :)



**breaking free from keshi in the blogville and the conversation between those two chicks is completely different


why is it different? I dun think so. Blogville is also an invisible house where so many mates live together...we meet each other on a dailybasis and its a r'ship we hv here. dun u think?


Keshi.

southpaw said...

why is it different? I dun think so. Blogville is also an invisible house where so many mates live together...we meet each other on a dailybasis and its a r'ship we hv here. dun u think?

***It is, but when it comes to one on one love relationship it is diff then this.

tulipspeaks said...

First few years (in some cases, months) of living together will be exciting but as years (/months) go by, things will become rather 'normal'. Your partner no longer 'excites' you. Everything will seem like a routine. Maybe that's what Chick A meant.

Whether its blogville or not, everything seems to have a so-called saturation point. When you reach that point, things won't be exciting anymore. I don't think you have reached that point yet. Keep writing dearie! :

Hugs!


ammu.

the stygian sailor said...

*Stygian why d u think that qn relates to me being insecure? It has nothing to do with that!*
if that be the case, it is good.
i was referring to the few previous post which had similar stuff.

And the number of ppl in my blog doesnt define the number of real mates. Does it?
true it doesn't. even in real life it doesnt. sometimes you who is actually a friend and who isnt.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jkZ6SmvXOEY&feature=related
listen to that

Keshi said...

Southy I agree the kind of LOVE is different between the 2 situations. But this is also a r'ship...between friends. And it involves proximity/distance...


And thats what I meant by that 2nd qn.


Keshi.

Keshi said...

hey Ammu HUGGGGGGGGZ! I missed ya.


**Whether its blogville or not, everything seems to have a so-called saturation point. When you reach that point, things won't be exciting anymore


Finally someone u'stood what Im saying here Amen! :)

thats exactly wut I meant by this post Ammu...and some ppl thought it's my INSECURITY speaking!


I dunno..mebbe Im close to the saturation point...who knows :)


*HUGZ*

Keshi.

τ ħ€ ĐάЎđяёάmёя said...

I agree with CHICK A

but not with u..so u r staying :P

*hugz*

btw the pic came too hot :P

Keshi said...

ty Stygian :)


**true it doesn't. even in real life it doesnt.

I agree..



** sometimes you who is actually a friend and who isnt.


wut d u mean by that?


I know that song...it really is a nice one. so why r u telling me to listen to it?


Keshi.

Keshi said...

lol Bro u agree with Chick A (who u dun even know) but u dun agree with me :( awwww...HUGGGGGGGGZ!


Which pic btw?



Keshi.

the stygian sailor said...

simply.cos i was listening to it :)

*~*{Sameera}*~* said...

Living together is an entirely different ballgame 'cause that is when you come to learn all the little things about the other person when all this while you have only seen their "outdoorsy" side.It is all a question of compatibility and some compromise is essential too,on both sides.And above everything,loads of space for each other once in a while is quintessential.That way,the relationship can never suffocate.

I learnt it the hard way with my best friend(who I had written about in the Fship Day post) and we both are much wiser now :)

As for the second question,Bloggerville would be incomplete without you sweetie.So don't you even think about it!Cool pic girl.Hugssssssssssssssssssss!

Tarun said...

I (& her) have been bearing the brunt of a long distance relationship.
It is tough, especially when U are down in a sombre mood while something really really happy is happening at the other end.
Out of sight,out of mind, well for me, she is neither out of sight and never out of mind.

I am amzed u put up run of the mill blogs.I wonder if I could blog like u do.Ur post touch every possible human emotion.
At least u be honest about what u think and respect what others have to say.
There could be difference of opinion. I think there is a room for that in any relationship, be it friendship or something else.

Cant be together and stay apart.

I dont need a break from keshi, else who will read my cricket post.
ROFL

the stygian sailor said...

sometimes you who is actually a friend and who isnt.
it was supposed to be *you cant say* who...
excuse my word swallowing habit

southpaw said...

Yes but the meanings of the relationships r diff, thats what i meant...
As far as i m concerned i aint going nowhere...i m gonna fight the hell out with u....i m gonna annoy you....but i m not leaving u and going nowhere...:)
A tight squeezing hug...:)

Chakoli said...

:))

yup... there is a risk always :))

afterall relations are the most delicate darling :DD

Dwiteya said...

Keshi.. I agree with the elevator girls(sounds soo kinky.. LOL).. It is easy o love someone, i mean truly love someone deeply, but living together is poles apart...

The husband and I were dating for almost 11 yrs before we got married.. But the 1st 6 months were hell.. Because we realised that wen we were together we were compromising on sooo many angles because we did not want to hurt each other's feelings.. And after we got married, we realised that we have a totally different way of living, doing stuff.. Even our eating & sleeping & other general habits were different...

Arv said...

Keshi... this is something that I dont understand either...

To me, to love someone is to live with them, care for them all our lives... How can someone love
another without feeling the need to be together?

Life would make two people spend time apart and that makes them miss each other more... but I dont see a need for people to stay away from each other voluntarily if they really love each other.

*Does physical proximity bore humans?

Maybe it would if two people are stuck in a room with no other contact forever. But in a normal life where at least one person works, life takes care of it. If it still does, then they should check their attitude.

*can you be together, yet apart...can you be apart, yet together?

I must say that if one is in love with another, he cannot do this unless life pushes them away for some reason. It cannot be a voluntary act unless they pretend to be in love.

*do you think you need a break from Keshi?

Too much noise in the head? Chill da. My answer is - No Way!!!

*Would our love and friendship be safe and secure if we didn't live together anymore in Blogville?

To be honest, it wont change much da. I wont like for you to leave and put a distance in the blogville.

True, we can be in touch outside the blogville... You may even leave this place and end up being my next door girl but the blogsville is something special, is it not?

Even if we were to sit by a tree and talk someday, wont we say to each other that the blogsville is where some relationships were born?

If you ask me da, I would say, this is your place... you can write even if there is no one to read. But I know it feels good when someone is there on the other side to read. So I would tell you to write even if there is just one caring soul who reads it... and you know there is a bunch of them... and you also know that there is a lotus that looks to ya somewhere from the far distance :)

Have a nice evening Keshi... take care... Cheers...

mayz said...

who found u borin n overpowerin???jus temme d name *rollin my sleeves*

Prakhar said...

Hey Keshi,

well i have experienced both "be together, yet apart...be apart, yet together"..but i dun blv in either..relationship cant be generalized...it depends on the individuals involved!

Well I definitely dont need break from u...my blog surfing starts wid ur blog :D!!...so keep goin gal!

mayz said...

damn i have logged into ur blog thrice in d last 15 mins to admire ur pic again n again!!! :D

deepsat said...

ha! living together can wreck things? yes maybe by knowing the person better one might decide that they are not meant together. then ain't they living in an illusion by not know each other!!!

