Monday, September 11

The Original You

I had a shitty weekend. Major argument on Sat and decided I wont go to this musical concert on Sun - doesn't matter if I lose my $80 on it, I JUST WONT GO. Some people just don't know how to talk and don't know their limits with words. Such words are lethal to the system. So yeah I wont go. When I'm affected I'm affected so let me be. Till you realise what you said was plain cruel and downright ugly, I won't ever talk to you again. Don't always expect me to be a puppet on strings. This time I just cut the strings and now I'm lifeless in your play. Get that.

Now to the post. How do you usually indentify/introduce yourself? Doesnt matter who the audience is, just imagine this situation. You are given a microphone to say who you are. Alot of people will start with their origin - fair enough you've got to cherish where you come from. But are you really only that or many more? One of my friends always say 'I'm an Indian girl, very traditonal, I have a culture to preserve...etc' and I used to ask her this. Shelby are you really all Indian? Cos we are in this imaginary world sometimes forgetting the fact that though we are Indian/Sri Lankan/Chinese/English/Aussie/Canadian etc by origin, that we are really many more than just that. Have a look at this example of an Indian girl. Since the day she is born, she is brought up to believe that she is 'Indian'. That's true, by birth she is Indian. And she lives learning the Indian traditions and ways. But deep down she can have many other characteristics that may not necessarliy fall under the label 'Indian'. Is that a crime? I think not. Cos that's who she is. I'm a simple Sri Lankan woman when I'm in a Buddhist temple, I'm a fun-loving American woman when I'm at the pub with friends, I'm a sport-loving Aussie woman when I'm singing 'Waltzing Matilda' at the Olympics with friends, I'm a seductive Arabic woman when I do belly-dancing with my Turkish friends, I'm a family-loving Greek woman when I watch TV with my mother and aunt instead of going out with the boys, I'm a fashionable Italian woman when I fall in love with Dolce and Gabbana, I'm a gracfeul Indian woman when I wear the saree and light the lamp, I'm a hardworking Asian woman when I'm at work earning my dough, I'm a daring English woman when I'm bush-walking in the loneliest forests, I'm a tough African woman when I'm facing the harshest droughts in life, I'm a Russian ballerina when I put my dancing shoes on, I'm a sexy Brazilain woman when I'm at the beach in my cossies, I'm the carefree Islander woman when I'm with nature. I have every trait and I'm every woman. What matters is being who you are, not labeling/branding yourself to be one thing just cos of brand-loyalty. That doesn't mean you should be someone else, but it means don't be forced to hide what you are based on a passed label. Be proud of your origins but never let that loyalty cost you your originality.

I dedicate today's music to the best-known Australian ever Steve Irwin. Tears well up whenever I think of him and this time it's no crocodile tears. I don't think I'll ever get over Steve's death . He's one rare man who found his reason in this life. Guys I know that everyone dies, but Steve was not everyone.

Current Music: The Reason by Hoobastank

152 Cranium Signets:

Jewel Rays said...

Don't always expect me to be a puppet on strings. This time I just cut the strings and now I'm lifeless in your play. Get that.

This is something i would like to say to a guy i know right now...but i am just keeping my cool and allowing myself to calm down and evaluate stuff before i even speak out.haiz

allowing me to be me is just what i am really battling with this season. not fitting into people's mold and judgements and wants. Sure is not easy..eeks! but well..i guess it will take to me learn some new things. i choose to take it light heartedly though at times it can really be frustration from deep within. like i can growl too..grr..heez..

i kinda feel ya post keshi..

*huggiz

Sush said...

**Don't always expect me to be a puppet on strings. This time I just cut the strings and now I'm lifeless in your play. Get that.

Hmmmm... that is sooo true... How I wish I could say that a few years earlier and moved on... :-(... well better late than never.

This is the bestest post of yours to date for me. It is soo true we cannot restrict ourselves to one particular race or nationality...

Jewel Rays said...

OMG!! I Am first!! FOR ONCE! HEhehe..THANKS KESHI AND what an honor!!! Voooo..Hooo..!!!

hehehehe hahahaha..and HOHOHOHO!

LOL HUGS biggies!

saby said...

everyone dies
Steve is no exception


but it dont matter how u die
wat matters is how u live

he lived life king size

and it dont matter how long
life is not measured by the number of breaths u take

but by the number of moments dat take your breath away

Steve and Janice fit in dis slot
Janice made a tremendous impact
by the number of hearts she touched

there is a guy called sunny peter
who still cant believe dat janice is no more on dis planet

and keshi

saby said...

the quotes are not mine

southpaw said...

Hmmmm...this one got me thinking...Never before hv i thought abt all that.
I hail from a bengali family, but one wud hardly find any trace of bengali tradition in me if scrutinized closely, even my name is completely out of bengali dictionary. As far as my habits, characteristics, look, accent is very diff than the traditional bengalis.
I really don't know what wud be an appropriate line to describe me....I m original in my own ways, mostly i sound very proud and arrogant and most ppl i come across say that i hv loads of attitude,but frankly speaking i give a damn abt it. Its my manufacturing fault and its gonna be this way till i breath my last...

southpaw said...

@Saby
Did u speak to him then, coz the number u gave still belongs to Sunny Peters and its on.

SamY said...

It ain't all that bad keshi. ppl tend to associate themselves with something. maybe they are not a ton like you.

the fact is social groups form by what they share in common - birds of a feather flock together

when ppl can't describe themselves they use such association since thats what they think they mostly r :)

some ppl potray themselves as what they r n associate with something ... some ppl associate themselves with something n be that

saby said...

SOUTH

He called me after a long while after the Mumbai train blasts

i tot he went up to meet Janice

desperado said...

i really fumble with words when introducing myself...mostly its a simple hi...never ever said this but would liek to someone who can understand...i live and breathe music :)

hmm n to improve shiity times...sleep drink coffee and sulk withh cobain ...lol

take care buddy

southpaw said...

@Saby
Did he go to her place and found out anything?

~*. D E E P A .* ~ said...

hey !

yes , definitely , we are influenced by many cultures. But when you say you are an Indian ( for e.g.), what that means is that most of ur customs and traditions are Indian , i feel !

Why dont u go alone for the concert ? therez no need to go with someone .. u can enjoy the concert alone , right ? Of course , I have no idea about the situation and all

Madhu said...

Puppets and strings.........hmm sometimes we r the puppet and sometimes we hold the strings! Anyways its what u feel that's imp here....knowing u, I think u will get over this fast.

Coming to the post, I really dont know how I will introduce myself....depends a lot on that moment. But yeah I wont say "I'm a Indian girl...". I can never relate any of my traits to any particular country....its not like only in Greece girls love their family or only in America they know how to have fun.

Some choose to identify themselves with places (like most ppl from Kerela do....they gel so well even if they have never met just bcos they r from the same state...), companies, brands and so many things....its a way of getting ur attention or what u can relate to. Maybe its what they really feel for that comes out....like being an Indian. Or maybe they r just at a lose of words!!

Gosh i started out explaining something and came out with something else.........my stomach's rumbling....that's the prb i think.

Hope u have a great week ahead.

Eclipsed Thoughts said...

Very well said KAP... really introducing onesself is such a tough job... coz for me, its always been "who am i actually"... its not about the name, birth, origin, culture and religion... indentity is much more than that... exploring our indentity is what most of us dont think about. Anyways, i guess even i am among those "most of us".........

Dont know what to say......... thats all i guess

Ash said...

"I have every trait and I'm every woman"

you go girl!

Rachel Heather said...

That is an awesome point Keshi

Thats how I am - I just am ME :)

"Im every traint and Im every women" - so well said.

As for Steve Irwin - such a tragic irony of an ending of a great great man, He will forever be missed

saby said...

SOUTH

nobody i no
nos where janice lives



Wait a minute
i no


she lives in my heart and keshis and sunny and a host of other guys

Janice is chaloo
but in a nice way

deepsat said...

well put in keshi!! i dont think there's a need to be ashamed or try and hide the origin/root of oneself!

and yes, our introduction is around what we do and not who we are actually!

steve irwin will always be remembered for who he was!! indeed a legend now!!

KK said...

Nice post Keshi...I agree with what you say. Its always nice to be original It puts the person in ease :)

Parag said...

