Friday, August 31

Suga Up!

OMG Suddenly there's a massive flirt in my Inbox! Yeah my cousin gave my email address to him - good job cuz aha! He works at my cousin's office, apparently saw my pics and fainted. Now he wants to to talk to me - hehe boys will be boys ha. Well guess what, he's Indian, 31yrs old and...drrrrrrr drrrrrrrr drrrrrrrrr...MARRIED! It's ok guys, we are just friends. Now tell me, is flirting with another while being committed to a relationship, acceptable? I know we all flirt (talk about the biggest flirt breathing on this Earth and ahemmm, her name starst with K..), but when you're married or in a committed relationship, is it right to flirt with others? I don't think flirting is a big deal (thou shall flirt all your life if you wanna avoid grey hairs and a wrinkly butt) butt come to think of it, if I had a man in my life, and he flirted all the time with other women, I might feel a bit annoyed. Ok alright, duhhh, I'm not that insecure, only cos then I too would have my entourage of men to flirt with you see LOL - but seriously, how do all you people react when your partner flirts with another? Are their any boundaries/limits? Or should there be any at all, if you trust each other in the first place? Be honest. I'd like to hear your thoughts. My answer is simple...as long as he doesn't cheat on me, he can flirt his sugary ass away - I believe a little flirting is harmless and that it would keep my man heartattack-free (saves me from the hospital trips!). I'm a very free woman and a realistic one. Lets face it, if you're a flirt by nature, you can't stop being yourself, can you? And I don't wanna impose rules and cause severe stress to my partner. As simple as that :).


Following is the funny convo that took place between that 'Flirt' in my inbox and me this morning.


Aditya: Keshi you are too hot to handle.

Keshi: tnxx I know I'm hot property (smirk). Hi Aditya how r u?

Aditya: I am far much better now since I got to talk to you. ;-)

Keshi: LOL is that some kinda Aussie Pickup line?

Aditya: Pickup line! no no your mistaken it's an honest opinion. At least I'll get to sleep better tonight. Like you said you're a hot property and its hard to find them these days and in auctions you end up paying too much sometimes... hahahaha!

Keshi: HAHAHA! Good one. So don't go to Auctions/buy...just RENT duh!

Aditya: Renting is good only for short term, not long term coz the owners keep increasing the payments...and sometimes it ends up costing more as they say "rent money is dead money"

Keshi: So then what do u plan to do? Get a community house? LOL!

Aditya: Get a caravan or a wagon. At least you can change your surrounding whenever you like go where ever you want.do whoever you want????hahaha.

Keshi: Haha good one! how about just get a boat? That way you don't even have to worry about parking space :):)


Don't think wrong guys, I'm just having silly fun with him. I'm very well aware he's married and I know my limits. He seems to share my sense of humor and he seems like a decent, friendly guy too. btw I have alot of married guy-friends. Flirting is good for health you see. A flirt a day keeps the doctor away, but if the doctor is a flirt, then visit him everyday - by Keshi.


Keshi is mad, you know that already hehe. Have a good weekend guys! And hey don't forget to answer the question in the first half of this post. So be happy, loosen up, flirt all you can and live longer my dear ones! Put a little heart into everything you do and keep your heart healthy and happy. Basically Suga Up! Today's music is one of my favs that has been performed by many artists over the years. I feel so relaxed and totally in love, whenever I listen to this song. Enjoy and Au Revoir!


Current Music: Dream A Little Dream by Michael Bublé

123 Cranium Signets:

The Stormin Mormon said...

Not OK... But I won't whine about that one.

KAYLEE said...

HAHAHA THats wrong!!!!!!!!!!

AmitL said...

Hi,Smart Alexandra..:)hehe..that's one interesting flirty dialogue..But,you know,I get the feeling the guy's talking really seriously,while you maintain a tinge of humour...re. the question of the post,is flirting.....?Again,it's a case of 'to each his or her own'- I feel it's acceptable,withing the normal,err'flirtatious'limits..but, you have to keep in mind the opposite person too(The one in the relationship)-if he/she's the J sort,then,be more surreptitious,err,I mean,cautious.:)

Rajeev said...

I wouldn't mind as long as she is honest to me! ;) hehe! :D
ur sucha flirt kesh! :D
He's one lucky guy! *sigh*

peace & love
Jeevy

ishita said...

righttt... lol...

find me a guy who wldn't read too much into it...most men kesh may act like it's not a big deal but they're a whole lot more jugdemental of "committed/married" women who indulge in "flirting"...pity eh? :)

and u have fun :)..!

enjoy ur wkend!:D

fergal said...

interesting ... flirting is ok if that's all it is (especially if only via email/txt). let me ask u a question: is it ok for a married man to have coffee or lunch with another woman?
~

Vik said...

Funny that you had to mention. I think like you said it is all fair in love to go on with the game but to overdo then we have a problem. I mean marriage is no barrier to anything. Just be yourself that is what counts more than anything besides just when you are a doorstep away from cheating on your mate, that is when you do a round call and call it quits. Coz one night stand during a committed relation/after marriage, ain't funny. It becomes like a sour milk; neither the cats can drink nor the men !

Good write up =)

Vik said...

And this song is such a goood one. one of my oldie fav's as such. wonder how you pop it up onto your webpage. =D

Jeya Anand said...

I just wanna say one thing..i am a doctor and not a bad one in flirt;-) what do you say abt the visit now?;-) and the question...i would not like to mind my partner in those...but i am afraid i dont have control over me in that i guess:-(
have a great weekend KESHI..:-)

dharmabum said...

woah keshi, u're something.

i don't know whats good and bad - it is an eternal question that remains unanswered.

but yes, i like to flirt sometimes. when u coming to madras? :P

Nora said...

Hmmm, I don't think I'd like it. :)

Silvara said...

Ahhh Kesh - it's the age old story isn't it??

I personally don't mind but there is a part of me that internally wants to tear her head off and Evs' as well :P And that's prob how Evs feels I would think. We are both secure enough in our relationship to know that we can't control our friendships and our feelings and as long as we each know our boundaries then what's a a little harmless flirting :P

Boundaries and limits would differ for each couple - for us it's overtly being suggestive or inapprotiate behaviour through words or actions. When R gave me an indecent proposal last year, I told Evs about it and he SO wasn't happy but he trusted me enough to handle the situation and he has grudgingly accepted that I still talk to R. But NOW at least we all know our boundaries.

Aditi said...

well i feel that to each its own but as far as me and my own are considered.. its ok to smile and laugh and flirt a little... but this would be a bit over the top for someone that was married to me
i dunno that is just me

Menchie said...

I would have to say that I'd hate it if the hubby flirts with another woman.

I'm the only one allowed to flirt with him. :D

Just my two cents.

Have a good weekend sweetie!

