Wednesday, November 2

Verbal bullets

When you were a kid you may have learnt to say "Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me." Well I'm not so sure of that anymore, 'cos words do hurt, even worse than a slap or a punch does. I myself have done that countless times to my friends and family, when I open my mouth without thinking or when words just slip out in a moment of anger. I have said words such as 'oh go away, leave me alone', 'shutup', 'you're selfish and manipulative', 'you're really dumb and it's killing me', 'enough of your bullsh#t' etc. But there are some people who use words as weapons to hurt people deliberately, to cause emotional pain so that they get a cheap satisfaction out of it. They name-call, use rude words, bring up the past, laugh at and criticise the other person's family, friends, beliefs and lifestyle. Some words, even if they are not foul words, hurt so much depending on the tone and the content. That is where you commit a verbal crime, especially to a loved-one. Because abuse is abuse no matter by which means it's committed.

Do you know how much damage a cruel word can do? It can do irreparable injury to a person's mind that it may ruin an entire relationship for good. Words can shoot like a gun, cut like a knife and even make a person change forever. Words can hurt a person worse than a slap on the face could. I firmly believe in the quote that says that the pen is mightier than the sword. One of my friends hasn't seen his sister in 15years. Why, because they had an argument back then and he blurted out something that hurt her so much that she has cut all ties with him since then. He regrets it now and is desperately trying to get back in touch with her and she's not responding at all. There's another friend of mine who's boyfriend called her rude names when they argued over something and so she put off the wedding. An ex-friend of our family once wrote a very abusive letter to me for something which he was at fault and since then (7yrs ago), I neither want to see his face nor hear from him ever again. He rang me a couple of times to say how sorry he was but I can't forget those terrible words - they are etched in my head like words carved in stone. He even asked my cousin if he could visit me at home and I said No. That's how powerful words can be. It can ruin relationships and divide people forever. I feel, that as much as people like compliments, they tend to remember the insults better and longer, especially if it came from a loved-one.

So next time you have an argument with a loved-one (it could be your parent, sibling, friend, partner, colleague or a kid), think twice before you vent out your anger with the intention to hurt the other person. You may feel you're the winner at that moment but really you will be the loser. Don't name-call or bring up the past ever. That's the lowest thing you could do to someone. It not only hurts the other person deeply but it will portray you as a poorly brought-up immature person. Don't ever laugh at and make fun of the other person's acquaintances and beliefs, just stick to the point of the argument. First try and listen to what he/she has to say, not just hear it. If he/she is being unreasonable, then tell them 'maybe I should explain to you how I feel too..', instead of telling them 'you're a big fat defective goose'...lol! So many loved-ones hurt me daily with words but I will not do the same 'cos that's not me. It's far more wiser to stay calm, or else it will become one big war of verbal bullets which you will regret in the end.

In this life we don't get many chances to do good deeds for our loved-ones...but we get many chances to say things (or even not say anything at all)...and people will remember you alot for your words and how you made them feel...so if you're someone who can't easily give compliments, then the least you could do is choose your words carefully in an argument or say nothing at all, instead of lashing out in anger. That will save you from scarring somene's heart forever and dwelling in regret. When you hurt someone with words, the tears flow forever 'cos you can't ever take those words back...and the feelings he/she felt are hard to erase.

133 Cranium Signets:

:) said...

yeeeeeeeeeeee me first on gorgeous's posttttttt

woo hoo!!!

:)

Drywall Mom said...

I agree with you there. Those pictures you posted made me feel so sad for the children. It makes me want to give them hugs and hold them until they stop crying.

:) said...

Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me."
it wrks other way for me... means sticks stones cant hurt me... but words mmm.. one single bad word can turn ma world upside dwn:(

Don't name-call or bring up the past ever.
oh ye true... whts gone is gone ...y to recall thm... lets find smthing new to fight today hehehe... kidding..

you hurt someone with words, the tears flow forever 'cos you can't ever take those words back...and the feelings he/she felt are hard to erase.
yess... i knw how bad it feels :(..i think we all knw that ..still we do it smtimes..
though i try to think 100 times b4 saying anything but still smtimes it happens n thn i end up crying buckets:(

very thoughtful post gorgeous.. hope u feeling ok... seems as nt in best mood.. but u hv sm amazing frds here to cheer u up all times :)... hugggzzzz ..

:)

Hagrid said...

ahh !

words once spoken and an egg broken cannot be mended again.

wisely said .. nice thoughts..

saby said...

The contemplation of truth and beauty is the proper object for which we were created, which calls forth the most intense desires of the soul, and of which it never tires.
-William Hazlitt (1778-1830), British essayist
Quote World

saby said...

But there are some people who use words as weapons to hurt people deliberately,


FUCK !
Kesh

u neednt get nasty
i said sorry didnt i ?

i even apologized to Justine
to Punjabi
to TANVI
to Janice
to Fira
to .....

saby said...

i tink i just hurt her again

Kesh
when someone slaps u on the right cheek

turn a little to the left
so he can slap u on the right bum cheek

wasnt i who said dat
it was Him

4u2nvau/Rohit said...

Very well said Keshi and very well written. I couldn't agree with you more on that.

Im always the one to vent out my anger with the people im most close to, but Im lucky coz they understand me and know that what I usually say when Im angry isn't what I really mean.

I do feel bad after saying stuff I don't mean to say, and usually apologise after saying it, but sometimes I think Im taking my close friends and family for granted, yellin at em and saying rude things.

