Friday, October 26

The Secret Enemy

Disclaimer: This is not a lecture. Rather an eye opener for myself too. When I write posts like this, it helps me to discipline myself. So in future, when something like this happens, I can quickly think of this post and act accordingly. These are my heart-notes for everyone including myself!


I believe we all have a secret enemy within us. Some of us may be aware of what it is while others may be totally clueless about it. Let's have a look at some emotions such as greed, lust, anger, pride, jealousy etc etc. As humans we are all born with such emotions and as we grow up, they only become worse. I guess that happens cos, as we become adults we become more aware of SELF. And the Ego settles in. A helathy ego is necessary to go ahead in life, achieve our dreams and serve the community in whatever positive way that you may please. But when that ego jumps a certain border, it becomes your own enemy. I, Me, Myself is all you see, feel, breathe then. It's all about winning, being right, feeling important, wanting to be superior to the rest etc etc. That I believe is very dangerous to one's own psyche and health. Without realising what you're doing to yourself, you make a strong bond with your ego...and that self-obsession is the beginning of self-deterioration.


When you refuse to say Sorry for something that you need to apologise, that's your ego playing tough. When you wanna convey your true feelings to someone and you feel you'd look hideous doing it, that's your ego stealing the better of you. When you put down others and hurt people just to be right, that's your ego making you an animal. When you look down upon people who are not equal to you in status, health, wealth etc etc, that's your ego ruling you. When you want to brag about any help/service you may have done to others, that's your ego destroying the very good that you have done. When you acquire things only for yourself and never share/donate to others in need, that's your ego closing the gates of wisdom, barring you from entering in...you become the victim and the puppet of your own ego.


No humanbeing can be 100% ego-free. Infact, as I said before, a healthy ego is a must for the benefit of self achievements and for the good of everyone else on this Earth. But, we must strike a healthy balance, so that we don't hurt others or forget that others exist and that they have their lives, opinions and dreams too. We must always remember that people are different and we must respect that. I have come across so many people (in my own circle) who have looked down upon others who are not so 'able' as they are...and people who have helped those in need and spewed it on their faces for years...and people who have told me that I'd be nothing if not for them. Now there's no way I can ask those people to read this or some great book on Ego and discipline themselves...cos their ego refuses to even listen to someone like me. I guess controlling your ego should come naturally to you...it's not something that someone else can help you do. Inner peace should be developed by you yourself. When you have achieved that state of a healthy balance, you have the most powerful weapon of all times - Inner Peace. Then you'll be content in any situation and with any beast that comes across you...money and other materialistic needs won't rule your life...you're not fragile anymore. Cos now you have controlled your own enemy within you, hence external challenges become alot easier to deal with.


So have you realised that you have a sceret enemy? Are you working on being a better person? Have you ever let your ego control you to a state that it hurt somebody else badly? Have you ever thought about it? Cos some people don't even stop to think what they are doing to others...they are just driven by their own secret enemy until it's too late for them to recover from it. Young or old, if you smile at your ego and tell it to rest for a while, alot of personal problems and this world's major issues would cease to exist. From using a harsh word that leaves a deep scar in someone's heart, to terrorism that kills alot of innocents, the reason behind all those acts is the Ego. Humans have conquered alot of things over the centuries but we are still fragile when it comes to our Ego. It's a power struggle that need to be abandoned. I know, it's much easier said than done, but it's not impossible to achieve at all. Cos often I have let my ego rule me, but not so much these days...while I haven't conquered it altogether, lately I realise that I'm at peace with even the cruelest person that I'd come across...to me that's pure bliss. So when was the last time you let your secret enemy win?


Have a good one folks!


Current Music: Fragile by Sting

120 Cranium Signets:

Southpaw unplugged said...

I take them as my long lost buddies with whom i catch up once in a while and like them as well at times...

deepsat said...

there's a nice quote when you enter the Art Of Living Ashram here, it goes "Please leave your slippers & ego outside"

i always keep that in mind! but being human i do succumb to it sometimes! still its better to keep an eye on it than let it control you fully!

have a great weekend!!

;-))

AmitL said...

Hi,Keshi..that's a topic I've often reflected upon..yes,there're people who never tire of telling me of their 'great contribution' in my life. While,there are those who've really contributed,but,never say a word. Guess which ones I admire?hehe.

Now,ego-control..this was very nicely described..perhaps in the same way I would,if I was writing a full post on it.

Frankly,I reached a simple conclusion for my own ego- thanks to which I can say I'm '80% there',where inner peace is concerned..and,that is,'If you can't say something good about or to someone, keep quiet'.And,wherever I can,I try to get along with everyone-for eg,at work,right from the office boy to the Big Boss...no-one'd say I'm 'unfriendly',or'rude' to them.hehe. But,isn't that the way to be?Instead of harping on 'I'm bigger or at a higher post than you',isn't getting along a much better way to be?

