Wednesday, November 22

Handle With Care

We have been given the ability to think, say and do things in this life. So when we think, we give birth to thoughts. When we say, we give birth to words. When we do, we give birth to deeds. Thoughts, words and deeds make our lives and others' lives. What we think can lead to words and then actions. And those words and actions can either make or break a person. They can make someone else feel really loved or downright hurt. Yes, they all eventually lead to the feelings you give birth to in others. Isn't that amazing! So when you say or do something, you create feelings in another and those feelings can really stay in them for a very long time.The words and actions have such great power. I personally feel a slap is bearable than a very harsh word (I can hear alot of slaps landing on my cheek - face I mean haha!). Cos the feelings that come from the memory of a mean word will remain forever embedded in my head. But the pain that comes from a slap goes away the next day. I rememeber so many very harsh words few dear ones have yelled at me with, and when I think of them even today it hurts me. So powerful those little words are! I also remember a slap but it don't hurt anymore - not as much as those words do. So yeah, it's very important to choose and use your words (and actions) carefully. Cos how you make someone feel will always remain in them. When did you last say a mean word to someone? I can't remember. I think that's a good sign :) Have a happy day folks!

Current Music: Careless Whipser by Wham

110 Cranium Signets:

southpaw said...

I had been doing it since last 3 days...:( and screwed up everything.

Keshi said...

Hey Southy hows u?

I hope u dun mean abt our argument? LOL that isnt using harsh words. That was just a stupid argument. None of us used any mean words there? Atleast I dun think so :)

I mean those mean mean words...like B#tch and Sl#t hehe.

Keshi.

Anonymous said...

Hi Keshi

Having trouble posting. Been some day!

Coffins and all.

"It's only words and words are all I have" to kick your butt away.

lol

Bev

Keshi said...

G'day Bev!

ROFL @coffins! Mannn Im still laughing thinking of that pic hahahaha!


**"It's only words and words are all I have" to kick your butt away.

lol wut an original version of that great great song. I might use it in future :)


Keshi.

Kumar Chetan said...

some times u do talk sensibly, not about being urned on or off, :P
they say a physical wound may be healed in no time but the wound caused by words may never.
keep smiling baby

Keshi said...

haha Kumar ur so mean now!

**a physical wound may be healed in no time but the wound caused by words may never.

yep a mental wound dun go away that easily.


Keshi.

southpaw said...

No ways...i can completely loose it when i snap but not those words...

Keshi said...

I know Southy! If u used such words on me, d u think I'll talk to ya? :):)

Now gimme a big hug and lets just forget what happened yday ok? I'm so sorry for being a b#tch lol and will u forgive me too?

Keshi.

Anonymous said...

Some sentences doesnt have to have B*tch and Sl*t , for it to destroy you. It can be uttered in the sweetest tone, yet painful enough momentarily stop your heart from beating , your senses gets numb. it takes you sometime to process what was just being said to you- about the same time when you feel as if you just landed inside a dark hole.
Words keep you alive ..and it could also eat you alive.
:) Irony.

Anonymous said...

Hi Keshi

JUST A NOTE AND A PLUG:

AT 2:50 YOUR TIME AND 1050 HERE, 1050chum will be airing "Sweet Dreams" really great oldies--all love songs with Amber. 1Hr. 20min. from now.

How's that for a plug?

LOL

Bev

Keshi said...

Niv heyy!

Ur absolutely right! Those words dun have to be B#tch/Sl#t...it very well can be said using sweet words but in a very hurtful way...like sweet poison.

Once a very good friend told me this as a reply to my charity email for Tsunami victims: Keshi how d u imagine u have the right to collect money off from me for ur charity?


that was it. I never could think of her as a friend ever again. I just lost it for good. Not cos she didnt contribute to the charity but cos those very words spoke volumes abt what I meant to her as a friend. And it wasnt abt MY/HER charity, it was abt charity.


**Words keep you alive ..and it could also eat you alive.

Spot on!


tnxxx!
Keshi.

southpaw said...

Keep that word aside pls...Hugz. I m sorry, i really snapped like anything...

Keshi said...

Bev thats just awesome! Sweet dreams r made of this...lala lalala...that one? LOL!


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All's well that ends well Southy..HUGGGGGGGGGGGZ! :)

I have absolutely no grudges from what happened the other day...good friends need to be able to argue and still be friends. So yeah, I still love u the way I did ;-)


Keshi.

southpaw said...

Me too...:)

Anonymous said...

wow!!this is like a reconciliation in a movie scene ;)

very true,keshi,words are powerful than a snap or a scratch and really "be embroidered" in our hearts. :)

Good day to you Keshi!!

Rex Venom said...

Words are power. They are our Spells, with which we alter our world. They are the silver and the dark.
Rock on!

Keshi said...

Southy ty n huggggggggggz!

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It sure is ha Ghee :) How wonderful!

**be embroidered" in our hearts

they do leave eternal scars more than a slap does.

ty sweetie!

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heyya Rex!

**They are our Spells, with which we alter our world. They are the silver and the dark.

Indeedz! Well-said.



Keshi.

Anonymous said...

hey Kesh,
Amen to this!

and journeys with no destinations... liberating ain't they? :)

Cheers Mayt!

Anonymous said...

It is so coincidental! As i clicked to read ur blog, my media player was playing "Careless Whisper by George Michael"...

