Tuesday, October 16

Kiss-Ass Resistant!

DISCLAIMER: I don't need any sympathy!

I must be in this rare mood to blog ;-). Anyways, I think my Intimidating nature has alot to contribute to my single status. As kind, sweet, adorable as I can be ahemmm!, I can also be quite scary. I don't mean to say I'm of supernatural nature and that I float around with hollow eyes, scaring guys their butts off hehe. What I meant by 'scary' was that I'm some kind of anaphylactic shock to most men's psyche. Alot of men want a docile, devoted, calm girl as their partner. I'm quite the opposite...I'm a brutally honest, weird, ultra-sensitive, super-bitchy bitch (Warning:recently started taking mega-bitch pills). Not the kind of GF you see in every romantic movie. Are you scared yet? I guess not...that's cos I haven't shown you the real deal yet. I can also be a big-mouth..not a loud-mouth though. I don't just sit and listen to any guy...if he says something that's totally wacky, he's gotta be prepared to hear what I have to say too. I'm not ashamed to voice my beliefs, neither am I afraid to hear criticism. I stand by my thoughts and I don't let anyone walk over them. That doesn't mean I'm egoistic...I believe in a healthy ego. I respect someone else's opinion and If we don't agree, then I'm pretty satisfied with agreeing to disagree. I don't always 'listen' to people just cos they want me to. I don't like being controlled and I believe in equal rights. I'm not so desperate to have a man in my life that I'd even sacrifice my self-worth to achieve that. There are days when I need my own space and times when I'd like to be alone. I don't like being pestered about 'fulfilling' the partner 'role'...I'd rather be who I am, at all times and at any cost. Sorry I don't kiss ass.

I don't know if some men truly like women like me, or they just pretend to like such women, but in real they'd only settle with a less out-spoken woman. I find alot of men (most Indian/Sri Lankan men - don't look at me that way, it's the truth! And I said MOST, not ALL) boasting about liking out-spoken and bold women, but in real life they'd only settle down with a domesticable, quiet, submissive woman that they can 'control'. I have seen even very smart women being controlled by their partners...though they loved and respected each other, the 'woman's role' is very evident...it's like she has to stay put where she 'belongs'. I know times have changed and people have too..but I see the same expectation still lying deep down alot of men's minds and alot of women giving into that expectation just so that they can be with a man. Most men don't prefer bold, confident and blunt women as their life-long partners (maybe just for a shag and that's about it), full-stop. And yes we can agree to disagree. Men have walked into my life, stayed around for a while and left me standing out in the rain. Maybe cos I was being me. I have no idea what men really want. I don't intend to find out either..not anymore.

PS: plzzz dun say Keshi you'll find your man soon! I really loathe that line from the very bottom of my heart.


Current Music: I Aint Missing You At All by John Waite

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Kirthi said...

love u honey for d way ur!!

the_new_cloud said...

Oh...
It takes all to make the world..:)

I have heard Men have started groups to fight "Violence Against Husbands" here in India..
:P

Keshi said...

tnxx Kirthi I love u too!


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Hey Cloud I didnt mean I beat my men! :)



Keshi.

Ashy said...

Hehe Keshi, you have been wonderfully frank and brutally honest about your feelings. I need this trait in me big time right now.

Wish i could get it!!!

Jeevan said...

It’s true what u said. Some... Why some, many wanted their partner to be controlled and not to extend there thoughts above us. But I feel it should be changed. Not only between partners, it happening even in growing a boy and girl child, where boys given rights more than girls, so he treats every one at same.

"That doesn't mean I'm egoistic...I believe in a healthy ego." I like it keshi.

dharmabum said...

stay single. simpler. easier. and a lot more interesting :)
and my friend - just go back and count the number of Is in your post ....:O

Orikinla Osinachi. said...

Sweet,
Sweeter and
Sweetest Keshi, mori, bori.
Hot
Hotter and
Hottest.
But hot or cold, a lady will always be a lady.

If all women were docile, submissive and men-fearing, the world would have been filled with morons.

The men who want to intimidate a woman to prove their manhood or whatever, have inferiority complex.

I was not born yesterday and I am over 40 and I have been in both local and international communities with the poorest of the poor and also with the richest of the rich, both white and black and Asians. So, I can speak from my long years of experience.

A real man does not need a woman to prove he is a real man.
Only an inferior man needs a woman to go on ego trips.
All you need is honesty.
No more, no less.

God created woman to be a help mate for man.
Because, He said it was not good for man to be without a woman.

Imagine a world without women.
It would be worse than hell.

Men should spend some quality time to meditate on the profound depth of the thought of God in creating Woman.
Look at all the biological and psychological attributes of a Woman.
Then look at the roles that God gave women in the Holy Bible.
God took up the despised Rahab and from the lineage of Rahab, came forth Mary, the Virgin mother of Jesus Christ our Messiah.
God never disrespected any woman.
Look at Eve, Sarah and even how God took care of Hagar when Abraham told her to leave.
What of Deborah, Queen Esthber, Queen of Sheba and now finally the Shummanite Woman?
Please read how God described woman in the Song of Solomon.
Awesome.
Therefore, God already showed us how to adore and love a woman.
So, no woman should settle for less.

A man should see and treat every woman as a Princess when she is single and as a Queen when she is married.

I have a white page in my book, "The Language of True Love", dedicated to my Princess and My Queen and her place in the palace of my heart and soul is still vacant.

Every woman should see herself as a princess when she is single and as a Queen when she is married.

No true princess is cheap and no true queen can be trampled upon.

But ironically, women have allowed men to disrespect and intimidate them.
We do not see men walking on the streets, in red light districts, hawking themselves like cheap commodities.

Most women display and portray thmselves as sex symbols and women have been doing so for centuries. Therefore, boys and men have seen girls and women as sex symbols first, before seeing them in other roles.
What is a sex symbol?
A sex object to be used for pleasure and to satisfy their egos.

Men will respect women who respect themselves.

Woman is the mother of Man.

My father treated my mother like a Queen.
I never saw my father hit or beat my mother and I never saw them sleep apart in annoyance.
So, when I saw my cousin beat his wife some years ago, I burst into tears. I could not bear the sight of him punching her. I separated them. But something happened to the respect I had for my cousin.
I was very disappointed.

Women can correct men.
So, women should start now by breeding the next generation of perfect women loving men.
How mothers raise their boys will determine their future.

The hand that rocks the cradle can rule the world.

Women should start teaching men how to love and respect women from the cradle as my mother taught me.

If your girlfriend or wife has a big mouth like Keshi, do not slap her mouth shut and do not scream "shut up!"
The best way to keep her mouth shut, is to kiss her lovingly.

When I am with a babe and she is screaming and yelling in anger or whatever, I hush her lovingly.
Ssssshhhhhhhh...
Then, I seal her lips with a sweet kiss.
Stroking her eyebrows, ears and the back of her neck as I am kissing her tenderly.

For every woman, there is a man.
And for every man, there is a woman.

