Wednesday, April 12

The Lone Traveller

There's nothing more liberating than being self sufficient. Nothing more peaceful than being comfortable with who you are. Nothing more therapeutic than being unbound by bonds. Nothing more tranquil than being alone and yet feeling like the whole world is with you. The only way you can achieve that peace is by being true to yourself and by portraying that true self to the world. By making it clear to yourself that you are not going to fear losing...fear loneliness...fear being rejected and forgotten. Fear of losing good friends, fear of making enemies, fear for safety and fear of tears...all of this may prevent you from being who you are, the real you. So you may wear a mask to 'socialise', to be 'accepted', not to be 'alone'. When you come back home, take off your mask and ask yourself if you're happy. If you are, you may continue doing the show for the rest of your life...but if you're not happy, then throw the mask away and you may find the direction to happiness. Lonely you may end up as, but peace may be your new companion.

I mostly go out with my mum, sis or friends...be it to the movies, visiting, beach, shopping etc. I do go alone to the shops sometimes but that's when I need peace for myself to choose what I want. Did I say 'peace'? Yes, it's very peaceful when I go shopping by myself...this is not to say that my mum/sis/friend is a pain in the booty lol, but I have to admit that I don't appreciate too much clutter or too much info that confuses me when I have to buy something, be it a gift or something for the house. When too many people's input is received by my delicate brain, I get so stressed out and end up buying something I wouldnt even dream of selling! hehehe point is...when I'm alone I have peace. The peace to evaluate my options and choose carefully when I make decisions be it big or small. Another thing I do by myself is going for my daily fitness walks. That's another truly peaceful time I really enjoy. As I pass the many houses, trees, people, flowers and as I tread on little paths all alone, I feel an immense serenity wrapping me up. The absense of chatter is sweet music to my ears...the sound of birds, trees and some sweet kids' voices down the road is all I hear and that's just very rewarding. I sometimes drive alone and that's the time I drive my best...no one chatting in the car, no one to lower my music volume :) and no one telling me what to do that may distract me. I know that it's hard to survive without the people you love and ofcourse you need their input every now and then, but there may be times when you feel that being alone could make things alot more clearer to you even though you may be compelled to listen to others - at those times, take a trip alone and see how you feel. It's important to know that it's not a bad thing to be alone and it has it's advantages too. Being alone can be the only time to make peace with yourself and realise who you really are...and the only time you could do something without feeling too obliged just so that you look polite to the rest of the world. Loneliness can teach you many things. It can bring out the best in you and make you stronger. It can make you realise that even if all your loved-ones left you, you will still survive. No it's not about being selfish, it's about giving yourself some love, time and peace that you deserve so much and it's the only time you can take a good look at your soul in the mirror. A lone traveller marches ahead with less baggage....

137 Cranium Signets:

uttara said...

yepieeeeeee
mes firstttttttt "hopefully"

hugzzzzzzzzz keshi tight

lemme dig into the post :p

Tanvi said...

yea..i just like bein alone sometimes..does u a lot of good..especially since im tryin to take a break lol..wen therez so much stuff goin i just prefer bein alone on weekends n not make ne plans wit my frnds..yep yep sometimes itz better to jsut be by urself

Dawn....सेहर said...

Yes Keshi...very much true! Specially when u hv certain dreams that needs to be fulfilled ...and no one wants to take that risk...it always good to do by urself..i did it ...and today I feel so proud...for being where I am :)

Nice one!
hugggzzz pal
Cheers

southpaw said...

***A lone traveller marches ahead with less baggage....***So very true.

***So you may wear a mask to 'socialise', to be 'accepted', not to be 'alone'.***Pls tell me where that mask is available coz my social life sucks...lol

***Loneliness can teach you many things. It can bring out the best in you and make you stronger. It can make you realise that even if all your loved-ones left you, you will still survive.***It also brings a lot of bad habits...:)

Apy said...

I have felt this a lot of times... 2 years back when i joined this company in bangalore, i didn kno anyone there.. was away from family and frnz..n life was miserable... af a while... started enjoyin my own company...All i needed was my bike.. saw a lot of movies alone n loved it as i dont like to b disturbed while watchin a movie..:P
then made frnz gradually but still loved to be by myself...
same situation occured when i came to japan... but af a few days i jus chilled out...
moral..same as urs... u are at peace only if u r happy with urself

so me and myself still talk a lot..(Shut up apy..) :D

lil _kath said...

...yeah sometimes we ned to be alone,to find ourselves,to think, to realize something and to become better.
...but after that you will feel alone again, that you know you need someone to lean on,someone to be at your side..even with no words at all..just letting you feel that someone is there,looking at you,hearing even the heartbeat you make every second,just smiling there and holding your hands...
...get back in-love kesh ^_^ so everything would be full of roses for you hehe..just kiddin' *grin*
i know you're happy with your family and friends around you but you need someone special *wink* to be with you...this time!
.. yeah,it comes naturally ,i know someone will knock on your door in no time,so you don't have to search for it,be ready !hehe..goodluck girl!wishing you always the best..coz you deserve it!muaahh!
luv ya here^_~

hugss,
-kathy-

saby said...

the tings i like to do by myself sumtimes:

take a pee or more sold stuff

make love to my self (no performance anxiety)

get drunk

pray

watch a peep show

watch old elvis movies

look at pics of my childhood girl friends and Pithaly (he sure was pretty then)

saby said...

i wanted to add being alone wid TANVI on a no electricity day

i need a new list

www.websitesolutions.cc said...

When you do something yourself then you find out how successful you can become.

Sue

saby said...

Being Alone
Without Being Lonely

by Susan Kramer
http://www.seekermagazine.com/v0300/susan.html

uttara said...

keshi i agree with wateva u said ...
but u know wat me too love to be alone n walk like a zombie at times...

good one babes

enlighting as always

huggzzzzz

southpaw said...

@uttara
but u know wat me too love to be alone n walk like a zombie at times...**** At times or always...:)

Outdoorsy Girl said...

Very enlightning and true. You don't really know yourself if you don't spend some quality time with yourself. It's very theraputic sometimes!

uttara said...

loll at time ..:)

but i need ppl ard me ;)
so am a combination of being loner n being wid crowd.. its depends on situation to situation ...
while shopping ummm ... i like to be alone ..:D lolll but not anymore cos u gona join me na ;)...loll

yes i do get peace wen am alone ...:)

Trée said...

