Friday, December 14

Bloke Talk

Ok my office guys were really sweet, 10 of them (all Aussies), and just 2 chicks (myself and one other Aussie girl). The night-out was fantastic! A little bit of Vodka and great mates, made me feel relaxed and happy. And you too...for all the kind words you left for me in the last post...they REALLY helped. And Darsh thanks tons for your caring txt msgs! You have no idea how awesome I feel every morning reading all your comments here...it feels like the fairies have visited me overnight and left gold-dustish trails for me to revel in. Thank you so much for being in my life, you guys just rock!


Few friends here wanted to know how the Drinks went - the details and all. Well, we met up with some ex-workmates of our company as well...so I got to meet some guys whom I haven't seen in yonks. That was the highlight of the evening. There used to be an Irish guy who worked with us who left our company few years ago...he came along as well and I was really thrilled to see him. Cos I really like this guy...he's so very funny, every word he speaks makes you wanna ROFL, and he's a very smart guy too. There was another ex-workmate who I used to be in love with (one-sided love alert!). He has the most amazing blue eyes I have ever seen! He came along too and I was just jaw-dropped all night long, my tongue wagging that way and drooling heavily, and then I got so annoyed with myself etc etc Keshi o behave! So we all chatted and laughed and caught up with each others' lives. The only other chick who was present was also an ex-workmate and she told us that she recently got married...in Hawaii too, now that's just WAAAWW isnt it! She then asked about my love life and I was speechless for a while and then I just laughed. Anyways guess what the first topic one smart dude started on...guess? guess? Well it was about ex-partners. I was like 'you mofo you had to bring that up' in my head. He started telling us about a recent incident where he ran into his ex and wanted to dig a hole and disappear (he must have done evil things to her oooo!). I swear I didn't mention my story to anyone and I was wondering where this topic was coming from hmmmm. Tys I was thinking of your comment just then...:). Anyways, I kept quiet and then the topic changed to recent Aus politics, and then to work, old bosses, Xmas, IBM, office gos etc etc. Anyways, thank God the Bon-Jovi lookalike didn't turn up cos if he did, I'd have passed out without even having to drink! btw I didn't drink past 2 glasses of Vodka..that's me. I don't like to drink alot, neither can I take in alot. Tipsy runs naturally in my blood you see (no surprises there!). All in all the night was just so refreshing, I had a very good time.


Now there is this single guy in my office (recently turned single cos he went through a divorce last year after a brief marriage), who seems to like me alot. He too came along last night. I know he's a good mate but he tends to pass hints at me...hints that suggest he likes me alot and hints that seem to indirectly ask if there's any chance of a date with him on my radar **rolling eyes**. I quite conveniently play dumb with his hints hehe, not to hurt him or not cos I don't like him, but simply cos we work together and I don't wanna date someone from work. I'm not the office-flirt kinda girl. Also, it'll mess up alot of things and worse, I don't wanna go home tell my mum I'm seeing a divorced guy...she'll faint and never really recover LOL! Don't get me wrong, my mum is a very broad-minded woman...she doesn't judge people based on failed relationships. Actually it's not even my mum, I think it's me. I think I've become a closed personality when it comes to love. And I have a subtle fear of divorced men...don't anyone have that fear initially? I mean, especially if you have never been married before, you do tend to think that someone who got a divorce would be alot harder to push yourself to start dating. Am I wrong? I don't know...there's this psychological barrier that sort of stops you from thinking about someone who's got a recent divorce, as a potential partner. It makes you wonder about all the WHYs of the divorce and whether he's being honest with what he's saying etc. But that doesn't mean he's a bad a guy, no ways...this dude is a genius in our office, and is a very sweet and decent bloke and a wonderful friend. I used to know his ex-wife too...she used to come around for office drinks/parties. They are both very sweet people, so I don't understand why they broke up, but what he told me was that she got bored with him. Just like that? hmmm...do people get divorced just cos they get bored with each other? LOL sounds funny doesn't it? I don't judge anyone from their past relationships either, but a divorce does worry me a bit...not that I don't make mistakes myself but there's something that stops me from forgetting that he just got a divorce...WHY or WHY! It probably isn't even him. It may be cos I'm so used to being single now running around wild and cooking in my knickers...maybe I don't wanna date anyone anymore...I really don't know! So amidst vague romantic signalling from him, Keshi refuses to give him the green light. She's at an eternal red, cos she thinks why start something that doesn't bring out the 'right' feelings in her...atleast not yet. Am I a narrow-minded cow? Am I a selfish 'spoilt princess' of this modern era? Am I really being a wuss here? Am I a total jerkette? Am I a completely lost and confused bimbo? You tell me. Be honest ok!


And yeah, since he lives closer to me and we are on the same train line, when I was getting ready to go home after Drinks, he very politely asked me if I'd like to have some company on the way back home. I said no probs at all cos he's a decent guy, and he didn't have more than 3 drinks so it was safe to have him around - he could be my bodyguard too hehe. And as I was saying my goodbyes to everyone, he put his right arm gently around my shoulder and told his other mate, we are getting married you know. HUH I didnt know that jebus! :) He said that just for fun, I know. But I think that was also another hint...another one of those indirect messages. Am I a cold-hearted bitch who don't give a good guy a chance? Is that why I'm eternally looking for love? Am I so used to being that single diva for so long that I ignore love-signals by my own choice? Am I looking for something that don't exist? Am I gonna end up as a wrinkly old saggy-boobed 109yr old still-single granma still trying to fit into Victoria's Secret goodies that no one wiill ever see? Or am I just desperate for some loving? You tell me.



Have a good one guys!



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Blessed said...

I don't fear divorced men. It happens and yes, way too common.
I thought it was a bold statement that he admitted that his ex got bored with him! Wow!
People get together and sometimes they can't genuinely work it out.
Some people get married and don't realize what they have gotten into.
Some people get divorced for wrong and right reasons.
It could happen to anyone.
Mistakes happen.
Love dies.
People don't want to take the chance and try to work it out.
Sometimes they can.
Sometimes they can't.
Sooooooooo many reasons for divorce.
Obviously, bored is one of them.
Then there is cheating, financial problems, etc, etc.
Some people feel life is too short to be tied to this person that they married...this person who has changed or maybe they have changed.
I commend some people for divorcing. I will admit I have been disappointed in others BUT overall, I don't find myself looking wearily at someone that has been divorced. I try to see to their heart, their mind, their soul.

George said...

If you're not comfortable follow your instincts. As for dating a divorced guy ... if the separation or divorce has been very recent I would stay away as well (from a girl). You don't want to be the temporary rebound.

Otherwise divorced guys are the same as never married guys ... you could have 2 great people get divorced because they just ... were too great for each other?

You'll be fine young lady.

Nadim said...

yes, you are a wuss. you are afraid. you want something but you dont want to take risk! unless you are really lucky, theres good chance you will never find anything worth. But i dont think you will remain a single 109 yr old granny trying to it in victoria secrets. more than a good chance your family will get you married well before that.
but may be the reason you havent given green signal to this guy is that you arent really attracted to him! but if you are, you are a fool not to take a chance.

and ya, howyudoin?

Stud said...

hmmm, i think i should save the comments on this one, keshisterness:)

KAYLEE said...

HAHAHAHHAHAH HOW ARE YOU? I have beePn doing great! starting to wonder if that is something I can start to be happy about???????????? just been busy! and a little sick with a cold but, that will be gone soon;P

vitruvian said...

i guess i quite obvious that u are afraid...and at least currently are being a wuss...maybe not a jerkette...
but go ahead..take that risk..
no one's going to stop u from cooking in ur knickers...!! ;)

divorce...well not judging friends because of failed relationships is one thing....
but in a potential mate..u don;t WANT to forget these things...its not wrong...ur preservation instincts are keeping u wary..thats a good thing..

maybe just get over the prejudice if u like him enuff...

nah...don't worry about the 109 old wannabe victoria secret model...
u'll do oka...
take care..cheers!

