Friday, March 3

Friendship Algebra...

We are just net buddies...hold on a sec...why did I use the term 'just' when in real you can have a great friendship over the net. I have sound proof of that...or do I? Atleast I did for a while...the fact that it's no more doesn't make it unreal - it was there somehow. Net or not, two people can have a great bond, I believe in that. A friendship in bits and bytes...in blog-hops and chats...through many keystrokes of affection and countless logins of anticipation. But somehow some caluclations creep in, yuikkkks - net or not, friendship accounts and balance sheets come in - why? Why can't we just be the way we are...why do we always have to prove to each other that we are infact great friends? After all, to me friendship means having to do nothing towards your friend to 'prove' your friendship. 'Cos trying to prove means you are not naturally there. Maybe that's why I have very few close friends in life...those who couldn't handle my carefree (or you could choose to say careless) nature just discarded me from their memory bank. I didnt say I'm not happy...it's fine. As long as you are happy, I'm happy. I said I love you, I miss you and I care for you...but as you suggest, none of that was for lies. Why would I spend my precious emotions on someone if I don't feel any love for that person? I can't do it, can you? But you don't think that's enough a measure of friendship...ah it's all about measures and calculations isn't it. I don't know friendship had a mathematical side to it, somehow I don't wish to learn it. I just like my illiterate self in this bond called friendship. Leave Algebra for school please.
Guys I will not be posting any birthday posts for my net friends hereafter - please forgive me for that. I don't want to treat anyone any more speical than another and it won't be fair if I forget dates etc. One of the reasons I haven't got a blog-friends list in my blog is also because of this same reason. Anyways, hope you all understand and I'm so sorry if I forgot anyone's birthday this year. Happy Belated Birthday Wishes to all who celebrated their birthdays already for 2006! And I know no Maths within special bonds...sorry if that disappoints you.

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Sujit said...

I belive that someone (your friend.. whom you though so.. may be through net!!) just hurt you, so badly with the word 'JUST' while you did not think in that way for your friend!!..

tulipspeaks said...

just dropped in to see how u r going..

:) i'm praying that 'your friend' will understand..

well, thats one of the reason why i nvr have a bday post for any of my blog frens.. dont wanna hurt anyone...the second reason is.. i dont know any of the dates :P

'your friend' is just hurt..doesn't make him/her a bad friend...may be he/she wants a little more from u (us). we r not obligated to do so.. but we can try nah?

hugsss

=am000nie=

Jewel Rays said...

Hey keshi...

U sound like you have been wounded. *HUGS*

Is everything ok?

It always hurts when arrows come shooting back right at ya heart with people getting abit judgemental on your expressions sometimes. but at the end of the day your love for them will shine and make them realise that they have been thinking wrong all this while. You are love Keshi with that great beautiful heart plus expression that unveils from within.

I hope this will help a smile.

Chin up sweetheart.:)

Keshi said...

~~Sujit

thanks but I really dunno anymore...




~~Amutha

Amu hugggggggggz I miss ya heaps!

dunno Amu...Im tired...



Keshi.

white devil said...

i see you are online right now i never will and never want such things. if you keep cool i am content, thanks for keeping an eye on me.

tulipspeaks said...

i missing ya too.. sorry couldnt read ya mails..in the office :(


dont worry honey...those who belongs to us will come back to us.. u taught me that, dont u? :)

=am000nie=

white devil said...

is there anyway to chat with you?

Keshi said...

~~Jewel_Rays

heyy Amy thanks...that was beautiful and yeah it did made me feel good...huggggggggz!

I dunno what to do when ppl misunderstand me...and accuse me of things I never said or did...net is a hard place to judge the motive/tone behind the words u type...I think I talk too much...I better control that cos I maybe hurting ppl w.o. my knowledge, even the ppl I knew for so long.





~~White_Devil

thanks sweety!



Keshi.

Keshi said...

~~Amutha

Amuuu muahhhh! I know I can count on u to learn something from each of my posts...how wonderful to have u saying that...thanks!

I will email u soon...U check later ok...huggggggz!





~~White_Devil

U can email me at kajole@hotmail.com :) Cos we cant have YM/Msngr at work...


Keshi.

Keshi said...

U know wut guys...it's amazing...the energy u all bring in here...u guys radiate so much love towards me...the moment I post something, there's all of u here commenting, trying to console me, see me through my words and make me feel so alive and needed...thanks so much for being YOU!

Luv u all!

Keshi.

Pri said...

yet realisation dawns on yet another!! sigh!..i wonder if nethin is ever real be it in thr virtual world or the so called actual one...n do the things wch seem soo real last forever...still havent found ne answers to tht..
"jeevan ke safar mein rahi ,
milte hain bichad jane ko,
aur de jaate hain yaadein,
tanhai mein tadpane ko" :(

neways all i can say is ..lets cheer up pal :)atleast lets try ..

ce'la'vie...

Keshi said...

~~Pri

Thanks for that insightful comment abt 'real' things in life...so true!

**n do the things wch seem soo real last forever.

good Q...guess they dun, and why not? u got me thinking deep...

I dun u'stand Hindi that well...so it would be great if u can translate that verse for all of us...thanks!


Keshi.

Pri said...

hey keshi..no probs pal..lemme translate tht for u...though u must hav heard it umpteen times before at diff places, diff times diff ways...but it juss says tht
"in life we meet people only to find out in the end tht its not meant to be n we hav to part ways...and all they leave us wth are memories ..memories to haunt us in solitude "...:)

tk care

Pri said...

its a famous hindi song btw..don remember the movie though...heyy didu get the song by jagjit singh ive posted in my last post..no worries will explain tht some time :)

uttara said...

hey baby ... am sorry was so damnn tied up couldnt make it...

i really donno wat to say .. will get bk ...
dont be so upset ... relax sweetyyy

huggggzzzzzzz
uttara

Boldnbeautiful said...

