Friday, July 17

I Spy With My Little Heart...




1. I know what you are. You're the 'dictator' of my actions. You are EGO.
2. I know what you are. You're the 'messenger' of my soul. You are LOVE.
3. I know what you are. You're the 'preserver' of my decay. You are ANGER.
4. I know what you are. You're the 'protector' of my sanity. You are HUMOR.


The top solvers are Jay and Shachi! You guys nailed all 4 of them, congrattz woohoo! You get the 'Works Of Heart' award from Keshi! :) Enjoy it and welldone guys! It's not that easy to read someone else's mind and get all the answers right too. You're brilliant Jay and Shachi, I don't think I could have done that. And, thanks ALL others too for the great attempt there and I must say, each and everyone of you had a very good understanding of the riddles and intended answers. Most of you got almost all of them right and that's great :). And though we all had somewhat different answers to each one of the riddles, it only goes to show that each and everyone of us perceive life differently. That's the beauty of humans...we all see the same thing in many different ways, so we interpret the same thing in many different ways. So, good on all of ya! :) I loved all your various interpretations. Made me learn alot about my own perceptions too. Thanks alot for taking part and welldone all!



No Love In Town?
Is Love playing Hide & Seek with you? Looking for a love supreme? Feeling deprived? All the best women are married? All the handsome men are gay? And all those best friends are nowhere to be found? Your heart cant find Love anywhere around you? o well, Love is the hardest thing to find and implement. Isn't it? I guess alot of us are looking in all the wrong places, that's why. Love is not in someone else. It is not in some other place. It is not in the money we make or the looks we possess. It is not in the amount of friends you make or the kind of romance you have in your life. It is neither in the number of achievements or assets you have. It is in the quality of what you give to others, no matter who/what that other person is. Love is in you. It is nowhere else but in you. Still, you feel derpived and that love is nowhere to be found, even as you give it to others? So you go searching for someone to give it to you. Now you finally feel happy. And then after some time, it all falls apart and you hate that person. What happened to the Love? You didn't find love in the first place...you were only looking for company...someone to make you feel appreciated in this lonely world. But Company is not Love. Company is just Company. Love is not in your Marriage certificate or in the Engagement ring or in your Facebook friend-list. For I know so many marriages and friends without Love. Love isnt a race, a competition, a requirement or a societal obligation. We feel so loveless cos we are not opening our hearts in a way that we don't mind not getting anything in return. Love is not selfish, conditional or selective. It doesn't expect to be loved back equally. It surpasses everything else in quality. It's content on it's own...standing alone...giving somehow, even when not receiving anything in return...existing without being dependent...forever flowing like a river, cutting through all it's barriers, until it reaches it's destination, where it shines in it's optimal bliss not willing to falter one bit. It doesn't seek for company alone, it seeks to reach out and do what it's meant to do, even when receiving nothing in return. Just like how a river flows in it's carefree dance of nature. With or without you, I continue to blossom and flow. I'm not deprived cos I'm Love.


This weekend, I have a dinner to attend tomorrow night with some friends. And I also have some catching up to do with a long lost friend. I'm gonna surprise him by calling him after 2 long years...wonder what he's upto. Cos the last time I heard from him, he was in the middle of a divorce after just 2yrs of being married, and then I lost touch with him. In his own words, he told me that that was the 'wrongest' choice he had made in his life...and that was a LOVE marriage. Have a good weekend guys!


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Shachi said...

Awwww - Thank you for the award :) Now can I post it somewhere on my blog? If yes, how? (I am clueless so please help!!!!).

Very nice post....a mood uplifter :)

I am meeting my friend Dr. PP this weekend so I am sooper excited....he needs some TLC as he is down with flu so hubby n I are spending the weekend with him :)
You have a wonderful one Keshi! XOXO!

Anamika. said...

I didn't comment on your last post because I'm bad at riddles. Although, the answers kept floating in my head.
Congratulations to the winners :D

I totally agree with your present post. Why do we keep searching for something when it is in you or with you? Guess life makes us rush back and forth, a lot.

Sorry about your friend though.

Arv said...

kewl stuff...

and your write up amazes me... :)

have a nice weekend da... and hope your friend is doing well now...

take care... cheers...

Tarun said...

Well ...

I kinda get one out of four so that one fourth of the cake for me please.