Nothing wrong in remembering one's roots and behaving accordingly.
We are born free without any likes/dislikes or views..
We get "conditioned" based on our religion, sex, size, parents' beliefs, neighours, friends etc

Negatives are - We get directed in thinking and behaving in a particular way..Which makes us lose our creativity..

Positives are - We remember our roots.. Its an effort to get my kids to learn our native language..
They only speak in English !!

This is so similar to my latest blog .. We think alike !!

anonimply said...

@@@@@ "lethal to the system" - install open source!!!, waiting for Vista "Clear Confident Connected" is another half of a year ...
@@@@@ "lifeless in your play" - like the snow white in the coffin of glass, hard to imagine? :)) ...
@@@@@ truly its a pity :((

m

p.s. usualy ppl got reason, well unless theyr blonde

anonimply said...

still magical ... different ...

uttara said...

wow keshi..
BRAVO!!

i agree with ya n share 99% of ur feminist traits...;)

n STOP being a nutty girl ..heheh
hugggzzz

sophie said...

watever happens....life moves on....
time will heal....

muuaahh babes

The Light-House. said...

**I think of him and this time it's no crocodile tears.**

Those people whom God love die young.

At some point in time we all need to move on.

Cazzie!!! said...

You know what Keshi, I am not you, and you are not me and there will never be another Steve Irwin...but we can all have alittle of each other in each other...and that is community and spirit and growing together and protecting the future for our next generations. So, we atke the good, mimic each other and be the best we can be....and looking out for each other is what people like Steve Irwin and many environmentalists like him want..harmony with mother nature...chameleons at our best, fighting against those who do not appreciate the Earth we live on :)

Has to be me said...

Each person is unique & each react differently to different situations.
In my opinion, branding of each person as Indian/srilankan/russina/chinese etc is just an identity of their origin or the country they belong to. It has nothing to do with the person's character.

Sudeep said...

WOW!! I luved this post ..

Akruti said...

When you are affectedlet theperson who hurt you knowabt it,Yes,you have right to be what you are.Let the other person realise he/she was wrong.

Its not about which country or continent or religion someone belongs to,Its just the way we are,Isnt it.No harm in being ourselves,Unless and untill it hurts someone whom we care for.The innermost traits make us a real person,why hide them atall.Be yourself,Thats best choice we all have.
Because now i use blogger beta i am not allowed to put comment non beta blogs,so missed lot of posts.and your blog dosnt even allow anon comments,so i am using my other blog id{akruti} which is closed now.

alapana
http://aalapana.blogspot.com

christabelle said...

keshigirl, I'm so sorry about ur bad wkend, not to wori dear, thats part of life, i hope u fell beta now.

Hm, ur quite some girl, u know, all in one keshi, hehehe!
But i agree with u, describing oneself is much more than where ure from, i think its more of who u are.

ishita said...

cant fathom why u can't view my blog:(...its workin fine here and others do seem to be seeing it...hmmmm!:(((

and of course this whole switch to beta won't let me post commentz...created an id on the old blogger...*sigh*...just to get here and tell u to try this link

http://ishipishi.blogspot.com/2006/09/journey-of-365-days.html

hope it works....will come back later and comment on the post kesh...my connections gone and i got here thru the fone line to leave this msg...can't be logged on for long on this line *sigh*

u tk care and i'll be back for sure:)...

ishita said...

did u get the last comment kesh?...*sigh*...such a mess:(...anyway this id takes u to a blog wid a solitary post directing u to my blog...hmmmm...try that...sumthin shud work sumwhre right?...

ghee-ghee said...

very well said,Keshi...

I am a child infront of the children..

I am a passionate woman beside my husband.

I am a cheerful listener if a sad friend is around..

I am a versatile person but showy enough to express whats in my head.

I am creative,though not tht artistic.

I could talk to any one;no races limited.

(Phew!!sounds like a speech to me)

Happy monday Keshi.
Have a nice week ahead!!

im here to give you kisses too!
ghee

karmic_jay said...

Sorry to hear that you had a crappy weekend. And good for you that you made a stand, that's what it is all about making a stand and not letting people take you for granted and it's about R-E-S-P-E-C-T.

I agree with you about the whole issue of identity. As an American of Indian origin and thats what I am. Although I do consider myself sort of as a world citizen too since almost every one on this planet has something interesting to offer.

alex said...

Its strange and good to see people sharing the same thoughts. :)

Though you started off with 'being a puppet', you were able to focus on diversity in an individual. Its true, very true.

Especially, i admired you for saying 'BE ORIGINAL'. Hats off to you, KESHI! :)

Hazel Dream said...

Well It seems that u are hurt .
but most of time its not use but our fake ego which overtakes our existence.

its good to have Self respect but I hope u are ready to forgive if asked ??

well we are what this world made us . its a very personal opinion what you choose to introduce yourself as.
only thing , it shall not hurt others and builds a wall between US .

Hazel Dream said...

hey by the way may I have your Yahoo or MSN ID or if you have a gmail ID ??

alias Fleiger said...

That first photograph is disturbing, so is first para. You are pretty disturbed these days, I guess...

All through the post, I kept remembering reading somewhere, "introduce yourself without using any labels (like Indian, student of XYZ insti etc.)" It's really hard to think of something to say about you without all these things.

We should remember that the labels we use should not limit us, just define us...

And btw, belly dance, huh?

s0ulasylum said...

this post blew me away.. struck a chord deep within..

and dont you just wanna get ur leather gloves out and kill when they say.. hey ease out.. ur just a woman.. ur goin to be taken care of anyway! nthg is more pissing off thn ppl taking a woman for granted..

hope it straightens out for ya..

ur a freespirit
dont let this bog you down
get out all ye ill meaning peeps
im too busy handling my crown..

hehehe.. tht was sooo sadddd :P
loveeeee reason by hoobastank.. but post-this-post my song for the day is.. 'im every woman' by whitney houston.. another powerhouse her..!

love ya for this post!! muaaah!

Ghost Particle said...

//I'm a seductive Arabic woman when I do belly-dancing with my Turkish friends,// ---> whoa! fried my brains!

You said it well woman! The essence of any life, the force that makes us go forward is our originality, by not shouting our who we are, but by 'doing' who we are. Superb post. Hope the many readers of this post will take note of the things that they miss in life because of the mistaken voices they speak with.

And Irwin, everytime i switch to Animal Planet, I reach him more.

//---> and you are the heroin in my latest story...:p

Akshay said...

I think that you are what you believe yourself to be.

Don't always expect me to be a puppet on strings. This time I just cut the strings and now I'm lifeless in your play. Get that.

I just acted on this 3 days back.

Brood Mode said...

hey keshi,

looooooooooooong time. How're you????


Loved your post, being oneself to everyone needs quite a bit of courage...

prishah007 said...

see in start of ur blog u have written that u had lost 80$ just bcoz some one spoke bad to u ,by not going there he won and u lost bcoz he achieved what he wanted and u could not, sometimes brain shld be given precedence over heart,you were telling abt restricting ur self to a country and not thinking in a broader sense ,when some one asks what r u u'll never say u r a lady or u r a hindu ,or a muslim or .... u'll reply by saying u r indian it gives u identity.

sittingnut said...

heyyy agian!

i am sorry you had a bad weekend. :-(
huuggggz!

you are right as always about identity. ppl too often 'brand' themselves with a certain external identity and then try to live by it .which sometimes lead to absurdities.
but more than that they forget to be themselves and hide behind the mask. that may be easy but they don't know what they are missing: their own self.

hope you have a better working week than the weekend. :-)

Pallavi said...

Hey I comepletely agree with you. There is nothing wrong in not giving in and retaliating against something wrong. People just need to behave themselves and no compromise on that. I just wish I was able to tell people when they are wrong. Instead I cut them off completely.

Kavi said...

The clothing can never become the person ! Just like the books not becoming the cover !!

Lovely post !

priya said...

Our family root/ tree is very important till we live. Nothing wrong to say the truth of who you
are coz, you make other persons life to think back their tradition.

La vida Loca said...

beaitiful post....
i am sorry your weekend sucked
and about steve..grieve by all means...and the loss is irreplacable...the void wont go away (I feel that coz I lost my best friend earlier ths year)...i feel for you my gal take care

Meg said...

