Virgin Blue..s...

No I am not talking about Richard Branson or the Virgin Blue Airlines - just a little bit closer to flying high though ;-) How many of you believe that staying a virgin (girl/boy, though I know it supposedly matters more to a girl) up until marriage is important? Coming from a rather conservative family upbringing, I have always been taught to believe that sex before marriage is almost equivalent to death lol! My mum would sit and talk about how good girls should be and how important it is for us to be chaste until we get married some day. In Sri Lanka, the highest caste people carry on a ritual for checking the virginity, straight after the wedding. I know this sounds ridiculous but it still happens in some families. What about the guy's virginity then - I think that is seriously lop-sided and sexist - but that's altogether a different topic. Anyways now that I live in Aus, I see girls younger than me doing it all, way before marriage and these days it's no big deal worldwide. While this depends alot on one's culture and values, there must be that sensible truth somewhere out there...whether virginity really matters or not.

I believe there is a Creator for all human beings. So if He created us with desires as in-built functionalities (my techie side diving in there :), then how does a society-induced union such as marriage have such a hold on it? Are some cultures forcing young people to suppress their desires and basic needs just to protect their cultural values? On the other hand, would it be animalistic to not care about virtues such as virginity and give into one's desires? Does one desire-driven physical activity destroy one's virtue or is it all in who you really are as a person? If you trust and love your partner, is it moral to make love to that person, even if you two are not married? Tell me about your culture...how it regulates virginity...and what you think about it.