I have come across so many so called best friends, but at the same time they back bite.

One need not express thier self or show that they are best friends.
It is a feeling. Action speaks more than words.

real friend hold no calculation.

Post on birthdays it is difficult to handle. Remembering dates is so hard. Due to time constraint one cannot cope even though they are aware of some one's birthday.

Atleast blogs like u have lots of readers & u are friendly with many too. In case if u dont dedicate the post to some one, they ,may feel they are less important.

Boldnbeautiful said...

Keshi one cannot make whole world happy. If anyone try to do so in that process they will be more unhappy.

Cheers baby

PuNeEt said...

ye friendship doesnt have a mathematical side...
dun be down sweeti...
chillax...

look... its not wrong to baised towards ur certain friends...
we all are...
in real world as well as virtual world...
no two person can hve the same importance n same priority...

dun knw abt u
bt I'm biased towards my friends...
some definitely deserves special
attention n luv
and I'll always give them

if others envy its their probs...
i cant help it...

take care
Cheers

Queen Bee said...

Hope things will work out better in one way or another for both of you. It can be so draining to be locked in negative emotions... Try to cheer up, Keshi... Hugs

desperado said...

relations and emotions can never be measured.
and yes grt frndships can be built even over d net...i believe in it n infact i have frnds over d net..one of them is u :)

so keep believing in frndsip
and keep smiling my beautiful frnd..

P.S. and i believe there r few relationships more beautiful thn frndship

burf said...

quite poetic

it's a pity that matters of friendship sadden ppl

Rohit Talwar said...

Sometimes you write exactly how I feel!

Cheer up! :)

Kripa Shankar said...

hey keshi,
come on..cheer up girl. spk to this friend of yours. well, you are "what you are" with friends and not what your friends want you to be.
psst. and keep the wishes coming.

Known Stranger said...

every time i visit your blog the photographs you use for your subject catchees my eyes and you really have a great taste of finding the photos for your subject or is that you write that is apt with the pohots

Jeevan said...

after i come out of the school, i dont have any Friends for the last 5 years, really feel bad on that days, without sharing my thoughts and emothions with friends, Buut now i got lot of frinds (blog), to hear my thoughts and emotions. next to my parents i respect the friendship.

In my school days i am week in Algebra.:)

>|' ; '| said...

friends dnt need to prove ne thing to each other. trust is inbuilt in good friendships.

VirginUpdates said...

hey keshi
sometimes people say things that hurt you more than they may have meant to.
Even I feel a bit dismayed when I think of some friends who used to always be there and one day they just turn their back on you.It may not be for no reason but I understand it as their calculativeness.When they need something from you ,they re-emerge.Like you said,keep algebra for the classroom
Take time out for yourself and forget those who have hurt your feelings.

johann said...

...a heard that hurts is a heard that loves ...
Hugs
jo_ko@libero.it

VirginUpdates said...

Hi keshi
sorry about how low ur feeling.but see you have so many friends coming back and just being there for you.So who needs the one that is so calculative?
Recently one of my good buddies turned their back on me too.I felt really bad cos I really thought that friendship did mean something.But it was all algebra.When they want something they chit-chat you up like crazy and then when you can't deliver..poof!they are gone.
Hope you feel up soon.
Cheer up.Listen to some fun music.go shopping.

PRADEEP K. said...

Hey, Keshi!

(HUGGGGGGGGGGGGGGZZZ)

Wonder what happened to prompt this post. I am sorry that you had to take so much hurt.

If talking about it would help you, you could email me anytime.

Lucky to be your friend,
Much Love,
PRADEEP K.

Gangadhar said...

Keshi,
you know..i have three sisters..but i often forget saying their birthday and wedding anniversary wishes..They usually telephone me and get my wishes...lolzz.
ok..sometimes it happen to everyone to forget the imp dates for one's dear ones..But what we need is understanding..
Btw do u know my birthday? lolzzz.

take care,dear

Contented said...

The language of friendship is not words , but rather meanings . It is an intelligence above language."
-Thoreau
Hope your friend/someone will understand this sooner or later.

Gangadhar said...

Keshi,
you know..i have three sisters..but i often forget saying their birthday and wedding anniversary wishes..They usually telephone me and get my wishes...lolzz.
ok..sometimes it happen to everyone to forget the imp dates for one's dear ones..But what we need is understanding..
Btw do u know my birthday? lolzzz.

take care,dear

rebel_on_loose said...

Hey Keshi....this is strightforward post n i luv it!
Truly friendship shud not follow the binds of calculations and forced responses....perhaps thts the reason y i too don't have a list of my fav bloggers! Those who i write to know i consider them close,and thr shudn't b any need 2 prove it at all!

saby said...

friends are not forever
neither are marriages

just enjoy the moment
dont make promises u cant keep

a friend today
maybe yr worst enemy tomorrow

misunderstandings do take place
i seen it happen

Zombie said...

:( now how will I come to know whose birthday it is?

kannan udayarajan said...

friendship means having to do nothing towards your friend to 'prove' your friendship. 'Cos trying to prove means you are not naturally there

I really liked these lines..something which i have always felt...and it feels nice to see that there are many who share the same viewpoint..I have read somewhere that the best friend you can have in life is the one with whom you can simply sit,talk nothing ,leave after one or two hours and yet feel that you just had one of the best times in your life...

your words just echoed that...
great post..!
:)

Jo said...