Keshi, this is a beautiful post. I don't think anyone ever denies where they come from, but living our lives as every woman...being accepting and proudly wearing the coats of many different traits is very honorable. You my dear, are a fine example of a person who can speak for many. Well done!

Oh, and screw him !

anonimply said...

@@@@@ "lifeless in YOUR play" ooooo is ur blog a part of THIS play too??

dobranoc anyway

u know once ive talked to stud he said "you would be friends" would we?? :)

Mr. J said...

hhhhhhhhhhhhhhhmmmmm.... *nods head and goes back to work*

AnonymousBlogger said...

Way to take a stand on the concert.

As for introducing myself, it's pretty simple. Hi, my name is...

Nothing more than that. If I feel more detail is necessary, then I'll give it, otherwise I think that is good.

Within Without said...

I hate to say I'm just a boring white guy, so more or less just fade into the background.

I introduce myself, I guess, by just saying what my name is with a smile...

I might say at some point that I live in such and such area, I'm a sportswriter, single, two kids...

IF ANYONE ASKS ME FOR THAT KIND OF INFO or if it naturally comes up in conversation.

I'm not what I do, and I'm not just a parent, and I'm not just my marital status.

Like you, I can be different things in different situations and all things in all situations.

And good on you for cutting those strings. Being anyone's puppet can be hard on the limbs, the heart and the mind.

southpaw said...

How r we doing today?
Busy, i guess....

Good day keshi!

R2K said...

Hey great page : )

Want to exchange links?

I have already linked to you.

Kumar Chetan said...

The reason is you why I read and post comments on your blog. One of my fav english track. Was sent to me by my virtual love. she burned it on a CD and send to me in India and with her hand designed cards and a simple letter saying I love you. She is not more in touch with me like she used to be. But I am still alive. So are you even after Steve left the world. You will be here till you also take your last breath. Life is precious. Live it. Enjoy it. Dont do some thing that your own says is bad. Thats all for today. There is a small party in our office and you are invited.

Harry said...

dear,what a gr88 post..!!

samuru999 said...

Keshi
I just read your comment at my blog.I am ok!
Just so very, very sad today!
9/11 has hit me real hard today!

This is a good post!
You are an orginal Keshi!
Sorry about your weekend hon!
Sorry about Steve!
Take care!
Margie:)

Kumar Chetan said...

5pm today in office hall. ample parking space you can park your boeing 747 on airport and I can pick you up from there. if you are comin by apache then you can lan it infront of our office. you can even park your limo or truck house. we even have bus an taxi service. Let me know if you ae coming. Sorry no hard drinks/alcohol will be served. :(

starbender said...

You have just described the perfect AMERICA!
It doesn't matter where U hail from, It is the fact that U R human, deserve 2 B FREE -- make u'r own decisions. Not live under someone else's dictatorship!
No matter where we came from, life has a way of molding who we have become.
:)

Kalpana said...

Yes, you ought to be what u are. But it's the toughest thing to know what r u?

Mehak said...

Keshi I had a double shitty weekend....thinking about it makes me cry....

Jewel Rays said...

Thanks for tellin me keshi abt da comments thing..sorry girl..:P

Huggiz

Jeevan said...

The examples are very nice. I like to experience on other cultures, fashion and modern lifestyle, meeting new people learn many which I don’t know, wish to visit every corner of this world and learn more. But I should not forget my Originality

Cool post Keshi!

Twisted DNA said...

"Be proud of your origins but never let that loyalty cost you your originality"
Wow! Very well said.

I am like you when it comes to culture. I am proud of my Indian origin, but living in California gave me a completely new perspective on culture and life. Now I am a part everything :)

(Of course, embracing the global culture means flirting with women of every cluture, right? ;)

As I was reading the post, I thought the music of the day was going to be "I am every woman" by Whitney Houston

visithra said...

Ahh i so know what ure talking about - being indian might be a predominant trait but im also a lot of other things - and so is everyone - but lots of ppl love to live behind a wall blaming it on culture

Kautilya said...

U r what u r...

and yup
Steve "is" a legend!

anonimply said...

is moderation automatic?? oh come on lifeless does not have to b speechless cant u talk form the beyond??

hope it is a better day today, m

Harry said...

I dunno whether u know about Tantra T-Shirts and about the one-liners usually written on them...
These days I m crazy about Tantra T-Shirts..

My favourit one-liner:

"God is too big to fit into one religion"...and I really believe in it..

Cinderella said...

Here this is why I miss the net n this why I miss Keshi....
Fantastic is the way you weave the truth of wisdom in the net of words..
Lovely lovely post,just like you !
N u know Steve Irwin's death lest me without a chord,without a wod..it was such a shock.
Neway,
Thinking of making a come back back...what say ??
Missed ya...

ishita said...

kesh:)...

U feelin better now? That was a lot of rage...! I'd go for the concert though kesh (even though i have no clue what led to that decision!)...i mean it is after all about u having a good time doing what u want to...ummm...yeah spending your money!...but of course u know better and u went thru whatever ordeal that was to know wat u want to do! Just saying this coz i wld just go ahead and enjoy it by myself!

Interesting thot in the post...reminds me of that song "i'm every woman" (it's kind of playing in my head right now!)...hmmmm:-)! I never gave much thought to it...i mean yeah if ppl asked I would say “I’m from the north eastern state of tripura in India” and then wait for the totally blank look on ppl’s faces ... lolzz... no one seems to know of tripura...pity!! Seriously I would talk about it only when asked a specific question. Being Indian or from a particular state is like a part of my identity...like my name? surname? Something like that. Hmmmm...I never lived in place for more than 4 years as a child...no place was home as such, I inculcated different cultures of this country...and now as an adult and with all the exposure to the world...be it by traveling, by media, internet, tv ... I feel like a world citizen.

But yes, about being a woman...now that’s a totally different debate right? Being a woman is one thing that is more or less the same story all over the globe...but we’ll get into that some other time! This comment is getting to be longer than my post ;-)

Hope u’ve cheered up kesh...don mess up ur head for thotless ppl and hateful words...not worth ur time...

Tk care...show me that lovely smile :) ... *huggs*

LERA said...

Keshi,It's beautiful Post & as original as it could be.It takes a degree of strength to hold on to our beliefs & there's nothing greater than Positive thinking in tune with your most treasured values..:)

itchingtowrite said...

lovely. great insight. unconsciously or otherwise people do tend to introduce themselves usign tehir place of origin or state of origin as a prop. i will be careful in future

Nelly said...

Very well said. Never be who everyone wants you to be. ALot of this happens to children from pressure for there parents. Its ok to know your background but you dont have to follow it like the next guy..

By the way. Love the song. Im actually going to see them and Nickelback in a couple days...

vibhor said...

hi keshi,
how are you...i had been busy the whole month..
so agian you have a heart throbe post...
keep going on...

Orikinla Osinachi. said...

Be proud of your origins but never let that loyalty cost you your originality.
~ Keshi, 12/09/2006

A quote that will last for ages to come.

Your most down-to-earth post so far.

Now confirms my hypothesis that angst in the chaos of crisis produces the best works of our genius.

My sweetheart, not being nearby is our greatest problem. Because, if I were around the corner, your weekend would have been wonderful no matter the bulLshit from any angle.

If I have to kick or whip the stubborn ass, I would do it to make you happy.

Relax.

"The Original You" is the perfect title for the blook of a selection of your best posts since you started blogging to date. And I want you to consider publishing the blook for the Blooker Prize. Not for the vanity, but for the benefits of your posts to millions of humans out there who would appreciate your commentaries on the very important issues of the facts of life as we face the existential realities of this world.

God bless.

Mr. Evil said...

Ok so i read only the first para cos im running out of here for the moment! But i can tell you one thing.. being played a puppet is quite a dangerous game. Once you realise it and cut it off.. tendancies to repatch a situ are high and once done sometimes your sensitivity levels drop.. and hence you can be manipulated to a greater extent next time. Just a theory :D But do hope u are not in an angru mood anymore!! :D

Known Stranger said...

you yearn for a love and you will find it soon. - your poem was so good i fell in love with your words

ANKIT said...

""Be proud of your origins but never let that loyalty cost you your originality.""

point taken,,,,!!!


and who was that mr.bin laden...who spoilt your mood,,,,,
as a harsh punishment make him/her read some of my stupid grammitically wrong,,illogical blog...!


cheers keshiji,,,,

ankit

Dinesh said...

