Monday, April 6

Bittertweet Botoxification

What's with the world these days? I witnessed a very disturbing scene over the weekend. I was at the mall and was passing a manicure & pedicure salon and saw something that made me freeze on my tracks in total shock. No I didnt see ladies tearing each others' hair out just to be first in the queue *trust me I wouldn't be surprised by such a scene cos they are becoming quite frequent in the news these days arent they!*. What I saw was something totally new to me. There were 3 girls, probably around the age of not more than 6 or 7yrs, getting a pedicure done! Hang on, arent Beauty salons for grown ladies? When did BEAUTY and looking sexy become an issue/requirement/necessity for kids? I was stunned. These kids had faces of angels, they had barely grown out of their baby years, and here they were lying down like adults, wondering about God knows what until their tiny toe nails got painted in red slutty nailpolish by a woman old enough to be their granma! What are their parents doing to these children by letting them run amok with adult frenzies? Why do they need brightly painted toenails let alone manicures and pedicures? Arent those tiny feet supposed to be covered by sneakers and climb trees, or run barefeet in fresh green grass feeling nature on their skin?

These days there are kids on Twitter, Facebook etc doing what adults are doing...then there are Kate-Moss wannabes pursuing modelling careers at the age of 12...then there are kids going to Pre-uni classes at the age of 5! Kids these days know alot, want to be alot more than who they are, ask for alot more than they can afford, do alot of things that tarnish their innocence, only to feel 'cool' about themselves and to stay in touch with the trends. And in that process, they lose their entire 'childhood'. And their parents support all of this, sadly.

Peer pressure can be a killer of originality. Same applies to adults. The pressure to do what everyone else is doing is mind-numbingly sad. We live in an era where people are living pseudo lives, where Skype is how you stay in touch, where sleeping pills take care of all your worries, where a breakup is done through a txt message, where being HOT is what it takes to be loved, where a gun is the way of dealing with frustration, where your mother is no longer in your Call-today list, where relationships are as quick and cheap as a drive-thru meal, where having one-night stands and getting trashed is the 'in' thing, where Wants are endless, where 'plastic culture' is on the prowl. Life has become so fast, cheap and fake today that I wouldnt be surprised if a foetus in the womb demands a pedicure next *and the mother provides it too*! Today, life blooms with too much information, and the blossom withers and falls off way before it's time...simply because there's a paranoia of being left behind...something that need not be feared if you arent a follower.


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Silvara said...

Hmmm...I agree with most of your sentiments there Kesh. Kids are growing up wayyy too fast for most people's liking.

HOWEVER, you also got to realise that for a lot of little girls - playing dress-ups (which includes trying on all of Mummy's makeup!!) is quite common. Those girls you see there may have been there for a special occasion to make them feel 'grown up'. You don't know the circumstances. The colour of the nailpolish is irrelevant - how can you say that red nails on a little girl is 'slutty'??

So don't blame the mother so much - blame the society that puts notions into women's heads that these are things that make them beautiful. Toys like Barbies and Bratz, 'real-life' baby dolls that play to the stereotypes of how girls/women should be interested in and how they should behave.

There's a line between innocent playing and provocativeness. I don't agree with people who let their kids wear clothes equivalent to grown women - because yes, kids don't need mixed messages of being 'sexy' in their heads. They have a whole lifetime to deal with it lol.

I think that only the parents can decide what side of that line they will raise their kids on. If they can give the message that it's ok to be just YOU then I think kids will be ok.

Jay said...

Those little kids were probably just a couple of spoiled, pampered little brats whose mother indulge them with anything they want.

A lot of parents are more concerned with being buddies with their kids rather than the parent.

La vida Loca said...

I agree w/ both and Silvara.
Guess at the end of the day, be yourself.

Hemanth Potluri said...

plastic is the world becoming...there are lot of kids around who are less age they show of the style from now onwards...society has changed so much with all the things...everyone wants to become a Barbie doll from the age of 10 itself..its not the mothers doing its the people around changing them....i was out in the beach last evening and i see kids of age 10-15 showing so much of attitude as grown ups commenting passer bys...and parents dont even care to stop this but keep smiling...the society has made them think that it better to be a barbie doll from childhood it self...i wish all the parents take the advice and change the attitude in their kids..its for their own good not to ruin the future for the children..the positive side is not all have been into this barbie thing ...and society of high class has much effect in this...:(...god has to change the minds..

urs..hemu..

vishesh said...

lol I started chatting when i was 14-15,my sis started when she was 8-9 years old :) Ha well little woman ,they all have become and the boys little rascals(trust me they can use the f word as if they understand and mean it)... :P

The Phosgene Kid said...

We call those kids "Prostitots" here. You can thank skanks such as Britney Spears for the kid's desire to look like a $2 whore and their parents for letting them.

Devika said...

