Tuesday, October 17

Casual-ties

What do you think about casual sex? In Australia (and other parts of the world) it is quite common. Alot of people settle for casual sex relationships cos it's probably convenient, no-strings-attached and easy. But to be honest, I don't understand casual sex. How can you have sex with someone without having true feelings for that person? How can you use your body just for carnal pleasure and not feel gulity about it? How can there be mutual respect in such a relationship? How can you disrespect your body so much that you let lust overtake you?How can you make love to someone without love being involved? I have heard of and know of people who have long-term casual-sex relationships. They just meet, do it and say goodbye! Even some married couples do this with others. And there are these Swingers Clubs all over the place where married couples exchange their partners just for sex. Apparently they all go to one place, leave all the car keys in a bowl and then every woman gets to pick a car key each. And then they go out for that night with whoever that car key belongs to. I think it's pretty grotesque and cheap. Not only that, just imagine how many other countless partners they may have had/be having and how many sexually transmitted diseases (read the article linked here about AIDS, Herpes, Syphillis, Hepatitis etc) those people may be carrying! If you type 'Sexually Transmitted Diseases' in Google Images, then you will see some pics of patients that wil scare you to eternity. I also read that due to increasing casual sex lives among young people these days, STDs are spreading like wild fire. So it's a huge health risk too. Sorry if I'm hurting anyone through this post but this is my honest opinion and we all need to know this.

I have been brought up to control my desires and respect my body. Men and women who are casual sex players and Swingers clubbies have totally lost control of their senses. So how different are they when compared to animals? Have you seen the movie 'Mixed Doubles'. If you haven't seen it, get it and watch it - it's a great movie. It's about a married Indian couple and how the husband wants to mmmm you know, just 'swing'. And you must must must see what happens in the end. Hilarious and shocking! Shows where uncontrolled lust can take you. Anyways, all I can say is if having no sex makes you feel empty, then you are missing out on a whole lot of other things in life. Sex is necessary in life but you really shouldn't be compromising your dignity or your health just to have it. So beware, be safe and be well.

btw guys if any of you feel I'm just always preaching here in the dark, please know that I'm preaching with real-life experiences AND I practice what I preach. Therefore I have every right to preach some principles I value and am able to apply in my life. I don't write posts in my blog just cos I want to spice up my blog or just cos it's a great topic that will draw comments. I'm not here for competition. And I'm not a girl who needs attention to believe in what I believe. I can believe in what I believe just by myself - I don't need anyone to approve of it. All my posts come out of real-life experiences and it's either about me or someone I know/have heard of etc. So if you think I'm just a preacher here wasting my breath, yakking endlessly with no actions, then I'm really sorry that you think that way about me. And that's probably cos you don't know me at all. No hard feelings anyways. Thanks and g'day to yus all!

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Shionge said...

No worries Keshi, in fact you definitely have a right to express your opinion and this is a timely reminder on the consequences of having loose 'casual-ties'.

You Go Girl! :D

saby said...

What do you think about casual sex?

Dummy
sex has to be casual
u cant have formal sex
it wont be funn

and Dummy
u r about half a century old
in your views on right and rong

casual love wud be inappropriate
but casual sex is the need of the hour

we now go in for late marriages
but sex is a basic need

we need sex at regular intervals
the craving for sex is no different than the craving for food


dont make a beeg deal about it

if u dont want a casual lover
pay for a gigolo

the high society middle aged women in India do it all the time


the pick up point is Bandra, Lands End

i some times hang around there
with the hope of getting picked up

i dont charge though

Vivhyd said...

hey keshi.. i thinnk its more of an individual opinion.. I too used to think how this cud ever be the case until I came here and realised that its just a different thought process some people have.. if u dont think its a big deal.. sex as such.. its just not.. while thats not poss with all of us but its true in some cases.. I think instead of reasoning with them.. we must just let each of them decide for themselves as long as noone is forcing us..

saby said...

how many sexually transmitted diseases

OK now i get it
its not about morality but fear

saby said...

So how different are they when compared to animals?

Bloody hell
animals are God's perfect creatures

Man is an animal too
but civilization killed God's design

just like JAY's cats
just like domesticated dogs

we gotta get back to our true nature
we gotta be as God made us

animals have no hypocrizy
animals dont wage wars
animals dont hoard food
animals dont SUCK!




keshism SUXS

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Sujit said...

thats a puzzle that we cannot understand!.. how would one have casual sex with someone you do not know. May be pack your soul and concessius into an absyss.. live a life of body without soul.. may be they can!.. How can married people act is crazy!.. and at the end why did you fume?.. its your blog.. you would like to tell something good or bad.. its your wish..isn;t so?.. day is too short to get angry and waste the whole day in it!.. :)

samuru999 said...

Trying again!
Blogger was not working!
Now...can I remember what I said?

Keshi my dear!
I've not known you long...
but I feel like I know you so well..
You are honest, true...and real!
You are no preacher...
wasting your breath!
You share so much that has so
much meaning to me...
and everyone else...
look at all the people that come
here!

On the casual sex...
that has never been my style either.
I have lost my heart a few times..
and when I think about those relationships..
I have beautiful memories!
Now, I'm married and in love..
when one is in love...
the sex can be fabulous!

Just my 2cents worth!

Hugggggz
Margie

Silvara said...

Hey keshi :) I totally agree with you - I have been with my (now) fiancee for 5 years and we only *just* took that next step. I don't completely understand it - but I can understand that sometimes a person feels so lonely that any kind of affection either physical or emotional can draw someone into doing that.

Pffft...swingers? not my cup of tea - you have made a committment to someone so don't go around 'sharing' or 'swapping' them lol. Bizarre :P

Take care

Silvara

Jim said...

i am different
Therefore I preach some principles I value and am not able to apply in my life

a preachers job is to preach
it dont matter if u cant do as u preach

southpaw said...

Alright....first things first as long as the person is enjoying and happy there is nothing wrong in casual sex like u said no strings attatched, thats the most imp feel good factor abt it. There is lot more abt the subject, but...anyway leave it!

Ummmm as far as STD is concerned, when u r into such a life-style get urself diagnosed every 3 months and use all the precautions, i m telling this from my own experience and believe me i m still a horse.

Sex is necessary in life but you really shouldn't be compromising your dignity or your health just to have it.***As long as u r having it for ur own pleasure where is the compromise then?

Therefore I have every right to preach some principles I value and am able to apply in my life.***Good for u.

Good day!

AnonymousBlogger said...

I personally don't have a problem with it. I mean, adults are old enough to make their own decisions, and if they don't have a problem with it, than that's their opinion.

Yeah, there's the risk of pregnency and STDs and all that, but all in all, I think it's a safe practice. As long as you're safe and smart about it.

Your video today made me LOL. I recognized the song from the British version of The Office when David Brent did his own version of that song. I didn't know another group had done it before him.

Jewel Rays said...

Keshi,

That is the beautiful part of you. That you are your own person and you carry your own mindset. Its something very admirable and seriously, who cares what others think about you. I mean if someone gets pinched by you and take it into offense. it sometimes may just mean their ego has been pierced. just to let you know , that i love ya writings. And the best part of ya blog is that you write what is real and you are who you are when you write it without fearing what people think of ya. And Thats an awesome thing and makes you an outstanding personality. you are not a people pleaser and that is so wanted!! u go girl!