I have managed my temper a lot, and Im hoping I won't do the things I did in the past and hurt people.

saby said...

butthe fucking Bible (old testament)which Bush reads says




'EYE for an EYE'

saby said...

Yeah !
He hurt me too Kesh
called me a sonovabitch

Keshi said...

Saby u r pushing ppl away from u with UR won words...u r deliberatly using the F word to test my patience...what r u going to achieve from this? Can u just stop swearing for nothing...it's really annoying.

Keshi.

Keshi said...

I never called u that Saby...rem a lot of ppl r faking my Id...also I dun have any problems in swearing at anonymous asses...cos they aint my loved-ones!

Keshi.

Keshi said...

Hey Pari the FIRST woohoooo! :)

Yes no matter how hard we try sometimes we cant avoid hurting our loved-ones with words...it just happens...but as long as u dun do it deliberately, it's ok to lose ur temper a lil bit..o.w. we cant be human na :)

Thanks sweety!
Keshi.

saby said...

i learned the F word from u
dont u keep on saying WTF ?

Keshi said...

Yes I do say WTF so? BuT i dun spell it out in every other comment in ppl's blog do I? Just dun mess with me Saby I have had enough of ur immaturity.

Keshi.

Keshi said...

WC Drywall! Yes those kids look so helpless and in deep grief...aww I wanna hug them too!

Keshi.

Keshi said...

Halllooooooooo h000gie WC and Congrats on ur marriage! woohoo look who's here :)

**words once spoken and an egg broken cannot be mended again

that is soooo true mate! Thanks!

Keshi.

saby said...

deliberate or not
it hurts just as much

Keshi said...

G'day NV! :)

**coz they understand me and know that what I usually say when Im angry isn't what I really mean

nope..that's where ur wrong...dun assume they u'stand u...cos some ppl dun show how they feel...tho u may think they know and u'stand u, inside they could be wishing u neva did that...think abt it...

But u r the last person who can hurt anyone with ur words...I know sometimes u can get a lil bit snobby :) but u neva use harsh words...atleast not with me :) Hugggggggz!

Keshi.

saby said...

He does
He does

dont lie for him

saby said...

my beegest enemy is booze
which makes me use the F-word






but then Jesus said
'Love yr enemies'

Keshi said...

Saby dun find an excuse to use the F-word. If boozing is the excuse then u must be boozing 24/7 cos that's all u ever say in ur comments??

If u have the slightest respect for me as a friend, u wouldnt do the same mistake again n again giving unending irritation to me...now dun come back with Bible verses to cover urself yet again. Sometiems u got to accept that u r wrong too Saby.

Keshi.

Keshi said...

Saby...

**deliberate or not
it hurts just as much

yes u have done that to me many times...u have stormed my blog with ur words, hurting my friends, swearing for no reason, flooding when I wanted u to stop etc etc...deliberate or not that too hurt.

saby said...

i got work to do
bye Kesh

saby said...

i dont lissen to words
words can be lies


the heart dont need words to communicate

my words will never hurt a heart-friend

and the others dont count

saby said...

Sorry!

i just had to have the last word
now, i really must go

or loose my job

Keshi said...

U being the last to say anything doesnt make u right Saby...:)

Keshi.

Tanvi said...

keshi wordz hurt..but me being me...i cant stay mad at nethin for long..no matter how hurtful it was

been there done that..hate myself for it

~*. D E E P A .* ~ said...

Hi Keshi ....

first of all , i am really glad to see this post .....

cant say how much .... coz i had a similar experience w/ a v v v v close friend .... and yest was the culminating point : she had a baby 2 days ago , and no matter how hard i try to forgive and forget the past ,i cant .... n i cant bear to go and see the baby either .....

and it hurts all the more coz she has been such a close friend - from school -- and the closer u are , the more such things hurt ....

and i have spent yest and half of today agonizing over things ....

thanks for the post !!!

c ya

Keshi said...

Tanvi I know...even I cant stay mad at someone for too long...but when the words used r too painful (u wouldnt even imagine the words he used on me) and if the person is a very close person, then the magnitude of the effect of those words is amazing...it can take me away from that person forever...

Keshi.

Keshi said...

Heyya Deepa hows ya? :)


**coz i had a similar experience w/ a v v v v close friend

the closer u 2 r, the worse u feel nah...I know the feeling..

It's true when they say that friends are the hardest to forgive...

Well in ur case I dunno what she said to u that even keeps u away from visiting her and the baby...but I sense it must have been something that hurt u real bad. U should give urself time...and if in time u still dun feel like seeing her, then let it be that way...somethings that ppl say break our hearts forver...I u'stand u Deepa...take it easy...ur happiness and contentment deserves better time and energy. And if she was wrong and she's a genuine friend and accepts her mistake, she whould come and make an apology...even then I dunno if u could be the same with her ever again...

Keshi.

The Phoenix said...

Great post...I completely agree. I wish my tongue wasn't so sharp, and I know sometimes I say things to hurt those closest to me.

It's one of those things about me that I'm constantly trying to work on, and get rid of.

uttara said...

hiiiiiiiiiiiiii
good mg
am late 2de ..justwoke up some time bk ...
lolll

howz u sweeti ..:)
uttara

Keshi said...