Kirthi said...

ahh Keshi... i would say no to flirting after one is in a relationship or married! for in most cases somethings that start of as fun end up being serious!

i guess i come from a conservative background :P

but in very few cases are people mature enough to deal with things such as these... and from my personal experience.. you just get hurt when you find your partner flirting just for fun and then turning things on serious!

this reminds me of a conversation that i had with a friend... when she said that "i need to find a guy whom i can trust, for there are many beautiful women out there... some even better than me! but i want a relationship where its only me for him- whichever way i look!"

you have a great weekend sweety!

take care...:)

Kalyan said...

I believe if you trust each other and honest to each other, a 'little' bit of flirting is alright but that should not be beyond limits which can hurt your partner. On a lighter note so you have a great flirt friend now...
Have a great weekend!

Sam said...

Ah flirting!! well.. dats how I got to know so many different girls... ;). remember what aakash said once!! well... the fact remains for fellas like me.. the moment we start talking we actually have to make sure that things to not go into the flirt mode.... but frankly, when into a committed relationship, i for one would rather tone things down except with her, who'll get teh full blast of it!! coz, at teh end of teh day, if you are a good flirt you'll smooth talk your way into many a spots... that can lead your girl to be insecure (don't tell me otherwise, coz i ain't buying dat!!).. and that my lady can lead to a few taunts here and there that can get on to your nerve.. ergo the lesson is: though it might seem to be acceptable, never test the waters in such cases when you really love your girl.. for they are the most unpredictable of creatures in such matters.. can forgive a fling of yours.. yet won't do so in case youa re in touch with your ex-flame!! blimey... why are girls so complex????

Die Muräne said...

As long as there is no doubt about loyality, flirting is very okay. Makes life light and the heart sing!
The problem is only that you often reach a point where one of the two can't handle it anymore. Pity!

Peter said...

(No pop-ups today. Maybe the text and the comments are a bit softer?)

I believe that you have to respect your partner. If the partner accepts you flirting with others, OK, if not, then you have a problem. Anyhow, I always preferred female company, including in my jobs. Of course sometimes, it has been difficult to forget the man / woman feelings and to keep things on the "right" level...

Andrew said...

Flirting can be dangerous. It indicates sexual interest. Now if you have two people who are both flirt types and they flirt with each, it can get very sticky, literally. Neither will back down as they would then expose themselves as a fraud and not a real flirt. Self control is not a strong point with many humans. I used to be a shocking flirt though, with men or women. So if you are in a committed r'ship, avoid flirting.

Steph said...

Sorry Kesh, flirting is fun but when it's a married guy it kinda takes on a desperate and sleazy tone.

I'm a flirt, but draw the line at guys in relationships. I'm a massive bouts of the green eyed monster if my guy flirts, so I wouldn't do it.

Just me I guess.

Jim said...

Heyyyyyyyyyyyy

your camel toe is showing

Ash said...

I agree. A little bit of flirting is harmless!

vishesh said...

lol keep chilling...ya whats wrong??life is to enjoy...and share :)

Helen said...

Hey Keshi, it's been my experience that each couple will set their parameters, so to just give a blanket yes or no doesn't take into consideration the feelings of all involved. If someone was totally insecure with their partner flirting, it would not be loving to continue to engage in said activity.

Mr. H knows I'm a flirt, but I also know when too far is too far. Mr. H is not a flirt at all, but the flirtatious comments that he has made to other women haven't bothered me. I know that flirting will get less and less the older we get, but for now, who cares...?

Sudeep said...

If a person is on diet it is ok to have a look at the menu card and discuss on the food items unless n until he/she indulges in it :)

captain corky said...

Nothing wrong with flirting as long as I'm the only one doing it. LOL My wife knows I flirt on blogs a little. ;) But she also knows that I love her very much and would never hurt her.

Have a great weekend Keshi!

still_figuring_out said...

no, he may not!

:)
hi keshi, how are you, gal?

it`s good to be back to blogland, and be able to "look" into the minds of my fav bloggers, you being one of them.

your pictures are awesome girl :)

and again, NOT ok to flirt, since he is mine, and mine alone ;)

and keshi, flirting with a married man is a definite no, girl.

-my two cents worth-

Priyanka Mahanta said...

Hi Keshi, nice fresh flirting, huh? Haven't done dat in a while now. Suddenly I feel I shud be flirting around more often. But somehow, MARRIED GUYS jus don't raise any kinda feelings in me...not even enuf to flirt with, I mean. Hav a good weekend. Cheers!!

praveen said...

Hi....Those dialogues went like double meaning ( Single if u mature enough) dialogues in tamil cinema......I enjoyed that one...

Keep rocking.. :D

Art said...

this is a confusing question. I think its subjective to the people in the commitment. If they are ok with the parterns flirting a little bit..
Personally, as long as I know what he is doing and is in a limit, I might not mind, even thought I might feel a little jealous..

priya said...

Kehsi, Our posts r so related on the topic issues. Do we need permission to flirt keshi? C'mon. All human do either quiet or louder. Emotions and feleings can never be hidden whoever they are.

homo escapeons said...

Humans are physically designed to cheat on their mates. Males produce and deposit enough sperm to impregnate an entire country and most of his 'boys' are there to kill and block foreign sperm.

Females disguise their fertility and can increase the chance of being impregnated by a secret lover by having an orgasm. The cervix dips down to lap up 'seed' when all the 'bells are ringing' with her loverboy. This is in stark contrast to what she may experience during her yawnfest boring 'married' 3 minute hero husband's wednesday night special.

Flirting is basically testing the waters to measure the possibility of having sex with another person. The female flirts to extract a few details and measure the character of the male. She already knows that every male is available except for the 5% who are homosexual, the 30% who never cheat on their mates, and the 40% who are too gross to even consider.

The male flirts to find out two things, If and When he can get in there.

Most of us have decent Moral Governors that allow us to understand the rules of pairbonding. Nearly all of us, except for swingers, satyrs and nymphomaniacs demand and expect monogamous sexual relations.

However most of us still flirt a little just because it is fun and it is nice to know that you are desirable..although for females this is a moot point since it is more about quality than quantity Sheesh!

The female has a much higher risk involved (although modern science has alleviated much of that) so she controls 90% of the entire flirting game. Most men adhere to the 'one in a million' chance to do it policy which is quite pathetic.

Many of us would NOT be here today were it not for the flirting. The first brazen cave-hussy who batted her eyes at the visiting handsome caveman from across the river started the whole damn thing. It is amazing that even in the 21st Century there are millions of us who do not have a single molecule of our Mother's Husband's DNA. Think about that for a second.

Sorry for the ridiculously long reply. Stop flirting with married men who live within a 2 hour drive because most of them don't take much prodding, and believe me, everybody else will blame YOU.

AVIANA said...

Hey there!