Keshi, this might just be my new fave Keshi post. I'm just going to bask in this one for awhile longer if you don't mind. :-)

The Phoenix said...

Sometimes, you just have to be alone in order to de-clutter yourself. Friends are wonderful, but some of them can literally sap your energy.

Being alone gives you the opportunity to re-energize yourself.

SamY said...

so ur someone who likes to have some space :) ... ryu a piscean by any chance :-?

as for the lone traveller ... its nice only on relatively short journeys ... the longer you take a journey alone the more it hits you

I *hate* silence ... at least I need the sound of the wind and dried leaves rustling if not the hubub of the city ... plenty of white noise is a much for me :D

Ekta said...

*There's nothing more liberating than being self sufficient*

Dunno why but sometimes feel that only a women can really understand this statement as its meant to be!...We all need our space sometime or the other and sometimes maybe we need to get away from it all!

Ghost Particle said...

in a sense, everyone is a love traveller at some point in their lives. If you are lucky enough to have family and friends till you die, then you gather alot of memories and you are happy. If you are alone for long periods of you're life, then you gather new friends, memories devoid of your family.

And I think people should embark on the journey once a while to experience something new, to change something or create something. Step out of your self, and break out.

And also, I agree with what you said, we should always be ourselves, in our basic characters. What we do everyday should well be different. Thats life.

Wanderer said...

It happens when you need to be in someone's company and u cant afford to be alone at times
While at other moments u just want to be alone! without anyone interfering ur moments!
It may be that u want urself to be engulfed into sadness
Or it may be that u want to share ur happiness only with urself!

It is usually that wateva we do, its us who have to face the consequences not the world.
However if we achieve something its the world who will praise u , but neverthless u did something only for urself

On the contrary if u dont achieve something the world will look down upon u, it being a selfish place to live in.

Yup, loneliness does make u stronger as u learn to be independent!

And usually its better to work alone, neverthless it might imply bad habits, that totally depends on a person!

But most of the times we do need a shoulder to place our chin onto, to cry to laugh and to share our experiences!
that is when u get to know about "FRIENDS" and "LOVERS"

Die Muräne said...

I also need a lot of time on my own. To feel myself and think about. Let it flow.
But there are other times, when I need someone around. And then I can take a good look at my soul reflected in the eyes of someone close. Lets me grow.

Jim said...

if u cant stand your own company
u must be lousy as a companion

Jim said...

we came into dis world alone
and when u go
u go alone



death will be a terrifying prospect
for those who feel lonely being alone

AnnaBlack said...

I can really associate with this.

Jim said...

,the last journey, it will have to be alone,




A voyage into the unknown

Jim said...

the first time i was given general anaesthesia (for a kidney stone operation) it was terrifying ...

the mask was placed on my face and i was asked by the nurse to breathe in real deep, i did ... i felt myself slipping into oblivion, i was terrified, i fought it real hard ... i cud hear the surgeons cussing the anaesthesist, they were all armed wid knives waiting to cut me open, bit i was not going into unconsciousness ..... the christian nurse sensed wat was happening, she told me saby put yr hands in the hands of jesus, keep on saying jesus, jesus, jesus ... i did, i let go........ and the anaesthesia took effect


when i came to after the opeartion i was overjoyed, i went on babling and babbling said some nasty tings to my pal TEJAS who had recommended the operation, confessed all my sins for all to hear in the most colorful lang, the women folk cringed, i didnt give a damn, i was alive and soo happy to be alive

Jim said...

the next time i faced dis situation, it was a piece of cake

the difference was i did not want to live

i didnt need an anaesthesist
i was the surgeon too



but Jesus saved me
from sure death

now, i am born again
HALLELUIAH !

Michelle said...

one thing im really grateful bout is tht the ppl i really care bout,accept me for who i am,i don hafta b someone else in order to gain acceptance...they want me and like me for who i am...as far as bein alone goes...i dunno mebbe sometimes it does feel good to b jus by urself...cuz thr r certain things r u knw tht only u can do it...even if u got frnds tht r alwez thr for u,thr r somethinz tht r upto u.

Contented said...

Keshi! Very well said about loneliness. I would define it (if I may so) as "Solitude".

I wouldnt have said better than Paul Johannes who says "Language... has created the word "loneliness" to express the pain of being alone. And it has created the word "solitude" to express the glory of being alone. "
~(From The Eternal Now)

I believe one shoule bear to be alone. If we can't that means we don't value properly the companion we have from birth to death....ourselves.

Jeevan said...

Totally agree with you. Loneliness helps us to realize whom are we, and it helps us what is real and what is lie inside us. Go to beach and sit alone and feel the loneliness, No chance to describe with worlds, a beautiful peace. I am unlucky. Can’t do any thing alone, can’t go any were alone, (please don’t ask why?) life is waste with out lone.

PRADEEP K. said...

You leave me speechless, dear Keshi, and speechless in a very special way.

I am not speechless because I do not know what to say, but because I know that what I say would not matter. Anything I say in response to this post, becomes meaningless in contrast to it.

Sometimes when I come to your blog and read your post, I get surprised. I ask myself, "Did I write my post in Keshi's blog by mistake?"

At other times, your post makes me think long and hard. Can there ever be a better analysis of the human psyche? And honestly, some of your posts give me topics to write my own thoughts about.

Whenever I can make time, I shall compose my articles driven by your posts. :)

Rock on!

Dewaker Basnet said...

what a beautiful post..so much of meaning in it, and so much of relatedness in it..
thanks for such a beautiful post..had been for a 10 day sojourn, switched off my moblie, no television, no phone calls, just travelling, books and my music system..it was bliss...:)
but again nice to be back amongst frens..missed bloggin a lot though:)

KL said...

Do we really need to wear masks in front of our friends? If so, then I don't think those are our friends; because a friend should be one in front of whom you can be your true self without being scared of being judged. However, a friend should also be the one who would always make sure that we are travelling the correct path, and bring us back into it if we deviate from or lose it.

Orikinla Osinachi. said...

So many people have found happiness in loneliness where there was no disturbance and no nuisance.

Keshi,
That post was a philosophical meditation.

