Greener On The Other Side?

Somethings that some people often tell me, give birth to a sea of deep thoughts in me. They tell me somethings like this: 'Keshi you are happier than many people, you are so lucky, you love yourself alot and you got it all going'. Am I? Do I? I can gladly say I try hard to be happy amidst the mess my life is, that I'm lucky cos I brought my own luck to myself, that I love myself alot cos if I don't who will, that I've got it all going cos I worked hard to be where I am today, and also cos it takes very little to keep me satisfied. You know how we look at other people's lives and think to ourselves 'wow I wish I had her/his career, looks, attitude, r'ship, house, car, humor' etc etc. And we always think that the grass is greener on the other side. Well it really isn't greener on the other side. Just that you don't see all the hard work they must have put into getting there, all the problems they may have faced, all the battles they may have fought, all the things that they may still be missing in their lives that you may really have, all the lonely tears that they may be shedding at night, all the strength and courage they may be carrying to overlook life's blows and just get on with it putting on a brave face...I'm sure alot of us don't see all that...we just see their outer glimmer and we think 'gee wow I wish God gave me that!'. The truth is, they may be thinking the same about you, looking at some aspects in your life that they may not have. It's human nature to always compare and weigh the goodness in each others' lives. But the truth is every one of us is missing something in our lives. And everyone of us has something that another don't have. One may have riches but may not have love...another may have a great marriage but may not have a good career...another may have a good education and a great career but may not have good looks...another may have good looks but may not have peace of mind...another may have everything but no loved-ones to share that with...another may have all her/his loved ones but she/he may be dying from a terminal illness...and the list goes on and on. No one is having a picture-perfect life out there..it just seems like it...that's all. The grass is not greener on the other side...just that we don't see all that they may have been through/going through to get where they are, and just that we don't see what they might be missing in their lives too. It's just an illusion that we see through the skewed window of our ever-hungry souls.


Alot of people who read my blog may think I'm such a positive chick, a girl who has a fantastic life and who got so lucky in many ways (I hear that all the time). But hell nah guys! You don't wanna know the shit I have been/am/will be going through in this life. I don't want to go into details of my private life and some stuff that you don't know...if you hear about it, some of you may actually be very surprised with my generally cheerful attitude amidst the chaos that my life is. What if I tell you I'm dying? Not that it's the truth...but it may be true too, who knows. I just want you to realise that there are so many things in a person's life that we don't see in a glance or two. And I'm not the type who crave for sympathy either - I'm too stubborn for that. So I'd like to remain the generally-happy KESHI until my last breath...I wanna keep her happy cos she made me and alot of others happy too. All I can say is I've had a pretty good AND a pretty bad life. And that's the case with everyone on this Earth isn't it? Life is like a basket of sweet fruits and sour fruits...you just have to taste them both whether you like it or not. Yes I agree that some people are blessed with more sweet fruits than sour fruits in their basket, but no one can escape life's bitter experiences and finally death...that's common to all of us. And personal grief/problems can never be compared. i.o.w. no 2 lives can ever be compared no matter what...and we should never compare either. We just have to learn to see the Green on OUR side. Just be happy with what you've got and make the most of it. You may wonder what the hell I'm doing here with taking glam pics and putting them up here, doing crazy stuff, laughing forever like a nutter, shopping like a hungry Biyatch, listening to music til I fall asleep, trying to reach out to everyone, being a super manic blog dudette etc etc. That's cos I'm just trying hard to keep myself happy, trying hard to get lucky, trying hard to love myself and others, and trying hard to get it all going for me. Cos no one else can do it for me, right?

It seems that as we grow older, we just get greedier and needier. Along with a rising height and age, our appreciation of the simple life seem to be shortening. We just need more and more, and cos of that we become miserable. So the next time you see someone and think to yourself 'WOW she/he is so lucky unlike me'...remember, the grass is NOT always greener on the other side...it just seems like it...that's all. The grass is both green and not-so-green on both sides of the fence. Let the dry and the brown grass on YOUR side die and make room for new shoots of love and hope. Cos both the sun and the rain will come to your side of the fence too, if you notice. Just concentrate on YOUR Green and you shall be at peace. Life is short so appreciate YOUR life, not someone else's...and that someone else could be going through a hell that you can't even see. So be happy with YOURSELF, love YOUR life, bring YOUR own luck to YOU, and get it all going for YOU! Cos only YOU can do it for YOU.

And the Flying Kissee of the day is...

This post is dedicated to my dearest friend Swati. She's a brilliant writer who puts alot of deep emotions into neat little verses in her blog. Please check out her blog when you can cos she's hidden talent that needs recognition...a deep mind that needs to be brought to light...a beautiful soul that needs to be seen and associated by many. I read her posts and often wonder how talented some people in this world are, and how beautifully they can put some deepest emotions into brilliant writings. It's a rare skill that she has. And I feel that Swati is able to do that cos she may have really experienced the harshness of life...the bitter fruits of life...yet she continues to march ahead, learning from those experiences and teaching us all too with her fantastic writing. She's someone who doesn't check the color of the grass on the other side of the fence..she just gets on with the Green on her side. So I wanna let Swati know how much she means to me and how much I appreciate her being in my life. She's not only a great philosopher and a teacher of life to me, but also a wonderful and loving friend...a genuine one. I admire her simple beauty...something that drew me to her when I first found her blog. So Swati, MWACKKKZ! Dija feel it hun? :). This Hindi song (a fav of mine) is especially for ya sweetz...I love this movie too cos it shows that even through your darkest miseries in life you can rise and shine...even melt a stone and set an example to others. With this I'm sending alot of love to New Delhi all the way from Sydney...enjoy it hun, it's your day! Gawwwd Im so in love with Udit Narayan's voice, I wanna marry him! humko humise chura lo...dil mein kahin tum chupa lo...


Current Music: Humko Hamise by Lata Mangeshkar and Udit Narayan, from the Hindi movie Mohabbatein (with English subs)