Well..I'm a prude when it comes to this. I don't believe in it at all! I know for a fact that I would be upset if my man flirted with a girl.

However, I do start thinking can it be harmless? Then the next question does harmless flirting lead to more especially in a guy's mind?

I'm sorry guys are not to be trusted by any means. Of course I speak from my point of view.

I do start to think about a friend of mine. A guy. We've been good friends for a few years now. He's flirted with me but it was always harmless. He was engaged. He's married now. He still flirts with me now. However, yesterday I text him saying how I felt I looked HOT yesterday with my outfit on. He asked me to send a pic. Now I know he is completely harmless and his wife and kids are the world to him. But I did not send a pic. Something about that was way off for me. He helps me with my dating issues etc. I know it is purely platonic. But I would not send the pic.

Even if his wife never found out, I don't feel right. Maybe she knows, I don't know....

i know me in that position, i would not appreciate it.....

but to each his own...

maybe that's y i'm still single with no one to join me in my daybed... Oh well..

have a nice weekend!

Kalpana said...

Can't imagine that..... It hurts, if he does that.

Zhu said...

Not sure what to think... There's flirting and flirting. If the guys is up front about being married or in a relationship and if it's just casual... like really good friend... I guess it's fine. But it's not meant to go any further.

Autumn Storm said...

Put simply, all in the name of fun, if those involved and that includes partners don't agree, then it's not fun.

Ghost Particle said...

Uncle Orthodox: Keshi! Lay off girl...you're disturbing somebodies marriage. Unless that guy goes to his wife and tells all this in a fairly comical funny manner, he is dicing with dangerr....wohoo.

Ghost:...apparently saw my pics and fainted. ---> The rest of us cant get up either...:p

Fun is whats missing in everyones life. If people learned to take stuff with 'suga' then there wont be war...its like make love not war! Well pity that like alot of people are fun until you say something bout their religion n stuff. Buggeroes. All said...how does a loner like me flirt. sigh...

Jay said...

I don't necessarily think it's that bad as long as it doesn't go too far. But, if a married person is flirting with somebody else in secret it can be bad. Some people consider it to be cheating or at least being intellectually unfaithful.

annie said...

Am a lil myopic with this one..flirtin not acceptable at all. He gotta me all mine mine mine! Too much too ask eh!Hah..

starry nights said...

I think a little flirting does not hurt.You have to know when and where to draw the line so the other person does not get hurt.I Think a little flirting keeps you on your toes.Have a good weekend.I enjoyed reading the conversation between you and Aditya.

Priyanka Sarkar said...

ow i visited ur blog after ages today.....n got heshi in her true element....
very very honest post i must say :D
hope im more regular henceforth...

The Phosgene Kid said...

I get punched if my eyes stray a bit. Have a great weekend Keshi!!!

krystyna said...

Hi Keshi!
Probably I think as an old fashion woman, but in my opinion HONEST means Honest. Not little bit honest. Little bit not be honest for me means Not Be Honest totally. The stealing means the stealing even little bit. Little bit stealling is Theft. Little bit murder...this same. I don't believe in people if they are only little bit honest. Flirting, stealing, cheating...etc.. it is not fair.
Single people is OK.
The apple is the apple not little bit the tomatoe.

krystyna said...

I wish you wonderful, lovely weekend time!

Keshi said...

hi guys :) tnxx for all ur interesting input. I will be replying to each of u soon.

Just noted that alot of ppl said a big NO here. LOL I can u'stand that r'ships r complex and 2 ppl r crowded enough n u dun want a 3rd person in it! But if u look closely I didnt mean having a r'ship with the 3rd person hehe. :) I meant harmless flirting....not getting into bed with em! It's altogether a different thing isnt it! :)

So yeah, I meant flirting like this harmless convo I had with Aditya...nothing more nothing less. I know where to draw the line and to be honest, I dun think I'd hv another convo like that with him again. It was just the first time we chatted, I was bored n I thought lets make the day interesting n said silly things to him. Thats all. that doesnt mean I'd let him take advantage of me...so chillax ok..those who worried abt me hehe. u guys r sweet :)


btw I can be the most conservative girl too...I'd hate it if my man was a constant flirt and a heavy one at that too. In that case, I'd bake a heart-shaped cake with his face-print on it..ROFL! U get the drift right? Everything has a limit. MODERATION is the keyword. ;-)

Nevertheless THANKS for being so honest!

See yous soon...enjoy the weekend! HUGGGGGGGZ!


Keshi.

Cazzie!!! said...

Awww, Keshi, you getting a fan club after you are you?

EBEZP said...

A lovely post flirting is good, it's fun refreshing and does you good.
There's some very thin almost invisible lines though that it is all too easy to cross.
Draw your own lines and make rules and don't be afraid to enforce them!!

I love the post it is in itself you flirting with all of us and good on you, because you respect us. Respect is the key word!!
With respect it remains harmless fun!!

Nice one Keshi!!

Come on over for a good flirting session whenever you want.....please!!!!!!

RAFFI said...

relationships are about trust. flirts away!!! if you need to step out of a relationship to satisfy something within yourself, then you shouldn't be with that person... or time for a serious talk.

as for doctors flirting, i've had very hot patients and would have loved to exchange numbers after the esoteric and subliminal flirts are transferred. but, plain and simple, i can lose my license or get crazy sued. moral of the story: it sucks to be an attractive doc ;)

George said...

You don't flirt in front of your spouse but you do let him/her know that you do and that he/she has nothing to worry about.

I do think, for women, that you have to watch out for the type of flirting you do with some guys as they may very easily take it the wrong way (as in seriously)

Otherwise ... have fun

Sweetstickychewy said...

Interesting post.:)

haha..I would be lieing to say i NEver Indulged in 'harmless' flirting. I have and i do think its natural but as you said the limits are important. I just never get too personal or real with them to the point of practing what we collide about. The minute they act funny. I turn cold or ask them to zip up. And i would immediately draw a line. Its enough. Some people would conside laughing too much with a man 'flirting'. And to me i don't even have an idea that i am flirting. Its just plain innocence. *blink *blink.:P

So i guess to me. 'Harmless' flirting is fine as long as we don't do it too much or whatever. I mean after all, its a natural part. the best part is, i don't even know i am flirting at times.I guess that swings with most Germiniz.

As for strangers who try to pull some fast strings. I am cold right out. Esp when they talk sweetshits.I dun like sweetshit seriously.so yeah they think i am an arrogant *itch. It gives me a while until i feel they are a safe bunch even than i am totally wary .and again i throw up my defences big time esp when they start with their sweet tongue. :/

***Lets face it, if you're a flirt by nature, you can't stop being yourself, can you? And I don't wanna impose rules and cause severe stress to my partner. As simple as that :).