:)

I am out of town for this weekend.
Couple of friends are getting their wives along so I have to count out beer.

:(

Lets see.

Tarun said...

The place I am visitin is close to Mumbai, i mean couple of hours of drive.
In rains it becomes damn scenic, clouds and water fall.
I imagine beer would just add to the beauty.

:p

Never the less, i am looking forwrd too it.

:D

Cabin-boy Dave said...

Is love playing hide and seek with me... I've often asked myself the same question.

How can it be so fulfilling, yet so cruel? How can it raise you higher than the peak of the highest mountain, and yet drop you into the infinite abyss of the deepest trench?

I congratulate the winners, and you for another thought-provoking post, Keshi.

яノςんム said...

i missed ur last post, i missed participating!! :(

anyways,
the post is super, all tht i needed to know again!!

Love!!

Jeevan said...

You have said the true meaning of love keshi, very beautiful. Sometime time love is costly, no one can buy, because it’s priceless and I also wish it could be generous, but these are seldom qualities and normal life leads by sharing.

AmitL said...

Hi,Keshi-congrats to Jay and Shachi for the right answers.and,you're right-it's everyone's interpretations that made the queries so interesting.:)
----
Re. the balance part of your post- you hit the nail on the head-the quality of what you give to others-selflessly,may I add...that's what matters.How true..but,we usually tend to forget that fact.Ah well, life's always a 'live and learn'process,isn't it?And,let me say-before anything else, one needs to love one's own self(that doesn't mean being vain or selfish,of course)..coz,what's inside of you is finally what is projected outside.:)

Thousif Raza M.B said...

well 1st of all i feel sorry for your friend, and second of all have good chat with him and make him feel better

and abt the lines you wrote abt love, oh my god, they were the most beautiful lines i have ever, ever ever read,

i completly agree with you, its we who have to give and shouldn't expect. but still, we all are humans and we expect, if not much just a little, dont you agree???

anyways it was very very very very beautiful and i am glad of the day that i found your blog,(actually i gotta thank chriz for that) and i am glad of that day that you started writing :)

and thx a ton for coming by my blog, hope to see more of you there

take very good care of yourself and keep writing

akanksha said...

I can idenity with u sooooooo much on "Love is playing hide n seek with me" thing :(

Hope your friend is fine...Update us on how was ur meeting.:)
Take care and happpy weekend!

Cяystal said...

This seemed like an interesting thing, was absent and hence missed it. :)
Sorry Kesh, I deleted my blog. Will Miss you.

humbl devil said...

dp...

have read through all your posts..that i had missed...
but not in a condition to comment...

will take tym for me to recover..

ZiLliOnBiG said...

Ohh, OK.So i got 2 right. WOW, i am actually smarter than i thought i was. Woo-hoo, :)))))))

You too have a great weekend TC:)))))))

ZiLliOnBiG said...

dont get me wrong, the whole business of quantifying LOVE leads to all the problems. What the hell is love? How do people know that there is no love between a couple?
*For I know so many marriages and friends without Love.*, but how did you know that?. LOVE is a simple thing. We generally make it sound complicated. LOVE doesn’t have grades or QUALITY. You either LOVE or you don’t.
I think its dangerous to differentiate LOVE. I LOVE my wife. I also love my mother and father. Are the two love different? For me, NO.
I love my parents, and its understood. I don’t have to take them to restaurants, or keep saying I LOVE YOU, over and over to establish my love. So is my love for my wife. So may be the case with the couples you mentioned above. If suddenly the WIFE feels( bcoz she read somewhere or watched some romantic movie) that husband aint saying I LOVE YOU anymore OR taking her out OR kissing her, and she feels that’s it, he doesn’t love me anymore, then that’s the biggest mistake of her life. Husband may be slogging his ass out to provide all the necessary amenities his wife needs. What an IRONY.

I still vouch for arranged marriages( though mine was a LOVE MARRIAGE). Love comes through a feeling of appreciation, respect and sense of security. And arranged marriages of our earlier generation provided(in most cases) just that. I loved the movie and the book NAMESAKE(Jumpa lahiri novel) and the Love between the GANGULIS. Sorry about this loooong comment. Ciao, i bothered to express my opinion bcoz i feel you are sensitive and sensible.And have a certain level of rare maturity.:)))

Chriz said...

i missed it cos of my absence from blogville.. will be back with a bang :)

Ria said...

wow!!lovely answers, i guess i messed up with 2nd and 3rd. But i must say u had explained each one of them very beautifully. :)

Anyways, hav a gr8 weekend gurl. And lemme know how did the dinner go.