Using harsh worse at someone? I think nope. I'm not tat sort of gerl.. Normally, i'll keep everything to myself til i explode when it reaches my limit or when i break down totally... Even when i explode, i rarely use mean or harsh words... I know it is not healthy to do so, but it is really very difficult to find someone who understands you in & out...

Now as i am writing this comment, my media is playing "It's hard to say I'm Sorry by Chicago"... Sometimes.. It is so true... It is really hard to say we are sorry at times....

SamY said...

phew really complicated post ... making me think :(

** When did you last say a mean word to someone?

it must have been with mom ... but usually what I say to her or she says to me dun last in memory more than a day or two at max :D

otherwise its been a really really long time

** I think that's a good sign :)

true but on the flip side mabbe we'r not expression ourselves ;) for fear of hurting someone

hav a gr8 day nutty ... too many glum posts lately ... wassup kitten?

Blessed said...

Hello Miss Keshi!! Hugs to you!! I am alive. I have been so pre occupied but I had to stop by and send you a blog-hug.
I haven't forgotten you and will hopefully be able to comment more in depth on your wonderful writings this extended weekend.
and here's more hugs my dear!!!!
Love the song. I am a fan of Wham!/George Michael.

Cazzie!!! said...

Stix and stonews will break my bones but words can never hurt me...thats what we sued to say at school. But, as you say, it aint true, words to hurt. Only way to get away from it is to make yourSELF think positive thoughts..or to feel sorry for the person who is saying the bad things.

Keshi said...

Soj they sure r :) ty!


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Thumbelina heyy tnxx!

** I'm not tat sort of gerl..

Me too. I aint that kinda girl. I just cant say harsh words. And even if I want o get a point across, I try to be the kindest possible lol!

U seem to be listening to some great groups. I love Chicago!

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Samy heyy my better-nut hows u? :)

**true but on the flip side mabbe we'r not expression ourselves ;) for fear of hurting someone

well there r ways to express urself...to be honest with someone...and being mean is certianly not the way :)

u have a great day too Huggggggggz!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

OMG Blessed I missed ya! HUGGGGGGGGGGGGZ!

tnxx so much for droppin by. I hope I get to see more of u soon. TC sweetie!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

Caz ur an angel!

** is to make yourSELF think positive thoughts..or to feel sorry for the person who is saying the bad things.

Cos thats exactly what I do too and its the wisest thing to do!

Keshi.

southpaw said...

If this is the sort of hug u posted in one of the pic in ur earlier post, then be carefull something's tickling my back...lolz...

Keshi said...

HAHAHAHA Southy! ok na this aint that kinda hug...it's a face to face one...howzat?

Keshi.

southpaw said...

Ahem ahem...:D

Anonymous said...

hey, thanks for tagging:)

Yup totally agree, especially when it comes from loved ones. I remember them too!!!

Take care:)

Keshi said...

heyy Southy!

aichoooooooooooooo! :)


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BurgundyButterfly WC n tnxxx!

yup especially loved-ones.


Keshi.

Anonymous said...

Once again a post that got me Thinking...& maybe a chance of improving ...

I have said harsh words many a times..have made ppl cry...this hurts more than thinking about the harsh words I have heard...anger is the root cause of all the words I've spoken....

ohh & one of my fav songs there...careless whisper !!! :)

Keshi said...

Ektaran we all say harsh words sometimes...its human to do that. But it's strange how I have never used such words but often get such words used on me.

As long as u have realised the pain u have caused others, and then learn from that mistake, its ok sweetie.


Keshi.

lee said...

It would be good if more people remembered this, keshi. If people would THINK before they speak and hurt others. I said something mean to my Mother on saturday AFTER she was mean-but if there's a next time I might just say nothing and that way my conscience can be clear :).

azuka said...

Mean? I don't talk much so I daresay I haven't said a mean word in the past few years.

You're so right about feelings. Having had my feelings hurt before, I've never quite gotten the courage to do certain things -- like asking a girl out.

Keshi, what made you think I'm a girl?

Anonymous said...

Well said Keshi.

Our words are so powerful, and we sometimes forget that fact. I think we have all done it, and have it done to us.

PRADEEP K. said...

** "When did you last say a mean word to someone?"

If "life" can be considered a someone, and if "bitch" can be considered a mean word, I say it every day. :):)

How mean, ha?

But that's just stating the obvious, is it not?

Cheers!

Keshi said...

hello Lee!

**I said something mean to my Mother on saturday AFTER she was mean-but if there's a next time I might just say nothing and that way my conscience can be clear

yeah...it happens. We just have to make sure it dun happen again.

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Azuka heyy :) awww I though u were a girl cos of ur name I guess. Sorry!


** like asking a girl out.

hell I dun have the courage to do that too..I mean when I really like a guy, I just cant bring myself to go up to him n ask him out. I always wait till the guy does that. And now I realise guys like Azuka dun ask girls out that easily too LOL!

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AB yeah..words can do alot of things...so go for it with Megz ;-)


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Praddy heyy!

**If "life" can be considered a someone, and if "bitch" can be considered a mean word, I say it every day

yeah I say bitch too but to the face...and for fun. But in a fight, I never use such words even if it's the obvious. Do u?



Keshi.

Anonymous said...

The last that I remember is saying was some 7-8 months back to a person very close to me. I lost my temper completely. Thinking about it later, I felt I did a grave mistake but the person was generous enough to forgive me. I didnt have to plead or anything to make it up. But I realized my mistake. :)

Seema said...