I agree with the first part. As for the second part. I guess it depends on those involve. I realised its quite challenging if one just totally hates it. so yeah i figured its best if both have an understanding.:)

So yeah harmless flirting is alright as long its only once and not repeated telecasts. that would arouse an unwanted interest i feel. The man, if cheeky, would wanna try his damn luck.

If attached, i would not do wat the guy just did somehow. if single, i am a cheeky child. to me personally, its out of respect to my man somewhat.I don't usually flirt if i am with someone.;)

*HUGZ*

have a good weekend too sweets!

beautiful pics.;)

Pijush said...

Definitely limit should be there, but I like your prescription of visiting a flirty Doctor everyday.

niki yokota said...

oh u are such firgiving, keshi-chan!!
i dont want my hubby flirt with any girls. boys are okay tho lol
and i dont want married men come to flirt on my blog.
can imagine irritation of their wives. ughhhh!

Pri said...

hmm i dont think i wud like it...but thn again if he is so very "prince charming"ly saintly , maybe i wud doubt it...hmmm...looks like i have trust issues here...lol!!
on a serious note, flirting can be tolerated and sometimes fun too as long as it dosent cross a limit.(thn it could get irritating
)..n tht limit is totally subjective...differs frm person to person and im sure ull agree with me.:)
besides it should be 2 way..it takes a flirt to know a flirt they say...and as long as its not taken seriously, all's well...:)

Coco said...

Be careful Keshi...
you are playing with fire!!
He's married,
and if he doesn't care,
(doesn't respect his marriage)
you should!
Stay away from flirtatios married men...even if it's just e-mail!!
Do you think he's being honest with his wife?
What will this flirtation lead to?
BE CAREFUL!!
By the way, why flirt w/married men when there are so many SINGLE men out there in the world!! : )

Take Care!

Blessings.

lemonade said...

i would hate it if my guy flirted...and m not possesive either..it just would really piss me off!

Ashu said...

He s married and yet tryin to flirt. Dangerous propositions. Guess stay away from him. That might take some ridiculous turns and twists later.

Be careful.

phishez_rule said...

Flirting is good AND healthy. BUT you walk a fine line between innocent flirting and flirting with intent.

Have fun, be safe. Live life to the fullest.

Tys on Ice said...

I think that flirting is harmless. Iam married and I dont flirt. Not becoz Iam married , becoz I never could flirt very well..my wife knows.

But i have been flirted with and was extremely flattered by the attention. I guess being married made me a safe person to flirt with, coz they knew that it would never cross the line. Me? I just blushed all the way and started stammering...this only made them worse...

I thinking flirting is way for us to re enforce that we are still alive, desirable etc...i think its healthy but somehow a man flirting while being married , without his wife knowing , is somehow not being really true in his intentions...why the fear if its all just fun?

Jeevan said...

Flirt is sweet to taste, and not to bite hard to get bored of finishing all.

If really I had a partner, I won’t try to stop her from flirting, but advice not to cross the limit. As it fit for me too.

“A flirt a day keeps the doctor away, but if the doctor is a flirt, then visit him everyday “ Haha… superb thought keshi. Happy weekend.

Drama Div@ said...

but flirting with a married man? nay, it's just against my principle.. but i think flirting can be innocent fun and harmless but depends on how far the flirting goes, if the flirting leads into something else then trouble can happen... So flirting alone is okay i guess but do know that it opens a door. Just choose not to open it.

Jac said...

I am in, as in inside.

pinkhippo said...

I know of a married man who flirts a lot with the pretty girlfriends he has. I can only say that I pity his wife...

Luckily he is not my choice...lol

Łóòň Ġãĺ said...

lol good good !!

i'd prefer to say "no comments" ;p

diyadear said...

hey gud one abt flirting wth a doc. only he shudn't smell of medicines.. n as for ur question,my answer is."In our case only my hubby will get to ans that he he "

Vest said...

Keshi : Pretty girl on the checkout asked smiling "What's the weather like outside?"
"Just like you Sweetie" I replied, "Absolutely Beautiful".

It made her day for sure'.

The super flirt is able to convey the ultimate question without causing offence.
Keshi; send your secure postal address to me by email, I have something to send you.

chocolteluva said...

i think if you "crowd" or be "clingy" to your partner, he'd get tooo annoyed.
men and women both have the right to flirt. i mean we flirt all the time and most times dont realize it u know?
so "fun flirting" go for it. but obviously like you said "know ure limits".

i personally am i jealous girlfriend, but once i have trust in my man, i let him flirt and what not. BUT if a girl tends to cling to him all night at a bar or something, i'll do the "squeeze and block" on her and walk away. remind him how good of a kisser i am and let know "bitch he's mine".. hahahaha.

but yes, flirting IS OK, without it, it would be hard to stay "serious allllll the time" u knw?

Movie Mazaa said...

As u said, Men will ALWAYS be men!!

:) ;)

Great to hear u r having lotsa fun anywayz..

Trinnie said...

hey keshi! :)

sorry abt this late reply to the comment u left on my blog, but its not that i dont visit u anymore girl!

i have read all ur posts. in fact i read other bloggers too, but dont commenet. have been quite busy with my college projects and a gigantic thesis, which has to be turned in on the 5th of sept. :)

i have been keeping tabs on whats been happing in dear keshi's life! ill come back to blogging with a bang! :D
----------------------------------

flirts! i so wish i had had some hot guy to ogle at and talk to! there's a serious dearth of hunks where i live...

though, do u know i got hit on by this tv actor 10 days back or something! i went to the office of this tv channel for an interview and there was this guy (funky looking and not the manly types at all, but spoke good english) and he approached me with casual conversation. it was so evident from the way he was anticipating approaching me and spoke to me, with a 30 second loooong handshake that he wanted to sleep with me! thats my instinct telling me, now i dunno if thats the truth!

so in short there are no good men out there :(
someone who believes in love for instance...

take care, kesh! :)

J said...

It's ok to flirt I guess, as long as one knows where to draw the line.

And if you're single.. the sky is the limit ;)

Praneetha said...

hi keshi.. i'm ok wid my guy flirtin wid his female friends and my friends too.. cuz i know it spices up de relationship.. or everything wud be so normal n borin.. [n dat allows me to flirt too ;)]
a lil bit of harmless flirtin costs nothin..
have fun...

Alok said...

I flirt a lot ... with married and unmarried women but then I ensure tht there is no sexual connotation attached to it ...

I guess they also understand and till the time tht both them knw whts going on, it is okie ... atleast for me it is ....

alok

anup.777 said...