I wish you find the peace of mind to write more of these words.

God bless.

desperado said...

a pretty double edged sword this being alone thing....sure it gives us the time and space we all desire only for ourselves..but then sometimes this loneliness can get to the mind and cause questions of self doubt to arise..

but a beautiful piece Keshi...real thoughtful n full of inner feelings

rebel_on_loose said...

I can sooo relate 2 this post of urs Keshi!
"Loneliness can teach you many things. It can bring out the best in you and make you stronger. It can make you realise that even if all your loved-ones left you, you will still survive."
The truth is i mostly prefer loneliness to a crowd.....unless i'm in a party mood...lol.
The point is running after someone or sumthing just coz u don't wanna b alone doesn't make sense to me.

Sheeps flock together,
Lions walk alone.

Deepali said...

mmm the masks- they're always present. Sometimes you need to struggle to take them off when it is just you because unknowingly, being a mask starts to become who you are.

Sujit said...

Hey.. nice one.. to think on both sides of being alone and not being. To some shopping i go alone while others "we" would make sense. Being alone does help us to be realise and move on the path that our insticts choose. And the insticts are the true actions of the person.. isn't so?

sittingnut said...

heyy friend!
good morning!

nice post.

your words echo within me so perfectly that i wont say anything else here. :-)

btw we are going to have new year here in two days time i would probably be offline for few days :-(

have a great time!

tulipspeaks said...

at times yes, i wanna be alone.. spend time alone.. shopping by myself (although now, its kinda hard without my sis tagging along).. and did i mentioned b4..my best therapy to heal my heart will be sitting in the mall..alone..

especially when it rains and u get to be alone in ur home..watching the shower with a cup of hot coffee..awww..

yet, there are some instances when i really need company..need sumone to talk.. or else, pheww.. i'll go mad, honey..and i dont think i fit into the category of lone travellers.. i need someone to chit-chat whole day long..kekeke..provided i wasn't moody..

hugss

Good nite

=am000nie=

Ricky said...

"Loneliness is the way by which destiny endeavors to lead man to himself." - Hermann Hesse

Isn't it true? There are times where i have spent time all alone in the beach admiring the high waves & heavy winds ripping through your ears. I love be alone & quite when I'm depressed / disappointed / angry. Its kinda gives you a nice feeling.. you can be yourself...!

ArChaNa said...

that's excatly what i tell ppl..

well said!!!
hugzz >:D<


its so much better being alone than being with friends sometimes.. i feel 'peaceful', but not a lot of ppl like to be alone.

saby said...

u r a lone traveller also

when u jettison the norms, mores, traditions, customs of society

karmic_jay said...

Truer words haven't been spoken. Ya I know it sounds like a bit of a cliche but it's true.
We all need that alone time, even when you are with someone or i a long term relationships. It's giving each other space. The time when I go jogging is one of my faves.

saby said...

, Gallileo was a lone traveller, so was Darwin,


both these guys incurred the wrath of the very powerful CATLIK CHURCH

it takes guts to be a lone traveller

GALLILEO was imprisoned for life and died in his prison cell

saby said...

GOOD FRIDAY is the death anniv of another lone traveller


he was betrayed by a kiss of one of his disciples

Peter the head of the disciples appointed by Jesus, denied him thrice

He died alone

saby said...

http://www.aboutdarwin.com/darwin/darwin_01.html

Vivhyd said...

i have no idea wht u r trying to say here anyways.. I stay alone here and go everywhere alone.. whether i am with peace with myself or world I have no idea but i miss my family and friends and at most opportunity I just go to my relatives' place or frnds whom I am close with.. the irony is tht I love having ppl I love arnd me but I am all alone.. its gonna be like this for sometime :(

:P fuzzbox said...

I have a thirty minute commute to and from work. Being alone listening to the radio really helps prepare me for the day ahead and helps shake the workday off before I get home.

saby said...

the women in His life stood by him till the end

His mom Mary
Mary Magdalene

Veronica who wiped his face on the road to calvary

saby said...

,Peter was the first Pope

the Popes down the ages have given JESUS a bad name
,

the POPE who imprisoned Galileo
and burnt Joan of Arc as a witch

by remaining silent as jews were being gassed by Hitler

more recently, BUSH visited JOHN PAUL II to invoke his blessings for the invasion of IRAQ

he was shown the door
but JOHN PAUL II did not publicly condemn BUSH and the war

saby said...

to his credit, JOHN PAUL II apologized for the sorry Galileo episode

ishita said...

hmmmm...d only time i like being myself is when i have a good book to read and wen i need to thinkk abt sumthing...and wen my kids thrown a huge tantrum!!!

rest of d time i luv bein arnd ppl...luvv to talk...listen...share...smile...:-)

ironically i spend a good part of d day alone at home with a whole lot of time to myself...!

as far as "fears" go...just knowing what i am and bein true to myself...is enough:)..i can't be bothered by being sumone i am not for ppl around...but if i have to be certain way to make sumone feel better i wldn't hesitate either:)...

aah lucky u...goin out wid ur mother..sister:)...my mom and brothers live to far and tho i get to meet mom and dad couple of times in a year....i don get to see my brothers often...*sigh* i envy u!!

and i hate shopping by myself...i luv it best wid a good fren along...i like the whole experience of exchanging opinions, bargaining...sipping coffee...talkinn:)...

Jo said...

Yeah, me too don't think its a bad idea to have our own private space. It can do only good for us.

Known Stranger said...

you stimulate me .

your words makes a big stimulation to my nerves. You are making me dwell into

The ocean I live has no shore
Snoring blue up and below
Spreading to full sight Galore
My boat sailing very slow
Below the blue surface, alone.

Fiery storm and swiveling whirls
My boat had come across
On tranquil clouds picked up pearls
Every odds were met as tyros
Below the blue surface, alone.

Sailing beside peaks above and below
Rose high and sunk low
Against undercurrents flow
But hands kept on oars row
Below the blue surface, alone.

