Tuesday, May 6

Greener On The Other Side?

Somethings that some people often tell me, give birth to a sea of deep thoughts in me. They tell me somethings like this: 'Keshi you are happier than many people, you are so lucky, you love yourself alot and you got it all going'. Am I? Do I? I can gladly say I try hard to be happy amidst the mess my life is, that I'm lucky cos I brought my own luck to myself, that I love myself alot cos if I don't who will, that I've got it all going cos I worked hard to be where I am today, and also cos it takes very little to keep me satisfied. You know how we look at other people's lives and think to ourselves 'wow I wish I had her/his career, looks, attitude, r'ship, house, car, humor' etc etc. And we always think that the grass is greener on the other side. Well it really isn't greener on the other side. Just that you don't see all the hard work they must have put into getting there, all the problems they may have faced, all the battles they may have fought, all the things that they may still be missing in their lives that you may really have, all the lonely tears that they may be shedding at night, all the strength and courage they may be carrying to overlook life's blows and just get on with it putting on a brave face...I'm sure alot of us don't see all that...we just see their outer glimmer and we think 'gee wow I wish God gave me that!'. The truth is, they may be thinking the same about you, looking at some aspects in your life that they may not have. It's human nature to always compare and weigh the goodness in each others' lives. But the truth is every one of us is missing something in our lives. And everyone of us has something that another don't have. One may have riches but may not have love...another may have a great marriage but may not have a good career...another may have a good education and a great career but may not have good looks...another may have good looks but may not have peace of mind...another may have everything but no loved-ones to share that with...another may have all her/his loved ones but she/he may be dying from a terminal illness...and the list goes on and on. No one is having a picture-perfect life out there..it just seems like it...that's all. The grass is not greener on the other side...just that we don't see all that they may have been through/going through to get where they are, and just that we don't see what they might be missing in their lives too. It's just an illusion that we see through the skewed window of our ever-hungry souls.


Alot of people who read my blog may think I'm such a positive chick, a girl who has a fantastic life and who got so lucky in many ways (I hear that all the time). But hell nah guys! You don't wanna know the shit I have been/am/will be going through in this life. I don't want to go into details of my private life and some stuff that you don't know...if you hear about it, some of you may actually be very surprised with my generally cheerful attitude amidst the chaos that my life is. What if I tell you I'm dying? Not that it's the truth...but it may be true too, who knows. I just want you to realise that there are so many things in a person's life that we don't see in a glance or two. And I'm not the type who crave for sympathy either - I'm too stubborn for that. So I'd like to remain the generally-happy KESHI until my last breath...I wanna keep her happy cos she made me and alot of others happy too. All I can say is I've had a pretty good AND a pretty bad life. And that's the case with everyone on this Earth isn't it? Life is like a basket of sweet fruits and sour fruits...you just have to taste them both whether you like it or not. Yes I agree that some people are blessed with more sweet fruits than sour fruits in their basket, but no one can escape life's bitter experiences and finally death...that's common to all of us. And personal grief/problems can never be compared. i.o.w. no 2 lives can ever be compared no matter what...and we should never compare either. We just have to learn to see the Green on OUR side. Just be happy with what you've got and make the most of it. You may wonder what the hell I'm doing here with taking glam pics and putting them up here, doing crazy stuff, laughing forever like a nutter, shopping like a hungry Biyatch, listening to music til I fall asleep, trying to reach out to everyone, being a super manic blog dudette etc etc. That's cos I'm just trying hard to keep myself happy, trying hard to get lucky, trying hard to love myself and others, and trying hard to get it all going for me. Cos no one else can do it for me, right?


It seems that as we grow older, we just get greedier and needier. Along with a rising height and age, our appreciation of the simple life seem to be shortening. We just need more and more, and cos of that we become miserable. So the next time you see someone and think to yourself 'WOW she/he is so lucky unlike me'...remember, the grass is NOT always greener on the other side...it just seems like it...that's all. The grass is both green and not-so-green on both sides of the fence. Let the dry and the brown grass on YOUR side die and make room for new shoots of love and hope. Cos both the sun and the rain will come to your side of the fence too, if you notice. Just concentrate on YOUR Green and you shall be at peace. Life is short so appreciate YOUR life, not someone else's...and that someone else could be going through a hell that you can't even see. So be happy with YOURSELF, love YOUR life, bring YOUR own luck to YOU, and get it all going for YOU! Cos only YOU can do it for YOU.


And the Flying Kissee of the day is...