Keshi - True…harsh words hurt more than a slap..n these words remain etched in memory if they come from those special people around us who mean a lot to us!

But u know something I always felt is that silence hurts the worst of all …thrash it n finish it off....it could be in the form of a slap or talkin it out..that way it out of the system!

Truly a wonderful introspective post, as always…keep writing !

Hey Careless Whispers is one of mah fav songs…always love hearing it...

Take Care, Seema

Jewel Rays said...

The last time i said a mean word to someone was probably last month..A friend who needed a piece of my mind! But we have reconciled..

:)

jac said...

Show me your other cheek. LOL


A wonderful song, 'careless whisper'
Love to hear what ever the time.

Anonymous said...

"Thoughts, words and deeds make our lives and others' lives."

But at times people cease to think and ebb with the crowd!

Keshi said...

So KK u've been a meanie ha? lol jusss kidding. I know it happens :)

Well ur lucky he/she forgave u. Cos some ppl get so hurt by words they never reconcile.

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Seema hey glad u like the song.

**....it could be in the form of a slap or talkin it out..that way it out of the system!

yeah true. Its always good to get it outta the system. But there r ways to do it and ways to get the msg across using better word. I know, easier said than done!

:)

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Amy heyy!

**A friend who needed a piece of my mind!

lol good on ya girl! I know...sometimes u just have to be unkind to get across some point. Espeically to those who never seem to get it :)

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Jac heyy!

**Show me your other cheek. LOL

lol now ur too much Jac!

glad u like the song :)

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Alex thats so very true, ty!



Keshi.

samuru999 said...

Hi Keshi
I am finally here!
It has not been the best day for me, but I am doing better now!
The last time I said a mean word
to someone was a long time ago...
no, that's a lie...
it was last night...
and it was to my hubby, but it was not that mean...and we have made up.
We always make up...never stay mad at each other!

Another wonderful post dear!
Sending lotsa HUGS!

Margie

PRADEEP K. said...

Indeed, you may very often find me in the midst of heated discussions, debates and refutations, provided they are constructive in nature. In such cases I attempt for an amicable solution, and I am aware that being rude to someone is NEVER a solution. So I try not to.

However, I admit that my undiplomatic approach at slapping hard facts at ones face has often been misconstrued as rudeness.

I have also been misunderstood as arrogant because of my unwillingness to adhere to any social dictum (be it an aphorism, a dogma, a tenet, a tradition, a custom...) without first questioning it until my understanding about it is clear.

Those are things that I simply cannot help.

Oh, if I continue like this, I will land up writing a new post right here... :):)

Cheers, gal!

neihal said...

I cant remeber either...thats good :))

J. Andrew Lockhart said...

Very interesting thoughts.

fergal said...

i must confess that if i tried i probably could recall saying a not-so-kind word to somebody ... i am not perfect! and u r right - these can hurt, over longer periods, than a slap.
thanx for pointing out that Ganesh is destroyer of obstacles - i like that! i have learnt a little bit about Kaali lately and she sounds interesting - so what else can u tell me about one Hindu deity or other? i'm very curious to learn more ...
~

Anonymous said...

Keshi,

*Me too. I aint that kinda girl. I just cant say harsh words. And even if I want o get a point across, I try to be the kindest possible lol!

Mean words can't come out from my mouth either.. If i dun like tat particular person, i will drop hints to tat person & not use mean words on him or her.. It juz doesn't seem nice at all.. :)

*U seem to be listening to some great groups. I love Chicago!

Yeah! I like to listen to Some Oldies Songs... They are juz simply so meaningful if we were to listen carefully to the words, not just the melody of the song... :)

Cheers!

Anonymous said...

Yes, Keshi.. you are right. Words are so much harsher than a slap. They are bound to leave a permanent scar on your heart.

I don't remember when was the last time I said something that wrng to anyone. :)

Verdant Images said...

Hi Keshi just came to know abt u and ur blog frm Sophia..... it ws love at first sight " I mean ur Blog " - anyways hope to be in touch...my BLOG is www.verdantimages.blogspot.com
bye and take care

Mumbai Guy said...

Last time - Yesterday. Then it was day before and before that too. Hmm...I think I do it everyday...So mean of me.

Cinderella said...

Mmmm...harsh words?
Dont seem to rem'br,means thats a good sign ..eh?

But you know I;m actually unable on snapping out on people...i mean ppl outside my family like frens,colleagues etc.
Many a times i get ridden over cz of this evn if the sting is well placed inside my heart i just seem to be unable to retaliate back !!!

I guess thats bad...it reall hurts me and I so wanna shout or snap back but I just cant.
Mebbe coz of the fact that I really cant see how people can be so bad with their compatriots !! I mean, that would show how illiterate and uncivilised you are.

Neway,then again maybe I'm just a weak soul..

You take care honey.

saby said...

sticks and stones may break my bones
but WORDS will never hurt me

and WORDS dont turn me on either

if u love me dont say I LOVE U SABY
show me love by your actions

words can be faked
i got fooled by words once

now i dont trust words no more

Anonymous said...

Its been quite a sometime I said! used to be short tempered but learnt over the time to be cool! I am indeed c-o-o-l!...:P

But if I mean something, I really mean it and its hard for me to take back!...:)

Autumn Storm said...