Do not expect a lot from your friends. And now when I say that I do remind myself, but I easily forget it and get hurt by the friends sometime. :-) You seems like a very nice person to me and dont let them make you go down. Cheer up Keshi girl! :-)

Łóòň Ġãĺ said...

I kinda know what u're talking about ....

Anyway Keshi ... these things keep happening ... and i thought u're a strong girl .... cheer up :)

sittingnut said...

huggggz!

sorry to see you so down. i suppose that comes with being sensitive as you are. but that is also what makes you an angel and beyond any algebra. to earn your friendship will be priceless. i cannot imagine anyone throwing that away over something as trifling as a birthday wish.
i hope your friend (if you are referring to a specific one) is a real friend.

hope your friends and your own angelic self have cheered you up by now.:-)

dodosreinc said...

Merry coincidence day!! Its the Ides of March. The real fun begins on the 15th and 21st.

ishita said...

it's absolutely okk to have favs amongst frenz!...and like others here have said...u can't possibly keep everyone happy always!

and fact remains a true fren will take u for what u are...no matter what...so don't change the way u view frens and frenship...believe in urself and what u share with them...that's what matters...

u have to luk at what u have rather than what u're losing (trust me...whoever it is will come around coz true frenz don't stay offended or upset for long and if they do, they never did know u...did they?:)!!)

and like they (and i sooo believe in this!)..."a fren is sumone u can share ur silence with"..."sumone who knows my mind before i do!"...cheer up:) and keep smiling...:)

exasparater said...

i dont know what to comment... so no comments...

Mayimakeyousmile said...

Hey Kesh~ Here here to that! what a thought to bask in - not needing to feel like we have to prove ourselves to the ones closest to us! That understanding of the great and the not-so -great in us all is a two way street. Thanks for your words! I'm so relating.

Jackal said...

i can say a lot....but i just want to give u a big hug......hugzzzzzzzzzzz.......ur a darling ..just be wht u are......tccc byeee

Sujit said...

Its okey.. things will be fine.. if he is true friend he/she shall come back..

wallycrawler said...

Tell me who dat person is and da Wallycrawler will take em down a couple of pegs . Promise .

Keshi said...

~~Pri

thats a beautiful meaning Pri...Thanks! It's kinda like the quote that says "if u love someone set him/her free, if he/she comes bak to u he/she is ur's...if he/she doesnt he/she was never meant to be ur's.."
That's what Amu was telling me abt...I so believe in that...thanks so much for being there for me in my hour of need...u dun even know me much but u have already captured a place in my heart...hugggggggz!





~~Uttara

Utttsy twas such a pleasant surprise to receive a txt from u last nite when I was on a long walk...there was so much peace in that solitude walk and to add to it, I received such a beautiful txt from ya...cos I was thinking of all the ppl here who really cares for me and at that moment I received ur msg...it was awesome!

hey dun worry...I aint upset..just wondering what I have/havent done as a friend...I cant be always right na - maybe u can tell me if I was really in the wrong...what say?





~~Boldnbeautiful

heyy BnB muahhhhhhh!


**It is a feeling. Action speaks more than words.

so true...mere words dun do much and it's mere words that most seek...:(


**real friend hold no calculation.

yess...I mean I dun go ard asking my friends why they didnt do this n that just cos they r my friends...I cant do that...cos everyone is different...and sometimes ppl act in certain ways for certain valid reasons...we have to understand that na...


**Keshi one cannot make whole world happy.

I really like that line. It helped me to realise many unrealisitic expectations in me...I try to do so many things that'es even beyond my capability and then then whole world collapses on me when I lag for a change!
thanks for those words BnB, hugggggggggz!





~~Puneet

Pu bear hows u?


**its not wrong to baised towards ur certain friends...

thanks for saying that...cos ppl must accept that...we do feel more biased towards some ppl who talk to us daily, be with us when we need someone etc...


**no two person can hve the same importance n same priority...

So true! And I wont feel bad if u feel more closer to someone else here...cos thats just how u feel...

thanks for that Pu...hugggggggz!





~~Queen_Bee

hello QueenBee...


**It can be so draining to be locked in negative emotions...

it sure is...but u know Im so used to being punched ard from every angle now...so Im stronger and i really dun dwell on it...this post helped me put it off my chest...it really did...and with all of u loving ppl with such positive energy I feel good, thanks!





~~Desperado

heyyy...


**relations and emotions can never be measured.

yep...and we cant categorise someone as a 'bad' friend just cos they forgot to wish or for some other small matter...can we?


**i believe in it n infact i have frnds over d net..one of them is u :)

aww thats so sweet - huggggggggggz desperado!


**and i believe there r few relationships more beautiful thn frndship

thats so true...there are indeed! And ppl forget that n just go abt judging from just friendship point of view...

thanks for ur very wise words!





~~Burf

Burfyy WB.


**it's a pity that matters of friendship sadden ppl

it sure is ha...:(




~~Rohit_Talwar

heyy Rohit hope ur feeling well today...


**Sometimes you write exactly how I feel!

we all face similar situations everyday na....tc...





~~Kripa_Shankar

heyy Kripa...


**well, you are "what you are" with friends and not what your friends want you to be.
psst.

thanks for that...I will always keep that in mind...





~~Known_Stranger

heyy KS!


**every time i visit your blog the photographs you use for your subject catchees my eyes...

thanks :) I write the post first and then choose the pics that match the post...sometimes it takes me a while to find a pic that goes with the post and one that I like too :):) yeah it's alot of work...hehe...




~~Jeevan

heyyy Jeevan...


