Thursday, March 15

God's Equipment

Right now my family is going through a very tough time. My mum's youngest brother is facing a real difficlut situation in NZ and awaiting a decision that will change his life significantly. We are all praying for him and hoping so much that things will turn out good for him. He's the youngest in my mum's family of 7 brothers and sisters. He's quite handsome, always wants to look good and owns a golden heart. He helped alot of his sisters and brothers when he could - that was when he was well-off few years ago. His 42yr old wife suddenly died of Cancer 2yrs ago, leaving him and his 3 young daughters behind in total disbelief and pain. He used to hold a great job in the Middle-East but he left all that and came to NZ looking for a better future for his family. But things didn't work out all that well for him in NZ. His many brothers and sisters did help him whenever they could but each time I went to NZ for a break, I sensed that he was being cornered and laughed at by some of the family members. He wasn't that respected, neither was he loved all that much. Maybe cos right now he's not so well-off as the others? Maybe cos he was a man who had his life totally screwed up for no fault of his own? Maybe cos he's not as rich as everyone else in this family is? Maybe cos he's not holding an executive position like the others? Maybe cos he didn't own a fancy house or a flashy car or a fat bank balance? Maybe cos he wasn't someone 'useful' to hang around with? Maybe cos he is too kind to tell people off? Maybe cos...ok I'm crying now.

I didn't want to write this post at all. I don't wanna hurt anyone's feelings in case my relatives read this post some day. But people who didn't treat him nice know who they are. And deep down my heart I know that I love my uncle V with all my heart and I have always did the best I could do for him. Whenever I went to NZ, I always visited his place and met up with him, I even cooked him lunch last time, I always gave him money when I didn't have that much to give ( I don't equate money to love but he needed it badly), I went with him to buy a car for him and helped him out to choose it etc, I invited him for a party I held at my cousin's place when some people didn't want him there (yes it's true)...he sensed that and while I still wanted him to come, he didn't turn up. It's so hard for me to say all this cos it cuts like a knife when I realise how insensitive some people can be. I'm not saying that family should back him up all the time but what wrong has he done to deserve so much contempt from others? I think his only fault here is that he's not so well-off compared to the rest of his family and he became a bit of a burden and a shame to some people. It's really not his fault but that's how others saw him. But I always saw him as my darling Uncle V who bought me my first talking doll Helen. Yeah he was a man who always GAVE...never TOOK anything in return. But times changed and now it's our turn to give. I guess alot of people didn't see it that way.

The trouble he is in right now need alot of money to be sorted out. Some very rich aunts in my family bluntly refused to contribute even a cent. Trust me one of my aunts is pretty loaded and she's the one who was the first to refuse to HELP. It's ok cos I have me to help him. My mum, sis, myself and one other dear aunt finally funded it. We had to ask everyone if they wanted to help cos it was not a small amount that he needed and I believe team spirit goes along way. But no one called back except for 2 of my dearest cousins who always help people. The rest didn't even reply to my email...shows how busy some people are with their own lives that they can't think beyond themselves. I agree everyone has problems, bills, rent, fees, mortgages etc etc but when someone who's worse off than you are is in trouble we need to stop on our tracks and help that person. It's not the money at all, but where's the love and compassion? If I compare my wealth to some of my family members' wealth, I'd be somewhere at the very bottom. But hey I believe I have a wealthy heart and I'm richer for that. Cos if I didn't have that kind of heart, I'd really be nothing. Lusting and acquiring money that can never be used on a good cause will only corrode one's heart beyond repair.

I'm not trying to get sweet comments from everyone about the help I do. All I'm trying to say is that there's nothing more divine than helping someone in need. When I help someone I never expect anything in return and I don't remind that person that I have helped them etc etc. Cos this is how I see it. I see myself as a tool in God's toolkit. He's using me to do His job. Do tools ever say to you 'I helped you therefore you should be grateful for the rest of your life'? Do tools ever expect anything in return for the service they do to you? Do tools leave you when you don't have nothing? Do tools calculate and keep scores? Never. We are all God's equipment when it comes to helping one another. So don't ever praise yourself for any help you do and don't ever mention it to the person you help. Just be glad you have a wealthy heart in this very very troubled world. Do you have it?