Casual sex its an increasing trend. Sometimes it gets pasted everywhere you stand that you just wonder if its really all that ok to just have sex with anyone. the Manipulation of the mind. But i guess at the end of the day being ourselves and knowing where we stand matters. I read a novel a few days ago and the character happen to say, " a men will treat you how you allow him to treat you." And i believe that is true. Throw ya self and his belt will get loose. Control yaself and he will know works below his belt needs a simmer.

all I can say is if having no sex makes you feel empty, then you are missing out on a whole lot of other things in life. Sex is necessary in life but you really shouldn't be compromising your dignity or your health just to have it. So beware, be safe and be well.

That could be an eye opener for some. I love ya statement in bold very much. *smiles*

Cheers!

Niv said...

i love love this post Keshi!!!

~Oddisey!

saby said...

i am with the precious JEWEL in bold


heyyy guys
Keshi and bharatiya naris SUXS


go west guys
i posted a counter post to dis post

Keshi said...

Shionge tnxxx!

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Saby it seems u dunno what casual sex is so forget it.

**OK now i get it
its not about morality but fear


I did say NOT ONLY THAT.


**keshism SUXS

:) good to know ur bugged by me.



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Viv hello!

** thinnk its more of an individual opinion..

o hell I know that :):) And this is my opinion. Im not forcing it upon anyone.


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Margie I know u r a good girl :) HUGGGGGGGGGGGZ!

hey thanks for that verse...lifts my spirits every time I read it. U r sooo gentle and beautiful.


**We are having snow here...
so....my hubby n I are off for a
walk in the winter wonderland!

awwww how nice! Make a snow-man for me and fedex him to me :)

TC n dun be out in the cold for too long. HUGGGGGGGGGZ!

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Sujit ty!

**live a life of body without soul..

aha. I see it that way too.

yeah I was a bit disappointed that some ppl think Im forcing my opinions on ppl. Well I can only write abt my opinions here isnt it. I cant write for the whole world.

hehe tnxx for the support mate!

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Silvara hey sweety dun not even fall into this category! U r in a serious r'ship with ur BF and thats not casual sex!! This post is abt ppl who r only in a sexual r'ship just for the purpose of sex n sex alone. So ur right sweety, duncha sweat HUGGGGGGGZ!


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Jim ok. but I believe in practising wut u preach.


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Southy heyyy!

**i m telling this from my own experience and believe me i m still a horse.

oyeah use protection n get urself checked always. But who can do this on a one-night stand? And wut d u mean ur still a horse? :)


**As long as u r having it for ur own pleasure where is the compromise then?

If ur having it just for pleasure, then u have already decided that there's no loss of dignity in doing that.

Wut d u think abt the women who have casual sex Southy? Say u were not married ok and that u were in a r'ship with a nice girl. Imagine she chooses to have casual sex with other men. Wut wud be ur say on this?



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AB heyy!

**. I mean, adults are old enough to make their own decisions, and if they don't have a problem with it, than that's their opinion.

fair enough. But being old enough doesnt mean u always make matured decisions. :) But ur right, it's an individual choice.

hehe u never heard of Simply Red b4?

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ty so much AMY! U will never know how much ur words of support meant to me. HUGGGGGGGGGGGGZ! I know u still believe in me and that means alot to me.

** men will treat you how you allow him to treat you."

thats so true. I wonder if any of these guys who see nothign wrong with casual sex respects any of their partners.

ty for that Amy!



Keshi.

saby said...

SOUTH makes sense too
Go South

Keshi said...

Niv WC n tnxxx!

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Saby

**i am with the precious JEWEL in bold

And wut exactly did she say Saby? LOL!


**heyyy guys
Keshi and bharatiya naris SUXS

And Im loving it :)



Keshi.

Keshi said...

ah ah Saby South may make sense to u now but not when it involves ur daughter or ur wife...wut wud u do then?

Keshi.

Ash said...

Well said, Keshi.
I completely agree with you!

SamY said...

In india too :), tho not all that open as elsewhere.

Opinions vary! I'v known ppl who even detest marriage coz they believe a life time commitment for 10 mins of pleasure is BS ;)

Just as everything in life, as long as one wudn't luk bak and repent for it its fine!

I c history repeating itself :), no wonder our ancestors instilled discipline by creating an institution called marriage n family ... guys the message is being lost again given to how contorted its b'come

saby said...

Dummy
when i have casual sex
it dont mean i dont respect my partner

on the contrary
u have casual sex with friends

but your heart belongs to your lover

just as in sex workers
they will allow u to copulate

but they wont kiss u
kiss is reserved for her lover

but i am special
one of these women kissed me

u see she had done the night shift
i saw she needed sleep

so i told her to sleep in my bed
she was so touched by my gesture

i respect sex workers too
very often the wife is more a prostitute

when she bargains for sex
a new dress, more spending money, help with the house work

or u wont get into my pants

tank God
sex is no more a need for me
i wud rather spend the night with a sex worker who loves me

saby said...

i am liberal
with my wife and my daughter too

i wudnt want my daughter to tie the knot with a handsome hunk who makes her horny

i wud rather she slept with him for the night

rather than for a life time

as for my wife
i wud be happy if she takes on a lover


coz i have

Anonymous said...

perhaps everything is over valued/degraded and over attended/rejected...
Its their life of course... what are we here to say?
But u are preaching about health hazards.. i guess that is a good thing to preach.. to anyone! :)
Ever feel like stop preaching? Just let things happen? If some one needs an opinion they will ask for it...? I am not saying dont preach or write your own opinion in your own space, i am just curious whether u felt like that.. like stopping..

Cheers Mayt!

saby said...

one advantage of being old
u say wat u feel

u dont give a damn to society and the POPES and Keshi

southpaw said...

Wut d u think abt the women who have casual sex Southy? Say u were not married ok and that u were in a r'ship with a nice girl. Imagine she chooses to have casual sex with other men. Wut wud be ur say on this?***Don't refine the question, come as it shud be..i m married, kavita is back home alone, except the phone calls and emails there is no other way as of now untill she gets to me, time is not right, lot of unusual things going on and in such a moment if one does gets deviated, fine with it, we all do it, its like food, one needs that occasionally and specially if u had it once u need it again. And don't think i m just saying it for the heck of it, hv discussed on this topic several times with the wife.

Anonymous said...

Hi Keshi

First, sex is an action which gives pleasure. Love is an emotion. The two are very different. You can have sex without love, and love without sex. Like you said, casual sex can lead to very bad problems; STD to name one--not mentioning murder. Meeting someone every week for under-cover action is not casual--it is an affair.

At the same time sex can reduce the emotions we build up inside us; however these emotions have nothing to do with the other person That is one reason total strangers may have an one-time romp in the covers.
A person could be a nymph. That can explain why some people have lots
of sex. Sex addiction is real-- I wish I had it--Just joking. Both you and I have been raised the same way, but I'm not saying I am perfect; I'm a far cry from being Ann Of Green Gables. Who, if I remember correctly had a fling.

TV and movies protray every type of sex as being fun and games. Ask the person dying of AIDS if it was fun and games. As you see, I am 100% with you on this one.

In our country, oral sex is big when it comes to kids. They don't think it is sex, and therefore, they can't get STD's from it.

Bev

Anonymous said...

well said keshi!!!

i guess its a personal choice. but so far as i have heard and known, such ppl r never happy and satisfied!!

i find this concept of swingers stupid! such ppl hav no respect for relationship and love!!!

;-))

Eclipsed Thoughts said...

Yes KAP... i completely agree with you!!!

Very very true...
i had a fren who loved F and said that she would make love to F and have sex with the rest...
Dont know if i should call it silly or funny...??

Annie said...

Something that irks me? Calling it "making love" when it's just plain old sex and nothing more. Hear the difference or am I alone in this? Great post. Food-for-thought to be sure. Thanks for visiting my blog! I'm against "casual sex"...too much to lose.