Hi Keshi ... i see from ur posts that u've been busy on the blog-front ... and i am really happy to c that ... a familar blog ... an inviting place to drop by ... for people like me who hv dropped off the scene ...

keep up the gud work ... cheers! :)

and btw, i am not very comfortable with committed people indulging in flirting too often ...

anuj said...

can the ones's who are BACK-ELOR be quiet or the ones without a partner not speak ..

cause for us .. flirt is the only source of pleasure (barring the self pleasures that we take .. lol)

damn .. thts wht confuses me more .. i mean if people want to come to gettin laid directly .. shudnt thy rather say it ? .. haha .. rather talkin about boats and caravans .. lol ..

kidding as I am .. but for me the world would be better if people could jus say .. 'hey lets sleeep together tonight ..watsay?' .. lol

but ya flirt is gud .. wont say its easy .. depends on the circumstances nd the ease of d person ..

hello keshi ..
how r ya?

@internet friendz post: lol .. wat made u think i was not a stalker .. hehe .. and that I would not kill you .. hun hun .. do u still think that?

wat fun have u been having lately?

KAYLEE said...

I JUST HOPE HE WAS KIDDING if he is married!

david mcmahon said...

He might be subject to the stringent APEC exclusion zones in Sydney!

Trenting said...

Ooo lady, he definitely has the HOTTZ for you! married or not..

KAYLEE said...

I THINK I HAVE CRACKED RIBS if the doc is not lieing hehe!

Keshi said...

hehe Mormon tnxx!

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Kaylz why is it wrong? Isnt it better than pretending to be such a goody goody when ur really not? :)

Flirting isnt a crime...Cheating is.


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tnxx Alec :)


**But,you know,I get the feeling the guy's talking really seriously,while you maintain a tinge of humour

he mebbe...u neva know. But Im smart enough to draw the line if/when he gets too much hehe.

tnxx Amit!

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Rajeev I agree with ya..as long as there's honesty and there's no cheating behind the back.



Keshi.

KAYLEE said...

//Kaylz why is it wrong? Isnt it better than pretending to be such a goody goody when ur really not? :)

Flirting isnt a crime...Cheating is.//

Because he is married but I dont know much about this subject:)

Keshi said...

hey Ish hows u? :)

**find me a guy who wldn't read too much into it...most men kesh may act like it's not a big deal but they're a whole lot more jugdemental of "committed/married" women who indulge in "flirting"


I so agree! Ish it's an unfair world. But as long as u and ur partner know each other, and can understand each others' hearts, thats all that matters.

ty n HUGGGGGGGGGZ!

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hey Fergal tnxx!

Flirting is Flirting no matter what the medium is that u use to do it :)


**let me ask u a question: is it ok for a married man to have coffee or lunch with another woman?


Depends on the motive behind it. If it's just as mates, then why not? But if there's something more to it, then I dun think its the right thing to do.


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tnxx Vik!

if u need help with the music video on ur page, let me know.


I agree..Cheating is when it should be called quits.


**Coz one night stand during a committed relation/after marriage, ain't funny.

I so agree. I dun have no mercy for emergency sex. LOL! If my guy did that, and expects me to u'stand him, he can only expect one thing from me...divorce papers.



Keshi.

Keshi said...

hey Jeya ur a doc? :) awww...

u hv no control? I agree..sometimes we dun even know wut we're doing. Well it really comes down to trusting each other...and if ur not happy with each other, then best call it quits.


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hey Dharma Im something as in? :)


**but yes, i like to flirt sometimes. when u coming to madras?

hehehe...dunno..but if Im ever there, I'd love to meet ya.

tnxx Dharma!

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haha Nora u sounded quite annoyed. tnxx for being so honest swt hrt :)


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hey Silvara I miss ya :( U must be in India now?


**We are both secure enough in our relationship to know that we can't control our friendships and our feelings and as long as we each know our boundaries then what's a a little harmless flirting

Thats exaclty wut I meant.


R is? Indecent proposal? Goshhhh some guys hv no life ha. One of my friends asked the same from me...I blasted him till he begged for mercy lol!

Catch u soon babez!

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Hey Aditi tnxx!


**but this would be a bit over the top for someone that was married to me..i dunno that is just me

yeah u cud say that...he's too much ha :)



Keshi.

Keshi said...

hehehe Menchie tnxx!

:)

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ty Kirthi!

**for in most cases somethings that start of as fun end up being serious!


I so agree! u never know who ur dealing with.


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hey Kalyan I agree...a 'little' bit of flirting does no harm. As long as we know the limit.

nah he's not my 'great' friend...rolling eyes here LOL! I dun think I'll continue to flirt with him...I know he's MARRIED and it's not right by his wife too..even tho I dun know her. I'll just stop here.


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hehe Sam ty!


**if you are a good flirt you'll smooth talk your way into many a spots... that can lead your girl to be insecure (don't tell me otherwise, coz i ain't buying dat!!)..


true..I wont say NO there. But doesnt it also depend on the person that u r? I mean u can be a good flirt and a trustworthy partner at the same time! Being a good flirt doesnt ALWAYS mean ur a sleaze-bag right?

:)


Keshi.

Keshi said...

Murane ty! Glad to see u bak :)

**As long as there is no doubt about loyality, flirting is very okay. Makes life light and the heart sing!

Exactly my point!

And what I wanted to convery is that being a good flirt doesnt ALWAYS mean ur a slut/hopeless casanova. Top flirts can also be top partners. IT REALLY DEPENDS ON THE INDIVIDUAL.


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hey Peter :) I think the pop-ups hv gone to another page hehe.


** If the partner accepts you flirting with others, OK, if not, then you have a problem

I agree! If you cant trust and be happy with each other, then it's best to call it quits.


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Andrew tnxx matey!

**Flirting can be dangerous. It indicates sexual interest.

I agree...there's a tinge of sexual interest in Flirting. But not always...o cmon.

Im saying that cos, I flirted with Aditya last week, but I hv no FEELINGS for him at all...not even lusty feelings :) It was genuine sillyness ONLY.


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ty Steph!


**flirting is fun but when it's a married guy it kinda takes on a desperate and sleazy tone

I agree...but thats if u continue to flirt with a committed guy. Isnt it?


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Jim duhh thats not my pic..even if it is, wuts the big deal? We all know ever girl has a camel toe..get over it.



Keshi.

fergal said...

hi keshi, in my view flirting via email/txt/im, etc. is really a quite different game to other flirting, e.g. face to face at a bar. there are really different (extra) dynamics going on in the face-to-face situation! it's very hard for me to closely compare that to e.g. sitting at a computer at work. ;-D
~

Keshi said...

ty Ash!


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aww Vish ty! :)


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hey Helen ty!


**Mr. H knows I'm a flirt, but I also know when too far is too far.

o definitely! One chould know the limit. U think so like me. :)

yes...we r young only for a very short while...well-said girl!

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hey Sudeep!! Glad to see ya here..missed ya tonz!


**If a person is on diet it is ok to have a look at the menu card and discuss on the food items unless n until he/she indulges in it

hehehe nicely stated. ty!

Hows life?

