Sorry strictly prohibited?

Last night I was wacthing a true story of a woman (Kelly) who betrayed her older sister by having an affair with her husband. The sister sort of suspected it but didn't harass Kelly with it 'cause she was only 15 at the time and she thought it was just silly flirting. The night that her sister went missing, Kelly was having s#x with her sister's husband at home! The next morning they found out that the sister was a victim of car-jacking and horrible murder. This happened almost 15yrs ago and Kelly regrets every bit of it today. Though she's not involved in the murder she was ashamed of her double life and for knowingly cheating her sister. One important thing she said was "I never got to say Sorry to her, and now I will never be able to..." and she was totally devastated.

This is rather a heavy example but I don't understand why people find it really hard to say sorry when they truly hurt someone. It's only a simple word that expresses your regret in saying or doing something hurtful. I know it does not take away the pain caused but it will atleast relate to the other person that you are truly regretful of what happened. Hence I believe that people who don't want to say Sorry are really not repentant of what they did.

I have come across many people in my life that hardly use the word SORRY even when they know they have done something wrong. It's as if that they have a fear of this word (sorryphobia or something hehe), that it will hurt them instead, their ego perhaps. I don't expect their Sorry anyways because even if such people apologised, it would mean nothing more than just an empty word used for the sake of it. But I think by remaining insensitive they are doing THEMSELVES injustice and self-neglect, more than the persom affected. Because they are missing a chance of a lifetime to extend that hand of apology that if used would save them from great amounts of guilt, remorse and self-bitterness some other day. Usually young people are arrogant and don't realise the value of this word and some fine day, when they are old and grey, they sit in front of God and ask for forgiveness. What's the point? One person I know didn't have a good relationship with her mother and now that the mother is ill with Cancer, she's running around churches asking for forgiveness from God and to give her mum back to her. How can she even patch up the damage now that her mother isn't too well? You are given a chance in this life to love and obey God...loving God is not praying daily or running to Him when tragedy strikes, it's about saying Sorry to the person you hurt, it's about thanking the friend who helped you, it's about realising that you can be wrong too sometimes, it's about being open to the other man's views, it's about making mistakes but realising they were mistakes and taking the chance to say Sorry...

Still SORRY seems to be the hardest word to say. Therefore don't leave a chance for you to cry some day not having the person you so wanted to Thank or say Sorry to. This is the ideal time so just say it, but make sure you mean it 'cause a Sorry without the feeling is not useful to yourself.

This is to my dad...not that I ever hurt his feelings but Im sorry that he never got to see me going this far in life...I'm sorry you were taken too quick dad. Just like a butterfly you quickly escaped my glimpse, but the vivid and colorful memory of you is as brandnew as today. That memory can't see me but I can sing to it...

Sorry, I never told you, all I wanted to say...
Now it's too late to hold you,
'Cause you've flown away, so far away.
Never, Had I imagined, yeah, living without your smile...
Feelin' and knowing you hear me...It keeps me alive...
Alive, And I know you're shining down on me from Heaven,
Like so many friends we've lost along the way,
And I know eventually we'll be together..One sweet day....

One Sweet Day - Mariah Carey.