Women can tame men from the cradle.

Any man who loves and respects his mother will love and respect his woman.

Cheers and God bless.

Fish said...

Keshi, what can I say, that I have not said before.
But i can tell you this. There are some of us, who do want a woman, that we can depend on. A woman, that will stand up for us and herself, and not just expect, her man to be the only dominant one.
I want a women, to respect me, because she loves who I am, and not simply because I'm a man. A partner.
Hell, if I just want a fuck, I'll pay a whore. If I deside to live with someone, I want her to have something to say.

And than, there's Jim :)))))))

MoonStone said...

...I'm a brutally honest, weird, ultra-sensitive, super-bitchy bitch...

Being brutally honest, one must not be (ultra-)sensitive... See if you are, the other one could also be... both ...

It seems quite out of context, but I really liked "What Women Want?" featuring Mel Gibson... and if ever he directs "What Men Want?", I promise I will buy you a couple of tickets, and I hope you will use both of them... ;)

MoonStone said...

...I'm a brutally honest, weird, ultra-sensitive,.....

Being brutally honest, one should not be (ultra-)sensitive, I think... because if you are, the other one also might very well be... both ...

Anyway, slightly out of context, I really liked "What Women Want?" featuring Mel Gibson... Just in case, he directs "What Men Want?", I promise to buy you a couple of tickets,... and I hope you will be able to use both of them.. :)

the_new_cloud said...

Was kidding...
:P

Vest said...

My sweet young Gr/daughter, Tamara Rose 14.5 years, penned this message to her ex school boy friend this w/end.

"And I thought you were my Knight in Shining Armour.
Turns out you were some loser Wrapped in Alumimium Foil".

Keshi; you have more love than any man could wish for.xxx amour vous.

Ghost Particle said...

you have me, you dont need anyone else. :D

Will b back with a proper comment.

anuj said...

keshi O' keshi ..

I wud rather say
tht it was jus another day

hehe .. it rhymed ..
I mean such things occur to u some dyz or u can it can also continue fr few dyz .. thinkin abt urself n y aren't u being loved like others are .. are u less fortunate or wat ? or is it a curse? or is it tht certain things are getting bck to you? .. or are u really wrth something or not?

nd it kills u !! sadly.

but thn .. soon or later .. aftr all those painstaking dyz ..normal dyz wud b there again .. whr u wud b confident or urself .. n some guy wud smile at u in the subway ..

evryone tells me tht one shud wait fr the rite one to come .. nd all tht bullshit .. I dont really confirm with tht though .. bt thn lazy guyz like me aren't better at nething else too .. hehehe ..

being outspoken is nt at all bad .. i mean I love outspoken gals .. more fr the fact tht I wont have to wrk hard to chit chatting .. hehehehe .. bt its really nice to jus relax n keep listening .. bt thn think of this .. like u want a time out fr urself sometime .. so wud d guy? .. so sometimes the outspoken-ness shud b shunned .. nt tht its a compromise or something .. its an understanding basically ..

newyz. . jus relax n take care ..
any one up fr a kiss eh? ..

Aditi said...

nah if they are getting intimidated by something like this then they arent worth much now are they?

Tys on Ice said...

well , if it makes u happy, iam married to a woman who is a lot like wht u described urself as....i will not say its easy , must be becoz iam a man and an indian :) , but i wudnt change it for anything in this world....

to us its all abt respect...love is such an overrated word and it has a way of coming in waves, so is not dependable to completely base a relationship upon...there are days whn i feel like throwing things at her, iam sure she feels like that abt me too...but i truly like this person...and wudnt change one thing abt her...

except maybe hitting me everytime i swear ;)

priya said...

Men really need love and all the heat up when they r low. No nagging traits and shud love his family and accept or make him live like a man rather being a secondary voice.

Asha said...

I was like you when I got married, got me in LOT of trouble with everybody including my parents. They expect obedience and I wasn't going to give it to them. Arvind and I are okay most of time as long as he is away from his parents.When they are around,God help me. I am alone and have to fend for myself even today!
Be yourself and be independent. Happiness comes within yourself when you are happy with who you are.I tell that to my daughter too!:))

Adnan Siddiqi said...

hmmm...

Be real, you sure will find a real partner.

Adorable Pancreas said...

Aren't we all? I've never been in a relationship (read loser), and a friend I talked to about this (as in, is anything wrong with me?) said that guys probably find my brutal honesty a litte scary, not knowing what I'll say next. My 'predictable' friend, sweet and easygoing, has a boyfriend. I'm not making her seem less than she is, but I notice that if you have anything resembling a backbone, most men shy off. She isn't spineless, but he's pretty controlling, and she almost always listens to him, even if she doesn't want to. Like the time all of us planned a party, and he made her cancel at the last minute because he didn't approve of the guest list. If anyone did that to me, I'd be wearing his hide to the party. There must be at least 2 people in the world who like women with spines, one for you, and one for me! :)
Current motto: Mera number aaega!

Helen said...

One of the funniest relationship movies I saw years ago was a Sandra Dee movie from the sixties "If a Man Answers..." and it was about this new bride who was given a "How to care for your new dog" book from her mother with the admonishment "it will help you in your marriage." Oh, Keshi, it was silly, but some of the advice was a little practical in a twisted way (just insert "your man" wherever it says puppy):

1.If you want puppy to go where you want to go, let him have his way just a bit, then redirect him your way--with loads of praise

*so the lead went golfing and fishing with her man, then took him shopping for two days*

2.If puppy does something that displeases you, correct puppy gently, then show him what pleases you.

3.Puppy will respond most to praise.

It was funny, but ultimately about manipulation...ah well, I guess we just have to learn to treat each other with respect (but praise works for puppies and men ; ) !!!)

Standbymind said...

OK..I am not sayin anything
;)!!!

nasia said...

..and cudnt read the first part of the blog.. due to the pic.. and i am in office.. :(

nice one.. how i wish i cud write all such stuff in my blog.. i am gonna start an anonymous one!!

we shud get together and bitch abt men.. soon!

nasia said...

cudnt read the first part of ur post.. cause of the pic.. and i was in office.. :)


abt the men,.. we shud get together and bitch abt all those men! soon!!

Jay said...

Scared ... of you?? Pfffffffft ;-)

I know most men really do want women they can control and they are afraid of strong women, but I don't understand why. Who would want a wimpy little wallflower girl who never has her own opinion and is dependent on her guy? That sucks.

Ghost Particle said...

yep you hit a point there matey. All men want is the girl in the movies. Always in the mood, always Yes and always hot. And they call me separated from reality. I think being single is the best, I dont even have to think of another girl and another family. I just live my life and think of my family and friends. And that itself is an emotional roller coaster.

This is the 21st century, there are men out there who understands the needs of the new age woman (an age that started a hundred years ago). While there are no blatant disregard for women freedom such as 100Y's ago, men today do the cold war. And women are kicking their asses at the same time. The crux of the matter is, no one wins.