Whatever a parent does, children finally grow up to show what they are...notwithstanding genetic lineage :)

in the present times, one who doesn't respond is considered a useless...personally i don't mind that -- meanaing I can hold myself from reacting...but then I should be used less!

i said that not wrt to just blogworld (here if someone use others is not very clear to me), but the world outside where I do some kind of free service.

Valid sentiments Keshi and I agree with the earlier commentators...awareness suggests hope for a better world..

wishes,
devika

Suma said...

mmmmm...i love the new look :))


*life blooms with too much information, and the blossom withers and falls off way before it's time.* so true, so very true...sometimes the hardest part in parenting is saying NO even when it's easier to say yes...

Suresh Kumar said...

I hope the society and the culture doesn't get corrupted beyond repair.

Thats what I can pray for.

The fear is rightfully and beautifully expressed...

Keshi said...

ty Silvara!


** playing dress-ups (which includes trying on all of Mummy's makeup!!) is quite common.

oyeah I agree...my niece does that too. But playing dressups isnt the same as getting professional manicures n pedicures is it?



**Those girls you see there may have been there for a special occasion to make them feel 'grown up'.

to feel grown-up (for fun) u really dun need to get professional salon treatment! I find that ridiculous. Maybe Im wrong but if I was a parent, I wudnt consider that something 'rightful' by the child either. But thats just me :)


**how can you say that red nails on a little girl is 'slutty'??

:) ok I may hv sounded very opinionated there but bright red nailpolish on a 6yr old is 'vulgar', IMO that is.




**So don't blame the mother so much - blame the society that puts notions into women's heads that these are things that make them beautiful

But Silvara its the MOTHER of the child who has the control of ths child, no matter what the Society does, isnt it? Especially of children as young as that.


**There's a line between innocent playing and provocativeness

Spot on! And thats what Im trying to say.


tnxx luv!

Keshi.

southpaw said...

Easy pocket money without questions asked is what i feel is one reason...there is so much else they do now a days out of their ages....

Keshi said...

ty Jay!


**A lot of parents are more concerned with being buddies with their kids rather than the parent.


very relevant point there! Parents r trying to be FRIENDS of their kids these days..instead if they stop at being just PARENTS, it wud do their kids a whole lot of good!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Lavida!

**Guess at the end of the day, be yourself.

u cant just say that to a kid Lavida. If the kid is going overboard or doing things that r not supposed to be done by kids, u just cant tell the kid to BE YOURSELF and ignore it, can u?

Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Hemz!

ur right...every girl now wants to be a plastic bimbo lol!

And yes its the parents that can guide them in their younger years...they hv the power to do so. Society is changing fast yes, but children can br brought up with a proper childhood if the parents hv some sense left in them.


Keshi.

Keshi said...

Vish ur an exception who knew what he was doing. Im pretty sure! :) But every kid is not gifted that way.


**trust me they can use the f word as if they understand and mean it

so true! My 5yr old nephew used the F word infront of me and I was stunned beyond belief.


Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Devika!


**Whatever a parent does, children finally grow up to show what they are

I agree. I always knew that. But w.o. a parent's consent, there r things that can be prevented from happening to a child.


Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Suma!

I really needed feedback on the template. Im glad u like it. :)


**...sometimes the hardest part in parenting is saying NO..

Im not a parent yet but I really wud say NO when I clearly know its not good for the child lol!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

Suresh its already damaged beyond repair...we can only hope that the sane will remain sane :)


Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Southy!

**Easy pocket money without questions asked is what i feel is one reason

yes, that and parents having no time to spend with their children.


Keshi.

Keshi said...

hey Phoso!


**Prostitots

lol what a term! Never heard of that b4.

Seriously the red naipolish looked so 'cheap' on that kid!


Keshi.

southpaw said...

exactly....

♥ÐÅyÐяєÅмє®♥ said...

sissyy


hehehe..kids doing pedicure :P
lol

it won't be long wen kids will come with their own kids to do pedicure :P

Nowadays i rarely flirt with gals on orkut..last time i did was a shocker wen i came to kno she is getting late to go back to school after recess :D

Chronicwriter said...

6 and 7 year olds pedicure.. haha.. hope they dont venture out into different other things..

www.chronicwriter.com

Princess said...

hi keshi,

kool and fresh new template :D

really yaar they know a lot more than we think they know and they ask too many questions and know what they act as if they are equal to our age and there is no respect in their words and nor in their actions. Kids need to change. This globalization and information revolution has really made things worse..

-Aiz.

яノςんム said...

innosence, no more.
kids are way smarter and way ahead than we used to be.
laptops, wii, have taken the place of hide and seek and playing in the rain.

Arv said...

Guess from our perspective it would always be scary watching these little ones do all those kinda of things...

but I think they would be ok mate... I just tell the kids to take care of what they do out there in FB or Twitter...oh Orkut is crap :P

take care da... cheers..

Chakoli said...

