Tuesday, November 28

Dawn Breaks

Ok I broke his heart. Right after he broke my heart. Don't get me wrong. I wasn't in love with him in the first place for him to break my heart. Neither was it the fact that he is engaged that broke my heart. But what broke my heart was the revelation of his motives behind all this Love talk. Yes Homo_Escapeons and many others here were spot on about him (from last post's comments). After alot of questions about him and his fiance today, I got to see the real face of his heart. This is what he told me today: 'I just want one last fling before I get married'. How's that for a guy who has just committed into a relationship with his woman who he claims he truly loves? I'm not angry with him cos I have no reason to be. I did not blast him either cos I can never do that to someone this honest LOL (atleast he was honest to me from the beginning), so I just told him in a cool and pleasant way that I'm not that kind of girl and that if he truly loves his GF he should be faithful to her. I guess he got my message and he was very abrupt with his answer...he said' 'Yes I totally understand that'. But I'm not too sure if he does. Cos if he did understand that in the first place, he wouldn't have asked me to have a fling with him, would he now! By doing that he was already being unfaithful to her.

Boys will be boys ha? Though I replied to him with some courteousness and I will still talk to him as a friend, I really feel bad for his girl and I have in some small way lost a bit more faith in men. What about that girl who will marry him now and perhaps get cheated for the rest of her life? Is honesty such a lonely word? Why do most men lie often? Why is it so hard to be faithful? Why all this love talk when all they mean is SEX? So why cant men just say 'I want your boobs/ass' instead of 'I love you'? What a waste of time! What has Love got to do with this anyway?? Sorry gentlemen I'm truly disgusted. Right now I wanna sit in a corner and pray. Not for me...for her.


Current Music: What's Love Got To Do With It by Tina Turner

120 Cranium Signets:

Anonymous said...

A sad turn of events, but it's best that you found out now rather than down the road.

Let me assure you, not all men are like that. He is a bad one. I don't care what he tries to convince you.

Anonymous said...

Oh my goodness. I am first. I think this is the first time, and quite possibly the last. I am honoured to be 1st for such an important post.

I did it! Finally!

Aditi said...

ehh i seemed to have missed yesterdays post but i read that today and todays today and
i agree its really wierd for someone to fall in love with u after a day's conversation.. i mean like yea but love.. a bit strong.. and i totally feel sorry for the girl he is marrying... makes me glad i am single rather then in a blind relationship like that

Anonymous said...

Hi

Mmm, I totally agree with you, why do men do that?
Not all, of course, but many of them.
Do they appeal to our sensitiveness? I will be thinking of this the rest of the night while I'm still awake...
But, what can I say to you?? Only one thing, I would have done the same you did :)
So put the pieces of your heart together again, someone will be waiting for it.
Well, Now I think I'm talking like a fairy tale writer, haha.
xox

Ekta said...

hmmm well quite an ass must say!...i wld have probably smashed his face...ur way too patient...grrr!

Anonymous said...

Why all this love talk when all they mean is SEX? So why cant men just say 'I want your boobs/ass' instead of 'I love you'? What a waste of time!

That was the first step.

What if the men just got it? Would it mean no love exsits?

Most men are afraid, what if they just get it? Would that "man" be bold enough to asy to her financee that he just wanted to have one last fling before marriage.
Something somewhere is out of place.
I suggest U meet that "man" with her fiancee and tell his fiancee everything in his presence.

I am sure she will kick his ass and surely he will get a sting of a life instead of a fling.

Unworthy pennies never travel too far.

samuru999 said...

Keshi honey
I don't think all men are like this guy!
There are some gems out there!
He is not one of those gems though!
It is such a crying shame when people lie though to try and get what they want!
Makes me quite sad!
Take care sweetie!

Margie

twistedtruth said...

U are trying to compartmentalise a whole lot of shit which cannot be compartmentalised. That poor f*ker will now have to "control" all his life, because he is committed. Control does not work. Only love does.

Anonymous said...

Incidents like these also make me lose my trust n faith in men.....

'I just want one last fling before I get married' ....thats cheap...
but watever...boys will be boys...

Men want their parters to be loyal n faithful...but when its their turn...they just..blow up the whole thing...

this makes me think...is it worth expecting commitment from a Man???

I, Me & The One said...

u did it right! and dont worry abt the girl! even the best of men lose their mind b4 marriage! i am not supporting the guy but i think she will be ok!

" Why all this love talk when all they mean is SEX? So why cant men just say 'I want your boobs/ass' instead of 'I love you'? What a waste of time! "

seriously, would you have let him this far if he came up to you with such lines?

Rena said...

see, i told him, he was just playing, well, so good that you told him that you're not that kind of girl, some men believe that all the girls are the same and that's not true, good for you :)
btw, you wasn't in love so i guess this shouldn't be disturbing you at all...
and yes, my language and the language on my blog is Spanish :) I am sorry that you don't understand it, bye bye!

Anonymous said...

keshi baby! men men men they never fail to surprise me :) ha they are like that...... i am glad to didnt get entrapped in this stupid idea of his....sure thing we all must pray for that girl....men can never be as faithful as women are!!!!!!

Parag said...

good that you came to know early..
Its all "moments of weakness"
You were attracted to him too within just a few days of meeting him..
My view is love is never at first sight.. it grows with time..
So does trust, loyalty and the overall depth of any relationship

Jewel Rays said...

feels speechless after reading this post. Feels like everything is spoken and the same question is being asked in ya sentences.

It feels like we share the same nature somewhat the way you handled the situation. That couteousness and so on. You are strong keshi. :) Great character, Great heart, mind, expression and person you are. I am sure God has you in mind when he thinks of that special someone. He would have a gem by his side. You that special someone.

*hugs*

thanks ...

saby said...