But like you say, and i tell you...dont ACCOMMODATE anyone. If there is one thing in this world that really pisses me of is accommodating people. Everyone needs space, no one needs a special place unless they too understand that we are equal. Because men (and some women) dont understand this need for equal space, they jump over and invade. So dont accommodate, just ignore.

Let there be days and let there be life. Let there not be another apartheid, this time a gender one.

Hugs and Love.

Gp

niki yokota said...

hmmmm wat a difficult topic!
in my opinion, characters of women are not so important for men.
calm girls might look attractive at first, but they are pretty boring :P
thats why divorce rate is so high in my country and western world too.

Top cat said...

YOU? OUTSPOKEN? say what's on your mind? LOL...

"you'll find someone soon!!!"
LMAO@me
tc

Jim said...

OK Keshi
u wont find your man very soon
if at all

the man u want has not been born yet

compromise is the name of the game
u have to sacrifice your individuality if u want to make it with a man

he wants man on top
u want woman on top

so what do u guys do?
simple
u take turns

some sex acts u may find distasteful

like Monica Bill
but Bill wants it
and he will get it

if Hillary cant deliver
he will find a Monica


sex positions is not all
this was just a dramatic example

u have to flatter a mans ego
even lie sometimes to bolster his ego

like faking it sometimes

EBEZP said...

Oh Keshi there are a lot of men that would be intimidated but my guess is you wouldn't ever be happy with them anyway, just concentrate on the real men!!
They're the ones that will love the real Keshi!

My mum always used to say that I needed the love of a good woman.....I used to say no mum I need the love of a bad woman!!

Keshi some/most men want someone they can relate to on every level, no role models, no intimidation no suck asses! But usually settle for the perceived 'ultra feminine' ideal partner instead of keeping looking for the real women, like you!!

For the record I'm still looking and you don't intimidate me one little bit!!

Time to google cheap air fares to Oz!!

Gledwood said...

It's strange what you say about the "intimidating" thang: some people have that going on others dont... I can't give no advice about dropping it or anything else - I was just thinking I know someone else who's like you - often considered "scary" - stupid thing is she is not. Not scary at all!

Sameera said...

Hey Keshi.Chak de Babe!You don't need anyone,there is someone who needs your kinda spirit and would love you for YOU.Be the person you are,those who see you for your heart matter,trash the rest.

Jim said...

dominant - dominant
and submissive - submissive do not jell

most indian women want their husbands to be marad or dominant
or else they will have no respect and attraction for him

FACT NO.2
Most indian men have fragile egos

Łóòň Ġãĺ said...

Dear Keshi,

You will find your man soon. And I ain't sympathising with you ... its the truth ... you will find him when you have to and u're destined to ... someone who's as good as you .. coz u're miss brainy remember? and yes we love u the way u are ... those who want to change u are fools but the best part is when u(general statement) fall in love with someone .. the inner you changes .. Don't loathe us poor creatures .. we mean u no harm.

Love,

Loon Gal

Perplexio said...

If you ever decide you do care to find out what us blokes really want/look for in a woman... I can give you one man's perspective, but different men do want different things, and honestly a lot of us blokes only think we know what we want... I bet you dollars to donuts the blokes most likely to be interested in a girl like yourself are the types who claim they want a docile subservient woman. And the blokes who claim they want someone aggressive and independent like yourself are the types who are really looking for a more docile schoolmarm type.

There's a certain type of bloke that needs to be challenged, that needs a lass like yourself who will keep him on his toes. These guys generally don't even realize that's what they want/need in a woman. They think they want the passive, quiet type and when they find that type of lass they get bored VERY quickly (and thus are actually apt to cheat on such a lass).

You've got an energy and an aggressiveness about you that would keep a bloke on his toes, and that's a GOOD thing.

There's that other type of bloke who is generally passive who's looking for a sheila that's a little more aggressive to balance him out (I tend to fall into this category, and found said sheila in my wife. I'm laidback and easy-going, she's driven and assertive-- we give one another balance).

akanksha said...

Good one keshi...men should be taught a lesson tooo.I am someone whos a bit like u...I cant see my life in control of anyone else.But being honest kills a relationship at times...On second thoughts, its better to be single than faking to be someone else with ur 'someone spcl'

Jim said...

All right, what do you want me to say?
Do you want me to say it's funny, so you can contradict me and say it's sad?

Or do you want me to say it's sad so you can turn around and say no, it's funny.

You can play that damn little game any way you want to, you know?

Jim said...

One of the most dramatic, riveting moments of the film blurs fantasy and reality. Martha brings up another embarrassing wound from the past, questioning George's manliness.

She describes a public boxing match incident which her Daddy orchestrated in his back yard. When George told his father-in-law that he didn't want to box, Martha got into the pair of gloves herself and punched George POW right in the jaw, sending him crashing into a huckleberry bush.

During her story telling, George finds a shotgun in another room, stalks his prey, and takes aim at the back of Martha's head. When Honey notices the gun, she screams in fright.

Martha turns her head to face him as he pulls the trigger - out blossoms a brightly-striped umbrella, a symbolic display of his weakness and sexual impotency in another of his games.

He adds sound effects: "Pow. You're dead!" They laugh, mostly from relief and confusion

Jim said...

In the parking lot, the sparks fly again - it is a sickening, harrowing battle lacking all inhibition and restraint in a marriage that has lasted too long:


George: ...You can sit around with the gin running out of your mouth, and you can humiliate me, you can tear me to pieces all night, and that's perfectly OK, that's all right...
Martha: YOU CAN STAND IT!
George: I CANNOT STAND IT!
Martha: YOU CAN STAND IT! YOU MARRIED ME FOR IT!

Jim said...

George: You're a monster - You are.
Martha: I'm loud and I'm vulgar, and I wear the pants in the house because somebody's got to, but I am not a monster. I'm not.

George: You're a spoiled, self-indulgent, willful, dirty-minded, liquor-ridden

Jim said...

when two strong personalities marry
whos afraid of Virginia Woolf?

WP2007 said...

Hi Keshi

WOW!!

Glad you said it, not me. lol

You're a guy killer. :)

At least, the blokes I kill are not real. lol

Bev

Gangadhar said...

I'm here after quite a looong time, keshi..how's you?

Second pic is so erotic..


--Gangadhar

http://jarvarm.wordpress.com

The Stormin Mormon said...

You're going to women? (J/K)

The Phosgene Kid said...

Keshi you'll find your man soon - just kidding!! I thought you were still single just because you're so short or maybe you were doing it to spite those aunts of yours that are always asking when you'll get married.

Keshi said...

ty Ashy I hope u find it in u!


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ty Jeevan u always encourage me positively!



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hey Dharma thats true :)


**just go back and count the number of Is in your post

I didnt u'stand that...count WHAT?




Keshi.

Jim said...

the Bible as Ori will tell u
commands woman to OBEY
man to LOVE and RESPECT his woman


YES the Bible puts woman as subseverient

Keshi said...

hey Ori tnxx!