Kautilya said...

Totally agree...

If no sex can make you feel empty.....

Casual sex will totally destroy u... I have seen ppl close 2 me.. goin thru a lot of guilt and stuff coz of it!

I mean... when u do it... its always pleasure... but later a lot of issues will come up... first.. a lot of guilt, then worthlessness, etc etc...

no matter how morden we go.. or what ever.. some line r never meant 2 b crossed.... its just that... it leads to a lot of complication in life definetely at some stage of life!

My mom always.. say... "No Sex Before Marriage!" and she is the most ultra morden mom in this world! But surely... casual sex, PreMarital sex, etc etc... may lead to a lot of unwanted complexities in life.
may it be moral issues, or healt issues... best is to stay away from em! Save ur self for the one for you!

Very very well said message!
Thank you very much.

Kautilya said...

BTW...
when doin "it" the right way...
Sex is the cure for everything!
Nothin recharges you like sex does!

samuru999 said...

Keshi
Two of my comments came up...
so I deleted one!
Yes, it's snowing...
might have a blizzard overnight!
Crazy...
and winter isn't here yet!

Sending you winter wonderland
Hugggggz!

Margie

Anonymous said...

Keshi

Case in point. Casual sex can come to this: Toronto/GTA/citynews.com/news/local/top story

A Mother Is Accused Of Hiding Her Dead Baby's Body In A Freezer Before Disposing Of It Years Later

A desperately sad crime story has come to light in the G.T.A., after a woman was charged with letting her newborn infant die, then trying to cover up the evidence.
The alleged crime supposedly took place sometime in 2002 or 2003 when a woman delivered a child in her home.

The baby was in distress and the mother is alleged to have done nothing to help it or call for aid, and the infant died.

In a bizarre twist, cops say the mother then placed the dead baby in a plastic bag, stuffed it into her freezer and left it there for several years.

She came across it again in January 2005 and that's when detectives believe she took the remains down to the Humber River and simply tossed the child into the water.

Cops probed the incident back then, but couldn't find where the mother had gone.

That changed Tuesday when a conversation about an seemingly unrelated investigation involving Peel Police led cops to suspect both forces were looking for the same woman.

That's when Toronto detectives were able to finally track down 24-year-old Ivana Levkovic.

She's charged with neglecting to obtain assistance in child birth and concealing the body of a child.

She's due in court to answer the accusations today.

Anonymous said...

hi kesh...:)

nah not givin up blogging! Just pre occupied here (explanations in my post!)...

luks like u're rakin up another controversy here *grin*...watch out for the way men react to this and the way women do...this is one topic where we can see sum interesting difference of opinions:)...

firstly, abt that last para...u don need to to explain where u come from and why u write sweetie...ur blog is ur baby and u're free to express urself...ppl may agree or disagree wid what u feel but u write what u believe in...what matters is knowing and believing u're true to urself...ok:)...don get worked up! so totally not worth it....

now for the post! i've always felt woman can't really get casual abt sex...coz we get emotions into everything na! sex widout luv wld hurt us...and does hurt us (ironically women also do have sex for money...forced or not...and i don think they drag emotions into that experience...?!)...back to wat i wz sayin...men can probably and will i guess beg to disagree and say casual sex works...maybe it does kesh...maybe it does for some women too. U and I may think otherwise and voice that aloud but we're not the only women in the world...and increasingly women are more open to the idea of casual sex...more open to experimenting wid sex wid multiple partners...each to their own kesh...no one's a lost soul wid no clue of what they want..if they know that's wat they want, that's totally their moral call..

sumwhere i agree wid one statement in saby's comment (i never thot i wld ever agree wid anything he says *huhh! :O* lol) but wen he said "casual love wud be inappropriate"...i was nodding my head here....na kesh?

anyway...i probably have a lot more to say on this but this is getting long enough!!! plus right now i have to concentrate on work around the house *sigh*....rather than talks on "sex"....casual or otherwise :(....

u tk care ok? smile :)...*hugggss*

Anonymous said...

Hmmm.. casual sex.. well for that matter too much of anything is too bad. It's about striking that balance.

Mehak said...

hey Ms Preacher....who said that.....we all love your posts & know that you write about your experiences & we love to read & leave our comments here....& this is one of moi fav topic of discussion cuz I want the youth of my country & all around the globe know that there has to be love involved while making love.....how can you even think of using your body where there are no feelings attached......feel sad for ppl who get into all this...

We should respect the r'ship we are in...have some dignity...I just don't approve of one night here & one night there...

Lots ppl think I'm like this old age granny...but as u said..these are my views..& I choose to stick to them...cuz I believe in them ....

~~ektaran

Jewel Rays said...

I wonder if any of these guys who see nothign wrong with casual sex respects any of their partners.

the guys probably respect the girls to some extend probably like to how far they can go in sexual activities. But i guess if the girl don't fulfill his needs. His next move will be dumping her. And that move will probably speak of his lack of respect but than again its no string attached. this are really complicated relationships really..hahaha...

Cheers keshi !

Anonymous said...

Nice post Keshi!!
Well my thoughts on Casual sex is pretty much of what you have written in your post. Well, Actually nt a word different. I always thought I am like this because thats how I have been brought up. So you dont need to justify your points. So just cool it lady :)

Ganesh Ranganathan said...

I don't think human beings are monogamous by nature, as some animal species are..

But casual sex is always a risk with all kinds of social diseases prevalent...

Akshay said...

I dont know if casual sex is good or bad. I would leave that to the people who are involved in it. I guess as long as they are fine with and their partners are fine with it, then it is not much of an issue. The people who are involved in casual sex, feel they just need to enjoy. At that particular point of time, they dont really care how cheap this is or how they might be infected by STD's etc. I do know quite a few people who are into this and most of them make sure they use protection. Regarding Swingers clubs, I feel they are for people who are tired of having sex with just one partner. Again both the partners consent to this, so that means both of them are tired of having sex with each other, but they dont want to leave each other for XYZ reasons. May be this works out for them. Once again, I would classify this as personal preference. Sex is a necessary part of life, but not the only part.

You dont need to clarify what you write, because this YOUR blog and you can write anything you wish. So it is upto your audience, if they like it fine and if they dont then they have 2 options one: to move to another site or two: suck it up and read. :)

artnavy said...

I loved mixed doubles too- but do u think Konkona had it or not?

My hubby thinks she did not and i think she did.

saby said...

But i guess if the girl don't fulfill his needs. His next move will be dumping her

TRUE
i wudnt want it any other way
SEX (like Love) is a 2way street

Keshi said...

Ash ty!

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Samy hello!

**:), no wonder our ancestors instilled discipline by creating an institution called marriage n family

true. But marriage cant gaurd feelings. From ancient times married ppl have had extra-marital affairs. Thats altogether another topic :)


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Saby stop feeling so gulity.

** have casual sex with friends
but your heart belongs to your lover

thats alot of bulll and alot of covering up Saby! U can have sex with a million ppl but it takes only few mins to destroy ur virtue n trust for life or to contract AIDS.


**just as in sex workers
they will allow u to copulate
but they wont kiss u
kiss is reserved for her lover

thats just their man-made rule for business. Who said it's the right thing to do? If u can make love to her, then whats the big deal abt kissing duhhhh!


**i wud rather she slept with him for the night

stop beating ard the bush Saby. Answer the Qn Saby. Wud u like ur daughter to go ard have casual sex with mutiple partners?

And abt ur wife...thats bull too! Cos if ur happy for her to have a lover why r u 2 still married n living in the same house?

