Friday, January 13

Independent Hunnies

Girls girls girls...my Chalrlies' Angels (Uttsy and st000nie;-) and all the other beautiful and smart angels here...honestly tell me how many of you are 'decently' Independent? uh oh...before telling me that, you must tell me what Independence means to each of you...to me it means enjoying my freewill to the fullest, having my own money, space, peace and freedom to think, speak, do whatever I want without having to feel guilty about it and hurting anyone's feelings.

I think women of this era have come a long way since the olden days...they have evolved from mere housewives to smart working housewives and super mums...
from mere daughters to intelligent and financially independent working women...from dependents to breadwinners of familes...from basically nothing to THE ONLY thing ;-) Women have always been an essential part of the society and family...if not for women there won't be a mother, daughter, sister and a damn smart friend around..hehe...boys chill - you are equivalent in all that too. But some men make their women so dependent on them that these women have no freedom to do what they want. I have friends who are smart and having good positions at work but they still depend on their husbands/dads/boyfriends etc for many many things that they shouldn't really be dependent for. I don't mean that they shouldn't be dependent at alll and that they should totally run free...everyone needs to depend on someone somehow...but it should never be gender-driven and a total invasion of individual freedom. Personal freedom and space is as important as much as mutual consent and respect. My mum was a housewife and although my mum and dad loved each other alot, she was completely dependent on my dad for many things...for money and many decisions. Her whole world revolved around my dad. And when dad died she was at a complete loss...but being the smarty that she is, she picked up and survived. But she did go through alot to arrive at that, as a result of her total dependence on dad before his death. Times have changed...but I still know of some women who won't do anything without their men's consent. Even if that means choosing someone to marry, wearing certain clothes, going out with the girls, drinking and dancing etc..what say...how many of you too know such women?

All I can say is...do what you like girls and be independent in your thinking as long as it won't demean you or your loved ones...being smart and doing a great job aren't enough to set you free in life...just think independant. That doesnt mean being stubborn and not listening to the people you love, but it means thinking for yourself and doing what you think is right as long as it doesn't hurt someone else. All the women who are Independent throw your hands above me...c'mon now ;-)

89 Cranium Signets:

saby said...

DAMN U !
u done it again


u posted such lovely girl pics
i cudnt resist

Vivhyd said...

hey me 1st.. Happy New Yr Keshi..

saby said...

FUCK !
i read dis post

she is beginning to sound like Oprah

she is attempting to mould the girls and the men's opinions too
to her way of tinking

to wat is cool
and wat is not

saby said...

as long as u have needs and
the need to fulfill these needs
u cannot be truly independent

the need to be loved is the most crippling of all needs

and Maslow failed to list dis need in his heirachy of needs

saby said...

Gandhi-ji got rid of most of his needs

even sex

southpaw said...

The last pic was kinda...aheemmm...lols
***but it means thinking for yourself and doing what you think is right as long as it doesn't hurt someone else.***Hope this starts happening really soon.

Jewel Rays said...

haha a topic that has been on ma mind awesome stuff. I truly support this post. Being independent is juz awesome or the thought of it. :) haha! AWesome post gurl!!and i truly agree.. i once knew this lady. she is hot alright. well maybe traditional hot. treated like a princess by her hubs. and he is rich of course. and well she always being chauffered around and all. and suddenly when he passed away. she was at lost. and didn;t even know how to take public transport. she was totally lost. and no one was really there to help her find her way. till one of ma friend who was helping her sell her house away gave her some advice and she still goes..i dun know in fear of living a different kind of life. and he had to like wake her up slightly firmly in order to get her moving. and she has been doing well lately. happy for her.. but it just shows how impt. it is for women to be able to stand on their two feet and make a decision. not riding over completely but at least decently.:) at least when a man leave or dies u know ur life still can have a punch. lovin it! Totally support this whole " being independent topic" Rock totally babe! OUCH!

still_figuring_out said...

as you mentioned keshi, being independent might be defined differently by each of us. i work, i earn, i think and say what i want, as long as it doesnt hurt others, i buy what i want, i eat what i what. but, i also dress in a manner which won`t hurt the image of my parents or loved ones. heck, i would like to wear a mini skirt, but i won`t. not because i`d be berated, but i wouldn`t want to put the ones i value in a position to question my sense of dressing. controlled independence, is how i`d describe myself.

on top of that, i love being pampered. i love the fact that i do not need to worry about money or bills. or my car. my house. or anything that would make me tear my hair out. i love the fact i am dependant on my hubby to be when it comes to certain matters.

in today`s world, nothing is a simple yes or no. there is always a "between". everything should be in moderation. even independence, i think.

but love, gal, in abundance :)

Tanvi said...

hey keshi juz came to say hi n see how u were doin...been busy lol..examz next week n i cant seem to make myself study..wutz up how u been

tulipspeaks said...