This post is dedicated to my dearest friend
Swati. She's a brilliant writer who puts alot of deep emotions into neat little verses in her blog. Please check out her blog when you can cos she's hidden talent that needs recognition...a deep mind that needs to be brought to light...a beautiful soul that needs to be seen and associated by many. I read her posts and often wonder how talented some people in this world are, and how beautifully they can put some deepest emotions into brilliant writings. It's a rare skill that she has. And I feel that Swati is able to do that cos she may have really experienced the harshness of life...the bitter fruits of life...yet she continues to march ahead, learning from those experiences and teaching us all too with her fantastic writing. She's someone who doesn't check the color of the grass on the other side of the fence..she just gets on with the Green on her side. So I wanna let Swati know how much she means to me and how much I appreciate her being in my life. She's not only a great philosopher and a teacher of life to me, but also a wonderful and loving friend...a genuine one. I admire her simple beauty...something that drew me to her when I first found her blog. So Swati, MWACKKKZ! Dija feel it hun? :). This Hindi song (a fav of mine) is especially for ya sweetz...I love this movie too cos it shows that even through your darkest miseries in life you can rise and shine...even melt a stone and set an example to others. With this I'm sending alot of love to New Delhi all the way from Sydney...enjoy it hun, it's your day! Gawwwd Im so in love with Udit Narayan's voice, I wanna marry him! humko humise chura lo...dil mein kahin tum chupa lo...


Current Music: Humko Hamise by Lata Mangeshkar and Udit Narayan, from the Hindi movie Mohabbatein (with English subs)

124 Cranium Signets:

irshad said...

Hi Keshi,

It has become a habit for me read your blog first thing in the morning before starting to do anything else. Went through some of ur old archives and you seems to have transformed yourself to write on deep matters nowadays.

Rdgs, irshad

the stygian sailor said...

why why why da? come to India. i ll keep you happy :)

the stygian sailor said...

i didnt shut the door on you.
kafka cafe is shut. me going away for some time

wp 2007- 08 said...

Hi Keshi

If the grass is greener on the other side of the fence, why do so many who make it to the other side want to go back? The problem is that life doesn't come with a return address. All a person can do, is reminisce about the good old days.

I’m back from my short sabbatical. Now I must get seriously funny. I read your post and became serious, but not funny. Well, at least I’m halfway there.

LOL

Bev

Jay said...

The only people who haven't had lots of ups and downs are people like Paris Hilton. You know, people who have had everything handed to them all their lives and inherited tons and tons of money.

Chriz said...

ill havata work for the flying kiss. nice pictures keshi...

carolinagal said...

So true!

maverick said...

well thts human nature to say tht...bcos we have the gift of sight...but then its k..u learn to live with...everyone has a grassfield tht is less greener in comparison to the person next door..but then evryones grass in the field is also different..so more oftn than not the comparison goes null n void...:)

cheers!!

fingers said...

No way !!!
My grass really is greener.
It's long and lush...and greener than the contents of your handkerchief, Keshi...

Nirmal's Blog said...

hey very true and every word is self explaintry...
and please leave udit narayan coz he just came up with some marriage crisis ...lolss

La vida Loca said...

I was actually going to say that I have never met anyone who has healthy respect and love for herself- other than u.
Love u for that.

How do u do it? when u look a urself in the mirror..what do u say to urself...what so u see? Can u tell me?

ruSh.Me said...

hmmm..... self appraisal and self appriciation is somethings which i learned a very hard way.... People would tell me, You are not that bad, learn to love yourself....

...but sigh me, the-depressed-soul, would find some ways to degrade myself and find The Others Superior....every single time.....!!

Its a Very bad Habit.....turning out disasterous results.....not easy to do away with... its comes to u, slowly....That You Are!!!

Keshi said...

Hey Irshad tnxx!

Well I dun update EVERY morning..so wut d u do then? :)

Keshi.

Keshi said...

who said Im unhappy Stygian? :) did u even read the post? LOL!


*HUGZ*

Keshi.

Keshi said...

**i didnt shut the door on you.
kafka cafe is shut

well Kafka Cafe's door is the only door I knock on to talk to Stygian.

:)

Keshi.

Keshi said...

haha Bev WB n HUGZ!

**If the grass is greener on the other side of the fence, why do so many who make it to the other side want to go back?

true...alot of ppl chase other ppl's lives and get very disappointed in the end. For some it becomes too late to get bak to their real selves.


Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Jay!

**You know, people who have had everything handed to them all their lives and inherited tons and tons of money.

yeah but by having that kinda life, they r missing out on REALITY. how sad.


