Thursday, June 1

Selfiship

*Do as I expect please.
*Hear my point of view and you may keep your's silent.
*You didn't do what I thought you'd do so I think you're fake.
*You did the obvious so I still think you're fake.
*My other friends told me that you sound fake.
*You have forgotten me but it's ok that I have forgotten you too.
*Hello I'm handling the strings and you're the puppet.
*You are so popular so you've got to be shallow.
*I've lost that old you just cos I choose to lose you.
*I'm right and you're wrong.
*I got hurt and remember your feelings don't count.
*You were never there for me but it's ok that I wasn't there either.
*Just listen, don't talk cos I don't want to hear you.
*My good friend Jane got hurt but who cares how you got hurt.
*You don't agree with me so I think you're a bad person.
*You questioned my belief so I disrespect you and dump you for life.
*One of your enemies insulted me so I think you're a disease that should be avoided.
*My jealous girlfriend suspects us, so I leave you.
*You're gorgeous! (bull sh#t!).
*I can't forget you but I somehow did and I feel great.
*You're non-existent now, although I bump into you all the time and I pretend as if you're invisible.
*I choose Sally's friendship over your's.
*It's easier to disregard you cos I don't chat with you everyday.

*You stand up for your rights too much so I run away from you.
*You don't fit in my perfect-friend criteria so you're rubbish.
*None of the many sweet things that you are counts anymore, cos you made one mistake.
*I can't stop associating James just cos you are hurt but I can stop associating you.
*You don't come from the same country as I do, so you're less important.
*You are frikkin smart so I'm scared to be around you.
*You're too kind so let's walk all over you.
*You're not gracious so you're still not good enough.
*You challenged my views so you're ignorant.
*You have too many people around you so I'm jealous.
*Be someone else that you're not and I might like you.
*If I avoid you I'm a better friend.
*I have a bunch of other friends, so you're insignificant.
*You are plastic and we are made in Heaven.

Oh Momma, a friend is just a known enemy!
--written after decoding the messages of my many selfish 'friends' that I have known in this lifetime. Wear the cap if it fits ya.
Current Music: Don't Cry by Guns N Roses.

87 Cranium Signets:

southpaw said...

Huuuuuggggzzz!!!

Sujit said...

Let the friends who are not selflish and like you being yourself and want to be with you.. and walk along like the shadow overweigth the selfsih people.!! They are always around!!.. may be to teach some lessons!! looking at the +ve side!! isn;t so!!.. but the best part is to be ourself!!..

SamY said...

IMHO neither party is wrong ... ppl r just downright different ... n some who brashly express what they feel ... afterall, if he/she is your *gud* friend then that makes it your responsibility to bring them to senses (esp since u said in ur last post u take responsibility for things)

I hav'nt met ppl who fall under any of this category ... or maybe I didn't realize ... maybe I choose not to ... guess I'v learned to accept ppl as they are :) ... of course provided therz a frequency match ;)

but I do envy u'v had friends who'd been possessive n were afraid to loose you ... many of these r indicative of the same :)

4u2nvau/Rohit said...

*tries the cap on and looks at Keshi to ask if it fits or not*

sophie said...

u hit the nail...right on the head gal...
sweet hugzzz...to u sweety

saby said...

Selfiship is yr middle name
i hadnt finished all i wanted to say about ID

and i bet beaver fletcher and karmic jay had a lott more to say

but u conveniently flipped the page
loosa !

:P fuzzbox said...

Sometimes it is a thin line on how much of oneself to show. My creed is to just be myself for that is all I can be. Keep on being yourself. If others find a problem with that then that is their problem. :)

Outdoorsy Girl said...

Very powerful, Keshi! It's so true. I can check off some of this list about people I know. Unfortunately, there have been times when I could have checked off a couple of these for myself.

I think that there are times when we all make the mistake of having a "selfiship" instead of a friendship. It's just important that we learn from these mistakes and vow to be a selfless friend.

It's also important that we recognize those who have a "seliship" with us and go beyond the human nature of occassional selfishness and continue to mistreat us or use us for their own self-serving purposes. These people are toxic.

The Phosgene Kid said...

Rough day?

burf said...

u seem to have had more number of selfish friends than the number of people i have ever talked to

Mr. J said...

Filter the junk.

Kumar Chetan said...

Q: Love or Lust?
A: Lust
Cryptic? Interpret urself. Q was hard but ansr was honest. It cud have been a lie. But the ansr is daring honest. So Wat will u call it. Selfishness?

uttara said...

sweety ...

tell me who has made these rules n regulations??????

HUGGGZZZZZZZZZZ

cheesemeister said...

We'll all get along just fine as soon as the rest of you realize that I am the Goddess!

Die Muräne said...

you're gorgeous! ;D

Dawn....सेहर said...

I would say....always try to learn ...in Hindi I had read this couplets that says...keep always the critics nearer to you as they will always try to correct you...the benefit is we become better...day by day :)
Look at the positive side dear
CHeer up

Keshi said...

~~Southpaw

huggggggz!






~~Sujit

if I be myself then that is considered a big issue too...







~~Samy


**if he/she is your *gud* friend then that makes it your responsibility to bring them to senses

wut if they dun wanna take any of my points into consideration...I have now learnt to SHUT THE F**K UP as Me said in his latest post :)


dun envy my too many friends...it's quite heart-breaking to realise that not many r real friends.