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hey Corky ty!


** But she also knows that I love her very much and would never hurt her.

thats exactly wut I meant. :) Glad to know u agree.


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hey SFO WB! I missed ya. I was wondering hou u r...and where u may be. So glad to see u bak here. HUGGGGGGGGGZ! Hope all is well with ya.


hehe so its a big NO from ya :) LOL!

tnxx hun!

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hey Priyanka hows ya?


** MARRIED GUYS jus don't raise any kinda feelings in me

Exactly! I dun hv feelings for Aditya..that was just pure FUN :) Flirting doesnt always stir real feelings right?


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Praveen WC n ty!

**tamil cinema

:):) Did we sound like Asin and Surya LOL!



Keshi.

Keshi said...

Art ur like me...I feel the same way abt it. I mite feel a lil J but hey life is short..so as long as he's not serious, Im ok with him flirting with another...not continued flirting tho hehe.


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hey Priya ty!


**Emotions and feleings can never be hidden whoever they are.


Spot on! Well-said girl.


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hey HE I love ur scientific approach to my posts. Ur comments r always very informative and interesting!


**Humans are physically designed to cheat on their mates

hehe dun we all know that LOL! k k I know its a fact.



**Flirting is basically testing the waters to measure the possibility of having sex with another person.

awww no ways! Cos I hv NO FEELINGS for Aditya...and neither am I testing waters to hv sex with him LOL! I was plain bored on Friday and was just having a GO at him. THATS ALL THERE IS TO THIS :) So how can u say Flirting is testing waters for sex?


**and the 40% who are too gross to even consider.

LOL I can just picture them. wait a min, do I even have to!

**The male flirts to find out two things, If and When he can get in there.

seriously???? Im gonna tell the donkey off then. LOL!



**Stop flirting with married men who live within a 2 hour drive because most of them don't take much prodding, and believe me, everybody else will blame YOU.

aww HE I wont continue it with him. It was just a one-off convo that wont happen again :) tnxx for being so concerned tho!

***HUGS***


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hey Lisa hows u sexay?


**Now I know he is completely harmless and his wife and kids are the world to him. But I did not send a pic

thats how I'd think abt it too. I dun take it to a serious level when I know a guy is committed to another woman. Im glad u didnt send that pic!


**maybe that's y i'm still single with no one to join me in my daybed

hell na I didnt even mean that! :):) eeeeeeeeeks! Flirting is just fun for me. And sleeping with a married man is NOT MY CUPPA at all!

I'd rather be single than do that kinda thing YUK!


Glad to know u think like me too.

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k Kalpana tnxx!




Keshi.

Cazzie!!! said...

Love ya Keshi :) Mwah

Keshi said...

Zhu ty Im yet to do that tag :)


**If the guys is up front about being married or in a relationship and if it's just casual... like really good friend... I guess it's fine.

Exactly wut I meant!


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I so agree Autumn! ty sweetz.


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Ghosty flirt with me ;-)


**Keshi! Lay off girl...you're disturbing somebodies marriage.

o cmon Im not a marriage-breaker LOL! that sounds really funny. Dun worry, I aint gonna flirt with him again. If he tries to, I'd just tell him Im bored with it all haha!


Suga up...not with saccharine...real Suga I mean ;-)


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ty Jay!


**Some people consider it to be cheating or at least being intellectually unfaithful.


I agree...they should know the LIMIT.


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hehe Annie :) tnxx!



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ty Starry sweetz!


**.You have to know when and where to draw the line so the other person does not get hurt

exactly my point!

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ty Priyanka :)




Keshi.

Keshi said...

hey Phos really? LOL!


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Krys ty for being so honest!


**The apple is the apple not little bit the tomatoe.

I agree...in the same way, a flirt is a flirt right? He/she cant pretend to be a non-flirt...right? :)


Also Krys, being a good flirt doesnt always mean being a bad partner...am I wrong?

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Hey Kesh ;-)



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Caz lols I hv no idea girl..Im just havin some fun :)




Keshi.

Keshi said...

Exactly Ebezp..as long as ppl know when n where to draw the line! AMEN!



**I love the post it is in itself you flirting with all of us and good on you, because you respect us. Respect is the key word!!
With respect it remains harmless fun!!

aww I agree...n tnxx! :) RESPECT is the keyword indeedz. Alot of ppl forget that...they think FLIRTING is altogether SLEAZY and BAD n that n this...when its really not. As long as there's RESPECT, its all in good humor n fun.

Love to flirt with Ebezp...cos he's a gentleman!

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hey Raffi flirting is not always abt having a one-night stand! U can flirt w.o. being sleazy, cant u?


**moral of the story: it sucks to be an attractive doc

LOL cute one. u a doc?


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George ty!

**You don't flirt in front of your spouse but you do let him/her know that you do and that he/she has nothing to worry about.

thats being smart :)


yeah I agree..some guys can totally misunderstand where a girl is coming from, when it comes to harmless flirting.


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aww ty Amy u always make GOOD sense!


**The minute they act funny. I turn cold or ask them to zip up. And i would immediately draw a line.

I agree..thats wut I'd do too.



**And to me i don't even have an idea that i am flirting. Its just plain innocence. *blink *blink

LOL I cud picture ya doing that!



**I realised its quite challenging if one just totally hates it. so yeah i figured its best if both have an understanding

exactly! I mean if both u'stands each other and hv that kinda TRUST, then thats all that matters.



**So yeah harmless flirting is alright as long its only once and not repeated telecasts. that would arouse an unwanted interest i feel.

o definitely! Thats what I told some ppl here...that I wont REPEAT that kinda convo with Aditya again. It was just a brief session of harmless fun that wont be repeated. Cos if I continue it, he might get the wrong idea and get hooked on me.


And yeah...if I was committed, I dun think I'd hv such a convo..unless ofcourse he's a well-known friend of mine....

tnxx Amy HUGGGGGGGGGZ!



Keshi.

Keshi said...

lol Pijush ty!


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Niki hey tnxx! Im not so forgiving...if he crossed the limits, he'd be baked to death.


**i dont want my hubby flirt with any girls. boys are okay tho lol

u mean u wudnt mind ur hubby turning gay? LOL! I once told a friend that my man can go to gay clubs on Fr nites...not anywhere else. :):)


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hey Pri tnxx!

**...looks like i have trust issues here

LOL! u and I both :)


**tht limit is totally subjective

Spot on! And ur soo like me in ur thinking.

ty Pri!



Keshi.

Keshi said...

Coco hey tnxx!


**Be careful Keshi...
you are playing with fire!!

aww dun worry..Im well aware of that...and there wont be a repeat of the flirting. :)



**By the way, why flirt w/married men when there are so many SINGLE men out there in the world

hehe I didnt invite him to flirt with me Coco...he just wrote an email n this convo happened. Thats all. There's nothing more to this than a silly one off convo. :) but tnxx for being so concerned. Dun worry...Im safe sweetie.