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Sojourner tnxx ur right!

**, i am just curious whether u felt like that.. like stopping..

yeah i did. And I might for a while.


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Southy :)

**Don't refine the question, come as it shud be..

no ways. I didnt refine it. Thats how I wanted the Qn to be. What makes u think I wanted to refine it? lol!


**if one does gets deviated, fine with it, we all do it, its like food, one needs that occasionally and specially if u had it once u need it again.

nope this is not abt deviation. It's not even abt the affairs. it's abt casual sex that does not involve love and is done only cos of lust. So wud u be happy if K had multiple partners just for sex?

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Bev well-said!

** STD to name one--not mentioning murder.

true. Secret affairs based on only lust can lead to lots of other issues and even crime.


** Sex addiction is real-- I wish I had it--Just joking.

LOL!


**Ask the person dying of AIDS if it was fun and games.

thats right. And its not only AIDS that one can catch, there r so many other yukky STDs ard that has no cure.


**In our country, oral sex is big when it comes to kids

Sex is sex whether its oral or optical lol! Where there's exchange of bodily fluids, there's always danger.

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Deepsat thats right..they usually dun have respect for love n r'ships.


**but so far as i have heard and known, such ppl r never happy and satisfied!!

how can a bird that hops from one tree to another continuously ever be happy and satisfied? That bird is cheated by temp pleasure and one day when it's really tired n bruised from the hopping, it'll be too late to realise it was all temp joy.

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KAP heyy!

**i had a fren who loved F and said that she would make love to F and have sex with the rest...

who's F?

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Annie hey tnxxx!

**Calling it "making love" when it's just plain old sex and nothing more

aha..how can one do that?

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Kautilya ur mum is great :)

** first.. a lot of guilt, then worthlessness,

true. Thats what one of my friends said when she broke up with her BF. It wasnt even a casual r'ship but she felt worthless for having sex with him.

yeah save the best for the last!

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Huggggggz Margie tnxxxx!

**Sending you winter wonderland

aww how beautiful! :)

ty n sleep tight MWAHHHHHH! Nitey Nite!

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Ish helloooooooo WB n mwahhhhhh! It's sooo empty without ya :*(

tnxx for advising me on that...yeah I better not lose my cool. As always u come ard on time to save my soul. ty n huggggggggggggz!

I agree with u Ish. Men r nit ashamed abt it as much as women would be. Cos women r emotional creatures while men r purely sexual creatures lol! But ofcourse there r some men who dun think casual sex is great.


**but wen he said "casual love wud be inappropriate"...i was nodding my head here....na kesh?

thats true but that doesnt make casual sex any better, does it?

LOL Ish u go back n finish ur work than talk abt sex here. Im so glad u could pop in for a while. MWAHHHHH n have a great day babez!

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Johnno ty! :)

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Ektaran hey ty! :) Ur so sweet and tnxx so much for the support, I appreciate that.


** I want the youth of my country & all around the globe know that there has to be love involved while making love.....

yeah cos alot of young ppl these days seem to think having sex is the only best thing ard!


**how can you even think of using your body where there are no feelings attached......feel sad for ppl who get into all this...

exactly!


**Lots ppl think I'm like this old age granny...but as u said..these are my views..& I choose to stick to them...cuz I believe in them ....

good on ya! yeah alot of my other friends tell me that Im like an old granny too LOL but Im quite a wise one in the end. Cos I see some of those ppl in sheer pain right now cos of all the wrong choices they made b4.

ty Ektaran!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

Amy yeah ur right. Being dumped in a casual r'ship must feel alot stupid then LOL!


Keshi.

Anonymous said...

Your post is so important in several ways.. especially for spreading awareness about STD and the likes.. ultimately all of us should be healthy . Apart from that this casual sex thing, is something which really doesn`t jell with a proper human mindset. Man cannot totally return to animal ways.. I agree with samuru999, sex is good only when there is love involved.

But how much ever we express an opinion, and (that is something we always have the right to do, so there`s always support for you :)), there still will be a group of people who have their own outlook of life and think differently. We cannot change them.

That car keys thing was totally disgusting..! I hate that..!

With Best Regards,
Srijith Unni.

Anonymous said...

:)...u know as i did my work arnd d house....i wz thinkin abt this (!!)...the debate here and not 'sex'...:p

i'll admit one thing if i were single and i found sumone i really wanna have sex wid(?)...i wld be open to casual sex (this ppl is a thot and not an invitation...!!)...ONLY if the person can assure me of a way to deal with the emotional aftermath!!!! so if there are women who've learnt to keep the two things separate....i'd say good for u...!

u know this thing abt termin casual sex as sumthin dirty and kinky sumhow doesn't seem fair...@ statements like ppl have to be crazy or suffer from sum moral handicap...i think its a lot more to do with how an individual deals with it and ppl who get arnd kesh don just get into blindly ... safe sex is a basic understanding that most adults have...(for those who don't...WAKE UP!)

the 'swingers club' thing i heard abt as a teen too...i don understand why we walk into a marriage if there's no sense of commitment... i can understand ppl who go thru bad marriage and luk beyond...but for the sheer fun of it? that i don get...

Keshi said...

KK great to hear that u share the same thoughts - as expected hehehehe cos we r so alike LOL! and tnxxx mate!


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Ganesh heyyy!

**I don't think human beings are monogamous by nature, as some animal species are..

I agree. I read that somewhere too. But we do have virtues unlike animals, dun we?

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Akshay hey tnxx!

Ur totally respectful of other ppl's choices and thats nice to see :) But what im saying here is how I feel abt it and I hope no one is offended by that. Even if they r, I still cant help it :)

heyy tnxxx for the support, luv it ;-)

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Artnavy heyy tnxxx!

** but do u think Konkona had it or not?My hubby thinks she did not and i think she did

She had it for sure. Thats why the hubby gets mad in the car LOL!

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Srijith_Unni tnxxx alot!

Alot of ppl thinks it's cool to do it and that everyone else is doing it so why not us etc etc. Yeah sex without love will be similar to what animals have.

And tnxx for ur kind words and the encouragment Srijith!


Keshi.

saby said...

marriage is more than LOVE and SEX dummy!

when u r married and u have children

u have created a home
i wudnt want to destroy my children's home

so i get my LOVE needs from a lover
i dont favour divorce

the understanding wife permits her hubby to love elsewhere


especially when she too dont love him
but she dont want the home to be destroyed for her children

dat is why i like indian women
they are self sacrificing

if u want to marry, guys
marry a bharatiya nari

u wont get a better wife
i dont no much about sri lankans though

Keshi said...

Ish hey WB! lol Im glad to see u here again awwwwwwwwww :):)


**ONLY if the person can assure me of a way to deal with the emotional aftermath

thats great u admitted to it Ish. Well but what d u mean by emotional aftermath? If ur emotions r involved, it's not casual sex Ish.


**u know this thing abt termin casual sex as sumthin dirty and kinky sumhow doesn't seem fair...@ statements like ppl have to be crazy or suffer from sum moral handicap

I understand that Ish. But sex is a scared act between 2 ppl who love each other. Sex is an act that shows how much u love the other person. Ofocurse sex can happen without love, but just imagine that!


**i don understand why we walk into a marriage if there's no sense of commitment

so true!

tnxxx Ish :)



Keshi.

southpaw said...

Answer to ur question which switched meanings in 2 diff sentences:-
I'll say Good luck to her and hope she knows abt the precautionary measures.

And like i said there is lot more abt casual sex than what u actaully think.

Anonymous said...