Reminds me of the top post at Decadent Tranquility. :-)
Another great post, Kesh, you surely do have such a wonderful talent for what you do here. I really like the way you worded that first part especially.
I'm kind of repeating what I said at DT now, but physical pain, as you have said here, is much easier forgotten that the pain that words can cause. Strange really, since a slap carries emotional pain too, but still words are the ones that stay. The good thing is it's true for all of us and thus the facts are available so to speak.

Happy Wednesday, Kesh, I still need to catch up a little here, will do soon, take care, x

Anonymous said...

hmm No .. not intentionally ..
I need to learn a lot in life to be mean ..
by theway u have stoped visiting my blog .. its missing you .. or leave ur Yahoo Messenger Id

Cherie! said...

You are good and I 'mean' it!

Anonymous said...

Why would you be okay with a slap too? Slap,em back girl!! I know ,you are saying if but harsh words or actions should not be tolerated at all by anyone.

Believe me, words can hurt.My MIL told me within the week of my marriage that I am brown and hoped my future kids wouldn't look like me! Until then I had always thought myself as good looking girl:D I got over that comment ofcourse and took abt 2 yrs to get over the shock!

Anyway, it is hard to ignore harsh words unless you are a tough cookie and can give it back as good as you get!If you are softie, GOD help you:)

Have a great weekend sweets:)

Nitika said...

someone has rightly said "always make your words soft and sweet you never know when you have to eat them back"

i get furious often but mean word i guess i haven't used coz most of the time when i'm yelling i just don't find any such word to through outlol temper raised so high brain just stop to work physically and emotinally cripled eheeee

how's u doing sweetie ?
Huzzzz

Shionge said...

Imagine me being so bubbly and positive but still used one very harsh word on one jerk....he deserved it really. Other than that I don't use harsh language at all.

Seattle_Smoke said...

Gentlest of snubs could cause the deepest of heartaches!

starbender said...

I hate harsh words! ...but U'rs are very beautiful!

: )

Meg said...

I really wish I couldn't remember the last time I said mean words to someone,,,,unfortunatley I am ashamed to admit it was very recently. I love your post, you sure have a way of making us all think inwardly.

T/C Keshi girl !

dreaming-neko said...

...the last time i was in traffic :)

Orikinla Osinachi. said...

Sweet Keshi,
I don't need a handle to care for anyone I care for.

Again, my paws have no claws.
My words come without flaws.
And I don't bite, because I am not jaws.

God bless.

Anonymous said...

Heh Careless Whispers is my Favorite too.....

Anonymous said...

Hi Keshi!
Words can healed
words can killed.
All the best to you!!

priPat said...

Words…they r the 1 which differentiated us humans from animals! Then y should v use those harsh terminology and try to prove the world that v r the 1 from those creatures! U got the power 4 expression, power to speak, power to understand so then v al should utilize this aspect, use this power to make a better place to live in!

But yes in life a point comes when u can’t just stop using those harsh words!! But the wound cause by those unkind words can hurt u deeper than any of the physical injury!

I do take care that power, the gift that god have given me I utilize in the most proper way! It is rare occasion that I have hurt some1 I guess!

Came across ur blog while blogg hopping!! Can control myself to comment! Nice post!!

Anonymous said...

I did today...said a lot of mean things to me :(((

Steph said...

IT's true that physical scars may heal, but the mental and emotional ones stay forever.
It's very hard to take words back.

Keshi said...

Margieeeeeee Hugggggggggz! awww hope all is ok now...take it easy babez.

**it was last night...
and it was to my hubby, but it was not that mean...and we have made up.

well as long as u 2 have made up! TC sweetie!

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PRADEEP hello!

heyy Praddy being honest with ur opinion is different to being rude and nasty. I mean u can be honest w.o. hurting the other person is a bad way. U know what I mean na?


**Oh, if I continue like this, I will land up writing a new post right here... :):)

lol tnxxx mate!

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Neihal WB!! Missed u alot.

**I cant remeber either...thats good :))

It sure is!

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Hey Andrew ty!


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Fergal hello!


**i must confess that if i tried i probably could recall saying a not-so-kind word to somebody ... i am not perfect!

hell yeah...no one's perfect!


**so what else can u tell me about one Hindu deity or other? i'm very curious to learn more ...

hehe though I dun have a very deep knowledge of all Hindu gods and it's history, I can tell u by asking my mum. She's good at it :) Im more knowledgable in Buddhism cos I studied Buddhism in school as a subject.

Im glad ur enjoying learning abt Hinduism and Buddhism.

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heyyy Thumbelina how r the Tulips going? :)


**It juz doesn't seem nice at all.. :)

true. I had a net enemy here in blogs. She/he used horrible words on me. twas painful to even read em. Cos that person used to clone my Id and leave abusive words in every other blog! Just imagine that??? Well this happened for more than 2yrs. And it seems that person has given up on his/her mean behavior now. But I cant imagine anyone having that many abusive words in his/her vocabulary. It was too disgusting to come from a human being.


*Yeah! I like to listen to Some Oldies Songs... They are juz simply so meaningful if we were to listen carefully to the words, not just the melody of the song...

so true. Old is gold, always! I listen to alot of old songs too :)

ty sweetie!

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Cuckoo hello!


**They are bound to leave a permanent scar on your heart.

Cuckoo dear d u know my heart is scarred beyond plastic surgery? :) It truly is. But not from slaps...from words alone.


**I don't remember when was the last time I said something that wrng to anyone. :)

thats such a great revelation! Good on ya :)

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Verdant_Images WC!


**it ws love at first sight " I mean ur Blog " -

hehe ty!