I'm NOT independent..as much as i hate to admit it..and i know it so well..

I'm dependent on alot of things and people around me..no, i don't have a boyfren that i'm refering to (although i used to have one)..i'm still very much dependent on my family, for example..I don't know what i'll do without my sis..even thinking of she leaving for further studies later this year giving me nightmares :(((((((((((

financial wise..hmm..still dependent on my parents, but won't be the case from next month onwards..me working part time already..phhhewww..thats a huge relief :)

hugsss

=am000nie=

uttara said...

keshii .......

seeing the pics .. guys r gonna drooolllll to glory .. hehehhe

****Girls girls girls...my Chalrlies' Angels (Uttsy and st000nie;-) and all the other beautiful and smart angels here...

awwwwwww we both r here 3rd 1 is missing ..let us put a missing poster now ...lollllssss

i will come bk on this topic in a while ..hugggzzzzzzzz

miss su .. muahhhh

uttara

~*. D E E P A .* ~ said...

Woo hooo Keshi ....

I think I am fairly independent. Atleast , abt my decisions ....
i have had cousins breaking up w/ me coz they couldnt stand my independence ....

i have had friends drifting away coz i wouldnt change my decisiions to suit them. ...

But yes , i am dependent to a great extent on my parents .... esp when it comes to taking certain decisions involving financial stuff like investments ... blah .. blah .. blah ...

and i am dependent on my best buddy when i am in an emotional turmoil .... i need to talk to my buddy when i feel i'll go crazy ...

but i wear what i want , i do my hair the way i want ... and i behave the way i want ...

~*. D E E P A .* ~ said...

and i dont think i'll ever give up my independence ....

i might adjust to suit my parents but would never trample upon my desires and wishes ...


and i would never change my thinking for somebody else's sake ... not even if itz the most important person in my life ....

and my actions , i am justifiable only to myself

~*. D E E P A .* ~ said...

@ ur comments on the previous post :

Well , the guy in qn likes keeping his personal stuff to himself ... he doesnt want the entire world to watch him ...
he kinda believes in " Live n let live " .. infact , he doesnt bother abt other people's lives either ...

i too thought the same way initially , now i find myself respecting him .. not for his views , but for his character

PuNeEt said...

grrrrrrrrrrrr
a post a day...
now I'll have to think of throwing something else at u ;-)
hehehehe kidding

lovely looking girls...
that too on a friday hmmmmmm

lemme come back...

Cheers

Gangadhar said...

Wow..gorgeous pics here!!
Loved all of them..lol
Independence among women! Well..you can take my example...All of my three sisters are working after their marriage too..But they don't mean they are independent absolutely...Question of independece arises if the partner is not supportive,I think....
Nice post,either...

Hugzzz to you,Keshi dear..

Vanathi said...

I am independenttttttttt... Keshi ..

visithra said...

well i am - though im hoping i dont have to change much in the future i like how i am dont like depending on anyone for anything

Sugababee said...

*Throws her hands up in the air! ;)

Grreat post mate!
I totaly agree with you on this one. I mean just live as individuals and thats all thats needed. The world would be an amazing place if we all did this.

Shikha said...

Independence,being able to do things you want to without screwing them up,bcos in the end if you have to call someone to clean the mess,thenn...:)
But most often a girl who does not need a battalion of people with her,for instance ,to go to the toilet, is treated as an alien.

Harashita R. R. Bajaj said...

***but it means thinking for yourself and doing what you think is right as long as it doesn't hurt someone else.***
you see the thin line over there....thing which you yhink is right may hurt somone else...its all about making your preferences as to what bothers you more, what will make you more happy, doin things ur way or takin care of the feelings of others. this is the normal delima every body faces...if you donn do what u wann to it makes you sad and even if u di it the other persons face makes u feel'not so good'. Independece is not by action its by thought...even if go by others decision but by ur own wish u r independent.

AmitKen said...

Salaam womanhood.

and the long legged babe in the last pic is hot ;)

http://amitken.wordpress.com

Die Muräne said...

Keshi, I smell a revolution! :-)

But did you also think about all these independent men out there? If their wife dies or leaves they're sooooo helpless. Can't wash or clean or even cook a fried egg... because their wife or their mommie did it all their life for them.
So once more is clear: the men are the real poor guys!! But they don't write big posts in the internet. They suffer in silence.
Hahaha!

anup.777 said...

Yes... the pics were really lovely ;) ... I'm sure a lot of curiosity was aroused just seeing them images :) .... u r a very intelligent lady!

As for the post, I'm totally for everyone being independent as far as possible.... coz' in India, it really is the case that many women are overly dependent on their husbands, with the wife being totally clueless about important stuff like finances... and that's really bad.... kinda sad....