Hey Phoenix WC :)

yeah it's one of those things we all constantly work on, all through our lives....thanks for dropping by!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

Hey Mermaid I was missing ya :(

uttara said...

awwww hey do u have YM .. we can chat over there??? wat say

i will read ur post n come bk wid a comment ..lol

hugzzzzzzzzz how u feeling now babes .. am here only not going anywer ...:)

now smile plsss ...say cheeez.. am taking a snap ..lol

mermaid

Keshi said...

hehe so sweet...

no I dun chat on yahoo nomore...discontinued all chatting since last week..no time for it so no point having an ID...


Im well...and u?

Keshi.

uttara said...

wow .. so gorgeous ....CLICK ....

lol .. its come out well
okok .. coz am @ home n thot we cud chat ..lol
mez good no probs :))

hugzz sweeti

uttara

Keshi said...

that's great Uttara :) When u have time, read the post and comment on Words....those stabbing words...hehe...

Keshi.

Keshi said...

Saby this is not a place for ur dirty talk...I deleted it.

Keshi.

musings (m000nie) said...

makes a lot of sense... i guess all of us have met such people... people who r real close but hurt us with their awful words.. sometimes they dont even mean them but we remember them...

the best way is to ignore such people... dont fight bak with more rotten words... just keep away from them... im sure id not want to stoops so low to give them word for word...

nice one k00kie... bye for now laterzzzz

Arz000n said...

Glad to be in top 50...

Coming back in 6.4 mins

:))


Good morning K000kini!!
How you doing???

Michelle said...

awwwww...keshh! wat perfect timin!! i wuz thinkin bout this,in fact sumtin similar happened to me :(

amazin post!

Caraf said...

hey Kesh,
I'm on my morning walk through all my friends' blogs. :D

its too boring to say i agree with anything you post as i always do anyway.

firacub said...

Hi Keshu,

I read your answer to my explosion and was simply amused on reading your views. I was about to comment back but then I stopped for a reason. BUt since you want an answer so here it is.

I know my limits Keshi and I never breach my code of conduct. I have the manners and the ethics inculcated in me to deal with people and friends from all walks of life. The real problem is your limited brain capacity since you dont bother to even think beyond that. I blunty blast people who are close to me because I feel they know me and will understand me whenever I do so. Sadly when it comes to you, its always the opposite. You relate my rant to something else and start off in a new direction. I blasted you because you are close to me.

Coming back to your posts. Why do always think that its all about your posts and your blogs!!!! I have never laughed at any of your posts Keshi, nor I ever will. Its just your foolish assumptions that make you think that. Do let me know as when and where I laughed at your posts. And when I said "mile-long sermon", it wasnt even remotely related to your posts or your blogs. Again your wrong assumption.

Even before you went out on your holidays we talked over emails and you did inform me that you will be leaving soon. That was the reason I did not comment on your posts. As I said, I was happy since after a very long gap you were giving some time to your ownself. I was just waiting for you to come back and things would have been normal had it not been your hasty conclusions.

Moving on keshu, I would like to tell you that one can also make his presence felt through his/her words. If you cannot make your friend feel at ease by your words then what difference would your physical presence make otherwise. How about giving a thought to that!!! Dont you feel good when you read all the good comments from your net friends? If one can find solace from their words then I dont think one needs their physical presence too. It would be too illogical to ask them to skip to Australia....

When I said about crying buckets, it was meant to be a verbal phrase by which I meant that I was not supposed to feel sorry that you had left but to feel happy for you that you are going for a vacation and that you will have some good time. Again you completely misunderstood me here as well.

Again when I said about you running away was not at all related to blogging or our posts. But I fail to understand that why do you always have to bring your blogs in between our fights when actually I am not even talking about it. My only concern was your attitude that needed some amends but even till now you have not bothered to think about that.

I know you by what your write and the way you handle things. The general perception that we all use to judge people. I know you to some extent and have always tried to understand you better. Anything wrong in that?? If you know me better then how come you never understand the point that I want to put across failing which we end up fighting with each other an that too for the second time.

Again I was never obsessed with your Expectations post. You always keep landing back on square one. I dont understand as to why is it that you always relate my anger with what you post rather than actually giving a thought to why I blast you in the first place.

When I say think twice before you comment, I meant that kindly dont think from this point of view that I am again butchering your posts or your blog but think about why exactly did I leave a nasty comment if I ever do leave one. Ok.

And you can keep my best wishes Keshu cos I have an umbrella to save myself on a rainyday :)))))

And I have, will and always sign off on a peacefull note because I have a reason for blasting you. If only you had ever asked me as to why is it only you that I am blasting for the second time and not anyone else then perhaps I would not have had any reason to blast you ever.

I genuienly wished you a Happy Diwali thinking that you wont take my beating in a negative way but nooooooo you rather chose to write an entire post on it.

And to sum it all up... I have never changed. I feel that if a friend has gone astray I have that much right to blast him/her and get him/her on the right track. I never had, never have or never ever will I forget that it was because of you I am in this blog world. When did I ever question that you dumb ass??? Why the hell did you even talk about that? Thats a fact and I will never change it buddy. I can never go that low no matter what happens... See its your own view. AGAIN A WRONG ASSUMPTION... I do blast people for doing something stupid but at the same time I also DO NOT forget them for their kindness or whatever good they have done to me. I dont forget their love and care that they have expressed. You again guessed wrong Keshi...

