Thursday, April 30

The Storybook You vs The Real You

In My Imagination...
Have you ever done something that is quite the opposite of what you believed you would do? I have. I'm sure most people would have done something totally different to what they imagined. How many times would you have advised a friend when they needed some guidance, but failed to follow the same advice when you were in their shoes? We all say or believe that we are so and so, but often do the contrary. We say one thing, but we behave in a totally different manner when we are being put through the real test of life. Here are some random examples:



*You do a tag in your blog that requires you to answer the question 'What are the best qualities about you?'. And you say something like 'I'm very forgiving, I have a big heart etc'. Now imagine in real life you have a tiff with one of your mates. And now you can't seem to forgive or forget...you find yourself keeping that anger in you for months and months, vowing yourself never to speak to that person again, dismissing their presence and attemtps to patch up with you. Suddenly your so-called big heart is nowhere to be found. So what exactly are you doing now? The exact contrary of what you claimed yourself to be. *think about it, who you believe you are is not always who you are*


*You may claim you love your parents alot, but when your mum asks you how your day was, you say 'I'm tired mum' and you just go into your room, turn your PC on and chat with your net friends, while your mum sits alone outside and watches TV. If you really love someone, then you wouldn't take them for granted. So you said one thing about loving someone, but you are doing something totally different when it comes to acting upon those words. *careful, what you say is not what you always carry out*


*Let's say you are someone who hate being rejected and that you believe in treating everyone with respect. But imagine that you continuously reject a person for some reason. You think you are way too cool to associate this person and you disregard them intentionally...or you act as if they don't exist. So what are you doing now? Quite the opposite of how you want to be treated or what you claim your values are. *watch out, how you like to be treated is not how you always treat others*



*How about terrorists? They say they want freedom, independence etc etc. But when they are out on a deadly mission, they are robbing innocent people of that same freedom and their lives too. So they believe in one thing but do the contrary. *update your memory, what you want from life is not what you always give out to others*



*Imagine at some stage you believed that you are hopeless, or that you were not as great as some others were. But now you see those same people you thought so high of behaving in ways that you'd not have even imagined. After all, you're not as bad as you thought you were. Infact, you are way better than those very people that you so admired. *beware, what you see is not what you always get*



A Candy House...
I'm not saying that we should all aim at being Saints...we can't. We are human and we are prone to making mistakes, we are prone to saying one thing but sometimes doing a different thing altogether. But, what we have to keep in mind is that who we believe we are and who we really are, are 2 different things. It would be good if they're both the same thing, but only very few people are like that...only a handful of people in this world really stick to their words, values and beliefs when it comes to their actions too. And only a very few people admit it when they screw up. The rest are living in denial. Trust me I have come across enough people like that in my life to write this post in total confidence.


Paper Flowers...
The best person to ask who you really are in comparison to what you believe you are, is not yourself. Ask a friend you have judged, ask your family, ask a total stranger you just met, ask someone you hurt intentionally, go back to your diary or tag-posts and read what you wrote about yourself...all those beautiful things about you. Ask anyone but yourself. Cos we always believe we are clean but we are very quick to judge others. Sadly, what you prefer to be is not always what you are to others. It's great to have a set of values and claim that you follow those values in real, but if others around you don't see your actions matching your words, then it's high time to wake up to the real you. Living inside a Storybook can take it's toll on Reality some day in your life. btw this post is not just for the readers, it's also for me...yes I admit I have strayed and hurt people too, much to my surprise, but atleast I admit it. At the same time, I have come across people who have shocked me and have totally contradicted what they claimed to be. In a way it's a blessing to know who they really are, so that I don't look upto such people again or live in the false hope of them ever proving me wrong. The one kind of people I cannot stand are hypocrites. It also makes me realise I'm way better than some self-proclaimed saints, philosophers, professors and beauties who take others for a ride and live oblivious to the fact they are really fooling themselves.


Living The Story...
Do you practise what you preach? Do you treat others the way you wanted to be treated? You may believe you're at the mountain peak but the real you could be somewhere at the very bottom, lagging behind. It could also be the other way around...you may see yourself as someone way behind compared to others, but you could infact be someone right at the top and ahead of others. The Storybook You and the Real You need to be reconciled...then you'd know yourself well enough not to fool yourself. Who we really are does not live in our academic qualifications or our certificates or our job titles or our assets...who we really are live in those small gestures, those simple deeds and those things that we say and do to others in our day to day lives. Are you really who you believe you are?


Current Music: Imaginary by Evanescence

132 Cranium Signets:

Hemanth Potluri said...

me first:D...:P...:D..

urs..hemu..