Ur WC here anytime.

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Mumbai_Guy hello!


**Last time - Yesterday. Then it was day before and before that too. Hmm...I think I do it everyday...So mean of me.

hmmmmmmm......:) Would u ever be mean to me too then?

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Cinderella heyyy!


**Dont seem to rem'br,means thats a good sign ..eh?

A very good sign girl :)


**Many a times i get ridden over cz of this evn if the sting is well placed inside my heart i just seem to be unable to retaliate back !!!

guess wut sweetie...I can be like that too...and then I cry cos of my pathetic nature LOL!


**I mean, that would show how illiterate and uncivilised you are.

true!


**Neway,then again maybe I'm just a weak soul..

I say im a weak soul too when it comes to telling ppl off in a strong way...but Im working on it baby ;-) We can learn to tell ppl off in a decent way.

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Saby heyy!


**sticks and stones may break my bones
but WORDS will never hurt me

yeah I used to think like that too.


**and WORDS dont turn me on either

hell they turn me on lol!


**if u love me dont say I LOVE U SABY
show me love by your actions

Ok I'll write up a board saying SABY I LOVE U...and hold it across my chest so u can SEE it...lolz!


**words can be faked
i got fooled by words once
now i dont trust words no more

so should I trust wjat ur saying write now? Cos they r just words too...hehe :)

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Contented heyyy!


**I am indeed c-o-o-l!...:P

aww I know ur super cool :)


**But if I mean something, I really mean it and its hard for me to take back!...:)

me too! I mean what I say and I can b pretty honest and straightforward abt it.


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Autumn babez hows u?


**Reminds me of the top post at Decadent Tranquility. :-)

which one?


**Strange really, since a slap carries emotional pain too, but still words are the ones that stay.

yeah isnt it! I mean when someone slaps ya u still feel very hurt but the words hurt more. I guess cos words uttered in anger tell us how exactly that person feels abt us...whereas a slap doesnt say much detail.

Happy Wednesday to u too girl HUGGGGGGGGGGGZ!

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Hazel heyyy!

**hmm No .. not intentionally ..
I need to learn a lot in life to be mean ..

dun learn to be mean...learn to be honest in a decent manner.


**by theway u have stoped visiting my blog .. its missing you .. or leave ur Yahoo Messenger Id

hell na I havent stopped visiting ur blog! Ur blog is nowhere! Even the link u gave me doesnt work. It says no such blog?????!!! Could u tell me how to get there sir?

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Cherie hello n tnxxxx so much :) But I aint a goody goody person all the time. I can be pretty hot-temepered too hehe.

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Asha hello sweetie!


**Why would you be okay with a slap too? Slap,em back girl!!

Few years ago, when I was slapped in the face, I didnt do anything but sob like a baby. But I really dunno what I'll do now if Im slapped. Mebbe I'd kick lol!


**I know ,you are saying if but harsh words or actions should not be tolerated at all by anyone.

true. for me it's not so much that I tolerate em...I just dun wanna go down to that level...so I walk away and may not talk to that person ever again..yeah I can be pretty strict abt that.


**My MIL told me within the week of my marriage that I am brown and hoped my future kids wouldn't look like me! Until then I had always thought myself as good looking girl:D I got over that comment ofcourse and took abt 2 yrs to get over the shock!

WHATTTTTT! She told u that? Well she sounds like a horrible mean old woman with alot of aged ideas. Well to hell with her sweetie LOL! Just cos she told u that, U R NOT THAT!


**Anyway, it is hard to ignore harsh words unless you are a tough cookie and can give it back as good as you get!If you are softie, GOD help you:)

U dun have to give it back in their style. Be urself and give it back tight by not accepting what they say.

Huggggggggggz! To me U R BEAUTIFUL both in n out, and ur MIL's personality suxxx big time girl! :)

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Nitika WB I missed ya!


**someone has rightly said "always make your words soft and sweet you never know when you have to eat them back"

so true!


**temper raised so high brain just stop to work physically and emotinally cripled eheeee

true...hehehe.


**how's u doing sweetie ?

Im pretty good n urself dear?

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Shionge heyyy!


**Imagine me being so bubbly and positive but still used one very harsh word on one jerk....he deserved it really.

well if he deserved it, why not :)

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Seattle_Smoke heyyy!


**Gentlest of snubs could cause the deepest of heartaches!

so damn true!

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Starbender heyy!


**I hate harsh words! ...but U'rs are very beautiful!

me too. And hey tnxxxxx!

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Meg huggggggggggggz!


**I really wish I couldn't remember the last time I said mean words to someone,,,,unfortunatley I am ashamed to admit it was very recently.

Admitting it is a big step ahead.


**I love your post, you sure have a way of making us all think inwardly.

ty Meggzy! :)


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Dreaming-neko helloooo! :):)


**...the last time i was in traffic :)

haha I know wut u mean. U know I can be a real jerkess in traffic LOL! Once I lost it real bad with a loser who was trying to change lanes but was looking like he badly needed an accident. I showed him my middle finger while saying F*** OFF as I passed him and my mum nearly fainted. She told me that I better behave when Im driving or she'll never get in my car again.

But then again he wasnt one of my loved-ones and he deserved it LOL!

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Ori heyyyyyyyy!


**I don't need a handle to care for anyone I care for.

true :)


**Again, my paws have no claws.
My words come without flaws.
And I don't bite, because I am not jaws.

haha! ty Ori :)

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Jaanki heyy!