Originality is the key to uniqueness. Dunno if the sentence made sense..heh. Good post and as you say be yourself.

Foodie's Hope said...

Keshi!! cheer up girl!! Sorry you had bad Sat but take a look at my ME..ME.. post!! Life is not measured by few days of anguish!! Cut out the toxic people from you, NOBODY is worth YOUR life!!Believe me,I KNOW what I am talking about!!

About being Indian, my 15yr girl Trisha would agree with you wholeheartedly! I raise her with Indian values but NEVER impose on her! Her life is in her hands!! That's how I was raised in India by my liberal parents!! As Indo-Americans, my kids are lucky to have best of both worlds!! :)

Hope to see you smiling next post!!
NOW SMILE!! :D :D :D

niki yokota said...

OMG! $80?? that is a large amount..
well done!!!!
i thought keshi-chan wud say shes japanese when shes having sushi lolll
belly dance was pretty funny!! muahhh

R2K said...

I am having problems still with my template.

Nikita said...

Keshi,

It's true that we cannot restrict ourselves to one particular nationality...

Good post.

sharda said...

You did a great post.self realization is the most effective cathartic medecine to give peace to our mind.

ari4u said...

Well written. When in Rome, do what the Romans do, but dont forget your roots. Be the first one to adapt with change or risk being left behind.

I so know how you feel. Take it easy, be yourself, that;s when you are da best :-)

Miranda said...

Sorry you had a crappy weekend. Hope it's better now.

'Be proud of your origins but never let that loyalty cost you your originality.'

Yep be proud to be yourself!!! I am who I am. You are who you are.

:P fuzzbox said...

I generelly just say Howdy Y'all and people will know my origin.

samuru999 said...

Keshi
I just wanted to let you know that if you leave a comment at my blog...
I am not able to reply to it!
It has been like this all day...
I do not know what is wrong!
Hope it will get resolved soon!

Take care!
Hope your day is going well hon!

Margie:)

saby said...

It doesn't matter where U hail from, It is the fact that U R human, deserve 2 B FREE -- make u'r own decisions. Not live under someone else's dictatorship!
No matter where we came from, life has a way of molding who we have become.




GO AMERICA Keshi
i follow soon


4get Nigeria

tsduff said...

Keshi, the doll picture just alarms me...such a sad thing it is.
I'm sorry your weekend sucked - hell, if you don't want to do the concert, don't! The $$ is already spent - no need to have a rotten time on top of it!

The last description I'd pull out for you would be a puppet on a string - ha ha you are much to animated to be pulled by anybody's strings :-)

I absolutely love your description of all the women in you. You know, even though I have Danish, Lithuanian, English, Scottish and Irish in my heritage, I sometimes feel like a muddled mutt of nationalities - I can't claim just one with any sort of pride. So I just thank the Lord for my life, and for making me the exact way I am. (uh - well, I could stand to lose a few lbs... LOL but other than that, I'm good.)

Keshi said...

Crikey 91 beautiful comments...tnxx guys...brb.

Keshi.

Keshi said...

~~Jewel_Rays

Amy lol yes u r FIRST woohoo!

Say it to that guy Amy...cos I did. And I feel alot better now. And I know in future I wont let ppl make me dance to their tune. Saying it out loud than bottling it all up helped me take a step to achieving it.

**Sure is not easy

ur right...its not easy at all to be ourselves cos of various pressures ard us, be it family or scoiety. Thats why I write alot of posts abt being urself cos it makes it more clear and closer to achieving it then.

good luck sweety!







~~Sush

Better late than never indeed. My reaction was very late too...my earlier silence cost me alot of things...so I said it eventually and I feel good now. Cos no one's gonna make me a clown next time.







~~Saby

Nice quotes Saby ty!

Have u found out abt Jan?

**It is the fact that U R human, deserve 2 B FREE

so true and thats exactly what I mean.




Keshi.

Keshi said...

~~Southpaw

Southyyyyyyy hows u? Missed me yday? awwww :)

**As far as my habits, characteristics, look, accent is very diff than the traditional bengalis.

thats what I mean. Im Sri Lankan by birth but I have always had many other different traits, looks, qualities etc. We r many in one.

na na it's not a manufacturing defect Southy...ur a manufacturing genius. Everyone is unique in their own ways. We just got to find the best in us and apply it to real life than being barred by external forces.







~~Samy

hey Samy!

**maybe they are not a ton like you.

haha ok...:)


**some ppl associate themselves with something n be that

I u'stand that Samy. But when the association is based on something that they have been made to believe than what they really r, then that becomes a restriction to being the real u. And thats what I mean :)







~~Desperado

hehe isnt Cobain THE best sulk-mate anytime! I always put Nirvana on when I wanna sulk. And somehow Cobain reaches out to me and says 'Its ok Mate, I so know how u feel' :)

**i live and breathe music

that is SO u, I know! Good one.








~~Deepa

hiyya Deepz!

**. But when you say you are an Indian ( for e.g.), what that means is that most of ur customs and traditions are Indian , i feel !

true. Thats altogether a different aspect. What's Im talkin abt here is how some ppl get so carried away by being Indian/Sri Lankan that they lose their originality. I dunno if u u'stand what im saying...

Deepz I dunno abt the concert yet...I was deeply hurt on Sat by some very harsh words. Im someone who's usually walked all over. But I wanna set my limits from now on. And I'll see what I can do abt the concert, tnxxxx n huggggggz!



Keshi.

saby said...

dat was STARBENDER
not me Dummy

Keshi said...

~~Madhu

**.........hmm sometimes we r the puppet and sometimes we hold the strings!

true. But I can assure u that I NEVER control ppl. That's one trait I hate.

**its a way of getting ur attention or what u can relate to.

very true.

I hope u had some food :):) TY!








~~Eclipsed_Thoughts

KAP heyyy!

**indentity is much more than that...

yes...cos all of us have many different traits.

ty n hugggggggz!








~~Ash

tnxxx Ash!








~~Rachel_Heather

yupperzz...just be urself...never define urself by race etc.

Stevo is TERRIBLY missed Rach! there's not enough words to express the grief.







~~Deepast

**and yes, our introduction is around what we do and not who we are actually!

what we DO indeed, ty!








~~KK

** Its always nice to be original It puts the person in ease

thats another great reason why one should be original...cos just imagine how uneasy it becomes to pretend to be someone else!

tnxxx KK for raising a good point.







~~Parag

heyy Parag great minds think alike? :):)


**We get "conditioned" based on our religion, sex, size, parents' beliefs, neighours, friends etc

thats so true and thats when our originality may get rusty.


**Negatives are - We get directed in thinking and behaving in a particular way..Which makes us lose our creativity..

thats it!


I know what u mean...abt kids not speaking their native languages. U can put em in Hindi classes cant u? :) Or speak in Hindi at home too.







~~Anonimply

Anon ur comments make me feel blond..lol cos I dun u'stand anything ur saying. plz speak in a simpler language ty :)







~~Uttara

Huggggggggggz Uttsy!

'nutty' was inborn to me :)







~~Sophie

hey girl hows u?








~~The_Light_House

**Those people whom God love die young.

Tarun I so believe in that.

TY n hugggggggz!



Keshi.

Keshi said...

~~Cazzie

G'day Cazzie!

**...but we can all have alittle of each other in each other

so true. Derive the best in each other and apply it to life. TY so much for those encouraging words n hugggggggggz!

btw ur profile pic is sizzling ;-)







~~Has_To_Be_Me

**It has nothing to do with the person's character.

very true. Just that some ppl forget that easily :)







~~Sudeep

ty Sudeep!







~~Akruti

Alapana heyyy!

**Its not about which country or continent or religion someone belongs to,Its just the way we are,Isnt it.

so true.

ty so much for coming here using ur old Id. Shows how much u wanna be part of blog life...:) hugggggggz!







~~Christabelle

hey Chris!

** i think its more of who u are.

indeed.

tnxxx n hugggggggz!







~~Ishita

Ish SMILEZZZZZZZZ :):) ty so much for ur encouragement...I know wut u mean abt going to the concert..another friend of mine who rang me yday begged me to go with her...she said that she would not go too if Im not going. Well I dunno...after reading ur comment Im thinking now...let me think it over and let u all know soon ok - hugggggz!