HUGGGGGGGGZ!


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hey Lemonade ty!

Just a qn:

if u were not possesive, then why wud u hate it? :)


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Ashu I know wut u mean...this wont repeat dun worry :)


**That might take some ridiculous turns and twists later

yeah but Im not gonna continue with him...duncha worry. but tnxx!


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ty Phishez..hot new profile pic there!


**BUT you walk a fine line between innocent flirting and flirting with intent.

Spot on! And I know where to draw the line. ty sweetz.


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hey Tys!


** Not becoz Iam married , becoz I never could flirt very well..my wife knows

LOL! but I think u know how to flirt..in a decent n cool manner.


oyeah being desirable is something good to know.


**why the fear if its all just fun?

Fear comes in when u flirt with a sexual intent. I dun fear having flrted with Aditya, cos there were no feelings involved from my side...it was PUN-y FUN...thats all :)




Keshi.

Keshi said...

Jeevan Im glad to realise u think like me too. :) Light-hearted ppl make me smile. ty!


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Diva ur right..it's not my cuppa either.


**but i think flirting can be innocent fun and harmless but depends on how far the flirting goes,

Exactly my point! And yeah dont open new doors.


ty sweetz.

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hey Jac :)

**I am in, as in inside.

hehe how d u mean?



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hey Hippo tnxx!


**I know of a married man who flirts a lot with the pretty girlfriends he has. I can only say that I pity his wife

LOL he sounds like a mega casanova. Nah I dun want my man to be that either.



Keshi.

Keshi said...

Why not Cheesy babesterness? :)


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hehe Diya u sound like a very strict wife..lol!


**only he shudn't smell of medicines

haha true. And as long as he doesnt give me a bunch of needles as my Valentines' pressie. LOL!

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hey Vesty awww...u said it BEAUTIFULLY indeedz!


**"Just like you Sweetie" I replied, "Absolutely Beautiful".
It made her day for sure'.

and thats exactly wut I mean. Not being a selazebag and doing it with style n decency. Being committed doesnt mean u cant compliment other women/men. That was such a nice thing to do Vesty. Im sure she was all smiles all day. :)


**The super flirt is able to convey the ultimate question without causing offence.

SPOT ON! Some ppl dunno how to flirt...and that makes FLIRTING altogether a bad thing? I think not.

My addy? wut u gonna send me? ooh lala ;-)


Keshi.

Keshi said...

Choco lol tnxx for being so honest and so REAL!

**i think if you "crowd" or be "clingy" to your partner, he'd get tooo annoyed.

I agree...I mean being too possesive is not a great quality to own.


**BUT if a girl tends to cling to him all night at a bar or something, i'll do the "squeeze and block" on her and walk away. remind him how good of a kisser i am and let know "bitch he's mine

LOL good one. I'd be the same. :)


I agree...being too serious is mega BORING!


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Mazza WC n ty!



Keshi.

Keshi said...

Trinnieeee I missed ya! Thats all. I thought mebbe u were not in blogs anymore. But im so glad to realise u were here..tnxx n HUGGGGGGGGGZ!


** i so wish i had had some hot guy to ogle at and talk to! there's a serious dearth of hunks where i live...

mutual feelings here darl...LOL! I we r in a serious recession when it comes to HOT and decent men.


**tv actor

LOL he shook hands with ya for 30secs? HAHAHA! Instincts r always right...so if u felt that he wanted to get into ur pants Trinnie, then thats what it is. STAY AWAY from him.

HUGGGGGGGGGGZ!

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J I agree :)


**It's ok to flirt I guess, as long as one knows where to draw the line.

thats exactly wut I mean.

ty!



Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Praneetha! Im so glad u agree with me.

**i'm ok wid my guy flirtin wid his female friends and my friends too.. cuz i know it spices up de relationship

definitely! or else it'll be some broing r'ship where 2 ppl hv no life other than themselves and their 4 walls.


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ty Alok!


**with married and unmarried women but then I ensure tht there is no sexual connotation attached to it ...

I so agree!


Keshi.

Jim said...

And here are some of the amazing things I figured out:

There is a "secret language" that is as real as the English language… and this language is the KEY to communicating on a "sexual" level with women. I call this language "Sexual Communication."


In the land of Sexual Communication, nothing "means" what it should. Just like the sound of the word "see" means to "perceive using your vision" in English and it means "yes" in Spanish, the language of Sexual Communication required a completely different understanding of communication.


Women are VERY "fluent" in the language of Sexual Communication, but most men are NOT. And those men that ARE fluent in this language have incredible success with women. I've met men who have been with literally hundreds and hundreds of women… and I've met men who have been with ZERO women. Those that have been with more women know this language well, and those that haven't been successful with women universally do not.


A woman can tell almost INSTANTLY if you know the language of Sexual Communication. If you do NOT know it, the door "slams shut" and she will not send or receive messages on this level with you… in most cases EVER.


If you DO know this language, and signal to a woman that you know it at the very BEGINNING of your first interactions with her, you will enjoy a very different kind of communication and relationship with that woman from all the other guys she knows.


"Attraction" is a topic that very little is known about, yet it is a KEY to success with women and dating. If you don't understand what Attraction is, how to trigger it, and how to amplify it, you will always have trouble with women.


Many of the things that "trigger" Attraction in women are not what our moms taught us to do with women. They must be LEARNED. A woman will NEVER say "Hey, you're doing the wrong thing here. You're not making me feel Attraction for you right now with what you're doing and saying. Here, let me show you how to make me feel Attraction for you…". Never.

krystyna said...

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(you award 5 others)

Keshi said...

hey Anup tnxx! How r u?

** am not very comfortable with committed people indulging in flirting too often

OFTEN is not good..I agree :)


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Anuj I thought u left blogging...where were u the whole of last week??


**but for me the world would be better if people could jus say .. 'hey lets sleeep together tonight ..watsay?'

nooo u got it all wrong! There's a BIG difference between FLIRTING and SLEEPING AROUND! sighhhh :( why cant MOST INDIAN MEN u'stand that? All they ever think is that flirting is an invitation to sleep. Thats so wrong Anuj. I cant believe u said that hehe.


yeah I knew u cud hv even been Ted Bundy's cuz, but I somehow felt u were too sweet for that hehe. ;-)



Keshi.

Keshi said...

Kaylz he was kidding for sure! But I'd soon know if he wasnt :) If he turns out to be serious, I'd ask him to back off.

dun worry..and hows u?


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hey Dave!

**He might be subject to the stringent APEC exclusion zones in Sydney!

lol talk abt em, cos the whole of Syd city area is like a ghost town today...all the roads were blocked and I was totally pissed off...cos my usual route is messed up cos of this APEC shit.