But, in marriages, there is just too much stuff to be managed, and so the responsibilities are split up according to their competencies... and that is absolutely essential .... but, prudence requires that both partners be absolutely aware of all crucial details so that things never come to a standstill....

icyblue said...

Hats off to ur Mom for being able to manage everything! She is surely a strong, brave and courageous lady!

icyblue said...

It's good to be independent, but sometimes I feel a man's touch is needed to make a gurl's life complete :)

Rita said...

Ohmigosh! what is with the women in blogosphere? I think this is the third post on gender that I've read this week! I've myself made two posts. You can read them here and here
Great post! I am independent and I agree with you :D

Zonte said...

Save the males! lol!

Ash said...

i was thinking the whole day about independence after i read ur post for the day.......

well keshi girl

i am a mixture of both ....i am dependent on my 3+1 a lot .the love,caring sharing ,.....and the listner in the them the motivator, the critics that they are and so on and so forth .....

but ....yes at the same time i am indendent .in my thoughts, my attitude.....my ways ...my activities....financially toonow that i have started to work ,,,......still

i guess strike a balance between the two and get a good partners who could understand u and ur life is made

Take care sweetie and hava wonderful weekend

Love u
Ash

kannan udayarajan said...

Just being Curious...

Did someone question your soverignity recently..??

hihi

great post..!
Kannan

PRADEEP K. said...

LOL... Looking at how men drool over the pics you post, I am sure why not many of them will ever discuss more over this article. ;)

Looking around me (where I stay, where I work, and where I live my average life), I find that most men are supportive of independent women. In fact, I am happy to see many of us encourage our female counterparts to think independent.

That said, I must also express my deep concern that many women, here, don't seem to be ready to do so. I find, around me, women who have strong reservations against your ideas.

It is not their fault, they are just buried under ages of orthodox beliefs, absurd morals, stringent conventions, and inhumane regulations. They have not yet been able to fully break free.

I hope they do. Cheers to you for the article.

**SMILES**

P.S.: The pics were just so-so. :)

saby said...

http://imnutsincaps.blogspot.com/2006/01/i-love-u-just-way-u-r.html





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coolvir said...

Mannnnnnnnnnnnnn

When are you girls stop Comparing.

Does girls have no identity of there own without comparing them wid Boys?Or is it even an issue?

But must say the third pic really Rocks ;)

niki yokota said...

great post keshi-chan!!
being independent is good as long as my health is okay(^-^)
i envy these housewives sometimes tho. hard to see them when they are doing gossip party from early morning in the street...lol
thank u sooo much for encouraging us!! good nite matey!!!!!

Tarun said...

comments were asked from charlies angels...so what should I say. If those beautiful pictures are of some independent girls then I will say girls go for it...

Charlie dear On the serious note, I will say and I believe every man or woman should be independent from each other...woman for money, job, decision etc...and man for houshold work, grocery, cooking etc.

Unfortunately inspite of all this man have to depend on woman at least for one thing if go by natural way.

rebel_on_loose said...

"That doesnt mean being stubborn and not listening to the people you love, but it means thinking for yourself and doing what you think is right as long as it doesn't hurt someone else."

I Totally SUPPORT THY CAUSE!
:)

Cheers for the InDependent woman!

Rohit Talwar said...

keshi......


WONDERFUL POST!!

hugs!

hats off to you... u write sooooo well !!

Neal said...

"everyone needs to depend on someone somehow...but it should never be gender-driven and a total invasion of individual freedom"

I agree. I live in a place where everyone is inter-dependent on one another. It's just a fact of life and it's nice really.

Sudeep said...

Lemme first drool over the pics.. then if i find time after tht will read ur post :p


lol..

u betta stop posting these pics n go back to cartoons coz i wont evr have time for the reading then.. he he he

Sudeep said...

Both sexes r dependent on each other exception being gay/lesbians

Jokes apart.. independence is a must for each n every individual (though ur post was gal-specific) in his/her defn

gal's independence is a must... if moi gal asks me everything she wants to do i would better kick her butt first n tell her to read this post :)


Counting how many hands r raised so tht i can keep a track of all those lovely n independent lasses here :p

Vivek Panda said...

i think men kinda think it to be nice (boosting their ego) when his girl depends on him. but as the society has gradually moved on from a patriarchal one, today's girls dont really sacrifice their independence just for the sake of making her man feel good.

The Phoenix said...

Cultural revolution...such an interesting phenomenon.

Michelle said...

im independent ony wen i hav no otha choice...tht way im pretty dependent :(

*throws her hand up @ keshi neway*

lol can i b beyonce? :P

jugnoo said...

hey keshi....
thanx for stoppin by my post...(its a lil sleepy rite now...but im hopin it will look a lil better in 2-3 months.) anywayz....ur post is full of life! keep it up.
c u around.
and yes milo and pongo were really adorable....they were like these golden fured energetic things runnin around u wantin all the attention and givin u all the attention. hmmmmmmmmm

Łóòň Ġãĺ said...