~~4u2nvau

**tries the cap on and looks at Keshi to ask if it fits or not*

u should know if it fits ya NV, not me...








~~Sophie

wanna get it out of my system and this is one way, thanks :)






~~Saby

**but u conveniently flipped the page

the page hasnt gone anywhere...u can still comment there right??







~~Fuzzbox

yep...if others have a problem with who I am, it is indeed their problem. I have come to that conclusion after the longest time, thanks!








~~Outdoorsy_Girl

hey girl...


**Unfortunately, there have been times when I could have checked off a couple of these for myself.

true..I aint saying that Im perfect but I know for sure that I havent been the toxic selfish friend that u mentioned...the ones who go beyond the human nature of occassional selfishness.







~~Phosgene_Kid

not a rough day actually...u can say it's a pretty much relieving day cos I took off a whole lot of heartache off my chest today :)







~~Burf

**u seem to have had more number of selfish friends than the number of people i have ever talked to

perhaps cos I get attached to ppl real quick and trust em too much...







~~Me

I like ur latest post...i have now learnt to SHUTUP for good with such ppl :) Thanks!







~~Kumar_Chetan

ans being the true ans is good..I like honesty. As I have always said 'I'd rather be hated for who I really am than be loved for who Im not'...

but its disappointing when ppl just think abt their pain and their pain alone. And even after that, they pretend to love me...








~~Uttara

Utttsy!


**tell me who has made these rules n regulations

I know..it's them. But sometimes u cant just discard friends cos they made those rules...it's so very hard..but now I have come to a conclusion...just SHUTUP and wait. And expect NOTHING at all :) not even basic friendship affection....








~~Cheesemeister

:)








~~Die_Murane

hell I am :)



Keshi.

Jay said...

It is OK to be selfish but it is depending on the situation. Its like, when you have big problems with your life and a friend ask for a favor, it is ok to turn them down. But it is never be OK to label others as stupid or faker just because you tried to show your superiority.

No human can live by themselves. Even how rich you are, it will not guarantee happiness. Money can’t buy true friends.

If someone said they don’t need anybody for their lives, they are cheating you or at least cheating their own hearts.

As a human, we need other human as our friends or partners.

Selfishness wont bring us anywhere except loneliness and frustration. Treat friends with respect if we want them to treat us the same. Love our friends if we want to be cared for. True friends don’t come every day.

I don’t keep on friendship with selfish people, so for that reason, I do not have any selfish friends. The moment they became selfish, the title “friend” will be revoked.

So, the term “selfish friend” will never appear in my dictionary of life.

Known Stranger said...

interestin post

Keshi said...

~~Jay

I know that we are all selfish in one way or the other...otherwise we cant be human :)

but some ppl just r too engrossed in themselves that they might even fail to see a friend's point of view...just cos they r so up themselves. And sometimes we do realise that a bit later in the friendship and somehow seem to ride the ride for a while..that's why there can be a term called 'selfish' friends...

however what u said is true...if a friend is a friend, they cant be selfish too...so the best thing to do is revoke the bond then n there..thanks Jay!


Keshi.

PRADEEP K. said...

The hardest thing to explain to anybody (friend or otherwise) is the most obvious fact, which they have decided not to see.

You are a sweet and wonderful person, Keshi. No matter who says what, simply be yourself. Because that is the best way to be.

Cheers!

Keshi said...

~~Pradeep.K

**The hardest thing to explain to anybody (friend or otherwise) is the most obvious fact, which they have decided not to see.


ur right...but the fact that u r willing to see their point makes me wonder why they r not willing to see ur's...and is that what selfishness is then?

Keshi.

vIcKy said...

Nice one here Keshi...Many a times it becomes extremely dificult to make people understand the fact, which they have taken it otherwise...I too have met people who fall under these categories..But the best thing which I manage to do is "IGNORE" them...

It is much more simpler than taking things for heart...or trying to get them to their senses

Keshi said...

~~Vicky

hey Vickzzz!


**..But the best thing which I manage to do is "IGNORE" them...
It is much more simpler than taking things for heart


ur spot on...I worked that out after a long and hard struggle with my emotions..thanks mate!


Keshi.

Fletcher Beaver said...

The concert was Sleaze about five or six years ago

Sujit said...

its a problem for them right!!.. whose who wants you .. will be there and whose who doesn't want will also go!!..

SamY said...

** wut if they dun wanna take any of my points into consideration

then let em be ... they have to face ur wrath >:)

u proly know of the 80/20 principle r8? in this case - only 20% of your friends really contribute substantially tyur life, the rest don't matter

** it's quite heart-breaking to realise that not many r real friends

just treasure those to whome u'v been true to and those who have been to you ... as for the rest let em be ... be do keep in mind that some of those gem of ppl are not too obvious thnx to their gross demeanor ... but *may* turn out different in the long run :)

friendship, love n such relationships r twosome things ... it makes no sense (in fact it stupidity) to mull over when the other feel the same way ... try not to feel bad over such things if u r ;) ... u nut :p

its like our tendency to see the light @ the end of the tunnel without much regard to the darkness around

Ghost Particle said...

hemm..the old selfish game...forgive them who forgot to dream a future with you Keshi, you have among you now friends whom you dont touch but share your life.

alice said...

whoa...what kinda friends u have Kesh...

desperado said...

so very true...a very profound n thoughtful post
but yeah some like me
feel i like you beacuse you are keshi
so keep smiling my dear

I know the things you wanted
They're not what you have
With all the people talkin'
It's driving you mad

And when you're in need of someone
My heart won't deny you
So many seems so lonely
With no one left to cry to baby

christabelle said...

someone once told me that friends r like diamonds, very difficult to find but then easy to lose.I guess dats true.