So its upto you again. Whatever you make out of this comment of mine. You can disect it as you have started doing for sometime or think about it, which you should have in the first place, and comment accordingly. I am still the same Keshi, you just need to change your approach a little bit. And if my existence does not make any difference to you, then you are most welcome to do anything you want.


Peace,
Firacub.
P.S: Wish you a Happy Eid.

Arz000n said...

I dont remember using a bad word on anyone till coz abusing is something which I never did...but it hurts when other people do just to make themselves look bold ....which is crap..

As far as "terrible words" are concerned...yess....at times out of anger, I've used it...later when I come back ot ma senses....I realise what mistake I've done.

It happend with me during ma previous relationship too..words once spoken cant be taken back and SORRY too loses its value.

I feel, betta think and speak...rather than speak and then cry for all your life.

Łóòň Ġãĺ said...

Yep...i need to keep this in mind....coz when am angry i really dont see who am talking to....nd just keep saying out stuff which i regret later....
But for me tiz like....i can't be angry with a person for long....in the end tiz alwez like we kiss n make up, be it be neone!

Nice post.

~*~ kiran ~*~ said...

oh keshi !!!
this post made me feel so senti...
i started crying ... :-(

i have also been hurt by sm1 very close 2 me... n still rmebr those words which haunt me like ghost every single day of my life isnce last 2 years...
blv me its such a pain to hear smthg so mean n cruel from the person whom u trust n love ...
i had never imagined myself in that positio n so it was very difficult for me to accept the reality ...but thanx 2 a few caring souls...they guided me into light from that darkness...n now i feel normal...but the emotional hurt has caused irrepairable damage to my soul..coz i know i may never be able 2 trust ne person as much i did 2 that person who broke my heart ...
im not the person who will go on spreading false rumuors abt ne 1 ...but ya if sm1 hurts me , i will not retaliate with words ...but not speaking to that person is the best i can do ...


i surely do agree with what uve wrtn...

but thers 1 thing which i want 2 say that if u ever hurt a person ... u have 2 pay the price for that in this life only ...god has better things 2 do up there,....so he makes the people suffer in this life only ...


take care

kiran

Johnny B. Good said...

dis FIRA is a complex simple person

uttara said...

hey keshi..........

first of all lemme giv u a hugz
hugzzzzzzzzzzzzzz u sound soo down ...cheer up babes... ye ppl dont realise wat they say wen they r angry but yes .. if they realise that they have done a mistake u shud forgive him or her .. coz this is a very small life .. n yes if u feel he is genuinly sorry only then

u not gonna take away anything wid u wen u r in ur death bed ...

wen it comes to WORDS listen n not hear .. how truely said .. cos there is a diff here too ..

keshi u need to mould urself according to ppl sometimes ..which is very difficult ..its not in me .. but yes u need to ... i too need to learn .. rem wat u said inur post abt masking .. thats how life is ..
then this may make a diff in ur life ....

the ppl who tries n dig the past r coward according to me... cannot face the present ...

one has to respect themselves only then will be respected by others n their words wil lbe valued ..

my mom always used to tell wat u wrote here ... if a person hits u will forget in a day or so .. but wat u say will be etched lifetime ....

"THINK TWICE BEFORE U SPEAK .."

but tell me one thing .. can u try n mend wats gone wrong .. if ppl r stubburn can u do anything over it .. as u feel for frindship ..does that person feel the same towards u ... its upto u how u realise this.. thenu wil not end up hurting urself ....

wen u talk about expectation .. we say u shudnt expect from anyone . but tell me .. u expect a person to smile bk wen u smile at him/her... it may not be materialistic .. its upto us to decide the level of expectation ...


i hope u will get over this soon ... n some ppl r born to hurt others .. so either take it personally or just ignore ...coz ignorance is bliss .. so being happy or sad is also in ur hands .. no one can rule ur emotions n feeling .. n u shudnt give them the liberty to do so ..

GOSH wat a long comment...
hugzzzzz
love ya...
am sure things will be fine ...
am sorry commenting soo late . too much of wrk @home .. lollll...
luv u loadssssssss
mermaid

Justin Thyme said...

Hey Kesh! Great post, as usual!!!

sittingnut said...

do we get hurt more by some words from a loved ones because we have higher expectations from them or because we want them to expect less from us?
anyway the post made me think of all the hurtful things i have said. thing is while some of it is really cruel some of it is also honest. should one say less just because the other person is a dear friend ?

saby said...

oooooooo Justine,

u look real sexy
it feels like years since i last saw u lover boy

saby said...

wat is ROHIT's shin colour?






just wondering which of these is Rohit?

saby said...

FIRA and UTTARA shud marry
they both use a lotta words to say






i love u Kesh

saby said...

Arz000n said...
I dont remember using a bad word on anyone






he is saint Arz00n

saby said...

i dunno why
i dunno why




i dunnpo why
i finger Asses

saby said...

main kya karu Kesh
addat se mazboor hoon




i just cant tolerate fakes

DLAK said...

Howdy Keshi, That may be the longest post I have ever taken the time to read every word of. Do the words hurt so much because they are true or because a trust has been broken?

Autumn Storm said...

Aah, this reminds me exactly why I missed you so :-). Excellent, heartfelt, all-encompassing post. Great job, Keshi!

Katie said...

Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.

i have always disliked that saying....cause its not true...who came up with that?...lol...