:))

i wudnt be surprised if i see kids going in beauty parlour or doing any work which actually adultys do...

more i think is that they are under lot of pressure..
to look beutiful..
to be master in different fiedls...

to behave as a matured...

and many more....

it is surprising... but kids are under much pressure... and this is to blamed to parents...

utopia said...

I so agree with what you said. really whats with this world? what particularly bothers me are these reports on random shootings. I mean hell how many more incidents will it take for the people to do something about letting anybody and everybody obtain arms?

- Sugar Cube - said...

And this you are talking of in Aus ? I'm not very surprised.Its the kind of culture that is growing..where you do what you want to & let do what others want to - even if those are your lil kids & Age for them is not the spotlight.The focus is the 'earlier , the better'.Wonder if that kind of grooming helps anyway!

Parents are responsible for putting restrictions to certain acts..to create an environment of limit..but with the kid of competition..everybody wants to & make their kids fit into what they think is 'different' & 'snazzy'.
In India as well..you'll find little girls/boys getting their hair colored & following such kind of things.
I personally know few who have been so badly pampered that they drive 300 kms from home just to get a haircut!!

These things just turn innocent ones into snobs! Manners are on planet Pluto.

Peer pressure can be a killer of originality...
Very well expressed =)
tc

Kartz said...

To tell u something abt this *peer pressure funda*...

Back in school (11th std, to be precise), my friends and I wd attend coaching classes to crack entrance exams set by the country's premier institutes of learning - the IITs.

Fast forward 2 yrs, in '05, (no, I did not make to an IIT, thankfully...) I find that students are attending such coaching classes right from 9th standard.

Fast forward another 3 yrs, students are taking such coaching up on themselves right from 7th standard! No, I am not kidding you...


No, I did not mean to "deviate", but this is what came to my mind up on reading some of your statements in the last paragraph.

Branching it out on a broader sense, u have the answer...

After all, precociousness kills a child's innocence.

I guess the meaning of *unique identity* will be lost if ppl go on aping stuff just to look/feel "cool"...

Which reminds me, Russell Peters - *mimics the Indian accent* : Aey bud-dy, don't u think we are "kkoooll"..?

U get the point, nain?

Peace. Take care. Be well.

Rakesh Vanamali said...

Gone are those days when beauty and 'treatments' were for the grownups! Today with competition and pressure intensifying, everyone wants to be a looker (me included ;))

Whats the next step? Designer babies? I wouldn't be surprised!

rahul said...

hey keshi..really nice post and very true..the World always wants everything methodical/branded whatever you may call it..afraid to go with the flow..to be just thenselves..that's what has been passed to the next generation!!!

Suma said...

i should have added...the NO has to be said and its only the wise parent who will do it...its best to be the devil right now than be an angel to the child and let him /her suffer later on...

Talking To My Soul said...

Kesh,

I am back.

Tell you a reason behind what you saw? We have distanced ourselves and our kids (not mine, damn it. I have none) from nature.

Instead, they have been given an artificial world to live in; to fight each other; in the name of competition and excellence. Sad but true.

Howz you, Kesh?

*smilez*

Priya Joyce said...

hmmmmmm........

I do not know what to say coz I too hav seen what you said.
When we discuss such issues to people they say "what if they r like that...aren't they reaching heights?"

That stuns me...coz....when kids achieve all this aren't they losing much bigger and valuable things called innocence and originality.

for people fail to realize that the beauty is not in making deeper footprints on the existing ones but to carve new ones...

after all what a nice place the world would be if we all did things differently...drawing a new picture.

Diana said...

Ok....I love this new template..the last one was ok ok types yaar...this one looks really good...very feminine in fact.

Will come back for the post...

Hugs.

AmitL said...

Hi,Keshi-that reminds me of 'when in Rome,do as the Romans do'-so,when at home,do as the parents do..and,blow away money in the bargain...you won't believe this- I heard it in Dubai-this lady's less-than-teenage daughter always wants her Tees one size smaller...why?Coz it helps show off the midriff!!

ash89 said...

keshi i'm glad you wrote about this topic. I've been thinking about it myself. I dont underdtand why kids are in such a hurry to grow up. My own 12yr old brother joined facebook even when he doesnt understand it! He joined a namibian network and for interested in, he wrote men! The point is, kids have lost it! Not just their minds but their innocence too.
I remember when I was a kid, my biggest concern was how I would convince mom to give me money for ice cream every day. Nowadays kids worry about having branded clothes, shoes, bags! It worries me at times!

Asha said...

I blame the mothers! If they don't provide good sense and money, kids won't be doing any of those crazy things. Some mothers live their lives thru' their daughters, providing everything they couldn't get as kids. That's when the problems starts. It's sad.