Trundling Grunt said...

I don't think you're a wuss. It obviously doesn't feel right - take your time and see if you like him enough to take it gently.

Don't worry about why he got divorced - could be any number of reasons. Treat him like any single guy and see what you think. Single guys can be boring too.

J said...

I'm not a love guru, but I think love happens when it has to happen, looking for it won't really help.

Until then make the best use of your singlehood, it's only a matter of time Kesh.

Jay said...

"btw I didn't drink past 2 glasses of Vodka"

2 is my Vodka limit too. .... At breakfast. LOL ;-)

No dating coworkers! Seriously! Dating a coworker is always a recipe for disaster.

Unless we were to be working the same office. Then, that would be the exception to the rule. ;-)

Coco said...

ALWAYS listen to your inner self!!

*It seems that you already have "warning" signs blaring LOUDLY to stay away from this co-worker... TRUST your instrincts : )

Hugs & Blessings

ps
you are NOT a wuss, nor a jerkette!! be true to yourself...

Southpaw unplugged said...

Night out, drinks...i m feeling jealous right now...I had a full night out, came back at 6 in the morning, my brains r still in a frozen condition, my body numb and my clothes full of dust.

Iceman said...

Lolz...
good ol rule.. never fall for someone at work!

but i do mess around some chicks at work! It would b very obvious in my latest post! lolz

Nadine said...

I'm glad you had a good time. Remember you are a special young lady, beautiful and intellegent. There is someone out there for you that will treat you with love and respect. Someone you can love and trust. Just keep your eyes open, and continue to be wise.

Margie said...

Hi Sweetie
Our company left a little while ago.
It was a lovely evening!
Good food and good company!
The only thing that wud have made it better if u had been here!
Now that wud BE JUST WONDERFUL!

I'll have to come back later and read this post again, and then I can comment as I'd like!
I just kinda skimmed it right now.

Have a lovely weekend darling'

HUGGGGGGGGGZ!

Margie.
P.S I will reply to ur email before
I go to bed tonite.
Nitey nite hun!

Trinnie said...

keshi u think too much! u shudnt be asking us what you are. you know urself best and its not being right to the person u are. wat u feel, think is all right. i feel u shud stop thinking so much about being a single diva because that way life might not get the chance to surprise u, catch u unawares. i know we all need some loving and we all need someone special, but i feel sometimes its ok if we don't have a certain relationship. im not wronging u in anyway, i just felt concerned keshi, cause ive been reading your thoughts on this blog for quite a while now.

take care!

PS: sent u a mail! :)

Amey said...

Come on Keshi, I don't think any guy you will date would mind you cooking in knickers ;)

anks said...

My God.... so many questions!!!

Ok Keshi... u sure are confused.... :)


But you know what, if u feel uncomfortable about a divorced guy, don't date him... and yeah, if u be cautious abt the past relationship and why it failed etc, its a good thingie.... because in hindi, there is a saying that goes

"taali ek haath se nahin bajti"

meaning you can't clap with one hand... so the gu wud've contributed to the reasons of the divorce, rigt? And i doubt he is going to be completely honest about that right at the beginning.... wat say?

uhhh.... am i being a preachy grandma today or what?

anits said...

hi keshi...actually doesnt matter he is divorcee or wat...its just that how u taking things... marry to someone who really love you and can take care of you...yeah i knw its difficult to knw whter someone is mr right for us or not...hmmmm difficult ah? anyway keshi...tcare n may u find someone who really takes care of u...coz u r a sweet gal!

Nora said...

Ha! I like Amey's comment...

Just remember, it takes two people to get divorced and at the moment, you're only hearing HIS version of events...

That said, I think it's a smart move not to date anyone from work. I hope you keep us posted on this little "iason" Miss K. x

Nora

Jeevan said...

Glad to know about your meet with mates and sharing there moments in party. Happy weekend too keshi.

It’s our mind to decide and that to accept by our well wishers would extend the love and life of satisfaction or else that life will struggle to move in emotion.

general_boy said...

she got bored with him = she met someone else while they were together.

Assuming that's the real story...

Anyway... I have two freinds now on marriage No.2. No doubt they married to young, but at the same they seemed compatable to everyone. No-one took sides after... it just happens. You can never really know the dynamic between two married people, and what the unerlying reasons are when it comes unstuck.

All I know is they are happier than they ahve ever been... and admit to learning a lot. In some ways Keshi, this guy may actually be a better bet because of that. :)

Mal said...

Love just happens. No planning.

shooting star said...

nice read.....u must have enjoyed lots!!.........
i think u are just a bit scraed.....it only takes one good guy to dispel all our fears.....
am having a nice time kesh!!!!...the wedding was nice...will mail u pics soon!!!......

Alok said...

Ohh People do get bored and just like that .. no reasons .. no explanation and "the fizz is no more there" is something tht rumours the air between them ...

Divorce or otherwise .. honestly it doesn't matter ... I have lost interest in people itself ... like myself everyone exists .. so I really dont bother myself much either with myself or with others ...

atleast the good part is when I come to ur blog I am dirt honest and before I go on to reveal anything more abt myself ... u take care and chow

Alok

c e e d y said...

hey,
first of all you are spunky, I like the way you write.....just kinda got introduced to your e - existence so wont have any suggestions or personal comments as yet.
Would like to understand you by reading more :)
just one little thing that i will love to say though....stop over analysing yourself so much - you are losing precious time here - follow your heart and not your mind.....in love logic doesnt work :) (my 2 cents )

Pijush said...

Keshi... thats not right. you are thinking too much and trying to make some assumptions, logics from your past exp.
Any relation should be independent from the past events or precognitions. What I believe is the compatibility matters. Two good person may not stay together while two relatively worse can live happily, though I am not that good in this subject.

IBM: Do u work there, Then I may know some of your colleagues :-)

Jeevy said...

glad u had a good time!
don't ya worry kesh, ur a swthrt
u will find ur man soon! :)

peace & love
Jeevy

Rahul Rad said...

The penultimate line packed some punch young lady. Iam not a regular visitor here (sorry!) but one thing that I regularly find here is how the quality of the posts always heads north!
take care!
R

Ps said...

Just go with you gut feel, Keshi. if something is holding you back, listen to that voice. It is usually right. (Don't know if you have read this book called 'Blink' by Malcolm gladwell--Its a non-fiction.It talks about we make decisions--it is really an interesting read)

homo escapeons said...

Just admit to yourself that you don't want to be in a relationship, atleast not right now.
You like being single and free from all of the hysteria and mindgames that are part of being involved in a personal relationship.

Unfortunately someone has apparently tainted your past experience with so much grief that you are willing to forgo the good things that accompany the tedious details of dating. He or they must have really been brutal.

Let's face it, if you are going to stay single stop trying to justify it. If that is your decision then I respect it. I don't think that it is weird and I don't think that you need to scrutinize every aspect of it. It's just how you feel right now.

Whatever works. If you were an Asexual (you're obviously not ghey) I would luv ya just the same. Although I think that it is therapeutic to discuss your feelings, just don't look to anyone offering some miraculous advice on how to live your life.
We are all fumbling through it at our own speed.

You are being a great you. Look at all of these people who love sharing their lives with you.

There isn't a single soul out here who doesn't want the very best for you. We all know how big hearted, gorgeous, and bright you are, and we all know that you could have your pick of partners at the drop of a hat.

I suppose that most of us are expecting Mr (close enough) Right to show up on your blog anyday...and we'll tear him to bits if he does anything wrong HAHA..anyway whenever he shows up you'll know. But it's going to be up to you.