Keshi.

Keshi said...

Chriz hey :)

Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty CG!

Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Mav!

**everyone has a grassfield tht is LESS greener in comparison to the person next door


why cant we rethinkthat same line as this:



everyone has a grassfield tht is MORE greener in comparison to the person next door


:)

Keshi.

Keshi said...

Fingers I aint talking abt ur grass skirt. LOL!

Keshi.

Keshi said...

Nirmal tnxx!

**and please leave udit narayan coz he just came up with some marriage crisis

well then it's the best time for me to meet him right? LOL!

Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty LaVida MWAH!

I just try. Or else I'll be a totally unhappy person and thats not gonna help me at all. :)


**How do u do it? when u look a urself in the mirror..what do u say to urself...what so u see? Can u tell me?

I sometimes look in the mirror and go WHAT CRAP. :) I hv learn to laugh at myself. And that has helped me alot.


Alot of ppl take life too seriously, when it can end in a split second. This is all a silly drama. So enjoy life while ur alive. Thats my motto.

:) HUGZ!

Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty RushMe!


**the-depressed-soul, would find some ways to degrade myself and find The Others Superior.

yeah it happens to me too. but every time it happens, I bounce bak to HAPPY mode somehow...i tell myself that being depressed for too long aint gonna solve anything.


Keshi.

Iceman said...

Fuck off with your sofa units and strine green stripe patterns, I say never be complete, I say stop being perfect, I say let... lets evolve, let the chips fall where they may.
- Tyler Durden (Fight Club)

Thas the only thing I can say... Stop being perfect... or wanting to be perfect...

irshad said...

Hi Keshi,

"Well I dun update EVERY morning..so wut d u do then? :)"

Then I read tbe archives. :)

I will be happy to know your thought on IPL (Indian Premier Leagur) and your favourite WAG's (Wives and Girl Friends) of Footballers and favourite BAH's (Boyfriends and Husbands) of movie stars?

Rgds, Irshad

Keshi said...

ty Iceman!

**let the chips fall where they may.

I agree. If its meant to be that way, they we hv to ACCEPT it.



**Stop being perfect... or wanting to be perfect...

Spot on! No 2 ppl can have the same life and no one has a perfect life either.


Keshi.

Keshi said...

Irshad thats too many qns hehe.

if u put up a post on those topics, mebbe I'll ans em :)

besides WAGs and BAHs dun interest me at all.

Keshi.

Keshi said...

Also Irshad, I hv emailed BUF Admin abt ur request. Will get bak to u on that :)

Keshi.

Solitaire said...

Yay baby!! That's what I say. If the grass is not green enough, paint it green, wear green sunglasses, burn the grass on the other side, learn to love the dry grass..do whatever...but ultimately its your grass and you have to learn to love it.

Keshi said...

G'day Sol!

**paint it green, wear green sunglasses, burn the grass on the other side, learn to love the dry grass


I love how u put it! Total therapeutic babe u r. I love ya HUGZ!


Keshi.

Ankur said...

how true keshi...

u must listen to a ghazal by maestro Jagjit singh... it goes like this ...

tum itna kyon muskara rahe ho
kya gum hai jisko chupa rahe ho..
(means
y r u smiling so much
what sadness u r hiding??)

its really amazing :)

and u say the same...
many a times u just laugh and smile so tat d ppl arnd u dont feel tat u r unhappy, but rather they build that shell around themselves so tat nobody can see the pain inside... :)

still u cant hide it from few...

rather than becoming greedier i say, we are gettin more materialistic n less humane... we care abt ourselves, our happiness forgettin what will make others happy... not necessarily making others happy, but le ourselves feel happy by the happiness of others :)

U r just one of those who wanna c ppl around u happy :)

Cheers!!!

P.S. i havent read swati yet... but will read now :)

badshah khan said...

Bingo ....right there on the money ....

Keshi said...

lovely lyrics there Ankur!

yes Im one of those ppl who dun like to reveal the sadness in me all that much cos I like to see the ppl ard me happy. Gawd I do that quite well! :)

Sometimes it's so much more easier to deal with it by urself than telling ppl who dun really u'stand how u feel.


*HUGZ* n tnxx!

Keshi.

Keshi said...

hey Badshah tnxx!

Keshi.

SwAtI said...