Thanxxxx Keshi and Margie for always being there for me!

xoxoxox

Saby

saby said...

i love dis guy
he cud have been me

saby said...

all u Mills and Boon readers out here


we men hate marriage and cages
why cant we be like the animals?

honest and sincere and horny
why cant women too be like men ?

we are made to procreate
the more sex partners we have
the better it is for the human race

civilization changed all dat
now we are hypocrites
we are going against nature

till death do us part
Shucks!

gimme a break
the dogs dont say dat


nor any other animal, bird or fish species

desperado said...

hmmm..well things sorted out..gud in a way

Anonymous said...

What if it was the other way round? Could that guy have forgiven his girl for doing it?

No, the guys always think they can do anything and expect their girls to be honest to death. They think it is perfectly ok if they do so, not the other way round.
Agreed not all are same but majority. They still have superiority complex somewhere.

saby said...

u came first annony mouse?
how selfish



no wonder women hate men

Anonymous said...

Hi Keshi,

I also dun understand why guys love to lie so much..

I also dun understand why some of them can't be faithful..

I also dun understand why they can say something & mean the other....

Sometimes, ppl are jus waiting for things to happen & regret in near future....

**Sigh**

Anonymous said...

oops..i dint read this post and commented on the previous one...but i truly agree... "most" of the men are like that...and men will be men... :D:D:D:D
Well even i feel like praying for that lady who got sucha guy in her life...

starbender said...

OMG--U mean I not the 100th something post! Pinch me! Ouch!

Keshi--Hon, where do U find these guys??? sheeze, unlucky in love, lucky in ___________. U have 2 fill in the blank!

(he's a dirt-bag)
' ]

PrAcHi said...

'I just want one last fling before I get married'
Oh man.. he is so mean!!! I really feel bad for his girl. We all should pray for her. Yesterday I thought that he is genuinely being honest and telling you his feelings.. but he seems to be a bastard!


So why cant men just say 'I want your boobs/ass' instead of 'I love you'? What a waste of time!

They can’t say this because they know that this will never be accepted by any decent woman! Instead, many girls get fooled by such sweet “I love you” statements by such an assholes. My friend was fooled like this. And such a kind of guys don’t even know the meaning of LOVE.. they just make a toss and then girl’s life is in mess after that. N then they njoy their life with their wife bcs she is completely unaware of what a fruitcake she has got *grrrrr*

Anonymous said...

Ooopss.. sad!!

And well, I do understand your losing faith in men but on the same note, the woman could also be given the same benefit of doubt. And in today's times.. both males and females are not so innocent either.

All said and done, guess this is another short lived affair. Lol, if I can call it that.

Anonymous said...

I'm singing A$$-hole!

lee said...

It makes you wonder -if that guy thinks he has found the one he wants to spend his life with and yet wants to sleep with anyone else -he is kidding himself! Anyone truly in love wouldn't even think about playing up -it wouldn't cross their mind.

Anonymous said...

Atlast he revealed what he has in his mind, though I find its very strnage that he acted that way.

Rest assured, not all men are like that! :)

Hope you feel good now!

Take care!

Anonymous said...

hey common chill babe...maybe that guy really loved u once..and he wants to carry those memories forever....carry good memories before they turned too sour!!Might be possible na....all men are not like that....so lets not generalize :)

Ramya said...

99% of the men are all losers, we don't really seem to get hold of that 1% !

fergal said...

>>So why cant men just say 'I want your boobs/ass' instead of 'I love you'?

hi keshi - maybe because many men realise (or believe) that most women prefer to hear the latter phrase (?). and yes many men r pr!cks (probably myself included sometimes?) - but women aren't totally perfect either.

that's just a little semi-cheeky but i think rather valid reflection there mate - sorry i couldn't be more compassionate or profound right now cos i do empathise with you and appreciate your feelings, frustration/disillusionment & honesty; but i'm just about to collapse into bed & sleep.

maybe i can offer something more profound tomorrow?
[ps - see my reply to your gnr query on my blog]

~

Anonymous said...

oh well!!! good na?

Anonymous said...

and btw, kesh..hunks and females dont go together..even if they happen to be the wives..i have yet to meet a hunk who is not totally into himself..

Avi said...

True, boys will be boys ! But dear, not all are same. My dad wasnt, he still loves mom the same way he did 25 years back. And so is my best friend who is into a 8 year old relationship. Maybe sometimes it is also the upbringing and our environments which mould our attitudes. Hmm...

Seema said...

Keshi really feel its great luck on yr side n u didnt indulge in any more than a few conversations with tis crappy character...GOOD RIDDENCE
Feel absolutely sorry for a sadist like him...hope that gal discovers this n just chucks this AS****
Such a brutal guy...wish he got his match !
Am happy u didnt get one bit into this mess !!!
Take care gal...love,
Seema

Anonymous said...

Like I said yest I thought it was physical. I can see why you would be upset.
The guy was wrong to call it "love". He is a moron.
If he wanted to have a fling he should have been upfront about it.

As for men being the way they are, maybe it's the genes, culture or whatever.

I have to say though you can't just blame the men, men would not have affairs if women were not willing. There is something about the human pysche for certain folks who end up having affairs.
It may not be just a gender thing.
With high divorce rates and the challenges of being in long term monogamous relationships cannot be just overlooked. They contribute to it too.
I have to say that this does not apply to the current situation though and every body has a right to expect fidelity in a relnship.

Sorry about the long comment.

punjabi~car~freak! said...

ummmm
dont form an opinion aboout all guys
most are like this but not all of them

u seem a lil disturbed so just calm down

take care

Anonymous said...

Also don't lose faith in men. We are human and all of us or most of us are drawn to others, but we don't always act on what we feel.
There are better men out there.

Homo Escapeons said...