;-))

τ ħ€ ĐάЎđяёάmёя said...

urs duffer..whose pic gonna come out hot if not urs :P


**hugz**

and I always agree to chicks...coz god has made two creation better than anything in the world and that is chicks and chickens:P

stony said...

*Then what about 'out of sight, out of mind'

Too distant a relationship and for too long a time leads to this situation.

*Does physical proximity bore humans?

Living together 24/7 for a long period has a risk of spouses ending up finding faults with each other and finding reasons for breaking up unless they are mature enough to overlook shortcomings of each other.

*It seems some people find my constant presence here boring.

If I was one of them , I would just stop responding to your posts and after a while, when I start missing you, I will start visiting them with more interest. (Also an ideal way to prevent boredom in married life. :))

*Would our love and friendship be safe and secure if we didn't live together anymore in Blogville?

Not for a very long time. Remember 'out of sight, out of mind' situation. :)

Your posts may not and need not be interesting to all the readers all the time. It depends on the characteristic and the mood of the reader. You may also receive the comments accordingly. But that does not mean you give up something which you are so passioante about.

AmitL said...

Hi,Keshi-you know what?I think this depends more on the region where people live.For example,in India,living-in without marriage,is still looked at taboo.While,in the West,it is the norm rather than an exception.

**can you be together, yet apart...can you be apart, yet together?**
Yes!At least,my experiences say so.:)Will elaborate further some day.In a way,perhaps that's the way God planned it,too-that's why the man goes out to work,the woman may or may not go out to work,and,the kid goes off to school.So,it's the absence making the heart fonder everyday.Logical?
---
*Do you think you need a break from Keshi?*....Nooooooooooooooooo....*faints,dramatic Hindi movie style*..who'd give me this day,my daily bread,I mean,dose of thought-provoking posts?(And,thought refers to humour/serious/normal...depending on your mood.:))

Zubin said...

hey...to say the least..Its the risk of loosing someone that makes people so hesitant in a relationship...

but in this case its more the fear of charting new territory. Everyone is conscious while doing something new...Its natural..
I think that CHICK...is just in a normal thought process...finally she may sort things out and go on making a right decision..Its a big decision after all.. :)

Also..slow and study is the mantra of a good relationship..!! :)

Zubin said...

...and ...are you kidding..??

plz...don go away...plz plz plz..(read in a child's accent..:p)

At times..I come online just to check your posts..!!

P.S: You are looking great..!! :)
Now its my turn to perv on you.. lol.

Princess Mia said...

*can you love someone alot but not live with them under the same roof, just cos it may wreck the relationship?

babes its only when u start living together u come to know the real person, sometimes after a few day/ months/years the partner is taken for granted thats when relationships start to crack...may be this is what chick A meant.

physical proximity doesnt not bore humans i guess humans just take things for granted....that what i think.

*can you be together, yet apart...can you be apart, yet together?

yes i think both are possible.

n no i dont need a break from u....c'mon noways....i like reading yur blog n checking out yur fotos ;)

btw babes, is there an email id where i can drop in a mail to ya.let me know i need to connect with u. lemme know if u wanna drop in yur id or i'll drop in mine. ;)

Ria said...

First lemme tell u tht u look gorgeous in tht pic hun!and nw comin to the main topic, i hav heard abt such things.....like ppl livin apart despite being in love, to the extent tht i had read in an article tht ppl live in different rooms in the same house coz they say they need their space! I dont hav any issues with ppl doin this, but i certainly dont agree with it. To me staying together is the ultimate thing, i m so glad tht my guy is in mumbai now. It was jus so difficult to stay apart in different cities....and nw its like v cant wait to get married and start living together. So all i can say is its a matter of choice. And to each his own, but i certainly dont agree tht u need to stay separate to keep the love alive! Mebbe somewhere the couple is insecured and they fear losing each other of they come too close. Hw can u get bored of somebody's constant presence on ur life!? Anyways i m sure this mus hav answered ur 2nd question as well! I love to read ur posts gurl, they give me an insight to new things everyday.....and i m a person of expression so hw can i not like someone expressing herself! :) I can never get bored of ppl i love and care for.

Aphrodite said...

well its true that absence makes the heart grow fonder, again this is true too that living un der the same roof does change things....the responses would vary from person to person....after all emotions specially strong ones such as love can be hard to interpret at times.......I ox reading ur blog...never leave blogville girlie...:)

Pinku said...

ok hard facts of life...

u live together and then u get to know the less than beautiful parts of the other person...the morning breath and many such things.

also when u live together u tend to stop discussing world cinema or politics and discuss you will do the laundry and who cooks more.

Its a major come down from the high brow or utterly romantic meetings which happened thrice a week.

But if u are truly in love, those hiccups cant come in the way of the bliss of waking up in each others arms, morning breath and all.

Ur presence on blogsville is ur perogative...it should not be, must not be dictated by anyones opinion.

Write on sweetheart if your heart so desires, those who care will come round to visit as and when time permits.

Lena said...

thats such crap, i mean if you cant live under one roof and get adjusted to each other's habits, cant learn respect each other's private sphere then what is the point in having relationship?
I believe if living together screws the relationship then feelings and common sense are just not enough there. Sooner or later you still will have to live together, one cant stay apart for the whole life if it is a serious one!


The pic is awesome dear :)

Priya Joyce said...

yes the point which you raised is completely correct and the ideal situation is that we should not get bored of our luv and friends. But I have seen many couples who turn up envious and quarrel almost everyday such tat we don't even think of them as the luv birds of past days.
Now why this happens is I don't know but i think it may be coz no human being can agree with another human being on all issues. Now wat is needed is compromise which only sum do.
My parents' was also a luv marriage and I see tat often they compromise on issues an 1 thing they hav decided is tat never go to bed with a bad mood and tats wat works in our home.
So the point I want to make clear is we are human beings we can get bored but we should not let that boredom get over such a luvly relationship of ours.
And about u

u can never bore anyone with such new and innovative posts buddy .

vishesh said...

sometimes ppl need their own space i think :) no keshi we need you here :)

DewdropDream said...

I suppose it's a matter of getting used to things. Any new thing will have teething problems and once those are ironed out and there's some sort of comfortable routine, then things run pretty smoothly. And no, am not talking of the sort of routine which becomes boring later... it's just the more... dependable rhythm which helps any strange place/relationship/new thing feel familiar and like home... a new home.

SunRays said...

Its a lottery.... you either walk into a nightmare.... or you might just slip into a dream..Decision often reflects the person :)

Chalo cheers and take care!

SMM said...

Hey Keshi....don't khao bhao. if someone doesn't like you being around then balls to them. tell them not to come visit your blog. They don't like they can go to bloghell and remain there. There is absolutely no need for you to give a damn about them :P

Now about together and apart. The situation can be viewed from different angles:

1st angle: The guy & girl are not sure about themselves and their love for the other person. Constantly saying that they love the other person maybe more of a way to convince oneself than an expression of true emotion. Which is why some small thing would always crop up when t comes to being together.