Tonight is going to be a very tough night. I'm wishing my uncle V all the very best and I hope God's looking his way. I need your prayers and good vibes tonight guys. This post was a very hard one to do, so please bear with me if you can't make much sense out of it.


Who's gonna pick you up,
When You fall?
Who's gonna hang it up,
When you call?
Who's gonna pay attention,
To your dreams?
And who's gonna plug their ears,
When you scream?



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Autumn Storm said...

Hope everything works out for him, Kesh, he sounds like a dear man.

azuka said...

Some people are so so insensitive -- toadying up to you when you're well off then keeping you at arms length when you aren't well to do.

I hope better times smile on your uncle Keshi...

Shitrint said...

oh keshi...
**hugzzzz*

everything will turn out for the best. dont worry, u have our thoughts, prayers and good vibes. u and ur uncle V!
he is lucky to have u and ur family, even if many of his relatives refused to help. im glad for him in a way coz now he will know who the real 'family' is. only those who stick around with u in ur adversity are the true frends.
everything will be alright, girl!
hang in there! :) and u know u have us...

Nadim said...

Everything should be alright... you guys helped him right? so now cheer up! It IS going to be fine! :)

your uncle dont really need ppl like ur rich aunt to help him! so just ignore that part and think abt the ones who were willing to offer help! the world might seem a little brighter that way!

Geet said...

*huggg*
I'll be praying today for you and your Uncle V and his family. You've got a great heart Keshi, and things will work out for people like you.
Lovvve.

Aditi said...

I think its fairly crappy how ppl always go out of their way to be with their richer family then the poorer ones..
This also shows u have a heart of gold because u noticed the way he was being treated and felt bad abt it.
Its sad about your cousins, because even if they didnt have money to give or couldnt at that time, they could have atleast stood by him in his difficult time.
Besides, tis relatively easier to give when u have a lot of something but harder when u dont have so much of it.. i think

deepsat said...

everything will work out fine for him. from what you have said, he seems to a very nice and simple person. and for such ppl nothing bad will ever happen!!

wishes & prayers for his well being!!

Kalpana said...

"there's nothing more divine than helping someone in need". Yes, very true. This is why we're born. I wish that everything gets well soon for Him.

alex said...

Keshi,

My prayers.

Love seems forgotten. :(

nivashini said...

Keshi..
*Hugs*...
i know this comment is rather long..
but do read it.. i always go back to this story..
One night a man had a dream. He dreamed He was walking along the beach with the LORD. Across the sky flashed scenes from His life. For each scene He noticed two sets of footprints in the sand. One belonging to Him and the other to the LORD.

When the last scene of His life flashed before Him, He looked back at the footprints in the sand. He noticed that many times along the path of His life there was only one set of footprints. He also noticed that it happened at the very lowest and saddest times of His life.

This really bothered Him and He questioned the LORD about it. LORD you said that once I decided to follow you, you'd walk with me all the way. But I have noticed that during the most troublesome times in my life there is only one set of footprints. I don't understand why when I needed you most you would leave me.

The LORD replied, my precious, precious child, I Love you and I would never leave you! During your times of trial and suffering when you see only one set of footprints, it was then that I carried you.

Jac said...

You are more worthier than sparkling Gems.
I hope that your Uncle gets over his problems and turn around.

Margie said...

Late night here, can't seem to sleep too well with my better half gone, so I came here to see if you had a post up Keshi!
Keshi, I am going to keep your uncle in my prayers!
You sure got it right Keshi, when you say that there is nothing more divine than helping someone in need.
Remember when I told you in the email about my brother....it makes my heart so happy I could help him out....I truly believe God was working through me!
He is working His magic through you
too Keshi...
Keep the faith..it will be ok Keshi!
Well, dang...I have to try and get some sleep!
That cute little Jake will be up before too long!]
Nite- nite Keshi dear!
xoxoxo

Vikas said...

hey keshi proud to find friend like you in todays selfish world.

you are on right track .You should help your uncle ...thats the right thing

dont worry ,man with golden heart always has better times than man with golden chain

Take Care
Vikas{V}

Jewel Rays said...