Unfortunately this ain't 'rocket science'and all of your friends saw through his charade. Monogamy is 'for the birds' in biological terms anyway, they seem to be better adapted to it than mammals.
Men of course are designed to produce tons of sperm (70 million /millilitre) for one reason and that is too fertilise as many eggs as possible.
If you recall I did a little post on primate ball size and the bigger the balls the more promiscuous the species..gorilla have a harem (the boss) so they had the smallest and chimps were out of control so they had the biggest..humans are right in the middle!
Now our big brains have developed pair bonding to ensure the safety and well being of our offspring..this is a very dangerous place for primates because most of us have always been on something's menu.
Aside from all of the biology there is evidence that two people can satisfy each other in every corner of their lives if they work at it..and the rewards are those romantic love stories that we all admire and cherish.
Not all guys act out on their impulses for instant gratification..some of us do have a view of the big picture and enough self control to mange our hornymones..
HA..You probably have a couple of guys fall in love with you everyday ..that's why you didn't notice!

Anonymous said...

" one last fling before I commit"!!

Wow!! Girl, what the heck were you doing with this piece of crap in the first place.You are better off without him,I don't think he is man material anyway!!

Shake him off your system and kick his ... on to the pavement.

Cheers.

Shionge said...

This is so pathetic and if he's saying this to you he must have tried his luck with other women too.

Still, I hope one rotten apple won't dampen your faith in meeting true honest guy Keshi.

I wish you luck :P

Anonymous said...

hi keshi!
what a mean individual!! tyruly without a character. I dont know if I can typecast all men like that, but one things for sure, that girl really doesnt deserve this nut who want one last "fling" before commitment!!! why doeas he want to commit at all then?? wont he be satisfied all life then???

Anonymous said...

ha..there are kick ass men..kick ass woman as well in this world..U got to leave with it without getting surprised or off guard...

This chap seems absolute professional flinger.......

Akruti said...

Well,first,i miss out commenting on this blog because you don't allow anon comments and blogger is not letting me write a comment on non beta blogs.i am using my old blog id but i am still scared of doing so,because it is something which i left long way from my life. but could n stop myself after reading today's post.
Keshi,such men are not worth a minute of your time also,they are weak and spineless who do not know what life or love is all about,I am feeling sorry for the girl myself but then god has solutions somewhere written for everyone.I am glad you did the most sensible thing and show him his place if possible.
Good thats it over or i see it as something which never started.Take care girl.
Alapana
http://aalapana.blogspot.com

Cinderella said...

WTF was that ??!!!

"...one last fling before getting married." ???!!!!!

Holy f***ing shit, can men really be so f**king low ya ?
What was he thinking ?
That perhaps you too wanted a one-night stand and he was scaring you off by giving you the impression that he was in love with you ?
Man !!
I am completely disgusted too..
I'd told you na things may not be what they seem !
Take care girl and keep the bloody a***oles at bay.

Anonymous said...

I'm glad he showed his true colors.

Tell me the truth Keshi - if someone walked up to you and said,'I want your boobs and bla bla bla...' as you said, I'm sure you'd be more disgusted than you are now.

Anonymous said...

WoW... keshi... u never disappoint me all the times... i really enjoy reading your blog girl... do keep it up okies... and btw, i have changed my blog link to this,
http://wendysg007.blogspot.com/
so do update on ur side too... thanks and take care, cheers

southpaw said...

Phew!!!Finally i get to view this section...

So why cant men just say 'I want your boobs/ass' instead of 'I love you'?***Not everyone's honest as saby...lolz

The guy seems to be quite an outdated one mentally ofcourse coz u said he's a cute hunk. I mean he's still using the 'love u' line in search of a casual sex...

Anyway, like u rightly said pray for that unfortunate girl who wud marry that asshole....disgusting!!!

Kalpana said...

Don't think that all men are the same. In the case of relationships, you can't trust anyone, a man or a woman. We need to believe what our heart says. That's it.

Anonymous said...

omg! so many coments!!! :O

so he tld yu tht he luvs his fiancee? tht shud hav made it clear na!
anyways gud tht yu knw atleast nw!
n grt thtyu broke up witout hesitation!
yeah, smtimes men can b cruelly materialistic n selfish !

Anonymous said...

omg! so many coments!!! :O

so he tld yu tht he luvs his fiancee? tht shud hav made it clear na!
anyways gud tht yu knw atleast nw!
n grt thtyu broke up witout hesitation!
yeah, smtimes men can b cruelly materialistic n selfish !

Priyanka Mahanta said...

Keshi, I come across these kind of guys all the time. Thats why I'm very scared and sceptical of getting into a relationship or think about marriage. If I'd want to get married it shud be for the keeps and once in a lifetime affair. I don't know where has all the love gone. U dont find the 'right'guys these days any more. Its sad....

Priyanka Mahanta said...

Oh btw SABY some animals & birds & fishes are more dedicated than men. Haven't u heard or seen how if one goldfish dies, its partner dies shortly even if u change the water and everything. Or how a dove cries itself to death if its partner dies. Even a pigeon. There are so many more animals and mammals who does that. I think men ought to learn a lot of these things from the animals...

Anonymous said...

Hi Keshi!
Of course not all men are like that. For you is honest man, maybe soon, maybe very soon you'll meet him.
Love and Peace to you!

Anonymous said...

omg, i had this nagging feeling that was all he wanted.. men can disappoint in more ways that one can imagine, but more often than not its always about the same thing.. i wonder why its so hard to stay loyal to someone..
how can he claim to be in love with his fiancee if he wants to sleep with smeone else.. urgh.. disgusting.. i'll join in on ur prayers too hun, for tht poor girl who is unaware of wht she's getting into.. but u know the scariest part of it all, is that that girl could be any one of us in the future and we will never know! :(

i've been out sick hney, caught the fever and cold and all that other stuff thats keeping me away from my work-studies -my laptop everythg.. but im recovering now and feel a lot better! :)

in consolation to your line where u said, that you have lost a little more faith in men, lemme tell you.. there are some out there that deserve a little more credibility than what we give them.. im telling ya ;) lol.

be well sweets, will catch up soon! :)

Anonymous said...

should i say i want ur brain with ur blue eyes as tasty additive instead of i love u ? ... so i do ... with a few more additives :) :)

Eclipsed Thoughts said...

awww... ahem, i thot he did love you and not just chance for a fling"... funny, but i too liked his honesty. At least you didnot have to stammer and say "well, actually, i like you but i have no such feelings blah blah"... u could straight away say "NO". that was nice. easy for the both of you.