**Heh Careless Whispers is my Favorite too.....

goodo! :)

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Krystyna hello!


**Words can healed
words can killed.

so true. Words can either make or break a person.

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PriPat WC!

**Words…they r the 1 which differentiated us humans from animals!

aha...well-said.


**U got the power 4 expression, power to speak, power to understand so then v al should utilize this aspect, use this power to make a better place to live in!

Spot on!


**It is rare occasion that I have hurt some1 I guess!

thats good to know.


**Came across ur blog while blogg hopping!! Can control myself to comment! Nice post!!

ty :)

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LaVida hello sweetie!


**I did today...said a lot of mean things to me :(((

to urself? WHY? awwwwwww....

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Steph hello!


**IT's true that physical scars may heal, but the mental and emotional ones stay forever.
It's very hard to take words back.

yup...once uttered, they are uttered.
:)

ty sweetie!



Keshi.

samuru999 said...

Yes Keshi all is perfect now
with me and my sweetie!

I have to go cook some pies for our big Thanksgiving feast tomorrow!
I love Thanksgiving!
Wish you could join us dear!

Cu later!
lotsa huggggz!

Margie

The Phoenix said...

I yelled at some old guy in a car today, but he almost ran other people off the road two times. He was a nut.

Anonymous said...

i try and avoid mean words to hurt someone!! usually i silence off till i implode!! and then its all fine!! ;-))

desperado said...

thts my problem tht i get into arguments too easily...kind short fuse ;)...but i think i refrain frm d man words....now i hope i do

as for d band train....yeah give dem a try esp song calling all angles u might like dem..

uttara said...

too many hugging session happening b.w u n raj....
forgot me???
sob sob...

sneaking b.w u 2..lollzz

now ya words can be too hurting than words..
so think twice before u say anything

Keshi said...

Email me some pies Margie :) hugggggggz!

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LOL Phoenix fair enough then!


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hehe ur like me Deepz :)


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Desperado good on ya!

ok I'll check em out ty :)]

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Uttsy ur the best example of someone who NEVER hurts another with words. U r truly very gentle and compassionate. HUGGGGGGGGGGZ!

Im hugging Raj alot taking this opp lol!


Keshi.

Anonymous said...

**heyyy Thumbelina how r the Tulips going? :)

Wat do u mean? i dun understand... ^o^

**It was too disgusting to come from a human being.

HaHa.. Nice one... Never heard a pharse like these from anyone before..

Ghost Particle said...

i say it all the time on the way to work, but not face to face. Somethings cant be handled with care, somethings should just be let go.

uttara said...

a ha...
u mean to say am a sexy god or something?? lol
na at times am too harsh with ppl cos am quite straight... n i do hurt ppl..

i repent n then patch up... :)

to tell u the fact am quite a short tempered person .. now dont fall off ur chair.. i'm

southpaw said...

Im hugging Raj alot taking this opp lol!***She fell down from the stairs reading an erotic msg from me...ha ha ha ha ha...and now she wants to squeeze in between...lolz

Sujit said...

hey.. you are on a roll.. with every post a day?.. cool!.. yup words, deeds, and thoughts make us up!.. and words are the most harsh thing!.. but sometime words can have various effects! and it depends on whom and how and when.. you use the same words!.. I used assumed word!.. thats it to end up a relation!.. crazy words are!.. and how they mean it!..nice post :)

SaffronSaris said...

Yup, usually, I stick to the policy that if I have nothing nice or decent to say in response, I just shut up. Better you think I'm an idiot without any views that I voice out loud that you're an idiot and I think what you say is just plain crap.
Ha ha, it's ok to be a little dumb girl once in a while (especially in front of guys whose ego is waaaayyyyy larger than uhm, gas?). :)

Anonymous said...

Come close my dear angel, I've got a few sweet nothings to whisper into your ear. :-D

Anonymous said...

yes...i did....but i didn't curse at them...just misunderstanding

PrAcHi said...

“They might forget what you said
But they will never forget how you made them feel”

So nice .. very simple but has conveyed the message!

When did you last say a mean word to someone? I can't remember.


I do remember :’(...

Careless Whipser..
I just LOVE this song :)

Virus© said...

I'll note this one. I'll have to.
Will try to minimize those not-to-be-said words.


Your pics cool. You got that amazing gothic look. :)


Cheers.

saby said...

Happy Thanksgiving day Margie!
i gott a turkey on my site IMNUTSINCAPS



all u guys are welcome too
dis turkey is female and has an uncanny resemblance to Karen

Nikita said...

Keshi,

Words - They can build us up, take us down, disappoint, make us happy, hurt, sad or wonder, and too scare us --- in short, words are powerful. I’ve said before though I can’t quote the exact lines but in essence it says – ‘Be wary of what comes out of the mouth as it would always spring from the heart. The content of the heart determines the genuine quality of words spoken.’

We must be careful about we speak. It may mean the world to someone.

Here's a golden thought from Lord Byron.....

“But words are things, and a small drop of ink,
Falling, like dew, upon a thought, produces
That which makes thousands, perhaps millions, think.”

Shikha said...

hiiii keshiiii

milo said...

words without meaning, lead to a meaningless life...
so words are not evrything, one must learn to read btw the lines too.

Parag said...