Sands and lands pass
Beautiful and dreadful are
Refreshing with halt and pause
No grievance for the living so far
Below the blue surface, alone


Blue dragged me where ever it moved
Wile fully changing its color & mood
But yet in hard and light time stood
Teaching the lesson in good
“The ocean I live has no shore. “

Dalicia said...

dear keshi,

happy SRI LANKA new year to you. what do u do on SRI lanka new year???

due to my work schedule. i go shopping alone, watch movies in my own time. i mean, i don't want to bother other people. everyone has their own life.

i think to have friends is to keep me sane. guys have said that i'm too independent. that i
never make them feel needed.
okay don't expect me to BEG you to do things. i hate nag ppl, or tell them a hundred times to do things.

i am lucky to have my family and friends with me.

also, have blessed easter. i have to work! but you will be in my prayers. double blessings for the thai new year and easter.

btw, lets exchange email? is
that okay?

may god bless you! :)

saby said...

anybody wanna exchange emails wid me .... and kisses?

:: The Protector :: said...

>>Lonely you may end up as, but peace may be your new companion.

i completely agree with this Keshi...

Happy New Year

Cheers!
:)

saby said...

SHIT !
not u Die Murrane



Oh God
when will he get off my butt !

saby said...

SHIT !
these Sri Lankans are weird





Happy New Year Keshi

Autumn Storm said...

Yet another excellent post, Kesh - you do amaze me and always have, how you are able to put together one after another!

(One of my biggest dreams is to travel the world, just me and my camera.)

Keshi said...

Hey All thanks so much for ur comments! I will attend to each of you soon :) Im very busy today hehehehe...

And thanks Elaine and Saby for New Year wishes muahhhhhhhh!

It's a long weekend in Aus...both Fri and Mon r holidays :) I will try to catch up in between...

All of u have a blessed Easter folks!

Hugggggggggggz!
Keshi.

susubala said...

Iam Sumathi's friend and colleague. She's a gr8 sec. she said u've excellent charm to converse with people. Saw ur blog and really felt for that. Are u from Sydney ? I've been to sydney, cairns & Gold coast. Just this morning I saw the Lizard Island in our Channel "Travel & Living". Your country is gr8 with all colas and kangaroos. I almost caught beaten by a baby kangaroo. Great country, wonderful experience n snorklling and life time treat to see the great coral reef !

saby said...

Wishing all TAMILIANS and UTTARA a Happy New Year

Wishing TANVI and all PUNJABIS a Happy Baisakhi

Wishing all christians and ELAINE a Holy GOOD FRIDAY, see THE PASSION OF CHRIST on Star Plus at 7 PM IST

karmic_jay said...

It's a long weekend in Aus...both Fri and Mon r holidays :) I will try to catch up in between...

All of u have a blessed Easter folks!

Hugggggggggggz!
Keshi.

Dontcha guys ever work? ;-) No days off for us here. In fact a lot of ppl are out Fri and the few of us here have to pick up the slack.
Best wishes back at ya.

burf said...

"giving yourself some love"

sounds better when prefixed with

i am

in a dialogue ;)

:D

Pri said...

yep keshi...very true! ...
sometimes we do need tht time to ourselves ...to think...to poder..to set our priorities straight...
but often we fear the lonliness n refrain from spendin time alone...
we confuse the two...whn actually "being alone" is a must once in a while...helps put things in perspective...
hav a great weekend and a happy easter :)

tk care

Yashita said...

hey!!!! how are u:) was a lil busy..missed u all alot:)

and bout the post.....u surprise me...seriously...now this is getting scary!!! how u manage to put my exact thots in to words here is kinda freaky u know...I mean..if I wanted to say, I would have prolly written the same thing!!! needless to say I agree totally with u!!

some of the lines I loved

"Nothing more tranquil than being alone and yet feeling like the whole world is with you."

"The only way you can achieve that peace is by being true to yourself and by portraying that true self to the world. "


". By making it clear to yourself that you are not going to fear losing...fear loneliness...fear being rejected and forgotten. Fear of losing good friends, fear of making enemies, fear for safety and fear of tears...all of this may prevent you from being who you are, the real you. "

saby said...

, the death of a man ,

GOOD FRIDAY

wallycrawler said...

There is things I like to do by myself , but a prefer company even if they're a stranger . I feel we'll all have time to be alone soon enough . We should all rich ourselves with new people and cultures .

I think the lone traveler is in a search for company .

tulipspeaks said...

Tamil Putandu Vazhtukal

=am000nie=

Dawn....सेहर said...

Hey dear...I thought u will come to my blog as I wishes everyone there ;)

Happy Easter and a Very Peaceful yet funfilled New Year ahead

huggggzzzz

Cheers

saby said...

, calling Elaine, Uttara, Amutha, Keshi, TANVI ..... no not Die Murrane,







i am tired of being a lone traveller marry me

Cibbì said...

Hey Keshi, been busy for a while, but kept reading now 'n then.
There have been a time I was depressed, and felt sick in loneliness. I was afraid, scared by the depression. Then I learnt how to get better, and now I really can feel the peace of beeing alone, looking inside me.
Lovely post Keshi, as usual. Happy Easter!

alice said...

i agree with u keshi....thats why i am not ashamed to admit that i m the most imp person in my life....

praveen said...

i think my most peaceful moment is when im driving alone...i tend to reflect on things...i sing to myself...haha...love singing to myself although it drives my brother crazy..

and btw, i would never wear a mask to socialise..what you see now is the true me..

>|' ; '| said...

The only way you can achieve that peace is by being true to yourself and by portraying that true self to the world

i agree with the first part; the part abt being true to oneself.
the second part is not always true.
i dont present my true self to the world and i am perfectly at peace and comfortable with who i am and what i hide. :)

tc

laks said...

ha
1 now u talk like i talk... good, keep it up

Łóòň Ġãĺ said...

I would never go shopping alone ... i somehow love it when people confuse me ... even when i know what i want ... in the end i end up buying my own thing .. but somehow everyone is convinced tht it indeed is the right thing ... not that i really need to convince them ... but somehow it feels good tht ur close ones like whatever u're wearing/taking :)

sigh! i wonder when will i be able to go for my fitness walks ... lol

sometimes being alone is good ... but when it turns into loneliness thats when it starts suffocating ... me ... i fear loneliness ... everything around me starts appears so dark ... negative thoughts start surrounding me ... bla bla and some more similar bla!

Orikinla Osinachi. said...

Keshi,
Compliments of the weekend! And compliments of the Easter.
Are you making Easter Eggs for me?