The best gift will be giving up something that is so hard to give. And i believe u did that Keshi..;)

*huggiz* it must be so hard on ya. and it hurts to read a post like that cause i have witness this kinda happenings as well.

*hugs* and i hope things work out for the better in the end.

Jewel Rays said...

I will be remembering you and the situation in prayers tonight..

*hugs* love ya sweets..

Prashant said...

Hey, you are such a lovely, pure soul....dont worry, ur uncle will be all fine.....Have faith in GOD...
and need not to say coz u are doing mora than you kan do for ur uncle.
take care..

Middle Child said...

Keshie words don't help much when practical measures are whats needed. You cannot change those around you who are acting so as to drag others down....

Oscar Wilde said, “All of us are in the gutter, but some of us are looking up at the stars.” Those of us, who look up at those stars and can see them, should be compassionate but not allow ourselves to be brought low by those who cannot see those stars.

freemorpheme said...

suck at sympathising so can say just dis much "this too shall pass..." circle of life :)

Tohou Lidia said...

Awww Keshi! I really hope everything goes well!

I'll definately pray for your uncle! He really seems like a special person :)

-Amy

Ganesh Ranganathan said...

why would he need your 'loaded' aunt when he has you...

My dad helps quite a few children from his village by paying their books, school fees, uniforms and such expenditure...it isnt that much but sometimes a little help is all that is needed to make a large difference...

Why dont all like-minded people in your family help your uncle set up a small business, like a store or a small hotel?

Pritika Gupta said...

Every thing will be fine soon...

Sanjay said...

You and uncle V have our best wishes. There is more joy in giving than most people realize.
Can you keep us posted pelase, if it is ok?

Vikram Nandwani said...

HI Keshi... was just browsing through blogs & read your post... its a sad materialistic world... but hey all the best for your uncle... im sure it will work out good for him

vikram

Harashita R. R. Bajaj said...

Hey keshi

Hugzzz........

Dont worry they say "Bhagwaan ke ghar der hai andher nahi"
Dont worry

Take care

shnaggy said...

hi there keshi,

i feel for you and your uncle V. nothing can be more heartbreaking than knowing the family shuns one of your own.

this is not my first visit to your blog but today i cannot resist leaving a comment.

i have seen you around the blogs i frequent...

so see you around...god bless your heart keshi!!!

Mr. Evil said...

Hey kesh, just said a prayer for him. I know.. I'm a buddhist. But we too have ways of blessing people :) I hope everythig will be ok tomorrow. Theres one thing I wish for the future generations, it's not to be like the older generations, most of who tend to lose their human side. I pray this never happens to us when we're old.

s0ul said...

thats a wonderful thing to do for your uncle kesh! i really hope things work out for him.. family most often than not is your support system and most often than not is the one that disappoints too. Your uncle is very lucky to have a sis like your mum and wonderful nieces/nephews like you and your cousins.I pray for his well being and also for his three kids.

Asha said...

Hi Keshi girl,I hope everything sorts out for your uncle soon.You are a great niece and be proud of yourself.Money comes and goes but what and how we behave with others always keep us up in life.

I understand when you say other relatives laugh at him.We were laughed at too when we young,married and didn't have income except student stipend and our "rich" families made fun of us instead helping.Now we laugh at them and stay away from most of them.They are worth our relationship.

david santos said...

Hello, Keshi!
This work is very nice, thank you
have nice day

Dinma said...

You can never know where the shoe pinches except you wear it and you can aswell not know how hurting it would be unless you become a victim of neglect especially from family and friends you should be looking up to.Poor uncle v,I wish hom all the best cus I've been in that boat.

der Bergwind said...

hey boss!! lifez like tat.. jazzed up in the crest n troughs.. we all have to take this ride down in our own strange wayz.. never really did believe in 'gawd' coz he aint never poured rose water in my portionz but do believe in the fights of goodness.. n uncle V's got that arrow all sharp n ready..
he'll fite it out in the wayz of life, tough but he'll come out with the circle n make u proud n happy..

prayerz never make the iron melt, they never do make the purest gold but its really the temperatures of the fires that burn u n reform u into someone better..

all my best wishes for the man n his kiddo daughterz.. hope he winz the battles n does it in style!! aint no help.. no mercy..

for in this soup of life, trust me, its one for all n all for one!!
alles gute uncle V!!