2nd angle: The guy/ gal is an Indian and shit scared that his/ her mother will come to know that he/ she is living in with a girl/ guy, which is why something or the other always comes up when it comes to moving in together except the real reason.

3rd angle: They love each other but also want to maintain their space. If they really are serous about their relation then there will come a point when they will make a move to stay together. Loving someone does not mean giving up one's individuality which is what moving in together may signify for one of two people in the couple under question.

4th angle: Boh parties are too scared to invest more i their relation or take a risk and would rather maintain status quo.

However I think sometimes you need to take a risk to know what the other person feels. You can't just sit back and stay content with things as they are forever. Whether it be the girl moving in with the guy (or vice versa) or the guy proposing (or vice versa) - its all a risk. Love itself is a rsk since you make yourself so vulnerable to another person.

Macadamia The Nut said...

SMOKIN' hot picture Keshigirl!!
As for your question, I'm just going to ignre it with a "Silly girl!!" muttered beneath my breath

:|
Break indeed!

La vida Loca said...

I agree w/ Silvara...
I have done the entire gamut of long distance, different time zone, under the same roof realtionship...its your commitment to the realtionship and acceptance of each other (Warts and all) that helps you along

Stick around Please. If you HAVE to go leave an e mail addy where one can write you(by that I mean me)

Am In Trance said...

Chicks Are Dumb..!!!
Gals Are Way Too Good...!!

U R A Gal..!! Not A Chick...
:)

TakeCare Sweety...

rayshma said...

"love" is a much used & abused word. commonly, it pertains to that heady feeling... and a lot of mush!

but loving someone and living with someone are totally different, girl. there are so many little little things that u don't know abt a person. no matter how long u've been "in love" with him. once u're living in with someone, these little annoyances become MAJOR issues.
living together is never smooth sailing. it's a lot of adjusting. to each other and to the situations. having to share the bathroom!! when u go on a date, u're the center of his attention... not possible for someone to shower that much on u all the time, right! and many more such!
it's all nice to say u're in "love"...but it's wise to know that love is not all romantic only... there's a lot more involved.

as far as friends are concerned... depends on the individuals. seeing the quantum of comments, i don't think anyone here is bored of u. are u bored...?

joiedevivre said...

keshi
it dat u in pic
wow!! the real chick is here i say
haha

seriously i dnt kno..hav not been in luv.
so cant say abt it

Iceman said...

I've heard from ppl that "Love" is not a feeling but an ability... And I completely lack that as of now...

So.. I have no idea how it works.... guess... everyone has to walk the line and find it out... rather than thinking or speculating it may or may not wreck things... or work out...

Only chickens(headless) will talk like this... Honestly... the conversation din't make sense at all to me...

If it works great.. u have a life time of happiness.. if it wrecks... big deal.. get over it or get even... and there's always the next one... to look forward to.. life doesn't end...

The most wonderful lesson I learnt about life is in 3 words... "It Goes on..."

Ne said...

I Think living together is something that is more mental than physical.. I mean once ya move in with the person are you really able to handle his or her ways??? That would take a lot of thinking and sleeping on for me to come out with that answer!

Do you think you need a break from Keshi? I don't need a break from my HOT shopping Sis, that tells it like it is and that also gives us real food for thought!

Would our love and friendship be safe and secure if we didn't live together anymore in Blogville? How else am I going to get the full dose of you? I live her with you and I love being here..

Being around all the time can wreck things between us...true? False!

Can Friends get tired of each other cos of the proximity? Yes friends can! But you are an exception!! DON'T YOU BE GOING ANYWHERE!!! Remember, We are roomie's if you have a date or my Boo comes over I will hang a scarf on the door so you will not to use the extra place next door! LOL!!!
I LOVE YA GIRL!!!!

Crystal.. said...

you look lovely in the pic,Kesh..
and even if you live a thousand miles aprt..i still feel wht you feel..and we do have a strng conn..dont we?

i ws just going thru yr posts which i missed..and you had written about Janice..(may her soul r.i.p)..so..dont you think even when you didnt knw her personally..you did feel for her..and you have a sorta conn with her?

the far the loved one goes the love increases that much...is wht i think.
even though distances make you suffer..but its like ...harr haar ke aage jeet hai (behind every defeat..thre is hidden success..)
i knw this isn't directly relatd to yr ques but..maybe it answers it..somehow

muah

humbl devil said...

click

di.di said...

maybe Chic A is right, who knows.. maybe marriage takes a lot more effort and work, a lot more faith and trust compared to during courtship... I dont know...

WP 2007 - 08 said...

Hi Keshi

Cool shades dude. LOL

I think marriage should have a beginner permit before you get a marriage license - much like a driver permit.

I’ve seen many couples live together very happily. Then when they get married, it’s like someone blew out the flame.

Damn, the phone’s ringing; I’ll let it go to my voicemail. I just did the very thing my post talks about. LOL

Have a great weekend.

Hugs

Bev

Parul Gupta said...

hey keshi...
i believe if the love shared by two persons is true love then love can pass all tests of time...i feel true love only grows more by living together...true there may be occassional rifts but wen u see world together u can only only come closer....
n btw we r not at all bored of keshi...her posts r too interesting to miss out.....
love
parul

Solitaire said...

I think that a lot of people (though not all) do find that living together takes the magic out of a relationship and that they do take each other for granted. Some people realize how much they miss someone else only after they stay apart from that person. I think a lot of things are involved in a relationship, some of which are the person's relationships with other people.

If A and B have a lot of support and love from other people, the love from each other may not be that magical to them. But if they only have each other, then it may be hard for them stay apart.

Makes sense? I hope so.

Vinz aka Vinu aka Vinayak said...

mmm...

personally i feel, loving each other cant be a guarentee that we can live together ever happily..

there comes a lots of other factors..too..family,friends blah blah...

and loving each other truly, understnading each other completly, giving the space totally..i think love is never gonna fade ever...atleast thats what i have seen around me.!!

Jay said...

I think it's possible for two people to love each other but also have a very difficult relationship. Sometimes people have different opinions or beliefs or just have personality clashes. But, they still love each other for many other reasons. So, yes, it's possible for two people to love each other but not be able to live together.

As for you, NO I don't need a break from Keshi at all. Maybe some people think they do, but that might be there own problem. People love to blame others for their own problems all the time. So if they think they need a break from you maybe its because they have some kind of personal thing where they are jealous or whatever.

But, I don't need a break from you or any of my blog friends at all.

Divkiran said...

WOW...someones lookin gorgeous here.

And what a coincidence...just updated my blog on a a similar topis about love

It takes a lot of confusion, time and sometimes a lot of failed reltionships as well to really know what love is....but I believe, once you know what it is and who you are in love with, it all falls in place...