Relax, you're fabulous.

Dawn....सेहर said...

Good to hear about your party and I guess its festive time and dont miss the opportunity to celebrate and be happy :)
About the guy...I would say with an open mind you should listen to both sides (since you mentioned you know his ex- too), and then you can judge and decide! As often I have seen divorced men aren't that bad infact they are much matured and understanding with the first relationship failure so you never know!
Don't think of being single ...you will get someone who will love you till the last breath :) amen
huggz to you my dear
Cheers

Milf Gone Wild said...

I'm not the office-flirt kinda girl.
Oh Keshi I wish I was as sensible as you. I am the office-flirt kinda girl and my lusts are too strong and I have dived in at the deep end. Help!!

AmitL said...

Hi,Keshi-thanks for a great report on the party.The recently turned single guy is intriguing.Even I wonder- do people get divorced just because one of them 'gets bored'?Or,do we read that as 'found someone else'?

*Am I a narrow-minded cow? Am I a selfish 'spoilt princess' of this modern era? ..... You tell me. Be honest ok!*

Nope-I don't think so-none of those...based on some past experience(s),you're now sensible and level-headed,and probably don't just want to rush into a relationship which you'd regret later.

So,if you're just not getting the right vibes from people-you know,the kind which makes the bells ring,so to speak- just hang on and wait.:)

Cheers and have a nice weekend.

AmitL said...

Err,yes,the pics accompanying the post are deadly-especially the cool 'red' kitchen one.*smiles at the idea*

Pri said...

well quite a honest post i must say...we all know it requires courage to say something u really think even at the cost of (as some ppl put it) seeming like a wuss...
but thn dont u feel these ppl are judging u too much???
well but thn again rnt u doing the same when it comes to your divorced friend? :)
all i have to say is tht, sometimes ppl have their reasons and being seperated or divorced dosent neccesarily mean tht the person is difficult to get along with...its just tht maybe at some point they felt letting go was best for both and as i always say, we dont really know the bite unless we are wearing the shoe...:)
often relationships dont work out...so why are divorced ppl seen any different than ppl who have suffered broken relationships...
if the former is judged and labelled 'difficult to put up with' so shud be the latter isnt it?? i mean why does the 'marriage' tag make all the difference??
ppl fall in love, get into a relationship and fall out of love ...so why are only those ppl who went ahead and legalised their relationship in matrimony and perhaps then realised tht 'things have changed' blamed???is it because they hurried things and got committed when in love tht they ought to suffer for not living upto it??
then wht bout those ppl who backed off from relationships? arnt they pretty much the same???
so there...tht means thers hardly neone left then...leaving only the choice of remaining single thruout ones life jus because one is too judgemental...
im not saying tht divorced ppl are as easy to put up with as single ppl ...all im saying is single people are equally difficult to put up with...hahaha...:p (dont strangle me please please)..
think about it? might just make sense :)


take care!
and keep rocking...

Jim said...

its OK to be desperate for some loving
I am too

Jim said...

u r divorced too
when u r in love with a man for a long time
and it dont work out

u r divorced too

Deepak Gopi said...

Alcohol is bad for health.
Good day

der Bergwind said...

i don know wat ur.. save ur confused/honest/brave/dreamy/apprehensive/optimistic/sceptical/emotional/cautious/u-wanna-date/u wanna-not-date/but-u-still-wanna-take-a-chance/outwardly/secretive/just-let-go/like.... totally careless.. or mite be just-too-careful...

hope u get the tick on the rite one there :) cheerz to the drink!!

priya said...

Looks like someone is having loads of fun. Things just happen inside the heart Keshi. It will happen to you too.

Aaarti said...

hey Gurl

i simply love the way you write.. had me reading every word~~

As for talking about love.. i know for a fact, it simply happens.. no signals, no "beeep beep, ur falling in love"..nor do we really realise who we are falling for.. so, just be urself, and dontcha worry about the others.. life am sure has plenty of gr8 things in store for u gurl..

have a fun lovely weekend~
and relax... dont think too much ;)

Bla said...

You should fear a divorced man only if you don't know him well... which is in most cases, I presume. :)

Helen said...

Hey Keshi baby, go with your gut, I know you usually do, and it's a good rule of thumb. If he had been divorced a year or two, and didn't work with you, then yeah, I would say that maybe you should give a guy a chance (at the very least, you might get a dinner date or two), but two red flags before you even know him?! sister, listen to your heart, when a good man comes along, your heart is going to say Keshi! set aside your reservations and let's Gooooo!

Paul Champagne said...

Maybe you are being a little too picky ... nahhh

When the right one comes around, you'll know it. Don't fear that it may take a while, people who marry in their 30's and 40's stay married 8 times longer than those that get married too young.

toby said...

Hi there!

He said "she got bored with him"! I think that's the problem, Keshi; not his divorce. Your subconscious is flashing warning signs. If his ex-wife was bored with him after a short time, how long before he makes you climb the walls.

(Of course, wall climbing can be fun with the right partner! Might even be fun with him, briefly ;)

...cooking in your knicks? Yummy.

Keshi said...

I agree with every word u said Blessed. Def its not the marital status of a person that we should look into...it's his/her heart/soul. U r fantastic!

I know even a single man could be as secretive as a divorced man can be, and a divorced man could be as interesting and honest as a single man can be. But when someone who's recently got a divorce approaches u in a romantic manner, u do wonder initially dun u...:) And thats what I was talking abt sweetie. If he had been divorced for yonks, thats alright...but its pretty recent and sometimes I wonder if I mite end up being the temp rebound, just as George stated. Thats all :)

Ur a very sensible and beautiful person Blessed. Ur comment made me grow in ways I cant even tell u. Its amazing how a comment from someone I hvnt even met can make me think and grow in few seconds! It was that profound. ty so much n HUGGGGGGGZ!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

I really like what u said George...thats what I was thinking abt too...that I cud end up being the temp rebound. Its really not his divorced status that worries me...it's how RECENT it was, that worries me.


**You don't want to be the temporary rebound

Spot on! I think he should rest a while b4 he gets on to another r'ship...cos its too soon to be emotionally involved with another woman...and a pretty CRAZY one at that too LOL!



**you could have 2 great people get divorced because they just ... were too great for each other?

so well-said George! ty for enlightening me on that one.

U guys r making me THINK in the right direction, Im so blessed to hv u all here. HUGGGGGGGGGZ!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

Hey Nadim HOW R U? I came to ur blog so many times and was so worried abt the long silence. U ok? Thank God ur bak!


**ur a wuss

LOL thanks for being so honest!


** you want something but you dont want to take risk! unless you are really lucky, theres good chance you will never find anything worth.

jeez that really made me freak out! :) Nadim tho u may think I really WANT something, the truth is I DONT. D u think I WANT this guy badly? Not at the moment :)
Abt me never finding love, Im really not worried abt that. As u know, Im someone who's totally independent and I can live all my life single if I had to..no worries at all. But having someone to share my life wud be great...if it happens. And I was wondering if I'm kicking all my chances away..thats all. But deep in my heart, and in my instincts, it tells me that I hvnt met the ONE. So thats why Im having 2nd thoughts abt someone right?

Cos if u read my Mr.Darcy posts in Jan this year, u wud know I DO give love a chance...I did go out with him and it was him who dumped me based on some stupid Indian theory of matrimony. So really, I dun think Im the wuss here...its the men I meet! Scaredy cats. LOL!


Anyways thanks for ur honest opinion Nadim!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

Nah Stud, I think u SHOULD defend urself here. I mean I'd love to hear ur point of view, as a freshly divorced guy. What say?


Keshi.

Keshi said...