**The men who want to intimidate a woman to prove their manhood or whatever, have inferiority complex

thats so true.


**Men will respect women who respect themselves

thats true but its always not the case.


Anyways t yso much! u r sweet n very wise.



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hey Fish ty!


**If I deside to live with someone, I want her to have something to say.

so true! I like how u said that...


**then there's Jim

hehe...yeah..then there's Jim who reckons I should Live and Let Live and then asks me not to show my cleavage! DUHHHHHH!


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hey Moon WC n ty!


**one must not be (ultra-)sensitive...

well thats who I am. If a man cant stand that, then there's no way Im gonna pretend to be someone else just so that I can have him?



**It seems quite out of context,

wuts out of context in this post?


yeah I liked that movie too. :)



Keshi.

Keshi said...

Cloud ur sure u were kidding? I didnt think so!


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hey Vesty!


**Turns out you were some loser Wrapped in Alumimium Foil".

LOL hahahaha soooo funny! She sounds like a hoot. :)


gee tnxx Vest ur too kind. HUGGGGGGGGGZ!

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awww that really made me feel good Ghosty. ty n HUGGGGGGGGGGZ!




Keshi.

Jim said...

Keshi has lost her identity
she is not Sri Lankan/ Indian

she has been fed on a diet of new fangled ideas of womens liberation and stuff


if u ask me
Keshi needs a hair brush on her fanny real hard

Keshi said...

hey Anuj tnxx!

**I mean such things occur to u some dyz or u can it can also continue fr few dyz

nah its everyday for me...tho I dun speak abt it all the time.


** bt thn think of this .. like u want a time out fr urself sometime .. so wud d guy? .. so sometimes the outspoken-ness shud b shunned

LOL it seems u didnt get wut I really meant by 'out-spoken'. I didnt mean TALKING all the time. :)

its ok..tnxx Anuj!

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ur absolutely right there Aditi!




Keshi.

Keshi said...

hehe Tys ur comment made me smile. Ur lady must be very proud of ya.


** but i wudnt change it for anything in this world....

awww how sweet is that!

Now here's the 'Tys' that was made for Keshi? :)



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hey Priya!


**. No nagging traits and shud love his family

I didnt u'stand wut u said there. Did u mean the woman should not nag him and should love his family? I dun agree with that somehow. Im not a nagging woman :) but I dun HAVE to love his family if they arent LOVEABLE, do I? Its a 2-way job..dun u think so Priya?



Keshi.

Jim said...

Contrary to the western woman stereotype

the american woman is not a hottie
she dresses conservatively and is submissive to her husband

and is quite happy to attend to household chores
while her hubby goes to football matches with his men friends

she is deeply religious and will not have a fling

she will go to bed or kiss only if she truly loves the man

she will not seduce a married man
she will not cheat on her man

and she expects her man to be faithful too

Jim said...

u have to love his family
and they must love u


Priya is right
u have to earn their love and respect

and if they find your blog and the pics and lang u use

its OVER

Keshi said...

aww ty Asha..ur always pretty honest and u give me advice w.o. bias. I love that honesty abt ya.


**When they are around,God help me

LOL! I can imagine. In-laws urrrrrggggggg!


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hey Adnan!


**Be real, you sure will find a real partner

u mean Im being fake right now? HUH! Maybe u should re-phrase it to:

***Be fake, you sure will find a partner


:):)

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heyy darling Adorable!


** I've never been in a relationship (read loser),

awww :) that doesnt mean ur a loser. U r quite young still arent u? There's alot of time ahead of ya. And ur right...most guys ur age r scared of out-spoken, smart and witty girls like u. It intimidates them. So ur not the loser...they r!



** Like the time all of us planned a party, and he made her cancel at the last minute because he didn't approve of the guest list

U R KIDDING ME RIGHT??? What kind of a massive snob is she dating OMG! Her whole life is gonna be shitty. I warn her!


**Mera number aaega!

My number...? I didnt get the last word :)


ty Adorable...we r soul sisters ;-)


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heyya Helen!


**How to care for your new dog"

hahahaha sooo funny!



**so the lead went golfing and fishing with her man, then took him shopping for two days*

ROFL!


**3.Puppy will respond most to praise.

hahaha so true!



**but ultimately about manipulation...

yup thats what it is abt. men love to be in control. maybe I should praise em alot in future..tnxx for the tip Helen ;-)

and hey tnxx for the laughs :):)




Keshi.

Keshi said...

Nasia WC!

Most office servers rate my blog as porn (when its not)..lol!


**i am gonna start an anonymous one

aww...I'd love to read ur thoughts.


And yes we can get together and 'dog' abt men ;-)


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hey Jay Im glad ur not scared of me...I knew that anyways ;-)



**Who would want a wimpy little wallflower girl who never has her own opinion and is dependent on her guy?

LOL @wallflower girl!


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hey Ghosty ty so much!


**I just live my life and think of my family and friends. And that itself is an emotional roller coaster.

true...theres alot on our plates already. and to hv a mad partner is going to add to the mess LOL!



**ACCOMMODATE anyone

very well-said Ghosty! thats exactly wut I mean.


yeah who needs a partner when there's vodka, music and friends? ;-)


***HUGS***


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hey Nikz!

**characters of women are not so important for men

then wut do they look for?


**divorce

hehe so true.

tnxx hun!



Keshi.

Keshi said...

Standbymind ok! :)



-----------------------------------

hey Rick!


**Keshi chases Rick ard with a butterfly net...


LOL!


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hey Jim tnxx :)


**the man u want has not been born yet

so u mean my BF is an embryo?


**u have to sacrifice your individuality if u want to make it with a man

yeah rite!


knew it that men like u only think abt sex!

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aww Ebez ty!


**.....I used to say no mum I need the love of a bad woman!!

how true :)


**But usually settle for the perceived 'ultra feminine' ideal partner instead of keeping looking for the real women, like you

thats what I mean...ultra-feminine means a controlled woman.


**Time to google cheap air fares to Oz

aww LOL so sweet! why dun u just hop on a roo n get here? :)




Keshi.

Keshi said...

Gledwood tnxx mate!

Im scary...hell nah...only a lil insane ;-)



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hey Sameera Chak De ha! :)


**Be the person you are,those who see you for your heart matter,trash the rest.

aww thats so well-said. ty n HUGGGGGGGGGZ!



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hey Jim!


**Most indian men have fragile egos

that I agree with!



Keshi.

anits said...

hi keshi...
**I find alot of men (most Indian/Sri Lankan men - don't look at me that way, it's the truth! And I said MOST, not ALL) boasting about liking out-spoken and bold women, but in real life they'd only settle down with a domesticable, quiet, submissive woman that they can 'control' I AGREE WITH THIS..LAST TIME WHEN I WAS IN THE UNIVERSITY I ALSO FIND THIS KIND OF GUYZ ALOT... VERY TYPICAL MINDED!
HOPE U WILL GET AN OPEN-MINDED GUY WHO REALLY UNDERSTAND YOU ;) TCARE GAL

Jim said...