Chronicwriter said...

i have learnt from mistakes in my life and now i practise what i preach with God's help..

hatred
anger
pride
jealousy
lust

if i can control all these, ill be a good person.. and i am on the path.. hope i will succeed..

yes i am starting to believe that i am what i am

chriz

ANWESA said...

i cant help but say it was a wonderful post...its alwez better to acknowlege our lacunae rather than hide them.

P.S:i dunno how u write things so well,i wish i cud think like dat :D

Hemanth Potluri said...

1..big heart...


yes i have seen lot of people saying this and yet at last they act so cruel it hurts more...

2.i actually had tears when i read this...i did it when i was in my engineering...as if i was the topper and i was so tired stupid me...now i dont give a chance to loose my parents love :D...when i say i love i do it as long as i live...and not to hurt them....

3.watch out, how you like to be treated is not how you always treat others

good words sweets....that should wat everyone should...:)..

4.hmmmm

terrorists is the people i dont want to talk...**update your memory, what you want from life is not what you always give out to others

gr8 words..

5*beware, what you see is not what you always get*

i realized this very soon as i came to know the back stabbing :)..and i am on alert all the time :)..

6..candy house i like the pic u choose for this point....i told u when i became friend to hemz...he is a rocking guy ..

7.paper flowers

the next thing i should do is ask everyone wat they think...even if its a stranger...


8Are you really who you believe you are?

i believe in friendship ...i am not believing everything blindly but..friends some times make happiness spread...i belive in being with my parents and not them down for any reason...i never lied to friends abt anything..so i stand as i am ...dont want to change for now...future is not in my hand...


beautiful post sweets just loved it...:)...it made me look back and see the things or mistakes i have done..thnks to u...love u loads...hugs :)...

urs..hemu..

Chriz said...

regarding the competition in my page there is a suspense prize too... the suspence prize is based on the gender of the winner.. myte be a book or a soft toy or something really creative


so kesh! you can still try :P

Hemanth Potluri said...

me first after soooo many days :P....i am choooo happyyy chweets :D......

urs..hemu..

Menchie said...

It is a bit like being a parent and wanting your children to behave in a certain way and not say certain words, and yet, you find yourself doing or saying the exact same thing you told them not to. :D

sawan said...

makes a lot of sense Keshi. u make me think with all ur posts :) we shud catch up some time :)

do invite me for ur "greek wedding" , wnt ya? :P

comfortably numb said...

so true...so many times we just write good stuff, we speak good stuff but when it comes 2 actions we conveniently 4get all of them or rather we r not strong enough to follow those convictions....
it's said "be the change that u want"....
am guilty too of this on many many occasions...hopefully we can all have enough strength to practice what we preach:)

Ria said...

Very true Keshi!! Its like we talk of ideal things and the advice we give is also very idealistic. But when it comes to real life scenario....we all know somewhere inside tht we cant react in an idealistic manner then! Coz as u said we are human.

However, wht we can do is realise wht we really are....wht we say abt ourselves is not really wht we r...its actually wht we aspire to be. The good qualities tht we mention abt ourselves is wht we wud like to have.

It surely helps to be realistic here! And another thing tht we need here is immense amt of guts to admit wht we are. I know there are certain good qualities which hav been often taken advantage of!
I also hav some bad qualities due to which i hav unconsciously hurt ppl who mean a lot to me. But i hav realised them too....to go back and ask for forgiveness for my misdeeds. How can i advice ppl to do something when i myself dont practice that!

Thats the reason why i dont believe in giving advice. I only give my opinion to ppl who matter to me. Also, i believe we cannot solve somebody's problems....the person in trouble is the best one to do that! We jus cant see the matter as an outsider and solve it.

Arv said...

the only thing I feel that is so different from wat i want to do, is my work..

i try to and always say that i enjoy life every moment... but right now, my work life sucks...

time for a change :)

Trinaa said...

u mk me think way to much babes! my profs cud learn 4m u.. ;)

Rakesh Vanamali said...

A very relevant post with some apt thoughts! Ways to make life better and happier! Thanks for the insights!

Swetha Padakandla said...

hmmm

i have done it so many as times..
when i think abt it now, i feel ashamed of myself!

things happn and yeh, unknowingly we sometimes do thngs which we don't mean or didn't mean!

it was a very beautiful fact tht u wrote! Need to tel u thnx

cheers
swetha

Utopia said...

i try to practice what i preach and succeed most of the time. but it wasn't like this forever. i have lived and learnt. now i don't judge and so i try not to preach. i am human, not infallible and yes i do make mistakes.

Hobo ........ ........ ........ said...

No, I am not 100% but yes, we should always try to be what we believe we are.
example :
I havent read the post except the last paragraph and I accept it. But yes, I wish to read long post but I find it tough.

Devika said...