"all men are disgusting", this is what i said sometime back, but now i think some are "intolerable"... haha,,, enjoy babes, stop worrying,.

Phoenix said...

I'd pray for that guya lso. it must be tough to survive with that much sickness.

Anonymous said...

Hey Keshi, how you doing??
Well, reading your post, I didn't know what to comment... What he did was wrong. Sorry to hear that you lost some faith in men. :( Though not all men are hypocrites like this guy.
I feel love at first sight may go for the boobs and ass as you said but love that developed over time wont be looking at love that way.
I don't have an argument for this, but based on my experience. :)

niki yokota said...

this is kinda marriage blue.
i hope so. he could have cancelled the marriage, if u loved him.
anywayz please dont be sappy, keshi-chan.. :(
some ppl are weird.

Sujit said...

its very sad for the girl whom he gets married!... whats next?.. he may find another keshi.. and fling!.. poor lady.. to hook on for the rest :(

The Phoenix said...

Scientifically, monogamy is very difficult for men. The way we are created makes it tough. This might have served our early ancestors in the stone age very well, but of course, it's obsolete today.

Morally, the guy is scum.

SamY said...

he he this is all funny ... y r u mulling over it so much :p

** I'm not that kind of girl

what does "that kind of girl" mean :D

** Why all this love talk when all they mean is SEX?

well, the fact is ... men make love for sex and women give sex for the love

unfortunately, say it openly and both parties risk not getting what they want

** So why cant men just say 'I want your boobs/ass' instead of 'I love you'?

coz the only thing he'd get is at best a cold shoulder ... women need love ... they love being loved, cared blah blah blah

dyu remember the scene from "A beautiful mind" where nash goes and says - "why do I have to buy you a drink to get laid ..." and gets slapped :D

no offence ... not all women r clean either. men may lie @ these ... but women often lie as to what they want ... when things don't work their way, they move out dumping the guy ... for many, their man is an ATM ... dyu know how disgusting that is for a guy? when a woman dumps him just cos he ain't in his best of times after having taken a ride on him

although these r the raw fact, lets not make any generalizations nutty ... humans ain't all perfect ... things happen ... there r so many who end up in a blind marriage and yet love each other a lot ... for all you know, this Homo_Escapeons could well change after marriage :)

why in the world am I rambling nonsense so much late in the night #-o ... no early morning, with work still pending ... god save me

Anonymous said...

like that song..weird hair styles though !

mommyof2 said...

{{{{hugs}}}} for you & yeah, that girl will need all the prayers she can get after marrying that jerk..

Keshi said...

AB First, Second too and WOW! :)

Im not sad for me AB..I'm sad for his GF and him too. They r a lost couple.

tnxx n huggggggggz I know ur a good man :)

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Aditi heyy!

**makes me glad i am single rather then in a blind relationship like that

Spot on girl. I feel the same. What a miserable life I'd live if I had a BF like this. It would all be fake!

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Masol ur so cute lol and u r indeed a fairy if not a fairy-tale writer :) HUGGGGGGGGZ n ty!

**Do they appeal to our sensitiveness?

I guess so. That's what happens often. But I aint affected by this guy. Just worried abt his GF. But then again she chose him...it's not my problem :)

ty for ur advice swt hrt MWAHHH!

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Ekta heyyy!

**!...i wld have probably smashed his face...ur way too patient

I cant do that Ekta. Besides I dun have any reason to. Cos I didn't have any expectations of him and right from the beginning he did tell me he was engaged. If he was a guy I met on teh street and he asked me this, then I'd have just punched him whole body LOL!

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Light-House heyyy!

**I suggest U meet that "man" with her fiancee and tell his fiancee everything in his presence

I cant do that only cos that won't be right by him. I dun even know him/his GF well enough to meet em and talk all this. U know what I mean Tarun? If she was someone I knew, I'd have told her already :) Not cos I wanna wreck their r'ship, but I want them to work things out, b4 they get married.

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Margie yeah there r few good men out there I know...very few. :)

ty sweetie HUGGGGGGGGGGZ!

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TT :)

**That poor f*ker will now have to "control" all his life, because he is committed. Control does not work. Only love does

what abt the girl? How does she control? Wud u like it if ur wife/GF slept with a 100 men w.o. ur knowledge?


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Ektaran heyyy!

**Men want their parters to be loyal n faithful

thats so true! Read TT's comment and my reply. :)


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I_Me&_The_One hello!

Yeah alot of men lose their minds w.o having to marry even lol!


**seriously, would you have let him this far if he came up to you with such lines?

no! What Im trying to say is why did he have to bring LOVE into this? He could have said straight away 'I NEED SEX'.

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Hola Rena ;-)

yeah Im glad too :) tnxxx alot sweetie!

I wish I could u'stand Spanish...I love that language!

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Suchi ty n huggggggggggz!

**....men can never be as faithful as women are

U said it girl! So true. They can never match our faithfulness :)

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Parag yeah ur spot on! It's all "moments of weakness". I did get attracted to him but that wasnt LOVE. Im glad I knew the difference and that I didnt confuse him like he confused me.

yeah anything solid takes time to build.

ty so much!

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Amy tnxxx so much for being there for me. All ur comments with ur experiences TRULY helped me to realise alot of things. u guys rock. HUGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGZ!