I just finished watching an Oprah show where she talks to the Amish community and the couple said that people from their community have sex only with their spouse , there is no adultery, no abuse, no divorce and premarital affairs. It felt like they are living in an ideal world. I just cant fathom how somone can have sex with a stranger just picking up a car key, ridiculous, sex has taken over their life I guess!

Anonymous said...

It's your place...and you write whatever you wish to...but you know your posts are always different and best..
Its good that such things don't exist at my place...:)
- Oops..i've exams... :)

southpaw said...

@Saby
SEX (like Love) is a 2way street ***Very true

Keshi said...

Saby ok then. That just suits ya.


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Southy!

**I'll say Good luck to her and hope she knows abt the precautionary measures.

cmon u cant be serious. if u r serious then u r doing that under alot of pressure :)

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Shankari yeah that Amish community is something to admire!

And yeah carnal pleasure does take over some ppl's lives.

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ty Sunil I appreciate that!



Keshi.

Anonymous said...

oh i meant if d guy suggested casual sex...so u see he'd be d one termin it that! and i'd be sayin that @ ONLY if the guy can assure me of a way to deal with the emotional aftermath....so u're right as in it's in no way casual for me but yeah for the guy still stays that way @ causal right?:)...*sigh*

ummmm....sex is beautiful wen two ppl luv each other. Sex is also a need that sumtimes need not involve the depth one feels in luvv...i know it sounds quite impossible but it happens that way too kesh for some...

:)...u can imagine how much work m gettin done...ha ha..! my maa in law's here now...gtg...laterzzz kesh:)......we have a diwali mela (fete') tdy evening, so lukin forward to a fun evening...:)!!

visithra said...

mixed doubles sounds like an english movie ive watched - cant remember the title though but exact storyline

respecting ones body is a respect of oneself - unfortunately not many realise this

Hiren said...

Your post reminds me of what I read on a blog "Women need a reason to have sex, men just need a place". What distinguishes human beings from Animals is consciousness and casual sex blurrs that distinction. Nice style cum substance post from you.

Strange coincidence but my latest post is also on sex education.

Harry said...

I dnt understand that people are forgetting their values and have started doing the thngs just to show their advancement,if not by mentality thn by this way..mean to say,I agree with each and every point which u have written over here in ur post...
*And there are these Swingers Clubs all over the place where married couples exchange their partners just for sex.*---its a height of cheapness....
I had never imagined that a normal human being can degrade himself/herself upto that level...
Even I had written something like that in my blog...
Dear,never think that u r spicing up ur blog...lemme tel u that I m really impressed with u and really like all ur postings and have been learning so many things since the day I have started reading u..I always wish that u keep blogging for the whole life time and I keep commenting on it till my last breadth...

Harry

Cazzie!!! said...

Casual sex hey..is that like..when two people casualy meet out on the street and they just casualy say, "Hey, you wanna piece of my action or what?"...LOL
Seriously though, people think bad things will not come to them through having casual sex..unprotected..well, it does!!! I nurse enough people of late to be able to say that if people want to lead a blind life and think they are immune to STD's then they are wrong! The only excuse they can use is that they have been ill-educated or have had no sex education in the matter..otherwise, it is truly their responsibility to be careful.
Have fun, go meet people..but for goodness sake...use protection!!!

saby said...

But sex is a sacred act between 2 ppl .....

HAHAHAHAHAHAHA
u sure are dumb dummy

its like saying eating PIZZA is a sacred act

Twisted DNA said...

Sex is like religion. Various people believe various ways are right. As long as none of the parties involved are hurt, anything is kosher. Just like about religion, people have very strong opinions about this. If I write all my opinions, I will take too much space. It is interesting to read your ideas though, as usual.

saby said...

Harry sounds like he is my grandpa

HAHAHAHAHAHAHA

saby said...

LUST is rational
it can be explained by reason


LOVE is absurd
u LUST for some one and u delusion yourself into believing it is true LOVE

coz u cant make it with her until u marry her (for indians only and sri lankans perhaps)

southpaw said...

I m dead serious. Didn't i said we hv discussed the issue very seriously many times.

twistedtruth said...

"I'm not a girl who needs attention"

Of course you do. I'm attentive, very attentive.

Brandon

Btw, who's that nice girl, Shionge? She from the Polynesian islands? You think it's appropriate for me to comment on her blog, or would that seem too casual? Her profile pic is driving me crazy.

Orikinla Osinachi. said...

Sex is necessary in life but you really shouldn't be compromising your dignity or your health just to have it.
~ Keshi

Deep calleth after deep.

Now I know why I am attracted to you and confessing and professing my love to you shamelessly online.
God wants the best for me.

God did not create sex for "Casual-ties".
Sexual abuse could be self-induced.

I hate casual sex and I have never had one.

If I am not going to marry you, I cannot sleep with you.

Over 46,000,000 abortions committed in America so far and I am yet to add the ones done already this morning.
Over 46 million innocent souls exterminated.

Prostitution can be eradicated and I know this, because I have done a project for safer sex for commercial sex workers in Nigeria in HIV/AIDS control, intervention and prevention programs.

Thank God for the beautiful and wonderful life God has given you Keshi.

I advise everybody to read this love story Unveil Me My Love, to know how an Abyssinian guard gave up casual love affairs and became reformed in the days of Prophet Muhammad (pbuh).

Sex is not love.

God bless.

Aditi said...

ahh that last paragraph sounded all too familiar
=)
Besides that.. no strings attached relationships to me sound impossible because I understand lust but its just not the same without the emotions is it?

twistedtruth said...

Saby, you are beginning to sound like a wandering minstrel :)

twistedtruth said...

I think Saby is mixing up casual sex with extremely casual sex, lol!

punjabi~car~freak! said...

In my country Pre-marital sex is a sin
and that is what I thnk too

Romantic kisse are different but casula sex????
fuhget it duuude...

punjabi~car~freak! said...

I dunno....
casual sex is just not the right flavour for satsfactions
its absurd, attrocious and unjustified to ur life partner

R.E.B.E.L said...

You are perfectly right.. Only someone who does not have respect for himself/ herself can stoop to a level where you can involve yourself in phisical relationships with someone you have no feelings for..

Anonymous said...

What F@#K?
My funda to the whole thing is pretty simple.
You pay the price for everything u get me it thru physically prespiration, emotional aspiriation or thru money.
U got to pay for everything u get material or emotional or both may be.

The point is do u cherish and value it or it is something U could encash and go splurging....

If U think the burden of things u go thru is too heavy then u should be willing to give it up against anything.

There is a great amount of pain in letting things go... but a few things in life are meant to let go.

Sex is hoy and meant for two souls sacred and all that is pure crap but I would want to be responsible for what I do as well as owe some responsibility towards *her*

let'sfuck said...

I just went to google and saw some immages of people suffering of various STDs, GOD. To think they are avoidable and still only incresing and increasing, where's it going to end? We need love guys; pure, real, true and virtuos love. The one that makes you want to be a better person and the world a better place. Ever experienced that? I have. People should have more of that to begin to clean up their act.

I don't judge people's behaviour towards sex, regardless their preferences, so long as they are respecting others. However, RESPONSABILITY AND SELF CONTROL are crucial because, yes, the consequences can be so drastic and painful it's really not worth the moment of pleasure. The thing is most people, or so many people, are so out of control in life; they live as bodies controlled by primitive drives (be that anything that drugs you -food, alcohol, sex, drugs, work, etc, etc-) without even realising it. And when you combine those you get a express ticket to meet with disaster- the drunk person who has unprotected sex, and on and on. Sadly, many times, reality hits them when it's already too late and there's nothing else to do but to learn the lesson (yes, I know, the hard way) and perhaps try to teach and guide others so that they will not make the same mistakes.