The Rat... said...

i shudnt be the one to judge others given i am the one who cuts off every one from my life... i dont think i wud lead a quest for love in this life :-)

and sorry for missing out ur last post , sweetie...

Take care and enjoy the weekend...

Priya Joyce said...

oopssss...I missed one answer...well bettr luck to me next time :P

hmm

abt ur frnd...ahhh tat's pretty sad..well niway tats life people make wrong choices ..about love too...they jump into commitments even when they aren't sure abt their feelings..

but I believe marriage is also not a "once in life time decision" I dun thnk am propogating poly gamy there..but just that if u r in a bad marriage..u needn't be there suffering..as it happens in many of Indian Marriages.
:(
have a nice weekend :):)

Tickled pink said...

Congratulations to the winner.
Sad that I couldn't be a part of this amazing riddle. Thanks to my admission processes that kept me held up.
Anyway, I loved the riddles.Thought provoking indeed

Devika said...

Nice post, Keshi

I agree with all that you said here..but, love is something the other should feel, not something we claim about us...and it only works that way...in marriage, friendship, or whatever...

anyway, if we let love rule our life, we find happiness at the end of the day, despite all ups and downs,

that has been my experience through and through,

wishes,
devika

Jay said...

Wooooo - Hoooooo! Sometimes I amaze even myself! ;-)

shooting star said...

hey keshi..im back to your blog after long time.....i like the change in the page design!!!!

Rakesh said...

hmm.. close but never mind.

Couldn't agree more - Love is what you give, it is within you...

Cheers, Keshi. Have a great weekend.

Hobo ........ ........ ........ said...

WE do not search love, WE search what we do not find existing within us And one day we meet someone having the same.

Fiducia said...

The first 5 pointers stole my heart and the rest of the post captured my attention to the end...:)
Jay and Shachi - Congrats on getting it right!
Loved this post!!! Very optimistic..:)
For me, it was more like opening myself to life's actual perceptions..!
And to an extent, all that you said about love and marriage is so true..:)
Hoping your pal is all well now and yeah, don't keep searching for something that you may never know, actually exists within you!!! Amazing..
Keep blogging just like this...:)

- Sugar Cube - said...

Hmm dunno why I cldn't think of 'ego'
Almost everyone got 'Love' right though ;)

You didn't find love in the first place...you were only looking for company...someone to make you feel appreciated in this lonely world. But Company is not Love.
Love is not selfish, conditional or selective. It doesn't expect to be loved back equally.


Beautiful thoughts.Loved it :)

Cinderella. said...

Wonderful post Keshi !

In the middle of making some very important decisions. This pos helps me build faith.

Thanks for this.

Jack said...

Keshi,

I agree with you. True love does not expect anything back. But how many of us understand that? And also love is of many hues.

Take care

Suresh Kumar said...

This post was awesome... This wud help me a lot... I was angry with sum1 for not reciprocating... But u have made very clear the difference between company seeked to remove the loneliness and the real love...

And I got the last answer wrong for ur earlier riddles.

Teline said...

he he i told u i was bad at riddle, real bad :P did not guess one right.
about love... u might be right... did not found the right place though :(
I hope it s gonna go well with the friend u haven t spoke to for 2 years... how do u think he s gonna react... y did u lost contact wid him? well u don t have to answer if it s too personal, i m just too curious like always :)
u have a goooood week Kesh Kesh
C.

Maddy said...

Yet Another beautiful post Keshi girl.

It is in the quality of what you give to others, no matter who/what that other person is. Love is in you.

I can’t agree more Keshi. But this realization doesn’t come to everyone when it is needed. Its takes it own time. Either through suffering and finding a true love, a feeling of being loved by parents, relatives or friends. Or, completely and fully agreeing Love is not selfish, conditional. Come to think of it, the biggest asset we all have from birth to death is Love, which only grow. More you give it more you get it.