Oh My Goodness!!!
I am moved n touched beyond words.. This is the sweetest thing anyone has done for me.. and the loveliest words said to me.. :)
Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!!
It truly means a lot.. You certainly made my day (rather.. 'days'..) :D
Thank u so much!!! Thanks for all the love.. Yup!! I felt that ;)

I feel extremely glad to know a special person like you.. You are the most genuine & honest person I have ever come across.. It is your strong sense of individuality which I truly admire..and at the same time draw inspiration from..
Your amazing attitude simply oozes out of each of your posts..
And I totally respect n love the attitude.. :)
This post was particularly an eye-opener.. I dont know how much m able to look at the green in my life.. But yes, it is a constant endeavour to appreciate what I have and at the same time..be the best I can be.. Your post has given me that extra dose of energy n enthusiasm to fight it out..and most importantly enjoy the process.. :)

M not getting time to write anything these days..coz I got this extremely imp exam on 8th june.. :( Will try to put down something soon..
btw.. u can chk out my other blog as well.. http://my--smorgasbord.blogspot.com

Thanks again!! God bless ya.. :)
Lots of love!!

Keshi said...

aww Swati HUGZ n Thanks to YOU too!

:) Im glad this post made ya happy.



**But yes, it is a constant endeavour to appreciate what I have and at the same time..be the best I can be

yes...thats exactly wut Im saying thru this post!

U hv always inspired me with ur amazing posts. I want everyone else here to get to know u too. Cos ur too good to be missed!


All the best with ur exam hun!


MWAH TC!

Keshi.

Whitesnake said...

Don't walk on the bright side, there is too much shine.
Stand in the shadows where I can clearly see.

You my girl beam like the sunshine and colour the world like a rainbow.

There is however a sad part of you that only some of us can sense.
Come knock on my door!

irshad said...

Hi Keshi,

"Also Irshad, I hv emailed BUF Admin abt ur request. Will get bak to u on that :)"

Thanks a lot Keshi. It means a lot to me.

I'll start updating my blog ASAP.

Rgds, irshad

Keshi said...

ty Steve!

**Stand in the shadows where I can clearly see.

aww that was beautiful!


ty for ur support Steve. I really appreciate that. Well, sometimes it's best to be happy anyways..thats what Im doing.


*HUGZ*

Keshi.

Keshi said...

ok Irshad :)

Keshi.

SwAtI said...

Thanks!!!

And ya, this song is awesome.. one of my fav numbers.. :)
I din't know you fond of Hindi music..
Have u heard 'Ae Ajnabi' from the film Dil Se? Sung by Udit Narayan.. One of his bestest songs.. :)

Keshi said...

Im glad u like the song Swati :)

** 'Ae Ajnabi' from the film Dil Se?

OMG yes I love it! SOOOO BEAUTIFUL! Manisha looks great in that movie too.


Udit has a voice from the heavens above!


Keshi.

AmitL said...

Hi,Keshi-lovely thoughts..echoed more or less what I try and make my life philosophy to be.i.e.
1. Don't look to others for your happiness.If you feel happy when people are nice, it's fine.Good for you and them. But,finally,rely on yourself for your happiness.

2.Don't compare-don't think the grass is greener on the other side,so,God should have put you there. What about yourself,how many things do you have to be grateful for. From a gawky school kid to a collegian to a trainee at work, how much have you progressed-I'm sure the answers will be thrilling!

3.There's always a test being conducted by God.When you're in 7th heaven,something happens to bring you down...down...down to the dumps..when you reach there,somethings happens and you start rising again.Adapt to this,rather than becoming too ecstatic or morose about the situations.

All said and done,glad to know you're out there,Keshi.Such posts serve as eye-openers,even for me,nee,reminders,I should say,for all I should be grateful for!

Hiren said...

** It's just an illusion that we see through the skewed window of our ever-hungry souls.

Awesome. There was this hindi movie "SuperStar" which had one dialogue that emphazises your post.

A superstar Hero to a struggling newcomer :- Dude, I know you hate me and are jealous as you think I dont deserve all this comfort in life and just because I m the son of a successful film producer I am getting these riches and all; while you who are more skilled and hardworking than me have to make do with a middle class life and work as my duplicate. While I drive around in my Merc, you have to drive your motorcycle.

But have you ever thought what the roadside vendor at the signal of Dharavi must be thinking when you just swoosh past him on your bike ??? He too must be thinking the same as you do of me .... :)


and doesn't this post answer the question you raised on the latest quote on my quotes page ?? :)

vishesh said...

lol...see my latest postit might cheer you up...:) life is so bugging...it is so bull..it is so cow...and well it is also so elephant and giraffe...but well all need grass...:)

Jeevan said...