♥ÐÅyÐяєÅмє®♥ said...

go to edit html

then use ctrl+f to find the word pyzam.com and delte the entry...u will have ur own template without the the top orange headline :)

or give me the link of the template..i will do it for ya day after tomorrow...
and I love this template...and it is flawless :)

♪♪HARINI♪♪ said...

i so totally agree keshi!
when i went to the parlour last year (when i was in class 12) for getting my eyebrows done, the lady there said i had come in too "late" as kids start coming in from class 6 and 7 itself!!! i was so shocked cos id told her that i wanted mine to be done and felt i could have waited longer... and to imagine i find it a pain to go to the parlour every month foor my eyebrows (lol i go once in three months!!!!) and get my hair trimmed once in a year!!!

these kids do seem pretty jobless!

Rakesh said...

Yep Keshi, completely agree. Kids are loosing their childhood pretty soon it seems. Pedicures for 6 or 7 year olds is scary.

And your last paragraph... especially ending with "something that need not be feared if you arent a follower"

as they say in appreciation - Killer... :)

Menchie said...

Hey Keshi! Totally agree with your observations. I see four year olds wearing shoes with heels! heels! My daughter sometimes wants those shoes and I'm like, no freaking way!

I know little girls love to play dress up -- but it's the parents who should put a limit to what should be allowed and to let kids be kids. Apart from the pedicures, I once read an article from the U.S. about little girls having bikini or full body waxes -- mostly those whose parents allow their kids to model. It was very disturbing.

JAMJARSUPERSTAR said...

Well I think kids are growing up a LOT faster these days - they're getting all sorts done when they're very young and aren't enjoying the freedom of being able to just go around looking really natural (cos let's face it, by the time they're 15 they'll be wearing loads of makeup and wanting all the best clothes - peer pressure, people!)

Agree with Silvara though - maybe this is just a mad extension on the whole dress-up thing!
Ciao

Scarlet xx

rayshma said...

i don't see anything wrong if this is a once-a-while thing... like if it's the kid's bday and the mom lets her get a pedicure as a "treat" or something.
but there are kids - as young as 5 and 6 who frequent salons for beautification! and not just hair cuts! and that's really pushing it!

i'm all for letting kids choose what they love to do and do it... but it is the parents responsibility to guide them. to "ground" them. they have to made to realize the "value" of things... and taught the importance of a non-plastic world.

as you said... as long as you're not a follower - and don't become one - you're safe!

p.s.: welcome back gurl! love the new template! :)

pisku said...

Hi Keshi

forgive me if I sound a little preachy, but I disagree completely. What is saw is the exception and not the rule. All examples u've cited are exceptions. Its sad that we live in a world where we don't notice people other than those in our strata. Just look at the income group and u'll realise a lot of us are in the top 5% of the country and that's what we believe this world is. Rich, spoilt, with beauty bought.
Go out there, in the country and u'll know what kids are like. They are still like they always will be :)
Also, in our worlds, remember one this quote
"I understand the impulse to pull the trigger. But if we lose ourselves, we lose everything"
So be urself and u'll notice that there are many like u :)

radiohead said...

yup ..we wud soon be backward and traditional and old fashioned ..

we are all moving at great speed .. nd its becoming a race now .. my kid should be smarter then all kids ..

we are killing the peace !!

Tarun said...

:D

Well ... the worst part of it is perhaps the children feel watching some dumb cartoons is the greatest conceived adventure.

I love kids running around amock in blaazzing sun, play football in rain, play indoor games, do anything apart from video games and TVs.

Prashanti :) said...

I agree with you kesh !!! Kids are far too grown up these days .. athing that is very sad since childhood is a time that needs to be enjoyed to the fullest... you always have a looot of time being an adult. However, it may be possible that these girls in question are here for some special occasion or are just pampered brats. You always see little girls wanting to imitate their mother and do whatever she does and so this might be a treat from their for being good or studying well or something like that. In that case the mom is to blame for letting the girls have their way !!!

Jack said...

Keshi,

Don't you think we have to pay for all the progress and advancement which we crave for? Catch them young is the thinking of today.

Take care

Mayz said...

we live in a fake world...we r fakes ourselves n we r in love wid fakes...

i think that expalins sites like Fb n orkut...sometimes even some bloggers gimme dat feelin...

ANWESA said...

a new template i can see..its a gud 1. i was surprised to read d 1st incident in ur post..babies getting painted toenails..kids r no more kids,mayb de r miniature adults.childhood is fast losing its innocence n they ll regret it sooner or later."An Old Fashioned Girl" by Louise May Alcott had a similar theme.

akanksha said...

I cannot believe it :O I fear that the day is not far behind when girls would get pregnant in early teens if this is the pace at which they are growing up. :(

Who else is to be blaimed but parents.I feel really sad after reading this post.