I am what I am...I check that every morning after I get up and every night before I go to sleep! :))

I never cared much about how the world thinks of me....But I have seen I can't be an Unkind or an unloving person, howsoever the world treats me! :)

Good post Keshi,
why do you get into this deep thoughts at times...I think you are lovable and loved by many, my dear :)

love, always
devika

V. Archana said...

such a beautiful posts...

ofcourse ive done many mistakes.. rectifying so.still learning not 2 commit anymore in the future.

we are humans...we tend to make mistakes... look for a change... to the good and and bad...knowingly or unknowingly... mistakes are a part of our life... leaving behind a good experience or repentance for our deeds.

Asha said...

I might have, don't think I remember now! :D

Adisha said...

Such an honest post ! So hard for a person to be the perfect version of themselves even half the time.

That's becoz every person and every situation are unique. Not necessary that any one reaction can be generalized.

Could be - someone has done something that Should not be forgiven .Or someone in time has realized talking to their parents about their day cozes their parents endless worry, so has started shutting off. Or the person rejected was coming on too strong. Or sometimes, you get a boost of over - confidence by example from an unexpected place :)

Terrorists, well, they are so brain washed, I don't think they are capable of thinking by the end of it .

Well, saint's we are not, and cannot be but if we self analyze and listen to the advise of those close to us, we have a good chance to being the best we can be !!:D But we need to be careful of throwing about those " I'd never ... " or " I always " types of sentences for we never know what tomorrow brigns ...

Amazing post Keshi ... u're very surely becoming one of the people I'd love meeting some day !!

Cheers,
adisha

Vani said...

Dats such a wonderful post Keshi..Luvd it. *Hugz*. U always wake the 'inner me' ..make my inner self to think a lot..

I never say out things lyk- I have big heart..forgiving heart..
But honestly, I DO think stuff lyk that..Stuff which do not always turn out to be right..Sometimes I shock myself with contradictions of my own thoughts nd reality..
Its not so easy to come out of the story book 'us' nd stare at the 'real life us'.. But I'm happy that I'm atleast TRYING:)

Cess said...

i know i do give a lot of advice to people but i can t take these advice to myself... i dunno y, i guess it s easier to give to someone than to actually apply them to urself! But i m sure as human we don t really like to criticize ourselves and we have the tendency to say more often our qualities than our defaults but at least we should recognize when we re making a mistake and assume the consequences. Yes i said I can forgive people but i can t forgive her, yes i can adapt myself easily in a new environment but i can t work with my new colleagues... by assuming ur mistakes u can work on it and improve urself if u re willing to do it of course.
tc sweetie.
C

иidhi S said...

Great Post.

As I went on and on with your post, I realised how many facts I agree upon, that you have put through. Yes there have been times, when I was preaching to someone and realised hey when i was in d same situation, i dint do that, how easy it is though to preach. Yes there have been times, wen i felt, in fact knew, I was living a lie. Yes there have been times, when I needed assurance over my acts, coz even I felt I had done wrong. Yes there have been times, when i disregarded someone for a reason, thats so stupid.
Yes I have done it, but i confess and have tried and avoided doin such stuff.

Thanks for the post :)

Jack said...

Keshi,

Real eye opener. Hope people read, understand and do reality check. I am not a saint but not an outright sinner too. One can lie to boss, peers, friends, family but the day one can lie to self it is beyond redemptions. Put yourself in other's shoes before you say anything or take any action. Your consciene is the best guide. The incident when Jessus asked one who has not sinned to throw the first stone is very apt. These I feel are the cardinal principles of life.

Take care

La vida Loca said...

Nice post!!
I try very hard not to define and identify w/ qualities coz like you say I have exhibited opposites all at once. As humans we are capable of it all.

an experience...nothing short of it said...

I had been acting the complete opposite of myself or the opposite of what i claimed i was. i knew what i was doing was very unlike me but i kept doing it anyway. the worse part was that i knew and still did nothing to change it. and the WORST part is what i was doing was that i was doing too much good for people who dont deserve it. that was my mistake.

but the good part is i wont have regrets. atleast i was doing good.
:/
nevermind .. i am babbling. :/

this post spoke directly to me. you had me from the first line..
Have you ever done something that is quite the opposite of what you believed you would do? I have.

rayshma said...

imo, we are constantly changing... as individuals. hence, to know urself completely at all times may not be possible. but yes, we need to make that attempt.. that effort in realizing how we've changed and to what extent...

and yeah, i do admit to having hurt some ppl sometimes, strayed frm what i believed i was/am... and i have attempted to make up for it as best as i could. unintentionally if i've hurt someone, i don't know... i can only hope not.

not a saint... just trying my best to be someone i'd like.

vishesh said...

I am not a hypocrite :) And as you know I am reposting my old poems in my poetry blog and I find that I haven't changed my views , at least not yet..hope I never will :P

Suresh Kumar said...