"I just want you to realise that there are so many things in a person's life that we don't see in a glance or two." Very true, none gets everything easier, they needs some to lose, hardworking, pressing thoughts, concentration ect.ect.. to see their live shining. Comparing with others brings jealous where one feel I can’t be like them and it brings distress to mind, so it’s better to eat what we have as a food where everything leads to life and living, where the price and attractions are no more.

Swati have a beautiful smile on her face :) nice knowing about her.

sid said...

(a) loved the snaps along side the post.
(b) You are one deep-analyser..(doesnt matter if the word dint exist)..We do tend to see the green on the others side...While, i dont know the details yaar, all I can say is,this life for me has seen more downs and struggles than the highs & yet my motto of life has been just the same-I am responsible for making the grass green on my side & wat the hell!!...I surely can make it:-)
(c) On after thots, some people get some things the real easy way (or so we feel at certain times).My belief to that is that life is a full circle, if today they get things on a platter some day they must have struggled/will have to struggle in the future.....
(d) great thots!!!to end it...can I say the grass is actually greener on your side with you having such an optimism about life:-))

Nirmal's Blog said...

yup tats true...go meet him...

uncles shud be pampered by aunties regularly..lolsss

crasiezt said...

Lovely song that is:-) Though I would rather marry Shah Rukh than Udit Narayan!
I think I'm happy with my grass:D

Pavi!!!! said...

U said it so well keshi..i cldn't agree more with u....I STRONGLY believe its all equally split between all of us..therz no one who is luckier or has it easier in life...Life is EQUALLY cruel and nice to each one of us!
wat matters is the way we view it and the attitude with which we deal wit it.

Clyde said...

Keshi
It seems that it is natural to want more----it's called ambition.
And as long as your ambition is realistic, then you always have a chance to acieve it----but once you do, then you move on and set higher goals.
You truly amaze me that you seem to be more satisfied than most, with what you already have.
You have so much love in your heart yet you tell me that you doubt that you will marry--there are so many men in this world who would love a life wit somone like Keshi.
The grass is not always greener, but you will never know til you try

Lena said...

a very thoughtful post, keshi and a very true one. We always think that someone else has it better but unless we try to see positive sides in our own life we wont be able to live happy without thinking someone else is luckier, happier, richer and what not! :)

Niyara - Asian Rocxs said...

woooah keshi i should read your posts after having breakfast (yes it is 2pm and i still havnt had brekky) coz i always wanna think about them. i ALWAYS used to think the grass was greener but then like you said we see a perfect picture - not the toil and hard work behind it.

i learnt the hard way to accept me for me coz there is no other me for me to be so might as well LIKE IT if im stuck with it lol.

and i like that your happy and up beat in you posts but like u say, everyone has a bad part to their life - you jus seem not to blog about that stuff. :)

Cinderella. said...

Girl, I wonder sometimes why is it always like that ?
We must understand all that has gone behind , making something the way it is. Instead of just wishful thinking to be able to grab someone else's shoes...

Rem'ber Rocky Balboa ?

He said, "its not about how hard you can hit. its about how hard you can get hit.

the world is a nasty place where it will love to see you on your knees, and keep you permanently there if it can.

But you have to keep getting hit and keep moving on.."

Thats life. Not some blackforest cake you can gulp down anytime you want....(this crappy line is mine btw..)

Take care babe !
*muaah*

Tys on Ice said...

:)...well put

its ironic but its only understandable that people tend to see wht they are shown...

show the world u r happy and the world will think u r happy...and who knows? that probably will make you happy...

whts up girl?...everything ok? u sounded a lil testy...

Niyara - Asian Rocxs said...

i put (tiny tiny) pics up keshii thanks to yours and silvara's post. your post made me think (after i ate of course) so thankkyou x

Donn said...

Most of us put our best foot forward out in the blogosphere and I take it all in with a huge bag of salt.

But why not? Who the hell wants to listen to people kvetch and bitch about how miserable they are?
We are out here to escape our REAL lives and meet interesting people. I think that we all realise that we all have mucho problemos and if something drastic happens to one of our cyber friends we are there for them..but for the most part this is escapeville.

The real person usually 'leaks' through their writing anyway..eventually...unless they are absolutely determined to morph into another persona and stay there..which is waaaaay too much work for me. The Work/Fun ratio is too out of whack for my liking.

Solitaire said...

I love Udit too but absolutely detest SRK so right now am experiencing a conflict...

J said...

That's the fact of life Kesh.

All of us are so engrossed with the glitter on stage that no one gives a thought on what went on behind the scenes :)

Never Mind!! said...