Sam said...

now that is what you call too much of freedom!! honestly, no one there has an iota of realisation of where this could lead to and the ones providing the service are there to make the money. so even if their conscience pricks them they wouldn't say much, coz that's where they make their money.
for the kids, they are young and impressionable. they would follow the latest trends n fads, do wot their mommies do or elder siblings do. its the parents who can put across in the most apt manner, what they can do what they cannot. again, parents end up agreeing to such acts just to make up to their kids for may be not being in time for dinner the last week. basically, over compensating for giving more time to work than their kids.
the price u pay in a mad rush to the top, especially with both parents running in the race.

Hiren said...

todays world the kids outgrow their age ... they use the f word and other abuses so freely ... damn i didnt even knew what that meant when i was their age :) but its not totally the parents fault ... times are changing ... but i guess still 80% of the parents wud take good care and try to inculcate good habits in their children ... i like this song :)

Nachi said...

i guess the day is not far when parent will be picking out kids from toy shops like em' barbies...

...time are changing. and sometimes it is scary. but then, for most, i have only seen the sheer joy of childhood in the children around me (*touch wood*). so far that is...

WarmSunshine said...

Hi Keshi!

A very good to bring up. Certainly kids are doing a lot of things that tarnish the beauty of their innocence. I know a 5th grader who owns the latest mobile phone since she was in 3rd grade. A lot of similar things like that. Where did that freshness and innocence go? Kids don't really look good when they act older than their age. I still don't know how to act/look like many girls would at my age or even some female cousins who are hardly 12 or 13! I totally agree with La vida loca. At the end of the day we are who we really are. There's no escaping, is it?? Even if we try to look all glamy and be who we aren't then, how far can one run from oneself? Who are we kidding? Ourselves??? :)

I could really go on and on and on when it comes to this topic. It's one of my favorite topics :)

Take care sweety :)

Trevor Penn said...

New look for the new Kesh, eh???

love it!!

Glad to have you back.

btw, i'm back too, from the holiday that is. :)

Shachi said...

I haven't seen this but I would be shocked as well if I did.

"The pressure to do what everyone else is doing is mind-numbingly sad." - SO WELL SAID! And I completely concur.

The worst is - if you choose to be different, then you are classified as something with ego or issues or "not" normal - I always wonder why????

I like your new template - just because it's different. It doesn't matter much to me coz I am more interested in your posts :)

sawan said...

some how i dont have much to say on this :( maybe i havnt had an experience in dealing with such situations or my mind is really not working :( but yes, i agree to what ever u said in the last paragraph. Peer pressure can be a killer of originality.

prabirsaha said...

hi keshi,

welcome back, when r we going to work on the post about your dad?

cheers
Prabir

Beach Bum said...

I've got one even better. Try a story I heard about 16 year old girls getting boob jobs. As part of their Sweet 16 birthday rich daddies are paying for their daughter to go up in bra sizes.
For guys all I'm hearing about is daddy buying the "normal" fast hot rod that usually gets wrapped around a tree.

GLOBAL BLOGS said...

Hi Keshi

This template is better than the other one.

I'm back to writing at least one of the posts every week.

If I write the post, there will be the initials 'BC' at the bottom of the post.

I wrote the post that's up now.

I'm sending you winter because I'm sick of it. Our weather is nice one day and terrible the next.
We've had two record-breaking rains in the last five days and snow today.

LOL
Bev

Keshi said...

tnxx Southy!

Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Bro!


**last time i did was a shocker wen i came to kno she is getting late to go back to school after recess

LOL did it freak u out? beware, there r so many kids on the net and u cud be flirting with one of them which automatically puts u in the 'online child molestor' category.


Keshi.

Keshi said...

Chriz they already do worse things than just a manicure!

Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Aiz!


**This globalization and information revolution has really made things worse..


yes...and the sad truth is that alot of ppl take it as the NORM.


Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Richa!

Kids being smart is ok...but in that process if they lose their innocence, that smartness is of no use to them.


**laptops, wii, have taken the place of hide and seek and playing in the rain.


so true...my 5yr old nephew is Internetting these days!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Arv!

**but I think they would be ok mate... I just tell the kids to take care of what they do out there in FB or Twitter

but alot of kids r not OK Arv. they r living fast and empty lives with parents replacing their love n time with WII games that they think make their kids happy.


Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Chakoli!


yes...its the PRESSURE to do what everyone else is doing! I dunno why most humans love to FOLLOW.

Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Utopia!

**what particularly bothers me are these reports on random shootings.

true...I mean how many such incidents did we hear abt in the last month or so? Countless! Its on the rise and ppl r becoming immune to such news now. Thats the saddest part.


Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Sugar-Cube!

I believe that the 'The earlier the better' focus has always been driven by greed.


**but with the kid of competition..everybody wants to & make their kids fit into what they think is 'different' & 'snazzy'

I agree..thats what most parents r doing these days. I know ppl who send their kids to every class, activity etc on Earth just cos everyone else is doing it!

I sometimes wonder if thats what the kid wants to do.


Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Kartz that was a brilliant comment!

Peer pressure somehow catches up, in every era BUT there r ppl who dun 'copy' the social trends...there r ppl who live by what they value and not what the society wants. But right now, most ppl seem to be society's slaves.