What differentiates us from other animals is that we can feel..and think..
How we use it is upto us..
We could say things that could make others smile or say things that could hurt someone..
Harsh words are like a crack in a tea cup.. you can fix it but the crack remains..
I usually am a soft person.. but do lose my cool once in a while.. last time I said something harsh ??
Well last week..

Blessed said...

Ever heard the saying "sticks and stones may break my bones but names will never hurt me"? Well, as a child I heard that little saying so many times. Now as I look back, I feel that little saying is so false. Names do hurt me. Names do hurt others and they can stay with you for along time. Yes, a slap or a hit or a broken bone can heal but mean words,name calling can cut deeper than any knife. I have so many wounds from ugly words and it's wild how when I hear ugly words now, it is tho the wounds re-open.
I have to say that I have been guilty of saying bad things and hurting others. I usually have said bad ugly things in retaliation from ugly words, deeds, anger!! I know how to cut to the very core to hurt someone deeply becuz I have learned from my own wounds. Ugliness breeds ugliness. I know I need to rise above. Take the high road. But as we all know anger is a very ugly, powerful, wasteful thing. So here's a quote about anger that I try to remember (i have this little quote on a sticky note in my monthly planner as a little reminder)
"Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else, you are the one getting burned"--Buddha
How true that is!!! Only anger blinds us and most of the time we cannot think clearly.
Blessings!!!

Anonymous said...

http://greypassion.blogspot.com/ or you can go to shitrint page and try to conect through the link ..

Within Without said...

No mean or unkind words need be said, only the truth. And truth sometimes hurts...

ann said...

Saying bad things to or about someone is a big no no in my religion... words can damage you, break reputations, stick like mud. I always say speaking is like driving.... you know the mirror, signal, manoeuvre thingy... well, stop, think, speak.

lotsa luv ann xxxxx

Anonymous said...

when the mind is psyched up...we never think wat we speak!!
but by the time we realize wat we have just spoken..we would have screwed up everything!!!

Anonymous said...

I can remember when I was mean to someone. Am making up for it :-/

Keshi said...

hey Thumbelina!

**Wat do u mean? i dun understand... ^o^

hehe didnt Thumbelina come from a Tulip flower? :)


**HaHa.. Nice one... Never heard a pharse like these from anyone before..

LOL! U should have read his/her words. Utterly sad lolz!

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Ghosty heyyy!

**i say it all the time on the way to work, but not face to face. Somethings cant be handled with care, somethings should just be let go.

yep spot on!

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Uttsy heyy hugggggggz!


**u mean to say am a sexy god or something??

Sexy goddess indeed! Lets call ya sexy sultry mermaid in lustville lolz!


**na at times am too harsh with ppl cos am quite straight... n i do hurt ppl..

Being straight is different from being rude. I can be quite rude.


**i repent n then patch up... :)

yeah me too lol!


**to tell u the fact am quite a short tempered person .. now dont fall off ur chair.. i'm

ur sooo not. U have alot of pateince Uttsy. Atleast more than me!

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Southy heyyy!

**She fell down from the stairs reading an erotic msg from me...ha ha ha ha ha...and now she wants to squeeze in between...lolz

LOL really? wuts all this ha? :):)

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Sujit hello!


**hey.. you are on a roll.. with every post a day?.. cool!..

na I didnt post yday :)


**crazy words are!.. and how they mean it!..

yeah...and the tone in which u speak matters too. It's not only the words :)

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Saffy heyyy!


**Yup, usually, I stick to the policy that if I have nothing nice or decent to say in response, I just shut up.

Way to be girl.


**it's ok to be a little dumb girl once in a while (especially in front of guys whose ego is waaaayyyyy larger than uhm, gas?). :)

LOL ur right. hahaha!

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Trée hello my mystery man ;-)


**Come close my dear angel, I've got a few sweet nothings to
whisper into your ear. :-D

Coming straight away!

BRB guys...LOL!

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Dalicia heyyy!

**yes...i did....but i didn't curse at them...just misunderstanding

that happens all the time. Cursing is not my style either :)

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PrAcHi hello!


**When did you last say a mean word to someone? I can't remember.
I do remember :’(...

aww its ok...as long as u have said sorry and u have learnt something from the experience.


**Careless Whipser..
I just LOVE this song :)

yeah me too :)

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heyyy ViRuS©!


**I'll note this one. I'll have to.
Will try to minimize those not-to-be-said words.

hehehe ok.


**Your pics cool. You got that amazing gothic look. :)

really? gee tnxx! I'm told having a Gothic look is sexy but I really dun think so lol! Im scared of goths.

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Saby baby heyyy!


**all u guys are welcome too
dis turkey is female and has an uncanny resemblance to Karen

lol who's Karen?

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heyyy Nikita!


**in short, words are powerful.

they sure r. They r the greatest weapon.


** The content of the heart determines the genuine quality of words spoken.’

Spot on!


**We must be careful about we speak. It may mean the world to someone.

So damn true.


**Here's a golden thought from Lord Byron.....
“But words are things, and a small drop of ink,
Falling, like dew, upon a thought, produces
That which makes thousands, perhaps millions, think.”

omg so beautiful! ty Niki!


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Shikha OMG WB! Where have u been? I missed ya...


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Milo heyy long time!


**words without meaning, lead to a meaningless life...
so words are not evrything, one must learn to read btw the lines too.

so true, ty!

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Parag hows u?


**What differentiates us from other animals is that we can feel..and think..

aha...