Of course, I have a doubt-once I finish off the balance 20% of the ego,perhaps I'll want to say 'byebye'to the materialistic world,and just go to meditate in the mountains/temples...sheer bliss.

Till then,I remain,an avid blogger,an avid Keshi-posts reader.hehe!Cheers and have a great day.

Zhu said...

I know my enemies cause I try to know myself. Ego... yeah, I have one too. I try to keep it under control ;)

Silvara said...

Ahhh Kesh, my secret enemy would have to be Envy.

Too often I have let it take control and done things I have regretted. Inner peace and being happy with what u have is the first step to dealing with it, but it's not easy. I am so quick to anger when it comes to my parents, too proud sometimes to admit I'm wrong.

I love this post. It just shows what what we are all capable of as humans, and that too much of anything is harmful.

Lol -you know much I self-obsess - an effect from my envy of others lol. I know that which is why I tend not to take myself seriously even when I do :)

To write a post like this just shows you have wisdom beyond your years Keshi :) *hug*

Jay said...

My secret enemy wins way too often. Maybe even all the time. I really probably should work on that sometime. Maybe later though.

Sweetstickychewy said...

Keshi this is a splendid post. I Am overwhelmed by it.:D Kudos!

My answers:

So have you realised that you have a sceret enemy?

Yups i have

Are you working on being a better person?

Surely.

Have you ever let your ego control you to a state that it hurt somebody else badly?

DEfinitely a yes.

Have you ever thought about it?

Surely.

I love this post!

Ghost Particle said...

nowadays its rare...but I get jealous a lot. The worst thing about ego is that now I'm regretting all the stupid things that I should have averted when i was younger. :(

anits said...

sceret enemy?? mine is i dun fight for my rights...just follow what others say..coz i dun wan to hurt them :( i think it shouldnt be in that way..i should say things loud when im in right track!rite or not keshi?

Mona said...

Hi Keshi,
Its lively..its like, we reflet the same feelings...But as we all are human beings and we dont have some bad qualities that control us sometimes, but then we have been given a power to control that also..
I read somewhere a quote, and from that very moment, that left a mark on my mind which i always believeon
"If somebody insults you, forget it..
if you can't forget it, ignore it..
If you cant ignore it, forgive him,
and if you cant forgive him,
you really deserve it"

This hold true to every body..
I do confess that at one moment of time, my ego hold a control on me and bcoz of that I losse one of my very good fren and I always regret for that..that time i was in school and till time i am finding ways to contact her but cant...
Hope, i will be in contact with her very soon..

Anyways, God bless you..

desperado said...

I dont know if my secret enemy is my ego or my insecurity.

And a seriously brilliant post...absolutely brilliant.

You too have a great weekend buddy :)
Huuuggz

Peter said...

As always, I love what you write... and I also love the quote that Mona included in her comment!
To be in peace with yourself and with others is somehow the same thing, but it's an eternal struggle! Somehow, I have a feeling that it gets easier with the age. Hopefully, it's not just because you get older and care less about certain things that more easily upset your mind when you were younger.
... and thanks for Sting!!!
Have a nice weekend!

Adorable Pancreas said...

My biggest enemy is laziness. I'm fighting a losing battle, every time I try to do something that needs to be done. I spend an hour in bed every day trying to get up. I just can't find the motivation to do stuff.

Ego, yeah, that's another one. But a lot of obnoxious people I know scare me into keeping mine down.

Andrew said...

Ego is necessary up to a point. Too little and there is no self confidence and you are not interesting, too much and no one wants to know you. I like the phrase 'self deprecating ego'. You know you are good but readily recognise your failings.

KMF said...

fantastic

Princess said...

hi kesh,

nice thoughts.. sometimes i suspect something which may or maynot be true.. dunno why!! and also if it has something to do wid my ego!! *confused..

but 1 thing i'm sure.. nowadays I tend to think a lot on even very trivial matters for long hours.. earlier i dun remember having done anything like that and also thinking about so many things at a time.. jumbled pack of thoughts recurring... till I shout aloud inside my mind STOP thinking non-sense.. its not weird i guess ;)

much luv,
-Aiz.

Asha said...

Truly a eye opener! Most men have BIG egos, downfall for most of them! They don't realize how silly they sound when they speak as if the whole World revolves around them!;p
I used to be short tempered, which got me in lot of trouble with people but over the yrs, I have realized its not worth my time and count up to 10 now!;D
Happy Halloween, have a great weekend. Hugs.

Helen said...

Perfect song choice (of course).