** I am sure God has you in mind when he thinks of that special someone. He would have a gem by his side. You that special someone.

awwww thats one of the SWEETEST things anyone could ever say to me. I guess God has another gem by his side...and that's u AMY. MWAHHHHHHH!



Keshi.

Keshi said...

Saby now dun be soooo honest LOL!


**we are made to procreate
the more sex partners we have
the better it is for the human race

ok then why did u get married? U could have just remained single and procreated around this whole Earth. U cant do 2 things Saby...do one thing and stick to that ok??

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yeah Desperado ty so much!

:)

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Cuckoo heyy!

**Could that guy have forgiven his girl for doing it?

Exactly! If the girl did this, she would be named a sl#t and dumped then n there.

Majority indeed LOL!

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Thumbelina yes...alot of ppl do things on impulse and regret em a lifetime.


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Saira ty!

yeah...all we can do is pray for her. cos once a cheater, always will be.


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Star heyy mwahhh! haha yeah ur not 100-something today :):)


**where do U find these guys??? sheeze, unlucky in love, lucky in ___________.

hehe. ok d u mean I'm lucky in SHIT? lol!


Dirt-bag he is yeah!

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Prachi yeah...he's mean and selfish. O.W. he wouldnt just look for a fling. Can u believe that!


** N then they njoy their life with their wife bcs she is completely unaware of what a fruitcake she has got

so true! I have friends like that too. Guys flirt ard with other women and their wives dun have a clue. I say most men r selifsh when it comes to this. All they want is sex n more sex, even at the expense of cheating their families.

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G'day Johno!

**. And in today's times.. both males and females are not so innocent either.

Definitely. It's not only men who cheat on their partners. But we have to agree that not MOST women cheat. It's usually MOST men. Cos women r emotional beings and men r sexual beings. It's so easy for sexual beings to fall prey to their own weakness. U know wut I mean? :)


**All said and done, guess this is another short lived affair. Lol, if I can call it that.

nope lol! It wasnt an affair at all on my side.

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Niv and Im singing 'LOSER'...haha!


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Lee heyy!

**Anyone truly in love wouldn't even think about playing up -it wouldn't cross their mind.

yeah thats so true. I told him that too. I said that if he really loves his GF, he should not think abt falling for other women. And guess what he said. He said 'But sometimes we fight alot and then I feel like cheating her'...

And so he's a sinner and I'm his sin? He can go fly a kite. LOL!

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TY Contented! I know that not all men r like that but MOST r. :) btw Im sure ur a good man..I just know it. Hugggggggggz!



Keshi.

Keshi said...

Neha heyy!

**maybe that guy really loved u once..and he wants to carry those memories forever.

hmmm dunno...mebbe...mebbe not. But I dun think there's LOVE involved in flings. Is there?

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Ramya heyy!

**99% of the men are all losers, we don't really seem to get hold of that 1%

ROFL! I can see alot of men throwing rotten tomatoes at us girl hahahaha!


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Fergal matey ty :) Had a good sleep?


**and yes many men r pr!cks (probably myself included sometimes?) - but women aren't totally perfect either.

I agree. But isnt that true that MOST (not all) men's mind wanders easily than it does for women?

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Rose hello!

yeah its all good ty :)

** have yet to meet a hunk who is not totally into himself..

thats so true. I have noticed that too. I guess good looks make alot of ppl vulnerable.

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Avi heyy WC n ty!


**Maybe sometimes it is also the upbringing and our environments which mould our attitudes

true. I agree not ALL men r like that. It's so great that ur dad is still faithful to ur mum...so sweet!

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Seema ty!

yeah Im glad too that i didnt get carried away by his sweet nothings. I guess his GF is in for a very rough ride for a very long time.

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Sanjay heyy!

**most of us are drawn to others, but we don't always act on what we feel.

thats what I mean. I dun blame ppl for falling for more than one person...it happens. But to act upon em when ur already committed is so wrong.

yeah I believe there r still few good men out there...and u r one of em :) ty so much Sanjay!

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heyy Punjabi!

**most are like this but not all of them

Im glad atleast one man agreed that MOST men r like that :)

ty Punjabi ur so sweet. I'll be right. HUGGGGGGGGGZ!

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heyyy HE :) tnxx a ton for the very interesting biological explnation of this...WOW ur sooo knowledgable in any topic. I really admire that in ya.


**Aside from all of the biology there is evidence that two people can satisfy each other in every corner of their lives if they work at it..and the rewards are those romantic love stories that we all admire and cherish.

aww I still wanna believe in all that. tnxxx for this!


ROFL @hornymornes!

And heyy mate even I fall in love many times everyday LOL (including with u hehe), but acting upon em is being a bit too out-of-control. So yeah, u can look but do not touch ;-)

tnxxx for everything mate HUGGGGGGGGGGGGZ!

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Asha heyy!

**You are better off without him,I don't think he is man material anyway!!

yeah. LOL @man-material.

Well I cant kick him cos he's nowhere close to me :):) But yeah, I will keep my distance with him. btw he's still emailing me and asking things. And I just told him that we have to stop this kind of convo cos it's really done n over with. And I also told him that I could only be friends with him. I think he got the msg and now he's quiet.

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Shionge he must have slept with loads of women. yukkk!

btw I know that I must not lose faith in all men...but most men disappoint me.

ty sweetie!

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Preetha ur right.

**why doeas he want to commit at all then?? wont he be satisfied all life then???

I ask the same Qn from all men...why do they get married when they dunno the meaning of commit? I think it's insecurity. Just wanting a partner by their side just for the heck of it! How sad.

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Matty yeah he's a professional flinger...sad life!



Keshi.

Keshi said...

Akruti heyy!

aww u cant comment here? Why not? non-beta is it. ok let me see what I can do.


**but then god has solutions somewhere written for everyone

thats so true. I believe that every person will some day realise what they did in the past. Some day.


**Good thats it over or i see it as something which never started.

yeah. Im glad it didnt bloom at all. ty!