Kayls there r loads of things u can be HAPPY abt, if u really stop spending time on thinking abt the sad things in ur life. Well thats how I've been living for a while..and it works :)

HUGGGGGGGGGGZ!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

Vitruvian tnxx!

**i guess i quite obvious that u are afraid...and at least currently are being a wuss

:) I guess it seems like that but I really dont think Im being a wuss here...and Im not saying that just so that I feel good. I said that cos I realised (after alot of comments here) that Im really being 'cautious' here, cos the guy just got the divorce...and that means he's still not over the emotional baggage that comes with a divorce. So for him to think of a fresh r'ship, I'd say thats not the right path for him...he needs time to settle all the stress of it b4 starting to love someone else. Dun u think? :)



**no one's going to stop u from cooking in ur knickers

haha yes!


**ur preservation instincts are keeping u wary..thats a good thing

yes and thats what I was saying to u at the start of this comment. Glad u think that way too. tnxx!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

heyya Trunds ty!

**I don't think you're a wuss. It obviously doesn't feel right - take your time and see if you like him enough to take it gently.

THANKS! Atleast someone thinks Im sane. :)


yeah I agree...single guys can be PRETTTTTY boring!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

Jono ur words should be engraved in Gold! ty, ur spot on abt LOVE.


Keshi.

Keshi said...

Hey Jay!

**2 is my Vodka limit too. .... At breakfast

HAHAHAHA! And wuts for lunch mate?


**Unless we were to be working the same office. Then, that would be the exception to the rule

LOL u cheeky person! :):) Ur cute.



Keshi.

Keshi said...

Hey Coco ty sweetz!

I know...he needs to settle down a bit cos it's too soon for him to start a r'ship. I think thats what Im worried abt..not that he's divorced, but cos its just too soon.


**you are NOT a wuss, nor a jerkette!! be true to yourself...

awww ty for having so much faith in me...HUGGGGGGGGGGGGGZ!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

Southy no need to be J...u had a good time too right? :)

Keshi.

Keshi said...

HAHAHA Iceman! So ur the office flirt who pervs at all the chicks?




Keshi.

Keshi said...

tnxx Nadine thats some pretty good advice. U r so wise my dear!



Keshi.

Keshi said...

Margie I just replied to ur email. I will reply in detail soon ;-)


**The only thing that wud have made it better if u had been here!


awww that meant alot to me! ty sweetz HUGGGGGGGGGGGGZ!


U hv a good one ok!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

aww Trinnie tnxx hun! I know u truly CARE abt me...I do.


** you know urself best and its not being right to the person u are

thats right. But getting my friends here to comment on this made me really THINK wise...and Im glad alot of ppl didnt think Im a wuss. :) I know that Im not a wuss but I wanted to know how I portrayed myself to all of u too. Cos all of u hv been reading my innermost thoughts here for a while...so u'd be the best ppl to tell me how I portray to the outside world. Ur opinion matters. Thats why I asked :)


I hvnt read ur email yet..but dun worry, I never misunderstand my greatest friends, friends like u. MWAH! I shall read n reply to ya soon ok. tnxx :)


keshi.

Keshi said...

LOL Amey good one!

Keshi.

KAYLEE said...

YEP I REALIZE THAT NOW ;p

BUMBLE!!! said...

I know how tough it is to have to play to parents expectations with things, but that said, you deserve some holiday loving!!

I'm sure Aussies are the same as Americans with regards to the high divorce rate. A first divorce just seems to be the end of a longterm commitment. That said, when there's kids and a mortgage involved, it tends to go up a notch.

Here's to a good rest of the weekend whatever you do.

have a good 1.

Renovatio said...

Hey hon, I seem to have dropped out of sight for a bit, I know the feeling you're having, I was recently in a similar position, and had similar thoughts about where I stood with her. I say similar more so because I found myself quickly losing respect for her as she'd spent a good 8 years dating the guy before finally marrying him, and that too after begging him to marry her, all of which fell apart within five months, and she had trouble emotionally letting go of him, and was ready to go back to him in a heartbeat.
Any relationship is a risk you take, and one thing I keep saying, and I'll say again. Any risk you take in a relationship, no matter the result, is a risk you end up somehow utterly glad that you took that risk and gained from it.
Much love hon.

Southpaw unplugged said...

I was at work all night, thats what i meant with that night out...:) anyway...

Steph said...

But do you like him in THAT way??? If you do then I say go for it, but guard your heart a little at the same time.

Can I ask you something? I'm gonna anyway.

Are you allowed to date outside your nationality? I mean, parental wise, would they have a fit?

Nadim said...

awww keshi! i wasnt serious! the only thing i was serious about was when i asked you how have you been!

i dont comment on other's lives honey! :-)

take care though!

Łóòň Ġãĺ said...

No no no you're none of the mentioned above! (And even if u were we wudnt tell u .. tht too so publically ;p)

Well if he left the previous one for reasons as stupid as u mentioned ... he's either lying or a dickhead who doesnt deserve to get married in the first place! And these guys are probably just good enough to flirt with and thats it! But I like the way you're acting all dumb n ignorant by not acknowledging any of his hints lol

All us girls are desperate for loving! And trust me guys who can give u love do exist (until u get married to them) ... just take it as it comes ... don't have such hard and fast rules ... and don't even follow the ones set by others .. who're mere human beings .... do what won't hurt you or anyone. And you'll get the best!
Am myself at a stage where I feel so lost .. and clueless about whats going on in my life ... and if what am doing is right or not. Nothing feels right ... its a 'to be or not to be' situation for me ... but am going with the flow ... there are people who hate me for what am doing ... and at times I hate myself too ... but baahh I'll go on until my heart says 'ok! Thats it!'

Sameera said...

You just need to loosen up Babes and view relationships with a not-so-critical attitude.If it feels right,it is right!If not,just keep moving ahead.

Know what you want and who you want dear,life would be less complicated then.If this person seems to be the one,so be it.Everyone deserves a second chance.Do not label anyone on basis of their past relationships;past is past.Whether the marriage tag is there or not,many of us have failed in love,once or more.

So just follow your heart and listen to your mind a bit and you will know what's to be done.TC.Hugsss

P.S. In the end,it is your life and you should decide based on what you feel,no matter what anyone says.Cause it is you stands in your shoes!

curryegg said...

Honestly, it's up to you in choosing your own path-either to be single or vice versa.

But I do hope you'll have a good partner to love you and pamper you. HOpe that you'll not give out hope. *pray*

Keshi.. that guys is interested on you? Emm.... Sorry to say that but "get off from Keshi!"..

Oopss...

anuj said...

gawwwd ..wat hot pics thr ..

well keshi I hope u dnt dump guyz who dnt let u knw tht thy wud b away fr a while :D .. nd I hope u havent forgotten ur promises of datin anuj whevr he's available :P .. lol ..

well keshi .. ur non of tht .. it happens u knw .. things take time .. so if he will continue being nice n if he asks u politely enuf may b u might go .. who knws .. so all u have become is d one who needs a bit more time ;) .. I mean I jus feel so .. not tht it might b true ..

so .. who knws .. which sweet guy is comin ur way .. keep ur fingers crossed :D ..

howz u by d way? nd yes FYI I had a grt holiday week at Dhruv's hometown and few hill stations arnd .. it was grt fun goin to a cold-cold place in d winters .. so whnevr u come to india u do need quite a few weeks .. like u knw .. u gotta visit dhruv's thn date me n all tht u knw .. hehehe ..

Margie said...

Hey Keshi gal~
My sweet pal~

Such a busy day here!
I have to finish my Xmas shopping.
Then we have 2 parties to go to.
I'm taking a hot apple cider break right now...come on over and join me.
I still have not got ur pressie wrapped...if u came on over I cud give it to u in person!
So get on ur lear jet and GET HERE! LOL!