Again you impress me with your depth and reflection, you're right, of course, and we all figure out at some point either to control our ego, our tongue, our emotions or we let it go and spend the rest of our life's energy keeping a front over our emotionally and spiritually stunted self. It's like people go out of their way to be "adult" to keep people from seeing the child that they really are. Great post, Keshi.

Shionge said...

I think I get overboard by showing too much empathy to others and in that process I get 'burden' and get too emotional :( That's my weakness so I just have to be strong.

Princess said...

hi kesh,

i've tagged you in my Dreamscapes blog.

please chk and if you find it interesting try doing it as well.

thanks,
-Aiz.

Paul said...

I think you're entirely on the right track. I see ego as the number one probem the human race faces. Took a long time thinking this through and it became a complete chapter in Original Faith.

Sam said...

Dunno abt teh last time, but yeah, I've been told that I got a really BIG ego!! Wel.. I might.. it's just that if I blv that I'm right and justified, i refuse to back down!!
On a frank note, having a control over one's ego is necessary else we often lose out on things which really matter to us.... sometimes the ones we love the most!!
that hurts!!

Pri said...

nice post keshi!:)
i guess we all have secret enemies and im no exception...
im often blamed for speaking out what i feel without realising that it can hurt people at times...i do realise later but thn its of lil use cos the hurts done and at times theres no way of making up for it...
a few years back i would find it hypocritic to not express ur anger or contradictory feelings if u feel so...but ive realised tht sometimes its best to remain silent...expressing urself is good but not at the cost of hurting someone else's feelings...unintentionally though it might be, im guilty of having done tht many a times and the least responsible ppl have experienced the brunt of my anger...
i believe ive changed myself a gr8 deal in tht respect over time and now im very careful to watch before i speak and sometimes prefer staying silent or refrain from speaking during such bouts of hypertensive crisis...:-/

clover said...

lol that ugly infected thing told you you'd have been nothing without him? lolllllllll you should have said, only bcs im as naive and nice and desperate did i ever even look at you. if it wasn't for me you'd would have masturbated yourself to death!!! oh maybe he had already many sex slaves lined up, right? crap people can be bought... lol


your family is beautiful, wtf princess against whores. only in the states, where money is a god. the rest laughsssssssssssss

evil prays on the light kid... important to be able to brake free of those forces-energies else they can destroy us.

anks said...

when was the last time i let my secret enemy win???

all the time! i'm so full of myself i hardly have time for anyone else.... :)

The Dude said...

nice blog youve got here. nice post, its been awhile sinced i brushed up on my psychology, this saved me some effort..

its true too, no one can NOT have an ego - it is against human nature, it just varies in degrees and forms.

As far as letting my secret enemy win... well i dont think of it as my enemy, simply my counterpart - other half if you will - and neither one really ever 'Wins', we just take the lead for a bit and then we're at it again...

cheers...

TinTin said...

What words of wisdom, Shree Shree Keshi Devi!

Where are your feet?

*kneel* *kneel*

Sujit said...

nice post keshi, butI dont allow my enemy to win. sometimes i feel why I dont have ego!.. feel if i had ego may be I might have got somethings that I lost?

starry nights said...

keshi This is such a thought provoking post and absolutely true , I think we all let our ego's get the better of us and I think in order to live peacefully and in harmony you need the inner peace as you said.I know that I get upset and depressed sometimes and I think my greatest enemy is me.sometimes I want to win an argument with "J"and it gets overboard.I think its my ego playing havoc again.I think I am going to place this post on my refrigerator so I can read it often.Thanks and have a good weekend.

Jim said...

KESHI

u talk crap
i am sick and tired of lissening to know-it-all- Keshi


Good Bye
Jim

Cazzie!!! said...

Keshi, love this song, it is lvoely :)

The Grunt said...

I have always felt that we are our own worst enemies. Good post, Keshi.

Coco said...

the temptation to let your ego win is always there...however, one must think before acting!!

yes, of course, there have been times when my ego ha s won : ),
and it made me feel good!! and yes, there are also times when my ego won, but the outcome was not good...feelings were hurt : (

hope you are having a wonderful weekend : )

blessings,
coco

Steph said...

Great post Kesh. You are wise beyond your years my friend.

homo escapeons said...

I go wherever Ego...
and vice versa.

We are hardwired for self-preservation. Our Brain is the source of all of our thoughts and emotions. Over Millenia it has evolved to complicate our relationship with others by making us think that we are the cat's pyjamas.

The thin line between self confidence and hubris makes it tough for some people to decide if another person is a complete twat or just a run of the mill megaloamaniac.

The true joy of acquiring a little Life experience is being able to let go and stop worrying about what other people think about you.

Then you can finally stop living your life in accordance with their wishes and finally begin your plan for world domination..just like the little voices in your head have been telling you since you were a child.