Well....
I am an ordinary individual whose five senses are always tested and he fails most of the times...
This tongue doesn't have any manners. These eyes don't know when to pull the shutters. This mind always tresspasses.
Yeah.... I am still not awake....

***Living inside a Storybook can take it's toll on Reality some day in your life.***
Very nicely put.

Tairebabs said...

Hey Keshi, I agree with you that most times we find it easier to give advise than to act out our advice. It really is part of what makes us human but of course it is something we should aspire to change. About saying we have a big heart, I think I have that problem. I am generally a cheerful person and I hardly get upset but when angered, I find that I am not as forgiving as I would like. Working on it though :-))

Beach Bum said...

Are you really who you believe you are?I have enough sense to say from the beginning, no. For years I, like most other I guess, built this view of myself that only held my better points, both real and imagined. That was when I had no demands on my time and attention when I was free and single.

As with most thing in my life marriage changed that. At first it was just my wife and dealing with her expectations that were both helpful in that she wanted me to be a better person and harmful in that she wanted me to change in ways that I could not or that were not true to me. Continuing my education is one thing but trying to make into what her narrow idea of a success was did nothing but strain our relationship to the point that we only stay together for the kids.

I have found that I am far more than the sum of my parts, both good and bad, and now just try to overrule the bad and promote the good. Although I have over the years come to like my fellow Americans and people in general less and less. Far too much in the way of excessive egos, greed, hubris, and general mistreatment of others that have no way to defend themselves.

Whitesnake said...

Funny you should post this as I did that experiment survey from Donn's Blog and posted the results........

I'd be friends with with a blacksnake with a festered arse, only if ya held it's head!

Everyone deserves ta be befriended.

Until you give me cause to dislike you, then we remain friends always.
Respect me and I will respect you.

Friendships have been destroyed over trival things and differences, I as an example may not be your idea of a great person to hang round with and as most would know our cultures are so diverse but we remain friends cos we accept our differences no matter what they are. I like you cos ya have a cute ass, beautiful eyes and a nice set of........words ya put ta paper.
You like me cos ..........ya young and naive!

LMAO!

NE~ISM said...

Keshi, I read and read this post and I was shocked! I think I am a good person but when you sit and think about all of what you have listed and lets you know that there is a lot of room for improvement!

Everyday of my life I pray to G-d to be a better person! I hope it is working.. I need a lot of control over my anger issues from time to time..

Damn Keshi! You got me thinking!!

Nehya

GLOBAL BLOGS said...

Hi Keshi

I always like to think I'm God. LOL

Great post or book? :)

I have another post up. Still one a week.

Next week I'm off to Mexico. Just joking at something which is anything but a joke. I hope they get a handle on it.

I am going away though.

Bev

iriz said...

you really put a great idea here KESHI. this is so true and i totally agree with you.

everyone must keep it real but before that, they must know what was actually real.

great post!

The Pink Orchid said...

this was one thought provoking post.. loved it to the core.. ofcourse at times we don't pratise what we preach.. with me it is different I hardly go into preaching.. if i say I forgive I'd also add that I don't forget.. and vice versa...

we should rather make the world aware of what we are rather than build a false image of ours and keep struggling throughout our lives to make that look real! that is insane and a waste of time...

my point is why do we have to project ourselves differently..

not saying i was always this clear about myself and yes there was a phase when i did a lot of preaching but then this question hit me long back that whether I am doing what i am telling others that i am doing.. and voila! i am working on myself from that day...

glad to have read something like this..

Pooja said...

it's high tym v stopped lyin' 2 ourselves...if v cant b tru 2 ourselve...v cant be tru 2 ne1 else...

Die Muräne said...

wow, I'm away for a few weeks and find your blog in a totally new style!!!

Looks coooooooool!

Diya said...

I just went on reading on and on as the reality seeped into me... I just don't know re, who I am, what i am, why I am... Its all suchh a mystery, life is becoming greater than life-size to me gradually... wish I could depart with all the realizations.
Nevertheless, it was a great realization Keshi, Keep 'em burning. :)

pisku said...

Your right that we sometimes take gifts (parental affection) for granted!

and ya, we doing the opposite of what we think/say is clearly an indication of not knowing oneself. Obviously a part of everyone!

Phoenix said...

now this is something i go through quite often.. im this tom who does things very daringly.. where in actuality im scared of it.. like climbing up on the water tank which is on the terrace to check the water levels [i'm scared of heights] i kill cockroaches with one big whack! [i am scared of cockroaches] im roam about in the dark as if im an owl [but then im scared of darkness]

awesome post as always

krystyna said...

Wow your messages always come at the right time for me.
Perfect for relection.

You're rigt
who you believe you are is not always who you are

krystyna said...