To tickle your sides a bit, see my SCARY MOVIE V: SomeWhere in America

If it is not funny, I will give you $100!

Stay beautiful and God bless 24/7.

niki yokota said...

keshi-chan driving alone?!
awww~ im worried(^o^;;;
pls be careful! yeah i love being alone too! wonderful post!!
happy easter to u tooooo!!

anup.777 said...

u r such a wonderful woman, Keshi ... I've thought about this so often!!! Well written buddy! ... :)

Hope u have a gr8 weekend! :)

Sudeep said...

had received a mail yest.. it had these lines
"Peace is not necessarily silence. We feel at peace even in the busiest place if our mind is at peace"

I agree loneliness teaches some gud things but i dont like to be alone ... i crave for company

but being alone is fun too sometimes.. ha ha

smiley said...

“Loneliness adds beauty to life. It puts a special burn on sunsets and makes night air smell better.”

Henry Rollins

Manish said...

kya baat hai... nice thoughts... somewhat like me... we all are really not accpetin that peace cannot be obtained by artifical means... it has to come from deep within... i say happiness n peace are related.. they both hav to come from deep within...

i agree with u on this topic... nicely written...

good luck

Rohit Talwar said...

I AGREE!

This is so much like me! I do this all the time! Infact, lot of my friends wonder if I don't want to spend time with them and leave alone.. :D But, that's where the 'peace' thing comes in!

Rock on Keshi!

Princess said...

Very true. Being alone is sometimes enjoyable.And further if we have something interesting to think then its great.Our mind gets steady and forgets the unwanted worries of the world we live in when we are alone and self concious.

Diana said...

Everyone born in this world is a lone travellor

Jackal said...

“u already did by that choosing to post the abusive anonymous comments abt me in ur blog...”
not tht it matters anymore what u think of me but the kind of accusation its just gone a bit too far…….. the kind of culture I come from, the values I have always cherished wud never allow me to abuse a female no matter what the provocation. Let alone abuse I have never ever anywhere posted comments except in my own id………
For the rest….i feel sorry how it turned out to be..i am sure it wasn’t meant that way……any way I don’t carry any ill feelings towards you or any one else for that matter tcc

RandomThoughts said...

Beautiful & so true Keshi! In the long run it definitely helps to be your true self as the mask may not stay there for long!!

"Loneliness can teach you many things. It can bring out the best in you and make you stronger. It can make you realise that even if all your loved-ones left you, you will still survive." That's so true.

Keshi

dfg said...

hi keshi...
suba aluth avruthak wewa...hope i spelt it right...
Have a good one...
Prakash

saby said...

,
Just becoz i am married dont mean i cant love other women too
,



the lone traveller is suffocated by too many rules, too many commandments

saby said...

,
HAPPY EASTER guys
,


i love u guys

confused said...

After what has happened recetly, I do feel like a lone traveller....

anyways-cheers

ANKIT said...

hey ,,
superb post...
i certainly agree with you....walking alone just works as a therapy for me ,it helps me sort out my probs,,and re focus my mind to the right track..
had written a post of my trip alone to a place,,which just worked wonders for me...
http://tonu.blogspot.com/2006/03/time-of-my-life.html

saby said...

,Orikinla Osinachi.,
i stole the pic u stole

HAPPY EASTER

SaffronSaris said...

When I was in Japan, I travelled with companions only thrice. The rest of the time, I was alone, sightseeing, shopping and hiking in a forest. Allowed me, or rather, forced me to communicate directly with the locals when I needed directions. I thought it was liberating not to have to wait for another person or to make compromises on where to eat. But then again, those people in Japan with me dun exactly make good conversationalists ;) ;)

How have you been, Keshi?

sittingnut said...

subha aluth avuruddak weva!
and a happy easter too! :-)
(though it's a bit late )

how are you doing?
i thought would miss several of your posts during the days i was offline but haven't missed any. were you on holiday?

hugggz!

Sudarshan said...

I'm really late lol...hope u don't mind. Well I'm in total agreement with you.If you dig into the archives of mah blog, you'll find a post there about 'my idea of a holiday'.I love to travel in groups, or with one or two friends, but uptil now I've failed to find any travel lovers of my age in my city & college. To these folks, a holiday means Goa and nothing else. Therefore, I guess lone travelling is the best way out. As you've said..you're free to do anything you need..without any obligation or commitment. You don't have to put up with the demands and displeasures of someone else..and you're a total free bird!! Great post :-)

Jewel Rays said...

hey Keshi

been soooo lonngggg...

well being alone is good . Isolatiing oneself from the world and hiding its true feeling is somewhat bad at times.

But being alone and appreciating the beauty of being alone as long its postive can be a boost to living at times. this is what i feel.SOMEWHAt:)

Keshi said...

~~Uttara

**its depends on situation to situation..

true...sometime we need to be alone and sometimes we need company...but as Axl Rose said, Everyobody needs some time alone :)





~~Tanvi

True...




~~Dawn

Thats exactly what I mean and well done Dawn ;-) Im proud of u too!




~~Southpaw

**Pls tell me where that mask is available coz my social life sucks

hehe u cant buy it...u have to make it urself...and its good u dun have the skill to make it...ur too honest and thats just good...

loneliness can bring alot of bad habits? Such as? :)




~~Apy

** are at peace only if u r happy with urself

Spot on! And thats what I meant by this whole post..u got that right!

talking to myself has helped me come to terms with many things..I still talk to the walls :):)


Keshi.

Keshi said...

~~Lil_Kath

hey Kath how was ur Easter?

true we need someone to share everything with, no doubt abt that...but what I mean is that even then u cant be happy if ur not happy with urself first :)

huggggz have a nice day!




~~Saby

How was ur Easter Saby?

hehe u sure do alot of things alone ha?

**Being Alone
Without Being Lonely

spot on!




~~Outdoorsy_Girl

Therapeutic indeed! Thanks :)




~~Tre

hey Tre help urself :)




~~The_Phoenix

**Friends are wonderful, but some of them can literally sap your energy.

thats so true...and being alone puts back the energy in u, thanks!





~~Samy

**ryu a piscean by any chance :-?

hehe Im a Cancerian by the English calendar...I think Im a piscean in my horoscope (hindu one)....:)

yes u r right...loneliness is good when it's short...one cant be lonley for too long...