When its love, its a hill, a rock a mountain, no waves can fade it or move it....otherwise its just an illusion....love is never temporary

Out of sight is not always out of mind - remeber the frind you mentioned in your last blog....she still lives in your heart....and for all of us at blogville....well we have never even met

And No, I don need a break from Keshi.....infact i don like missin on any of your posts...i rather miss the days i am not able to catch up or the days thrs no post on ur blog..

And yes....the frndshp will stay even if u disappear...m sure if we try, we all can find ways to connect other thn blogville...

As far as frirndship n proximity is concerned...i'd rather have all my friends around me all the time...it the distance n driftin apart tht scares me the most

PHEW!!! this is my longest comment EVER...lol

HUGZ n MUAZ

Invincible said...

that's the proverbial 'insecurity in a relationship'. It's like the difference between being someone's best friend and being their spouse. Between gabbing for hrs on phone and actually with them for hrs and with only them. There is always some tension when 2 ppl start living together. ANd sometimes, you so not want to break it, that you don't want to take that risk. Of course it will work out eventually if they are in love.

@ ur constant presence in blogville - well look at us ! I think we are still buddies despite my long absence and erratic spells of blog resistance.

Keshi said...

hey Stygian!

**simply.cos i was listening to it

awww...so sweet...

somehow I thought u wanted me to listen to it cos I raise u up..lol!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

Sameera thats so true...u'll never really 'know' a person unless u live with em too.


aww ty for wut u said abt me HUGGGGGGGGGZ!

Kelle oyath ae vagemai!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

haha Tarun I luv ur Cricket posts anyways!

Its great that we all hv varying interests and topics to write abt. It wud be boring if we all wrote abt the same things right? :)


So ur girl lives far away from u? but Im glad she's not out of ur mind. :) it just goes to show that wut matters is the emotional proximity after all.



**There could be difference of opinion. I think there is a room for that in any relationship, be it friendship or something else.


definitely! And some ppl here think I always wanna be right. Thats not it. This is just my blog and I write MY opinions. That doesnt mean I WANNA BE RIGHT or Im RIGHT. :) We all just hv opinions and none of us are right/wrong.


Im glad u got that :) n tnxx!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

Stygian hello!

**sometimes you who is actually a friend and who isnt.

I still didnt get it..lol!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

aww Southy HUGGGGGGGGGZ! :)

ur wonderful!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

Chakoli I agree...r'ships r so very delicate tho we like to believe they r strong.

Keshi.

Keshi said...

hey Dwiteya tnxx!


yes those elevator chicks were HOT...I turned ard and had a look at them too hehehe...



**Because we realised that wen we were together we were compromising on sooo many angles because we did not want to hurt each other's feelings


there u go! sometimes we all do that, just to keep it going..


And yes, living together and loving someone r poles apart...well-said!



Keshi.

Pecos Blue said...

Better to have love and lost than never to have loved at all. I know it is over used but it is so true.

Keshi said...

Arv ur comments r always so heartfelt. They exude warmth and genuinity. ty n HUGS!



**How can someone love
another without feeling the need to be together?


I agree with u. But for some ppl, it seems that physical proximity can wreck things. I think they believe that it's the emotional proximity that matters after all. And if that keeps em going, then its still good for em, dun u think?


Abt me being in Blogville...I dunno...I feel we r all so close yet so distant. Think abt it Arv...we r not physically close but mentally we r...and that still keeps us going right? wut say :)


*HUGZ*

Keshi.

Keshi said...

haha Mayz @rollin my sleeves*! Wud love to see ya doin that :)

*HUGZ*


Keshi.

anits said...

hi keshi..hru..hey u luk gorgeous babe!!! hey who said ur constant post is boring..NOT AT ALL..please continue..dont take break..coz im enjoying ur creative posts!
anyway gal..hv a good weekends..n tcare

Keshi said...

ty Prakhar!


**but i dun blv in either..relationship cant be generalized...it depends on the individuals involved


I hv to agree with ya! yes, to each his own.


Sometimes I hv found some r'ships in my life flourishing beautifully when we r physically distant...and it all falls apart when we get closer.


Blogville is also like that...I mean we r all closer mentally, but not physically. Imagine if we all saw each other and met each otehr daily like this? Wut wud happen to our r'ships then? I wonder...


Ur surfing starts with my blog? awww...HUGS Prakhar! :)

Keshi.

Keshi said...

hey Mayz :)

**damn i have logged into ur blog thrice in d last 15 mins to admire ur pic again n again


lol r ya serious? o cmon that pic is not so great! Look at me in it..messy hair, simple t-shirt and a funny pose :):)


Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Deepz!



**yes maybe by knowing the person better one might decide that they are not meant together.

thats true..



**then ain't they living in an illusion by not know each other


but why wud it be an illusion just cos they are not living together? Is 'living together' a necessity for their LOVE to be real?


Keshi.

Keshi said...

lol bro u and ur addiction to chicks and chooks. HUGS!


**urs duffer..whose pic gonna come out hot if not urs


o cmon dun flatter me flat hehehe...


My bro's pics come out the hottest ya know...with yellow flowers on his green crotch n all lol!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Stony!


***Then what about 'out of sight, out of mind'
Too distant a relationship and for too long a time leads to this situation.


really? I thought distance/proximity shouldnt matter when it comes to real LOVE?





**Living together 24/7 for a long period has a risk of spouses ending up finding faults with each other and finding reasons for breaking up unless they are mature enough to overlook shortcomings of each other.


I agree..no LOVE is fight-free :)




**If I was one of them , I would just stop responding to your posts and after a while, when I start missing you, I will start visiting them with more interest. (Also an ideal way to prevent boredom in married life. :))


aww :) HUGS! And I agree...this is so related to the topic. When we get tired of each other, we do need a break...





**Not for a very long time. Remember 'out of sight, out of mind' situation. :)

hehehe..in this case, yes it can happen..cos its virtual.




**But that does not mean you give up something which you are so passioante about.


I agree...I'll give up only when Im tired of it :)


*HUGZ* Stony n ty!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Amit!

And yes I agree...God planned it all ha, for r'ships to be that way :)



**....*faints,dramatic Hindi movie style*.


LOL so is the song 'ruk ja' from DDLJ playing at the bak? :):)


*HUGZ* I give thy ur daily bread ha? LOL!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

hey Zubin!

*deep down Keshi screams 'omg he is here!' but pretends to be in control*


lol! ;-)



**but in this case its more the fear of charting new territory. Everyone is conscious while doing something new...Its natural..


I agree..anything NEW, anything out of our Comfort-Zones freak us out..atleast for a while..



**plz...don go away...plz plz plz..(read in a child's accent

lol so cute!

So since Zubin is now a child, I can carry him and give him a big cuddle right? :)


Keshi.

Keshi said...

hey Mia HUGS n ty!