Love this song and the pictures are great.
And I like the song with lyric.

Have a wonderful weekend, Keshi!

Shachi said...

Good post. We do this oh so often - but its important to have the self realization of your own actions and keep growing....I find myself a way better individual than 10 years ago - when I moved to the US by myself....

We should swallow our pride and be humble....

The friends in our life will tell a lot about us.....and most of it will be true....

♪♪HARINI♪♪ said...

well i dunno... i always believed that to err is human. and yeah i do love myself A LOT. but i always respect everyones opinion and respect them for who they are. and actually others feel so too.. and when others dont accept me the way i am, well i dont like that, they cant make me feel inferior and get away with it.

it seems a pretty lame and shallow comment and ill come back and recomment if i can put it in a better way. :)

Nirmal said...

been missing ur hell lot of posts...still took time to read ur party post (previous one)...it was fun..

keep rocking gal...and dont forget to carry ur ids for party...hehehhee

De.vile said...

Of course I remember you. I am bad with keeping in touch and am loosing interest in my blog. So, unfortunately, are the people who read it. No sweat. Hope to get back on track by june. Hoping, more like

Heart'n'Soul said...

Hey Keshikins
M finaly back... n hopin to be around more often :)

everythin changed... the look of ur blog and the profile pic too...LOL

good read after a long long time :)

so true... we r not always who we think we are... and sometimes our own behaviour confuses us as well

and at the same time, its so hard to digest that we r not exactly wt we preach and think... we are not wt we want to be.

the true "US" is actually someone who is a stranger to us.

nice post Kesh...as always :)

Luv
D

Cazzie!!! said...

Yep, I am ME! No one else can be me, lol

Mayz said...

we r all hypocrits...not even one of us can deny that...

n we live in a hypocrite world wid hypocrite values n beliefs...

v see prince charming or cinderella everytime we look in d mirror but when someone else does that we consider dat person a narcissist

i claim to b rude n a devil...i claim to b a narcissist n everyone arnd me agress

WarmSunshine said...

You know Keshi... I've been reading blogs all over, and forgetting to comment. See I'm so messed up? :/

Okay coming back to comment after reading the last part of ur post :)

WarmSunshine said...

Okay read it all, and I'm back :)

That song playing on your blog is kinda scary... for me. And the photos of old classics knock something in me. Some years back I was an oldie lover. I got too carried away with them. That's why. The song suits it just fine. You shook me for a moment Keshi.

I'm a person full of contradictions maybe. Some, if not "full" of them. I am happy to tell you that I'm the one who has the guts to admit every single time what my fault was. I know not many have the courage to bare themselves in today's world. That's where my confidence in myself comes from.

Your posts always leave me wondering Keshi. How do you ever do it??

Are you on some social networking site? Or on some messenger? I would like to connect with you. Do let me know.

Take good care.

Rakesh said...

Hmm, thought provoking Keshi! But what prompted this?

I actually think, I'm self obsessed But as you say, I may not be exactly what I think I am. I may be a very humble person :P he he

Priya Joyce said...

soryyyyyyyy for being late lemme post this bfore commenting :P

Priya Joyce said...

this is real attack to a persons superficial beliefs...after reading this..am sure.many wud discover the things they've been covering up....

I surrender ma'am I truly agree that i truly am no completely wat i think to be...and i am not stubborn to disagree..well more than that i am ready to accept..and so i am to change for better....isn't that the spirit we all shud hav...

:)
am sure..u must hav thot a lot bfore riting this :P

Brain resources draining away :P

The Rat... said...

hmmm.. for someone who lived alone for some 7 yr now and always prefers being alone, all those listed is an alien subject, Kesh...

i am with my parents now yet restrict myself to my room.. i am yet to practise the 7 sins of life...

- Sugar Cube - said...

Practical Philosophy..Agree with & loves every word written here.
I did want to counter few points but I guess its not important..was deducing it to mirco level.

The big picture is as you've put it brilliantly - "The Storybook You and the Real You need to be reconciled"

Picture perfect!

Keshi said...

Hemz u FIRST-maniac!

Keshi.

Keshi said...

Good on ya Chriz, tho its not that easy to do! Im sure u will succeed cos ur such a calm, loving and pleasant person overall. u really r!

Keshi.

Keshi said...

hey ty Anwesa! :)

Keshi.

The Phosgene Kid said...

I think you are pretty nice.

Keshi said...

ty Hemz!

All those ppl who claim they hv big hearts r not always like that. Time and experience with many ppl hv taught me that.

I know u love ur parents alot :)


Keshi.

Keshi said...

Chriz I took part oyeah! :)

Keshi.

Keshi said...

Hemz ur so happy abt being FIRST? lol ok!

Keshi.