**Buut now i got lot of frinds (blog), to hear my thoughts and emotions. next to my parents i respect the friendship.

thats something really sweet to say...to consider all ur blog mates as friends that make u feel so good...thanks so much!


**In my school days i am week in Algebra.:)

good for u ;-) cos Algebra messes thingsup hehehe...





~~-Poison-

heyy Poison...


**friends dnt need to prove ne thing to each other. trust is inbuilt in good friendships.

thats soooo true! Thanks! I believe in the same thing. To me, being a friend doesnt mean u have to just keep proving it with words etc...just actions will do...like being there for him/her in time of need...





~~VirginUpdates

heyy VirginUpdates thanks so much for ur kind words...u r such a swt hrt...I really felt good after reading ur comments...


**When they need something from you ,they re-emerge.

if u couldnt fulfill that need, then should the friend consider u unfaithful? thats what makes me think what I am really to someone else...


**I felt really bad cos I really thought that friendship did mean something

it does mean something girl...just that it will only make sense with someone who 'identifies' u just the way u r...

thanks for everything n huggggggggz!





~~Johann

WC Johann.

**...a heard that hurts is a heard that loves ...

aww thanks so much...wonderful quote! and hugggggggggz!




~~PRADEEP K.

heyyy Pradeep good to see u...n HUGGGGGGGGGGZ!


**Wonder what happened to prompt this post. I am sorry that you had to take so much hurt.

its ok...Im not hurt...just pondering on whether I hurt someone w.o. my knowledge...whether Im a bad friend...


**If talking about it would help you, you could email me anytime.

thank u so much! And Im lucky to be ur friend too...huggggggz again!





~~Gangadhar

heyy Gangzz...


**They usually telephone me and get my wishes...lolzz.

lols that cracked me up :):)


**But what we need is understanding..Btw do u know my birthday?

yes..I mean if u forgot my bday I woudlnt make a big deal abt it...cos it's just my bday...and u r here for on other days na. Anyways no I dunno ur bday..when is it btw? :)





~~Contented

heyyy Contented...


**The language of friendship is not words , but rather meanings . It is an intelligence above language."
-Thoreau

thats a BEAUTIFUL quote...makes so much sense, thanks mate!


**Hope your friend/someone will understand this sooner or later.

I sure hope too, thanks so much!





~~Rebel_on_loose

heyy Rebbbz...


**Truly friendship shud not follow the binds of calculations and forced responses....

yep..I dun force upon anything on my mates...besides it wont be friendship then...


**perhaps thts the reason y i too don't have a list of my fav bloggers! Those who i write to know i consider them close,and thr shudn't b any need 2 prove it at all!

so true..thats the same with my blog...thats why I didnt have a list of friends from the beginning. Cos I know I'll always make new ones (then the list will be too long :), and then if I forget someone it wont be right...so u see my blog is list-free...hehehe..

Thanks for ur kind words...





~~Saby

Sabyyyy my long lost goood friend! :) Where u been? I miss ur omni-presence...hehehe...


**friends are not forever
neither are marriages

lol ok u had to make ma laugh...goood!


**just enjoy the moment
dont make promises u cant keep

never did...and never will...


**a friend today maybe yr worst enemy tomorrow

so true...a friend is usually a known enemy :)


**misunderstandings do take place
i seen it happen

misunderstood is THE word.

thanks Saby huggggggggz!





~~Zombie

Misty hows ya?


**:( now how will I come to know whose birthday it is?

lol what d u mean?





~~Kannan_udayarajan

heyyy Kannan...


**and it feels nice to see that there are many who share the same viewpoint..

thanks. I always believed in that. And in real life, I have 3 best friends...and to date, we have never had any major conflicts or misunderstandings...silly fights oyeah :) but never one that doubted the credibility of our friendship....cos we just dun have to 'try' to 'prove' anything...


**I have read somewhere that the best friend you can have in life is the one with whom you can simply sit,talk nothing ,leave after one or two hours and yet feel that you just had one of the best times in your life...

yep I have read that...wonderful quote...summarises everything that a friendship should be...thanks!





~~Jo

heyy Jo...


**Do not expect a lot from your friends.

thats so true...one should never 'expect' too much from anyone...I even wrote a post abt Expectations a while back. But this time it's not me who's expecting :)

I think as human beings we tend to forget not to expect...but then once we have expected too much n gitten hurt, we get stronger for the next time...so all's well and thanks Jo, I really appreciate ur kind words!





~~ČħéèŝŶ.ŦēřmiŦę

heyy Cheesy...hows u?


**I kinda know what u're talking about ....

U would by now...hehe...


**Anyway Keshi ... these things keep happening ... and i thought u're a strong girl .... cheer up :)

I am strong babez...but that doesnt mean I have to be a ounching bag do I? cos thats how I feel right now...I dunno what was going on his side and then I get bombed from every angle..is it fair, u tell me sweety...





~~Sittingnut

Hugggggggggz my friend!


**sorry to see you so down.

was yday...but Im ok now...thanks!


**i cannot imagine anyone throwing that away over something as trifling as a birthday wish.

guess we all dun think alike...but maybe I was wrong too...for not wishing...I dunno...


**hope your friends and your own angelic self have cheered you up by now.:-)

ohhh they sure have! look at all the LOVE Im receiving here from ALL of u! I had tears in my eyes reading all of ur heart-felt words and I realised how damn LUCKY I am - Hugggggggggz!





~~Dodosreinc

WC Dodosrenc.


**Merry coincidence day!! Its the Ides of March. The real fun begins on the 15th and 21st.

Aha Ides of March is it...BEWARE Caesar :)





~~Ishita

heyyy Ish so nice to see u here again...