DJ said...

very true...
in fact i should say u wrote something that i am observing right now thru' my eyes in some ppl arnd me...
very nice post...
loved it... :)
tc...

Swami P'Nanda said...

Sting. Song. Nice. Very nice.

Paul said...

I like the song.

Jeevan said...

Very well said keshi! we all need to concentrate on this particularly small (word) but huge thing. When we don’t want someone to be disturbed, who was not wised and hide to call them is what I am feeling like an egoist. I totally hate telling I did this for your, It’s the wishes makes us to turn ego.

I have got lot of them to tell that if they are not, I am no one. Happy weekend dear :)

Nora said...

Lovely post Keshi. Hope you're having a good weekend. x

Nora

Sameera said...

Absolutely true!

alex said...

Well...absolutely right!

if everyone thought the same, our world would be heaven. :)

Trinnie said...

hey Keshi,
just dropped in to say sorry that i haven't been around on your blog much. just got done with my exams a few days back and haven't really logged on for many days.
ill be around soon now!
you take care :)

well, we all have a negative side to us and i pretty much coexist with my enemy consciously many a time. i know and am very much aware of the fact that im being manipulative at a certain moment, or being selfish. but you know wat, i try to contain all this. and the only time i use it is wen i wish to protect myself from other enemies. like someone trying to take advantage of you...

niki yokota said...

very sweet keshi-chan :)
secret enemy? i dont have secret, coz im like an open book.
when my enemies try to beat me, i will use my sword and kill them all. u know our ancesters were samurai. hehe..

general_boy said...

sometimes I think my secret enemy is my seemingly endless desire to donate my time to people who simply aren't worthy of it and don't value it as much as I do.

I'm working to defeat it though!! ;)

BUMBLE!!! said...

My secret enemies form special forces groups and attack me harcore style when I'm thinking I'm doing something that can actually make an improvement in my life.

Hence, Rule #1 - don't think - it can only hurt the ball club.

That said, today is going to be a thinking day - what better way to spend a cold rainy day with no money until Wednesday.

rOhit said...

this is one Wonderful blog i've ever come across.. where were u all these dayz.. :P

anywayz... read few posts.. loved and utterly agreed to ur words..!!

Will keep visiting.. how can i not find u before.. =((..:P

anywayz keep it rolling.. :)

happy writing.. :D

Paul Champagne said...

There is a reason that pride, jealousy, greed etc., are deadly sins.

There is also a reason that blessed are the humble and meek.

Vest said...

Would publshing my memoirs as a novel in pseudo form to cover my tracks, be my enemy within, that, coupled with pride of achievement, I feel sometimes separates me from others who have deliberately achieved nothing.
My excuse would be I have proven I am not a complete loser.
Many of life's failures are people who did not realise how close they were to success when they gave up.

Rex Venom said...

A little Ego can go a long way. And a bit of humble humor can ensure that the Ego does stay little enough.
Rock on!

Dawn....सेहर said...

I like to make things clear there n then itself! Nothing for later!!!
Nice post n nice writeup not everyone can do this!!!

Hugggzzz n Cheers

Tys on Ice said...

will it be considered nasty if i throw a wet blanket on the whole thing?

well, here goes: why is ego such a bad thing nowadays...does any one really understand it? we all talk abt absense of ego or control of ego , yet to recognize it is the very proof that it exist, so to shun it will only be hoodwinking oneself...

most of us are just good people or bad people or somewhere in between, we are law abiding or scared to break laws, or criminals...we are all just shades of black and white...but i think, as long as we are alive, we will be identified as an ego with a physical form ...

so, even forgiving ur secret enemy is an act of the ego...and we shudnt be ashamed of it..

anuj said...

keshi darlin .. a gud one there ..

its vry true ..tht ego kills ..nd thts y i dont understnd some ppl who keep holding on to it .. nt tht I am not egoist . I sure am .. may b evn in the harsh way at times ..

bt newyz .. its a nice thoughtful content here .. :)

cheers

Nicholas said...

Thanks, Keshi!
You opened my eyes.
I am an animal.
I promise myself to control my ego.
Have a wonderful Sunday!

Prats said...

Its always tougher to find the enemy within you than the solution to destroying it.
lovely post...you just dug up a few hidden truths :)

Kalyan said...

Lovely post Keshi...It was wonderful reading. It made me thoughtful for some moments trying to understnd my own mind & thinking about some of the problems that had crepted in the past...maybe our super-ego came in our way, but as you had also said, controlling it is a bit tough, but at the end of the day its for better that sometimes we forget our ego's & that can sometimes bring the ultimate bliss, which we all want & I have also experienced it....Nice one!

Swati said...

hi keshi..

am here 4 the very first time and read this post of urs. i totally agree with you. long back, i had made a rule 4 myself never to talk to ppl wud hv abt w i wudt hv done 4 t.hem though sometimes it kinda made me look bad. i succumbed to it a few times but still try to stick to my rules.