Now, I got to go!

Oh, my only advice to u is....
Just be true to yourself.
Listen to ur heart!
That's what I've always done with my life, and it hasn't failed me yet!
You are very smart, wise and have a truly beautiful heart & soul!
Things will work out as they are supposed to!
Just love life hun!
Life is beautiful....just like you!

I love this quote....


Do what makes you happy
Be with who makes you smile
Laugh as long as you breathe
And love as long as you LIVE!


Luv you Sweets!
MWAH!
Margie.
P.S I'll try and pop in later tonite if I have time.

annie said...

Wait till the right one comes along. Don't rush.U aint despo but jus feel like any other gal:)

Cinderella. said...

Girl...I think having a strong instinct really kinda gives you a cue of how you are gonna go about it...
And on top of it, its very vital to actually feel something about something, before going ahead with anything at all.
Going ahead just for the sake of it..or just coz you're just desperate doesnt make any sense.
You could end up hurting your or his feelings, dont you think ?
For me, I'll go out with a guy if I have a genuine interest in him, and for something concrete at that. There aint no time for fooling around anymore.
In every person's life a time comes when you gotta think beyond a fleeting romance and look for soemthing solid and that will last. Someone you can start a family with.
You decide what time is it for you now. That will perhaps give you a headstart.
Guess i have blabbered a lot.
Take care sugar.

KP said...

divorced man....good luck keshi...nothing wrong with anything as long as u feel its right........:)

The Grunt said...

I just can't get over the image of a 109 year old lady wearing some lingre.

Vinesh said...

divorcees are usually careful second time around..

btw.. why do you have those random pictures of women on this post?

Keshi said...

hey Anks ty sweetz :)


**And i doubt he is going to be completely honest about that right at the beginning....

yeah thats right...and thats what I was talking abt.


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Anits tnxx hun!



Keshi.

Keshi said...

Heheheh Nora I shall keep u informed ;-)


**it takes two people to get divorced

very true..


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yes Jeevan ty so much!





Keshi.

Keshi said...

hey Boy!

**she got bored with him = she met someone else while they were together

:) I think so too.


I agree..no one will know what it is like to go thru a divorce unless they themselves hv been thru it.



** and admit to learning a lot

true...Im sure this guy is much stronger and realistic abt love n life than he ever was b4...I certainly agree on that one.



Keshi.

Keshi said...

very true Mal!


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tnxx Sushmita!

I wanna see the pics awww...




Keshi.

Keshi said...

Alok tnxx for being so honest :)


**so I really dont bother myself much either with myself or with others ...

aww hv u lost interest in Keshi too? :*(


-----------------------------------

hey Ceedy tnxx and Im glad I found ya too :)



**stop over analysing yourself so much - you are losing precious time here

hehe very true...ty sir! ;-)



Keshi.

Keshi said...

hey Pij tnxx mate! U make good sense.


**Any relation should be independent from the past events or precognitions

I agree but somehow our Pasts hv made us who we r Today. what say? :)


**IBM

nope I dun work for IBM...just some guys were talking abt IBM prioducts...:)


Keshi.

Keshi said...

**products

Keshi said...

hey Jeevy tnxx!

**u will find ur man soon

plz dun say that! I hate that line :):)


-----------------------------------

aww ty Rahul :)



Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty PS!

nope I hvnt read it...seems like an interesting read.


-----------------------------------

aww ty HE u r so fabulous! U know me too well and I really hv found a great mate in ya. HUGGGGGGGGGZ!



**I don't think that it is weird and I don't think that you need to scrutinize every aspect of it.

I agree...I think I think too much. :):)


Im single and happy...I love myself cos I made a FANTASTIC friend called HE!



Keshi.

Keshi said...

Dawny tnxx hun!


**As often I have seen divorced men aren't that bad infact they are much matured and understanding with the first relationship failure so you never know!

true...


Actually Im not gonna be sad even if I end up being single for the rest of my life. :)


HUGGGGGGGGGGZ!


-----------------------------------

MILF heyy!


** I am the office-flirt kinda girl and my lusts are too strong and I have dived in at the deep end

u serious? :)



Keshi.

Keshi said...

hey Amit!

**do people get divorced just because one of them 'gets bored'?Or,do we read that as 'found someone else'

thats what General_Boy said too.



**...based on some past experience(s),you're now sensible and level-headed,and probably don't just want to rush into a relationship which you'd regret later.

aww ty Amit for having so much faith in me.


**the cool 'red' kitchen one

lol I like that one too.


tnxx for everything Amit!

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hey Pri tnxx hun!


**well but thn again rnt u doing the same when it comes to your divorced friend?

oyeah I agree. But Im not saying Im perfect am I :). I mean if a recently-divorced guy walks upto u and says he's interested in u Pri, wudnt u think for a while? Ask urself hehe.



**we dont really know the bite unless we are wearing the shoe

true I agree...but its so much easier said than done when u r really faced with a divorced guy asking u out...isnt it Pri. Put urself in my 'shoes' and see wut u wud think Pri :)


** i mean why does the 'marriage' tag make all the difference??

it does make ALL the difference! Cos being MARRIED means being COMMITTED to a r'ship. If there's no difference between being Married and Not married, then why do ppl get married? :)



**is it because they hurried things and got committed when in love tht they ought to suffer for not living upto it??

who's fault is it then? :)



**im not saying tht divorced ppl are as easy to put up with as single ppl ...all im saying is single people are equally difficult to put up with

I agree Pri. But when a person gets MARRIED, the status is so much more different to than being uncommitted. :) thats all.



no Im not gonna strangle such a beautiful smart sweetie like u :) HUGGGGGGGGGGGZ!



Keshi.

Keshi said...

Hey Jim :)


**u r divorced too
when u r in love with a man for a long time
and it dont work out
u r divorced too


I dun agree. I was never MARRIED to be called DIVORCED. Read my reply to Pri just above this comment.


Keshi.

Keshi said...

hey Deepak!

**Alcohol is bad for health

I know but I aint an alcohol addict LOL!


-----------------------------------


hey tnxx Bergwind :)



Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Priya!


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aww tnxx Aaarti u r so very sweet :) HUGGGGGGGGZ!




Keshi.

Keshi said...

Bla tnxx!

I hv known him for a while now..but I think Im not attracted to the guy...this must be the real reason :)


-----------------------------------


Helen tnxx hun! I know u know me pretty well :) HUGGGGGGZ!



**when a good man comes along, your heart is going to say.. ..

true..so spot on!



Keshi.

Keshi said...

tnxx Paul, talk abt picky bitches and I top the list LOL!


**, people who marry in their 30's and 40's stay married 8 times longer than those that get married too young

I agree! I hv seen that happening ard me...so very true.


tnxx!


-----------------------------------

heyy Tobez good to see ya here after a long time. :)



** If his ex-wife was bored with him after a short time, how long before he makes you climb the walls.


hehe true...I think thats worrying me too...



**Of course, wall climbing can be fun with the right partner! Might even be fun with him, briefly

hahaha u mean having a fling with him? nah Im so uncomfy with flings..;-) Im such a matrimonial drama queen LOL!



Keshi.

Keshi said...

Good on ya Kaylz! :)

How was ur weekend?


-----------------------------------

hey Bumble!


**you deserve some holiday loving!!

I love that term..cos I really do need that :)


** That said, when there's kids and a mortgage involved, it tends to go up a notch.

true. But my mate here hasnt got any kids but he does hv a big mortgage to pay off.



Keshi.

Keshi said...

Hey Reno WB! I missed ya. U ok?


**and that too after begging him to marry her

eww eww eww! Sorry but I hate the term 'beg' when it comes to love.