PRADEEP K. said...

**but the fact that u r willing to see their point makes me wonder why they r not willing to see ur's

Because they do not have the tolerance or the understanding required to do so. Some people are simply wired that way, dear. There is nothing you or I can do about it, except to be ourself and leave them be.

saby said...

Giving it to u straight again Keshi

u r not fit to be a bahu
in any indian family

u have adopted western ways
u r probably not a virgin
(u seen good sex, or read how it shud be)
u r too independent
u r too knowlegeable
(i dispute that though)
u r too much

yes keshi
u will make any man feel inferior
(not me though, but when i was yr age i wasnt so well informed, hell i hadnt even seen frontal nudes then)

u will not be able to adapt to being a good indian bahu

go west keshi
marry a westerner

and good luck to u
western marriages dont last more than 3 years give or take a couple of months


my heart bleeds for u keshi
my niece was dat way
she didnt find any of her suitors hott

she left for USA
and married there while she was studing for her PhD, she met a guy who clicked and narried him


fortunately, he is an indian, a mangy

a truly nice guy
who had a grand wedding in mumbai

he was real nice, he was charming to all the guests male and female rich and poor young and old

he danced most of the dances with the old girls

while his bride danced with the old boys

while the band played
who the fuck is Alice

saby said...

and yes
u r a bad role model for your girls Uttsy, Sopnie, elaine and ...... Karen and michele

the last two are americans
and i am sure michele wud be scandalized by the tings u say

tt said...

hahaha! Well written!! But they can't all be true. Now, own up. You made up some of them :))

:: The Protector :: said...

certains things we shld not take to head/heart....

IGNORANCE IS BLISS....

huggssssssss

take care

Cheers!
:)

AmitKen said...

take care, Dear!
will write a mail to you separately....

Smile :)

karmic_jay said...

Relationships are hard work. Other than that I got nothing.
How's you K?

ishita said...

hmmmmmm...! i've seen the best and the worst side of frenship...and it's not an easy thing keshi...never has been and never will be...but sumtimes wen u luk at the ppl who matter and care and stand by u...u can't help but feel it's all worth it...d pain, d fights...d filtering out...we watch, we experience, we learn...

and then there r fools like me who never learn!!...;-)!...

u chin up girl and walk right ahead...tell it like it is!:)...but don lose ur smile !:)

byeee....m gonna misss u!!!:(

Wanderer said...

well
this whole world is selfish in its own manner
accept it or not but once in ur lifetime u wouldve been selfish am sure bout tat!
Its the nature of human and if u aint, then this world isnt a place for u to live in!

It goes around the Darwin's theory
SURVIVAL OF THE FITTEST

and to survive sometimes u have to be selfish!
If u can do tat why not others

AND I WONT BUY TAT , if u say u have never been selfish

prithz said...

Straight from the heart and very touchy... i too had one such friend in my 12th standard.. she got all my help academically, later ditched me since she got "better, hotter and so-called-cool" friends...i didnt do well in my exams and it took me over a month to get out of that shock...

its true when they say "Time cures".. take it easy keshi.. i'm sure u have loads more of true friends...

niki yokota said...

awww~ some ppl are really insane!!
i dont like that disrespect words...
but i cant deny that i feel same way to certain ppl in my office.(^o^);;;

smz said...

hey ... good one there... sometimes its hard to understand people they are just out of the league... just IGNORE like vicz said... but i guess we have to knw who our true friends are and who are the foes... keep it up!!!

Darius said...

Great, creative way of making your point. We should recognize and treat each other as human beings first. Everything else comes second as far as I'm concerned too.

Het Waghela said...

I love to travel in ship, but i will not love to board selfish-ip.

sophie said...

when i m angry...or pissed off...i go to my servant lady...when she is washing clothes....
i ask her for any thick cotton material...and hit it like the way she does to clear off the dirt...
this wat mummy thought me...think of the things tat causes anger...and blow them the way we want...lol...

isnt it a good idea...!!!

blade said...

Great blog !

Orikinla Osinachi. said...

Darling Keshi,
First, the post is very good dramatic monologue. And I wanted to enjoy it like that.

I often don't dwell on personalities.
Especially if I am ignorant of the circumstances and the environs.

Keshi, whether you are trying to settle your scores over personal issues or you are only doing this in empathy, try to see your fellow humans through the eyes of God and not through your own eyes. Because our vision of others are often blurred by our own sensibilities.

Try to love even those who hate you.

Even if I run into Osama bin Laden today on a street in Sidney or Kabul, I will still hug him and ask him to unburden his heart to me and tell me why he is so troubled and insecure and his fears haunt him so much that he is so paranoid to attack Americans and others he believes are his enemies.

Three evils plague humankind:
Ignorance, Arrogance and Malfeasance.

All the crimes, evils, sins and wrongdoings or offences plaguing humanity are caused by ignorance. Through simple meditation and rationcination, we can solve all the problems in this world.

Because of our greed
We have trampled on our divine creed.
Because we are selfish
We do as we wish.
And we forget that the seven seas are even too much for everyone to fish.
And the earth is large enough to accommodate everyone of us.
If only we can pause for once and think twice.
Then we shall know that everybody has a price.