**Harsh words are like a crack in a tea cup.. you can fix it but the crack remains..

so true! And I think that harsh words can be like a drop of ink in a glass of milk. Once it's messed with the color of the milk, it's messed for good.


**I usually am a soft person.. but do lose my cool once in a while.. last time I said something harsh ??
Well last week..

awww :) Have u said sorry?

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heyya Blessed!


**Ever heard the saying "sticks and stones may break my bones but names will never hurt me"?

yup but I so believe in the opp of it :)


**Names do hurt me. Names do hurt others and they can stay with you for along time.

so true girl.


**I have so many wounds from ugly words and it's wild how when I hear ugly words now, it is tho the wounds re-open.

yes!


**I have to say that I have been guilty of saying bad things and hurting others. I usually have said bad ugly things in retaliation from ugly words, deeds, anger!!

It happens from being hurt. U just feel like saying something bad just to get back at em. But often there lies the mistake. We should not be them to get back at em. We should be different. That'll make em realise something. But I know it takes many mistakes to arrive at it. Im thinking this way today cos I have been there and done that too - many times and now Im different.


**I know how to cut to the very core to hurt someone deeply becuz I have learned from my own wounds.

Exactly how I feel!


**Ugliness breeds ugliness. I know I need to rise above. Take the high road.

OMG this is exactly wut I was saying above.


**"Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else, you are the one getting burned"--Buddha

WOW Im impressed Blessed. Cos I have the same quote on my desktop. Well-done babez ur a very smart and sensible lady!

Hugggggggggz!

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Hazel heyyy!


**http://greypassion.blogspot.com/

that dun work :(


**or you can go to shitrint page and try to conect through the link ..

yeah I'll try that...tnxx alot!


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Within_Without hello!


**No mean or unkind words need be said, only the truth. And truth sometimes hurts...

Truth doesnt have to be said using unkind words WW, does it?

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Ann heyyy!


**Saying bad things to or about someone is a big no no in my religion...

thats a great pinciple.


**words can damage you, break reputations, stick like mud. I always say speaking is like driving.... you know the mirror, signal, manoeuvre thingy... well, stop, think, speak.

wow nice one!

ty for that HUGGGGGGGGGGZ!

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White_Forest heyyy!


**when the mind is psyched up...we never think wat we speak!!

so true.


**but by the time we realize wat we have just spoken..we would have screwed up everything!!!

yup...and that can be pretty costly!

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Sanjay hello!


**I can remember when I was mean to someone. Am making up for it :-/

awww...hope all goes well Sanjay!



Keshi.

southpaw said...

ha ha ha...u know na how heavily i flirt with her...:D and it was one such msg which she was reading while getting down the stair and tripped...lolz

Within Without said...

No, Keshi, truth doesn't have to be told in an unkind way, but sometimes people withhold the truth and it only comes out in an argument, which is human nature.

And some people, upon being told a truth that hurts them, can take it as being unkind when it wasn't meant to be...it was just the truth.

Keshi said...

R ya serious Southy? LOL!


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I understand WW. I so know what u mean. It always happens.

ty!



Keshi.

Homo Escapeons said...

I have a rule that I try to adhere to...NEVER say anything cruel just for the sake of hurting someone...because then you open a door that cannot be closed. People can ask for forgiveness but it doesn't mean that the other person will forget it..and 9 times out of 10 they will NEVER forget what you said...so it isn't worth it.
If you want that Karmic Boomerang to come back and whack you in the head then go ahead throw it!
Take the road less travelled, the high road and you will never EVER regret it.
Next time you feel like cutting loose just STOP.Think about the long term effects..versus your short term pleasure at hurting them...unless of course they are a complete asshole that you will never see again! No you know what it will eventually catch up to you.
I have things that I said 30 years ago that I wish that I could take back..little dumb things...hopefully I won't make that mistake again.
When you have kids you realise that things that your parents say can last a lifetime...even if they were kidding..so I always stop before I say things to my kids because I remember how long I have held on to things that were said to me...it isn't worth it because the rest of the world is going to try to knock you..the least that we can do is be supportive (not wishy washy) and try to edify our family and friends...except when they are being really stupid!

southpaw said...

Absolutely...lol
rem i always say she is very careless while walking, if u r walking with her u gotta keep an eye on her and pull her back everytime she looses her track....lol

Keshi said...

HE ur spot on! as always :)

**Think about the long term effects..versus your short term pleasure at hurting them...

thats so true. 5secs of pleasure for u can mean a lifetime of hurt for someone else and later on for u too..


**unless of course they are a complete asshole that you will never see again!

lol I so know what u mean.


yes I hold on to few words uttered by my loved-ones...and I wish I could forget em...but my memory dun seem to let go of em...

so yeah...watch what u say...always.

ty HE!

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Southy heyyy!

LOL ok then I better drive Uttsy ard...not walk with her :)




Keshi.

Priyanka Mahanta said...

Yes u r right Keshi. But I guess some people just ask for it and I'm more than happy to comply...hee,hee!! But I'm generally nice and sweet if people doesnt mess around with me....

Keshi said...

thats the way to go Priyanka!


Keshi.

cheesemeister said...

Concerning patient care I have always been able to handle someone who tries to hit me or who spouts generic insults better than a psychologically abusive person who knows that what they're saying hurts and does it deliberately. I can't deal with those kinds of patients.

Keshi said...

** a psychologically abusive person who knows that what they're saying hurts and does it deliberately

Meister I know such ppl. They r the sickest and the most should-be-avoided kind.


Keshi.