Jay said...

People who have the ability help, but refuse to will find the tables turned on them someday. You can't go through life refusing to be there for family or friends when they need you and expect them to be there when you need them.

What comes around goes around, right? If not in this life then in the next.

awaiting said...

Oh keshi!

Many many many hugs and prayers for you and your family.

Jaan ki sweetheart Forever said...

Heh dear Keshi....I can understand what u meant in this blog...Iam going thru this pain rt now..After all my parents my kid and my sis left me in the nick of the time when i needed their shoulders to cry....Anyways i pray for ur uncle and as my jaan tells me never leave behind a chance to help a person who needs help cause in later phase of ur life that person might be ur support...U never know who cd help u babes....Love u dear

Akshay said...

I hope things work out for your uncle. Take Care. :)

priya said...

Dam ture keshi. What else we live for? If we remain selfish, still we only go alone in six feet mud. By helping others we leave our prints for others to follow by a saying be like him or her.

Patience will pay himm off, if not his daughters will have a good life in future.

Ghost Particle said...

we are Gods tools. Thats so true Keshi. Just that some dont have the believe and heart to look out when what everyone need is a helping hand and a shoulder to cry. Life looks to be one though journey for your uncle, but God is more compassionate. He will prevail and you will see a happier and more content man soon. Pray for him well, we all will. Hugs.

kannan udayarajan said...



Keshi,

It will work out..:)
No sincere effort has ever gone wasted..

AnonymousBlogger said...

Here's to hoping things work out for Uncle V.

It is too bad he didn't live in Australia, as maybe you would be able to help him out even more then.

Oh well, you are doing what you can from where you are, and that's all that matters.

WRYTER said...

Hi Keshi

Your family is not unique. It is sad how a family can shun their own when their own spirals down.

I wrote an article dealing with this subject.

It is not greed or a lack of sympathy which motivates this human behaviour.

It is embarrassment. I had the unfortunate experience of being raised by a rich family.

This family (my parents died) belittled other family members who were not well-to-do. It made me sick.

I thought they were mean, rich snobs, until I came to the realization that they were embarrassed by poor family members.

I pray that all goes well.

TC!!

HUGS

BEV

Aidan said...

Its is harder for a camel to pass through the eye of the needle than for a rich man to enter the kingdom of heaven...

Its amazing how unhappy people with money are, never knowing the joy of rolling up your sleeves and doing something nice for someone who needs it...

What are we if we dont help one annother out??

RamaG said...

Once you've hit it that low,the only other way is UP!! I'm sure everything will work out fine for your uncle.

-Rama.

Blessed said...

Hey Miss Keishi.
I just want you to know that I stopped right now and said a prayer. A prayer for your Uncle V. May everything turn out okay for him. I said this prayer for you too. I want you to remain strong and positive.
I am now sending you a big ole hug
{{{{{{{{HUG}}}}}}}}}}
I do hope it helps and brings you some comfort.

You know, I do believe we should always help someone in need.
I do but not enough.
And money can be such a very touchy thing especially among family. But when you love someone, if they are blood or not, we should be there as best we can. We shouldn't turn our backs on them.
May this be a few dollars or a shoulder to lean on.
I am glad he has you.

One thing about money and any material thing out there---
yeah, it might give us a high to have it, but what real good is it unless you can share?
And you can't take with you once we leave this earth.
Just another reason to share.

Many blessings Miss loving, caring Keshi and Uncle V!!!!!

KK said...

Hey Keshi, Thats really nice of you to help your uncle during his tough time... Well all the questions that you have asked are all correct but the rich seldom have a big heart to help. I donno why but I have noticed that.

I just wish every thing gets sorted out for your uncle soon. May god be his side. May God bless him.

Proud of you :)

tkkerouac said...