** sometimes after a few day/ months/years the partner is taken for granted thats when relationships start to crack...may be this is what chick A meant.


I agree..cos thats when REALITY starts to settle in.

But if there's real LOVE, nothing can affect it..wut say?


my email..ok I'll send it to u soon :) MWAH!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

aww ty Ria and I never get bored of reading ur blog too MWAH!


**but i certainly dont agree tht u need to stay separate to keep the love alive! Mebbe somewhere the couple is insecured and they fear losing each other of they come too close.

mebbe ur right there...insecurities and reluctance to adapt to NEW things..


And like u, I too believe that real LOVE shouldnt be affected by any kind of distance/proximity...the only proximity it seeks is 'emotional'.



Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Aphrodite!


**all emotions specially strong ones such as love can be hard to interpret at times.......


I agree...for some ppl, the distance doesnt matter but for some it does..


And ty n HUGS! :)


Keshi.

Keshi said...

aww ty Pinku and u said it the best...its upto me in the end. HUGS!



**...the morning breath and many such things.

lol good one!



**also when u live together u tend to stop discussing world cinema or politics and discuss you will do the laundry and who cooks more.

haha soooo true! And the toilet seat issues too hehe...


I think when u really love a person, we learn to overcome all those barriers and we learn to love the flaws in him/her too...

basically wut Im trying to say is that LOVE is bigger than the toilet seat issue. lol!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Lena HUGS! :)


**I believe if living together screws the relationship then feelings and common sense are just not enough there. Sooner or later you still will have to live together, one cant stay apart for the whole life if it is a serious one!


so very true...well-said there girl!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Joyce sweetz!

wow ur only so very young and know so much? Im amazed at ur wisdom!



**Now why this happens is I don't know but i think it may be coz no human being can agree with another human being on all issues. Now wat is needed is compromise which only sum do.


Spot on! And some couples let small disagreements grow into deep pits and end up being separated...


*HUGZ* n ty!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

aww ty Vish!


**sometimes ppl need their own space i think


I agree...it also comes down to us being 'indivdiuals' by birth. Tho we need one another, we do need our 'space' every now n then.


Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Dewdrop!


** am not talking of the sort of routine which becomes boring later... it's just the more... dependable rhythm which helps any strange place/relationship/new thing feel familiar and like home... a new home.


wow thats a cool take on this. I love how u put it.


Keshi.

Keshi said...

hey Sunrays ty! And WC :)



**Its a lottery.... you either walk into a nightmare.... or you might just slip into a dream.

beautifully and so rightly stated!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

WOW SMM I totally loved ur comment on this one. TY for that!




**1st angle: Constantly saying that they love the other person maybe more of a way to convince oneself than an expression of true emotion.


I agree..that cud be true. Sometimes we try to convince oursleves of something by using WORDS only...but in real, its not even there. Basically, we r in denial.




**2nd angle: The guy/ gal is an Indian and shit scared that his/ her mother will come to know that he/ she is living in with a girl/ guy, which is why something or the other always comes up when it comes to moving in together except the real reason.


hehe I hv seen so many ppl like that here in Aus...





**3rd angle: They love each other but also want to maintain their space. If they really are serous about their relation then there will come a point when they will make a move to stay together. Loving someone does not mean giving up one's individuality which is what moving in together may signify for one of two people in the couple under question.


Well-said there girl! I think some of us individuals r scared that we may lose our space, indiviiduality and freedom if we move in with someone...the fear to tread on new territories is inherent to most humans...





**4th angle: Boh parties are too scared to invest more i their relation or take a risk and would rather maintain status quo.


Yes..again its the space and freedom thingy..


But like u said, taking risks is also a huge part of being in LOVE...if we dun take risks in life, are we really living? I guess not.


That was a great comment from u!



Keshi.

Keshi said...

haha I love ya Maca!

Where the bloody hell hv ya been? Im begnning to think ur running away with ur BF? lol HUGGGGGGGGZ!


I so bloody missed ya chickzy!


*MWAH*


Keshi.

Keshi said...

aww LaVida, if Im going, I wont go this way...u know I'll post abt 20 Goodbye posts before I really leave. LOL!


*HUGZ*


**its your commitment to the realtionship and acceptance of each other (Warts and all) that helps you along


I agree...like Silvara and u said, the initial passion may die, but the LOVE will remain somehow..if ur in it for real that is.


Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Trance!


**Chicks Are Dumb..!!!
Gals Are Way Too Good...!!


huh wut does that mean? :)


Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Rayshma!

**living together is never smooth sailing. it's a lot of adjusting. to each other and to the situations. having to share the bathroom!!


well-said, cos thats what I dread. Sharing the bathroom I mean lol! ok, as narrow-minded and selfish as I may sound, Im in trauma when I think of a MAN sharing my bathroom with me!



*HUGZ* Im not bored Raysh..I just felt some mates r bored with me :(



Keshi.

Keshi said...

Joi hey tnxx, yes thats Keshi chick in the pic :) HUGS!


aww u hv never been in luv? never? cmon Im sure a beautiful and exressive girl like u must hv felt something for someone?


Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Iceman!


**Love" is not a feeling but an ability..

in that case Im must hv a rather serious 'disability' :) cos it seems I dun fall in love that easily anmore.... :(


I agree..IT GOES ON. I like ur attitude to life dude..way to go!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

Ne darling, u r wise beyond ur years WOW! That paratrooper of a dude is one lucky bastard lol!


I agree..moving in together is more of mental (not mad lol!) r'ship than a physical one. U need to be able to maintain that and compromise too.



**Remember, We are roomie's if you have a date or my Boo comes over I will hang a scarf on the door so you will not to use the extra place next door!


hahaha good one I laffed so hard! wut if I hang a scarf on the door before u lol!


*MWAH* I love the girl in u too! U r so very special Ne.


Keshi.

Keshi said...

aww ty Crystal u too hun MWAH!



**dont you think even when you didnt knw her personally..you did feel for her..and you have a sorta conn with her?


I did, I agree. And I still do. And thats a great example Crystal :) It just shows LOVE n Friendship isnt abt physical proximity...its abt emotional proximity.



*HUGZ*


Keshi.

Keshi said...

Devil I was so shocked when I read that WOW!

So that means when in love, physical distance can tare ppl apart and drive them to depression? WOW I was so freaked out reading that.


tnxx for sharing that apt article with us in this post!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Diva!



**maybe Chic A is right, who knows.. maybe marriage takes a lot more effort and work, a lot more faith and trust compared to during courtship... I dont know...


yes...even I thought abt it that way. At first, when I heard Chick A saying that, I felt that she was some kinda chicken...a girl who didnt wanna take risks. But later on, I was thinking..mebbe marriage and moving in together does come with it's own toll. Everything does anyways.

And to each his own.

Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Bev dude, wussup yo man! LOL!