~~Ekta

**that only a women can really understand this statement as its meant to be

mebbe we Eastern women....ur right...





~~Ghost_Particle

**And I think people should embark on the journey once a while to experience something new, to change something or create something.

so true..and thats what I meant...it opens new doors in one's life...





~~Wanderer

**Yup, loneliness does make u stronger as u learn to be independent!

true...abt bad habits, well some ppl end up being selfish...thats when they have been lonely for too long...

Friends and Lovers r a MUST...but even from them we need a break...to realise who we r when we r unaffected by all that....thanks mate!



Keshi.

Keshi said...

~~Die_Murane

**And then I can take a good look at my soul reflected in the eyes of someone close.

Thats a very beautiful thing to say...thanks!




~~Jim

hey thanks for sharing that 'lonely' experience with us...makes u all think..

**death will be a terrifying prospect for those who feel lonely being alone

thats true...we can conquer death if all attachment is conquered...




~~Anna_Black

hey Anna WC n thanks!





~~Michelle

**even if u got frnds tht r alwez thr for u,thr r somethinz tht r upto u.

Spot on Mich!





~~Contented

Solitude is a much more deserving word to this post I guess...u r absolutely right :)


**I believe one shoule bear to be alone. If we can't that means we don't value properly the companion we have from birth to death....ourselves.

Thats well-said! TY!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

~~Jeevan

**I am unlucky. Can’t do any thing alone, can’t go any were alone, (please don’t ask why?) life is waste with out lone

I know u have asked me not to ask WHY, but Im compelled to ask...cos I feel u need to break out of those chains and be free...atleast every now n then...can I be of any help?





~~Pradeep.K

aww thanks Pradeep...hehe I dun need such high praise..I guess we all appreciate similar thoughts and can identify with all of our posts every now n then...:) Thanks again for ur kind words Pradeep.





~~Dewaker_Basnet

WB Dewaker!

**it was bliss

thats excellent! I think I need a break like that too...mebbe for a year...what d u think? :)




~~KL

**Do we really need to wear masks in front of our friends?

no we dun need such masks..but some ppl wear them...thats what I meant :)




~~Orikinla_Osinachi

thanks a lot mate :) I hope u find that peace too...





~~Desperado

**a pretty double edged sword this being alone thing

yes ur right...thats so true..being lonely for too long can be quite sad...





~~Rebel_on_loose

**The point is running after someone or sumthing just coz u don't wanna b alone doesn't make sense to me.

Thats absolutely right! I dun get that either...I really dun get some of my friends who wanna find a partner just cos they r lonely...


**Sheeps flock together,
Lions walk alone.

Whopppa u said that purrrfect! ;-) Thanks!





~~Dee

**Sometimes you need to struggle to take them off when it is just you because unknowingly, being a mask starts to become who you are.

So true! So keep the masks away :)


Keshi.

Keshi said...

~~Sujit

**And the insticts are the true actions of the person.. isn't so

ur spot on! Instincts get disturbed by too much company...and raw instincts r what makes a person after all...very well-said!





~~Sittingnut

hey hope u had a good avurudu season...:) and thanks alot!




~~Amutha

**i need someone to chit-chat whole day long

hehe awww....ur a cute lil chatter box lol! huggggggggz!




~~Ricky

**Its kinda gives you a nice feeling.. you can be yourself

indeed! Thats the ONLY time one can be him/her self...cos at other times ur thoughts, word and deeds get affected by external influence...





~~Archie

hugggggggggz :)

**i feel 'peaceful', but not a lot of ppl like to be alone.

so true...not many like to be alone...but I guess thats cos they dun love themselves enough that they constantly need ppl to identify themselves...I believe that if ur happy being alone, then u love ur company and know ur true identity....





~~Karmic_Jay

hey Jay we Aussies do work too :) We really dun have much public holz...just over Easter and Chrissi only...what abt u?

** It's giving each other space. The time when I go jogging is one of my faves.

true...as I said in my post, when I go for walks by myself, I find alot of peace and relaxation...and space :)





~~Vivhyd

**i have no idea wht u r trying to say here anyways..

lol aww sorry...what I wanted to say is that being alone makes u realise who u really r....yes we need company and na I cant live w.o. ppl either...I love ppl and music too much that I'd die without them :) But what I meant was we need time alone to make peace with ourselves...to know who we really r...

aww u miss ur family alot? u should go down for another break :)





~~Fuzzbox

**I have a thirty minute commute to and from work.

Fuzzy I know what u mean....Im have a 30min commute to work as well...and during that time, listening to music and being myself is pure bliss for me too :)





~~Ishita

hey Ish hows u?

**and wen i need to thinkk abt sumthing...

yes I need time by myself to 'think' clearly too :)

aww ur family is so far away? thats awful....I used to be alone in Aus for a while too and then I missed my mum alot...I know what u mean. I used to call her all the time and sometimes cry hehehe...





~~Jo

absolutely :), thanks!





~~Known_Stranger

hey KS that was so beautiful, thanks! SO very beautiful...





~~Elaine

hey thanks dudette ;-) I had a great New Year's day on Fri...

**what do u do on SRI lanka new year???

Alot of things...goshh to many lol! Bathe, wear new clothes, Cook, eat, exchange gifts, go to temple, eat again lol...so u see so many things...

hehe guys think Im too independant too...well Im quite like u too I think :):) Yes we can exchange emails...gimme ur's...





~~Vishnu

hey thanks for the wishes mate!





~~Autumn_Storm

**just me and my camera.

but if u ever happen to be Down Under, there's no way ur gonna be lonely :)


Keshi.

~*. D E E P A .* ~ said...

the worst part abt being a lonely traveller is having to carry the baggage of pleasing ur soul

Keshi said...

~~Susubala

is this Sumi or Sumi's friend?




~~Burf

**sounds better when prefixed with
i am

lol so sweet, indeed it sounds much better that way ;-)





~~Pri

yes Pri...alot of ppl r afraid of loneliness...hence they miss out on knowing themselves...




~~Yashita

hey Yash :) Im glad u think like me too...I just needed atleast one girl who feels like me and Im sooo glad to have found ya...

hugggggggggz!





~~Wallycrawler

**I think the lone traveler is in a search for company

hey mate u got me thinking there....