I'm pro things, and not against things so I will not go against casual sex. Rather, I'll promote finding harmony and balance in your life so that you can manage sex, or any other aspect of your life, in a constructive and healthy manner.



Nice food for thought here Keshi.

let'sfuck said...

I just went to google and saw some immages of people suffering of various STDs, GOD. To think they are avoidable and still only incresing and increasing, where's it going to end? We need love guys; pure, real, true and virtuos love. The one that makes you want to be a better person and the world a better place. Ever experienced that? I have. People should have more of that to begin to clean up their act.

I don't judge people's behaviour towards sex, regardless their preferences, so long as they are respecting others. However, RESPONSABILITY AND SELF CONTROL are crucial because, yes, the consequences can be so drastic and painful it's really not worth the moment of pleasure. The thing is most people, or so many people, are so out of control in life; they live as bodies controlled by primitive drives (be that anything that drugs you -food, alcohol, sex, drugs, work, etc, etc-) without even realising it. And when you combine those you get a express ticket to meet with disaster- the drunk person who has unprotected sex, and on and on. Sadly, many times, reality hits them when it's already too late and there's nothing else to do but to learn the lesson (yes, I know, the hard way) and perhaps try to teach and guide others so that they will not make the same mistakes.

I'm pro things, and not against things so I will not go against casual sex. Rather, I'll promote finding harmony and balance in your life so that you can manage sex, or any other aspect of your life, in a constructive and healthy manner.



Nice food for thought here Keshi.

Anonymous said...

casual sex... i guess to each his own, but i personally dont endorse it. i mean i totally agree with what you say about how can u sleep with someone you dont love or care about? *shudder*. and the added risks of AIDS n all that. jeez. get a grip people and wait a while no? also, while on this topic, have you heard of this show called dateline on NBC. pls pls pls google it, or send me ur email and i will email you links. its a reality tv type show where they catch online predators/ sex offenders who target 13-14 yr olds and its amazing to see the number of people from the indian subcontinent being caught. For these kind of people, if opportunity strikes, pls go have casual sex, but dont harm a child coz of ur lustful needs. I was filled with disgust when i saw what people can do all in the name of SEX. Despos. I was probably digressing, but i wanted to let you know of it.

:-)

Anonymous said...

also, hney.. this blog is ur space, so if u feel like preaching pls go right ahead and do so.. trust me we LOVEEEE to read.. those who have a problem can use the mouse to click on the cross to the topmost right corner of the window and EXIT or if they chose to stay, deal with it.. if they cant do either, go suck an egg!!

we love ur posts..!! yay! :D

Jeevan said...

Nice post! Sex should come after the guy-gal understands each other’s, the feeling should come form their heart not form the brain.

niki yokota said...

i totally agree with u, keshi-chan!!
casual sex does not sound good.(=_=)

Kavi said...

These things are increasingly becoming common in society these days. Atleast, it doesnt raise eyebrows ! whichs is sad, as there are certain age old mores that we are compromising on. Am not seeing society take a 'u' turn, anytime soon in the near future !

Second, i dont see you 'preach'. You are as honest, lovely and as clear in your thoughts like a clear stream of water.

I am not sure what promted you to write those last lines. But if its because of what someone wrote to you or commented, well, i dont see the need to justify ! This is a free space. People are entitled to their opinions.

And there are the others like me, who value yours !

Autumn Storm said...

Well-written, thought-provoking post as always, Kesh.
My view in short: To each their own.

Foodie's Hope said...

You are raised well, Keshi!! Be proud and respectful of your body!!you are right , pretty lady!!Share with someone you really really care!!There is no other better feeling than to wake up beside someone you care!The relationship might not last,but as long as you don't regret ,it's A okay to me!!:)))

AnonymousBlogger said...

I have never heard of Simply Red, and still have no idea who they are or where they're from.

tsduff said...

Casual sex? It isn't casual for me - even with the mate I have. No such thing in my world. Each time we have sex, it is meaningful (even if done casually *wink wink*)

You worry too much - You are a warm and wonderful person, and I'm glad to know you, if even just on blogs. HUGS Kesh!

Dalicia said...

ppl are not thinking! all they care is about their desire. obviously, if someone just want to have sex only. they only treat you like a toy.

anyways, it's a problem because the number of prostitution is growing.

sex is men's weakness. for one thing, they'll suffer later :P

R2K said...

I think something is wrong with your template code.

Within Without said...

Hi Kesh. Sorry, haven't been around much.

I think sex can have different meanings to different people at different times.

Including casual sex...

For example, someone who doesn't want to be in a full-time, long-term relationship, but who still wants sex just for the enjoyment of sex in a respectful way with a consenting adult who knows that's what it's all about...

I think that's OK.

I think two people who aren't in a fully committed, forever kind of relationship can have casual sex.

And they can have it with respect and caring and joy and all the things that sex can bring.

I think it's all about intention and honesty and respect, assuming the lust and desire are there already.

Because if those first three aren't there, the last two don't matter.

But I guess in an ideal world, yes, I think sex is better in a committed, long-term deal.

The sex gets better and, if it works right, all the other stuff should get better with it.

:)

Anonymous said...

Sometimes, I would think that STDs are god-created to teach man a lesson. A by-product of casual sex.

Was shocked to open this blog and see the first image in this post! :-) I am from office! LOL!!

Shitrint said...

i hav the same question here as u do...how can ppl just engage in casual sex? its very degrading according to me and i agree with u on the points that this involves disrespect to the body and its cheap giving in to lust when theres no love involved.
and STD's are another aspect, a grave issue which ppl dont keep in mind...risking their and their innocent spouses/partners lives just for the sake of satisfying a few carnal desires!
i really got grossed out wen i saw those google images.
it was a very well written and relevant post!
:)

dumbdodi said...

I agree. Sex shouldn't be a mechanical process.
Don't want to judge people (I am not saying you are hun) who are into casual sex but its definitely not something I can grasp
ALso mentioning STDs you are creating great awareness. AIDS is not the only STD ofcourse

Keshi said...

Heyy Ish!

**so u're right as in it's in no way casual for me but yeah for the guy still stays that way @ causal right?

lol yes Ishi :)


**Sex is also a need that sumtimes need not involve the depth one feels in luvv...

I agree..it not need not but when it happens that way, we r being just animals.


**i know it sounds quite impossible but it happens that way too kesh for some...

it sure does!


**we have a diwali mela (fete') tdy evening, so lukin forward to a fun evening...

WOW I love fetes...I hope u had lots of fun Ish. I'm looking forward to the Annual Sydney Diwali Mela. TC n hugggggggggz!

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Visithra huggggggggz!

**mixed doubles sounds like an english movie ive watched -

It was an Indian movie with English bits and subtitles.


**respecting ones body is a respect of oneself - unfortunately not many realise this

so true. tnxxx sweety!

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Hiren hello!


**"Women need a reason to have sex, men just need a place".

How true! :):)


**What distinguishes human beings from Animals is consciousness and casual sex blurrs that distinction.

Spot on!


**Strange coincidence but my latest post is also on sex education.

yep I read it. Seems like we r thinking alor abt sex these days LOL! Just kidding ;-)

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Harry heyyy!


**its a height of cheapness....

I think so too. Cos as humans we need to think before we do something.


**I always wish that u keep blogging for the whole life time and I keep commenting on it till my last breadth...

OMG that comment really made me cry Harry! Ur soooo honest and sooo sweet. ty n hugggggggggggz!