Top cat said...

You amaze me with your depth of thought.
tc

katja said...

Well, when Ego becomes to egoistic, then he's got a problem... :)

katja said...

Well, when Ego becomes to egoistic, then he's got a problem... :)

Orikinla Osinachi. said...

Sweet Keshi,
This is philosophy.

I don't have any real secret, because my life is an open book.
If I have an erection thinking of making love to you, I say so and that's my business. It is my erection and not yours.
Besides, I did not create the erection.
God created it and I thank God for my erection.

I don't have egos, because if you have been a refugee child and saw countless corpses everyday for three years and later saw more heaps of corpses, then your ego would be deflated.

If you read the books of Proverbs and Ecclesiastes, your egos would amount to bubbles in the air and as we all know, all bubbles always burst sooner or later.

All egos are bubbles of our erroenous and ambiguous notions and fixations on worldly pursuits and possessions of social status symbols and human illussions of grandeur.

If you have lived with the richest of the rich and the poorest of the poor, you would be able to understand as I said once upon a time, that we all bleed red and everybody's stool stinks, regardless of our garments.

It is good to strip yourself naked and stand in front of the cheval glass mirror and look at the creature in the mirror and then do some spiritual meditation in the toilet and think of your worth in the universe and what would happen at the last moment of your life.

What is your life worth after death?

You should read my article on "Happiness and Emptiness" on my forum Nigerian Times International Forum.

Everybody is somebody and as I have said:
Our destinies are not in the stars
But in our own hands.

I don't believe in any horoscope and crystal ball.
Yes, I believe in God as the beginning and His Word as defined in John 1:1 of of the Holy Bible.

Keshi, try to live your life according to the will of your conscience and your heart and spirit and not according to the dictates of society.

The destiny of humanity does not depend on the society. It depends on you.

Who makes the rules?

Live your life not to please your egos or the egos of others, but to nake humanity more beautiful and wonderful to behold.

Be like the sunlight in the day and like the moonlight in the night.

Cheers and God bless you always.

CapCity said...

Hey Keshi Girl!

Lifted my blog restriction to come by & say Hi! My secret inner enemy is procrastination - though I'm learning to embrace the fact that i am led to do things in the time they're meant to be done (but have put myself on blog restriction cuz I wasn't getting much of ANYthing else done!). LOL!

Hugz2ya, mate!

fi/WP2007 said...

Hi Keshi

Another superb post!

I agree with you. Egos can make us self-destruct, even to the point where some take their lives.

When people have high egos and something goes bad for them, they feel they have failed themselves and those around them. They can no longer face themselves, their friends, nor the world.

Bev

The Phosgene Kid said...

We have met the enemy and he is us...

Keshi said...

hehe Southy not bad at all.


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hey Deepz!


**Please leave your slippers & ego outside"


love that quote!

we r all human ofcourse and we do hv our moments when we succumb to it...but as long as we realise it and learn from it, all is ok :)



Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Amit u always make good sense.

**Of course, I have a doubt-once I finish off the balance 20% of the ego,perhaps I'll want to say 'byebye'to the materialistic world,and just go to meditate in the mountains/temples

hehe...if Im to be 100% ego-free, I'd prolly hv to burn my body. LOL!


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Zhu me too...atleast Im trying :)




Keshi.

Keshi said...

hey Silvara ur wise beyond ur years...thats why I admire ya.


**my secret enemy would have to be Envy

aww we all hv it dun we :) o well, the wonders of living in a country full of hunks LOL!


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Jay whenever u feel like it, whenever ur ready to do so :)




Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Amy for being so honest!


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Ghosty its ok...we all hv regrets...nobody is perfect. But a long as we learn from our mistakes, its all good.




Keshi.

Keshi said...

Anits hey tnxx!

**coz i dun wan to hurt them

well there r ways to say things w.o. hurting em...Im sure u know how to do that Anits?

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hello Mona!


**"If somebody insults you, forget it..
if you can't forget it, ignore it..
If you cant ignore it, forgive him,
and if you cant forgive him,
you really deserve it"


I really love that quote..Im so glad u wrote it here so we could all learn from it. What it says is so true!


I hope u and ur friend will reconcile soon. All the best!




Keshi.

Keshi said...

Desperado we all hv MANY secret enemies :)

ty so much!


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hello Peter, tnxx mate!


** Somehow, I have a feeling that it gets easier with the age

yes...I guess when ppl get much older, the Ego subsides...not entirely but :) And some oldies r more egoistic than some youngsters...



Keshi.

Keshi said...

Adorable I dun think ur as lazy as some real bludgers r. U r experiencing the same laziness as I do :) we all hv alot of that hehehehe...