The truth of life packed in such simple words! You definitely sound a lot wiser than your age from your pictures! My first time here and a cool blog!

Alok said...

love the way u started this ..... it (again) reinforces my belief in u (though who am I to do tht, since u very well know wht u r doing all the time:))


Alok

Ria said...

Hey so true babe!i never say thts y i never say tht this person is luckier than me coz u never knw the shit tht person may hav been thru.Its absolutely essential for us to appreciate wht v hav and live life to the fullest!!and hey thts a sweet romantic song and not to forget it talks of eternal romance. :)

Die Muräne said...

Actually I'm pretty happy with my life and wouldn't like to change with someone else... well maybe with you, then I would have your lovely hair haha

Ashu said...

Keshi, you should may be share some knowledge sharing sessions with me on how to keep mess at bay despite it having all around....

♥bμşγ-ŵŗϊŧēŕ♥ said...

Take a bow! Lotsa nice thoughts here. Exudes optimism! :)

wisdomstuff said...

Have you ever noticed the quote I have on my blog, "the grass is always greener but it's just as hard to mow." I always try to be happy with what I have and not envious of what others have. As I ALWAYS say, no matter how bad things are they can always be worse. It was actually the title of my previous blog.

((((HUG))))

aneri_masi said...

Am gonna try and make "I feel lucky today" my new mantra :)

There's another hindi song that kind of conveys the same thought...

Kabhi kisi ko mukammal jahaan nahi milta
Kahin zameen to kahin asmaa nahi milta.

Simply translated it says, "No one can ever have everything, somewhere you can't have the earth, somewhere you can't have the sky!"

Don't know the rest of the lyrics :(

gunj said...

hey....great post hun!
n id like to share with you what i read smewhr:-
Don't wait for someone to pamper U. Pamper u'rself 'coz u'r worth it. In order to GIVE happiness to some one, you have to BE a happy person first- u can only give what you have.

love ur attitude!
say the same!
hugs!

Coco said...

the grass may seem greener on the other side, but it's not even grass...it's astro-turf!! (fake grass!)

*i teach little ones, third graders, 8 year olds : ) NOT teenagers!

Hugs & Blessings

Keshi said...

Amit tnxx :)

**From a gawky school kid to a collegian to a trainee at work, how much have you progressed-I'm sure the answers will be thrilling!

So true! All we hv to do is open our eyes and SEE our own lives...FIND ourselves.



**don't compare

thats my motto too. I hate it when ppl compare their blessings with others'. I hear this all the time:


'We should get a house like their's'


'I want a husband like T's husband'


'I should do what they are doing'


etc etc


I wanna scream when I hear such things!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

Hiren that story really fits this post. TY! Thats exactly wut IM saying too..there's always someone worse off than u.



**“When I hear somebody sigh, 'Life is hard', I am always tempted to ask, 'Compared to what?’ ...”

Definitely! :) And the comment I gave u there is very much related to this post too. Cos ppl always COMPARE.


Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Vish!

Cheer me up? LOL do I sound sad? awww...

Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Jeevan!

**Comparing with others brings jealous where one feel I can’t be like them and it brings distress to mind

So true! When we long for other ppl's lives, our own lives become so lost and miserable.


ty for appreciating my friend Swati. Yes she's got a beautiful smile and a beautiful heart too.


*HUGZ*

Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Sid!

**analyser..(doesnt matter if the word dint exist)..

hehe ur cute. Analyser/Analyst..they r all the same :)


Loved all ur points.


**My belief to that is that life is a full circle, if today they get things on a platter some day they must have struggled/will have to struggle in the future.

Spot on Sid!



**can I say the grass is actually greener on your side with you having such an optimism about life:-))

haha good one! But can I say that that ur saying that cos u don't see the shit I've been thru to look and feel this Green?? ;-)


*HUGZ*


Keshi.

Keshi said...

Hey Nirmal!

**uncles shud be pampered by aunties regularly

LOL I just realised that Udit is too old for me. hang on, but I like older men :)


Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Crasiezt!

**Though I would rather marry Shah Rukh than Udit Narayan!


haha me too!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Pavi!

**...Life is EQUALLY cruel and nice to each one of us!

yes thats so true. Just that alot of ppl fail to understand that what that 'EQUALLY' really means.



**wat matters is the way we view it and the attitude with which we deal wit it.

Spot on babez!


*HUGZ*

Keshi.

Shionge said...

Yo Keshi it is true that people perceived that the grass is always greener over the other side..... local pple here like to say this 'You see me good I see you good' ;)

Thanks for introducing Swati, I'll swing by to say hello ;)

Keshi said...

ty Clyde!