Keshi.

Keshi said...

Trenting hey WC!

**Ooo lady, he definitely has the HOTTZ for you! married or not..

mebbe he does..but I dun hv ANY feelings for him.

:)

Keshi.

Keshi said...

hey Kaylz wuts wrong???

Keshi.

Keshi said...

hey Kaylz!

**Because he is married but I dont know much about this subject :)

LOL that sounded very 16yr oldish :):) u r sweet Kaylz!

I know that he's married...but Im not going to continue flirting with him Kaylz. It was just a one-off, spur of the moment convo..thats all :) ok?



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hey Fergal!

**it's very hard for me to closely compare that to e.g. sitting at a computer at work

I can see wut u mean...face to face flirting can go to a different level quite quickly...yes ur right.


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aww Luv ya too sweet Aussie chick Caz!


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Nice one Jim tnxx!

Very informative.


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Krys aww ty! :)

I'll check it out soon.




Keshi.

Jim said...

is flirting with another while being committed to a relationship, acceptable?


i flirt with all
but at the outset i make it clear to the lady that my heart belongs to another

in other words i am telling the lady that she is hott and i cant help flirting with her

and perhaps if it doesnt work out with my beau

i wud propose to her

all women want to be told that they are beautiful and sexy

even if she is 79

Keshi said...

Jim I hope u stick to those words of ur's...cos werent u abt to leave ur wife for a blondie in the US? LOL!


**all women want to be told that they are beautiful and sexy
even if she is 79

aha...I agree...cos my granma loved being called pretty...she hated it if someone mentioned her age...lol she's so very sweet.


Keshi.

Jim said...

Flirting is a form of human interaction, usually expressing a sexual or romantic interest in the other person. It can consist of conversation, body language, or brief physical contact. It may be one-sided or reciprocated.

Jim said...

Flirting is often used as a means of expressing interest and gauging the other person's interest in courtship, which can continue into long term relationships. Alternatively, it may simply be a prelude to casual sex with no continuing relationship.

In other situations, it may be done simply for immediate entertainment, with no intention of developing any further relationship. This type of flirting sometimes faces disapproval from others, either because it can be misinterpreted as more serious, or it may be viewed as "cheating" if the person is already in a romantic relationship with someone else.

Jim said...

People who flirt may speak and act in a way that suggests greater intimacy than is generally considered appropriate to the relationship (or to the amount of time the two people have known each other), without actually saying or doing anything that breaches any serious social norms. One way they accomplish this is to communicate a sense of playfulness or irony. Double entendres, with one meaning more formally appropriate and another more suggestive, may be used.

Jim said...

Flirting may consist of stylized gestures, language, body language, postures, and physiologic signs. Among these, at least in Western society, are:

Eye contact, batting eyelashes, etc.
"Protean" signals, such as touching one's hair
Casual touches; such as a woman gently touching a man's arm during conversation
Smiling suggestively
Winking
Sending notes, poems, or small gifts
Flattery

Jim said...

Online chat, is a common modern tactic as well as other one-on-one and direct messaging services
Footsie, the "feet under the table" practice
Teasing
While some of the subconscious signs are universal across cultures, flirting etiquette varies significantly across cultures which can lead to misunderstandings.

There are differences in how closely people should stand (proxemics), how long to hold eye contact, and so forth.[1]

During World War II, anthropologist Margaret Mead was working in Britain for the British Ministry of Information and later for the U.S. Office of War Information,[2][3] delivering speeches and writing articles to help the American soldiers better understand the British civilians,[4] and vice versa.[5]

She observed in the flirtations between the American soldiers and British women a pattern of misunderstandings regarding who is supposed to take which initiative.

She wrote of the Americans, "The boy learns to make advances and rely upon the girl to repulse them whenever they are inappropriate to the state of feeling between the pair.", as contrasted to the British, where "the girl is reared to depend upon a slight barrier of chilliness... which the boys learn to respect, and for the rest to rely upon the men to approach or advance, as warranted by the situation."

This resulted, for example, in British women interpreting an American soldier's gregariousness as something more intimate or serious than he had intended.[2

Jim said...

VEST is the master in flirting
to learn more
read his book
Waving good bye to a thousand flies

a sailor who touches port has to move fast
he has only so much time before his ship sets sail

VEST courted all and sundry
most were ladies much older than him

but VEST is a decent guy
unlike me

i continued flirting
even after marriage

Jim said...

CAUTION
watch out if u r flirting with an indian man or woman !

Indians are weird
they have concepts like sat janam tak

and if the flirting led to a bedroom encounter

it cud land u in a shot gun marriage or worst

like the girl committing suicide
bcz u took her cherry
and now u wont marry her

Jim said...

some times what started as harmless flirting leads to heavy stuff




then God help u !

Jim said...

for guys in India,
(flirting with indian women)
if u r just looking to just getting your rocks off

(and not interested in a long term relationship)

it is cheaper to pay for it

Jim said...

for more
visit SEX COUNSELLOR

Jim said...

Heyyy homo escapeons ...
i want u on my panel in SEX COUNSELLOR

niki yokota said...

he'd be baked to death?
ROFL!!!
oh u know i love gay men.
they are sooo cute!

deepsat said...

i dont like flirting anymore!! LOL!!!

Sam said...

@keshi: agreed you wont' be a sleaze-bag... but sample this.. she knws ur basic nature of conversation is flirtatious... and you happene tobe in touch wid ur ex-flame (not even ex-gf!!), who happens to be ur best buddy... and viola!! alarm bells start ringing!! and den something may spark off a chain of thoughts..a dn then she'd be like "i was just a replacement, i think i'm being used" "i just came in your way, else it wud have been her" "you still are head over heels with her, aren't you??" "what do you always talk about?? don't take me to be a fool" "i wonder what guys shared/did together all the time that you were with her!!". like ouch!!! doesn't dat hurt to hear from your partner???
now all this while your talk with that ex-flame has been like two buddies.. no flirting nothing (der r some girls u cannot flirt with!! :D)
ergo... no flirting except with her.... total bliss!!
now do all this if you really want the girl to be in your life.. if you don't you end up in a soup!!

mystic rose said...

Why are all such guys named Aditya nowadays? Or variations of it..

:))
no answers to your questions keshi, Im too sleepy.

Keshi said...

tnxx Jim!

ur an over the top Flirt!


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Niki u like gay men? o as friends they r great, yes. :)


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aww why not Deepz?


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I agree Sam :)


**i was just a replacement, i think i'm being used

lol! I'd be a bit annoyed too but nah I dun think I'd hv to face that...cos if I choose to be with someone, I'd do it cos I TRUST him completely.


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Rose I hope u got ur sleep :)


**Why are all such guys named Aditya nowadays? Or variations of it..

hehe thats not his real name.




Keshi.