Dialogue has saved millions of lives.

Even God said, come and let us reason together.
If only we can be as reasonable as God.
We can save the world.

God bless.

Crazy Dan said...

This is a comment in hopes that you can help Fuzz with his problem we are holding an intervention for him any help would be tremendous. I know that you visit his blog at times and I hope with the help of friends we can get him the treatment he needs.

Homo Escapeons said...

keshi,
On june 1, 2006,@ 6:29 AM,
I said,
"Well if you won't marry me then I am going to return to my estate in kathmandu for the winter and I'm taking the Renoir and the Degas, the Picasso is all yours!" and your reply didn't make any sense??

I'm using code#43 which code were you using? looked like #67 or #29??

Anyway apparently the insurance company has some issues with that arrangement so be a dear friend and give me a ring when you get a chance.

Toodaloo.

SCRIBBLEZ TO WAKEUP said...

"Oh Momma, a friend is just a known enemy!"...I have cried this out to my folks several time and they say I am being difficult and rude and that'sy why...I feel silly in telling you that all my best girl friends stabbed me on my back..I got dreams...On all the situations my so called ex best friends were good to me at the start and then they tried to drown me but I somehow managed to escape...That showed me how much their deceit had affected me that till today I get such dreams about them that send creeps down my body and mind....I have had bad luck all the time...Today, my sis calls me all the way from her college to USA n she is a student n I wonder why the hell she keeps calling me n why not her friends...I asked her the reason n she says tht she has no more true friends...everyone did it to her too...They just used her n r so devious....I am not if it the friends we choose , or the friends we let them grow into , ot just us but some of us are so rotten in this relationship....

I am sorry..Wrote aplenty about me...

I understand wht u feel and all those statements were like piercing...How can someone ecide if he or she is right against the other one n vice versa...How can they justify things...It is so unfair....Hope u will find peace at the end!! A word, dont let anyone enter your heart...Let them walk till your heart and then let them remain there as good friends...If they walk into your heart as good friends they will stomp out and it will hurt every nerve...I am sure you know more by now sweetie!!! Take care!! :)

tsduff said...

Wow Keshi - I sincerely hope that you did not have to endure remarks like those which seem to be cruel and hurtful. These comments do not point to the Keshi I've come to know in the least. Let them dance off and disappear like water on a ducks back.

sittingnut said...

heyy mate !
good morning ! :-)
hope you are now completely ok.

to tell you the truth i don't quite get this post .
anyway here is what i think

i am quite selfish myself and i probably say(or at least unconsciously 'think') some of those things.

a friend is just a known enemy!? :-(
no way!

friend is a person who accepts one as one is, a person who does not wear a mask and with whom one can be honest, and a person who gives advice (good or not) bc he or she cares about you. a person with whom one has fun and share grief. etc. etc. friend is probably not definable. :-)

in the end it all comes to being true to oneself. and expecting the same from others . if they are not then thats their problem only they lose. but we do feel let down .

have a great day :-)

saby said...

Heyyyyy ~~4u2nvau

HAHAHAHAHAHA
u look funny in dat cap
dont be an ass
gimme dat cap

how do i look Keshi?

saby said...

u have the noderator on Keshi
u can choose wat u want to publish

wat i say is for u only
i wont be upset if u choose not to publish all the shit i rite

Keshi said...

~~Flecther

Sleaze...cool!







~~Sujit

**whose who wants you .. will be there and whose who doesn't want will also go!!..

aha...and why am I even bothered abt it...thanks!







~~SamY


**only 20% of your friends really contribute substantially tyur life, the rest don't matter

I guess it has to be 1% perhaps, not 20%...:)


**some of those gem of ppl are not too obvious thnx to their gross demeanor ... but *may* turn out different in the long run

very true..I found out many ppl like that, especially on the net...and 2 in real life...



**its like our tendency to see the light @ the end of the tunnel without much regard to the darkness around

thanks Samy!








~~Ghost Particle

hey Ghosty!


**forgive them who forgot to dream a future with you Keshi...

true...thanks mate! It's not that I;m cribbing abt it but I just had to get it off my chest...some of these friends I dun even talk to anymore...so yeah, it's alll in the past but I was carrying the hurt ard like a big burden...after this post I feel good.








~~Alice

**whoa...what kinda friends u have Kesh...

:) make it 'had'....

thanks Alice!








~~Desperado

hey hows u?


**I know the things you wanted
They're not what you have
With all the people talkin'
It's driving you mad

how did u know what I was feeling like? whoaaaa thats so true!


**And when you're in need of someone
My heart won't deny you
So many seems so lonely
With no one left to cry to baby


awwwww huggggggggggggggggz! ur so sweet matey...I know u wont deny me...u have always accepted me the way I am...and thanks so much for that!








~~Christabelle

hey hows u? :)


**someone once told me that friends r like diamonds, very difficult to find but then easy to lose.

So true...but if they r true friends, why wud it be so easy to lose?








~~PRADEEP K.

Heyyya Pradeep!


**Because they do not have the tolerance or the understanding required to do so.

could be...


**Some people are simply wired that way, dear. There is nothing you or I can do about it, except to be ourself and leave them be.

yes..I realised that now. I have had enough of my qualities being questioned and being misunderstood...enough is enough...