I don’t know if I am wrong in saying, Since in English, all the emotions connected with Love is termed as only Love, do we have all this confusion. Expression of Love has its own words in atleast Tamil, the language I know ( I hope it is other languages too)

We come across so many people in life. Sometime we are hurt/hurting people and moving away from the path and without in touch for longtime. After sometime( may be months, may be years) if you think of that person, whatever grudge you or other person have becomes irrelevant. Either of them realize the mistakes done, though need not be expressed to the other. At that time, there will be nothing but love in the mind and soul, because you are kept in their prayers atleast once and vice versa, which is selfless, unconditional and without any expectation. So I consider everyone understand the selfless, unconditional and unexpected Love in their life. Only variance is, when?? Either early in their life or in the deathbed.

Hope you had a good weekend and your long lost friend is leading a happy life too.

Love you girl, for what you are. God bless.

Whitesnake said...

There ain't no love in the heart of the city.......

Keshi said...

Shachi hey yes ofcourse u can post it in a blog-post or in ur blog itself :)

Congrattz again!

I hope u had a warm n cosy wknd with ur hubby :)

Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Anamika!


**Why do we keep searching for something when it is in you or with you? Guess life makes us rush back and forth, a lot.

true...we just make alot of things complicated :) In real, it's all very simple.


Keshi.

Keshi said...

hey ty Arv ;-)

Keshi.

Keshi said...

hey Tarun I hope u had a great weekend sans the beer ;-)

Keshi.

Keshi said...

hey ty Dave!

**How can it raise you higher than the peak of the highest mountain, and yet drop you into the infinite abyss of the deepest trench?

it happens cos Love teaches u to be at all kinds of different HEIGHTS :)


Keshi.

Keshi said...

hey ty Richa! :)

Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Jeevan!

Thats true...w.o. SHARING our lives, dreams, thoughts, hopes and love, there cant be LIFE.

Thats exactly what we r doing from Blogging too...SHARING our lives with total strangers and spreading the LOVE.


Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Amit! :)


**coz,what's inside of you is finally what is projected outside

very true! u cannot love another w.o. loving urself first.


Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Thousif! :)


** but still, we all are humans and we expect, if not much just a little, dont you agree???

oyes we do. we r all learning thru our experiences in life.

I used to hv alot of expectations from ppl and I was very unhappy then. But now I keep my expectations very low and now Im happier than ever before :) Its all abt expecting from others what u can give to others too. Nothing more nothing less.


Keshi.

Keshi said...

hey Akanksha ty!

dun look so sad...:) love is in ya...so why r ya sad?

*HUGZ*

Keshi.

Keshi said...

Crystal why did u delete ur wonderful blog?????

Im shocked. What happened?

Keshi.

Keshi said...

Devil I read ur latest post...hey Im here anytime u want someone to talk to ok?

*HUGZ* TC!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

hehe Zillion :)

I like wut u said. yes, we cannot and we shouldnt quantify LOVE.


***For I know so many marriages and friends without Love.*, but how did you know that?. LOVE is a simple thing. We generally make it sound complicated. LOVE doesn’t have grades or QUALITY. You either LOVE or you don’t.


I agree and thats HOW I know that their marriages are loveless :) Not cos they dun say I LOVE U all the time or go to the movies etc etc. They dont love each other...cos they hv told me so. And I know alot of things that some ppl do behind their partner's back :) There cant be LOVE where there's no RESPECT or TRUST.


Love isnt different in QUALITY...just a lil Love is as the same as alot of Love. LOVE IS LOVE. ur right.



Keshi.

Keshi said...

hey thats ok Chriz.

Keshi.

Keshi said...

hey ty Ria! :)

I hope u had a good one too.

Keshi.

Keshi said...

hey ty Rat!

aww I dun think u cut off ppl from ur life...it must be a phase, work or something else...cant be something ur doing deliberately, cos ur too LOVING for that!

Keshi.

Keshi said...

yep Joyce u missed just one! I noticed that :) That was pretty good!


I agree...ppl make wrong choices and thats ok. And like u said, alot of ppl jump into committments w.o. really u'standing the responsibilities of it all.


**but just that if u r in a bad marriage..u needn't be there suffering..as it happens in many of Indian Marriages.

I so agree! Life is too short to 'preserve' a marriage for society's sake. If ur not happy, get out of it. Thats what I believe too.


Keshi.

Keshi said...

hey ty Tickled and no worries! :)

Keshi.

Keshi said...

hey ty Devika!