** I feel like a world citizen.

so true. And I agree that being Indian/Sri Lankan/American etc is very much a big part of one's identity. No doubt abt that! But what I mean is, when u really look deep in u, u r really many, restricted by some of the external factors. And I just dun wanna be restricted. One can be aproud Canadian and also be a proud world citizen too. And thats what I mean :)

Ish I cant see ur current blog link from ur profile page for some reason..I cant see some other ppl's blogs too. I noticed that it happened with this new beta-blogs only. But I still can come thru the links u gave me (the original blog address). So all is ok for now. TY so much!


Keshi.

Vivhyd said...

In a way if u feel like how u have descibed u wud do things more enthusiasitically.. btw killing sting rays just cos it killed Steve Irvin is stupidity.. In a way, it was only matter of time be4 he was killed by something as he - u like it or not - interfered with wild animals' lives..

Keshi said...

~~Ghee

Beautiful Ghee hows u? Mwahhhhhh!

lovely verse there...ty!

**I could talk to any one;no races limited.

so true. I too can talk to anyone from any race. But some ppl find it so hard to do...cos of the limits that they have put upon themselves!







~~Karmic_Jay

**it's about R-E-S-P-E-C-T.

thats so true Jay. On that day I felt like my RESPECT was on a permanent holiday. hehehehe. So yeah, I told em to keep off and I wont let that happen again. I deserve better.


**Although I do consider myself sort of as a world citizen too since almost every one on this planet has something interesting to offer.

Spot on!







~~Alex

**Though you started off with 'being a puppet', you were able to focus on diversity in an individual

yes...interesting combination in one post ay :)

Being original is much easier and more comfy than pretending to be someone else..isnt it.

tnxxx Alex!







~~Hazel_Dream

G'day Hazel! Will pass my YM Id to u soon :)

**its good to have Self respect but I hope u are ready to forgive if asked ??

ofcourse. Forgiveness is easy for me. But forgetting often becomes an issue. Memory becomes a huge burden sometimes. Makes me wanna have Dimentia sometimes lol!

Yep...as long as u dun hurt anyone else, have ur own identity and revel in it ;-)








~~Fleiger

ahoyyy Fleiger ;-)

** It's really hard to think of something to say about you without all these things.

and why may that be? Cos since the day we r born, we r fed with information...we r forced to believe we r this n that...so it's hard to think beyond that. i.o.w. we have dun recognise our own self cos we've clobbered it long time ago.

Im disturbed alright...I get easily disturbed...especially when ppl die..I get so hurt and end up in a spiral web of depression.

Belly Dancing alright but doing it all wrong lol!








~~S0ulAsylum

heyya sweety tnxxx so much n hugggggggz! I know u have faith in me. TY!

I thought of that song by Whitney, but I was in such a low mood and I had to put this one for Steve...so goes it. :)







~~Ghost_Particle

heyy Captain Ghosty ur story is a hoot! Good one, keep writing.

**by not shouting our who we are, but by 'doing' who we are.

thats so true!

I cant watch Animal Planet or any other program of Steve anymore. U wouldnt believe it, I just cant watch em. It's shocking how difficult it has become.

ty n hugggggggggggz!




Keshi.

Mumbai Guy said...

Now since the weekend is long gone, am sure your out of "shitty" mess.

About the topic of this post on how do we identify ourselves, well, in 2006, we are no longer place-centric. We are now earthlings. True we need to be proud of our origin but in day-to-day life, it doesn't matter anymore. All depends on what you do, where you are and who you with.

This is actually a nice topic and I might comment more on my blog as post soon.

Sujit said...

ah!.. your road seems to always have some sort twists every now and then to imbalance you?....

Indianism provides the roots and culture based on which you tend to be. But, there is something in you which is need to be indianism!.. just culture and tradition need not bind from being what you are!..

Why dont you go to the festival alone!.. why you want someone!.. sometimes you just enjoy being alone right!.. so you got an oppurtunity!..isn;t so?

saby said...

Gee the Booker Price

heyyyy Ori
do u tink i will make it too ?


fact is there is nothing original under the sun

all dat i have ritten
all dat Keshi has ritten

has already been ritten better by someone else ages ago


we are all plagiarists Ori
u too


((smirks))

Blessed said...

sorry you had a bad weekend...
GOD BLESS STEVE IRWIN.
I sent condolescense to the
Austrailian zoo.
What a spectacular, one of kind,
genuine, caring human being.

saby said...

i was doing a course on art appreciation

i noted down all the points dat made the art instructor go WOWW

in the exams we were asked to appreciate a Rembrandt

i said the very same tings he said about another Rembrandt


i scored A +
hehehehehehe

Keshi said...

~~Akshay

yes ur right.

bravo for acting on it Akshay! :) U gotta...or else ppl will be building houses on top of ya!








~~Brood_Mood

G'day Broody hugggggggz! Long time indeed. I hope ur doing well.


**Loved your post, being oneself to everyone needs quite a bit of courage...

ty and yes it does need some courage but the results r amazing...cos being urself is so much easier and relieving than pretending to be someone else.








~~Prisha0007

tnxx Prisha u taught me something with ur comment.

** sometimes brain shld be given precedence over heart,

I need to work on that. U nailed it! Cos Im always driven by my heart. Im a fool. Alot of the time. ty for bringing it up.

yes being Indian is very much a part of someone's identity. But using it to shape ur life can be costly. Thats what I mean :) TY Prisha!







~~Sittingnut

hello :)

**ppl too often 'brand' themselves with a certain external identity and then try to live by it .which sometimes lead to absurdities.

so true and thats EXACTLY what I meant. And u dun wanna miss urself d u!

thanks so much!








~~Pallavi

** I just wish I was able to tell people when they are wrong. Instead I cut them off completely.

that was me post-last-sat. Now Im free. Just tell em Pallavi. It takes a load off ur mind.








~~Kavi

**The clothing can never become the person ! Just like the books not becoming the cover !!

Terrific examples, ty Kavi!








~~Priya

**Our family root/ tree is very important till we live.

ofcourse. We must preserve it but we should not let that guard us all the time. U know what I mean Priya? :)








~~La_Vida_Loca

**(I feel that coz I lost my best friend earlier ths year

OMG Im so sorry to hear that..HUGGGGGGGZ! May I know what happened to ur friend?








~~Meg

hehe Screw alot of ppl! :):)

**being accepting and proudly wearing the coats of many different traits is very honorable.

indeed.

btw I cant see ur blog too Meg. I have been trying for many days. Did u change into Beta? Well could u plz leave ur site address here...tnxxxx!







~~ME

nods head and gets to the next comment :):)








~~AnonymousBlogger

I like ur intro AB. Cool!

Concert or not, Im not gonna be played anymore, thats for sure.

TY :)







~~Within_Without

heyy WW good one! Love the way u have intro'd urself.

**Like you, I can be different things in different situations and all things in all situations.

spot on!

Ur a gentleman too. Thats my intro on ya :)







~~Alex

Sure mate - ty!








~~Kumar_Chetan

tnxxx Kumar ur a sweety HUGGGGGGGGZ!

** She is not more in touch with me like she used to be. But I am still alive.

huh what happened to her??

Im coming to ur office party in a backless black dress ;-) R ya insured?








~~Harry

ty Harry :)








~~Samuru999

Margie HUGGGGGGGGGZ!

I know it was a very sad day for the whole world yday...9/11 changed the world...and we cant even say we r doing better now...how much of death n destructon have we seen since that awful day. Its a day that changed the world for the worse.

But it also brought good. Alot of ppl like us now live one day at a time...cos we realise even more that life is way too short.

tc n take it easy sweety HUGGGGGGGGGGGGGZ n MWAHHHHHHHZ!








~~Starbender

**It is the fact that U R human, deserve 2 B FREE -- make u'r own decisions. Not live under someone else's dictatorship!

way to go Star! ty :)








~~Kalpana

**But it's the toughest thing to know what r u?

true...but if we stop trying so hard to find out who we r, then we might actually find ourselves easily :)








~~Ektaran (Mahek)

hey wut happened? Im so sorry to hear that. Hope we can help u. So tell us.

and HUGGGGGGGGZ!








~~Jeevan

and we have a very cool Jeevan here :) TY!