I wonder when will i be able to throw my hands up.

saby said...

u cannot love another
until u first love your self

i dunno who said dis but its true


dis is true independence
loving to spend time wid yourself
wid your tots

loving your body
pleasuring your self

and when u have a lover
u must guide him how to

Dawn....सेहर said...

U go gal....am just there ....You said it alll.....:D

awesome post love....

huggzzzz

SaffronSaris said...

Keshi, I have been too busy to blog, looks like I missed quite a lot of posts.

But the sun is finally out today! And time for some Vitamin D!!

You enjoy ur weekend!

Varkey said...

how many gals still have their hands ? did all of em throw it over keshi? :D

praveen said...

Good post keshi...very well said

I am not independent at all..but i'm dying to be...I seriously hope to further my studies abroad (like my sis) after my bachelors..and i guess thats when I'll finally get my whiff of freedom..I'm a social person..and i seriously like spending a lot of time with my buds much to my parents displeasure

I would like to earn and live on my own for sumtime..I guess i need that small bit of life experience...to dress,socialise and eat as i wish at my own pace...rite now, its all a dream waiting to be unleashed

the_ego_has_landed said...

Hey nice post! was passing by..and really liked it!:)
I'm not a hard core feminist...but I TOTALLY AGREE ON THE WOMEN/GALS DEPENDING ON THEIR MEN!!!It bugs me too...*frown*

Serotonin Upkate said...

nice post indeed.

Nitika said...

wow!!!! honeyyyyy.......blog rockkkkkkkkkkkk.....musical blog....grt ride for eyes, ear and brain...hehehe...

white devil said...

i am independent, i don't care what anyone thinks of me, and the rest is all me too.

vaibhav said...

Nice post there, and nice pics too :)

And yes as u said, not all women are independent (although they ought to be).

saby said...

today is sunday
i gotta go to church and pray for india

tanks to gandhi-ji we gott independence from the british


now i gotta pray dat we get independence fron america

they have enslaved our youth
got us addicted to ciggies and booze

and pepsi and coke
and silly lang like

chill!-- take a chill pill
i cud never figure out wat dis meant until i met Minnie


its not cool man
dis really SUXS

saby said...

Now the focus is on sex and marriage-, how we dont have sex before marriage and then we discover our wives are not sexually compatible.,

noted by dating master in jerusalem


a prompt for your next post
is pre-marital sex OK ?

Jackal said...

uff Keshi ..the gal put up there hand.......wht the guysss supposed to do.........hugzzz tcc byeee

Pallavi said...

GO Woman.! i love the beyonce song. i love it. ..i call myself independent.

sebia said...

Hi..
after a long time..
Nice post..
But though i do believe in individual freedom..but im also a staunch believer of
WITH FREEDOM CMS A GREAT RESPONSIBILITY..so im responsible for my freedom for my parents..
ANd though i might nt b smconservative 1..but im also no feminist..so i believe tht all of us imposed with certain rights and duties..which are subjected to the peaceful existance..between a MAN AND A WOMAN:)
tc

SSB said...

"...thinking for yourself and doing what you think is right as long as it doesn't hurt someone else."

Amen sista!!!! I recently quite my job of 10 years due to the fact that I was being treated unfaily!!! I am making things happen with Gods will. Women ring proud and dont take crap off anyone!!!

I try to live by "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you." Maybe I should change my mantra... GREAT POST!!! VERY INPOWERING FOR ALL US WOMEN!!!
Thank you for the insperation!!
SSB :-D

sittingnut said...

wish you a great start to the week ! :-)
hope you had a nice weekend.

nice post
since you are specifically asking women a question here, i should not take too much space,
i think you have defined independence nicely.

imo not only women but lot of men fail to live up to that standard of independence.
how many people (male or female) really think for themselves for instance, instead of outsourcing the whole process to family members, bosses and politicians.

most ppl are guilt ridden bunch of babes.

person who is not independent might as well be dead imo and nobody will notice .

Personal freedom and space is as important as much as mutual consent and respect - you right on there.

btw i have known several really independent women starting with my mother. i was lucky i suppose. :-)

Keshi said...

***Saby

Chill...:) I aint no Oprah...just a simple girl with too much to talk abt..lolllz!

**u cannot be truly independent

duhhh...I did say DECENTLY INDEPENDENT dint I?












***Vivhyd

Heyyyyy Viv!! WB and Happy New Year to u too! So nice to see u here again...











***South

lol the last pic? awww...hehehe...

yep hope we all achieve some decent levels of indepedence...













***My_Unveilings

Hellooo Amy Im so glad u liked it :) I knew u would like it hehehe...


**not riding over completely but at least decently.:) at least when a man leave or dies u know ur life still can have a punch.