**it's absolutely okk to have favs amongst frenz!...and like others here have said...u can't possibly keep everyone happy always!

yeah...I guess its ok...but then if someone is upset abt it, and that someone is a very dear friend too, what do I do...:(


**and fact remains a true fren will take u for what u are...

so true...I always believed in that...take me as I am, thats what I say to ppl :)


**u have to luk at what u have rather than what u're losing (trust me...whoever it is will come around coz true frenz don't stay offended or upset for long and if they do, they never did know u...did they?:)!!)

thats so true too...Im setting all my friends free...let them come back to me if they want to...if not, I dun think it was meant to be...thanks Ish that was lovely!


**a fren is sumone u can share ur silence with"..."sumone who knows my mind before i do!"...

yes...so true again! U know exactly what my heart is saying...thank YOU huggggggggggggz!





~~Exasparater

hello Exasparater...


**i dont know what to comment... so no comments...

U dun even have to say a word and I just felt what u felt...thanks for being there for me mate...





~~Mayimakeyousmile

heyyy hows u?


**not needing to feel like we have to prove ourselves to the ones closest to us! That understanding of the great and the not-so -great in us all is a two way street.

sure is...and I dun like keeping records or balance sheets...

thanks :)





~~Jackal

heyy mate...


**i can say a lot....but i just want to give u a big hug......

aww so sweet...huggggggggggggz! U dun have to say alot cos I know what u feel Jackal...thank u n tc!





~~Sujit

heyyy Sujit WB.


**Its okey.. things will be fine.. if he is true friend he/she shall come back..

yep..thats what I believe in too...thank u!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

~~Wallycrawler

hows u today mate?


**will take em down a couple of pegs

:):)


Keshi.

Keshi said...

Guys this post was aimed at conveying how I feel abt my friendship with my friend...to realise if I was doing the right thing...to get it off my chest. And what I thought of the situation I and he r facing.

This post wasnt meant to portray him as a bad a person/friend or anything else for that matter. Just figuring out if we r on the right track in solving our differences...whether there is any hope for this r'ship or it was just not meant to be...

Thanks all for ur words of wisdom and all the love u poured on me...it's unbelievable how blogger friends can have such an amazing impact on me...it's wonderful and I LUV U ALL VERY MUCH! And I mean it, trust me!


Keshi.

tsduff said...

Keshi, you have always been a ray of sunshine and encouragement - I love it when you stop by my place. I think you are a wonderful person.

sittingnut said...

good day mate!
glad you have cheered up!
but maybe I was wrong too...for not wishing...I dunno...
i don't think so.
anyway i am no expert on that. i never ever remember to wish anyone.

Rex Venom said...

You cannot disappoint! You are awesome!
Rock on!

Keshi said...

~~Terry

muahhhhhhh!




~~Sittingnut

:) thanks!




~~Rex_Venom

heyy Rex that was sweet...thanks!



KEshi.

luvwannabefree25 said...

What's bothering ya? Beautiful pic.. great post... keep your head up... I'll write something nice for ya ;)

southpaw said...

Friendship needs no words - it is solitude delivered from the anguish of loneliness.
-Dag Hammarskjold

Vivhyd said...

My bday is cmg up so u havent missed it ;).. will post on tht day so u will knw when.. as for net friends, nowadays it is a reality.. may be not so much earlier in late 90s but now with high speed access and access 24/7 keeping in touch is so much more easier which is essential for good frndship.. good communication .. so there u go.. seems like someone is big time upset tht u missed wishing on their bday...

The Phoenix said...

Friendship is more like Geometry...

Just kidding.

A lot of people are caught up in making sure everything is so darn equal. I think it's people being so insecure.

Keshi said...

~~luvwannabefree25

thanks mate I aprreciate that.




~~Southpaw

great quote..so true...




~~Vivhyd

thats great Viv, I'd like it if u tell me now when ur bday is :)

But the net can be a hurtful place...just like the real world.




~~Phoenix

hehehe @Geometery


**A lot of people are caught up in making sure everything is so darn equal.

thats when everything starts to fall apart...


Keshi.

Keshi said...

Guys thanks for all ur kind words...like I said b4, this was not to make anyone a bad person/friend...this to analyse if I was doing something wrong...whether not knowing Friendship Algebra is a grave mistake...anyways, I just am not feeling so great right now...to lose someone who u really care for and to be asked to foget him for good, is not such a great achievement in life...however if thats what he wants from me, thats what I will be...


thanks all!
Keshi.

Boldnbeautiful said...

good morning
how are u baby today?

have a good day
:)

Known Stranger said...

yes. i am born to two people who hail from tamil nadu. A pakka proper tamilian of River cauvery banks.

Yes and havnt you read my other scribling i have written in tamil one or two some where in my blog.

check my

www.ryze.com/go/vaishnav - more about me.

Art said...

It sometimes becomes difficult to prove urself...
Actually in friendship we are supposed to be open with each other etc etc...
But it is also a very sensitive relationship...

Trée said...

Keshi, I'm in deep listening mode. I couldn't agree more with your post. Having a bloglist has caused me more pain than I ever imagined. I tend to add and delete blogs on my list all the time, yet everytime I take one off someone gets upset. If I could go back in time I would have never set one up to begin with. Hugs and kisses my dear.

Vinu said...

Keshi,

Do u need to worry this much if 'ur friend' doesnt understand u..i dnt think so...

take things easy keshi..i ahv an image of an easy going tension free giro of urs..That keshi shud nt be disturbed for such petty issues..Just look at the huge friends list who got disturbed when u got down..

So just be upbeat and enjoy life
I tell its his\her loss..