In the Women, Sport and Film course, we examined the changing cultural ideal of the woman. Throughout the course, there was an important relation between being female and feminine dress.

We saw that those female athletes who were able to compete athletically on the field while retaining a feminine appearance off of the field were more easily accepted as female athletes.

In many cases, this feminine quality attracted the male spectator. Having a male love interest that reciprocated these desires validated these athletes as females.

Despite the evolution of the female ideal, women are still pressured to demonstrate their femininity.

Feminine dress remains the symbol of femininity to which women retreat.

For men, sport takes on the role of revalidating one's masculinity

Keshi said...

hey Cheesy MWAH!


**You will find your man soon.

LOL u bitch! tnxx anyways..I know wut u mean hun but Im so tired of that line. Its like its a machine-generated sentence that I wanna puke on right now haha!


-----------------------------------

hey Perplexio that was well-said. ty!



**There's a certain type of bloke that needs to be challenged, that needs a lass like yourself who will keep him on his toes

I feel like I hv some hope now :) tnxx!


ur lady is a very lucky girl.


ty so much for that great insight into a bloke's mind.

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hey Akanksha!


**But being honest kills a relationship at times...

I know...but should we lie then?


**On second thoughts, its better to be single than faking to be someone else with ur 'someone spcl'

so very true!


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Jim :)


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heyya Bevster!



**At least, the blokes I kill are not real

lol u r seriously funnnaaaay!



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hey Gangz long time no see! Hows u?


**erotic

2nd pic? :) why...


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hey Mormon!

**You're going to women? (J/K)

huh wut d u mean? :)




Keshi.

Jim said...

The cultural ideal of a woman today is much more complex than years past.

An ideal woman in the fifties was expected to be the ultimate homemaker. She should support her husband and children, cook delicious meals, keep a spotless home and embody an attractive, immaculately dressed wife and mother.

A perfect example of this woman is Julianne Moore's character in Far From Heaven.

Her days are spent perfecting homemade birthday cakes and catering to her family's needs.

However, the movie takes a twist when she suddenly abandons her perfect life and perfect family.

The ideal woman of today is no longer expected to fit the homemaker mold. In fact, many women who do choose to stay at home full time experience social scrutiny for not developing careers of their own.

Zhu said...

You don't look that bitchy to me... but you certainly speak your mind !

I wouldn't want to be an ex-boyfriend of yours but you're just a fine girl !

Jim said...

In the movies today we see two images of the modern woman, yet only one of these two is today's ideal woman.

The first, as we saw in Love and Basketball, is the mother homemaker. She, much like the ideal woman of the fifties, works in the house, watching her children, cleaning house and cooking.

As Love and Basketball clearly represents, she receives harsh criticism from modern women attempting to liberate female ideals.

In Love and Basketball, Monica is unimpressed by her mother's role as a housewife.

Alternately, we have another image of the 21st century woman. She has a successful career while raising a well-adjusted family.

She embodies much that the fifties housewife did-she is well dressed, can cook good meals, has a spotless home and supports her family.

However, the 21st century woman juggles a career as well. In this respect, she gives up childcare, housekeeping and much of the cooking to outsiders so that she can focus on the important areas of her life.

Her appearance remains very important yet she does not hesitate to use professionals in this area of her life as well.

This 21st century woman is expected to be in shape. She is neither over weight nor undefined.

But, like other areas of her life, athleticism cannot play too large a role. She must embody the well-rounded woman, her primary focus being family and career

Keshi said...

hey Phos :)

** thought you were still single just because you're so short or maybe you were doing it to spite those aunts of yours that are always asking when you'll get married.

Im not short at all LOL! Im 5'7...


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hey Jim!


**YES the Bible puts woman as subseverient

its 'subservient' btw. know ur spelling b4 u want a woman to be that. LOL!


And this is who I have always been. I hvnt changed one bit just cos I live in Aus now. Who r u to judge my identity?


**Keshi needs a hair brush on her fanny real hard

and u need a kick up us ass.


dream on Jim...those rules for women existed only in the 15th century. And u still seem to live in that century hahaha!


**Priya is right
u have to earn their love and respect

likewise they should love n respect the girl too??



**and if they find your blog and the pics and lang u use
its OVER

that happens only in India and with men like u. LOL not anywhere else.


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ty Anits!


**VERY TYPICAL MINDED!

yes TYPICAL desi minds.


-----------------------------------


JIm blah blah blah...




Keshi.

Keshi said...

hehe Zhu yeah Im only healthy bitchy ;-)


**I wouldn't want to be an ex-boyfriend of yours but you're just a fine girl

aww ty sweetz!




Keshi.

Keshi said...

Jim ur advice is good for cavemen.


Keshi.

Jim said...

We are living in an interesting time, now more than ever gender roles are changing and the black and white differentiation between masculine and feminine is being questioned.

However, as American society is dealing with these changing gender definitions, people find comfort in distinguishing certain characteristics that prove a person's retention of the traditional gender roles.

For females, this is primarily make-up and feminine clothing, for males, a deep interest in sport.

While it is now common for both sexes to take an interest in the other's "gender defining characteristic" a strong interest in this area, if not counteracted by traditional gender behavior, makes Americans very uneasy.

As we have seen in Bend It Like Beckham, when a female defines herself primarily through sport, society jumps to the conclusion that she is a lesbian.

Likewise, a male "overly interested in his dress" is labeled gay.

Hopefully, as more females participate in sport, and as more males take an interest in their appearances, these two gender frontiers will continue to break down.

Jim said...

hehehehehe
we are still cave men keshi girl


evolution takes time
a 100 million years

u will live till 100 at most

Menchie said...

Women shouldn't sacrifice who they are for the men in their lives.

But I do think there should be a balance because compromise is essential when you are in a relationship.

Hugs , keshi. :D

Jim said...

I would argue that a successful businesswoman must be a hard worker, driven, possess business room "game theory" and a competitive nature.

All of these attributes are cultivated in organized sport. Therefore it is not surprising that the modern ideal woman participates in sport as well as supports her daughter's participation in sport.

This allows females the same space as males, outside of the office or the classroom, to unashamedly compete and channel pent-up emotions.

However, the area of sport, especially for females, is a unique space. Within this space, women can act as men do in sport.

But this space should only act as a part of the well-rounded female's self-definition. She must also be pretty and smart and compassionate off of the field.

This is where we see a split between women and sport and men and sport.

Jim said...

the popular imagery of how a woman shud be is reflected in the songs of this gen



Oh, girl Ive known you very well
Ive seen you growing everyday
I never really looked before
But now you take my breath away.

Suddenly youre in my life
Part of everything I do
You got me working day and night
Just trying to keep a hold on you.

Here in your arms I found my paradise
My only chance for happiness
And if I lose you now I think I would die.

Oh say youll always be my baby
We can make it shine, we can take forever
Just a minute at a time.

More than a woman, more than a woman to me
More than a woman, more than a woman to me
More than a woman, oh, oh, oh.