~~Twisted_DNA

ty :)


**Now I am a part everything

indeed. why not ha.

Flirting is my daily bread. LOL!

btw I was thinking of that song too but I had to dedicate this one for Steve..I was in a clucky mood u know.








~~Visithra

** but lots of ppl love to live behind a wall blaming it on culture

so darn true! ty girly and hows u?









~~Kautilya

aha :) ty!








~~Harry

Hi again Harry :)

Tantra-Ts...i so want em!

**God is too big to fit into one religion"...and I really believe in it..

HOW TRUE...love it! Get me one na :)








~~Cinderella

OMG look who's here! HUGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGZ!

lol ok I looked like a kindy kid there but Im so happy to see u girl. What happened, where were ya, did u move safely and r u settled now? i was so bored w.o. ya and Im so glad ur bak. I so dun want my friends to go this way. Some have left w.o. ever coming bak. But u r BAKK. That matters alot. Plzzzzzzzzz stay! Will ya??



Keshi.

saby said...

Bull shit BINGO



go here

Keshi said...

~~Lera

**there's nothing greater than Positive thinking in tune with your most treasured values

spot on n danke :)








~~Itchingtowrite

WC Itching n tnxxx!

** unconsciously or otherwise people do tend to introduce themselves usign tehir place of origin or state of origin as a prop.

yes it happens w.o. thinking...so true.








~~Nelly

**Its ok to know your background but you dont have to follow it like the next guy..

rightly stated. Tnxx mate!








~~Vibhor

G'day Vib!

take it easy and stay tuned ;-)








~~Orikinla_Osinachi

G'day Ori hows it going?

tnxxx sooooo much for ur enocuragement. U really give me star status :):) I feel so special hehehe. TY!

Well I dunno abt writing books - dunno if I can stand 10mins of being in one place hehehe. But my blog will stay forever...even after Im gone. I'll never delete it. And I believe that the Internet is a faster and efficient way for ppl ard the world to get to info (even better than books)...so those who come across my blog as they drive past, will read my thoughts and perhaps derive something outta it? :) So that should be sufficient for now. And Ori if u ever feel like publishing another book, do include few of ur fav quotes from my blog..that way it may benefit those who dun blog but read ur great work.

ty n hugggggggggggz!








~~Mr.Evil

hey tnxxx for the advice. Will keep it in mind for sure.

na I aint angry no more...just bummed :)







~~Known_Stranger

it was an instant poem...written in abt 30secs :) Im glad u liked it.








~~Ankit

haha bin laden! well na that person isnt any bin laden - thank God or I'd have my plane hijacked! just a control freak. :)







~~Dinesh

**Originality is the key to uniqueness.

indeed! Makes ALOT of sense.

tnxx Dinesh!








~~Foodie's_Hope

**I raise her with Indian values but NEVER impose on her

Spot on! Thats how my parents brought me up too. Ur girl is lucky to have parents like u.

tnxxx for the encouragement. I'll try hard not to fall apart next time :) HUGGGGGGGGGZ!







~~Niki_Yokota

Mwaackkkkkkzz Niki ;-)

ROFL @sushi!

I wanted to say something related to Japanese and I thought of charming pretty women...cos Japanese women r just that. So beautiful!







~~Alex

wussup Alex?







~~Nikita

huggggggggz Niki n ty!








~~Sharda

peaceful to be one's self isnt it.







~~Ari4u

**Be the first one to adapt with change or risk being left behind

Spot on!

tnxx Ari I'll be ok...duncha worry.








~~Miranda

hey Miranda hugggggggz! So happy to see u here after a very long time. I hope ur doing well.

Mwahhhhhhh!








~~Fuzzbox

that does say alot abt ya ha? :) cool Fuzzy!







~~Samuru999

awww Margie whats wrong? Let me come to ur blog soon. tnxxxx!







~~Terry

Terry hugggggggggies!

**The last description I'd pull out for you would be a puppet on a string - ha ha you are much to animated to be pulled by anybody's strings

lol yes. But u wudnt believe it I can be easily manipulated all cos I just keep quiet...cos I dun wanna fight...and then it all blows up one day. All the pressure that was building up.


**So I just thank the Lord for my life, and for making me the exact way I am

I thank God for women like u!

oh forget abt the lbs...I cant even see em in u...u r a very PRETTY lass! Hugggggggggz babe!



Keshi.

Keshi said...

~~Saby

:) Saby dude!








~~Vivhyd

**btw killing sting rays just cos it killed Steve Irvin is stupidity..

yeah I read abt it. We have all sorts of ppl in this world. Killing Stingrays is certainly not the way to honor someone like Steve! He would be terrified if he knew this. Cos he loved animals. And everytime some animal bit him or spat at him, he always said that it's his fault. That animals dunno what they r doing.


**In a way, it was only matter of time be4 he was killed by something as he - u like it or not - interfered with wild animals' lives..

awwwwwwwww Viv I really wish u didnt say that! It broke my heart. Steve did NOT 'interfere' with animals' lives. He LOVED them more than anyone else did and he showed it more than anyone else did. He built property for animals. He did alot of conservation work. When the camera was off he WAS A GREAT CONSERVATIONIST. Im sorry u thought that way abt him Viv.



Keshi.

Keshi said...

~~Mumbai_Guy

**All depends on what you do, where you are and who you with.

Spot on!

tnxxx MG :)








~~Sujit

G'day Sujit I love ur profile pic!

yes Indianism should not restrict u from being other 'isms :)

Go alone? hmmm great idea. It was a group of us who booked the tickets together and it's a dinner n dance concert this Sat. So i'll be sitting at the same table. Well Im strong. I can cope with a genuine smile. From all ur comments and encouragement, looks like I betta go ha? :) tnxxx Sujit!








~~Saby

Im not a plagiarist Saby. I writ emy won quotes. If I quote someone else, I mention their names. But I know ur a f/t plagiarist lol!








~~Blessed

thats so nice of u to write to the Aus zoo. Huggggggggggz n ty! Steve's void can never be filled. There may be other animal-lovers but not with the same passion, adrenaline and that sense of humor.

God wanted a croc hunter up there I guess.




Keshi.

southpaw said...

The oldman's seriously mad at me i guess, this is the second time he has posted my snap on his page...lolz

@Saby
u dont hv to boil ur blood anymore on me, u won't see me much in the blogworld from now on. But yes i'll be coming to mumbai anyday this month so stock the liquor from now...

Keshi said...

Southy u wont be in blogs no more? WHY?

Keshi.

Jewel Rays said...

:) @ keshi

abt being urself cos it makes it more clear and closer to achieving it then.

Tht is so truee...Thanks for ya comment gurl. really encouraging...

*smilies*

Cheers!

Neers said...

KESHII... the pic was sad... the post was very neat...and so true... we ARE every woman... ! all that is great and all that is low... all that is beautiful and all that is vile... all you need is to be at peace with yourself!!

heyy, be good!

southpaw said...

I ain't going anywhere but won't be that frequent.

Shreemoyee said...

That pic of the doll on the rail track is highly disturbing.

Keshi said...

~~Jewel_Rays

my pleasure Amy!







~~Neer

peace with urself indeed...ty!







~~Southpaw

thats great...as long as u hang ard with us :)







~~Shreemoyee

WC and hey Im sorry if the first pic disturbed ya...it was the face of my mind at the moment I wrote this post...it was a pic of the puppet that cut her strings and now lay lifeless in the play.


Keshi.

Deborah said...

Very well written, and I totally agree with you on it. To just label yourself is doing yourself an injustice. We're so much more than just one thing. People have so many dimensions and facets to them, so when we look at one side, it doesn't mean that thats all there is to them.
There's so much more beyond that which we see and accept.

saby said...

Ori SUXS
Keshi SUXS too


and SOUTH is the king of SUXERS
and AMMU Queen

AnonymousBlogger said...

Well I hope there is an update to this story.

southpaw said...

Now u see keshi how upset sebastian is....

~*. D E E P A .* ~ said...

hmmmmm

but dont miss out on a concert just bcoz of somebody

Within Without said...

Real women deserve a real gentleman, Keshi. It's the only way to be.