**It seems that it is natural to want more----it's called ambition.

I agree. We all should hv ambitions or else life wud be dull and aimless. But never compare and feel unlucky.



**You have so much love in your heart yet you tell me that you doubt that you will marry

Im get bored when I see these r'ships and marriage shit. And I hvnt even tried it. LOL!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Lena n hey WB! I missed ya.

**unless we try to see positive sides in our own life we wont be able to live happy without thinking someone else is luckier, happier, richer and what not


Spot on! We r one big bunch of unhappy souls, cos we r programmed to COMPARE.



*HUGZ*

Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Niyara hun!


** but then like you said we see a perfect picture - not the toil and hard work behind it.

yes..alot of us fail to see that.


lol yes Im stuck with myself too so yeah I might as well enjoy myself. :)


*HUGZ*

Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Cindy MWAH!

That happens cos we humans r genetically programmed to COMPARE..and thats sad. But we can always LEARN not to compare and feel sorry for ourselves. Instead be happy with what we have.



**its not about how hard you can hit. its about how hard you can get hit.

So true!




**Thats life. Not some blackforest cake you can gulp down anytime you want....

totally agree! Life is not only a blackforest cake but also a bitter melon juice. ;-)


**(this crappy line is mine btw..)

haha not crappy at all hun! I loved it. And did u check out my crappy line then..abt the bitter melon juice. LOL!


*HUGZ* u rock Cinderz!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

hey Tys!

**show the world u r happy and the world will think u r happy...and who knows? that probably will make you happy...

so true...


nah Im not sad...ty for being so concerned abt me Tys. HUGZ!

:)

Keshi.

Keshi said...

OMG Niyara then I better be there right away ha! Cool tnxx babez!

Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Donn and I agree...we come here to ESCAPE.

**The real person usually 'leaks' through their writing anyway

And thats true too. We cant always hide behind a mask. Some truth will spill out from time to time in our writings.

Im too revealing...its so hard for me to hide for too long. But my hiding place is my HUMOR. :)


*HUGZ* I love ya mate!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

haha Sol why d u hate SRK so much? awwww I like him love him wanna marry him. lol!

Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Jono!

**All of us are so engrossed with the glitter on stage that no one gives a thought on what went on behind the scenes

Spot on!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

Nevermind WC to my world! And ty sweetie :)

Keshi.

Keshi said...

Alok ah ah not always..sometimes I dun even know who I am. LOL!

*HUGZ*

Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Ria!

btw isnt this post pretty similar to ur post on LUCK..just realised it. :)


*HUGZ*

Keshi.

Keshi said...

hey Murane Im so glad ur happy with urself. Good on ya!


**well maybe with you, then I would have your lovely hair haha

hahaha wut r u gonna do with such long hair? :)


Keshi.

Keshi said...

hey Ashu!

**how to keep mess at bay despite it having all around....

o no girl..even Im in quite a mess :) but I somehow wanna be happy for THIS MOMENT. Thats what keeps me ticking.


*HUGZ*


Keshi.

Keshi said...

aww ty BW, MWAH!

Keshi.

Keshi said...

hey Wisdom tnxx hun!

**the grass is always greener but it's just as hard to mow

so true :) good one.


**As I ALWAYS say, no matter how bad things are they can always be worse.

Exactly wut Im saying.


*HUGZ*

Keshi.

Keshi said...

heyya Aneri!

** "I feel lucky today" my new mantra :)


its definitely a GOOD mantra! And its gonna work. Im so proud of ya.


I love Hindi songs and music.


**"No one can ever have everything, somewhere you can't have the earth, somewhere you can't have the sky!"

WOW how beautifully said!

When u said that I remembered a recent true story that I read in the papers. A woman in the US won a $42million lottery and when ppl asked what she's gonna do with all that money, she said:

"Im gonna buy myself a piece of land in the moon"


I was gobsmacked at her greed.



Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Gunj MWAH!


**Don't wait for someone to pamper U. Pamper u'rself 'coz u'r worth it. In order to GIVE happiness to some one, you have to BE a happy person first- u can only give what you have


Soooo true! And thats a great quote. Gonna rem that for a very long time. ty sweetie!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

Coco hey!

**the grass may seem greener on the other side, but it's not even grass...it's astro-turf!! (fake grass!)

haha thats a great quote hun!

All that glitters is not gold.


Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Shionge!

**'You see me good I see you good'

wow thats a nice lil line to use.

Love it!