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Andrew hows ya?


** Too little and there is no self confidence and you are not interesting, too much and no one wants to know you.

Well-said!




Keshi.

Keshi said...

KMF ty!


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Aish I dun think u think nonsense...cos everything u writ ein ur blog is just FANTASTIC.




Keshi.

Keshi said...

Asha hey tnxx hun!

I know..men hv the biggest ego...bigger than Niagra Falls LOL!

yeah now I think like u too...it's not worth my energy and time to argue with over-egoistic ppl...so I just chillax n keep silent :)

Happy Halloween to u too Asha!


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Helen ty hun!


**It's like people go out of their way to be "adult" to keep people from seeing the child that they really are.

oooo I love how u put that. FANTASTIC!



Keshi.

Keshi said...

Shionge Im alot like u too...Im emotional and take up other ppl's issues into my head :) but at the end of the day, Im happy...cos I feel for ppl, just like u do.


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ok Aish, I'll check it out, tnxx!




Keshi.

Keshi said...

hey Paul ty!

** it became a complete chapter in Original Faith.


yes, its def in the path of spirituality and bliss.


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G'day Sam!


**sometimes the ones we love the most!!

thats so true...



Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Pri!


**but ive realised tht sometimes its best to remain silent...expressing urself is good but not at the cost of hurting someone else's feelings

thats exactly right!


Im so like u...I hv changed over the years....and now remain silent when I shouldnt waste my time n energy...that way we all remain happy dun we :)


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heyy Clover it wasnt an ex-BF who said that to me :) It was a family member who had helped me when I needed help...


**evil prays on the light kid... important to be able to brake free of those forces-energies else they can destroy us.

thats so true! very well-said.


Im glad to hear from u on such a positive note...ty Clover!




Keshi.

Keshi said...

hehehe Anks - then it's time to take a breather :)



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hey Dude WC here n tnxx!



**and neither one really ever 'Wins', we just take the lead for a bit and then we're at it again...

thats true..but we do let the halves win sometimes dun we? meaning, when we overdo on one emotion at times, we r letting em win...




Keshi.

Keshi said...

heyy Tintin!

**What words of wisdom, Shree Shree Keshi Devi!

LOL stop it!



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heyy Sujit ty!



** feel if i had ego may be I might have got somethings that I lost?

I agree..one should hv an ego to go ahead in life - but just cos u lost some things in life, that doesnt mean u dun hv an ego..it just didnt happen that time Sujit. Ego must hv been there, but maybe the timing wasnt right?


Keshi.

Keshi said...

hehe Starry ty sweetz!


**sometimes I want to win an argument with "J"and it gets overboard

Well it happens with me too...quite often...then I realise wut Im doing n I stop :)



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hey Jim!


**i am sick and tired of lissening to know-it-all-

LOL Im sorry to disappoint ur ego :)



Keshi.

Keshi said...

Caz yes I love this song too hun :)


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ty Grunty thats so true!




Keshi.

Keshi said...

heyy Coco hows u sweetie?

**there are also times when my ego won, but the outcome was not good...feelings were hurt

very true..and thats when u know u hv gone overboard and let ur ego control ya.



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u too Stepher!

but heyy Im no nerd ok LOL!




Keshi.

Keshi said...

heyy HE ty for that great comment! I always admire ur scientific explanations in my posts.



**We are hardwired for self-preservation

so true..and thats what makes us egoistic by nature.



**The thin line between self confidence and hubris makes it tough for some people to decide if another person is a complete twat or just a run of the mill megaloamaniac

so true!




**just like the little voices in your head have been telling you since you were a child.


thats such great thinking there HE! WOW! Very very true..


ty!


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ty DJ :)


maybe u should get those ppl to read this post? hehehe...




Keshi.

Blessed said...

"some people don't even stop to think what they are doing to others..."

So true!!!!

This is such a "me" world when WE should realize that WE are all in this together!
I see this at work. I see this in life. People looking out for #1--and that being, themselves. We try to be a team at work and people bulk about it. As if they won't look get the glory they feel they deserve. I feel that's how it is in life too. I got to do this for me, I got to that for me, who cares if I must step on someone to get what "I" want--this is an attitude that I see ALOT. I feel their have been times that I have been that way too. I however apologize for my actions. I was selfish. I try to step outside myself and see how I seem to others. I try to live with the motto from the Bible-"Do unto others as you want done unto you".
Not always easy but it's the better way to be, it's the better way to live.

I have noticed thru working in a medical practice for over 8 years
(the old office and the new) that people/patients come in, and they think that they are the only person on the planet. As if THEY shouldn't have to wait, or their pain or illness is greater or more important than someone elses. Not all people are this way but I have encountered ALOT.