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heyy Cinderella I cant see ur blog :(

yeah he prolly thought I'm easy...he's mistaken big time. :)

ty for all ur advice. It really helped. HUGGGGGGGGGZ!

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Azuka heyy!

** if someone walked up to you and said,'I want your boobs and bla bla bla...' as you said, I'm sure you'd be more disgusted than you are now.

I know. but my point is why lie? Either way Im disgusted with him equally.

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Wendy WB I missed ya! So u have moved? I'll be there soon TY :)

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Southy hey why couldnt u see this section b4?


**Not everyone's honest as saby...lolz

ROFL! I was abt to include 'Saby' in that line but then I thought ppl would relate to him anyways LOL!


Southy yeah he was looking for casual sex. he got the wrong girl for that hahaha!

tnxxx mate!



Keshi.

fergal said...

>>But isnt that true that MOST (not all) men's mind wanders easily than it does for women?

that may be true keshi - i am not a woman so i can't answer this definitively; but let me just propose as an idea that_maybe_in general women's minds wander in a similar fashion; but the key difference is that men act on suhc mind-wandering more often - i.e. the mental thing influences many men's behaviour more readily than it influences many women's behaviour? i don't know - i'm just thinking out loud here ;-D

one other thing i will quickly add is that i think it might be valid to say that in many cases, men's idea of what 'love' is can substantially differ from many women's general ideas of what 'love' is & what it means & represents ... ?? this thought is kinda generally consistent with some of my life experiences anyhow

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Keshi said...

Kalpana yeah not all men/women r this bad :) I agree. ty!


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Nadim yeah he did say he LOVES his GF...which Im not very sure of anyways. LOL!


**yeah, smtimes men can b cruelly materialistic n selfish

yeah...women can be like that too. But I can never be that and Im glad abt that :)

ty!

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Priyanka yeah I agree. Alot of men I have met also just wants sex...I can sense that. Thats why I keep away from r'ships. I always know my limits and I remain friends with most of em. Cos the moment u let em in to ur heart, they walk all over ya.


**Oh btw SABY some animals & birds & fishes are more dedicated than men.

hehe thats so true. I always say that nature is our best teacher. And yet Man fails to learn.

ty sweetie thats a great comment!

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Krystyna ty!

Honest or not, I wanna know if men can really love...whether they know what love truly is. Once a man knows what LOVE is, everything else will fall in place by itself.

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Purnima aww ur not well? TC hun HUGGGGGGGGGGZ! I missed u alot these days.

**but u know the scariest part of it all, is that that girl could be any one of us in the future and we will never know

so true! If I were in that girl's shoes...wut wud I do...OMG!

So u want me to give credit to some men out there? AHA babe? ;-) lol wuts cooking at ur end ha? I think S0ul is in luuuurve! OMG hugggggggggz! Tell me na...?? Cant wait to hear all the gos :)

So was it really fever or just FEVER? ;-)


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Anonimply yeah get to the point :)


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KAP yeah it was easy on both sides.


**all men are disgusting", this is what i said sometime back, but now i think some are "intolerable"...

LOL hahahahahaha! Thats a good one KAP :):)


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Phoenix heyy!

**it must be tough to survive with that much sickness.

LOL hahaha yeah!


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KK ty!


**I feel love at first sight may go for the boobs and ass as you said but love that developed over time wont be looking at love that way.

I know. And I know that there r few good men out there...like u. :) HUGGGGGGGGGGGZ! Dun worry I havent lost faith in u and few other men here. U guys r GOLD.

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Niki I aint sad at all. Im HAPPIER than ever LOL! I mean imagine being fooled by him? I escaped that and Im glad :)

Hugggggggggggggz!

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Sujit heyy!


**he may find another keshi.. and fling!..

oyeah he def will. Isnt that a sad cycle he's gonna live.


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The_Phoenix heyy!

I agree.

**The way we are created makes it tough

thats true. But like u said there should be some MORALITY involved in a r'ship isnt there.

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Samy heyyy!


**... men make love for sex and women give sex for the love

thats so true. Look at how my lil Samy grown up so much :):)


**"why do I have to buy you a drink to get laid ..." and gets slapped

no I havent seen that movie but I'd slap him too :)


My dear friend Homo_Escapeons is married already with kids too. I have so much respect for him cos he's one of a kind and really a genuine heart. U should check out his blog. It's solid cranium.

ty Samy HUGGGGGGGGGGGZ!

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Rose yeah 80s hair hahahaha!


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Mommyof2 yeah she needs a truckload of prayers LOL!

ty sweetie HUGGGGGGGGGGGGGZ!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

heyy Fergal!

**men's idea of what 'love' is can substantially differ from many women's general ideas of what 'love' is & what it means & represents ... ??

thats an interesting view of this. So true. The differences clash ha. Well ok, as a man, can u tell me what u think LOVE is?

:)
Keshi.

Anonymous said...

**I know that there r few good men out there...like u. :) HUGGGGGGGGGGGZ! Dun worry I havent lost faith in u and few other men here.

KK drops down on the floor fainted... :)

J. Andrew Lockhart said...

Bad as it is, don't lose your faith in men! :)

Anonymous said...

1st of all "Chamat" for the fellow for expecting such a thing from a sweetheart like u HUH & all the men are not like him...but they always give u surprises..surprises & surprises :D

I hope he will be sincere to his fiance & don't expect such a thing from some other girl cuz I already feel bad for the girl he is marrying :(

You stay charming & beautiful girly :)

Keshi said...

ty Andrew! :) I do know there r few good men out there.

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tnxx Suga HUGGGGGGGGGGGZ!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

heyy KK wake up!

**KK drops down on the floor fainted...

sprinkles some holy water on KK's face..

LOL u ok?

Keshi.

Blessed said...