Thanks dude!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

~~Saby

**Giving it to u straight again Keshi

thanks! :)


**u r not fit to be a bahu
in any indian family

My sole ambition/dream in life is not to become a girl 'fit' to be a bahu in an 'Indian' family! And neither do I want to be clad in a saree cooking/cleaning 24/7 and then hopping to bed to please my Indian hubby and then be a baby-machine and then be a om-shanthi-shanthi kinda daughter-in-law. Sorry to disappoint u and many who may have expected me to be that way. And being a bahu or whatever is not a girl's only aim in life. Whatever made u think so?


**u have adopted western ways

Adopted? What makes u think Im a black gora? lol! I have always been the same Keshi all my life...ask anybody who knew me for a long time. Even back in Sri Lanka I was like this - Im a very liberal person. The only thing I really picked up from Aus is the word 'mate'...:) All other qualities were already in me.


**u r probably not a virgin
(u seen good sex, or read how it shud be)

Ok say Im not..how does that bother u or anyone else here???


**u r too independent
u r too knowlegeable
(i dispute that though)

hehe then why d u say it?



**u r too much

I know...Im better off being 'too much' than 'too little'...if ur not happy with that, u can nick off Saby.



**yes keshi
u will make any man feel inferior

Ur sure than ANY man wud feel inferior with me? WHY?



**u will not be able to adapt to being a good indian bahu

yawwwwwwwwwn...next?



**go west keshi
marry a westerner

hahahaha how can someone who hasnt even met me in real decide who I should be marrying? this is pathetic Saby. U r really ill-informed, most of the time.



**and good luck to u
western marriages dont last more than 3 years give or take a couple of months

and ur so certain abt that too? A Western marriage may not last that long, but how happy r the women stuck in Indian marriages with selfish Indian men like u??




**who the fuck is Alice

Good for her and her husband.




**and yes
u r a bad role model for your girls Uttsy, Sopnie, elaine and ...... Karen and michele

wud u let them decide that? Thanks! phewwwww talk abt some men who r feeling insecure with me!



**the last two are americans
and i am sure michele wud be scandalized by the tings u say

Michi knows wut Im saying...if she has a prob with me, she'll speak to me...it's really not ur business and ur not judge and jury of the world r ya Saby? Or is it a normal trait of ur fellowmen to judge every woman who stands up for her right? This kinda reminds me of my Indian Man post....ur the best example for that.

Keshi.

saby said...

Yes Keshi

Indian Man and Indian woman
u r neither
nor am i

i wud have been happier if i were born in the US of A

i wud not be so inexperienced in bed
the americans learn the ropes at 18 or earlier

u dont believe me?
ask Michele

dont be silly
i dont love michele
she is just a PP

i love Karen

Keshi said...

~~Twisted_Truth

hey TT!

**But they can't all be true. Now, own up. You made up some of them

which ones d u think I 'made up'?







~~:: The Protector ::


**IGNORANCE IS BLISS....

Thanks Vishnu!








~~AmitKen

Smilezzz Amit :) Thanks!








~~Karmic_jay

**Relationships are hard work.

u bet!

Im ok Jay thanks :)








~~Ishita

Ishhhhhhhhhhhhh by now u wud have left :*(

Im sure by now u r tired of my friendship dramas :) but hey Ish I really appreciate ur always here for me..never getting sick of me...


**and then there r fools like me who never learn!!

well Im a fool too...we all r in one way or the other...

I MISS U SOOOOOOOOO MUCHHHHHHHHH!








~~Wanderer

hey Wandy!


**It goes around the Darwin's theory SURVIVAL OF THE FITTEST

Sure does...but that doesnt mean one has to push his/her good friend to a corner and laugh at em...


**AND I WONT BUY TAT , if u say u have never been selfish

hehe did u think I'd say I have NEVER been selfish? no ways Wandy. I have been selfish myself. And those ppl who I ahve been selfish to can go write posts abt me if they wish to :) But this post is abt the ppl who were selfish to me for no darn reason or fault of mine. Take an example...Is not being able to wish someone for his/her bday a punishable crime for the rest of my life? U tell me...r such ppl selfish or not? And r those other friends who sit ard judging my every word/action and feeding my friend with malice against me worth being called friends? Is leaving a good friend just cos he/she voiced her opinion on another friend's belief fair?


and I can quite honestly tell u that I have never been unfairly Selfish to someone for such trivial matters...being selfish is human but being overly selfish so that they get blinde by themselves is certainly not what I call friendship.








~~Prithz

hey Prithz!


**she got all my help academically, later ditched me since she got "better, hotter and so-called-cool" friends...

Im glad she herself ditched ya cos she is certainly not worth ur time and friendship Prithz...


**i didnt do well in my exams and it took me over a month to get out of that shock...

yes it can be shocking to the system how some friends can be totally cold-hearted...


**its true when they say "Time cures"..

yes..Time is the only healer...thanks Prothz and u tc!








~~Niki

Hey Bakshi babez!

lol yes I dun even think good friends use the word 'disrespect'...


**but i cant deny that i feel same way to certain ppl in my office.

hehe but they r colleagues, not friends :)







~~SMZ

hey SMZ!


**but i guess we have to knw who our true friends are and who are the foes...

yes we have to know...or else we'll be played along like fools...

Thanks!








~~Darius

hey mate!


**We should recognize and treat each other as human beings first.

good point! Humans r selfish...

Thanks!