**I guess the meaning of *unique identity* will be lost if ppl go on aping stuff just to look/feel "cool"...

Totally! Thats the saddest part...kids r being fed too much information even b4 they cud think for themselves.


Keshi.

Shionge said...

It has always been a challenge parenting as I know the peers' pressure mounting in school lately.

Looks like kids grown up must 'faster' than our times for sure.

Keshi said...

ty Rakesh!

dun get me wrong...Im not saying that LOOKING GOOD is a crime :) I myself like to look good. But there's a big difference between being yourself and aping someone else. These days everyone seem to want to COPY PASTE :) if u know what I mean.


**designer babies

I thought the concept is already out there! cloning and choice of gender in babies etc.

Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Rahul!


**afraid to go with the flow..to be just thenselves

yep thats what it is...fear of being yourself.

It irks me some parents force their dreams on their kids.

Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Suma!

**its best to be the devil right now than be an angel to the child and let him /her suffer later on...


I agree totally. Well-said!

cos u can guide a child and shape their mentality when they r young...u cannot alter the psyche of a grownup can ya.


Keshi.

Keshi said...

hey ty Soul!

ur spot on...its a very competitive world out there and children r being pressured to be what they r not. Sadly.


Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Joyce!

ur right...whenever I pull this topic out, I'd always hv more than just a few ppl telling me 'so what...thats the way the world is right now and its GOOD for them'

it really makes me sad to hear such things but then again, we live in such a world where ppl dun even wanna delve into such topics, just cos they dont CARE.


**for people fail to realize that the beauty is not in making deeper footprints on the existing ones but to carve new ones...


very well-said Joyce! I really like how u put it. Wish more ppl thought like u did.

TY!

Keshi.

Keshi said...

hey ty Diana!

Im glad u like this template...the first one was making it hard to read...so I changed it :)

Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Amit!

no we dun HAVE to do as the Romans when in Rome :) There r certain limits to everything isnt it. I simply dun u'stand ppl who blindly FOLLOW. They must hv a very low self-esteem to want to do things that others do w.o. really hvn a passion for it.


**I heard it in Dubai-this lady's less-than-teenage daughter always wants her Tees one size smaller...why?Coz it helps show off the midriff!!

oyeah I know alot of young kids like that. They even starve themselves to look thinner by the day. I hv young cousins who think drinking and partying out every night is FASHION. lol!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Ash!

** and for interested in, he wrote men!

oops! :) u better watch him when he's on the net.


I was like u...my childhood adventures were with Nature, even tho my parents cud very well afford fancy toys etc.

I know some kids in my family that buy only branded clothes. if u give them other clothes as bday pressies, they r not happy!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Asha!

yes I blame the parents too. Society is not what brings up a child...its the parents.


**Some mothers live their lives thru' their daughters, providing everything they couldn't get as kids.

thats so so true! very well-said Asha. I know so many ppl like that in my own circle! THEY LIVE THEIR DREAMS THRU THEIR CHILDREN. sadly!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

hey Bro I did it cos I didnt like that logo too :)

ty for ur feedback!

This template is more readable and I love it. Im glad u like it too.


Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Harini!

hey wud u believe it if I say to ya that I hv NEVER done my brows? :) It's true. I hv never done my nails or brows. I do my nails by myself...and my brows dun need to get done..I think they r fine just the way they r.

But I u'stand some ppl need to get em done cos they r too thick etc :)



**lady there said i had come in too "late" as kids start coming in from class 6 and 7 itself!!!

omg that young! wow kids r totally into LOOKS these days ha.


Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Rakesh!

Killer...I love that term ;-)

Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Menchie!

**but it's the parents who should put a limit to what should be allowed and to let kids be kids.

thats exactly wut I mean!


**bikini waxing

r ya kidding me! OMG wut is this world coming to!!!

Keshi.

Keshi said...

hey JamJarSuperstar WC n ty!


** they're getting all sorts done when they're very young and aren't enjoying the freedom of being able to just go around looking really natural

and just cos everyone else is doing it :)



** maybe this is just a mad extension on the whole dress-up thing!

cud be...but it still stunned me. If my child asked me for a pedicure (even for fun), I'd hv done it at home by myself...cos thats what FUN is.


And kids should be taught early in life that they wont always get what they want in life.


Keshi.

Keshi said...

hey Raysh ty!


**i'm all for letting kids choose what they love to do and do it... but it is the parents responsibility to guide them. to "ground" them. they have to made to realize the "value" of things... and taught the importance of a non-plastic world.


thats exactly wut Im saying. ur spot on!


these days kids seem to hv everything their way and parents r fast becoming cowards.


ty for the feedback on the template! I badly needed one and yes I like this one alot. :)


Keshi.

Keshi said...

Pisku tnxx!

ofcourse I see there r many like me too. But that doesnt take out the rest from this world does it? They still exist and Im talking abt those ppl in this post.