Nitika said...

hi keshu deary
happy festive
may this festive brings more n more happiness in your life

post seems to be so thought provoking.....love to read... but .....me being attack by cold so....would come back later on

u take care
luv u

saby said...

i talked wid God

He told me
i am right




Kesh is left
http://imnutsincaps.blogspot.com/2005/11/interview-with-god.html

niki yokota said...

this is sooo true, keshi!! i had same prob with my sister and took 3-4 years to make it up(^o^);;;
i will always remember this post when i feel like fighting. thanx a lottt!!!!

nyzillestpunjabi said...

I talk a lot..i m not into harsh words..i joke round makin fun of my frnds lol but nuthin major.. but when im pissed i like to take it out.. but jus to make the other person realize that it bothered me not to shut them down .. like they're a piece of shit :) cuz they're not ..people say things not realizin even i do ..n if the other person doesnt like it or is bothered ..they shud be straight forward and make sure this doesnt happen again..i don mind someone tellin me where i went rong !! cuz everyones sensitive in their own way.. n its better to say it then keep a grudge or try to forget it but then 10 yrs later its still achin inside u ..

Words hurt for sure especially when i was a kid.. when ur doin something and you end up doing it wrong or you mess up..n someone says "ur so DUMB" .. that jus kills ur confidence for a long period of time!! ..

Rahul said...

Keshi,
I agree wholeheartedly this time ;-) Words can be very incisive and have to be used carefully. What particulary struck me was the part about people deliberately stocking up and using words that think will do maximum mental damage. Very recently, i saw a close acquaintance sizing up a new word, and appraising it be lethal in effect as an insult. Somehow, i was shocked that someone would plan such techniques of mental disintegration so methodically- i have not been able to get over it...

The Zuzupilanian said...

Astu

Keshi said...

m000nie hugggggggggz!

**im sure id not want to stoops so low to give them word for word

Cannot say it any better, spot on and thanks!





z000nie lol 6.4min ha? awww so sweet...u left that at 4:56pm and came back at 6:10pm...lol that's more than 6.4 mins?? :):)
I know ur a gentle giant...a very sweet boy...u neva use harsh words, not even on the net (unlike me lol)...so I know in real life u msut be an angel :) Yep it's best to THINK b4 u SPEAK than SPEAK and SUFFER later....good one mate! Thanks and luv u lots!!

Keshi.

Keshi said...

Mich awwwwww lemme hug ya - HUGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGZ! I think I know wut u mean..I saw some arguments in ur latest post with ur good friend...if that's what ur talkin abt, hey u 2 will get bak together in no time...but he did say some hurtful things to ya...some guys talk like girls hve no emotions...it's really cruel...I know. But u take it easy...ur a smart gal I know...dun react...whatever it is, whoever who hurt ya, show that u have a head...unlike them...take care sweety pie...u can email me anytime u want - luv u lots!

Keshi.

Keshi said...

Hey Caraf :) No problemo...hehe...always luv it when u r here...it feels like a divine presence...




Cheesssssssssy aww I know...even I say harsh words when Im totally pissed off...but we need to too...sometimes words make u recover from ur anger..as long as u dun break the code of conduct...u know what I mean na? :) Luv u hunzz!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

Hiiii Kiran! Hugggz first... :)

**but the emotional hurt has caused irrepairable damage to my soul..coz i know i may never be able 2 trust ne person as much i did 2 that person who broke my heart .


I know exactly what u mean...this has happened to me with that guy who wrote the letter...it's like u can't trust anyone anymore...he wasn't so close to me but he was close enough to get hurt by it all...anyways, always remember Kiran that there r alot of beautiful hearts too in this world...just like the mean ones...:) So have hope, move on, trust if u must...

Take care...
Muah!
Keshi.

Jim said...

Pain...beyond words.

Desire, like a knife through my heart.
My spirit is lost.
Unfeeling, empty.
Forgotten.

Who'd of thought words could make such pain possible,
Tangible,
All consuming,
Dissovling my heart.

Burying my head, hoping to save my mind from this insanity.
Aching, always aching....
Depressive hues of darkness smother me,
Devour me,
Caress my demon mind.

I don't care,
I can't let go.....
I won't live this way,
Can't breath without your words in my head.

Don't force this suffering,
Take back those Goodbye words,
Open your arms again...
Don't shut your world to me.


Evie
xxx
http://sssssshbequiet.blogspot.com/

Keshi said...

Uttara goooooood morning! :):)


**hugzzzzzzzzzzzzzz u sound soo down ...cheer up babes...

Huggggggggz! I was down but not anymore cos Im talkin to u na :):)


**if they realise that they have done a mistake u shud forgive him or her .. coz this is a very small life .. n yes if u feel he is genuinly sorry only then

hey I can forgive but it's so hard to forget...I'm only human...u know wut I mean nah...one day I'll tell u what he wrote to me...then u will know wut I mean. But yeah life is short and we need to move on. However, forgiving is easy but forgetting is so hard to do Uttara...



**u not gonna take away anything wid u wen u r in ur death bed ...

I always live by this quote...thanks girl..I'm so glad to realise even more than u think exactly like me...HUGZ!


**wen it comes to WORDS listen n not hear .. how truely said .. cos there is a diff here too ..

yes there is a HUGE diff there...ppl just shout and scream trying to get their points across...trying to feel important...trying to win the argument...but only if they stop and LISTEN, not just HEAR...