OMG!!! This guy is a real piece of work! I, too, feel so sorry for this girl that is with him. I wish that she knew.
I have seen alot of guys in my days that are like this but you I don't let those bad apples taint the whole darn tree!!!! I don't believe all men are bad. I don't believe all men will cheat. I do believe that there are some deserving, genuine, wondeful ones out there!!!!
BLESSINGS!!!!

Anonymous said...

well atleast the ruth came out quickly..but he is an undeniable asshole.
Sure you want to be friends with him?
I have a terrible taste in my mouth..

Keshi said...

Blessed yeah...he's some demented piece of work! Anyways Im glad I didnt go any further with him. :) tnxxx!


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LOL LaVida...mebbe I should not be friends with him. Ur right.



Keshi.

southpaw said...

Yeah everytime i clicked i cud only see a blank screen....

I guess u shud see what la vida loca had to see.

Its better to be friendly with slimes like me and saby rather than that outdated, worthless jack...:)

Dawn....सेहर said...

Boy the title made me to think if this post is on me ;) lol

But when I read it I think you should be away from such time pass lovers ...keep your ignore button on gal ;)
Cheers

Keshi said...

Southy I saw that too yday...blank screen. And then I hit CTRL+F5 to clear the cache and it worked like a bought-one :) Try that next time.


**Its better to be friendly with slimes like me and saby rather than that outdated, worthless jack

LOL yeah definitely! btw ur not a slime ok??

Hugggggggggggggggz!

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Dawn heyy I was indeed thinking of u as I named this title...:) so lets say this post is in honor of ya...cos DAWN is LIGHT. And I saw light yesterday.

HUGGGGGGGGGGGGGGZ!


Keshi.

Shiv said...

u know wat..I like the way u take things..if it had been me, I wud have cried my heart out for that guy!! Wat to do...sometimes gals do act weird!!

Keshi said...

Shiv I cant cry for him cos I never fell for him...besides after knowing what he's really like, there's no way I'd cry for someone like him :)

Keshi.

Anonymous said...

Who am I??? Where am I??? :) lol!!!

Keshi said...

An angelic voice says:

KK ur on planet Venus surrounded by goddesses. D u wanna go home or d u wanna stay?

:)

Keshi.

Anonymous said...

what a bastard!! these are the pests who give a bad name to men!! and its ppl like these who give love a bad name too!!!

keshi, its not honesty. its desperation. some men feel if they are honest to women they can get the so called "fling"! what they don't realize is that women are not just bodies!!!

take care!!!

Keshi said...

u may well be right Deepz..that could be the reason for his honesty. How sad.

Keshi.

fergal said...

>>Well ok, as a man, can u tell me what u think LOVE is?

keshi - wow, what a huuuge question!
reminds of that song by foreigner, "i want to know what love is" ;-D

no, seriously - i could write a thesis on this; and probably still not fully answer the question.

for now, let me just offer u a couple of analogies which i hope r useful. firstly, some things are much more easy to define - e.g. rock, wood, air, etc. ... ok, then let's move on to colours - well on first glance we may think we know what the colour white is, but in fact there r so many tones of white; and where do u draw the line between white or 'off-white' versus really, really light grey?? it's a matter of definition; shades of grey ...

well - one other metaphor which might help address my proposal about different people (& maybe different genders) having different ideas/definitions of love. let's think about the concept of a 'wave' - what is a wave? well, light travels in waves, sound travels in waves, our brain emit electrical signals in waves, etc., etc. ... but let's not even take things to that level; let's just focus for now on the concept of waves in water:

if u drop one small drop of water out of an eye-dropper from a height of just a few centimetres into a pool of water, you'll generate (small) waves in that pool. other waves are larger but still not large enough to move say a bucket full of sand. other waves are large enough for humans (or seals or dolphins) to surf. and then the tsunami that killed thousands of people in asia a couple of years ago - that was a wave too!

so all of the phenomena are waves - there is really no disputing this; they all fit our definition of a wave ... yet, despite having this in common, there are such incredible differences between the tiny waves caused by the drop of water versus the tsunami!

where am i going with this?!? well, maybe if we now substitute 'love' for 'wave' it might give us some perspective on the large range of emotions which we collectively group together under the umbrella term of 'love'?

what do all of those emotions (and those waves in the case of waves) have in common? the answer to this question might just help us think about uor own conceptions of love?

i don't know if that's any use at all keshi - maybe it has provided some food for thought? so - i didn't really directly answer your question did i?! but i kind of gave part of an answer! ;-D

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Keshi said...

What a RAD answer there mate! ty so much Fergal. I was spellbound.

My conclusion from that ans of ur's is that Love cannot be defined. It's unique to each and everyone.

TY!
Keshi.

alex said...

Try going through this link..it might give you a few thoughts.

http://philososphyofalex.blogspot.com/2006/08/love-part-1.html

fergal said...

you're very welcome keshi. i had that 'wave analogy' thought last night, then i wrote my answer after i read your post of today which touched me; i hope u r not quite so down now ... i u r, put on "don't cry" & "november rain" (& also "patience") & crank up the volume!!! ;-D

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Neers said...

oh my god!!! the jerk... you did good!


have been too tied up, with lotsa stuff... Kesh!

niki yokota said...

oh u are right!!
sooo brilliant, keshi-chan!!

Kumar Chetan said...

see the life,
it can take turns, v turn, u turn, w turn, zig zag, round turn, turn turn, phew, i still dont know if it was heart breaking, the guy was simply looking for a fling, u r not that kind of grl and refused, thats it, no heart breaking matter here, cool down and stay away from these kind of guys, look toward me, ooopppsss shameless self promotion :P
i was going to comment in the mor'g but the damn internet got slow for this post and i was rushing for office so cud not.