**So be urself and u'll notice that there are many like u

Im always MYSELF. Thats why I see both sides of everything that I come across. If I was only concentrating on ppl who r just like me, then I'd be blind to ppl who arent like me.

If u always hang out with ppl who r just like u, then u'd be living in a delusional world limited by what you WANT to see..not what you SHOULD see.


Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Anuj!


** wud soon be backward and traditional and old fashioned

I guess this rat race will reach it's peak some day and then subside back into the beginning...what d u think? :)


Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Tarun!

I agree...watching TV, being on the computer, playing WII games is considered an adventure these days lol!


**I love kids running around amock in blaazzing sun, play football in rain, play indoor games, do anything apart from video games and TVs.


Spot on!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Prashanti!


**You always see little girls wanting to imitate their mother and do whatever she does and so this might be a treat from their for being good or studying well or something like that

yep it cud be that but that doesnt make it right. These kids were very young!

:)

Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Jack!

**Don't you think we have to pay for all the progress and advancement which we crave for?

so true!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Mayz!

yes..its a pseudo life out there!


**sometimes even some bloggers gimme dat feelin...

hmm now who cud that be..is it me? :)


Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Anwesa!

yes I needed a new template to forget some old wounds :)


**mayb de r miniature adults.

thats exactly what they r now!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Akanksha!

** fear that the day is not far behind when girls would get pregnant in early teens

Its already happening. In Aus there r alot of teen pregnancies. Kids as young as 14 hv babies.

Keshi.

Keshi said...

very well-said Sam!

Businesses dun CARE as long as their bank balance grows.


**again, parents end up agreeing to such acts just to make up to their kids for may be not being in time for dinner the last week. basically, over compensating for giving more time to work than their kids.

so true! thats what I said too, as a reply to someone else here. Parents r BUYING their kids' love and in return kids r living a materialistic, fast and empty childhood.


Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Hiren!

**but its not totally the parents fault ... times are changing .

ok its not entirely the parents fault but they do hv the choice of bringing up their kids in a proper manner dun they.


Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Nachi!


**i guess the day is not far when parent will be picking out kids from toy shops like em' barbies

I wudnt be surprised at all!


I hv nieces n nephews who r almost like mini adults and u really cant win with them. They r too sharp n too mature! Part of the problem is they dun get to spend much time with their parents...cos the parents r busy with their jobs n r hardly home. So the kids learn to depend on themselves, in all the wrong ways.


Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Sunshine girl!


**Kids don't really look good when they act older than their age

so true! I just roll my eyes and give them one hard look. lol!

I guess the pressure to own cell phones also developed by society's trends...1 kid had it and then all the others followed!

Keshi.

Keshi said...

WB Trevor!

yes I needed a new look for my renewed spirit :)

Glad to hv ya bak n ty!

Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Shachi!

thank God someone agrees with me :)


**The worst is - if you choose to be different, then you are classified as something with ego or issues or "not" normal - I always wonder why????


so true. u know Im considered 'wierd' among my cousins. lol! Some of them think Im a super nerd, Im boring and that I need to 'blend' in with the current frenzies. I tell em to go get a life :)

Jokes apart, I really am not a follower of what others do. Maybe thats what Im still single too hehe...


Keshi.

Keshi said...

And Shachi TY for the feedback on the template! :)

Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Sawan!

u dun hv to say something just cos everyone else is saying something
;-)

Keshi.

Keshi said...

hey Prabir ty! :)

I'll think abt it and let u know ok...

Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty BB!


**As part of their Sweet 16 birthday rich daddies are paying for their daughter to go up in bra sizes.

yep its pretty normal here in Aus!



**For guys all I'm hearing about is daddy buying the "normal" fast hot rod that usually gets wrapped around a tree.

LOL so true!

Spoilt brats.


Keshi.

Keshi said...

hey Bev WB!!!

I so missed ya and Im so very glad ur blogging again. ok once a week will do, aaaalright! :):) Atleast I get to read u once a week and also I hv ur company back..thats the most imp thing!


ur sending me Winter? well dun bother Bev, cos its already here. lol! Im freezing my butt out here and I so long to go to a summery land now :(


Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Shionge!

As a parent urself, u wud know more abt this than me. Peer pressure is eating the world.

Keshi.

!Teq-uila Del Zapata said...

you are changing you themes so often?

♪♪HARINI♪♪ said...

@ keshi,
well after i posted that comment i felt you wouldn't have had them done :)
but i feel i look loads better with my brows done. and yeah i do my nails myself too!! i dont even feel like getting my hair trimmed!
kids dont have the place and friends to play with and talk to... everyone stays far away and all they do is stay home and watch tv... and they tag along to the parlour when their mom goes..
i know one girl who is around 11 or 12 whose mom has a parlour. the kid hangs out at the parlour all the time and doesnt listen to the mom (who tries to keep her away but isnt able to) so ask the kid about anything from a manicure to waxing and shell tell you!
and so many kids these days, in 7th or 8th standard, wear lipstick every evening!!!
what is the world coming to seriously??