Keshi said...

yes Menchie, its like the mother crab asking the baby crab to walk straight :)

Keshi.

Keshi said...

Sawan, GREEK wedding? no ways! :)

Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty CN!

**be the change that u want

spot on!

And if u cant be that change, plz dun preach or expect others to treat u that way :). Thats wut I believe in.

Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Ria that was a very good insight!


**Thats the reason why i dont believe in giving advice. I only give my opinion to ppl who matter to me

Spot on!

I may sound like Im preaching in my blogs, but they r all opinions...and a whole lot of lessons for MYSELF too. I write so that I can come back and read my own thoughts written long time ago...and see how I hv progressed or deteriorated.

Blog posts are a good measurement of personal development.


Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Arv!

we cant always HAVE what we wanna HAVE in life. So we end up working in areas that we didnt ever dream of.

I hope things improve for ya. TC!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

hey Trinaa I hope I didnt make ur brain hurt tho :)

tnxx hun!

Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Rakesh!

yes...writing such posts make me become a better person too :)

Keshi.

Ankur said...

I always say i am very selfish to begin with... :)

now there is a degree of everything... even how much u love ur life!!
So when people answer, you have to take this on face value... coz nothing is 100% true except truth... and there is no such truth exists!!

So my point is.. we try our best, to be what we are... we do our stuff... but we all suffer from the paranoid of life... we pretend... all of us mock... some way or other!!

but ya... rather than asking who we are and believing it, i agree to u that friends, family and ppl arnd u r d ones who can answer this honestly... so we shall listen to them... and those who dont do this... are arrogant and self centered!!

Still... who we really are is what we believe we are... :)

u know... i have heard this... ppl say oh i want someone real in my life, and then they run after handsome... a guy or a girl who doesnt look good, but who is good enough to be with you is ignored coz they are good looking... it doesnt matter whether they are good human or not!!

Asking ourselves and finding out who we are... the first step to that is knowing do we know what others are... can we see the truth with naked eyes?? Unless we can see that, we cant see this one too... it all left to pretending then!! :)

Cheers!!

Keshi said...

aww ty Swetha!

the fact that u openly stated u felt ashamed of some things that u did, means u hv 'realised'...and that ur ready to change.

Cos some ppl dun even REALISE...thats the saddest part.


Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Utopia!


**now i don't judge and so i try not to preach

I agree. Some ppl preach, judge and label others but fail to realise that they themselves need a whole lot of improvment in their lives.


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Keshi said...

Hobo tnxx!

Actually my posts may seem long, but they are not really long :) Cos of the pics that I attach to the posts, they get stretched and also cos of the small width of the template, the posts seem longer.


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Keshi said...

Devika tnxx!

**But I have seen I can't be an Unkind or an unloving person

true! I can never be that either.


I may be lovable yes but there r ppl who reject that 'lovableness' in me...they simply disregard it as nonsense. And I sympathise with them :):)


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Keshi said...

true Archana, we r human...but we cant make that an excuse when we do something hurtful 'intentionally'.

:)

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Keshi said...

Good to know that Asha :)

Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Adisha!

**Could be - someone has done something that Should not be forgiven

true, I agree.


**Never, always...

Thats right. dun PROMISE ppl or preach to and judge others, if u urself cant be any of that.


It's not abt being a Saint, it's abt being the best that u can be! :)


Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Vani!


**Its not so easy to come out of the story book 'us' nd stare at the 'real life us'

very true!

And Im glad that Im atleast TRYING too.


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Keshi said...

ty Cess!

***Yes i said I can forgive people but i can t forgive her, yes i can adapt myself easily in a new environment but i can t work with my new colleagues...

Very good examples!

And thats what I mean...we often GENERALISE our qualities but fail miserably when we face individual situations.


Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Nidhi!


**Yes I have done it, but i confess and have tried and avoided doin such stuff

good to know that! That means u r progressing, not stagnating in one place. Great!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

Very good example there Jack @ Jesus story.


**One can lie to boss, peers, friends, family but the day one can lie to self it is beyond redemptions

so true. ppl r often too quick to judge others, talk abt others, live in lies etc but one day they'll wake up n realise how much of a lie they hv been to THEMSELVES.


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Keshi said...

ty Lavida!

yes we r human thus prone to making mistakes...but each time, we hv to become better ppl..not worse. We hv to progress, not stagnate.


Keshi.

Keshi said...

aww ty Experience :)


** it. and the WORST part is what i was doing was that i was doing too much good for people who dont deserve it. that was my mistake.

Im glad abt that too! Cos I always went out of my way to be kind to ppl who prolly dun deserve it. But it still makes me glad that Im not a cruel or heartless person.


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Keshi said...

Good on ya Raysh!

**and i have attempted to make up for it as best as i could

me too.