Hope everything works out in the end. You are a good soul, a very caring person. It must be very hard for your uncle to be a widow bringing up three children on his own as well as being the only breadwinner.

Anonymous said...

V

hang on in there
the bad times will pass
just as the good times have passed


if u wud like to no
i was in bad times for almost a year
i hate charity esp when it is done to me

i read the book of JOB about 10 times

i asked God
God, why me?
just as Job had done

but i have the answer now
after 10 years

God was only tuffening me for greater tings to come

He made me humble
and to accept charity from my bros

but i like to believe it was not charity
but Love

Anonymous said...

Keshi

a clent of mine told me
u help 10 ppl in their time of need
9 will forget u when they are well off

but dat 1 person cud make u millions

he was referring to Dhirubhai
He never forgot

similiar ting happened to me recently

i too have been given the opportunity to join the Gold Rush

i am heading for California soon

Anonymous said...

when u give

give out of LOVE
not charity or pity

Anonymous said...

only one condition i ask for

the biggest and the smallest donor
gets a kiss and a hugg from u

SaffronSaris said...

poppy-doll pearl, hope everythings works out ok for your uncle, yeah, and the rest of your extended family too. U're a dear person. We're right there with you.

Anonymous said...

KK




u cant blame the rich
they dont have empathy

they have never ever gone hungry
they have never commuted by train second class on the Virar local

they have never seen life at the bottom


see SWADES, an SRK Movie

Anonymous said...

Margie
i aim to shoot Jake
u dont tink of me as much

Anonymous said...

if wishes were hosses
beggars wud ride

Anonymous said...

V

some one told me
If you need a friend, GET A DOG!

Thumbelina said...

Keshi,

I'll be praying for u & ur Uncle V.

Hope everything is alright..

Some ppl are just so bad.. They only think abt themselves & neglects others... They have never spared a single tot of others, especially those who have helped them when they needed help...

Wow.. U managed to help ur Unvle V to raise an amount with ur family & some cousins...! Great job, Keshi! He'll appreciate for all these help & support.

Some rich ppl are very helpful like how ur Uncle V helped u during his golden years... But some rich ppl has the smallest heart u can ever imagine... Maybe just enough to pump enough blood for him/her to survive...

My Uncle, no doubt he is better well-off then my family, whenever i needed help, he'll always help me.. So whenever he's back in Singapore, i'' meet up with him or call him to send him regards... When he needs my help, i'll always help him..

U'll never know wat happens in the future when u really need help from a special someone....

Thumbee

Anonymous said...

"All mankind is of one author, and is one volume; when one man dies, one chapter is not torn out of the book, but translated into a better language; and every chapter must be so translated...As therefore the bell that rings to a sermon, calls not upon the preacher only, but upon the congregation to come: so this bell calls us all: but how much more me, who am brought so near the door by this sickness....No man is an island, entire of itself...any man's death diminishes me, because I am involved in mankind; and therefore never send to know for whom the bell tolls; it tolls for thee."

-John Donne

Steph said...

Money and family just do not go well together. It can cause so much drama.

Good on you for helping him. Karma will get the ones who refused.

Cazzie!!! said...

Huggs and positive thoughts to you, your mum and especially over the channelt o NZ to your uncle Keshi :)

Mr. Evil said...

hey good morning :) what happened?? is he allright?

Shiva said...

Good that you being a friend to your uncle. Pray, things will be alright for him.

vinay said...

Such things make you stronger!! changes your outlook on life...helps to seperate chauff from grain...prayers


GBU and ur uncle

Poo said...

Hey Keshi .... I hope everything works out for ur Uncle , he will be in prayers !!

Take care dear
Hugzz

desperado said...

everything will turn out just fine
take care dear

Shionge said...

Oh Keshi....I do have relatives like yours too refused to help just when we needed it.

Whatever it is, I hope your Uncle would tie over this difficult period.

Prayers & thoughts always!

Dalicia said...

i hope everything is well with him! 80% of the people in this world sucks!!!!!! :P

my life.... said...

dear keshi,

i hope everything will turn out fine for yr uncle gal... the world is unfair... people turn to others when they are doing well only otherwise they just discard their frenship/ relationship like tissue... the value of relationship / frenship becomes insignificant... don t worry, yr uncle will be in my prayers... hope u doing well.. sorry been so busy lately that i hardly read blogs... missed u gal :)

Alapana said...