There are stories old and true
Of people so in love like you and me
And I can see myself
Let history repeat itself.

Reflecting how I feel for you
Thinking about those people then
I know that in a thousand years
Id fall in love with you again.

This is the only way that we should fly
This is the only way to go
And if I lose your love I know I would die.

Oh say youll always be my baby
We can make it shine, we can take forever
Just a minute at a time.

More than a woman, more than a woman to me
More than a woman, more than a woman to me
More than a woman, oh, oh, oh.

BUMBLE!!! said...

Don't worry, in time you'll find your manthang (I didn't say the dreaded line... don't hit me!!).

Actually, I want a gal who can give me a good pro wrestling style beating when I=need it (that and back massages and the ability to tell stories that captivate an audience in sheer joy - docile doesn't cover those). Thus, we're not all looking for Stepford Wives.

Jim said...

most men want a doll for their woman

a barbie doll
or a sexy dumb blonde

Keshi said...

Jim..

**we are still cave men keshi girl

u still r...others hv evolved a bit?


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tnxx Menchie!

**But I do think there should be a balance because compromise is essential when you are in a relationship

o I agree 100%. Im not selfish and I dun only have it my way all the time. actually in my last r'ship, I gave far too much to it...but that was my mistake.


HUGGGGGGGGGZ babez!



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hey Bumble :)


**Don't worry, in time you'll find your manthang

LOL ok!


**wrestling

how abt some pillow wrestling? I like that hehe.



Keshi.

Jim said...

for intellectual conversation i visit keshigirl.blogspot.com


but when i want a woman
i visit dirty panties.blogspot.com

Keshi said...

Jim thats why Im gonna marry a robot...as its already happening in Japan.

Keshi.

Silvara said...

Hey Keshi,

I always think that there needs to be more women like you in this world. We're a lot alike, you and I :D

A guy is afraid of what you are is not worth it. Hehe, You know if I was a guy I'd...err...well... :P

This is one of my favourite quotes from Sex and The City and I think it applies to you very well:

“Maybe some women aren't meant to be tamed. Maybe they just need to run free til they find someone just as wild to run with them.”

Keshi said...

Silvara HUGGGGGGGGZ n ty!

**“Maybe some women aren't meant to be tamed. Maybe they just need to run free til they find someone just as wild to run with them.”

thats a very apt quote for me :) ty so much! I wish I spot my Tarzan b4 Im dead hehe.



Keshi.

Sweetstickychewy said...

Hello Keshi,

Reading your description I would say you are an outstanding character and a very attractive one at that. I guess a lot people will wonder how could a hot lady like ya be hanging still single. It happens. I have people who don’t believe that about me seeing how I could get along with people well. Just that it’s a whole different story now. I am a different person and fussyness play a big role in my commitments. That’s one of the things that keeps me single. Plus I find it hard when my freedom is being invaded. Its mellowed much though. I see the difference in letting in to live instead of going through silent interrogation and than disconnection!! Hehehe! :P

Being outspoken is wonderful. I guess many man are more attractive to woman who has a good head over her shoulders and who will not whimper to his every say.That’s the best way to be I feel. Make the relationship more challenging and interesting. I mean whats good in kissing his feet all day. Gee..he will get sick and look for a wild horse out there for a night’s sweaty ride! Hrmphh! Geee..

Somehow I feel your truth about ‘some’ men who seem to drama and go woots woots! About a ballsy woman but tend to allow their balls to shrink in size when it comes to settling with one. *no offense guys* seriously I can’t help but roll my eyes. Its like gimme a break. Dun act so interested and than turn up to be a wuss who can’t take me on! How dramatic and thank God for revealing the two faced serpent seriously! Oops!

I feel you in some ways Keshi. *huggiz*. I am not gonna give the cliché’ line u dread.:P All I can say is sweets, enjoy what is for now. And if someone taps dances lightly towards ya. Give him a shot without really wondering if he will be the one. I am not saying you do that. Just that sometimes we girls become too tense and start thinking settlement before some exposure with the person. A few dates and going could turn out to something really interesting though not convincing. Its a step up surely. I hope I encouraged ya sweetie. You are beautiful. And lack is never the reason to why you are still single. Like we always said the man is too big on overdose he needs to start noticing Rehab! Just one thing Keshi, You deserve the best cause you are one of the best.

There u go a long comment juz for ya.*HUgz* Mwahs!

I can’t wait to see ya floating on clouds.

Keshi said...

Amy I love ur comments cos u always make GOOD sense. TY for being in my life!


**I am a different person and fussyness play a big role in my commitments. That’s one of the things that keeps me single

I'd say Im alot like u.



**he will get sick and look for a wild horse out there for a night’s sweaty ride

lolz very true!



**About a ballsy woman but tend to allow their balls to shrink in size when it comes to settling with one

I totally agree Amy! U know exactly wut I mean. Alot of guys I meet (blogs or not), seem to love me..adore me..want me. But when it comes to sticking to what they say, they run n hide. Alot of guys dun hv balls to act upon thei r words. Most of em r mummies' boys.


**Just that sometimes we girls become too tense and start thinking settlement before some exposure with the person

I really like wut u said there. that opened my eyes to something I never thought abt b4...



**Like we always said the man is too big on overdose he needs to start noticing Rehab

LOL aww Amy! so true ha...:)


u r so very wise, beautiful, smart and loving - the whole pacakge in one. The man who's gonna end up with u is one lucky dude!


***HUGS***



Keshi.

Jim said...

All I can say is sweets, enjoy what is for now. And if someone taps dances lightly towards ya. Give him a shot without really wondering if he will be the one. I am not saying you do that. Just that sometimes we girls become too tense and start thinking settlement before some exposure with the person.

sweet stick chewy
exactly my sentiments

but keshi here sees every overture as leading to matrimony

this scares the shit off us guys

Keshi said...

Jim..

**but keshi here sees every overture as leading to matrimony

did I say I do that? How d u know how I see every overture?

Cud u just stop being a leech on others' words and bloody stop judging me! LOSER.


Keshi.

Southpaw unplugged said...

Alrite so the volcano erupts again.

Lemme start with one of line in the last post, keshi looses her bf in 10 days....WTH, whats the big deal abt it? we all hv our own preferences, so did u and if things didnt materialised fine, anyhow it wud hv messed up later on coz certain compromises never run for too long. U talk abt loosing 5-7-10 bfs! i had affairs with more than 60 diff girls over a period of 13 yrs and finally ended up with kay. They all had their reasons of attraction, i had mine but u need that something special to go ahead. So i'd always prefer Keshi loosing some more bfs rather than settling for a jackass.

Keshi said...

And Jim u hv no idea how pathetic u sound.

Keshi.

Jim said...

u needed the male perspective
i gave it to u

Keshi said...

ty Southy!

LOL @65! well that should be a Guiness record u know :)


**So i'd always prefer Keshi loosing some more bfs rather than settling for a jackass.


true..but funny how I dun seem to know how to love anymore. These days I feel the moment I fall in love, I look for an escape. Its more like I dun wanna love anymore..