And ur right, we r constantly changing...and I just want it for the BEST. Not for the WORST :)


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Keshi said...

Good on ya Vish :)

Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Suresh!

**This tongue doesn't have any manners. These eyes don't know when to pull the shutters. This mind always tresspasses.
Yeah.... I am still not awake....


I like the way u put it..not AWAKE. wow!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

tnxx Tairebabs!

o well me too...I believe I hv a big heart but sometimes Im so upset I shut down completely :)


Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty BB!


**I have found that I am far more than the sum of my parts, both good and bad, and now just try to overrule the bad and promote the good

So true. This is what MANY ppl do. In that process, often our bad qualities get hidden and stay unattended.


Keshi.

Keshi said...

LOL Steve ok! ;-)


**Until you give me cause to dislike you, then we remain friends always.
Respect me and I will respect you.


I so agree. Well-said!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Ne!

**Everyday of my life I pray to G-d to be a better person

yes we hv to PROGRESS, not STAGNATE. Thats what I meant from this whole post.

As humans, we will make mistakes...but if we dun learn from em and become better ppl, we r only rotting in one place forever.


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Keshi said...

ty Bev!

**I always like to think I'm God

HAHA quite an apt comment for this post!


I just landed from my holiday Mexico, Im holding a ham sandwich and Im abt to sneeze...wud u like to sit next to me? LOL!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

hey ty Iriz!

**everyone must keep it real but before that, they must know what was actually real.

very well-said!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Pink_Orchid and WC! :)


**we should rather make the world aware of what we are rather than build a false image of ours and keep struggling throughout our lives to make that look real!


I so agree and very well-said there. I see some ppl saying one thing but doing a totally different thing when it comes to real life experiences. We all do that sometimes but atleast I admit to it. These ppl dun even REALISE what they r doing. And thats the saddest part. Cos they think they know it all and that they r the best of humans on Earth.


Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Pooja!


**f v cant b tru 2 ourselve...v cant be tru 2 ne1 else

Spot on!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

hehe Murane WB :)

Keshi.

Keshi said...

hey Diya tnxx!

yes...some of who we are is a mystery..but not ALL of it :)


Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Pisku!

yes its a part of being human but we cant always make that an excuse :)

Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Phoenix! :)

yes Im like u too...I say Im not scared of this n that, but in real Im so bloody scared lol!

Keshi.

Keshi said...

hey ty Krys! :)

Im glad u like the song too.

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Keshi said...

yes Shachi its all abt personal GROWTH.


**We should swallow our pride and be humble....

Spot on! So many ppl r so egoistic and proud. They simply cannot let go. Must be hard to be who they are.



**The friends in our life will tell a lot about us.....and most of it will be true

very well-said!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Harini!


** i always believed that to err is human.

yes I agree but being human cannot always be used as an excuse. we must admit to our mistakes and learn from them.


Keshi.

Keshi said...

hey Nirmal tnxx! :)

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Keshi said...

De.vile hey its great to hear from ya :)

I may not comment in ur every post, but I certainly hvnt forgotten ya...thats why I digged my old posts and came to say Hi to ya :)

Hope all is well with ya. Did u hear from Ashes recently?


Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Div n WB! :)


**its so hard to digest that we r not exactly wt we preach and think...


true and thats when Pride n Ego sets in.


Keshi.

Keshi said...

yeyyyyy and that ME rockz! @Caz

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Keshi said...

ty Mayz!

**v see prince charming or cinderella everytime we look in d mirror but when someone else does that we consider dat person a narcissist

I so agree. ppl called me narcissistic, branded me as hvn personality issues, judged me, hated me, called me fake, jobless etc etc but I find those very ppl hv deep issues that they need to resolve first. Sad state u know.


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Keshi said...

ty Sunshine_girl!


** I am happy to tell you that I'm the one who has the guts to admit every single time what my fault was

great to know that. Cos not many ppl r like that. Most live in denial.


Im glad u like the song and that classics theme of this post :) Im a huge fan of oldies hehe.


Keshi.

Keshi said...

Rakesh u r a humble person with cute long hair :)


**But what prompted this?

Many ppl that I've known, including myself.


Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Joyce and Im so glad ur bak :)


**and i am not stubborn to disagree..well more than that i am ready to accept..and so i am to change for better..

Good on ya! Cos thats what we all should aim at..at being BETTER ppl.


Keshi.

Keshi said...

Rat ur like me then...I value being alone. :)

Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Sugar! ;-)

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Keshi said...

aww u too Phoso! :) ty.

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Southpaw unplugged said...

So many times i have done things which i didnt believed in, especially in my professional life, but what to do...Its an annoyingly helpless situation.

Keshi said...

ty Ankur!

yes ur right...most of us PRETEND. We show a great, smart, beautiful side of us to the world, just so that we r admired and loved. But the real us live deep inside of us and come out when we r faced with real life situations.