Keshi,trust me,those who lend a hand of support to others will always get the best when in need.I don't know if god has a face or if there is a religion in this world and if its created by him or us,for me god exists,he does when i do something for others,not because i am rich or great but because thats how i perceive life to be "what goes around comes around" be good and people will reciprocate, your uncle deserves all the love he is getting from you and others,and girl,you have a golden heart,no not any sweet comment,but i wish we were all like this and the world would have been a better place to live in. and i just hope the good news is sure good enough to bring a smile on your uncle's face and t our hearts.takecare.

Anonymous said...

Charlie Brown falls on the ice and cant get up

Lucy passes by
she dont even see him

Linus passes by
and tells CB as he hurries along

dont worry pal,
i will pray for an early summer

Drama Div@ said...

In life, there are full of ups and downs.. i hope everything will be ok soon...

Princess said...

Hi keshi,

Sometimes I really find it difficult to say something about your posts.
I read your last two posts also... but didn't know what to say :(

Same situation here...
I beleive everything will be fine with him soon.

much luv,
take care,
-Aiz.

brute said...

dont worry keshi, everythign will be jus fine..

Menchie said...

sending positive thoughts your way...

krystyna said...

Hi Keshi!
If you need any help, please write me. I didn't find your email address.
I'll be with you and your uncle in prayers!

pink ginger 珂琳 said...

Hi Keshi,

We see all the good, bad and the ugly when difficult times arrived.

Need to stay strong, your uncle really need a support.

take care.

Kavi said...

I am sure better things will come your way. I read somewhere "Never confuse a mere bend in the road with a dead end"

This just a bend in the road...

the_ego_has_landed said...

hey keshi... I wish him all the best.. dont worry it'll work out :) when so much love from ur family is present Im sure it'll help.

Its really shallow of the other people.. I understand their family.. but its present everywhere.. ur not alone sweetie :)

But the part about not saying u've helped someone.. I disagree... cause I've had misunderstandings when I didnt mention my good deeds..lol.. so when I required.. I literally spell it out.. else I get taken for granted...


anyway... hope His prob is solved.. dont stress it out.. relax :)

hugs!!

Jeevan said...

I wish ur uncle the best and remain him in my prayer. “When I help someone I never expect anything in return and I don't remind that person that I have helped them” this place would be heaven if all think like this…

Keshi this post remember my uncle, who have helped many, when after he passes away who every he helped and lift above haven’t cared and not even think about his family, and there were no one to know what her young life is doing, if she need any help or not. all where changed, even his best friends in a km around seems like gone to another countries…

Michelle said...

I'll pray for him...good things always happen to good people...as for those that have turned their back on him, will one day learn a lesson if at all(hopefully not) they end up in a similar situation...u show them what families do keshi! show them the meaning of a family.

I'm not saying that family should back him up all the time

A family should.Thats why its called a family...

Don't worry, god's watching.He watches everything.It'll be ok :-)

tkkerouac said...

OK
On another note Kesh
First of all, I'm naked
Second of all, I want your honest opinion of the Dove ladies I've posted on my blog!

Nora said...

I hope he's ok.

Nora said...

I hope he's ok.

ishi said...

wht do i say kesh...right now we have a similar situation here at home...and i don see it getting better for the person concerned here and ... ppl arnd...can't tell u the usual positive things either baby coz sumhow I don believe in them much right now...but...trying...i'm trying to! so much

and I hope u are too...it starts from believing things will get better...and not losing hope...i guess...

*huggzz*

anup.777 said...

Hey Keshi ... am sure that your uncle will soon be recompensed for all the good he has done all his life ... good times will come ...

Sugababee said...

I hope everything works out for him... Be strong for him... im sure all will be ok:)

Deepthi said...

Sweetheart..u wrote what u felt and there is nothing wrong in expression..Also remember everything happens dor a reason and ths too shall pass.uncle V is blessed to have u,just keep the faith strong and all shall work...My prayers are with you....