As I have grown in my faith, I feel that I am growing into a better human being, I am trying to become more self-less. I have a long ways to go. I am trying to get my ego in check. I am trying to see the face of Christ in EVERYONE. This means I am trying to not judge people when they are rude to me. I am trying to love them anyway and probably a little more since they probably need that love to get over this bitterness, selfishness, anger that they are carrying.

Peace!

Keshi said...

Swami yes this is a great song.


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Paul ty!




Keshi.

Keshi said...

heyy Jeevan ty!


** I totally hate telling I did this for your, It’s the wishes makes us to turn ego.

I hate that too and I never say that to anyone..cos I know what it feels like to be at the receiving end of that.


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ty Nora!




Keshi.

Keshi said...

Sameera ty sweetie!



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tnxx Alex!



Keshi.

Keshi said...

hey Trinnie no worries...take ur time :)


**and the only time i use it is wen i wish to protect myself from other enemies. like someone trying to take advantage of you...

yes! and thats ok.


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ooooooo Im scared of samurai Niki chan :(




Keshi.

Keshi said...

heyy Boy!


**my secret enemy is my seemingly endless desire to donate my time to people who simply aren't worthy of it and don't value it as much as I do.


dun defeat that quality altogether...just reduce the power of it n use it where its needed. We need more ppl like u mate.


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heyy Bumble :) tnxx!

U do think..I can see that!




Keshi.

Keshi said...

hey Rohit WC n ty!


**how can i not find u before

hmmm mebbe cos we were too busy not meeting each other? :):)



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Paul thats sooo true...ty!




Keshi.

Keshi said...

hey Vesty ty!

**Many of life's failures are people who did not realise how close they were to success when they gave up.

thats sooo true!



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very true Rex and ty!





Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Dawny!

**HUGS**


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Tys did u read the entire post? :)

Cos I did say that a positive Ego is VERY necessary and nobody can be 100% Ego-free. Its only when we jump a certain limit of that Ego, that it becomes nasty.



Keshi.

Keshi said...

Anuj we r all egoistic...no one can deny that. But we must realise that and learn to control it so that we dun become overpowering, superficial and rude ppl...


ty!

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hehe Nic ur not an animal...no ways!





Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Prats!


**Its always tougher to find the enemy within you than the solution to destroying it.


thats so true...cos even to find the enemy, first we need to swallow our pride...and thats tough for some ppl to do.


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ty Kalyan!

Im glad this post made u think and apply some of it to ur experiences...




Keshi.

Keshi said...

WC Swati n ty!

**never to talk to ppl wud hv abt w i wudt hv done 4

sorry but I didnt u'stand that :( Cud u plz explain further...tnxx!


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we all do amaze each other with our depth of knowledge in different areas, dun we Rick :)




Keshi.

Keshi said...

yes Katja, ty!



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hey Ori tnxx!



**All egos are bubbles of our erroenous and ambiguous notions and fixations on worldly pursuits and possessions of social status symbols and human illussions of grandeur.


well-said...



**try to live your life according to the will of your conscience and your heart and spirit and not according to the dictates of society

I love that bit of advice...ty so much Ori!




Keshi.

Keshi said...

hey Capz LOL!


**though I'm learning to embrace the fact that i am led to do things in the time they're meant to be done

true...


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heyya Bevz ty!



**Egos can make us self-destruct, even to the point where some take their lives

true...but when a suicide happens, its always not an over-powering ego...it can be a rapidly diminishing ego too...



Keshi.

Keshi said...

so true Phos, ty!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

Blessed ur truly blessed.


** I try to step outside myself and see how I seem to others

if only more ppl thought this way, the world wud be a much better place!



** As if THEY shouldn't have to wait, or their pain or illness is greater or more important than someone elses.

OMG I sooo know wut u mean. Cos whenever I go to see my doc, I hv to wait too. And I see some other patients getting very IMPATIENT :) Not nice at all.



** I am trying to love them anyway and probably a little more since they probably need that love to get over this bitterness, selfishness, anger that they are carrying.


very well-said dahlin!




Keshi.

Jim said...

every great man has a great ego

if u have no ego
u r a nobody

its pride in what u r
and knowing it

u can have an ego without being egotistical

every man and woman is unique
u must know what u r good at
and take pride in being u

I believe that when i die
the world will have lost somebody
who cannot be replaced

I believe many hearts will grieve when i am gone

but take heart before i go
i will put all of me in my blogs

I have plenty good and plenty bad in me

if u love me
u will have to love the whole person

I cannot be carved, chisseled or moulded

I am me
love me

Jim said...

GOSHHHH

Ori has an erection
and he is flaunting it

Ori is like me
he is honest

Jim said...