Take care

Keshi said...

~~BoldnBeautiful

hey thanks girl...Im not at my best but Im ok...always feel good to have u all here...huggggggz!



~~KS

heyyy oh ok :) thats great to hear...I'll check out those posts soon mate...wonderful!




~~Art

thanks! It sure aint easy...





~~Tre

I couldnt agree more. Not cos ppl r bad but cos we all r sensitive beings...thanks!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

~~Vinu

thanks Vinu...but he meant alot to me...so al this affect me...anyways I know there's nothing much I can do to stop ppl feeling the way they feel...


Keshi.

Jewel Rays said...

Hey sweetheart,

Keshi you don;t talk too much. well at least from ya post and all. All i have been reading is stuff that captivate my heart. I guess some people juz expects and demand more from us. and when it is not met they tend to get offended , defensive and feel resentment within their hearts. well there are bound to have misunderstands in friendships and relationships. but if the person is getting all too petty and still angry at it. well time will speak and things will heal. but as long as you know that ya conscience is clean. and that you know you did not hurt them knowing it. than i think it should be an encouragment to you. :) you are a beauty though i have not met ya in person and spoken to ya regularly. i have read your writings and i see the spirit within it.

Friends gets dissapointed and act foolishly especially when they are hurting. give it time..and all things will reconcile. you are a beauty. stop hurtin and start smiling will thee?? hehe..

*Huggiz

Keshi said...

~~Jewel_Rays

thanks for those very kind words...I hope Im living upto what u just stated abt me...it was so sweet of ya..


**Friends gets dissapointed and act foolishly especially when they are hurting. give it time..and all things will reconcile.

True...thanks so much hugggggggggz!


Keshi.

Vivhyd said...

keshi.. u will knw soon as u check my blog daily so tht day too u will its like couple of weeks or so away.. ya net can be hurtful too but positively speaking its useful place to make fnrds.. there are always a few crackos everywhere.. never mind them

Sunita said...

Remember, we all stumble, every one of us. That's why it's a comfort to go hand in hand even if its done virtually, because as you have rightly said leave algebra for school please...Have a nice day babes!

Keshi said...

~~Vivhyd

thanks mate...I will check ur blog regularly then :)




~~Sunita

thanks gurl hugggggggggz!


Keshi.

inverted moron said...

Passed By....
Nice blow BTW

Shikha said...

None of my friends have asked me for balance sheets thankfully..uff,i am busy,dont have time to write anything else

Keshi said...

~~Inverted_Moron

WC n thanks!





~~Shikha

Its ok...tc!


Keshi.

Sugababee said...

I don’t wanna be the voice of negativity here by any means...
I feel your pain Kesh but on the same note, might that friend not be hurt as well?

"Friendship algebra"
Thats a really nice name you give it... temme, what do you consider this post, if not a portion of a formula?

Like I said I don’t wanna be negative here and I truly feel your pain Kesh...all I’m saying is that there is always more than one perspective to everything is life.
I hope you feel better soon and hope that things work out with you and your friend. Also, don’t give up so easily... it’s a real shame when people do that, especially with loved ones.
Tk Cr

P.S. Nice song choice ;)

the_ego_has_landed said...

hey...hope whoever this person is understands that we all get busy n tend to forget...lol..hope u ok!:)
cheer up!:)

Sugababee said...

everything in*

Chris Kalani said...

how the heck do you get so many comments! JEEZELAWEEZ!

Keshi said...

~~Sugababee

I know what u mean...this post is also part of a formula...a formula I believe in...ur right...I so agree with u...but it doesnt suggest anyone to 'act' in a certain way to be my friend...u know what I mean...I usually accept dear ones the way they r...unless ofcourse they r just not tolerable.

Would u be so angry with me if I didnt wish u on ur bday? Would u be so angry with me that u consider me as someone who doesnt care for me or have forgotten u? Would u bring up past issues that I didnt even know existed, and condemn me of being someone truly not fir to be ur friend?

Anyways I think Im stretching this too far...guess what's done is done...and whats undone is undone...

thanks so much Suga for ur kind words..I really appreciate u coming here and leaving some great words of wisdom...u guys always make me think and realise that i aint near-perfect either :) Huggggggggggz n have a good rest of the day sweety!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

~~The_ego_has_landed

hey Ego thanks...

**that we all get busy n tend to forget

yeah but I didnt forget...

anyways thanks so much!






~~Chriskalanidotcom

hey WC Chris!



Keshi.

Sugababee said...

I didnt write that just to make you feel like your not "near-perfect". Thats the last thing I want to do.
Look, we only get hurt like this out of love. Your friend got hurt beucase he/she loves you and you right now being hurt... same thing, outta love.. no?
Two sides to it all... thats all i gotta say.
Also, every single one of us is not near-perfect. That's what makes us unique and one of a kind.

Sorry either way...

Het Waghela said...

Calculation in relation is business.
There should not be any algebra or anything in any sort of relation i feel, especially friendship, coz thats the relation in which we make our choice to relate ourselves with someone.

still_figuring_out said...

friendship is complicated, more so if it is over the net. don`t complicate your life with platonic relationships, gal. go with the flow of your thoughts and actions. and remember..

as long as you are happy, who gives a hoot about those who sulk?

;)

praveen said...

aww..poor keshi...ur hurt aren't you...here..a nice big bearie hug..feeling better now??

well, personally i dont beleive in using the term "just friends"..what do es one mean by the term "just" anyway??its like putting ur friendship into a second class position...

in genuine friendship, there is definitely no algebra involved..in friendships there will be ups and downs..but ill still love my friends for who they are

Die Muräne said...