Keshi.

Jim said...

hehehehehehe
dont loose your cool girl

i was referring to the typical indian girl

coz in india
pre marital sex is taboo
even pre marital kissing

Southpaw unplugged said...

Then i noticed something on desperation, another term blown out of proportion by ppl from time to time...well the way i hv learnt is that desperation in a proper way is one of the strongest motivation one can ever hv.

plzzz dun say Keshi you'll find your man soon! I really loathe that line from the very bottom of my heart***I can really feel u on this babes. If i hv said this to u in the past and now when i m saying it again, its not out of sympathy its totally based on practicality and out of things i hv personally gone thru....

Warmth

Keshi said...

Jim

**u needed the male perspective
i gave it to u

I dun consider u a NORMAL male...u r the most pig-headed male there ever was...with the most ancient beliefs that dun work for today.

And u can stop judging me...like u know me!



Keshi.

Southpaw unplugged said...

Its more like I dun wanna love anymore..***This is exactly where the speedster keshi has to take a back seat and relax...:) Things happen automatically u dont hv to put on the accelerator here...:)

Sweetstickychewy said...

:) Thank you for the comments back keshi. MAde me smile there..:P Hopefully i do him more heaven then hell..lol.:P

And i wish the same for you too Sweets.

Glad i could be of some sunshine to you.:P Thanks for your presence to lady.;)

Cheeries!

Keshi said...

Jim..

**i was referring to the typical indian girl

am I the typical Indian girl? rem u said I hv no identity? so yeah Im not a typical Indian girl. so stop judging me along those lines!


And I dun live in India so I hv no clue abt ur 200yr old traditions, neither hv u any clue of what life is like over here! So dun JUDGE others from the very limited knowledge that u hv abt such issues!


-----------------------------------

hi again Southy!


**well the way i hv learnt is that desperation in a proper way is one of the strongest motivation one can ever hv

in a way thats true...but tell me, did I sound desperate in my last post?


** can really feel u on this babes

aww tnxx Southy HUGGGGGGGGZ!

nah I dun think u ever said that b4 :) cos ur way too realistic Southy.

ty so much!

Keshi.





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Keshi said...

Southy wow I get to see u multiple times here...today is one of the best days then :)


**Things happen automatically u dont hv to put on the accelerator here

true...bet I've been speeding for along time now. LOL! tnxx for that great tip!


-----------------------------------

Amy MWAHHHHHHHH u r beautiful!


even if u do him Hell, it will be erotic hell ;-)


Keshi.

Sweetstickychewy said...

Lol! May the bed rock hard good against the wall! Lol!!:P

Keshi said...

And tnxx Jim for proving what i wrote was VERY true. And that is:

***most Indian/Sri Lankan men -

Keshi.

Keshi said...

hahahaha Amy!


**May the bed rock hard good against the wall

make sure u dun wake ur neighbors up. ROFL!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

ahh ahh ahhhh ahhhh ahhhhhhhh!

LOL Amy!

Keshi.

Jim said...

have i said too much?
the peculiarity of us indians is that we live in ghettos

whether we are in US or Canada or AUS

we carry our 200 yo traditions with us
and we dont adopt the mores of the host country

particularly the sexual mores

Southpaw unplugged said...

Day before yest i seriously felt like hugging u and wanted to express it, did that on ur last post, while i m typing this comment, m feeling like kissing my wife, i'll do that ofcourse once i m done, if these acts r desperate then u can consider urself despo in context to ur last post...

Jim said...

U WIN Keshigirl

Sweetstickychewy said...

hahaha :P

Keshi said...

aww Southy ty so much. HUGGGGGGGGGGGGGGZ!

We should HUG often LOL!

Im a despo n Im proud of it ;-)



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Jim..


**we carry our 200 yo traditions with us
and we dont adopt the mores of the host country


dun GENERALISE it to ALL Indians by using the word 'WE'. Say 'I', cos it only applies to men like u.

How d u know wut ALL Indians do? How d u know what OTHER Indians do when they migrate to other countries? hv u lived o/s? I guess not. So dun generalise.


**U WIN Keshigirl

Its not abt Winning..gawwwd thats all u can think of!



Keshi.

Keshi said...

Amy :):)

yes yes yes! ***THUDDDDD*** the wall collapses..


LOL!

Keshi.

Southpaw unplugged said...

Huuugggggzzz....:) thats like my babes...:)

Keshi said...

aww Southy ty!


HUGS x 100000! :)

Keshi.

Southpaw unplugged said...

:))

Sweetstickychewy said...

Oh no..:O i hope they have their sleeping masks on!! :P

Juz imagine the impact!! i hope i don't have gonzales on my bed lol!!:P

curryegg said...

There is nothing better than being true and real with ourselve.

Keshi said...

Jim enuff of ur shit now. So I wont publish ur comments.


Why u dun see my Aussie friends is cos u havent seen those pics. LOL idiot. And there's something called privacy..some ppl dun wanna be seen in a blog. And i did post some pics of my Aussie friends in a prev post. But with faces cropped.

And why wud I listen to someone like u? A real jerk.


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ty Southy!

:)



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hey Amy!

**i hope i don't have gonzales on my bed

HAHAHAHAHA too funny!


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ty so much Curry!



Keshi.

Jim said...

LOOSA!
I win

Keshi said...

as if I care Jim.

Keshi.

RamaG said...

I see the same expectation still lying deep down alot of men's minds and alot of women giving into that expectation just so that they can be with a man

Honestly, many men dont like bold confident women not as their colleagues not bosses or sometimes even not as friends.

In my opinion its a fallout of the false notion that men are the superior sex. Many men find it difficult to digest that a woman can actually compete and maybe even excel at many things. Thats when a sense of insecurity creeps in and the male ego takes over and he tries to restrain and control the partner.

-Rama.

Southpaw unplugged said...

u r always welcome:)

Keshi said...

Rama ty for being so honest and u being a man. It shows u r a real man. :)


u single? hehehe...


-----------------------------------

I know Im always Welcum Southy LOL!

ok Keshi is being really sleazy now...sorry!



Keshi.

Southpaw unplugged said...

Alrite lets see what u can contribute on unplugged...:P this time i assure u dont hv to be a les...hahahahaha:))

dharmabum said...

count the number of I's is what i meant. its ok kesh, doesn't matter

Keshi said...

hahah Southy I saw him! DROOLICIOUS! ;-)


-----------------------------------

hey Dharma tnxx!

I sort of figured it out but then I wasnt sure.


**count of I's

well this post is abt me right? :)



Keshi.

CM-Chap said...

Be the way ur sweet keshi... That's real... Rest all is bluff

Iceman said...

Hahahahahahahahahaha...

ROTFLMAO...

Somebody pls stop me.....

Keshi said...

ty Chapzter ;-) HUGGGGGGGZ!


-----------------------------------

LOL Iceman!