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Cazzie heyya!


**it is truly their responsibility to be careful.

I agree Caz. If some ppl really want sex so much they better use protection yet be prepapred to catch other kinds of diseases that cannot be prevented by protection.

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heyy Saby!

**But sex is a sacred act between 2 ppl .....
HAHAHAHAHAHAHA
u sure are dumb dummy


ok Im dumb and ur so enlightened just cos ur so full of lust? Great Saby, good luck to u! Im laughing here!

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Twisted_DNA hello!


**Sex is like religion.

true. It's a very personal choice.


**Just like about religion, people have very strong opinions about this.

yep and this is my opinion :)

tnxxxx DNA!

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Saby hi again!

**Harry sounds like he is my grandpa HAHAHAHAHAHAHA

And u sound like a sex addict with no protection.


**LOVE is absurd
u LUST for some one and u delusion yourself into believing it is true LOVE

There's a difference between LUST and LOVE. Just cos u cant get it, dun expect everyone else to be blind too Saby.


**coz u cant make it with her until u marry her (for indians only and sri lankans perhaps)

Thats absurdity thats prevalent certain countries. Thats altogether a different topic.

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Heyyy Southy!

**I m dead serious. Didn't i said we hv discussed the issue very seriously many times.

ok then!


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TT heyy!

***"I'm not a girl who needs attention"
Of course you do. I'm attentive, very attentive.

wuteva!


**You think it's appropriate for me to comment on her blog, or would that seem too casual? Her profile pic is driving me crazy.

do wut u like TT. U dun have to get my opinion on that. Ur a man arent ya? :)

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G'day Ori!

**Over 46 million innocent souls exterminated.

yep thats a result of jumping into bed without thinking clearly.


**I have done a project for safer sex for commercial sex workers in Nigeria in HIV/AIDS control, intervention and prevention programs.

thats great work Ori!


**Sex is not love.

ty!

God bless u Ori TC!

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Hi Aditi!

**I understand lust but its just not the same without the emotions is it?

Spot on! But alot of ppl just do it for the pleasure and even tho it's a very personal choice, Im just saying it's grosssss!


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Punjabi hello!

Pre-marital sex is altogether a different topic. If the 2 r in love and r matured adults who r committed to each other, it's really up to them then.


**Romantic kisse are different but casula sex????

thats right. And there r no casual kisses r there, so why casual sex :):)

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R.E.B.E.L heyyyy!

**Only someone who does not have respect for himself/ herself can stoop to a level where you can involve yourself in phisical relationships with someone you have no feelings for..

yes. And why do some women who get pregnant b4 marriage commit suicide? Out of shame and guilt. SO THINK B4 U DO ANYTHING PPL.

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Tarun hello!

**What F@#K?

huh? :)


**U got to pay for everything u get material or emotional or both may be.

mmm Im not quite sure what u mean here...


**Sex is hoy and meant for two souls sacred and all that is pure crap

I didnt say its just for 2 ppl. U can have many sexual partners in ur life at various times. But what im talking abt is ppl who have casual sex with multiple partners simultaneously.


**but I would want to be responsible for what I do as well as owe some responsibility towards *her*

true. It is also abt responsibilty and dignity.

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Let's_fuck hello WC! :)


**To think they are avoidable and still only incresing and increasing, where's it going to end?

yes it's yuiikkkz!


**We need love guys; pure, real, true and virtuos love. The one that makes you want to be a better person and the world a better place.

Spot on! And as humans we have a brain to think and alot of dignity to preserve.


**I have. People should have more of that to begin to clean up their act.

For sure! Alot of ppl thinl having sex as they please just for kicks is all too cool and hip. I really do feel sorry for such blind ppl.


**I don't judge people's behaviour towards sex, regardless their preferences, so long as they are respecting others.

I do judge them :) Cant help it. If a man comes n proposes to me, and he's had a 1000 casual sex partners, d u think I'd marry him? Not even in my wildest dreams. We have been blessed with a brain and consience so we can JUDGE to serve the well-being of ourselves.


**However, RESPONSABILITY AND SELF CONTROL are crucial because, yes, the consequences can be so drastic and painful it's really not worth the moment of pleasure.

Spot on! Ask an AIDS or a Herpes patient what it is to live with such illnesses. yes they got it cos of sex.


**they live as bodies controlled by primitive drives (be that anything that drugs you -food, alcohol, sex, drugs, work, etc, etc-) without even realising it.

yes sadly thats how the world works today.


**And when you combine those you get a express ticket to meet with disaster-

thats why I titled this post as 'Casual-ties', pun-intended :)


**Rather, I'll promote finding harmony and balance in your life so that you can manage sex, or any other aspect of your life, in a constructive and healthy manner.

Thats a great way to go abt it. tnxxx mate!

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s0ul hellooo! I missed ya!


**its a reality tv type show where they catch online predators/ sex offenders who target 13-14 yr olds..

We have a DATELINE here in AUs but thats more to do with Documentaries on various topics. Ok send me this link then.


**and its amazing to see the number of people from the indian subcontinent being caught.

EEEEEEEEEEKS really???


**I was filled with disgust when i saw what people can do all in the name of SEX. Despos.

I so know wut u mean. Paedophiles need to be jailed for life. How can anyone think of kids in that way!!!!!


**or if they chose to stay, deal with it.. if they cant do either, go suck an egg!!

LOL ty sweety HUGGGGGGGGGZ!

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Jeevan hello!


**Sex should come after the guy-gal understands each other’s, the feeling should come form their heart not form the brain.

true. o.w. sex is just a carnal need like how animals need it.

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Niki hi sweety!


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Kavi hello!


**Am not seeing society take a 'u' turn, anytime soon in the near future !

yep they wont turn back. Cos everything has become easy and cheap so why turn back?


**You are as honest, lovely and as clear in your thoughts like a clear stream of water.

OMG thats such a lovely thing to say Kavi. Im stoked. ty for the love n support n huggggggggz!

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Autumn baby hows u?


**My view in short: To each their own.

Ofocurse girl. It's a very personal choice. This is just my opinion and it may not suit alot of ppl. tnxxx n huggggggggggz!

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G'day Foodie!


**There is no other better feeling than to wake up beside someone you care!

so darn true. Imagine waking up next to some person u just slept with for pleasure...eeeeeeeeeeksss how strange n degrading wud that be! Unless ofcourse both r like that.


**The relationship might not last,but as long as you don't regret ,it's A okay to me!!

Thats right. If there's no regrets, that means either both r the same, or both were in love. And even if it was for one night, if it was an act of true love, then that's fine.

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G'day AB!

**I have never heard of Simply Red, and still have no idea who they are or where they're from.

hehe an old band. Some of the old bands r really great AB. Check em out.

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Terry mwahhhh!

**Each time we have sex, it is meaningful (even if done casually *wink wink*)

hehe so sweet!


**You worry too much - You are a warm and wonderful person, and I'm glad to know you, if even just on blogs. HUGS Kesh!


awwwwww HUGGGGGGGGZ ty babes!

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Dalicia hiya sexy!


**all they care is about their desire.

thats so right. Desire is the root of agony.


**obviously, if someone just want to have sex only. they only treat you like a toy.

ofcourse. Think of it in sex-toy terms.


**sex is men's weakness. for one thing, they'll suffer later

if they suffer their own consequences, then thats ok. Cos Karma's gotta pay back somehow. But when they bring diseases to their wives n GFs at home, then they r doubling their bad karma.

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Alex heyyy!

**I think something is wrong with your template code.

How d u mean?