I see ppl in blogs write beautiful n assuring things abt themselves. but in a situation that should bring out that side of them, they show a very different side of them.


**can we see the truth with naked eyes??

I agree. Can we? if not, we r all living a mockery.


Keshi.

Hemanth Potluri said...

Good Morning sweets hoz ur weekend gone...hoz the sunshine doing today :)...

urs..hemu..

enchanted illusionz said...

you are rite keshi, we are not
what we think we are.we are more tan all dat. until a few yrs a go , i tot i knew evrythn abt me , how i wld react n such n such situation n all that , growing up..i found m not what i thot i was & now i make no predictions of myself. why fetter myself within a fairytale image f myself...one can be just about everything.
sometimes even better tan d storybook me , sometimes a lot worse ....but who cares , i jus wanna live as me whoever that is or however i am ..

p.s i alwayz wonder how you put across things so clearly. i love your thought process, there is a natural discipline in it.

Towards reclamation said...

sry fr being late ... hv been awfully busy and away frm home hence away frm net during nights when i am free... i am in a town called kurnool and net is still not a necessity here .. so ... anyway .. back to your post ..
true very true what u said ... as far as i go i think i do practice what i preach .. though there has been an incident where the situation got the better of me .. just once .. but i guess even once is enough eh ??? :)
nice one ..

Kartz said...

Hypocrisy isn't alien to humanity; and you know it. Ah well, as the French say - C'est la vie!

@Chriz
It's not just about "I am what I am..." Here is my take on that statement, "I am not what I am; and what I am not, that is precisely what I am."

Peace. Be well.

Satish Bolla said...

"Who we really are does not live in our academic qualifications or our certificates or our job titles or our assets...who we really are live in those small gestures, those simple deeds and those things that we say and do to others in our day to day lives."

All I can say is this one is a masterpiece.

AmitL said...

Hi,Keshi-I'm impressed with this post-really..The question'Are you really who you believe you are?'..was the clincher...and,to be honest,I don't have an answer to it at present.
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But,coming to the first part of the post-yes,I've sometimes done something that is quite the opposite of what I thought I would do...and,it's usually been my instinct which said'To hell with it-go ahead and take the risk'..and,it worked!:) On the other hand,I do believe in practicing what I preach,by first preaching to myself..haha..
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'What are the best qualities about you?'is an interview question..I don't think anyone can give a 100% honest answer-I'd leave it to the opposite person who knows me,to tell me!And,try and improve on myself if he/she gives some constructive criticism.:)
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This post reminds me of the phrase'Do unto others as you would have others do unto you':)Good going!!I would hereby like to extend an invite to u to write a guest post for my 'inspirations' blog..please..topic-your choice!TC.

Keshi said...

hey Hemz :)

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Keshi said...

yes Southy :) we all do that.

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Keshi said...

hey Enchanted HUGS!


**i found m not what i thot i was & now i make no predictions of myself. why fetter myself within a fairytale image f myself...one can be just about everything.


I agree...now I dun make any promises to anyone..neither do I act as if Im the best thing that happened to humankind lol!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

hey TR ty and WB!

I agree..we do make mistakes but never make the same mistake TWICE :)

Keshi.

Keshi said...

hey Kartz!

**I am not what I am; and what I am not, that is precisely what I am.

I didnt get that lol! what did u mean?


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Keshi said...

ty Satish! :)

It isnt a masterpiece...it's a very simple aspect of life...just that we dun often realise it hehe...

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Keshi said...

ty Amit and ty for being so honest!

neither do I hv an ans to that qn...cos I dun think Im always the person that I WANT to be.


**On the other hand,I do believe in practicing what I preach,by first preaching to myself..haha..

LOL good one! wut d u think Im doing? I preach to myself in my blog so I rem to stick to my words haha!


Keshi.

Ani said...

awww i loved this post

n so mannyy thingss..tht i could sooo relaatttee too..

Kartz said...

Well, that was a parody on the famous statement we all like to give - I am what I am. (No offence to Chriz! For that matter, I include myself, too!)

Try reading it closely. Just keep your own post in mind.

Remember that this online thingie gives us a mask. We are comfortable behind this mask. We keep our identity to ourself. And it is prolly with a handful that we reveal who we actually are.

We try to put forward an image of someone we are not. We cannot be like that in real life. Virtual life gives us that opportunity.

I do not mean to say - everyone of us dons this mask - but lets say a *majority* does. I would love to be proved wrong. Unfortunately, from my experiences thus far, I have been proved right.

I hope it makes *some* sense now. Or have I made meself a laughing stock. :| :(

Cheers, anyway. :)

Peace.

Keshi said...

tnxx Ani and Kartz!

Keshi.