Anonymous said...

hahaha, well kesh wht can i say.. im not sure if im in "love" but i sure am in "like" (if thrs any such thing) lol..! ;-)
a non brain dead, non typically Y chromosome, testerone induced thought process was all i had asked for and i think i got that n more! jeeez, i sound so sappy.. man, i need to snap outta this.. how abt a round of male bashing?! u game?.. lol.. :-D

Anonymous said...

honestly he's such a jerk! nah not coz he wanted a last minute fling...that is such a guy thing (tho yeah sum women do these things too ... yes they do!)...but coz he actually thot he cld get away by termin it as luv...*sigh*...agreed that there wz a time when men used d "luv u" phrase to get a woman...but not anymore...!!!

having said that, m not sayin that m ok wid guys wanting a last min fling...or any fling while commited...no way!

pity the woman he's marrying (he is right?) doesn't know this...or maybe better she doesn't if she's goin thru with the marriage...God bless her!!

and kesh...not all men are like that...(most of them are but not all!)...and like i think i mentioned in ur post on "casual sex"...there are women thinkin like that too...and m not just sayin that as sum kind of consololation to d men arnd...i came across sumone like that so i know...

don't lose faith in men coz of an ass like him....so not worth it!! U can't give mr. jerk that much importance ok? that u'd go basing ur opinion on men on idiots like him...chuck that thot plz...!

more later...dinner time here and the kids r makin it too tough for me to write this out...too much distraction *sigh*...

tk care sweetie...*huggss* g'nite!

Anonymous said...

Ofcourse I want to stay :)
Why wud I want to leave a place where I am surrounded by goddesses... :) lol!!! :)

Anonymous said...

Men will be men always dear...They can never change....

Łóòň Ġãĺ said...

HAHAHAHAHAHAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA


i just read this post now and jesus!! 'I just want one last fling before I get married'.
i swear i hadnt read this before i wrote a comment on ur previous post! lollll loser .. sheesh!!!

Anonymous said...

gud that you got to know much before..wat if he had kept you in the dark and told you at the end that i just wanted to have a fling!

Keshi said...

Alex I'll check it out. TY!

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Fergal ty so much!

I put on 'Knocking on heavens door', 'Bohemian Rhapsody' and 'Nov rain' last night...it was nice. :)


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Neers yeah jerk indeed :) ty sweetie!


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awww Niki u too HUGGGGGGGGGZ!


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Kumar its heart-breaking cos that guy proved that alot of ppl cheat this way...it's so sad. Im not heart-broken cos I didnt get him - YUIKKKKKKZ no ways! But my heart broke for all the ppl who get cheated this way.

ty for being my friend. HUGGGGGGGGZ!

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Purnima being in 'LIKE' is a good start :)


**a non brain dead, non typically Y chromosome, testerone induced thought process was all i had asked for and i think i got that n more!

LOL okkkkk! U really make me crack up with those clever n funny words hahaha!


Male-bashing? Any time hun LOL!

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Ish I know...such a jerk ha...ty so much!


yeah there r women like that too..ofcourse...but I find it hard to believe that MOST women cheat this way...u know what I mean. It's always MOST men who do this kinda thing. MOST men think with their d##k. lol I just know. But ofcourse there r few good men out there too. Definitely!

Kids r disturbing u ha? awww...TC hun n ty so much. HUGGGGGGGGGGZ!


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lol KK ok then STAY :)


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JaanKi yeah...it's nature isnt it :)


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Cheesy he's the LOSER of all times. LOL!



Keshi.

Keshi said...

Forest thats so true. It would have been so hard then!


Keshi.

visithra said...

theres a silver lining in the worst situations - like forest said better now then later

hugzz gal

Keshi said...

true Visithra HUGGGGGGGGGZ!

Keshi.

Dawn....सेहर said...

Thank you so much dear for giving me that honor :)

huggggz to you and hey....you better get out of these negative clouds and cheer up
Smile always :)

Keshi said...

ty Dawn Im trying hard...HUGGGGGGGGGGGGZ!

Keshi.

jac said...

((((((hugs)))))

Keshi said...

Hugggggggz Jac!

Keshi.

LERA said...

Keshi, I seem to have missed out reading your previous posts, I would say ,Not all men are the same, I totally agree with you, however, there are some men who feel that there is absolutely nothing wrong with their thinking.It takes courage to be honest As humans we can’t help categorising them,The greatest thing you can ever do is to not let it get to you and be someone you are happy to be the way you are...:)

Keshi said...

**The greatest thing you can ever do is to not let it get to you and be someone you are happy to be the way you are

ty so much LERA huggggggggggggz!

Keshi.

cheesemeister said...

I think that guys like that are just straight up losers and "boys will be boys" is just a lame excuse. You're either committed to a person or not, and if you're not, don't lead them on! I would lose all respect for this louse!

Keshi said...

LOL Meister ur spot on!

**You're either committed to a person or not, and if you're not, don't lead them on

so true.

he's a JERK.


Keshi.

Anonymous said...

I read tht earlier post b4 coz i didnt get this one first..

falling in luv in one day is definitely weird n tht too after getting engaged n looking for a fling is definitely sick

i hope u kicked his ass real hard

Sush said...

awww.. he is an idiot. You did it right. I just dont have words to describe the disgusting feeling I have right now.. maybe my old feelings and fears have resurfaced for a couple of minutes. Good that you knew the actual picture.

nlocco said...

truth is that women are more emotionally attached to 'engaged' men.

Keshi said...

Sudeep I did LOL! I'll tell u all abt it soom :)

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Sush yeah he's a JERK. What a waste of time for his GF.


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WC nlocco!

**truth is that women are more emotionally attached to 'engaged' men.

huh is that true? LOL! Im not attached to him but let me read ur link. TY!


Keshi.

Cecilia said...

Glad you left that creep..how can he do that to his fiance?

Keshi said...

Cecilia heyy!

**Glad you left that creep..how can he do that to his fiance?

I didnt even have to leave him...he was a gone case anyways LOL!

yeah I dunno how he could do such a thing to his fiance. Shocking guy!


Keshi.