**I think marriage should have a beginner permit before you get a marriage license - much like a driver permit.


haha true...Im not even on L-boards then lol! mebbe I mite be on L-boards forever?




**I’ve seen many couples live together very happily. Then when they get married, it’s like someone blew out the flame.


I've seen that too! I dun mean EVERY married couple, but most of em. But b4 marriage these couples were so exciting to watch and so very 'forever-in-love'ish. Along came marriage and they looked like a funeral. LOL!


I'll check ur post soon. HUGS!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

aww ty Parul HUGS!


**...i feel true love only grows more by living together...

ur right...but I've seen ppl living together but so not in love...wut d u think abt that Parul? :)


Keshi.

Keshi said...

tnxx Sol!


I know wut u mean...sometimes living together can take that spark out of the r'ship. I hv seen that happening to too many mates of mine. But, its not that they fall out of love..its just that the initial magic of it dies, thats all. And some others fall out of love too.



**But if they only have each other, then it may be hard for them stay apart.


I agree. But look at this story Sol...I hv 2 friends who fell in love with each other n got married..they hv 2 young kids now..recently they've gotten tired of it all and fighting all the time..now they r on the brink of separation. These 2 ppl didnt hv any others to support em...it was just the 2 of em always. So wut happened there?



Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Vinu!


**personally i feel, loving each other cant be a guarentee that we can live together ever happily..

I agree. And vice versa..


Keshi.

Compassion Unlimitted said...

Anything in excess is always susceptible to boredom !
TC
CU

Keshi said...

aw Jay ty so much n HUGS! I know, I can never hv a break w.o. JAY included in my break too ;-)


**So, yes, it's possible for two people to love each other but not be able to live together.


I agree. ur spot on there. Being in love does not require to live together and vice versa. Its emotional proximity that matters after all. And to be emotionally close, u dun HAVE to be physically close.


Keshi.

Keshi said...

Div hey look who's lookin gorgeous and calling others gorgeous! U look so beautiful in that pic! Lovely smile :)



**When its love, its a hill, a rock a mountain, no waves can fade it or move it....otherwise its just an illusion....love is never temporary


I agree. But if Love is unconquerable and so real like u said, should distance really matter?


And ty for that sweetie...I feel the same way abt ur posts..I cant wait to read em everyday. :) HUGGGGGGGGGZ!


Keshi.

Helen said...

Love can be painful and cause suffering, but learning the thousands of little compromises and life lessons b/c you love someone and want to spend time with them is well worth the sacrifice of a 'perfect relationship.'

I wish I could visit more often, Keshi, but no, I never tire of you. You have an amazing gift that you give away--free--and I love to orbit in your presence.

You embody a sentiment by the writer Isaac Bashevis Singer:

"...And so it is with all things. If you are not happy, act the happy man. Happiness will come later. So also with faith. If you are in despair, act as though you believed. Faith will come afterwards."

I come to your blog with all types of moods and sentiments, and I just feel happy when your happiness reaches across the world. I know life is not always perfect for you and things don't always go your way, but you just possess this beautiful happiness and faith that inspires and draws people to you. To not share that would be a tragedy. I can only guess the care that you evince in RL. I'm so happy we share the same Blogville neighborhood!!!

xxooxxooxxoo

AVIANA said...

hey girly,

i think for some people it is best to live apart even though they love each other tremendously....

i for sure don't want that...i mean i don't have to have you next to me constantly on a daily basis for me to know and feel close to you but i do need to feel connected...i need to know that....

it could be something as being apart for some period of time due to work but we have ourphones next to us on speaker phone while we sleep so we can hear each other breathe...sounds corny...but i love that...very few people have that...

or at least i know i can reach you and you can reach me at any moment just to talk...

but to choose to be apart all the time...i don't want that at all...

and NO don't leave blogville....if people are tired of ya then they can read another blog...

this is YOUR BLOG!!! nobody else's!

keep doing you....don't worry about others...

muah!

the_thinker said...

i wish i could say anything about love, first i don't know about it and second if i say something i might sound rebellious...love or whatever it is, is so euphemeral(i have already sounded euphemeral) though a filial one is usually permanent....
..to ur last question..i m so sorry..i do think the friendship will be effected if one of us were out of blogville...u'll be there till u keep writing...i'll be there till i write...I do not expect anything more...i m so sorry if i hurt you by speaking my heart...

Keshi said...

aww v000nie ur special..thats why we r still 'connected' even after years of separation :) HUGS!



**ANd sometimes, you so not want to break it, that you don't want to take that risk.


yes...when ppl get too close, and start living together, the magic can die. However, like u said, if the love is real, who wants that initial magic to last forever :)


Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Pecos!


**Better to have love and lost than never to have loved at all.

well-said. Taking risks is also abt being in LOVE.


Keshi.

Keshi said...

hey Anits ty dahlin MWAH! :)

no one said Im boring...I just wanted to know hehe...

Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty CU!

**Anything in excess is always susceptible to boredom !


even partners?


Keshi.

Keshi said...

aww Helen u made me cry :) HUGGGGGGGGGZ!


**"...And so it is with all things. If you are not happy, act the happy man. Happiness will come later. So also with faith. If you are in despair, act as though you believed. Faith will come afterwards."


thats a beautiful quote! Somehow u seem to READ me very well :) How may that be? Cos u hv been thru it all too...and u carry the same 'positivity' no matter what. Thats wut I luv abt ya sweetz.


My life is FAR from perfect...and yes my life is FAR from my HAPPY nature. But even tho I cant control things that happen in my life, I can control my outlook to it all. Just like u said :) Im richer for knowing ppl like u Helen. U bring out the best in me. So TY!


Also, like u said, Love comes with compromises..and if u really love someone, u can do ANYTHING.


*MWAH* stay beautiful!

Keshi.

Deepti said...

I think its all in the head!! If you think it will cause friction, it will... Love is all about sharing isnt it and let me quote
"The conception of two people living together for twenty-five years without having a cross word suggests a lack of spirit only to be admired in sheep...Alan Patrick Herbert"

And about you .. you are a sweetheart .. if anyone gets tired of you .. then they need to see the shrink!! Hugsss

Keshi said...

hey Lisa how is it going babez? HUGS n ty!


**or at least i know i can reach you and you can reach me at any moment just to talk...


I know wut u mean. If the 'connection' is there, distance dun matter.

Also, Im like u. I cant be at a distance all the time. :) There needs to be physical proximity too. But to each his own.


MWAH I know u truly do value me being here. tnxx hun!

Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Thinker!

yes many things r TEMPORARY. Its our need to believe that these things r FOREVER, that keeps us evaluating em from time to time. :) ur spot on there!



**u'll be there till u keep writing...i'll be there till i write...I do not expect anything more...i m so sorry if i hurt you by speaking my heart...


no u didnt hurt me at all, it's the TRUTH. And I believe in that too. I mean look at Janice...she died. I miss her but Im still here blogging and so is her connection with me :)


I like ur honesty Thinker!

Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Deepti!


**"The conception of two people living together for twenty-five years without having a cross word suggests a lack of spirit only to be admired in sheep

ur spot on there! ppl hv egos n ofcourse they will clash :)



*HUGZ* n tnxx for that sweetz. I know u care.


Keshi.

SMM said...

Good Morning...I'm guessing your online right now :)

Keshi said...

Good morning SMM! YESSHHHHHHHH Im online now :)


hows u?



Keshi.

SMM said...

I;m doing good....just reached office. I'm guessing it must be late evening in your part of the world right now

Keshi said...

hey SMM thats good to know :) d u hv cute Indian guys in ur office? lol!

yes its 3pm here.


Keshi.

Southpaw unplugged said...

How r we doing today kesshhaaayyy?:)

Ash said...

You look gorgeous, Keshi.

And the answer to this questions is - It Depends. Its hard to have a one-size-fits-all solution. People and couples are all different and so are the answers :-)

mayz said...

simple t-shirt...hmmm..when did clothes ever even matter ;)

Invincible said...

hey !
thnx for dropping comments on so many posts :)

You know i was talking to Uttara over the weekend, may be after like a year or so, reminiscing the "good old" days. Then i called up meso (m000nie) and on both occasions we talked about you and your blog, being still active and rocking !

ruSh.Me said...

The disaster named love shud be Banned!!!

SMM said...

Keshi do you want me to get divorced? You want me to confess here on your blog whether or not there are cute Indian guys in my office. Arjun reads your blog babe :P

carolinagal said...

Keshiiiii!!!

Guess who I met today!!

Ready??









JOHN ABRAHAM!!!

Not kidding!! I totally met him today!!

girish kohli said...

i guess what they're saying is...they have a good time with each other...but they dont necessarily know whether they need each other in their daily lives...

as to where the word love fits in...its jst a word...the meaning behind is wat matters...everyone puts their own meaning to it...so call having sex...making love...
others call being romanitcally involved as being in love...then there are the ppl who find that they cant do without someone in their live as being in love...

i think the chicken loves me...it gave its life to feed me :P

girish kohli said...

as far as taking a break is concerned...i wud say we are all free birds bound to various chains...some that we choose and some tht are forced...if u feel ure being chained down by being here i wud say break free...u shud visit a garden not coz ure chained to it...but coz u want to...

Tarun said...

Yeah there is a phuscial distance of close to 700 kms but thats never ever too far.
Been a few months since I saw her physcially.
She has amazing green sexy eyes.

Keshi said...

Souhty hey :) will update soon tnxx!

Keshi.

Keshi said...

hey Ash ty sweetz :)

I agree...everyone is different. Different strokes for different folks hehe.


Keshi.

Keshi said...

I know Mayz...I was testing ya lol!

Keshi.

Keshi said...

wow really v000nie? aww HUGS! :)

I'll be 'active' as long as Im alive, I think lol!


Keshi.

Cinderella. said...

Living together is indeed a different ball game altogether girl....and I think you should go for it only when you think you're ready for the plunge - taking the relationship to the next level like thay say. So I will agree with the Chick A !

And about having had enough of you...ah ! I think I have had enough of myself here.....I am so uninspired these days.

Again, I will repeat the same thing. You are here cz you like blogging, not cz ppl think you're good at blogging.

PPl who will have had enough of you will choose to stay away.....whether you will wanna leve cz of them is your choice at the end of the day.

Keshi said...

Rush.Me I agree...sometimes LOVE can chew alot off us :(


Keshi.

Keshi said...

lol SMM I was asking for me :)

Keshi.

Keshi said...

CG I cant believe thattt noooooooooooooooooo!


wutttttttttttt u met John Abraham? MY one? lol! omggggggg I cant believe it!

*faints cries n kicks*

WHERE??? did u tell him abt me? :):)


tell me more!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

hey Mystique :)

**as to where the word love fits in...its jst a word...the meaning behind is wat matters...everyone puts their own meaning to it...

I agree...


Keshi.

Keshi said...

**u shud visit a garden not coz ure chained to it...but coz u want to...


agree again :) tnxx!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

Tarun green eyes? wow! I wanna see her :)

Keshi.

Keshi said...

Hey Cindy dun tell me u gonna stop blogging :(


And like u said, I kinda agree with Chick A too...it takes alot of effort and time to be able to live with someone...I guess.


*HUGZ* stay..


Keshi.

Tarun said...

Yeah.
Will post "the" snap some day dont know when.

:P

Or if I post it on flickr or something like that then will send the link on my blog.

Ciao

Arv said...

True Keshi and I like ya too :)

but outside, we need that physical presence... and it varies based on the relationship. Friendships survive the test of time while a couple needs a good time together...

well... let me not get carried away here :)

talk to ya soon... take care and have a nice evening... Cheers...

gunj said...

well i hav seen relationships break because d couple started living togethr n it became difficult fo them!!

n babes i dnt think anybody needs a break from u or viva forever!
u rock!:)

Jeevan said...

Living together or apart, the must is having true love. Love must be shared only through living together is possible. And I feel love should not disturb some ones privacy at same time.

HOBO said...

Living together is "The Best" always.
Re. : your question
MY honest reply is that I find less time to read what you say. I love to see your posts in short.
Yes, I am honest that I am short of time.
but if you think you are Ok you can be what you are.
:) plzzz

Princess Mia said...

*But if there's real LOVE, nothing can affect it..wut say?

well its not that nothing can affect love, we r humans after all, we e sensitive to r needs n expectations....thus when teh abv r not met , it starts affecting the relationship....grrrr in short i mean....one can be blinded in love for a while not always, cos soon reality hits u n one has to get logical in life thats when love is questioned.

i dunno if u got what am saying i am just unable to explain it right now , may be i'll come back on this later again. :)

n yeah babes me looking forward for yru email id...leave me yur id on one of my older posts ;) cheers....have a great weekend hon

Prakhar said...

I dont kno..wat will happen if we all see each other daily...probably we will start takin each other for granted...probably we will have a blast..one hell of a time together..i dun kno....

what i know is it depends on us...how we want the relationship to be...

nd ya wl like to meet you once in lifetime...probably when both of us are really old!! :D

joiedevivre said...

nope
still single
wat to do..
havent felt dat special feeling for anyone

Zubin said...

*So since Zubin is now a child, I can carry him and give him a big cuddle right? :)*

Wont that make me a human faced chihuahua...and you Paris Hilton..!! :o..
LOL..

ya sure why not.. :p

rantravereflect/ jane said...

awesum pic.. out in the open, carefree and great tresses n shades :)
geeee..
they say familiarity breeds contempt- when 2 people stay together, it may not be glossy and bang-bang-boom-boom, but the love that they have for each other is persistent and omnipresent..

as far as you are concerned, blogville cannot do without you- you're like a light that radiates warmth, love, humor and philosophy.. you definitely are a common thread taht unites a lotta peopel at a common melting point..