I think friendship is always to give and to love - not to take and to expect. If a friendship is based on how much i get, based on the expectation that the other will fill up the deep gap inside myself, heal the pain of my heart or whatever... one day it will fail! Because that would be my on job to do.
Just BE love for your friends and you will be fine.
(hope you understand, because it's hard for me to explain in english... but I always try hard lol)

Shikha said...

I am back..:)
Maybe my previous comment needs to be edited..i did get balance sheets from my best friend..on how many times i dont eat with her..how many times i dont walk to hostel with her..it was suffocating..and finally it had to end..i didnt like being tied down by such stupid things

anup.777 said...

looks like I'm the last one 2 comment here ... I missed the deadline yaar ... and am going to submit it today ... eek!!! ...

well, it's the lunch break... and here I go ...
@"I dunno what to do when ppl misunderstand me...and accuse me of things I never said or did"
- do nothing buddy ... just relax ... don't think about this too much ... let it slide buddy ... that's the best thing u can do ... the friend will come around to his/her senses if he/she's truly ur friend ... :)

lots of hugs buddy! ... hope u have a gr8 day ... :)

susubala said...

Hey, here goes another wonderful post about friendship. I liked the lines "I dont know friendhsip had a mathematical side to it" and its really cute, i say !

Dewaker Basnet said...

hey keshi,
the post did not sound too encouraging..u seem to be under the sun..cant say much so just want to say take care..
keep the faith:)

Die Muräne said...

and btw I almost forgot to say:
I think you are a very very spiritual person (if you know it or not...)
I feel so much of the energy and will have the power and ability to let it flow its natural way!

Ash said...

hey girl .............
come on .....
who has to prove two ppl are gr8 friends
friends know ...........others dont .......if others need proof ....then it is their business ........

Ash

Keshi said...

~~Sugababee

Babeee :) hugggggggz! Nope it's not just ur words that made me feel that...all of the comments here made me realise that I aint the only one who's hurting here...he too is hurting...I know and Im glad I put up this post cos it opened my eyes and made me grow in many ways...it really did...all ur words helped SO MUCH! Thanks!





~~Het_Wahgela

true mate...thanks so much!




~~Still_figuring_out

SFO heyy thanks for that...the fact that I do care abt him is why I even put up this post...its all good now cos I realise that Im not the only one who's hurting here....huggggggggz!





~~Praveen

HUGGGGGGGGGGGGGZ that was much needed, thanks! Ur a swt hrt!


**..but ill still love my friends for who they are

Im so glad u do...cos thats the hardest for many ppl to do...

Thanks so much!





~~Die_Murane

Hello mate!


** If a friendship is based on how much i get, based on the expectation that the other will fill up the deep gap inside myself, heal the pain of my heart or whatever... one day it will fail! Because that would be my on job to do.


Those r golden words of wisdom...thanks very much! I understood every bit of it - those words mean so much to me...and to many who would be reading ur comment. HUGGGGGGGGZ!


**I feel so much of the energy and will have the power and ability to let it flow its natural way

aww thanks...Im already ok, u were right :)





~~Shikha

heyy WB :)


**i didnt like being tied down by such stupid things

well yeah...no point trying to be someone ur not.





~~Anup.777

HUGGGGGGGGGGGZ Anup! Thanks for that...twas sweet, very sweet and very sound advice...hope u finish ur work on time - good luck!





~~Susubala

:) Thanks girl!





~~Dewaker_Basnet

heyy mate thanks for being there....really appreciate that.





~~Ash

heyy Ash long time! Great to see u here...


**friends know ...........others dont .......

true...no need to prove at all, thanks n huggggggggz Ash!





Thanks all u wonderful ppl muahhhhhhhh!

Keshi.

icyblue said...

Opps! I read ur post yesterday and forgot to comment... sorry for the delay... Me last here :D

Friendship lies with 2 ppl. It is up to them how they define it. Good friends are rare and once u hv one keep them close!

Cheers!

lil _kath said...

Giving all our "LOVE" to your friends is never an assurance that they will Love you back.Be cautious to whom you open your heart next time.
Cheer up coz you may not know the real and genuine one is just around and not pretending like the ones who always near to you.

hugs,
-kathy-

saby said...

its getting too heavy in here
we need some laffs

http://imnutsincapspjs.blogspot.com/






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Michelle said...

hey kesh...
see the fact that this particular frnd mebbe said sum'in like tht to u shows tht this person really cares bout wat u think of him/her...so yeah i agree...i agree tht u don hafta 'prove' netin wen it comes to frndship but sometimes,if it makes the other person happy,it wudn hurt to do it y'know...mayb the person considers u more than a virtual frnd...a real frnd!!
like u said...u don hafta prove netin to show how strong yr frndship is or how much u care bout the person but at the same time,the significant other might not think the same...
take care kesh,n u look really pretty wen u smile...so SMILE :)

n try n forget bout such things...hope u work things out :)

niki yokota said...

aww~ bday is such a nuisance(>_<)
friendship is also nuisance.
i would rather have no friend like that!
take it easy bambichan!!

Nitika said...

hope everything is fine in ur way sweeti
hugzzzz

Neha said...

I just had a bad fight with a friend today, and i can so relate to what you wrote abt.. y do we need to constantly prove that we care.. its so frustrating.. one small mistake and things go boom!

Jigal.. said...

hi

swts r u ok??

hey friendship had no mathematical side....

But 1 of my friend belive that friend is a reason to live life for a particular time period.... repeat For a particular time period...

bye

take care

Ricky said...

Guess I'm really late her to post a comment. How are you doing today? Feeling better?