Aditi said...

uhh i am running late.. sorry.. I think who decides what the attributes of an indian woman are? and just becuse you are an indian woman doesnt mean you cannot be anything else?
Being a woman is a definition in itself.. but what you make of your womanhood.. well that is upto u.. like all things

Kumar Chetan said...

in my office, the gals are in majority. So U can come in any kind of dress. No issues. Just tell them you have been invite by me and you will find a special place.
ch333r5 lady

Mehak said...

hey keshi am better now...
just those usual arguments with hubby over the weekend...

Yashita said...

*clap clap* this was a wonderful post Keshi:) I loved the way u wrote about each country and about its women and how we are all those things...indeed I am every woman:)

dumbdodi said...

Great post Kesh..true we categorise ourselves..when there isn't a need to, no need to limit ourselves....one of your bests

Autumn Storm said...

People are seldom simple, like how you represented that in this post :-) Good stuff!
And you have me humming 'I'm every woman' :-D

sharda said...

That is so true.It is very hard to define your self.Because we try to bled in what ever culture we live in,some times so much that we loose our real identity.

alias Fleiger said...

It's human tendency to categorize things, and put labels on them. That way we can recognise our packmates. Of course, the thing to remember is that we can change whatever way we want. "It's not our skills but our choices that define us".

And how can you go wrong in belly dancing?

alias Fleiger said...

It's human tendency to categorize things, and put labels on them. That way we can recognise our packmates. Of course, the thing to remember is that we can change whatever way we want. "It's not our skills but our choices that define us".

It is hard to get over death.

And how can you go wrong in belly dancing?

Keshi said...

~~Deborah

G'day Deb!

**People have so many dimensions and facets to them, so when we look at one side, it doesn't mean that thats all there is to them.

very true!








~~Saby

Im so glad u realised that :):)








~~AnonymousBlogger

will do soon :)








