The Secret Enemy

Disclaimer: This is not a lecture. Rather an eye opener for myself too. When I write posts like this, it helps me to discipline myself. So in future, when something like this happens, I can quickly think of this post and act accordingly. These are my heart-notes for everyone including myself!

I believe we all have a secret enemy within us. Some of us may be aware of what it is while others may be totally clueless about it. Let's have a look at some emotions such as greed, lust, anger, pride, jealousy etc etc. As humans we are all born with such emotions and as we grow up, they only become worse. I guess that happens cos, as we become adults we become more aware of SELF. And the Ego settles in. A helathy ego is necessary to go ahead in life, achieve our dreams and serve the community in whatever positive way that you may please. But when that ego jumps a certain border, it becomes your own enemy. I, Me, Myself is all you see, feel, breathe then. It's all about winning, being right, feeling important, wanting to be superior to the rest etc etc. That I believe is very dangerous to one's own psyche and health. Without realising what you're doing to yourself, you make a strong bond with your ego...and that self-obsession is the beginning of self-deterioration.

When you refuse to say Sorry for something that you need to apologise, that's your ego playing tough. When you wanna convey your true feelings to someone and you feel you'd look hideous doing it, that's your ego stealing the better of you. When you put down others and hurt people just to be right, that's your ego making you an animal. When you look down upon people who are not equal to you in status, health, wealth etc etc, that's your ego ruling you. When you want to brag about any help/service you may have done to others, that's your ego destroying the very good that you have done. When you acquire things only for yourself and never share/donate to others in need, that's your ego closing the gates of wisdom, barring you from entering in...you become the victim and the puppet of your own ego.

No humanbeing can be 100% ego-free. Infact, as I said before, a healthy ego is a must for the benefit of self achievements and for the good of everyone else on this Earth. But, we must strike a healthy balance, so that we don't hurt others or forget that others exist and that they have their lives, opinions and dreams too. We must always remember that people are different and we must respect that. I have come across so many people (in my own circle) who have looked down upon others who are not so 'able' as they are...and people who have helped those in need and spewed it on their faces for years...and people who have told me that I'd be nothing if not for them. Now there's no way I can ask those people to read this or some great book on Ego and discipline themselves...cos their ego refuses to even listen to someone like me. I guess controlling your ego should come naturally to you...it's not something that someone else can help you do. Inner peace should be developed by you yourself. When you have achieved that state of a healthy balance, you have the most powerful weapon of all times - Inner Peace. Then you'll be content in any situation and with any beast that comes across you...money and other materialistic needs won't rule your life...you're not fragile anymore. Cos now you have controlled your own enemy within you, hence external challenges become alot easier to deal with.

So have you realised that you have a sceret enemy? Are you working on being a better person? Have you ever let your ego control you to a state that it hurt somebody else badly? Have you ever thought about it? Cos some people don't even stop to think what they are doing to others...they are just driven by their own secret enemy until it's too late for them to recover from it. Young or old, if you smile at your ego and tell it to rest for a while, alot of personal problems and this world's major issues would cease to exist. From using a harsh word that leaves a deep scar in someone's heart, to terrorism that kills alot of innocents, the reason behind all those acts is the Ego. Humans have conquered alot of things over the centuries but we are still fragile when it comes to our Ego. It's a power struggle that need to be abandoned. I know, it's much easier said than done, but it's not impossible to achieve at all. Cos often I have let my ego rule me, but not so much these days...while I haven't conquered it altogether, lately I realise that I'm at peace with even the cruelest person that I'd come across...to me that's pure bliss. So when was the last time you let your secret enemy win?

Have a good one folks!

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