~~Cibbi

hey Cibbi so good to see ya!

**and now I really can feel the peace of beeing alone, looking inside me.

Im so glad, hugggggggggz!



Keshi.

Keshi said...

~~Alice

**....thats why i am not ashamed to admit that i m the most imp person in my life

I know Alice..ur a fine smart chick ;-)




~~Praveen

** think my most peaceful moment is when im driving alone

I agree with ya...its the same with me and hell yeah I sing to myself too lol! U go girl ;-)




~~Poison

**i dont present my true self to the world and i am perfectly at peace and comfortable with who i am and what i hide

thats great Poison and I admire ur honesty!




~~Laks

thanks Laks :)





~~Cheesy_Termite

hey Cheesy huggggz!


I understand Cheesy...being lonely for too long can be really scary...and its only good for a short while...





~~Niki_Bakshi

hey Niki happy Easter to u too :) How have u been?




~~Anup.777

hey Anup thanks mate :)





~~Sudeep

hye Sudddz!

**Peace is not necessarily silence. We feel at peace even in the busiest place if our mind is at peace"

so true, thanks!

yes being lonely for too long aint any good...:)

Keshi.

Keshi said...

~~Smiley

**“Loneliness adds beauty to life. It puts a special burn on sunsets and makes night air smell better.”

ty thats beautiful!




~~Manish

**peace cannot be obtained by artifical means... it has to come from deep within.

so true! u may have the whole world with u, but if ur not with u, then there's no peace...




~~Rohit_Tawlar

hey Rohit hows u?


** But, that's where the 'peace' thing comes in!

thats exactly what I mean :) ty!





~~Aizwaikcha

hey Aish!

**forgets the unwanted worries of the world we live in when we are alone and self concious.

so true, thanks!





~~Diana

hey Diana thats so true, thanks!




~~Jackal

thanks mate.





~~RandomThoughts

hey hows u? :) And thanks...ur absolutely right!





~~Prakash

hey mate Subha Aluth Avuruddak weva! and thanks :) how was ur New Year?




~~Confused

hey mate :)

**After what has happened recetly, I do feel like a lone traveller....

I guess thats the VERY reason I wrote this post too...cos I felt the same way. But Im glad there was someone who understood me and thought like me too...and thats u :)




~~Ankit

**it helps me sort out my probs,,and re focus my mind to the right track..

thats so true...




~~SaffronSaris

Hey Saffy Im good...thanks! How have u been?


** I thought it was liberating not to have to wait for another person or to make compromises on where to eat.

so true...and thats what i meant :)




~~Sudharshan

hey mate better late than never...:)


**Therefore, I guess lone travelling is the best way out.

U r absolutely right here! I hate to travel with lots of ppl and then having to do with what they wanna do....sometimes u need to do what u want to as well...I so agree with u!





~~Jewel_Rays

hey Amy huggggggggggz! I missed ya! Where were u, u ok??

**Isolatiing oneself from the world and hiding its true feeling is somewhat bad at times.

thats true...I meant quite the opposite :) show ur true self to the world...hehe...

thanks Amy and u tc!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

~~Deepa

**the worst part abt being a lonely traveller is having to carry the baggage of pleasing ur soul

its ofetn a less tedious task than to please a several other souls :)


how have u been Deepz?

Keshi.

Keshi said...

Guys I have been really busy in the holiday time...ppl, places, lunches, dinners, NY celebrations etc etc...goshh I need to be 'alone' right now :):) Thanks for all ur comments...I'll check back with all ur blogs tomorrow or so...

thanks to all of those who wished me for the New Year and Easter...huggggggggggz! Have a good day and Im off for my walk 'alone' now :)

tata!

Keshi.

visithra said...

wanting to be alone is different from lonely - i wrote about this before - n ive always needed alone time - so definitely understand

the_ego_has_landed said...

HEY!! sorry for the delay...but i dedicate alot of time to ur posts! hehehe...

"I sometimes drive alone and that's the time I drive my best...no one chatting in the car, no one to lower my music volume :) and no one telling me what to do that may distract me. "

hahah..i do that too...i love going for fast and soothing drives and blasting music...u ll see me nodding and smiling..lol

Btw..this whole lonely thing is cool..and it really brings out alot in u that u wouldve ignored..but I've seen ppl go cynical when they're alone. Like this bitch in class who spreads shit about me..lol..hahah..she's a loner..and she's really crazy;0 takin out my frustration;p

southpaw said...

The problem with my honesty is that mostly it makes me look way too arrogant,ppl who know me personally wud tell u in a much better way(I m sure u must hv read my wife's reaction to that handwriting analysis on my lj)...lol
As far as the bad habits generated by loneliness, since it affects in a diff way from person to person, in my case after certain things in my childhood, it has made me violent, arrogant, chain-smoker, heavy boozer, etc, etc. Thankfully i hv been able to drop my smoking and drinking habits successfully, but the violence seems to hv become an integral part of my life.

saby said...

When you`re away, I`m restless, lonely, wretched, bored, dejected;

only here`s the rub, my darling dear, I feel the same when you`re near.


Saby, the annoying mouse
it was so peaceful when u were on holiday

didnt have to deal wid the silly and provocative tings u say to the silly guys dat hang on your evry word

i guess dat includes dis 55yo D.O.M too

Maya Cassis said...

The reason why I love coming back here is because you portray things as they should be
I found a lot of strength in this post and will come back to read it another coupla times
I seem to be drawing strength more from wisdom than the people I am around these days.
And that has guided me here,I know for sure
I needed this post today.Your such a saviour:)
GO GIRL

KL said...

Hey Keshi, where are you dear? Hope to see an update here tomorrow :):)

done said...

Hello:)
I would like to be placed alone amoung strangers, so I could rebuild new friendships. If I only had the $, I would do that. Maybe I should do missionary work or work for the Red Cross, they are placed in situations like that. Alone time is very important and enjoy yours:) Take care, Elisa:)

karmic_jay said...

hey Jay we Aussies do work too :) We really dun have much public holz...just over Easter and Chrissi only...what abt u?
LOL ya I know, I was just kidding.
We have few holidays as well..
new years/memorial day/july 4th/ thanksgiving and the christmas break.

sajini said...

Keshi.. glad to seee you are using your time alone wisely!!