~~Het Waghela

hey Hettt hows ya? :)


**I love to travel in ship, but i will not love to board selfish-ip.

I have travelled in that Selfiship many times and now it's time to disembark...








~~Sophie

hey Sophie!


**and hit it like the way she does to clear off the dirt...

haha u mean like a punching bag? :) sweet!
When Im really pissed off, I listen to loud rock...or take my car keys and buzz off from home..

Ur mum is so right :) Thanks Sophie!









~~Blade

WC Blade n Thanks!









~~Orikinla Osinachi.

hey mate thanks a ton! U always make me wanna see things under a different light...makes me calm down and think clearly, thanks!


**try to see your fellow humans through the eyes of God and not through your own eyes.

I wish I can..but most of the times Im as human as everyone else is...the devil creeps in :)


**Try to love even those who hate you.

very hard to do...but Im trying...I might even die trying ;-)



**Even if I run into Osama bin Laden today on a street in Sidney or Kabul, I will still hug him...

hmm I dun think I'll hug him...cos to me, hugging is an act of affection..and right now I dun feel any love for someone like him...mebbe I'll get to know him first provided he wont kill me b4 that lol!



**Three evils plague humankind:
Ignorance, Arrogance and Malfeasance.

ur right, Ignorance rules!


**Then we shall know that everybody has a price.

true...



**If only we can be as reasonable as God.We can save the world.

Thanks mate...how sad that we cant be even 1% reasonable as God is sometimes...








~~Crazy Dan

hey Dan WC and I checked out ur post :) Funny!!








~~Homo Escapeons

hello hows u?


**"Well if you won't marry me then I am going to return to my estate in kathmandu for the winter and I'm taking the Renoir and the Degas, the Picasso is all yours!" and your reply didn't make any sense??

huh??? wuts this all abt? lol!



**I'm using code#43 which code were you using? looked like #67 or #29??

lol gawwwd Im so lost with these codes!



**Anyway apparently the insurance company has some issues with that arrangement so be a dear friend and give me a ring when you get a chance.

?? let me first check out ur blog....hahahaha!









~~SCRIBBLEZ TO WAKEUP

hey Scribblezz!

Hey it's ok...u can write as much as u want here..I have no probs with that :)

Thanks for sharing ur story...it's the same thing everywhere isnt it! friends and betryal etc etc. Im glad u knew ur way back from ur dominating friends. In real life, I have only 3 very close friends...to be honest none of em have back-stabbed me or treated me like I was nothing. Altho we have small arguments (as any friend will have), we have never made the other feel inferior or unworthy. We have been friends for the longest time. I had more friends b4 but they fell out with me..didnt last that long.



**everyone did it to her too...They just used her n r so devious....

sounds very familiar...ur sis is learning now...somehow she too will come out strong like ya.



**I am not if it the friends we choose , or the friends we let them grow into , ot just us but some of us are so rotten in this relationship....

ur right...its not that I dun analyse wut I may have done to upset them too...somehow it comes down to them being so up themselves that they cant get over themselves!



**How can they justify things...It is so unfair....

cos they r the judge and the jury :)



**A word, dont let anyone enter your heart...

thanks girl! I have done that same mistake many times b4...right now my heart is scarred with no more room left to be injured :) Anyways thanks alot for ur kind words and advice in my time of need...hugggggggggggz!









~~Terry

hey Terry!


**These comments do not point to the Keshi I've come to know in the least. Let them dance off and disappear like water on a ducks back.

hehe...thanks for that! mwahhhhhh!








~~Sittingnut

hellloooo hows ya?

Im much better today thanks...no runny nose or coughing like a coochi-coo puppy :)


**to tell you the truth i don't quite get this post .

hehe..ok..this post is made of deep msgs that some of my friends conveyed to me during our friendships...got it?



**i am quite selfish myself and i probably say(or at least unconsciously 'think') some of those things.

I agree we all r selfish.



**a friend is just a known enemy!? :-(
no way!


hehe..why not? cos I think most best friends r competitive and end up loving and hating u at the same time...


**friend is a person who accepts one as one is, a person who does not wear a mask and with whom one can be honest, and a person who gives advice (good or not) bc he or she cares about you. a person with whom one has fun and share grief. etc. etc.

true..all that and enemy too :)



**friend is probably not definable. :-)

true...



**in the end it all comes to being true to oneself. and expecting the same from others .

yes I agree...but sometimes by being true to one's self and others dont stop em from being selfish and jealous...



**if they are not then thats their problem only they lose. but we do feel let down .

yes...


Thanks mate n u have a good day too!

Keshi.

lil _kath said...

...u ok kesh??
well ,i have one quote here that i read before in one book and here it is....

"never explain yourself
your friends don't need it
and your enemies won't believe it."

-Belgicia Howell-

...im not asking you to do it but sometimes u know ,even we kept on doing our best to save one friendship or any relationship, we still end up with nothing coz maybe it's not really meant to be.

...just always be urself, talk to them with ur heart ,give love like what u always do..and if still u lost someone , don't blame urself...they're the losers not YOU!!

...true friends stay,and i did choose to be around ^_^ muaahhh!

huggs,
-kathy-

saby said...

excuse me Keshi
i just have to say dis again
Orikinla is a wonderful human bean

i tot they didnt exist any more
aside from my gen

white devil said...

hi... i uh.. see that things have been coming along well for you keshi(joke)
so what is on the menu for today...

i see saby is spewing out so really insipid stuff about old fashion indian values, cool!? i think? wait, scratch that.
where do these ideas come from? we are homo sapians! people! we are all capable of the exact same potential.

i see saby has adopted the age old ways of chauvanism!

let us learn some new words today shall we. here are a few to ponder, "neophilia" and "neophobia"

Neophilia-love of new things.