**keshi u need to mould urself according to ppl sometimes ..which is very difficult ..

Uttara this is the hardest for me to do...I cant mask my feelings...I always wear my heart out on the sleeve...my emotions r all over my face...I breakdown n cry easily...ask my friends...they know I'm a big drama queen lol! But I know wut u mean...and I have to work on it if I'm to survive in this world...



**the ppl who tries n dig the past r coward according to me... cannot face the present ...

yep...ppl who dwell on the past r emotionally dead ppl...they go on and on with somethign that happened in the past when this argument is abt something else duhhh!



**one has to respect themselves only then will be respected by others n their words wil lbe valued ..

That is so true!


**my mom always used to tell wat u wrote here ... if a person hits u will forget in a day or so .. but wat u say will be etched lifetime ....

omg Uttara my mum always says that too!!!! She's the one who taught me that too...omg our mums r also similar now lol!



**can u try n mend wats gone wrong .. if ppl r stubburn can u do anything over it ..

no I cant do anything...I know that...but they must realise what they have done and how hurtful it is...and if they dun realise it, then it's really sad...that's what makes me sadder. If I can be sensitive towards my friend's feelings, why cant he/she be the same towards my feelings?



**wen u talk about expectation .. we say u shudnt expect from anyone

na na...we need to have some expectation...o.w. we wont be human :) what I meant was NOT expect too much from anyone...



**i hope u will get over this soon ... n some ppl r born to hurt others ..

I know many of them in my real life...my weakness is my extreme sensitiveness...Im made like that...:(


**coz ignorance is bliss ..

yeah slowly Im learning to do that...thanks Uttara ur just great...


**so being happy or sad is also in ur hands .. no one can rule ur emotions n feeling .. n u shudnt give them the liberty to do so ..

I know that...so true. But ur loved-ones' words affect u somehow...whether u try to ignore or not..cos they r an imp part of ur life na. But even then I have now learnt to care for myself...abt my happiness...like u said no one can make me unhappy if I dun let em...

THANKS SOOOOO MUCH mah sunshine...:)

Huggggggggggz n muahhhhhhhhz!
Keshi.

Keshi said...

hey Justin so good to see u here! :) Hugggy hugggy!





Sittingnut heyyy :)

**do we get hurt more by some words from a loved ones because we have higher expectations from them or because we want them to expect less from us?


no I dun think it's beco sof Higher expectations...it's becos of average expectations. Higher is altogether expecting too much. But by expecting fair and reasonable words from a loved one aint asking for too much is it?


**anyway the post made me think of all the hurtful things i have said. thing is while some of it is really cruel some of it is also honest. should one say less just because the other person is a dear friend ?


Well one can be honest without being cruel. For example, if ur friend is really selfish u can either tell him 'u need to think more abt others too my friend' or u can say 'ur one selfish pig I've ever seen'....:)

Thanks!
Keshi.

Keshi said...

Hey DLAK I'm well thank u :)

**Do the words hurt so much because they are true or because a trust has been broken?

Words u say can be true but it doesnt have to be cruel...see what I wrote to Sittingnut as an answer.

Trust will be broken if u use painful words to convey a point across to ur loved-one...there r graceful ways to say it...:)


Thanks mate!
Keshi.

Keshi said...

Hey Katie WC :)

**i have always disliked that saying....cause its not true...who came up with that?...

yep yep hehe...I dunno who cam eup with that lol! To me it looks like it's a quote for inner strength...to say that no words will ever get me down...:)

Thanks for dropping by mate!





Hey Niti hows ya? I know ur busy :) Take ur time...hugggggggz!





Hello Autumn :) Thanks for ur kind words...hugggggz!


Keshi.

Jim said...

Fuck!



she is hugging evry body
but me

Keshi said...

aww Niki hugggggz!
U and ur sis didnt talk for 3-4yrs? I'm not surprised...there r so many ppl like that out there...I have a friend who hates her sister...they neva even call each other on bdays...but atleast u worked it out between u 2...power of words is immeasurable...no matter how good ur words r, it's only the bad word that u will be remembered for...that's human nature.

U take care girl...
Keshi.

Keshi said...

Saby hugggggz :)

Keshi.

Keshi said...

Zilliiiiiiiiiiiii billy :) Hugggggieee!


I know ur a softy...that u dun hurt ppl with the smallest word...ur a very happy and positive bloke...:)

**..i don mind someone tellin me where i went rong !! cuz everyones sensitive in their own way..

thats the biggest step one can take...I'm so proud of ya! Cos everyone wants to say they r right...no one wants to accept their mistakes. So being prepared to hear where u went wrong is a hugggge step one takes towards understanding...well said zilli!


**n its better to say it then keep a grudge or try to forget it but then 10 yrs later its still achin inside u ..

thats so true...very very true.


Yep...one has to be senseitive towards kids and be careful in what they say to them...I have seen some ppl call their kids dumb, idiot, failure etc...it's the worst u cud do to a kid's mentality...


wow zilli u impress me with ur great wisdom...I'm gonna bid for u in NV's blog..lol!

Keshi.

Jim said...

Oooooooooooooo



better late
than never

Keshi said...

Hey Rahul great to see u here :)


**Very recently, i saw a close acquaintance sizing up a new word, and appraising it be lethal in effect as an insult.

Insults r the worst bullets...but dun u worry, cos he's the loser here...not the ppl he uses those words on :)


**Somehow, i was shocked that someone would plan such techniques of mental disintegration so methodically- i have not been able to get over it

Losers do that kind of thing...forget him and move on...cos ur a wise person Rahul...