:* lodsa lovee n hugssss

Tejas Lakhani said...

I don't think that friends get tired of each oher coz of proximity.

*living together and being around all the time can wreck thing between them?

Well well its no that they will see each other whole day. they go to work. meet new people and by just hanging out and don't marry is lame excuse of not taking responsiblity.

shooting star said...

hi dear!!! hope u having a nice wekend!!
now that am married for some time and living with a person 24/7..i'll say this..its easy to love a person but not so easy to live with him 24/7...not coz love fades away in everyday chores...but its not so easy to share your space.....and no matter how much you might love a person ...when you actually start living with him/her...you find out if your love will endure...and more importantly...are you friends and lovers...or just lovers....and that's the most critical factors in making or breaking relationships..if two people are friends...their love will endure pain, anger,everyday stress and tensions...if not ..love just fades...coz only love is fueled by passion..which is momentary.....

ani said...

really cool pic babez..

and must say.. i am not quite sure if thats the case.. i mean u end up loving the person because way they are.. and that should cause much hinderance in living with them.. unless the differences are so big that you cant think about getting past it ..

living together is a big step.. that means you are allowing the other person.. in to ur very private life.. which they never had access to before..

guess some ppl take more time to get ready for such a big step..

Aneesh said...

If the love is sincere, then I should say the chick you mentioned is saying bullshit!! 'N I don't know what's her definition of love. Maybe it's something like having fun together when they get time and later forget easily or try someone else if it gets boring!!

BTW, I guess you are talking about leaving blogville in almost all weekends. So, you might be bored with us than we getting bored of you!! LOL

Dawn....सेहर said...

First of all your pic rocks!!! You look awesome as always beautiful and sexy ;)
About the Q's no I dont think so! Because its the fear in your mind that you think that if you live with your loved one's the relationship may wreck! I think that's being lacking confidense in self!
So does that gives the answer to the 2nd one too :D
You crazy girl if anyone needs break let them break why you bother....you keep up the good work ....rest he will take care ;)
Love and Hugz....am rushing to shop hence will come later and check your other post
till then chill out
Cheers

Keshi said...

k Tarun that'll be great!

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Keshi said...

hehe yes Arv tnxx mate!

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Keshi said...

hey ty Gunj HUGS!

**well i hav seen relationships break because d couple started living togethr n it became difficult fo them

yes me too...I hv seen that too. But also, I hv seen happy couples living-together too.


so I think to each his own right?

:)

Keshi.

Keshi said...

Well-said Jeevan!

**And I feel love should not disturb some ones privacy at same time

Agreed! There should always be some personal space..


Keshi.

Keshi said...

hehe Hobo ur sweet. alrite I'll try to make SOME posts short ok? lol!

tnxx for being so honest!

Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Mia HUGS!

**cos soon reality hits u n one has to get logical in life thats when love is questioned.


I so agree. well-said there. Love is not gonna feed ppl's egos or tummy :)



Keshi.

Keshi said...

yes Prakhar I agree...it depends on if we click...


**nd ya wl like to meet you once in lifetime...probably when both of us are really old


lol n yes, by that time I'd be too blind to see ya, too deaf to hear ya etc etc :):)


*HUGZ*

Keshi.

Keshi said...

Joi awww HUGS!

I know how u feel...I was in love a couple of times...but not for a very long time now.

It doesnt happen that easily...if it does, its most prolly not real. So wait for it to come to ya sweetz..also, if it never comes, dun settle for anything less. Its better to be single than be in a r'ship for the sake of it.

*HUGZ* all the best!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

hahahahaha Zubin!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

hey Jane tnxx hun!

**they say familiarity breeds contempt

so true! but like u said, if that LOVE is there, somehow it'll make it thru all the barriers..



**you're like a light that radiates warmth, love, humor and philosophy.. you definitely are a common thread taht unites a lotta peopel at a common melting point..


wow no one ever said anything so GREAT abt me! Im stoked to bits. :) I dunno if I deserve wut u said, but it sure feels good to hear it hehe. ty so much n HUGS!

Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Tejas!

And ur right.


*and don't marry is lame excuse of not taking responsiblity.

so true! Alot of ppl do that tho..sadly.


Keshi.

Keshi said...

Sushmita hey tnxx luv!

ur comment is very interesting cos ur speaking from first-hand and fresh experience. cos u just got married.


**if not ..love just fades...coz only love is fueled by passion..which is momentary

I so agree.


And like u said, personal space is imp, no matter wut...


Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Ani and yes ur right.


**living together is a big step.. that means you are allowing the other person.. in to ur very private life.. which they never had access to before..


it is indeed a very big step...its like letting another share ur entire life from bed to car :)


Keshi.

Keshi said...

haha Aneesh nah I never get bored of my blogmates..NEVER! :) Just that I dun get much time in the wknds to blog...cos we always go out etc etc...cant blog while driving can I? lol!



**Maybe it's something like having fun together when they get time and later forget easily or try someone else if it gets boring


I agree mate..ur 100% right.


Keshi.

Keshi said...

aww Dawny wut r ya getting from the shops? some sexy Manolo Blahniks? :)


**I think that's being lacking confidense in self!


I so agree! If u think u can do it, and if there's real love, theres no need to be in fear of taking risks.


*HUGZ* n ty for ur appreciation of me being here. :) luv ya too hun!


Keshi.

Satish Bolla said...

i don't believe this theory in case of love. all crap. what's the use of u loving someone dearly, yet doubt urself before taking the next step?

but this is true in one case of friendship. i believe that being far from each other helps the friendship to grow stronger. but it is not true that "being together breaks friendships".

n who the hell told that ur blog is boring? again all crap. we r all here at ur blog for quite sometime, but never bored.

Keshi said...

aww ty Satish!

Abt physical distance in r'ships...I think wut really matters is the emotional proximity, no matter how far apart u r in person.


Keshi.

enchanted illusionz said...

i have seen many couples arguing over the silliest of things imaginable. i asked asked a women , how on earth it is that they manage to notice such things . i mean , it looks non existent to my eyes , to see it requires a microscopic eye & to take that as a problem requires a dissatisfied & depressed heart too. one that has turned blind to the thngs tat wld hv given it joy & instead fully open to bitterness.
i donno y dis is so , but de women said that u too in all likeliness wld turn de same with marraige , for its boring & all vent up ill feelings need 2 find a way out & dey do , howmuchever you consiosly try not to.
& i believe her , m not saying that v all need more tan 1 person or thAt de majority suffer from infidelity , but watever v ll need our spaces & i m reminded of a quote from dis movie, good women, where she says that marraige reminds her of a close room dat starts bemong smaller wit every passing day , so much that you realise 1 day , tat u cnt even breathe.