Neophobia-fear of new things.

we are living in a new and
(as much as many are scared of it)
a changing world there is unfortunately no room for alot of irrelevant ideals
(not saying that they are all useless but there are some that contradict the new and sometimes more improved models that are considered by the emerging generations as the more appropriate to suit the times, there are many examples to choose from just look up the news for the passed couple hundred years (this is for the hugging bin laden guy, pssst. death isn't in anymore))
now that i have cover my ass, let us get down to the point, saby the word neophobic comes to mind.

the world is breeding, and as much as it seems a good idea to stay within your culture(if it yours, i don't know you so i won't judge) it is going to get to the point in a while that soon the only way to continue to go in this vein is to...well inbreed, and i hope we all know the reprocussions to this. it ain't pretty.so the only way for your childrens, childrens, children to avoid getting cuddly with your great,great,great grand niece is by utilizing what there is abroad, in other words go outside your gene pools there is only so much room there, sooner than later it will be over-crowded and someone will be forced out of into the open air, shivering for another spring to jump into. what you say may sound fine and dandy but if you were more aware of the not too distant possiblities, then maybe you may want to reconsider your basis of criticization.

there are some out there who are screaming "revolution! revolution!" but the rest are screaming "evolution! evolution!"

oh and sophie you are a little creepy.

and keshi never let anyone tell you different from what you are doing, i feel you are a person of integrity, friends are a pain in the ass to find as i have mentioned before, just remember what i said it is a weeding out process, sooner or later you will figure things out and you will gasp with relief. i know i usually come across weird at times and i am not around often but i hope i have shown i am not one of those people who is as you mentioned in your most recent posts. i try to be as selfless as possible and even though it may be a survival of the fittest it is so much more gratifying to survive with your morals intact. keep it up!

tulipspeaks said...

enna achi? yaare enna sona?

:(

=am000nie=

saby said...

DAMN U Orikinla
i had to look up google search for MALFEANCE

dis is wat i gott
http://www.malfeance.com/

i am still in the dark
Orikinla u SOB come here and explain !

i feel mighty uncomfortable not noing a word

get yr ass in here PRONTO

uttara said...

morning keshi hun...
sweetiepiezzzzz

***but now I have come to a conclusion...just SHUTUP and wait. And expect NOTHING at all :) not even basic friendship affection..

keshi u have an option of dumping them...right??? .. y dont u try it .. it would be fun rather than they dumping u ....

u are not god for not to expect from anyone.. its easy to say but very difficult to adhere sweety...

BTW even he up there expects us to behave in a particular manner else we go to hell ...
:)

most of them would be coy ... its upto u how u take it n read between lines :)

n over n above most of them r fob.. so just leave it u gotto live with it else have an option of chucking it .. its upto u ...

u tc hun .. life is a mystery .. solve it ...

correct me if am wrong

southpaw said...

@Sittingnut
friend is a person who accepts one as one is, a person who does not wear a mask and with whom one can be honest, and a person who gives advice (good or not) bc he or she cares about you. a person with whom one has fun and share grief. etc. etc. friend is probably not definable. :-)***Well said...

@Keshi
Good day...:)

Keshi said...

~~Saby

**Indian Man and Indian woman
u r neither

Do I have to be 100% Indian to be whole?



Keshi.

Keshi said...

~~Lil_Kath

hey Kath Hugggggggggz!

**"never explain yourself
your friends don't need it
and your enemies won't believe it."


Spot on, thanks a ton...luv u loads for writing that here..I needed it mwahhhhhh!









~~White_Devil

heyyyy hows u? long time :)

**Neophobia-fear of new things.

Spot on! That's what Saby's prob is..cos he think Im a threat to the super-virtuous Indian women lol!



**there are some out there who are screaming "revolution! revolution!" but the rest are screaming "evolution! evolution!"

Very well-said mate!

Every word u said was so true...thanks so much for ur input and for ur encouragement.Huggggggggz!

Keshi.

Keshi said...

~~Amutha

Amu WB mwahhhhhhhh! Did u know I missed u tonzz?

What happened..hmmm I just put it all off my chest...good to do this and get rid of all the emotional turmoil. Im ok now thanks hun!







~~Uttara

Uttsyyyyyyyyyyy mwahhhhhhhh!

yes I know I have the option...and with this post, I think Im feeling much better cos all I did b4 was bottling it all up and pretending as if nuttin was wrong...

thanks a ton for always being there for me...hugggggggggggggz!







~~Southpaw

hellllloooo Raj :)


Keshi.

sophie said...

@white devil.....me creepy?

Keshi said...

Sophie I think Devil mistook u for someone else...

Keshi.

Keshi said...

Saby and guess wut..I wont come to ur blog again..cos each time I come there I have to tread over millions of dog sh#t of that Anonymous loser and also ur happy chats with him..I didnt know u2 were a team..thanks for letting me know!

Keshi.

saby said...

no love lost kesh1

like i said earlier
my friends need not be yr friebds and vice versa

and if u lissen closely to Orikinla the wonderful SOB

no man or mouse is all evil or
all good

not u
not Orikinla
not me

but Sophie is the exception

saby said...

white devil ...