Analía said...

Hi Keshi, I'm sorry your uncle is facing such a hard monment. Like everything in life, this bad moment is going to go away, too. Don't think about those who refuse to help, they don't deserve your thoughts, the ones who do help out of love are the ones who matter. Take care
Love, Ani

Sugarlips said...

Keshi *hugs*
I hope everything turns out good for your uncle :)

Stay Beautiful..!

luvwannabefree25 said...

keshi,

You are the best luv. I knew there was something.. no a million things about you that I just love! All will be well.

JD ;)

Silvara said...

Hey Keshi,

things will be ok...I know everyone has said that to you already but it is true - it's just a small bump on the road of life. He knows who are true to him and who are not - they do say blood is thinker than water but sometimes that is not true. What else is family there for if they can't help you in times of need? I feel so bad for you and your uncle and just hope that things will be ok...I believe they will be. Smile because there cannot be day without having endured the night first. :)

2lrbl said...

hope everything has turned out fine... my prayers are with him....

Mumbai Guy said...

Keshi,
What you have described is very common in todays world. Society is just cruel and calculative. We are a part of it. Only way to change is ourselves contibuting in positive way like you say you are doing.

Hope all goes well with your uncle.

talldarkman said...

Hope ur uncle V comes out fit and fine :)

talldarkman

minerva said...

Hi Keshi,
Chanced across your place here via *Aiz's blog..

Was reading thru' your post, and wrt all the pain & harsh moments that your loved ones are going thru, do try to hold to Hope.
Have faith.. This is but, a passing phase ~ It too shall pass.

I know it always sounds easy from the perspectives of others, but we all go thru tough times, and oftentimes, we come out all the more stronger..

Bestest wishes of Cheer & Courage comin' your way,
Do take care,
minerva*

christabelle said...

I felt so bad reading this, why do bad things keep hapening to gud pple.

He sure will be alrite Keshi.

One of the phases of life I guess.

Do take care girl, love always

ann said...

the saying that charity begins at home is a very true one... my thoughts are with you and your family and pray things work our well for your dear uncle

lotsa luv ann xxxxx

Outdoorsy Girl said...

I am so sorry that your uncle is dealing with such a hard time. It seems that good people like him often have such things happen to them. It is so not fair! He sounds like such a nice man. He did not get into his position by anything wrong he did, but by the sad event of his beloved wife's death. I can't understand why some of his own family can have such a hard heart. What would they do if they lost their spouse and found their world turned completely upside down?

Uncle V is lucky to have your love and the love of the others in his family that DO have a heart. I wish him the best with everything right now and I hope that things will finally begin to look up for him.

You're right...money is not the issue. No one should judge based on that and no one should feel like a saviour because they possess it. It's the heart behind the deed (or lack of heart resulting in no deed) that makes all the difference.

I am so happy to know that the difference you're making in Uncle V's life is the positive one. Your beautiful heart is shining through.

XOXOX

Sujit said...

people really look at you based on what position you are and what bank balance you hold!.. the love, trust freindship brotherhood every vanishes in the lens of money..:( dont worry he will pull up!.. he can again got to middle east and earn right? than live like this in NZ!

Jim said...

'I have 2 conditions for you if we are to remain as friends...1. If and when I find a partner you can't be jealous about it and create probs for us.
2. You can't associate me as a friend thinking that I might change my mind on this decision and go out with you again'.


,
reading dis i have new found respect for Darcy
he is upfront
,

i wud have said the same

Trundling Grunt said...

k: Hope it all works out for you and yours.

lera said...

Keshi, you are such a beautiful & compassionate soul,I hope things will work out for your uncle,my best wishes:)

Helen said...

Hey love,

Your uncle is very blessed to have your compassion at this time. And I'm sure your love and devotion are returned in non-monetary ways. Maybe his trials are not for him to learn from, but rather for you or someone else and he is simply God's vessel--truly at peace and observing the world around. Who knows...I'm back, missed your words and your energy, here's some sun and love from the bahamas...

HH

The Phosgene Kid said...