I believe the children are our are future
Teach them well and let them lead the way
Show them all the beauty they possess inside
Give them a sense of pride to make it easier
Let the children's laughter remind us how we used to be


Everybody searching for a hero
People need someone to look up to
I never found anyone who fulfill my needs
A lonely place to be
So I learned to depend on me


I decided long ago, never to walk in anyone's shadows
If I fail, if I succeed
At least I'll live as I believe


No matter what they take from me
They can't take away my dignity
Because the greatest love of all
Is happening to me
I found the greatest love of all
Inside of me


The greatest love of all
Is easy to achieve
Learning to love yourself
It is the greatest love of all

I believe the children are our future
Teach them well and let them lead the way
Show them all the beauty they possess inside
Give them a sense of pride to make it easier
Let the children's laughter remind us how we used to be



And if by chance, that special place
That you've been dreaming of
Leads you to a lonely place
Find your strength in love

Jim said...

a favourite question in interviews
what are your weaknesses?
and
what are your strenghts?

u have to strip your self naked and look at your self in the mirror

and get to know u

Jim said...

This is me
I am skinny
I will never acquire the body of SOUTHY
even if i spend every waking moment of the rest of my life in the gymn

i am the WOODY ALLEN type to some extent

I am charlie brown who loves that red head but I cant tell her

cos she is too beautiful for me
and I am a nobody

that was how i saw my self
until i was ragged in college

then when I came out of college i met Clara again

but i did not propose though she gave me the look

I realized
she is not my type
it was just a school boy crush
and i had gotten over it


I no longer found pretty girls beautiful

Jim said...

Be true to your self
Osho is reported to have said

If u r Ram
be Ram

and
if u r Ravan
be Ravan

KAYLEE said...

HOWS U TODAY?

Jim said...

FUCK
old man VEST is at it again
he is tarnishing the image of India in the blogger community


sock it to him guys

Jim said...

Kaylee
have u got a brand new heart yet?

hope your new heart loves me too

Keshi said...

Jim tnxx!


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Hey Kaylz Im good tnxx, how abt u?




Keshi.

Iceman said...

Sometimes... I wanna hurt ppl who hurt me just so bad that I wanna hear them scream my name in pain... minute after minute until eternity!!!

Hurt them in all levels... in every possible ways! Physical, emotional, mental & spiritual! I feel like i should fry their goddam souls!

But I wonder if I can be ok or feel good after I have done that! may be its worth a try!

niki yokota said...

lololol
i dont kill my sister keshi-chan.
thanks a lotttt!!

Keshi said...

hey WHY Iceman? I never thought of u like that...I mean, that u wud wanna hurt someone badly?

well there r times I wanna shake someone violently too :) but ofcourse not for real...its just a sudden and passing emotion...




Keshi.

Keshi said...

hey WHY Iceman? I never thought of u like that...I mean, that u wud wanna hurt someone badly?

well there r times I wanna shake someone violently too :) but ofcourse not for real...its just a sudden and passing emotion...




Keshi.

Keshi said...

Niki Im not so sure of that anymore...LOL!

Is ur sis missing? hahaha!

Keshi.

priya said...

To me its more like B/W right on the spot and things settle down isn't it. When we leave it it fumes more.

ghee said...

i cant agree more,Keshi.you`ve said them all ;)

but being adult can help some progress to ourselves I guess,we could learn more how to control our own emotions,and its stressful sometimes coz we need a lot of effort for that :)

kisses ***

ghee

Sakura said...

Hi Keshi, popped over here from Steph's blog. What a brilliant post and thank you for getting me to think about something that is often too hard to even contemplate. My ego seems to want to destroy me sometimes, but I try to keep it under control.

Brian in Oxford said...

Hey Keshi....

What's this "corbis" place where you get your pictures from, anyway? They have a shot for EVERYTHING! :)

Keshi said...

yes, ty Priya!


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very true Ghee, tnxx hun!




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Sakura WC n tnxx!

That Ego gets us all sometimes :) but yeah, we must be aware of it and keep it under control.



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hehe Brian. It's a photo site. But there r so many pics...I just search search n search till I find the one that matches my sentiments :)


Keshi.

chocolteluva said...

to be honest with you - i let my ego win many times. its ego that got me this far and makes me stand up for my self every time. its that i do think im better than others - that makes me push my self to be bette and become who i have.
however, i do give my self reality checks, cause there are obviously MANY MANY ppl that are better than me - so i dont let it get the best of me -- well atealst most times.

i would lie if i said i have never let it get teh best of me...
i dont think ego is a bad thing. too much of anything is bad though -- drugs, or whatever -- even happiness, if ure too happy - then everything is perfect and its boring, so you seek thrill and adventure.

Keshi said...

hehe Choco thats exactly wut I said in this post...we need a positive ego to achieve our goals but too much of it is self-deteriorating.

tnxx hun!


Keshi.