Thats exactly what I mean...decently independent :)


aww ur friend sounds like my mum some time back...anyways Im glad she picked up and is doing well now...thanks for sharing that story with us...very relevant to this topic.

Rock it babez ;-)













***Still_Figuring_Out

Hey SFO how's it going?


**but i wouldn`t want to put the ones i value in a position to question my sense of dressing. controlled independence, is how i`d describe myself.

I totally understand that SFO. Coming from Indian families we girls only have controlled Independence n certain aspects of life...that's so true.


**i love the fact i am dependant on my hubby to be when it comes to certain matters.

for sure! We have to depend on ourfamily members for many things...very true, it's great to be pampered.


** everything should be in moderation. even independence, i think.

exactly what I wanna say. We cant say we r totally indepedent. But atleast we r independent than some girls who r fully dependent on their men...that's not healthy.

Thank u so much SFO, that was eye-opening...















***Tanvi

oiiiiii Tanvi I missed ya tonz! Hope u'll come back soon :(















***Amutha

Amuuuuuu muahhhhh!


I think u will be ok one's u start working Amu...financial Independence comes in then :)


**I don't know what i'll do without my sis..

Emotional Independence is a hard thing to achieve...cos we all depend on our loved ones for that no matter what we say. It's good to be like that and we cant help loving our loved-ones...I guess it's pretty normal :)



Keshi.

saby said...

...I guess it's pretty normal :)


i hate the word NORMAL
all great ideas have come from geniuses and so called IDIOTS

Normality has come from stat theory
i.e. 99.76 % of the population

i say the majority are fools
they voted BUSH
didnt they?

saby said...

Forest Gump was considered to be an idiot

Keshi said...

***Uttara

Heyy babez..hows ya?


**guys r gonna drooolllll to glory

Some of the regular guys r missing in this post...lol...wonder why?
















***Deepa

Deeepzz heyyyyy!


**i have had cousins breaking up w/ me coz they couldnt stand my independence ....

I have had many...lol! But they all come back to me :)


**i have had friends drifting away coz i wouldnt change my decisiions to suit them. ...

For sure..like I have told u b4, I have many friends who drifted away from me cos Im too much of an open and idependent person...too bad, their loss :)


**But yes , i am dependent to a great extent on my parents .... esp when it comes to taking certain decisions involving financial stuff like investments ... blah .. blah .. blah ...

that is perfectly fine...it's normal dependence we all have on our loved-ones...


**and i am dependent on my best buddy when i am in an emotional turmoil ....

Like I said to Amu, Emotional independence is not something we mortals can achieve...maybe we can but that's if he we abandon Earthly pleasures and go meditating :) hehe...


**but i wear what i want , i do my hair the way i want ... and i behave the way i want ...

High Five! ;-)


**i might adjust to suit my parents but would never trample upon my desires and wishes ...

Good on ya!


**and i would never change my thinking for somebody else's sake ... not even if itz the most important person in my life ....

Im very proud of ya...there's not many girls who think like u...


**and my actions , i am justifiable only to myself

Spot on!

Thanks Deepzzz that was gooooooood!


**Well , the guy in qn likes keeping his personal stuff to himself ... he doesnt want the entire world to watch him ...
he kinda believes in " Live n let live " .. infact , he doesnt bother abt other people's lives either ...

sorry to say this Deepz lol...but I think he DOES bother abt other ppl's lives...cos that's why he's so worried abt what other ppl think :) 'Live and let live' is for ppl who r not nosy and curious abt others and ppl who dun care so much abt what others think...so it's quite a contradiction isnt it?
I dunno ur friend but Im saying this based on what u said above...


**i too thought the same way initially , now i find myself respecting him .. not for his views , but for his character

respecting his actions is one thing...but placing your opinion abt his actions, as a friend is altogether another thing. But yeah, let him do what he wants...it's his life na :)

Anyways thanks Deepz :)

















***Puneet

lol u can throw anything at me except shoes...:)















***Gangadhar

hey Ganggzz thanks :) lol Im glad u liked the pics...goshh what's the big fuzz abt those pics..hahahahaha...I thought they were pretty plain??


**Question of independece arises if the partner is not supportive,I think....

how d u mean?
















***Vanathi

awww so sweet :) High Five girl!!













***Visithra

hows u dear?


**i like how i am dont like depending on anyone for anything

Way to go girl...thanks!













***Sugabee


**Throws her hands up in the air! ;)

~~Keshi throws her hands up in the air and high fives with Suga's ;-)


**. I mean just live as individuals and thats all thats needed.

yep...live and let live...thanks!















***Shikha

WC to my blog and thanks :)

Cleaning up after the mess is totally 'dependent' on who did it...lol...if u r responsible for ur actions, then clean up urself...hehehe...


**But most often a girl who does not need a battalion of people with her,for instance ,to go to the toilet, is treated as an alien.

is this true? lol! aww...:):)


Keshi.

tulipspeaks said...

keshi, missing ya so much :(((

Keshi said...