Take care and thanks!
Keshi.

Jim said...

i hate kids


esp when they remain kids when they grow up

Jim said...

dis keshi pontificates
who the fuck made her Pope ?




one Rat Zingler is enuff for dis world

tsduff said...

The pictures are universal - I want to pick up those children and comfort them. Heartfelt post.

Jim said...

, The world and how it shud be
- by Keshi
,

any one who does not agree will be
imprisoned for life as in Galileo
burnt at the stake as in Joan of Arc

castrated as in TIGER and Saby

saby said...

Things that attract me to the opposite sex:-

1. Their eyes (the window to the soul)
2. A nice smile
3. A nice tight arse! (sorry guys a girl's gotta have something to squeeze)
4. Shoes..God-damn it they gotta be just so
5. A great sense of humour
6. Someone who can make me smile and cry
7. Hugs for no reason

-dat was by EVIE
it cud have been me

saby said...

i bet she is cooking up some ting real nasty for me



i better run

Keshi said...

Thanks Terry :)

Keshi.

saby said...

i dont believe dis
she 4 got my name




its Saby DUMMY !

julia said...

Rat Zingler declared rock music is evil

recently archbishop Ivan of mumbai banned rock music for festivals organized by cat lik institutions

verry seaon it willl apply to catlik weddings too

julia said...

Blogging is bad too
says Michelles cat lik school


and a lady friend, a married lady

julia said...

where is evry body?
we are nearing 100

julia said...

looks like keshi's boss feels dat way too

Keshi said...

If rock music and blogging is a sin then eating is also a sin...c'mon get a life Ratzinger :)

Keshi.

Johnny B. Good said...

OK guys i am here
Move out Julia


i will take it from here

Johnny B. Good said...

Yup Keshi
Death to the Rat

Johnny B. Good said...

absolute power is dangerous


more than 1 billion cat liks worlwide lissen to the Pope

Keshi said...

ok can we keep this topic for another post...I dun want to stray the Verbal Bullets topic :)


Keshi.

Johnny B. Good said...

the bible is a bunch of , words,
interpreted differently by 128 christian sects and Jews and some of it is in the Kuran too


eye for an eye,and
bakri id, and
tithe

Johnny B. Good said...

we havent digressed
the point is



Dont lissen to speech
lissen to the heart of God

Keshi said...

Fira...

I have nothing to say to you. Cos you have made all the decisions abt my brain, personality, attitude etc...ur the judge and jury...and u r always right and everyone else is always wrong. That's how u see things.

I did not expect a defendant answer from u yet again, but thanks for confirming u r way too self-righteous to let anyone else express how they feel or to understand that u might be wrong too.

btw this post wasnt abt u.

Keshi.

Johnny B. Good said...

we did it
a century again

HALLE LUIAH
Praise the Lord

Johnny B. Good said...

if Jesus were to speak to dis gen
He wud say WTK
a helluva lot



coz dis gen is all screwed up

tulipspeaks said...

know what keshi..we are complex creatures..

we tend to give all the respect in the world to person we just knew, or even at times to complete strangers..we say sorry even when we accidentaly bumped on them..we said hi, good morning with smile on our face even while we walked passed people we barely knew..

but when comes to souls who have been with us for years, or those who are going to be with us life-long..we never hesitate to blurt out hurtful words/comments..why? are why taking them for granted? or as some retarded people would say "you can only show your true love and anger to those you love"?..which one is it? why would we deprived our loved-ones with respect and lovely smile, which we don't think twice giving to strangers??

again, we ARE complex creatures..

muuuaxx and hugssss

=am000nie=

Vivhyd said...

well keshi.. u r abs rite.. words do hurt and sometimes more than anything else.. and just reading ur post.. It did occur to me that many a time I have shooted off my mouth without thinking and so often that proves to be really bad nah.. u cant take back wht u told so.. sometimes in the heat of the moment we tend to mess up.. well Think and speak.. should always be the case.. but its tough sometimes I guess...

Keshi said...

Amu u raised a very good point there darlz...teh fact that we give love, respect and kindness to complete strangers and don't take a sec to ask 'how r u' from a loved-one is really shocking...it's taking loved-ones for granted...but in that process they forget that life is too short and one day they might realise it when it's too late...and when teh loved-one s no more, they cry in front of a photograph for all the sadness they caused for him/her...how foolish one can get?


**or as some retarded people would say "you can only show your true love and anger to those you love"?..which one is it?


lol retarded. Yes u r right...how can u say hurtful things to ppl u really LOVE? Not only complex, some ppl r not that wise as u r Amu...thank for that ray of shimmering light from ya...

Huggggggz!
Keshi.

Keshi said...

Hey Vivhyd :)

**well Think and speak.. should always be the case.. but its tough sometimes I guess...


yes it's hard...in fact one of the hardest to control is the tongue...I guess atleast realising that we too can be wrong and harsh sometimes, is the biggest step in learning to control...I think u achieved it :) well-done Viv!

Keshi.

uttara said...

keshi .. hi sweety .. hope u doing good :)
hugzzzzzzzz luv u gurl ...

uttara

Keshi said...

oii Utttara muahhhhhhhhh! Im pretty good hows ya?

So good to see u...huggggggggz!

Keshi.

uttara said...

good to hear that ....

just chill things will be fine ... it has to babes .....

someday ... have a gr8 day ...luv u loaddddddsssssssss

uttara

Trée said...