Ur not the guy ur talkin abt by any chance, r ya? :)


Keshi.

Keshi said...

aww Southy :(


-----------------------------------

heyya Steph!


**But do you like him in THAT way???

only when Im desperate LOL!


**Can I ask you something?

u just did Steph LOL!


**Are you allowed to date outside your nationality? I mean, parental wise, would they have a fit?

hell yeah! Im not a baby and my mum is a very LIBERAL woman. :) Besides, I like Aussie men yum!


tnxx hun MWAH!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

Nadim hey thats ok...besides I asked u all to be HONEST with ur comments and I commend ya for being so honest.

tnxx! And no hard feelings at all..u saw me that way, so be it :)



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hey Cheesy tnxx hun!


**And even if u were we wudnt tell u .. tht too so publically

LOL so ur lying now? hahaha!



**And trust me guys who can give u love do exist (until u get married to them) ... just take it as it comes ...

true...


now wut r u going thru at the moment Cheesy? U can tell me. Anytime u wanna talk to someone, just email me. ok? HUGGGGGGGGGGGGZ!

Just rem one thing...wuteva u do, dont go against ur INSTINCTS.


Keshi.

Keshi said...

tnxx Sameera for being so supportive!


**Do not label anyone on basis of their past relationships;past is past.Whether the marriage tag is there or not,many of us have failed in love,once or more.


I agree...I dont like to label ppl based on their past r'ships, but when a recently-divorced person comes ard showing an interest in u, wut wud ur initial thoughts be Sam? Its not gonna be judgment-free is it? :)


Anyways ur right..only I can make my own decisions..not anyone else. ty so much n HUGGGGGGGGZ! Ur so very clear with ur thoughts on this.



Keshi.

Keshi said...

aww Curry tynxx hun HUGGGGGGGGGGZ!

LOL @ get off from Keshi!


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Anuj WB! U disappear all the time...:(

Glad to know u had a cool holiday in Dhruv's place tho..and ty for that very sweet offer!


** nd I hope u havent forgotten ur promises of datin anuj whevr he's available

I didnt make a promise like that LOL! OMG ur such a liar hahaha!


**so all u have become is d one who needs a bit more time

nah he's the one who needs time to get over his divorce..dun u think so Anuj?


:)



Keshi.

Keshi said...

hey Margie MWAH!


**I'm taking a hot apple cider break right

yumm gimme some!


**So get on ur lear jet and GET HERE

LOL haha so cute! How abt I arrive there inside a letter? LOL!



**Listen to ur heart!
That's what I've always done with my life, and it hasn't failed me yet!

definitely! tnxx for that great advice hun.


That quote is just brilliant! Cos its so simple and true. Loved it and tnxx hun!



Keshi.

Keshi said...

Annie MWAH dahlin!

tnxx hun! btw Im so glad to see u here again. I missed ya.

We r friends no matter what...ok. HUGGGGGGGGZ!


-----------------------------------

Hey Ciderella babez!


**In every person's life a time comes when you gotta think beyond a fleeting romance and look for soemthing solid and that will last. Someone you can start a family with.

very true...and with friends like u ard, I'll never make a bad decision.

ty so much for that girl, I really loved every word u said!


***HUGS***
Keshi.

Keshi said...

KP hey tnxx!


**divorced man....good luck keshi.

LOL u make it sound like Im getting married to him tmrw.



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LOL Grunty!




Keshi.

Keshi said...

hey Vinesh tnxx!


**why do you have those random pictures of women on this post?

why cant I? LOL!



Keshi.

The Phosgene Kid said...

Divorced? May be a commitment issue or maybe he married a harpy. Either way why should you be the one to find out?

Sounds as though you had a good time anyway, and why not!!!

Keshi said...

hey Phos wuts a harpy? :)


Keshi.

SaffronSaris said...

Poppy doll-pearl,
Hugggggzzzzzzzzzzz!!!!!

Menchie said...

I don't think you're gonna end up old and grey and alone keshi. far from it. it's ok to be careful and I would also have reservations about dating a guy who's divorced. Just be careful and I know that you know what is best for you.

Zhu said...

No, I don't think you're desperate for some loving. But hey, we all need someone to hug... and more! ;)

lee said...

Sometimes people do a lot of growing up after they are married and find out things about themselves that they didn't know before. You might find that a divorced man has an even better idea of what he does and doesn't want out of life -he might even be an "adult", which a lot of young men aren't.

KAYLEE said...

//How was ur weekend?//

It was great.No pain and thats good.Spent time with the Bf and volunteered at the church :)

Sweetstickychewy said...

Hello Keshi,

Gd to hear you had lotsa fun.

Hmmm..Divorce men. Not an easy calibre. Esp when they are fresh out of it and have kids that they love very much.

***I think I've become a closed personality when it comes to love.

I could identify with that at one point of time.:) It feels good to finally start out again.

*HUGZ*

Jim said...

I never had no one
I could count on
Ive been let down so many times
I was tired of hurtin
So tired of searchin
til you walked into my life
It was a feelin
Id never known
And for the first time
I didnt feel alone

Youre more than a lover
There could never be another
To make me feel the way you do
Oh we just get closer
I fall in love all over
Everytime I look at you
I dont know where Id be
Without you here with me
Life with you makes perfect sense
Youre my best friend
Youre my best friend, oh yeah

You stand by me
And you believe in me
Like nobody ever has
When my world goes crazy
Youre right there to save me
You make me see how much I have
And I still tremble
When we touch
And oh the look in your eyes
When we make love

Youre more than a lover
There could never be another
To make me feel the way you do
Oh we just get closer
I fall in love all over
Everytime I look at you
And I dont know where Id be
Without you here with me
Life with you makes perfect sense
Youre my best friend
Youre my best friend

Youre more than a lover
There could never be another
To make me feel the way you do
Oh we just get closer
I fall in love all over
Everytime I look at you
And I dont know where Id be
Without you here with me
Life with you makes perfect sense
Youre my best friend
Youre my best friend (my best friend)
Youre my best friend (my best friend)

KP said...

"LOL u make it sound like Im getting married to him tmrw."

ohh....u r not....shoot man....i am not getting invitation for ur wedding....;)

so what do u think abt Boxing Day?
only 10 days away? do we got chance against ozs?.....lol

Jim said...

marriages are made in heaven
divorces too





there is no reason to live a mistake
some times we make a mistake
then we need to rectify the mistake


the sooner the better


every man and woman has the right to the pursuit of happiness

Jim said...

BUT overall, I don't find myself looking wearily at someone that has been divorced. I try to see to their heart, their mind, their soul.




u r blessed BLESSED

Jim said...

Sometimes people do a lot of growing up after they are married and find out things about themselves that they didn't know before.

You might find that a divorced man has an even better idea of what he does and doesn't want out of life -he might even be an "adult", which a lot of young men aren't.




well said LEE

Jim said...

the best advice had to come from Margie

I love Margie
she advised me too





Do what makes you happy
Be with who makes you smile
Laugh as long as you breathe
And love as long as you LIVE!

Nadim said...

keshi! i was kidding yaar! no you are not a wuss! may be a little lazy and circumspect! :P

i would never ever judge someone based solely on a blog and be serious abt it!
and if i thought you were a wuss, i would not even bother explaining myself!

Sunita said...

Back here after ages:) Interesting night out and interesting comments. Agree with the comments made by Blessed and Lee. As far as i am concerned everytime i find a guy, the bigman scrutinizes them so hard that they vanish like they never existed.Hehehehehe

awa said...

I need a man. A good one. When you run into one please inform me! :)

Miss you bunches! Just getting into the swing of things again!

Paul said...