***Harashita.r.r.Bajaj

hello WB!


**if you donn do what u wann to it makes you sad and even if u di it the other persons face makes u feel'not so good'.

It's so true...one way or the other, we r upsetting someone...but sometimes we cant worry abt what others think...as long as we r happy that we did something right, then that's what matters.


**Independece is not by action its by thought...even if go by others decision but by ur own wish u r independent

not really...I mean even if u think independent but did something to make someone else feel good, would u be happy? I guess not. Cos deep down u still would wish that u did what u wanted to do. So I think all 3 independences - in thinking, speaking and doing matters...

thanks very much!
















***Amitken

hehe thanks Amit :) Most guys like the last pic...lolllz!













***Die_Murane

helloooo WB :)


**But did you also think about all these independent men out there?

lol I know most men r very dependant on their GFs, Wives or mommies for many things in life :)


**If their wife dies or leaves they're sooooo helpless. Can't wash or clean or even cook a fried egg...

lol hahaha! They better go for fried-egg classes from now on na...:)


**the men are the real poor guys!! But they don't write big posts in the internet. They suffer in silence.Hahaha!

aww why suffer in Silence? Help ard in the house and learn from today...lol!

Thanks mate :)


















***Anup.777

hello Anup WB :)


**coz' in India, it really is the case that many women are overly dependent on their husbands,

I know! SL is the same...goshh most women dun even go out w.o. asking their hubbies or even do anything at all w.o. hubbies' permission...


**but, prudence requires that both partners be absolutely aware of all crucial details so that things never come to a standstill....

thats so true and I totally agree with ya...mutual dependance is needed as much as independance...but both must learn of each other's duties so that they r not stranded if one leaves...

thanks Anup!

















***Icyblue

hey thanks for ur sweet words abt mym mum :) hugggggggz!


**It's good to be independent, but sometimes I feel a man's touch is needed to make a gurl's life complete

ur absolutely right! Man and woman need each other...but what I mean is that a woman shouldnt be 100% dependent on her man :):)

Thanks Icy muahhhhhh!














***Rita

lol blog women wanna do the indepedent boogie babeh hahaaha! ok let me read ur's soon...thanks for drooping by and Happy New Year! :)












***PurpleAir

**Save the males

lol I dint get that??





















***Ash

hello babez hows ya?


**i guess strike a balance between the two and get a good partners who could understand u and ur life is made

thats exactly what's needed. We need mutual dependence as much as we need mutual independence...however Emotional Independence is hard to achieve as we r mortal who need love and support from each other.

Thanks Ash and glad to know ur independent in many ways.

















***Kannan_Udayarajan

WC Kannan!

**Just being Curious...Did someone question your soverignity recently..??

huh? lol what d u mean?



















***Pradeep.K

lol Pradeep u love the pics too?? OMG all the guys ro so gaga over some pics here...lollllllz!

Im glad u encourage women ard u to be independent...


**It is not their fault, they are just buried under ages of orthodox beliefs, absurd morals, stringent conventions, and inhumane regulations. They have not yet been able to fully break free.

many Sri Lankan and Indian women r like this...only cos of the reasons u mentioned above...I dunno if some of em will ever break free...sad but true.

Thanks Pradeep!


















***Coolvir

helllo WB :)


**Does girls have no identity of there own without comparing them wid Boys?Or is it even an issue?

We r not comparing Coolvir :) It's a known fact that most Indian women r not independent...we cant ignore that fact :) So we r addressing that issue here...hehe...thats all. Ofcourse women have their own identity...some of them r forced to hide it cos of their men and traditions. That's why Im saying for these women to learn to depend on themselevs and be who they really r...
















***Niki

heyyy Niki hows ya?

**being independent is good as long as my health is okay

so true..if we cant walk ard, then we have to depend on someone..:) but that's altogether a different topic hehehe..

hahahaha @gossip

hey have a good nite huggggggz!












***Tarun

Hi again :):)


**I will say and I believe every man or woman should be independent from each other...woman for money, job, decision etc...and man for houshold work, grocery, cooking etc.

true...learn each others' chores and be prepared...


**Unfortunately inspite of all this man have to depend on woman at least for one thing if go by natural way.

lol men r so dependent hehehe...ok I was just kidding :):)


Thanks Tarun!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

***Rebel_On_Loose

thanks mate :)












***Rohit_Talwar

heyyy Rohit!


Thanks and hats off to u to for ur great posts!












***Neal

hello Neal WC!


**I agree. I live in a place where everyone is inter-dependent on one another. It's just a fact of life and it's nice really.

Thats' good...as long as no one invades the other one's personal space...
















***Sudeep

hiya Sudeep! :):)


**Lemme first drool over the pics.. then if i find time after tht will read ur post

LOLLLLLZ hahahaha!