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WW heyyyy!

**For example, someone who doesn't want to be in a full-time, long-term relationship, but who still wants sex just for the enjoyment of sex in a respectful way with a consenting adult who knows that's what it's all about...

ok I u'stand but how can u respect someone who makes his/her body available just for sex? i dun u'stand that.


**I think two people who aren't in a fully committed, forever kind of relationship can have casual sex.

hey thats ok. Cos their r alot of ppl who r living-together and cos they r in love with each other, there's LOVE involved.


**But I guess in an ideal world, yes, I think sex is better in a committed, long-term deal.

thank God! :)

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Sreejith_Kumar WC n tnxxx!


**Sometimes, I would think that STDs are god-created to teach man a lesson. A by-product of casual sex.

mebbe, u have a point there :)


**Was shocked to open this blog and see the first image in this post! :-) I am from office! LOL!!

LOL hahahaha!

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Shitrint heyyy!

Ur spot on cos I think the same..how can u just have sex w.o. having any emotions involved?


**risking their and their innocent spouses/partners lives just for the sake of satisfying a few carnal desires!

thats so true. I read alot of stories abt spouses catching yukky illnesses from their husbands cos they have been sleeping with other women. And there r many law-suits going on cos of all that! Look where Karma has taken these ppl. How sad!


**i really got grossed out wen i saw those google images.

did u see them? did u see how scary those pics were! Not many ppl realise that sex can lead to loss of one's nose too!

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dumbdodi hi sweety!


**Don't want to judge people (I am not saying you are hun) who are into casual sex but its definitely not something I can grasp

hehe but Im judging here sweety. I cant help it. Im human and I shall judge in this case. Cos imagine this. If a guy u really love turns out to be a sex maniac who had slept with millions of women, wud u really marry him? I wont. I have to be judgmental in this case. it's for our well-being too.


**ALso mentioning STDs you are creating great awareness. AIDS is not the only STD ofcourse

there r so many other grotesque STDs...mannnnnn I was shocked when I did my research for this post!

ty babez n hugggggggggz!


Keshi.

Within Without said...

Hey Kesh...

By now I'm about three of your posts behind, but just needed to clarify a couple of things or at least respond to your response.

No need to post this, just fyi...

You're young and beautiful and your dream is still to meet the man of your dreams and to make everything count in a one-and-only way, and that's great.

I think that's everyone's expectations at the stage of life you're in.

I take every relationship I have with a female very seriously, including the sex part.

But from my experience (a divorce, a couple of serious relationships since then, a lot of dating other women, a few relationships of a month or two), you just learn that sometimes, it can't all be about one-and-onlies and forever.

And if I thought like that, I'd probably be in the loony bin right now.

Please understand, I totally respect your right to think the way you do, but there are different perspectives.

I have never actually HAD the kind of casual sex you're talking about, because I couldn't do it myself.

But I could certainly see how it could be done.

I have gone out with women four or five times and then slept with them, in a respectful, cordial way, and in some cases it hasn't been long before we've gone our separate ways, just because it didn't work out.

That doesn't mean those sexual encounters were bad or evil. People like sex, they need sex, sex is part of the relationship between men and women who are more than friends.

I guess I am curious about whether your fear of or concern about this might sometimes keep you more distant from some really nice guys than you might otherwise be.

It's universal...guys will always need and want and be motivated hugely by sex. My guess is you can separate the good ones from the bad ones with some good judgment.

Hope I didn't sound preachy here, I didn't mean to be.

:0)

Anonymous said...

What I meant was U pay (or u r responsible) for everything u do.Things done for which we have to bury our own conscience come back to haunt our future in some way or the other.

Blessed said...

oh my gosh Keshi! I have been having trouble with my computer at home so I don't want you to think that I disappeared and don't car. And this post---it is marvelous!!!!!
Remember when I told you I had a falling out with a fellow blogger who I happened to had been friends with on the outside world (sorta)?
Well, my dear, it all started with this subject- CASUAL SEX!
You see, I don't get it. I don't comprehend it. First off casual means-occuring by chance, accidental, showing little interest and then you put that word in front of sex. It makes no sense to me! Well, on this blog, I was told I was judging people, I was told that I did get it but I was choosing to be all moral, Virgin Mary like, etc, etc, etc.
It was awful. I was being accused of being judgemental yet I was being judged. NO ONE understood where I was coming from and it seemed everyone that day on that blog thought I was being hateful. So long story short--I agree whole heartedly with your blog and it's really good to know that I am not alone in feeling as I do.
I have never had casual sex. I have never had a one night stand. I could have but I COULD NOT!!!!
Maybe that day, I was inadvertently making people feel bad about how they have lived their lives. I was the lone ranger that day and NO ONE understood where I was coming from. NO ONE! It's a wild feeling to feel as if the whole blog world is against you. Also, I must add I kept saying to these bloggers that I believe to each their own but that didn't matter. So anyway, I've rambled on enuff.
Thanks for always being inspirational!
BLESSINGS!

niki yokota said...

wat is that comment for me? lol
wheeeeeeeeeeeeee..

Dawn....सेहर said...

I totally agree with u...and I believe a lot has to do with the tradition and culture that we all grew up! To respect ourselves, our body and to make love to someone whom you have that feeling...as I think even those who go for casual pleasure...somehow fall for that person as somewhere they cant just do it without emotion!
I have seen Mixed Doubles...and through out the movie I was commenting for that husband and at the end when what happened...I was happy...damn! thats how it should happen :D...!
I respect you more dear...as I used to think am an old thinking person with all this...but no its our culture which keeps us alive no matter at what age :)
luv ya ...n lots of hugggggggz to my sis
Cheers babe- hats-off

Keshi said...

WW got ya ;-) tnxxx!

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Blessed sweety HUGGGGGGGGZ!

**. I was being accused of being judgemental yet I was being judged.

Well then dun take their words to heart. I say I CAN judge when it comes to something like this and I WOULD. So who cares if they dun wanna agree with me. Sweety sometimes we have to judge and we cant avoid that can we, cos we r human! So let them do what they want and we do what we want.

Abt the whole blog world going against ya...well who cares? As long as u believe in what u believe and follow that, then who cares abt the rest of the world. Im with u 100% cos I dun u'stand casual sex either. It's just a cheap convenience. Thats all. And Im sure alot of ppl feel guilty abt it and thats why they attacked ya. If they didnt feel guilty abt it, they would have just explained things nicely to u, like some ppl did here. So u still win :) HUGGGGGGGGGGGGZ!

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Just a 'Hi' Niki lol :) aww huggggggggggggz!


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Dawny huggggggggz Im glad u agree with me.

**as I used to think am an old thinking person with all this

whoever said that? No matter what, u have to always stick to what u believe. Who cares if the whole world is doing something else! As long as ur conscience is clear, nothing will bother u. And yes the culture plays a big part.

MWAHHHH!


Keshi.

Ghost Particle said...

Great to know you are strong in heart and action. When understanding prevails then there is no space to go wrong. When personal opinions prevails over general sense, problems arises. I think the media is to be blamed, but humans need awareness too...just that many dont have the guiding hand. Sad.

Keshi said...

yes Ghosty ur right.

**When personal opinions prevails over general sense, problems arises

Spot on!

tnxxx!
Kshi.

Łóòň Ġãĺ said...

i so agree with u .... sex shud be reserved for The One ... that's what i think as of now.

Good post ...

i wish saby wudnt hv been so stupid @ formal sex!

TLW said...

:-)

Keshi said...

Cheesy u know Saby is mental lol!

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TLW :)




Keshi.