**but, love is something the other should feel, not something we claim about us...and it only works that way...in marriage, friendship, or whatever

I agree.

When I said 'IM NOT DEPRIVED, COS IM LOVE', I didnt mean thats ME...I meant it as LOVE was saying that :)


Keshi.

Keshi said...

hehe congrattz Jay! ;-) good on ya!

Keshi.

Keshi said...

hey Sushmita WB I missed ya! Hope all is well with ya. Nice to hv ya bak :)

Keshi.

Keshi said...

hey Rakesh :)

Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Hobo!


**WE do not search love, WE search what we do not find existing within us And one day we meet someone having the same.


so r ya telling u dun hv LOVE within u and ur finding someone who can give it to u? How can u expect LOVE from someone else if it's not within u in the first place?


Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Fid Im glad u like this post alot!


**For me, it was more like opening myself to life's actual perceptions

yep...I felt the same way after writing it :)


sometimes we search n search for something, when its within arms reach.


Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Sugar! :)

ur answers intrigued me...I like ALL the answers...they all opened new doors of perception.


Keshi.

Keshi said...

hey Cindy Im glad abt that. ty so much!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Jack!

yep it takes alot to u'stand that...Im forever learning too :)

Keshi.

Keshi said...

hey Suresh!

**But u have made very clear the difference between company seeked to remove the loneliness and the real love...

yep, it makes u think, doesnt it :)


ur answers were superb Suresh! I liked em all.


Keshi.

Keshi said...

hey Cess :) hows u?

**y did u lost contact wid him?

cos he never answers his phone..yeah for 2yrs!

I rang him yday, he didnt pick up
:( Im wondering if he changed numbers. And he lives in Sri Lanka.


Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Maddy! :)


**Come to think of it, the biggest asset we all have from birth to death is Love, which only grow. More you give it more you get it.

very true. Well-said there. Love is the only way we can grow from and be satisfied with ourselves n lives, even when we get nothing in return. It took me a long time to arrive at this realisation, and tho Im still learning, now I dun keep grudges or be angry for too long. I hv really seen a difference in me since I adopted Love instead of Scorn and Ego :) Its just simpler and happier that way. So why do we choose the other ways ha? :)


**Expression of Love has its own words in atleast Tamil, the language I know ( I hope it is other languages too)

I agree...same in Sinhalese. There r more n better ways to express Love than just one word. Sometimes I feel English limits my expressions. I can say all of these things much better in Sinhalese.



**So I consider everyone understand the selfless, unconditional and unexpected Love in their life. Only variance is, when?? Either early in their life or in the deathbed.

agree totally! That was well-put Maddy. The earlier we realise it the better. Thats what Im trying to do thru my blog. I wanna wake the hearts and souls of ppl up, and use the time they hv been given b4 its too late.


ty for ur wonderful insight here Maddy!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

Steve thats cos there aint no love in most hearts? :)

Keshi.

Devika said...

Oh yes, Keshi :)

That day when I wrote the comment, perhaps I was not in my wits and I could have read and conveyed it wrongly...it happens, never mind my dear....no misunderstanding you with words spoken/written! :)

devika

Keshi said...

no worries Devika :)

I think the way I wrote that line, most ppl would hv thought the same as you did hehe...


Keshi.

Tarun said...

Morning/Afternoon Keshi.

:D

Trip was good sans beer, but then if it would have been a bit bitter the trip would be a bit better.

It was all hills and clouds.
I will try to post an update soon but then snaps will be posted later.

How was your weekend?

Keshi said...

Tarun 'bitter' trips r 'better'? LOL ok!

My wknd was FABULOUS! I had a great time on Sat nite with fam & friends at the dinner and dance. Danced non-stop :)

Keshi.

Tarun said...

Well I too had a fab weekend,I lazed non stop.

:D

blog updated.
:)

Rakesh Vanamali said...

Indeed, life is a temporary phenomenon!

Thanks for the answers! The lazy me didnt try! ;)

vishesh said...

congrats to the winners :) ha love ..I know , where are the girls?

Cazzie!!! said...

Shopping is therapeutic Keshi :)

Keshi said...

good on ya Tarun!

Keshi.

Keshi said...

Rakesh hey tnxx! :)

Keshi.

Keshi said...

Vish they r all in the Ladies putting some makeup on lol!

Keshi.

Keshi said...

It sure is Caz! :)

Keshi.