Keshi said...

hey Anuz the first template made it hard to read cos of the shadowy background :) this one is way better!

d u like it?

Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Harini!

yeah some women need to keep themselves well-groomed. And thats ok. But kids doing those things make me wanna smack them lol!


**and so many kids these days, in 7th or 8th standard, wear lipstick every evening!!!

OMG thats over the top!

The world is nuts. thats why.


Keshi.

Think Tank said...

bingo! bang on the point...and i feel so lucky that my childhood was supercool ..what childhood should be

btw have u hrd that new song by shankar ehsan loy..about loss of childhood? its really gud ..tho its not about 7yr olds gettin manicures

Talking To My Soul said...

Good template, Kesh.

If I know it correctly, you had not changed your template in last so many years. Now two, back to back. Winds of change, eh!

Howz ya?

*smilez*

Keshi said...

hey ty TT!

gimme the link for that song...wanna check out the lyrics atleast.

:)

Keshi.

Keshi said...

Soul as they say, when it finally happens, it ALL happen at once!
;-)

Keshi.

♪♪HARINI♪♪ said...

lol !!
//The world is nuts. thats why.//
:O
totally!!! :D

!Teq-uila Del Zapata said...

yeah it looks better, i want to change mine too, but i am lousy with anything with tags, so i keep that old black theme.

Keshi said...

lol Harini I really think the world lost its mojo in the 21st century!

Keshi.

Keshi said...

Anuz go to Pyzam and u will find tonns of superb templates. Its all so straightforward...they give u the code, all u've got to do is copy-paste it on top of ur current layout code.

but I did some work on colors etc on my own. Also, u gotta put back all ur music code etc...which is also easy...thru Javascript page elements.

Let me know if u need any help. It feels so great to hv a fresh template. cmon get a new one :)


Keshi.

!Teq-uila Del Zapata said...

i have already downloaded the code, but i still have to fit it in, will do it someday. lazy me...

Keshi said...

OMG Anuz it only takes abt 5mins lol! DO IT NOW. :)

Keshi.

!Teq-uila Del Zapata said...

there are some widgets and customizations that may take some time.

Keshi said...

ok max 20mins..so do it now :)

Keshi.

D said...

Theres a wall between our kids and ourselves these days....While they hav become so demanding, we simply do not time.

When both the parents go out to work, its the child that waits at home without anyone near to speak to......But jobs have become so necessary these days that even parents cannot think of sitting at home.....In these cases, we just give extra pocket money and a tution teacher to fill up that vacant space of ours....

I hav no solution to this problem but just can hope that the world becomes a better place to live.

иidhi S said...

I completely agree with whatever you have said. It concerns me a lot too. Life and people in general are becoming fake and they are making that falseness get into their kids too.

I remember what value the childhood memories hold in our lives, what would the upcoming kids have to cherish as their growing up years.

Jeevan said...

In age alone some kids are kids, but they are gown elder than us. Is the availability that changes there attitude, even thought we greet the change; there life should not let roll out of control. A child means kind and innocent, something that belongs to child alone, which could not replace with adult knowledge. It was sorrow to hear from the kind lips spoke the strong and harmful words – in time it shows there boldness, it doesn’t looks beautiful.

Ria said...

Thats the whole reason as to why i feel i belong to the Victorian age!! It scares me to no end....and i dread what are my kids gonna do....i guess they will never hav the innocent childhood tht i had. Feels sad to see the artificial world around!!

Keshi said...

ty Diana!

**Theres a wall between our kids and ourselves these days

ur spot on!

And the parents just fill that void by giving money to their kids to do whatever they want.

ur comment is absolutely what its all abt!

Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Nidhi!

**what would the upcoming kids have to cherish as their growing up years

u raised a very good point there!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Jeevan!

**in time it shows there boldness, it doesn’t looks beautiful.

well-said there!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

True Ria...Im so like u too..u can call me an old-fashioned girl stuck in a fast-moving world :)

Keshi.

♪♪HARINI♪♪ said...

keshi,
lol!!

:D

Princess Mia said...

the people around us r moving faster than we realise.....

too bad inne :(

Keshi said...

:):) Harini

Keshi.

Keshi said...

yes Mia..too fast!

Keshi.

AVIANA said...

interesting....made me remember when my mom use to bring me to get my nails done with her when i was about 8 or so....

but i did not grow up to love plastic...i never ever get my nails done...much my mother's dismay...i got other things going and anyhow, my pedicure would go the second i put my flamenco shoes on and start doing footwork....i try to keep them neatly trimmed and all...but flamenco takes away the pretty.. :)

but it is surely nice the rare few times i do get them done... :)

i'm glad you're back...i thought you were gone!