Looks like hinting to me... Guess the main thing with this stuff is knowing your own motivations - even more important than figuring out the other person's.

anuj said...

yeah I have that Magic Potion .. I disappear *WOOSH* and then I re-appear *WOOSH* .. lol

well I wasnt talkin abt the divorced guy .. I was talkin in general .. thy may b u might want to take things slowly .. nt like hurryin in to a relationship n all .. so u wud like to take a lil time ..

nd abt d promise .. ur a liar keshi .. lol .. first u promised tht u wud b my room-mate nd u wud abandon ur single room n stay wid me .. haha .. n thn u wud have a cuppa .. n a date .. u hav bad memory .. lol :D .. sO now rem that u Promised .. lol

how r u doin by d way?

Prats said...

MMmmmm....you have been doing a lot of thinking lately....don't...just go with the flow and the heart babes!!
The heart always signals right stuff..cos it knows best for u. Tomorrow you might land up liking the very same guy you were wary off...but that doesn't mean he's not the right or wrong person for you.
The right person will come along....when you might never be looking out...You just feel lonely and all these thoughts jump across...but he will come along, he will....
And being wary of divorcees is just a very careful thing...not wrong.

Ghost Particle said...

you are jst desperate for some love...:P

Keeeeshhiiiii....how are you doing? whats for Xmas?

Kulpreet said...

Looks like you had a great time. It is fun sometimes to hangout with people you like. Yes, I guess the guy must be good. Less then 3 drinks anfd polite enough to drop one home: that is the guy to watch out for.
Best wishes!

Kulpreet said...

But divorce guys need to be handled with some care. If you know what i mean.

Renovatio said...

No no, I've never gotten that far into one, usually get my heart broken much before I get to that stage. Single and never married here :p

tulipspeaks said...

i'm a bit old-fashioned when it comes to this topic. may be its my upbringing that i am refusing to ... hmm.. well, guess thats just me.


ammu.

Unknown Feelings said...

OMG KAP....

Intricate details are just part of you... isnt it??? After so long, reading KAP was fun!!!!!

Compassion Unlimitted said...

What a write up..if the guy is good why not..divorcee sop what.
putting hands on you shoulder leaving a message or massage..who cares..if it felt good,thats it
one helluva write up

tc
cu

N said...

This reminds me of my days in Australia! Hunkity hunk hunks!

I don't know about you, but I'm pretty desperate. *sigh*

Happy holidays to you Keshi!

Stud said...

Babesterness,

First of all, I didn’t want to write any feedback as I wouldn’t write anything that I don’t believe in or that has been written in a fear of loosing our friendship as you well know we have had our hands burnt in the past. So, take no offence and hope you’ll understand the content and not any offensive notion never intended otherwise.

“Am I so used to being that single diva for so long that I ignore love-signals by my own choice? Am I looking for something that don't exist? Am I gonna end up as a wrinkly old saggy-boobed 109yr old still-single granma still trying to fit into Victoria's Secret goodies that no one wiill ever see? Or am I just desperate for some loving? You tell me.”

This post isn’t about me or any flirtatious one or a divorced guy….. and what I think as a ‘freshly divorced guy’ has already been said with my last post on my blog. But, this post is about you. The question that still persists unanswered is if you are gonna end up a wrinky old saggy-boobed still single granma with victoria secret covered arse flapping in the wind and still no one there to see?.....only you can answer it in all your honesty.

For years, it was men who had the monopoly on commitment phobia, not anymore. Single woman like you are now the fastest growing segment of the population. Whatever the reasons are – fear of divorce, increased financial independence, delayed motherhood – more women than ever no longer feel the urgency, or the ability to settle down. And when I tried to collect you and your design (obviously you have a very large design slash articulation in your repertoire) after reading your this very post, I realized that I have read, if not the similar contents but surely the similar implication, from you before, that I thought of you about 5 months before when this very intelligent author of “Kiss and Run” once gave out 10 or so signs of commitment-phobic when she was interviewed on NBC, that one of them happened to be “You cultivate large network of friends at the expense of a single romantic relationship”. I must admit to you, young lady, that I had you in my thoughts then.

And I agree with homo escapeons’ in all he has said except: You are being a great you. Look at all of these people who love sharing their lives with you.

Yes, you are being great you but people who love sharing their lives with you will keep changing. Even the close ones who share the same blood get occupied and extremely busy with their own lives and change occur. You are no more dear to them as once was. Their love for their children, spouses, home, priorities, own peace, will one godsawfulday toss you away. Let alone the other ‘people’ who love sharing. And, there’s nothing wrong in it, it’s but the basic laws of nature we live by.

Yes, I have read you in the past when some guy had you approached or showed any bitsy interest in you but you again became more occupied in sharing your thoughts with your network friends then to know him slightly better or more. There’s no harm in sharing unless it doesn’t play out on you or make you forget that there might just be a worthy man already walking past you while you are busy in defining the caviets on him for your diary?

And, I don’t believe in escapeons saying “Just admit to yourself that you don't want to be in a relationship, atleast not right now.You like being single and free from all of the hysteria and mind games that are part of being involved in a personal relationship”.

I think it’s more apparent that you don’t like being single for you have spoken about men approaching you one too many times. Often women who love being single and being OK, are good listeners around the gossip girls luncheon table n’ not much of a talker as it interests them little. And keshisterness, this guy from office couldn’t have flirted again n’ again if he was stopped. Playing dumb is not stopping him, it’s rather ‘I don’t mind the flirty you but I’m not seeking a relationship, but I may want it if you are worth it, but again I may not want a relationship if separation is inevitable!.

Maybe you need to learn to take things one day at a time unless you are still a believer of stereotyped “first impression is the last one”? Maybe, you need to spend less time with all of us cuz’ believe it or not for I do, it does take away all my time when I want to throw in a write up. The post I write may not be as long, but the thought process is almost never ending as it keep growing with every new comment I find until I take up a new subject and its iterative again, and this all when I hardly respond to anyone, hardly ever click on anyone’s blog and comment upon a read.

It’s not an accusation, mistake it not. And I will hate you the most if I don’t find a new post to read but maybe you need to become more assertive and develop some more interest in your romantic life that surely seems to have an urge to hold on to that Mr. Right. There is time for everything, our childhood past, our first crush, our overwhelming work efforts, and certainly there’s time given to be with, to hold on to Mr. Right. We win it all but time. Time leave us behind if we don’t walk with it. Loneliness will eventually get to us. Ask all those people who have hold on to someone just for the sake of living and being with someone. And even when someday, you find your Mr. Right through your willingness to accept a walk into relationship or romance, if you’ll be happy for all seasons to come, one cannot guarantee as human happiness is easily an oxymoron of cosmic proportions.

But, you definitely seek and have the urge to hold on to that Mr. Right but as of now, you are afraid of trusting the opposite sex with all your heart. And babesterness, there are good ones, and bad ones but it is just finding the right one whom you can trust…..and you, my dear, need to open, create and give time and space to your heart for that someone…someone.

stud

Gledwood said...

Bloody hell! 124 comments b4 me. That's a hellovalotta fairies!!

Xmas is that time:... for imbibement of alcohol (I nearly got arrested for that this morning! (Long story. Actually what am I saying I posted it up at mine but whatever))... mixed feelings, complicated liaisons and all manner of mistletoe-related "shenanegans" ... do you get real mistletoe down under? I bet it's really expensive or do they just pin up a plastic version..??
Darling I cannot answer your final query you sound like a perfectly normal chick to me so I wouldn't get so paranoid about the 109 yr old woman squeezed into Victoria's secret I don't see that as you at all

Have a merry one!
And a fully entertaining new year!

G
xx

The Acid Tongue said...

keshi, Just dont be the rebound girl. maybe, but if he can wait, he might still be the one you waited so long for :P

Keshi said...

hey Saf ;-)



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tnxx for understanding me Menchie MWAH!