Hope things work out. He is lucky to have you - you have discovered the importance of family and it seems some of your other relatives have forgotten. Is that you in the picture with you uncle? Very pretty.

Ashish said...

Hi Keshi,

Best wishes for your uncle. He is sure lucky to have people who care for him (it counts a lot for people to have somebody they can depend on); it must be painful for relatives to turn their back on him, but atleast he still has people who care for him

southpaw said...

Wishing ur uncle the very best of luck and dont worry, bad things dont last for too long with good ppl...

Dawn....सेहर said...

Sad to hear abt the family members...I hv seen some such mean one's n I will say dear He is watching n will return with interest to them!!! Mean while I pray for ur uncle...my uncle since u r my sis ...this is a testing time be strong n do the right thing as ur heart says!
May god bless him
Huggggggggggzzz

diyadear said...

i liked wat u said abt toolkit.. dont worry keshi, god doesn't betray good men in times of need..will pray for Uncle V..

Keshi said...

Thanks all and HUGGGGGGGGGGGZ!

There were some very powerful words in these comments...some very heart-warming and others so encouraging.

EVERY COMMENT HELPED AND SENT POSITIVE VIBES ALL THE WAY TO MY HEART AND SOMEHOW A MIRACLE TOOK PLACE!

I will let u all know soon.
MWAH!
Keshi.

Cazzie!!! said...

Keshi, gr8 news love, still sending positive thoughts your way

fergal said...

hi keshi, that is sad ... at least yourt uncle is lucky to have the love & support of your mum, sister & yourself - it seems that without this, he'd be totally lost
~

Keshi said...

ty Caz and Fergal!

Keshi.

Envy said...

I am glad to hear, Uncle V's moral and judicial Victory. For a man like him and for a place that he was almost pushed to, it is a new life.

Congrats to you and Uncle V, I pray he never faces even tenth of it again.

AMEN !!

Keshi said...

ty Envy ur a swt hrt!

Keshi.

chocolteluva said...

aww.. i hope everything works out. the one thing i learned through my mistakes and success is that family is family, you just dont turn your back on them.
i think your support and being there for him means more. rich aunt - FORGET HER. what matters the most is that you and ure family is THERE, is around.. and is trying.
i dont pray often, but i'll make sure i send a msg about this when i pray.

Keshi said...

Chocolte ur a real swt hrt, ty n HUGGGGGGGGGGGGZ!


Keshi.

--Sunrise-- said...

Oh, Keshi... I am not going to write a comment about how sweet you are - because I know that means nothing to you, since you know it yourself and that is the most important thing (well in my opinion anyway)... but I do want to say just this, "You are a wonderful human being." And believe me, there is no better compliment that could come your way, madame... ;)

I love the way you describe yourself as a tool in God's toolkit... I am an atheist myself, and I don't believe I need a God to help people (not that that's what you're saying, I know.. :)).. but it's a beautiful way of putting it...

Money has a way of fucking up family. I know that only too well.. not personally, I admit, but I do know that... and it is unfair and cold and heartless and nasty - but that is not the people's fault for thinking that way - I truly don't believe it is the people's fault 100%... it is just the way they are, the way they have been brought up, the life they have experienced... I am sure the members in the families who refuse to get involved in money are good at heart, too... just not in the way you and I might be. However, I don't think it gives us the right to say they are so self-centred and pre-occupied with their own lives, just because they don't do something that they have a 100% choice in doing...

You mentioned in your previous post (one of them), Keshi... that you don't believe in people who don't respect others... and I still stay true to agreeing with that. All we can do with our lives is live them the way we want to, the way that allows us to sleep at night peacefully... and for me, being upset with relatives for financial reasons is not a way I can sleep peacefully... they can do what they want with their lives, their money... who am I to tell them what to do? All I can do is show my emotions the way I feel them... :)

Keshi said...

Sunrise I agree that each one of us have a choice and I cant be forcing them to do what I want them to do..I wasnt intending that thru this post. What I was saying is that offering a lil help for someone in need is not something 'rich' ppl should run away from. Well if they still wanna run away from it, I really dun care. I'll do what I can.


Keshi.