DAMN U !
i have to go to google search again
why u use beeg bombastic words ?

FUCK
if u love keshi
say it

and u will be lynched by the rest of the guys and ROHIT

i am not in the running
i just been dis qualified

and u r mistaken about sophie
u SOB

Apy said...

*Comes in with a gun in his hand*
Tell me who he/she was.. lets get over with this once n fr all ..
jus kiddin.. cheer up lady.. thats life.. i kno its easy to preach but still .. u gotta fight....

Kumar Chetan said...

speed of light
cheeta
and your reply.
too fast.
there are 3 types of "ppl"
a) ppl whome u know
b) frendly ppl
c) frendz
we all the time mix b and c type of ppl. c type of ppl can be counted on fingers. dont mix b type of ppl with c type of ppl. indetify c type and cherish them. b type of ppl are those whom u said, "but ppl wont leave me alone...they r so annoying..and by placing my thoughts in public they r judging me from every angle and killing me - especially my good old friends!"
Life is short and tough.
3nj0y it to the fullest.
I suggest u watch some Tom & Jerry cartoons. Off the track? Ys, it is off the track. dont follow the track and 3nj0y life.
ch33r5

Keshi said...

~~Apy

hey thanks :) Hows u?








~~Kumar_Chetan

ur 100% right..they r b type of ppl indeed!

Gotcha and thanks!


Keshi.

rebel_on_loose said...

Hey Keshi....i'm sorry i seem to have missed out ur posts at a critical time!
Well all i can say is tht v all have our ups and down.....it's just a matter of time before u'll overcome this!

Here's a big HUGGGGG just for u !!!
:)

Nikita said...

ANYWAY

By Mother Teresa of Calcutta

(Just one word yet so much attributed to it. How beautifully she has written this poem.)

People are often unconscious, illogical & self-centered,
.....Forgive them anyway.

If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish & ulterior motives,
......Be kind anyway.

If you are successful, you will win some false friends and true enemies,
.....Succeed anyway.

If you are honest & frank, people will cheat you,
.....Be honest and frank anyway.

What you spend years building, someone could destroy overnight,
.....Build anyway.

The good you do today, people will often forget tomorrow,
.....Be good anyway.

Give the world the best you have, and it may never be enough,
.....Give the world the best you've got anyway.



You see, in the final analysis, it is between you and God,
....It was never between you and them anyway.

Life was never meant to be easy, mate. There isalways going to be an opposite and contradicting view to yours. Do what you feel is right and good. Your integrity is your true reward.

Dalicia said...

hi keshi,

are you feeling better? i forgot to translate the russian phrase to you..it means "kisses my sweetheart" :) i'm glad that you have friends from all over.

ohh i'm so tired of this...i'm not good enough, i'm not that type.
really really tired. first of all, i admit i'm not perfect. i think i'm better than most people. eventhough, i'm not a genius but at least i know i'm not doing bad deeds to other people. good enough for me!

but, of course...people are different. i lose friends and i make new ones. í don't like to hangon to ppl. who don't treat you like a friend.

Sudarshan said...

I'm sorry I haven't been visiting your blog for some days..been really busy with college and exams:-( Engineering sucks lol... That was well written..but not all friends can fit in that category lol..while some certainly do!! How u doing keshi? How's syd and oz?? Hope you having a blast:-)
Hugs and take care!!
Sudarshan

Jewel Rays said...

*HUGS*

Keshi said...

~~Rebel_on_loose

Huggggggggggz Rebbbz! That HUG really made me feel betta :) Thanks!









~~Nikita

hey I know that one by Mother Teresa...so beautiful!


**It was never between you and them anyway.

So true!

Thanks for the encouragement Niki mwahhhhhhhhh!








~~Elaine

yes I know what u mean...Im tired of such ppl too..I've learnt it the hard way...now I dun give a damn abt ppl who dun treat me like a friend but expects me to be a f/t friend to them!

Kisses to ya!








~~Sudharshan

hey mate busy ha? :) Take it easy!

Yep not all friends r like that...

Syd is rocking as usual :) thanks n u have a good day!








~~Jewel Rays

mwahhhhhhhhh Amy! :)


Keshi.

GuNs said...

83 comments !! You see, more people here who are wearing the same hat than you expected.

We all come across selfish friends but it just takes all kinds to make the world. Read Calvin & Hobbes and obtian enlightenment from all negative things in the world !! In fact, I already see a few C&H fans in this comment list !!

-PeAcE
--WiTh
---GuNs

Keshi said...

~~Guns

thanks mate :)

Keshi.

cheesemeister said...

"We don't like what we don't understand, it kinda scares us."
The Villagers from Beauty and the Beast
Believe me--I have spent my entire life being the Beast!
Sometimes it's been kinda fun. Like flashing the "horns" at the bible thumpers who were spreading the rumor that I was a Satan worshipper...
Heh heh heh!
I'll probably get punished for that one. But I'm never gonna be sorry about doing it!
FYI--I'm actually not evil. But it can be fun to pretend when there are gullible people around!
Peace.

Keshi said...

~~Chessemeister

ur a scream Meister lol I love ya!


**I'll probably get punished for that one. But I'm never gonna be sorry about doing it!


hahaha good one ya! Never be sorry abt what u wanted to be and wanted to do.


yeah its real fun to pretend to be evil when there r alot of idiots ard...lol!

Keshi.