*HUGZ*


Keshi.

anits said...

hi keshi human being are always like that..tey cant c what is the best in them but tey always c d things in others are btr than them. humans can nvr b satified ! hmmmmmm

Mónica...Cine Cuentos. said...

hi Keshi!!! I remember you.

Nice smile... kiss

I'll see you soon.

Akshay said...

Hiya.. well it has always been like that, hasn't it? Everyone feels like life is greener on the other side. A lot of people staying in India feel, I wish I was in the US or Au or UK or any other place, but India. But once they get there, they realize that all that glitters is not gold. I very much agree with you that we don't look into how much someone must have worked to get to where he or she is. Everyone has his/ her own share of good and bad experiences. If everything was good in life, it would not be interesting at all.

I really like your attitude towards your life. To stay positive and maintain a smile on your face, even though your life is in a mess, takes something. It also raises the spirit of people around you. Be the way you are.. forever. :)

τ ħ€ ĐάЎđяёάmёя said...

Alot of people who read my blog may think I'm such a positive chick, a girl who has a fantastic life and who got so lucky in many ways (I hear that all the time). But hell nah guys! You don't wanna know the shit I have been/am/will be going through in this life.

wat is positive chick :O
blood group or sort :-s
khikhikhi

*hugs*
sissy y u sad sad ...me not dere dats y ??

*looks mischiviously* :P

I saw ur hindi...mwaah it was sho shweeeeet :P
khikhikhi

if ya in trouble or sort..u can say to me.. u kno I m so good in trouble solving :P khikhikhi

take care sissy..n don be sad
*hugz*

Keshi said...

yes Anits thats so true!

Keshi.

Keshi said...

hey Monica MWAH!

Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Akshay!

yes I agree..alot of Sri Lankans think living overseas is HEAVEN. But it certainly wasnt a cake-walk for me...I had to study so hard, do 2 degrees working f/t, being in debt etc etc, had to pay all the debt back from my own earnings, get myself established here etc. No one carried me thru my experiences..only I did it myself.

Keshi.

Keshi said...

aww look who's back? HUGZ Bro!

**wat is positive chick :O
blood group or sort

hahahaha!

So u into Trouble Shooting? hope u dun shoot me. LOL!


*HUGZ* missed ya for 24hrs or so...where were ya?



Keshi.

Dawn....सेहर said...

Amazing post and it talks about you when you dedicate things for your friends :)
Hugz for that !!!
Yes, we always feel across the river its more greener than our own side but its always felt that way no matter what end you are.
Human being is such an animal that they dont get satisfied with what they have :)
I loved the topic and the title too :)
Cheers n Hugz

τ ħ€ ĐάЎđяёάmёя said...

netwrk is all fukked up sissy :|

Keshi said...

ty Dawny MWAH!

**Human being is such an animal that they dont get satisfied with what they have

so true! sometimes even animals are not so greedy as humans.


*HUGZ*

Keshi.

Keshi said...

Bro I know...I prayed to N/W God last nite. :)

Keshi.

PREETI said...

The only truth in life- the grass on the other side is alwayz greener...uv said it all, iv got not much to add on it...beautifully written kesh :)

Judge Arse said...

One can't always be positive but it is best to try, I have found. Sometimes I have trouble due to this condition which causes my mood to swing so far downwards at times. At those times all I can do is try not to carry thru with suicidal thoughts. I wish I could impress upon my father the necessity of trying to see the positive but he has been very bitter ever since his stroke, which he had four years ago. One can't make someone do something they refuse, I guess. But it is disheartening.

Macadamia The Nut said...

I knew this instinctively about you Keshigirl, after the first few comment exchanges. And I SO relate.. in every way.

Keshi said...

Preeti it aint the truth...not always. :)

*HUGZ*

Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Judge!

**One can't make someone do something they refuse, I guess.

I agree. Its so very hard unless it come from within YOU.


*HUGZ*

Keshi.

Keshi said...

*it COMES

Keshi said...

aww tnxx Maca MWAH!

Keshi.

general_boy said...

Perhaps summed up as "don't want what you can't have". =)

*~*Sameera*~* said...

Awesome post!Very-well written :)

Satish Bolla said...

all i can do after reading this post is: stand up and clap loudly so that all the people around notices wht am doing and why am doing this. well written post, keshi. will definitely help people who always peep into the other side of fence.

Keshi said...

yeah Boy :)

but mebbe u CAN hv them too, but dun CRAVE for them.

Keshi.

Keshi said...

ty Sameera!

Keshi.

Keshi said...

aww tnxx Satish! :)

Keshi.