Keshi, this is a very important post. The tongue can be such a evil weapon or it can be the instrument of love. Better to be kind than to be right, many have uttered on their deathbed when it was too late to do otherwise.

Keshi said...

Thanks Uttara huggggz!



Hey Tre!

**Better to be kind than to be right,

very very correctly stated...thank u for bringing more light into the subject...everyone wants to be right and in that process they hurt others and even forget to give others a chance to be heard...

Thanks mate as always u bring more wisdom into my topics...:)

Keshi.

Arz000n said...

good morning
good morning
good morning!!

Wht happend to k000kini?
She is leaving early from blog...

Yesterday when I left the comment..she was already offline from blog-o-world :(:(

Hmmm....
Now speak out whts happening there??
:)

Arz000n said...
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Arz000n said...

New profile pic...

Wooooo...Hooooo!!!


Aa Mil jaa tu galeee....fir hasaate hasaatee
Salaaam Namassstee...
Salaaam Namassteeee !!

Keshi said...

lol z000nie ty :) Im off my head for few days hehehe thats why Im off early...

hows ya? u like my new dress?

Keshi.

Arz000n said...

ur new dress reminds me of Am000nie

:)


Are you both twins?

I miss that sun flower :((

tulipspeaks said...

lolz..z000nie..i wish we could be twins...

it's a lovely pink dress...


=am000nie=

Keshi said...

aww z000nie just that I needed a change...that yellow kinda bored me of late...so I chose my favvv flower...lotus...and yesss I'm almost looking like Amu now :) yeyyyyyyyyyyy!


dun worry z000nie I'll get back to my old sunflower once again...:)

Keshi.

Keshi said...

Amu we r sisters forever if not for twins :)

Hugggggggz!
Keshi

tulipspeaks said...

*amu gives a warm huggggggsss to sis keshi

Nitika said...

Awesome..Awesome...Awesome post
its true saying 'always make your words soft and sweet u may never know when u have to eat them'

i scold a lot when i loose out ma temper and later i regret for that....i feel so bad throwing strong words to other but...ma fury not in ma control...its my lost from both the side

but...bad words...its too far from me i had never used such words in ma life and i get scared with plp throwing that to others

yeah so true its all about the tone we used...same word with a harsh tone make a difference.... for instance i use word 'irritating' most of the time but when i use this word in ma bad temper then it becomes more powerful then bullets and attack other's heart

words is such powerful it has the power to break or built a relationship......as our life binds all our relationship we need to be loyal with words

verbal bullets harm both giver and taker but we can't help using...its such a bad humanity....i feel bad for myself

too good post relating such a relevant thought

take care
hugsssssssszzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz

Dawn....सेहर said...

so true...its hard..as I remember when mum used to scold...it was the words that used to make me cry...just like the ones u have posted :D

good one with kids...
cheers

PuNeEt said...

Yet again a very thought provoking post…
Completely agree with you and your post…

We can never take back our words… when I loose my temper… I prefer keeping quiet… coz I know I can really abuse a person to death…

I have used silence to frustrate others… I just keep ignoring them till I cool down… atleast its better than saying something bad…

I still remember during my college times… there used to be some guys u used to flash a lot n used to envy me coz of the fame I used to carry ;-)
Once I told my common friend…
“Better u take care of that guy n tell him to keep quiet coz if I’ll open my mouth he will loose whatever respect he is carrying”
And my friend was like… hey chill… pls u cool down…

Words hurt a lot…

Nice post babezzzz

Keep rocking

Cheers

Keshi said...

aww Amu huggggggggggz!

Keshi.

Keshi said...

Hey Niti hugggggz!

**ma fury not in ma control.

yess at times we have no control...but if u train urself not to lose the temper that easily, u can train ur words too...in time, u'll be better with such situations...u'll be at ease...I have experienced this...now I hardly exchange harsh words in an argument like I used to...I just observe, listen and think carefully, then answer...it seems to help alot...and Im more peaceful now :)


yes even I cant u'stand ppl throwing filth at others...it's yukkkkkks...it's disgusting to even listen to such ppl...


Thanks Niti...take it easy now :)
Keshi.

Keshi said...

aww Puneeet hugggggz!

** coz I know I can really abuse a person to death…

OMG this scared me LOL! Would u do that to me too some day? awww :(


**I have used silence to frustrate others…

yes I do that alot...


**Better u take care of that guy n tell him to keep quiet coz if I’ll open my mouth he will loose whatever respect he is carrying

ROFL! goshhh ur scaring me more...but I'm glad u have alot pf patience b4 saying anything...good on ya Puneet :)

Huggggggggz!
Keshi.

Keshi said...

Hey Dawn huggggggggz!

yes...even in my childhood, I dun rem the slaps...I rem the words....even the words my sis said to me...


Keshi.

PuNeEt said...

hey sweeti... I can never do that to u...

Ur just too too sweet...

hugggzzz

Keshi said...

awwwww Puneet HUGGGGGGGGGGGGZ!

Keshi.

Ps said...

Thanks for the link!
You are very very right in what you said.

Shruti said...

All so true and right what you've said. Its so immature to blurt of thoughtless words, isn't it? But Keshi, don't you feel its even more immature to completely cut off contact (7 yrs and 15 years is such a major part of your life!!) from someone who hurt us but is also sorry for what he/she said? We don't reall need all that divinity to forgive, do we?