**if moi gal asks me everything she wants to do i would better kick her butt first n tell her to read this post

haha!
so u came back to comment? lol good :):)

Sudeep rocks, thanks!















***Vivek_Panda

heyy thats so true...some men have the fattest ego that they make their women so dependent on them.


**today's girls dont really sacrifice their independence just for the sake of making her man feel good

Spot on and good for them :)















***Phoenix

yep yep Cultural revolution :) Thanks mate!













***Michelle

aww we all somehow depend on someone Mich..me too...but that doesnt mean we r totally dependent...hai na?

lolu dun have to be Beyonce...u just be the sweet Mich that u r...huggggggggz!












***Jugnoo

WC Jugnoo and thanks!

Milo and Pongo sounded very cute indeed! :):)



















***Cheesy

oiii what d u mean when? I think u r quite independent in many ways...u r emotionally stront, wont take crap and u r a smart girl...that's enough to put u at the top :) HUGGGGGGZ!






















***Dawn

thanks and muahhhhhhhhhh! :)












***Safrronzz

heyyy Saffy go get ut Vit D :) Hugggggggggz!























***Varkey

hehe all my babez here seem to be quite independent n smart gals :):)














***Praveen

hey girl ur time will come...Im so sure of that...


**I would like to earn and live on my own for sumtime..I guess i need that small bit of life experience...to dress,socialise and eat as i wish at my own pace...rite now, its all a dream waiting to be unleashed

so true...I always wanted to live on my own too and perhaps do what I like to do w.o. anyone interfering my decisions all the time...but na, Im not so lucky in that way...but hell yeah I think for myself and take my own decision in the end. Altho I'd love to get to know myself a bit more - that can only be done if I live alone and it wont happen, I just know...




















***The_Ego_Has_Landed

WC and thanks!

So u like women to be dependent on their men? hmmm ur name sure fits ur thoughts lol!

Thanks anyways..hehehe...


















***Serotonine_Uptake

hey WC and thanks!














**Nitika

hello Niti :) huggggggggggz! Thanks and Im glad u like the music etc..hehehe muahhhhhhhh!


























***White_Devil

hellloooo :)


**i am independent, i don't care what anyone thinks of me, and the rest is all me too.

Way to go! Thanks!














***Vaibhav

thanks mate and yeah, they all ought to be decently independent...














***Jackal

lol what d u mean? the last gal? lol I dun see why all the guys soooooo drooling over her..she's not all that hot, c'mon!
















***Pallavi

hey gurrrrrrrl ;-) thanks and high five!






















***Sebia

hey Sebzzz hows u? long time indeed :)


**WITH FREEDOM CMS A GREAT RESPONSIBILITY

Thats right...u r responsible for what u do...


**so i believe tht all of us imposed with certain rights and duties

thats right...just carry on ur duty w.o. being too dependent or indepenedent...just try to achieve a good balance.

Thanks Sebbbbz!






















***SSB

heyy girl WC to my blog and thank u!


**I am making things happen with Gods will.

I always believed in that...let Him guide us...


**Do unto others as you would have them do unto you." Maybe I should change my mantra...

u dun have to always worry abt what others think...as long as u think what ur doing is right by u and others, then there's no problem na...

thanks very much and u have a good day!



















***Sittingnut

hellloooo hows ya? Hope u had a rocking weekend...I had a very busy one - shopping etc :)


**not only women but lot of men fail to live up to that standard of independence

so true...there r so many men who r totally dependent and also not man enough to make their own decisions...


**person who is not independent might as well be dead imo and nobody will notice .

thats right...hehehe...so damn right!

Ur mum must be a great lady...knowing u, I'm so sure of that :) Thanks and have a great day ok!




Keshi.

saby said...

SHIT !
i need to see my shrink

i am 55 older and wiser
and here i am waiting anxiously to hear wat Keshi- Oprah has to say

Rex Venom said...

So much truth in one place.
And cute pics, too!
Rock on!

icyblue said...

woman shouldnt be 100% dependent

Yeeepppp! they shudn't ... but then need to find guys who would allow their lady to be 100% independent.. wat say?? :)

New search for 2006 ;)

PuNeEt said...

Fantastic Post dear...

Yes the trend is changing no doubt abt it...

smart working housewives
well that I'm yet to see more...
Ofcourse so far for me my Mom tops the list... and she will always do that... :-))

I have seen a lot of smart working women...
coz most of my friends are not married or recently married...
so now only the time will prove if they can crown themselves as smart working housewives...

I hope they do :-))

Its no big deal for me...
I've seen my mom working since I was a kid... not only her some of my aunts also work n manage the home...

bt still more to see from my generation...

just think independant. That doesnt mean being stubborn and not listening to the people you love
muaaaaahhhh
those are the golden words...
U are definitely gonna be a smart working housewife ;-)

if those words are kept in mind am sure all the working ladies after marriage wud be crownd as smart working housewifes...

great post sweeti

Cheers

:: The Protector :: said...