Ricky said...

Correction! :)

Guess I'm really late here to post a comment. How are you doing today? Feeling better?

Dawn....सेहर said...

Yes I totally agree with you....one shouldnt discount anyone....as friendship is that thin thread which ties us so strongly no matter where u hv met them ...net or in person...as I hv made few net friends...like u...never thought it would grow up this level....keep growing gal
...algebra is only for school and yeah...later u can drop them too ;) and opt for other subjects too ;)

keep smiling
cheers

Keshi said...

~~Icyblue

hey Icy thanks, ur so right..

**Good friends are rare

so damn true...and I realised that he's a great friend...and I was wrong too...



~~lil_kath

heyyy Kathzz...thanks so much! I know what u mean so well!
muahhhhhhh!




~~Saby


I think ur right :)




~~Michelle

I always said that ur wise beyond ur years...u opened my eyes with that beautiful and sensible comment of ur's...thank u so much!

**shows tht this person really cares bout wat u think of him/her...

so true...I realised that and Im glad I put up this post...cos so many ppl here made me realise what it is to be hurt and to hurt someone else...it's high time I realise that too...thank u n muahhhhhhhh!




~~Niki_Bakshi

heyyy Niki...:)

**friendship is also nuisance.
i would rather have no friend like that!

aww..but this friend is very close to me...hence the post abt it too cos it really bothered me that he didnt u'stand me...but after reading all ur comments I realised that I wasnt really u'standing him too..that he was hurt...cos he really cared for me...alot of ppl here made me realise that and thanks so much!




~~Nitika

thanks Niti Im fine...we r fine :)




~~Neha

aww Neha u ok now? yes, it's hard to keep proving things...I just wish we didnt have to do that all the time...




~~Jigal

heyyy Jiggzy...


**repeat For a particular time period...

u think so? thats sad but...I always think that good friends last a lifetime...even till eternity..am I wrong?

thanks mate!




~~Ricky

Im feeling just great..thanks so much Ricky!




~~Dawn

heyy Dawny muahhhh!


**friendship is that thin thread which ties us so strongly no matter where u hv met them

yes! I so realised that after this post...cos I realised that that thread bw me n him is so strong...and we cant break so easily...thanks n hugggggggggz!

and yeah Algebra should be nowhere in one's life lol!



Keshi.

:P fuzzbox said...

Some people put more value on friendship than others. Whether that be online or off. I value your friendship and am sorry that you were hurt.

Keshi said...

~~Fuzzbox

heyy mate thanks!

** I value your friendship and am sorry that you were hurt.

aww I value ur's too...net or not, I value ppl and the sunshine they bring into my life...

Im doing fine now hence the new post :) thanks n huggggggz!


Keshi.

P.R.A.D said...

May be it's a late comment.!! But nevertheless, I share similar feelings with u in this case. ! I'm sick of expectations and disappointments in relations that are menat to be simple. It just gets emotonal when people tend to get emotionally attached and expect you to do something for them all the time assuming that they do everything for others all the time... !! But please don't stop wishing people on birthdays..

coolvir said...

Hey i forgot to comment on this post...i mean its sooo un fair that i write a post a week and you get to comment twice or thrice on my one post but you updates so often that i am left discarded without given a chance to comment.....

Its not fair...don't you know blogging algebra ;)

Dewdrop said...

I know its hard to keep up with tribute posts for the growing no. of friends we make online. I understand, hope all friends understand it too. Rock on and dont you think too deeply abt trivial things :)

niki yokota said...

he? was it a male fren...lol
wat a sensitive boy..
thanking u for ur reply!!

Autumn Storm said...

Just noticed you are approaching 100,000 visitors - way to go, Kesh, that's some feat :-)

Read this post twice since you posted and wanted to come up with something more interesting that my immediate thought 'great post, Kesh, agree completely' at least before your next posting - too late :-)

Keshi said...

~~Prad

heyy WC!

**I'm sick of expectations and disappointments in relations that are menat to be simple.

so true...I think Disappointment is the shadow of Expectation :) i.o.w. Disp follows Exp all the time...


**But please don't stop wishing people on birthdays..

hehe na I wont..but no more bday posts for net friends...thats what I meant.





~~Coolvir

heyy mate!


**i am left discarded without given a chance to comment.....

lol aww sorry!


**Its not fair...don't you know blogging algebra ;)

hahahaha teach me then!






~~Dewdrop

Heyy Dewdy!


**Rock on and dont you think too deeply abt trivial things :)

lol I so do that all the time na!

Thanks muahhhhhh!






~~Niki_Bakshi

heyyy Bakshi babe...


**he? was it a male fren...lol
wat a sensitive boy..

a mega sensitive swt hrt :)





~~Autumn_Storm

heyyy Babezz!


**Just noticed you are approaching 100,000 visitors - way to go, Kesh, that's some feat :-)

Am I? lol I didnt even see...let me go see...thanks!


**Read this post twice since you posted and wanted to come up with something more interesting that my immediate thought 'great post, Kesh, agree completely' at least before your next posting - too late :-)

hahaha Autumn! What matters is that I found u...not ur regular comments here :) HUGGGGGGGGGZ!


Keshi.

Lenren said...

I am sorry and I feel bad for you. I actually became closer with someone once they moved and we kept in contact by email and blogs. She was nice and all out here, but I feel like we both opened up and became friends.

Keshi said...

~~Lenren

WC mate n thanks! aww I hope ur still in touch with ur friend...



Keshi.

hemanth said...

Hey Keshi.. came across your blog few days back and ever since I have been hooked into your blog reading all the amazing articles you have posted. Just wanted to say Thank you!!!