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Sure we do Zhu ;-)




Keshi.

Keshi said...

heyya Lee!

**he might even be an "adult", which a lot of young men aren't

Spot on hun!

MWAH!


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hey Kaylz nice :)


**volunteered at the church

thats really great of ya!



Keshi.

Keshi said...

hey Amy MWAH!


**Esp when they are fresh out of it

yes and thats what I meant..



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Jim tnxx!



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LOL KP!


**so what do u think abt Boxing Day?

o well Im gonna be at a party on Boxing Day..so I really dun care wut happens elsewhere hahaha!




Keshi.

Keshi said...

Nadim its a bit too late for that, dun u think? LOL!

Hey no worries at all :)


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hey Sunita WB n HUGGGGGGGGGZ! I've been missing ya hun.


:) @southy...


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heyy AWA MWAH!





Keshi.

Keshi said...

And that was TASH ha :) MWAHHHHHH u look gorgeous as usual!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

hey Paul Im not hinting at ya LOL!

** Guess the main thing with this stuff is knowing your own motivations - even more important than figuring out the other person's.


u nailed it mate!

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lol Anuj u know Im an aging granma with Dimentia!




Keshi.

Keshi said...

Prats I agree with every word u said. tnxx hun MWAH!


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Ghosty Im good ty, hows u? :)

for Xmas...hmmm Im going away. yeyyy!



Keshi.

Keshi said...

aww tnxx Kulz! :)


yeah I know...must handle with care.


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oh ok Reno :) tnxx!

Ur being wise...way to go!



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Ammu nothing wrong in being old-fashioned in some aspects of life...Im the same.

MWAH!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

OMG look who's here! MWAHHHHHHHHHHHHHH KAP! I missed ya hun! How hv u been? :)



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CU :) tnxx mate!




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hey N!


**I don't know about you, but I'm pretty desperate.

LOL so honest! good on ya :)




Keshi.

Keshi said...

hey STud tnxx for the honest opinion :) I appreciate that.


**Single woman like you are now the fastest growing segment of the population.

I agree...women r more liberated now than b4. But I can assure u Im not rigid...I still give men a chance. I dunno if u read my Jan post abt a certain Mr.Darcy. I did go out with him and he dumped me in 7days only cos we were the same age! So who is to be blamed for whatever the women-like-me hv become today? :)


Anyways, I see wut u mean. But I dun agree with wut u said abt me making too many friends online and not spending more time to get to know a man in real. Cos my only aim in life is NOT to get a man...I also love being with friends and sharing some laughs, while I can. So what if they forget me some day and get busy with their lives? Like u did too :). But u came bak...and Im still here.



Keshi.

Keshi said...

lolz Gledz u r so sweet. ty n HUGGGGGGGGGGGGGZ!

Misteltoe...hmmm yeah I get to kiss under it too!

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Acid hey WB!

And tnxx...ur right. Im not up for this half-arsed mind game. LOL! Let me just be ME.


:) tnxx!



Keshi.

Mel Avila Alarilla said...

Hi Keshi,
Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year to you and your loved ones. May you enjoy the very best of the holiday season with your relatives and friends. God bless and have a warm and sunny day Down Under.

Stud said...

"Anyways, I see wut u mean. But I dun agree with wut u said abt me making too many friends online and not spending more time to get to know a man in real. Cos my only aim in life is NOT to get a man...I also love being with friends and sharing some laughs, while I can. So what if they forget me some day and get busy with their lives? Like u did too :). But u came bak...and Im still here."

Babesterness,

You took me wrong, I didn't say that you spend too much time online and not enough for a Real Man in life.

I said there's no harm in sharing unless the notion itself, start playing on you. I said, create room and give time to your heart to open up as well(which i can see, u did but maybe do more on regular basis, say what? :) ).

And as regard as laughing with people, surely, you must and laugh it out as much as you can cuz' it's hard to get such moments in our tailor-made working life today.

And it isn't about me coming back while you are still here. It isn't about squaring with each other. It should only be about you. I still remain a net friend just like many others who come by to share some good moments whenever possible but this still doesn't change the fact that we all are network friend :)and yes, we all keep chaning. I hardly see any blog ID from 4 yrs past but new one's keep coming n' I am sure that all of us, be them the oldie or the new ones, want you to be eternally happy. cuz' truth that lies in future being forever single, isn't all that pretty and satisfactory

"I agree...women r more liberated now than b4. But I can assure u Im not rigid...I still give men a chance. I dunno if u read my Jan post abt a certain Mr.Darcy. I did go out with him and he dumped me in 7days only cos we were the same age! So who is to be blamed for whatever the women-like-me hv become today? :)"

I also said, there's good ones and bad ones...and the right one. He just didn't happen to be the right one but that shouldn't bring you to early judgements in any forthcoming dates of whatever, right? Cuz' this will do no harm to him but can easily block you into knowing the right one :)

Anyways, I'm visiting New York and haven't had dinner yet. So, I'm going to go out and fill myself up like a PIG that I am:)

Keshi said...

tnxx Stud and no worries :)


**It should only be about you

nope...I dun really reckon myself is all that BIG for this life to be only abt me :)...Im just a very small soul in this big wide world. :)


Anyways u enjoy NY!



Keshi.

Keshi said...

And hey MEL tnxx a ton! U hv a good one too!

Keshi.

Margie said...

Hi hun
You must be busy today as u were yesterday.
(I got ur email,and so glad u liked what I sent to u!

Well, I'm going to bed....soooooo tired!

Nitey nite hun!
HUGGGGGGGGGGZ!

Margie:)

Peter said...

Hi Keshi, Sorry for not commenting you posts recently. Just wanted to say "hello"! Too busy to read all your interesting posts ... and the comments, for the moment. There is "too" much to read. I will be back soonest! (Wish you all the best with your future love(s)!)

KP said...

"o well Im gonna be at a party on Boxing Day..so I really dun care wut happens elsewhere hahaha!"

bad gal keshi....partying......;)
not good for ya...just kidding....njoy boxing day....dont start boxing.....lolz...

Kavi said...

How are you doing..? Its been some time..!

Keep smiling ! Good things happen to good people !

Silvara said...

Baby I'm back :D

have been w/o internet access even tho i have been in the country but have posted with a bit of an update just for you my sweet Keshi :P

hope things have been well - when i get a chance to finally get net access at Ev's place I'll be here more often :)

AVIANA said...

hey there chica..

divorced men...

hmm..

i'm wit you on this one...if i can avoid it i will...unfortunately i was forced into a relationship with one...basically he didn't tell me he was divorced and was going through another one while we were dating...

yes...

completely true...

his response...

"you never asked me"

yes..completely true...

but as we get older people are gonna have more baggages so it's almost unavoidable to escape people with extra life experiences that you don't wanna delve in..

oh well...

:)

VeenS said...

LOL am I not jealous !!
well anyone would be apprehensive of dating a just divorced guy!!

I don't think you want answers to the questions that you ask, cuz you know the answers don't you?
Love and relationships need time and love;
It would be not so right in commenting anything on this one but just this - live your life on the rules that you have, and remember to be flexible on those rules sometimes :D AND enjoy it while you r at it!! and i am sure u R enjoying it!!

lov yur blog!! rolling you !! :D

lov

Pijush said...

Hmm I agree that our past is responsible for our present, but I consider Love as independent bubbles. It can be transient, can last for sometime or can sail through the entire life.
Its just you were not lucky, no assumptions or logic can be derived.

Just try to believe there some more unfortunate people around you who can not able to tell their problem openly, So in this aspect you ar Lucky. So Just Njoy... its Christmas time. Have Fun

Keshi said...

ty each n everyone!

Keshi.