>>y mum was a housewife and although my mum and dad loved each other alot, she was completely dependent on my dad for many things...for money and many decisions.

Same here at my home too.....

Hats off to your MOM....


Cheers!
:)

Invincible said...

Yes, Independence is more to do with freedom of thought. If one is given liberty to think independently, that should be it.

I didnt get
"from dependents to breadwinners of familes...from basically nothing to THE ONLY thing ;-)"

and,
" but it means thinking for yourself and doing what you think is right as long as it doesn't hurt someone else"
isnt that the life all about?

talldarkman said...

wtf keshi.....what primitive world are u living in??

It is time we guys shud raise a voice against gals for being independant. We have to ask gals if we shud have a drag, we have to ask them if what we wear will not embarass them, we have to ask them when we shud go to the movie, and when we shud leave it halfway thru.....the list is endless. Gals NEVER ask us what to wear...well they do.....but then we are afraid to voice our opinion, since we are done for if we express one in favour or against it.

No no.....u r graavely mistaken....it is us guys who shud be independant.....really independant. :P

talldarkman

PS: btw...bindassohni says hi to u....on my blog...:)

Manish said...

hmmmm u r right! anyway u don't want men's opinion here :)

Brood Mode said...

"from basically nothing to THE ONLY "

good one!

Brood Mode said...

"from basically nothing to THE ONLY "

i like that

sittingnut said...

good morning!
have a great day!

what happened? anything wrong?

The Phoenix said...

Great pics on this post, by the way.

Keshi said...

***Saby

yes time for u to see the shrink..me too btw lollz!












***Rex_Venom

hey Rexxyyy thanks for that!












***IcyBlue

oii Icy huggggggz!


**but then need to find guys who would allow their lady to be 100% independent.

yep yep...so true..lol but where is that guy? hahahaha!












***Puneet'

oii Pu bear where were ya??

Glad to know u agree with me on this :) awww Im sure ur mum is great lady.


**I have seen a lot of smart working women...

hahaha hahaha hahahaha...like it's a surprise?? lol! I know u know alot of working women lollz! Ok Im just having a go at ya...sorry :):)


**U are definitely gonna be a smart working housewife

nope Im gonna be a smary officewife loll! :):) thanks matey!
















***Vishnu

hey thanks mate...aww ur mum is also like my mum?













***Invincible

hello v000nie how's it going? long time!


**I didnt get
"from dependents to breadwinners of familes...from basically nothing to THE ONLY thing ;-)"


lol I meant, women turned into the only GREAT thing ever :):)


yep life is all abt doing what u believe is right and not hurting others...but how many of us really live that way?




















***Talldarkman

lol Tally me living in Venus :):)

Some men should be independent too...yes...try to be independent of their ego and insecurity..lolllz!

HELLO SOHNIIIIIII I MISS YA!!!






















***Manish

helllo Manish ur most WC to reveal ur opinion :)













***BroodMood

heyyy Brooddy! lol I knew most girls would like that line...hehehehe..

v000nie, see Broody got that so why cant u get it? ;-)
















***Sittingnut

heyy mate hows ya?


**what happened? anything wrong?

what d u mean? :)



















***Phoenix

hey thanks :)





Keshi.

saby said...

the more tings change
the more they remain the same


i havent the faintest idea
wat dis means
but it sounds profound

niki yokota said...

thank u million keshi-chan!!
u too have a very happy day(^o^)/
now i realised how to find my comment from ur crowded comment page!
click comment and look for my pic. haha~
coz it takes abt 5-10 mins to find ur reply sometimes. lol

saby said...

used to be a time when orthodox families wudnt want their bahus to work

but now u cant run a family on a single income
working wives is a necessitty

now u find hindu woomen in films, in the airlines, in hotels, in call centres

all these careers used to be a no no, only a few years back

sittingnut said...

what d u mean? :)
it seems to have been rather quiet here yesterday.

Keshi said...

***Saby

yes nowadays women r in almost every industry...and they are half of the breadwinner in the family.















***Niki

lol yeah I know my comment section is getting rather long...hehe...just search for NIKI as that's how I address u na :)














***Sittingnut

hey yes..yday was a busy day at work as well as during lunch time..hence the silence :):)


Keshi.

laks said...

check out my post on love over

here

and let me know what u think :-))

this is why i gave up hope for a Ms. Right...

because i believe that she should be fiercely independent.... and i find ALMOST every woman around is just tooooooooo sissy to be considered serious by me he he he no offence meant

Keshi said...

lol Laks let me check it out...

anyways rem that they shouldnt be too independent...no one should be..not even men. I mean we have to be 'decently' independent...but being too independent wont make great partners :)


Thanks..
Keshi.