Stud said...

Babesterness,

Being alone is an interpretation of our personality based on circumstances. Throughout the years our personality is likely to have made us believe this can have some advantages too, like the abscence of ppl nagging, we can do whatever we want or likewise, however, this cannot take away that the basis of our experience at times is unpleasant and that it often comes down to 'living this through'.

Our personality is a layer of our inner self of things we teach ourselves to be and which are definitely not what is our self. Our essence was not created to appreciate experiencing loneliness.

So, my dear sweet keshister, come back to me for I believe that our unity is ordained by God for:

1) it is a union of two spirits destined for everlasting happiness and not loneliness:)
2) for you to truly become the star of of my light which brings me light in this dark world:)
3)bring me warmth when I need it, sigh':)
4) offer me the promise of renewal, the joy of living, the peace of mind and a shoulder to lean on in times of stress.

Be my Swallow from Capristrano, my lovely precious butterfly:)

All My Love
Cheeky Dude:)
(u know where to find your knight in shinning armour)

Manish said...

so true!
Being comfortable with our persona gives us mental strength to fight the odds against us!

The Girl Who Sold The World said...

Gosh, I can SO relate to this. No, I don't hate anybody's company at all. I'm one of those people who love to chatter an talk all the time...but still, sometimes, we DO need to be alone, I guess. I don't know why but I think many of us want themselves to be surrounded by some dear ones at all times, though, I'd rather be alone in many situations. It gives a weird kinda...ummm...satisfation to something all alone.
"Loneliness can teach you many things. It can bring out the best in you and make you stronger. It can make you realise that even if all your loved-ones left you, you will still survive."
EXACTLY, exactly! I so agree with this. I've lived at gazillions of places due to my dad's job and have switched so many schools. Have always begun life in a new place lonely and bounced back to normal. I've learnt and done so many things that I never even thought I'd be capable of doing. It gives a unique confidence too. :D

Keshi said...

~~Visithra

**wanting to be alone is different from lonely

aha...ur absolutely right babez....





~~Ego_has_landed

hey girl WB Im so glad to see u again :)

**Like this bitch in class who spreads shit about me.

LOL! It tells one thing abt ya..ur too hot and too much for than girl to handle..lol so forgive n forget her :):)





~~Southpaw

G'day south how u been? All ok now?


**that mostly it makes me look way too arrogant

hey so what? as long as ur not hurting ppl who dun deserve to be hurt then why d u care what they think abt ya?

Violence? I dun think violence and u go together :) ur a calm sweet guy na...hehehe...





~~Saby

lol aww wut happened...

**When you`re away, I`m restless, lonely, wretched, bored, dejected;

when who's away? me? ooo lala ;-)

ur annoying in CAPS, thats true :):)





~~Maya_Casis

hey girl thanks and huggggggggz! Im glad I could help u in some small way :)





~~KL

hey sweety :) I was on a 40day Easter break na thats why the silence..hehe...now Im back and how have u been?





~~Elisa

hey girl how was Easter? Ur right...some charity work for the goodness of human beings could bring out alot of hidden qualities in you...so true!





~~Karmic_Jay

lol Jay, ee Aussies can be bludgers too hahahaha!

Thanks for that!





~~Sajini

:) thanks girl!





~~Stud

omg Studdo that was a pretty heavy dose of toxic amor lol!

**Our personality is a layer of our inner self of things we teach ourselves to be and which are definitely not what is our self.

got me thinking...what r u, a Freud's son or something? lol! U r pretty informed and very analytical...thanks so much for that wisdom here..


**3)bring me warmth when I need it, sigh':)

hehe shall I really? ;-)





~~Manish

thats right and thats what I meant :) thanks!





~~The_girl_who_sold_the_world

hey girl!

true...every word u said is true...cos as much as Im a people's person, I dote on my time with myself too...it's very contrasting but equally attractive desires...

**Have always begun life in a new place lonely and bounced back to normal. I've learnt and done so many things that I never even thought I'd be capable of doing. It gives a unique confidence too.

I think u r a very confident girl by now...no wonder u have that striking self-assurance abt ya...keep it up girl!

Keshi.

Stud said...

I'll wait till eternity if you promise to appear and bring me the warmth. But, the fact remains, you would never carry a soft candle for a simple and plain me who make an Amish look flashy:)

imagining you and myself on my blog:)
stud

southpaw said...

Good day keshi, i m fine, how about u?
I'll stick that compliment of urs on my wall, on my mirror and on my soft board...lol

Keshi said...

~~Stud

**But, the fact remains, you would never carry a soft candle for a simple and plain me who make an Amish look flashy

lol c'mon now who's Amish? :):)






~~Southpaw

:):) Im happy..heheheh..


Keshi.

the_ego_has_landed said...

hahahha...nice perspective;)thanks

susubala said...

keshi dear....actually my colleague has started blogging and he wanted to type those comments and unfortunately it was typed on my name ! His blog url is "handsome48.blogspot.com".

Keshi said...

~~Ego_has_landed

:):)





~~Susubala

hey Sumi I gotcha, thanks!


Keshi.

Tarun said...

...and too much lonelyness

Keshi said...

~~Tarun

aha...

Keshi.

Nikita said...

Keshi,

You are right! We need to know how to stand alone. It doesn't mean we can do without people - No man is an island and we all are connected to each other is some way or the other.

The point is here is that when life gets everybody so busy - and we suddenly find ourselves alone - we must not get bogged down by the pressure of lonliness, but use our inner resources to prop us up.

Unfortunately, so many of us need to learn to cope with being alone.

Take Care.

Keshi said...

~~Nikita

hugggggggz Niki I missed ya!

u have alot of wisdom in u babez...ty for that.

**and we suddenly find ourselves alone - we must not get bogged down by the pressure of lonliness, but use our inner resources to prop us up.

thats what I meant...and u got that right! muahhhhhh!

Keshi.

Autumn Storm said...

2007 unless there are unforeseen circumstances :-)

Keshi said...

WOW thats real soon Autumn, great! Do let me know ok...

Keshi.

TLW said...

Thanks for dropping by my blog....

I used to read you regularly....guess with time a lot of things changed and so were the blogs that I used to read....

Loneliness sure teaches you a lot of things. Its what has kept me going so far !!!