***stops Iceman***

:)??



Keshi.

chocolteluva said...

omg .... we TOTALLY are twins. dude, ive been told a million times that "im too intimidating" for a guy. "i scare them away"...
totally understand where u're coming from.

there's no reason to change ure what people may say intimidating nature. thats makes you YOU, and ive said that many times before. here's what i believe:
IF HE CANT DEAL WITH ALL OF THE WOMAN THAT I AM.. THEN HE AINT MAN ENOUGH, and i want a REAL MAN!!

Keshi said...

aww Choco HUGGGGGGGGZ! We r long lost sisters :)


**IF HE CANT DEAL WITH ALL OF THE WOMAN THAT I AM.. THEN HE AINT MAN ENOUGH, and i want a REAL MAN!!

very well-said! Babez u rock!



Keshi.

Pri said...

**i respect someone else's opinion and If we don't agree, then I'm pretty satisfied with agreeing to disagree**
u seem to be a wonderful person keshi...
pretty honest and frank too and if someone dosent respect or love u what what u are, then u r better off without them...
neways its entirely their loss :)

hugzz

Keshi said...

aww Pri ty!

and u too HUGGGGGGGGGZ!

Keshi.

RamaG said...

yeah i'm single... :-)

-Rama.

Keshi said...

then why r u so far away?

***sits in a corner n sobs***


:)
Keshi.

Addu said...


u mean Im being fake right now?


Nah, I mean that you carry on what you are and you will have your man.

Keshi said...

Addu tnxx! :)

Keshi.

Vik said...

Chanced on this note just now.... I AM THE MOST ELIGIBLE BACHELOR FOR THE TIME BEING.

Try me =)

Keshi said...

Vik thats a very Inviting proposal ;-) tnxx!


**.... I AM THE MOST ELIGIBLE BACHELOR FOR THE TIME BEING

tell me why u think so...hehe...and then I'll consider ur proposal straight away ;-)



Keshi.

indicaspecies said...

"... boasting about liking out-spoken and bold women, but in real life they'd only settle down with a domesticable, quiet, submissive woman that they can 'control'."
You couldn't have said it better Keshi. I've come across a few of such hypocrites.

"..see the same expectation still lying deep down a lot of men's minds and a lot of women giving into that expectation just so that they can be with a man."
Another great observation. It's true so many women have given in to the man to the point of losing her respect and identity. Thankfully today, there are also those who rebel and fight for their rights.

"I have seen even very smart women being controlled by their partners."
If they allow themselves to be controlled, I'd say they have ceased to be smart !

Brilliant post Keshi. :)

annie said...

I too hate that line!

MoonStone said...

@ ....
**one must not be (ultra-)sensitive...

well thats who I am. If a man cant stand that, then there's no way Im gonna pretend to be someone else just so that I can have him?

**It seems quite out of context,

wuts out of context in this post?

yeah I liked that movie too. :)....


I meant being both ultra-sensitive & brutally honest at the same time... being honest OR sensitive is fine anyway... together these qualities are bound to create some complexes, you know...
anyway, that's what I feel... :)

about the context, the movie tickets thing .... its great you liked that movie ... :)

Keshi said...

Indica ty so much!

Im glad u agree with me...


**If they allow themselves to be controlled, I'd say they have ceased to be smart

thats so true :)



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Annie yep..I hate that line with a vengeance LOL! Cos its such a big lie and m tired of it.



-----------------------------------

hey Moon ty!


**I meant being both ultra-sensitive & brutally honest at the same time... being honest OR sensitive is fine anyway... together these qualities are bound to create some complexes

I agree..but can I stop being who I am? :)



Keshi.

AmitL said...

Hi,Keshi..How'd I miss this post,I wonder?

Very frankly,I've seen people even in India,believing that a man-woman relationship should be 80-20...woman controlling 20% only..courtesy,ole traditions,when the bride was the head-covering,docile lady.

However,according to me(personal experience..hehe),it should be 50-50..an equal balance,an equal understanding.And,it is possible,IF the big fat ego on either side is put in a waste basket,leading to a more mature understanding between the two.

It works! need I say more?The few times the ego comes in between,one of you has to just manage to swallow your pride.Amen!

Keshi said...

Amit heyy!

***asks Amit at gunpoint why he missed this post***

LOL just kidding :)



**woman controlling 20% only..

yes see it everywhere...


**IF the big fat ego on either side is put in a waste basket,leading to a more mature understanding between the two

so true!


Ego is indeed the culprit.



Keshi.

The Stormin Mormon said...

Hahahahaha...

You said that you had given up on men.
That cuts your remaining options to women...

So, you're going to women? Not that there is anything wrong with that, most guys find that kinda hot.

But there was the (J/K) disclaimer at the end, saying that I was in fact kidding.

Keshi said...

LOL u better be kidding Mormon! :)

me not into women...now Im into robots..read my current post. LOL!

Keshi.

MoonStone said...

@I agree..but can I stop being who I am? :)

No, and you shouldn't even try to stop.... nobody should...

You will find happiness.... hopefully soon!!

Keshi said...

tnxx Moon!


Keshi.

SamY said...

** I find alot of men boasting about liking out-spoken and bold women, but in real life they'd only settle down with a domesticable, quiet, submissive woman that they can 'control'.

Generalization! Hah! Thats a way to see it. But on the flipside, a timid person is less likely to offend someone. Its much like tier one companies hiring ppl with good academics. There is a good likelihood that the person fits the bill well u know ;).

That gives the guy a peace of mind. I do agree that there are men who choose such partners who they can 'control'. But its not always so.

I've known many cases where the guy lets it all they way the gal wants it :). Both are submissive to one another ;). I'v seen such people even from my dads generation.

I guess Indian/Sri-Lankan families are more tightly knit. Life is much easier if the partner is someone who is respectful to all. Of course if you are someone who cares a damn about others and what they haveto say, life is a lot easier if ur partner is also one such ;).

I can't speak for others, but I don't brand someone brash for what they say, but rather for how they say it.

** Most men don't prefer bold, confident and blunt women as their life-long partners (maybe just for a shag and that's about it), full-stop.

Bold, confident and blunt men would. Probably not many are ;). Birds of a feather flock together.

** I have no idea what men really want

There ain't any such 'thing'. You just haven't bumped into the kind of guy who fits u and your ways :).

Keshi said...

ty Samy!

** but I don't brand someone brash for what they say, but rather for how they say it.

I agree..


Keshi.

lankanchick said...

Hey Keshi,
I guess every relationship we have teaches us something about ourselves, and the way we are. It is indeed a learning process.

But I too have the same frustation as you, when it comes to relationships with guys of sri lankan origin. They are just too intimidated and frightened by a confident, smart and independed woman. But usually guys act this way, only if they feel somehow inferior to the girl...

Hang in there Keshi...i know we will get what we deserve...soon enough!!!

A girl from melb!

Keshi said...

aww Lankanchick WC n ty so much!

Gotta check ya out :)

Keshi.