~~southpaw

**Now u see keshi how upset sebastian is....

why is he upset?








~~~*. D E E P A .* ~

ur spot on Deepz...will let u know soon ok..tnxxxx!








~~Within Without

**Real women deserve a real gentleman, Keshi. It's the only way to be.

thats so true...ty WW!








~~Aditi

**Being a woman is a definition in itself.. but what you make of your womanhood.. well that is upto u.. like all things

indeed, ty Aditi!








~~Kumar Chetan

**in my office, the gals are in majority.

No wonder u refuse to leave that place lol!







~~Mehak

**hey keshi am better now...
just those usual arguments with hubby over the weekend...

oh ok...take it easy. And Im glad ur ok now...HUGGGGGGGGZ!








~~Yashita

**indeed I am every woman:)

I so know that Yash..and ur a GREAT woman!







~~dumbdodi

**when there isn't a need to, no need to limit ourselves....

so true...no need to do it. Just be.








~~Autumn Storm

**People are seldom simple

thats so true...we often complicate ourselves with all the external jargon dun we!


**And you have me humming 'I'm every woman' :-D

Whitney all the way! nice :)








~~sharda

**Because we try to bled in what ever culture we live in,some times so much that we loose our real identity.

yup...we have to rem that we dun need to define ourselves using external categories. Just be who we r.







~~Fleiger

**It's human tendency to categorize things, and put labels on them.

true..


**Of course, the thing to remember is that we can change whatever way we want. "It's not our skills but our choices that define us".

so true...and that choice we make is who we really r.


**And how can you go wrong in belly dancing?

haha well u CAN go wrong in belly-dancing...if u shake the hips only then its all ok...but if u shake the hips along with the rest of ur body it aint belly-dancing lol!


Keshi.

alias Fleiger said...

I am starting to sound like Dumbledore (not that that is a bad thing).

Ok, so what are they calling that dance? I mean, hip-shaking is belly dance, so whole body shaking would be???

Keshi said...

Fleiger that wud be super-shake-Jelly dance LOL!

Keshi.

White Magpie said...

drop the boundaries. but thats not going to happen is it? but we can start with ourselves. well said in the article. I like ur thoughts.

Known Stranger said...

oh you know so much of variety of woman across the globe. hmm good i got a few things to know about them.

who am i ? if i were to be branded.

I am just a silly creature in earth evolved with other creatures that nature did who finds his way a living in the crowd of human race to perish in the soil with an ability to speak senseless and nonsense that other creatures apart from my species dont understand like i dont understand them

Suresh said...

@Viva
{{What matters is being who you are}} - Well, who you are is the question that is moot.
"be yourself" is an age old clichéd cousin of what you've said above. You've listed a whole bunch of constructions which themselves are nothing short of prejudiced generalizations.
Why? An American is devoid of family love? Or is an Indian not supposed to enjoy sports? You are perpetuating the very element that you're criticising. With all these contradictions I don't see any identity crisis in you, you're clearly 'clear shallow water' - clear yet shallow!

@saby
{{but it dont matter how u die}} - err, it does! I'm happy that he died the way he did. At least now, people won't say things like "the way he was handling the snake/croc, I knew he was going to die on their mouths someday". That would have been so antithetical. I'm gratified that even in his death he has taken a route that is very unique yet modest. In a way, his death embodies his life.

Keshi said...

~~White_Magpie

ty :)







~~Known_Stranger

lol :) great self-interpretation KS, ty!



Keshi.

Keshi said...

~~Suresh

WC Suresh!

**"be yourself" is an age old clichéd cousin of what you've said above.

yes and? what I mean is be what ur istincts r telling u to be. I guess u didnt get that.


**You've listed a whole bunch of constructions which themselves are nothing short of prejudiced generalizations.

haha thats how u saw it Suresh. And it's not necessarily what I meant by those examples. I knew this was coming and Im glad someone pointed that out.Let me explain.


**Why? An American is devoid of family love?

did I say that? U interpreted my example in that manner and I cant help that. What I have used in those examples r in fact MAJOR traits of women in this world. Surely u dun see MOST Indian women in bars d u? It's the MAIN cultural characteristics I have laid out in the examples. Not prejudices at all!


**Or is an Indian not supposed to enjoy sports?

haha now u sound bitter. Get a grip. I did not mean it in that way. My ans is above for this Qn too.


**You are perpetuating the very element that you're criticising.

NOPE I disagree. Now that I have explained what I meant in this post, u should take that judgement abt me back. Cos Im certainly not copping it.


**With all these contradictions I don't see any identity crisis in you, you're clearly 'clear shallow water' - clear yet shallow!

huh pretty brave a judgement about someone u havent even known b4 this post. Suresh did u get hurt by any of the statement I wrote in this post? Dont take it so personally. Besides I think u r shallow than anyone of us here cos u jump to pretty big conclusions abt people w.o. clearly understanding what's been written! And ur pretty UNCLEAR too.


**At least now, people won't say things like "the way he was handling the snake/croc, I knew he was going to die on their mouths someday".

Suresh would u stop disrespecting the dead? It's ugly. U sound like u had a bad day and please dont vent out ur frustration here! Cos I dun even know u and u have no right to speak abt Steve in that manner. Have u done anything worthwhile for ur country as much as Steve did for Aus and the world? So U can just zip it and thanks but NO THANKS!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

btw Suresh who cares what few losers say abt Steve. U shoulld only worry abt what u think abt Steve. So yeah u didnt have to bring in that kind of stuff that ppl say abt him. It's all over - he's dead so stop bringing bakk other ppl's puke in here.

Keshi.

saby said...

@suresh

I'm gratified that even in his death he has taken a route that is very unique yet modest. In a way, his death embodies his life.




BULL SHIT
no one but a fool enters crocodile infested woaters

Suresh said...

Ok back to basic deconstruction

{{yes and? what I mean is be what ur istincts r telling u to be. I guess u didnt get that.}} - What does instinct mean? Or what is an instinct in general? Can a person who has never driven before "instinctively" hit the breaks when an animal (or whatever) runs in to your car? Oh, how can a person drive if he/she doesn't know how to drive, let alone stopping the car in time? - is that your question?
That's exactly the point. What you call instincts are nothing but social constructions that you internalized over a period of time that it, from the conscious then to the subconscious, has entered a part of your mind that's called a instinct. So, we are not just born with instincts, we develop them according to our environment (or to put it a little theoretically, habitus). And in numerous cases we destroy/suppress several instincts (ex: no matter how beautiful a woman/man is, your sexual energy does not get triggered "instinctively"--as we are born--if the person is of an "inappropriate" social relation to you).

So if you're a "victim" of American pop-culture, your "instinctive" reaction to pizza would probably be "whoa that's a lot of calories". The reaction is not you, even your instinct is not you, for 'you' do not exist. You are a personification of your circumstances and surroundings and to an extent, genes (and genes know nothing about calories or good/bad sports). So when you say "be yourself", all it means is, "continue to personify whatever you personified before that moment" - which need always be right or wrong (the nature of the embodiment and how you judge 'right' or 'wrong' are debatable). So your statement, in its essence, is pointless. It's like a weatherman's prediction that goes "it may or may not rain today!”

{{Why? An American is devoid of family love? - "did I say that?"}} - No you made an insinuation that Greeks are more "attached" to their families - which has no anthropological/theoretical evidence. It's how Bush ducks out: "We never said Saddam Hussain was responsible for 9/11". Sure he never said that, he was just saying "Saddam has assisted the terrorist attacks of 9/11". Pardon me, logical deduction supersedes semantic precision.

{{What I have used in those examples r in fact MAJOR traits of women in this world.}} - What you used in your examples are stereotypes that are euphemistically referred to as culture. Had this post been a casual, humorous anecdote I wouldn't have used the word 'prejudiced'. But since it had tone was relatively "serious", the post was rather shallow and prejudiced indeed. Of course you can always hide under the mask "that's the way you see it" - a universal text book example of rhetorical escapism.
I can look at a naked a man in the middle of a busy road and go "That's outrageous! what is he thinking? crazy lunatic"; for which he can respond "Outrageous? I'm just trying to show that a man needs to get in to touch with this natural self and the world as it is, it's a metaphorical connection that I draw to propagate selflessness and peace. If you think it's crazy, 'U interpreted my expression e in that manner and I cant help that'". So go ahead, employ more escapist contrivances. You say what you want to say. What you say, regardless of what you mean, means something independently (a naked man is a naked man).

{{t's the MAIN cultural characteristics I have laid out in the examples.}} - What you call "cutular characteristics" are nothing but transitory behavioural traits (which are influenced by several elements including, but not limited to, media, family, memes, financial set up etc.).

{{Surely u dun see MOST Indian women in bars do u?}} - I don't see women in India driving SUVs either. I can tell you tonnes of other things that you cannot see a lot of women in India doing. There are several reasons for that; economic status being one of those, very significant one at that. And talking about women in bars: women from the socially wealthy or "upper class" can be seen in all page 3 parties and other social get-togethers on par with men. If culture is the factor that stops Indian women from going to bars, I wouldn't see any "Page 3" personality that is a woman. Or we should probably take it as rich Indian women have no culture (or that theirs is more "westernised").
Contrarily, women folk can be seen in many temples involved in all kinds of "sexually arousing" postures (sometimes along with men). Historical records say that women had to pose in those postures for several hours everyday in order have them sculpted. Now this can be generalized as "Ancient India women were horny sluts". I wonder if that was our culture. I wonder if those women represent all women of that time (not that there's anything wrong with that).
Another example: all poor people have certain food habits, if food habits is an indicator of culture, then poverty defines culture (at least for a lot of people in India). So, maintaining their culture would probably mean they should continue to be poor. In that sense "be yourself" would mean "be poor, always!".
What is my point?
Culture is not as tangible as it may seem, if it was tangible it is not as observable, if it was observable it is still not generlizable (regardless of how many people ape it), if it is generalized let it not be done loosely (like it’s done in your post).

{{huh pretty brave a judgement about someone u havent even known b4 this post.}} - I've read your posts before, just didn't feel like deconstructing any of it, and even in this one I didn't do it so well (because deconstruction takes a lot of time and engagement). Even otherwise, a few judgments can be made based on a few traits (a naked guy is naked guy - whether you've seen him before or not). Nevertheless, I didn't pass that judgment about you as an individual but as the author this particular post. And even taking your "explanations" in to account, I cannot but stand by what I had said initially. Your views in this topic are still shallow.

{{Suresh did u get hurt by any of the statement I wrote in this post? Dont take it so personally.}} - As an academician I take nothing personally. I tend be forthright and critical about theoretical flaws in write-ups that try to carry a sociological message (whether intended or not). This post of yours was one of those and I've pointed to a few, briefly.

{{Besides I think u r shallow than anyone of us here cos u jump to pretty big conclusions abt people w.o. clearly understanding what's been written!}} - Still, a naked man is naked man!


On a different tone (not note)...

{{Suresh would u stop disrespecting the dead?...
...Cos I dun even know u and u have no right to speak abt Steve in that manner}} - Just for the record: I didn't say anything bad about Steve, in fact I have lot respect for him, you can check my blog post that I made on this death, if you had any doubts.

Now, to what you've said: What are you trying to say? If I knew you I have every right to speak about Steve? :)). ennama solra!. What's the with the whole "you hve no right!" BS? Actually I have every right to say anything about anyone, dead or alive. Except in a few countries, you can actually, rightfully praise Hitler for what he did (many people do). You can deny that the holocaust ever happened - all under the name "freedom of speech".

Fine, let us assume that I said something that I did not have the right say - what are you going to do about it? Prosecute me?

About dead people: Dead people do not get "immune to criticisms" boon when they die. Steve has always had his critics and they'll continue to criticize his past (while expressing grief about this death). Those are two different things. To take the Hitler example; he cannot be praised or not spoken about just becaust he is dead. If we applied your logic there won't be a faculty called history!

{{U sound like u had a bad day and please dont vent out ur frustration here!}} - naah, kid (yeah with maximum condescension) I didn't have a bad day, I enjoy posting this kind of stuff. But yeah, I'm sure I made your day pretty bad, already. By the time you're done reading this post, I would have probably ruined your whole week (ok fine, make it 3 days).
{{ Have u done anything worthwhile for ur country as much as Steve did for Aus and the world?}} – Do you really want to know or is it just a rhetorical question? If you assumed-- “huh this guy is just some empty weirdo, I can corner him with this exceptionally intelligent question that’s never been asked by anyone except the 4 smartest people in the world (one of which is me)”—you’ve got the wrong number. I can actually give you a long list of things, interested?
What are you suggesting anyway? People who haven’t done anything “worthwhile” for the world are expendable?

PS. I know this "comment" puts your ego in a slingshot, stretches it beyond its threshold; shoots it high to get it as close to the Sun, to have it burning before it spirals down to hit the ground. A small request: either publish my comment in its entirety before you split it to fit your replies or don’t post it all and save your ego.

Of course, whether it appears here or not, it will appear in my blog.

Keshi said...

Suresh u might as well direct me to a library. too long. will read when I have time for the lecture.

Keshi.

Suresh said...

@saby

{{"no one but a fool enters crocodile infested woaters"}} - Columbus was a fool in the eyes many Europeans because he was sailing towards the horizon and eventually slip off Earth's edge (well actually he was a fool in a sense, he thought, in the beginning of the journey, the Earth was flat too).

So yeah, if you don't have the knowledge or the skills to do what appears to be dangerous, the person who does it is a fool indeed. Who else is a fool, an astronaut?

{{Suresh u might as well direct me to a library. too long. will read when I have time for the lecture.}} - Yeah it's better if you go to the library sometime. Oh! you don't have the time to read it now? man I got snubbed! What a witty reply. I spend 20 minutes in typing a comment and she says she doesn't have time to read it. Can anyone possibly come with such a sharp and clever response? Dumb as I am, I would take your word for truth :D.

Keshi said...

Suresh I was being honest..>I dont have the time to sit and go through that book right now. I will but, I promise. thanks anyways!

Keshi.

anup.777 said...

You Go Girl!!!!

very well said, keshi!!!

Keshi said...

ty Anup :)

Keshi.

Known Stranger said...

hmmm greata ? hmm even if i say stupid you have a great heart to say great interpratation

Dalicia said...

hahahahaha anyways, i've been stereotyped by all sorts of people.

even my own nationality. so what...
they can think whatever. but i know, i'm not a generic brand.

Keshi said...

tnxx KS :)


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Good on ya Elaine ;-) U rock!




Keshi.

Neha said...

loooovee that song!

and steve...i don really like him!I think he was very cold...maybe living with the reptiles made him that.

whateva!!!

Keshi said...

Neha sweety Steve was never cold...r u talking abt Steve Irwin???

Keshi.